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Shawn Achor: The happy secret to better work
Shawn Achor: Sekreti i lumtur per te punuar me mire
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Ne besojme qe ne duhet te punojme per te qene te lumtur, por a mund te jete e kunderta? Ne kete diskutim te shpejte dhe zbavites nga TEDxBloomington, psikologu Shawn Achor argumenton se faktikisht lumturia inspiron produktivitetin.
Shawn Achor - Psychologist
Shawn Achor is the CEO of Good Think Inc., where he researches and teaches about positive psychology. Full bio
Shawn Achor is the CEO of Good Think Inc., where he researches and teaches about positive psychology. Full bio
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When I was seven years old and my sister was just five years old,
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Kur une isha shtate vjece dhe motra ime ishte vetem pese vjece,
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we were playing on top of a bunk bed.
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ne ishim duke lujatur mbi krevat.
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I was two years older than my sister at the time --
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Ne ate kohe une isha dy vite me i madhe se motra ime--
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I mean, I'm two years older than her now --
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Domethene, une jam dy vite me i madh se ajo edhe tani--
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but at the time it meant she had to do everything that I wanted to do,
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por në atë kohë do te thoshte se ajo kishte për të bërë gjithçka që kam kërkuar për të bërë,
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and I wanted to play war.
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dhe une deshiroja te luanim me lufte.
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So we were up on top of our bunk beds.
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Pra ne u ngritem lart ne krevatet tane.
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And on one side of the bunk bed,
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Dhe ne njeren pjese te krevatit,
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I had put out all of my G.I. Joe soldiers and weaponry.
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U desh te nxirrja te gjithe ushtaret e mi G.I. Joe dhe armet.
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And on the other side were all my sister's My Little Ponies
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Dhe ne anen tjeter ishin gjithe motrat e mia My Little Ponies
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ready for a cavalry charge.
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gati per nje pagese kaloresi.
00:42
There are differing accounts of what actually happened that afternoon,
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Ka shpjegime te ndryshme se cfare me te vertete ndodhi ate pasdite,
00:44
but since my sister is not here with us today,
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por perderisa motra ime nuk eshte me ne ketu sot,
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let me tell you the true story --
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me lejoni te ju tregoj historine e vertete --
00:49
(Laughter) --
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(Buzeqeshje) --
00:51
which is my sister's a little bit on the clumsy side.
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e cila eshte nje histori qe tregon anen e ngathte te saj.
00:53
Somehow, without any help or push from her older brother at all,
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Disi, pa asnjë ndihmë ose shtytje nga vëllai i saj me i madh,
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suddenly Amy disappeared off of the top of the bunk bed
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papritmas Amy zhduket nga maja e shtratit
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and landed with this crash on the floor.
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dhe zbriti me kete perplasje ne dysheme.
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Now I nervously peered over the side of the bed
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Tani une me nervozizem dal mbi anen tjeter te shtratit
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to see what had befallen my fallen sister
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per te pare cka kishte ndodhur me motren time te rene
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and saw that she had landed painfully on her hands and knees
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dhe e pash qe ajo kishte rene ne toke ne duar dhe gjunje
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on all fours on the ground.
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me te kater gjymtyret ne toke.
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I was nervous because my parents had charged me
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Une isha nervoz sepse prinderit e mi me kishin angazhuar mua
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with making sure that my sister and I
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te sigurohesha qe motra ime dhe une
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played as safely and as quietly as possible.
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te luanin sa me te sigurt e te qete qe te ishte e mundur.
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And seeing as how I had accidentally broken Amy's arm
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Dhe duke pare se si une aksidentalisht e theva krahun e Amy-t
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just one week before ...
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vetem nje jave para..
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(Laughter)
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(Buzeqeshje)
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... heroically pushing her out of the way
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....heroikisht duke e shtyre ate nga rruga
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of an oncoming imaginary sniper bullet,
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nga një plumb që vjen përballë snajperit imagjinar,
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(Laughter)
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(Buzeqeshje)
01:32
for which I have yet to be thanked,
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per te cilen une ende kam per ta falenderuar,
01:34
I was trying as hard as I could --
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Une ishte duke tentuar aq shume sa une mundesha --
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she didn't even see it coming --
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ajo as qe e e pa ate duke ardhur --
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I was trying as hard as I could to be on my best behavior.
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Une isha duke tentuar aq shume te sillesha me se miri.
01:40
And I saw my sister's face,
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Dhe une pash fytyren e motres time,
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this wail of pain and suffering and surprise
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ky renkim i dhimbjes dhe vuajtjes dhe surpizes
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threatening to erupt from her mouth and threatening to wake
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duke me kercenuar se do te tregoj dhe duke me kercenuar te zgjoj
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my parents from the long winter's nap for which they had settled.
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prinderit e mi nga gjumi i dimrit.
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So I did the only thing
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Keshtu qe une bera vetem nje gje
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my little frantic seven year-old brain could think to do to avert this tragedy.
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truri im prej shtate vjecari po mendonte sesi ta anashkalonte kete tragjedi.
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And if you have children, you've seen this hundreds of times before.
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Dhe nese ju keni femije, ju e keni pare kete me mijera here me pare.
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I said, "Amy, Amy, wait. Don't cry. Don't cry.
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Une thashe, "Amy, Amy, prit. Mos qaj. Mos qaj.
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Did you see how you landed?
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A e pe sesi re?
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No human lands on all fours like that.
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Ne asnje toke njerezore nuk pelqehet ajo.
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Amy, I think this means you're a unicorn."
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Amy, une mendoj se kjo do te thote ju jeni nje njebrireshe."
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(Laughter)
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(Te qeshura)
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Now that was cheating, because there was nothing in the world my sister would want more
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Tani ky ishte mashtrim, sepse nuk kishte asgje ne bote qe motra ime do ta deshironte me shume
02:12
than not to be Amy the hurt five year-old little sister,
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sesa te mos ishte Amy motra e vogel pese vjecare e lenduar,
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but Amy the special unicorn.
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por Amy njebrireshja speciale.
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Of course, this was an option that was open to her brain at no point in the past.
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Sigurisht, ky ishte nje opsion qe ishte i hapur ne trurin e saj ne asnje pike ne te kaluaren.
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And you could see how my poor, manipulated sister faced conflict,
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Dhe ju mund ta shihni si motra ime e gjore dhe e manipular u ballafaqua me konfliktin,
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as her little brain attempted to devote resources
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pasi truri i saj i vogel tentoi ti perkushtohet burimeve
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to feeling the pain and suffering and surprise
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per te ndjere dhimbjen dhe vuajtjen dhe surprizen
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she just experienced,
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qe ajo posa ekspeimentoi,
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or contemplating her new-found identity as a unicorn.
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ose duke menduar identitetin e saj te ri si nje njebrireshe.
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And the latter won out.
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Dhe kjo e fundit fitoi.
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Instead of crying, instead of ceasing our play,
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Ne vend te qarjes, ne vend te nderprerjes se lojes sone,
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instead of waking my parents,
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ne vend te zgjimit te prinderve,
02:36
with all the negative consequences that would have ensued for me,
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me te te gjitha pasojat negative qe do te rezultonin per mua,
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instead a smile spread across her face
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ne vend te kesaj buzeqeshjeje qe u shpernda ne fytyren e saj
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and she scrambled right back up onto the bunk bed with all the grace of a baby unicorn ...
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dhe ajo hipi prape ne shtrat me gjithe hijeshin e nje femije njebriresh..
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(Laughter)
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(Te qeshura)
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... with one broken leg.
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....me nje kembe te thyer.
02:47
What we stumbled across
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Ajo cka na pengonte
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at this tender age of just five and seven --
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ne kete moshe te brishte te vetem pese dhe shtate vjecareve --
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we had no idea at the time --
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ne nuk kishim asnje ide ne ate kohe --
02:53
was something that was going be at the vanguard of a scientific revolution
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ishte dicka qe do te ishte ne revulucionin shkencor
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occurring two decades later in the way that we look at the human brain.
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qe ndodhi dy dekada me vone ne menyre se si ne shikojme trurin njerezor.
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What we had stumbled across is something called positive psychology,
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Ate qe kishin ngecur te gjithe ne eshte dicka qe quhet psikologji pozitive,
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which is the reason that I'm here today
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qe eshte arsyeja qe une jam sot ketu
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and the reason that I wake up every morning.
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dhe arsyeja qe une zgjohem cdo mengjes.
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When I first started talking about this research
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Kur se pari fillova te flas per kete hulumtim
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outside of academia, out with companies and schools,
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jashte akademise, neper kompani dhe shkolla,
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the very first thing they said to never do
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gjeja e pare qe ata thane qe mos ta beje kurre
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is to start your talk with a graph.
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eshte te filloj fjalimin me nje grafike.
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The very first thing I want to do is start my talk with a graph.
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Gjeja e pare qe une dua te beje eshte te filloj fjalimin tim me nje grafike.
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This graph looks boring,
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Ky grafik duket i merzitshem,
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but this graph is the reason I get excited and wake up every morning.
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por ky grafike eshte arsyeja qe une merakosem dhe zgjohem cdo mengjes.
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And this graph doesn't even mean anything; it's fake data.
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Dhe ky grafik nuk nenkupton asgje; jane te dhena te rreme.
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What we found is --
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Cka ne gjejme eshte --
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(Laughter)
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(Te qeshura)
03:28
If I got this data back studying you here in the room, I would be thrilled,
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Nese do ti merrja ato te dhena ketu per t'i studiuar, une do te tronditesha,
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because there's very clearly a trend that's going on there,
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sepse aty eshte shume qarte nje trend qe po ndodh atje,
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and that means that I can get published,
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dhe kjo nenkupton se une mundem te publikoj.
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which is all that really matters.
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gje qe ka shume rendesi.
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The fact that there's one weird red dot that's up above the curve,
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Fakti qe eshte nje pike te pazakonte e kuqe qe eshte larte mbi kurbe,
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there's one weirdo in the room --
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eshte nje e cuditshme ne kete dhome --
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I know who you are, I saw you earlier --
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Une e di kush je, te pash me heret--
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that's no problem.
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nuk ka problem.
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That's no problem, as most of you know,
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Nuk ka problem, si shumica prej jush,
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because I can just delete that dot.
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sepse une nuk mundem ta fshije ate pike.
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I can delete that dot because that's clearly a measurement error.
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Une mund ta fshije ate pike sepse qarte shihet qe eshte nje gabim ne matje.
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And we know that's a measurement error
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Dhe ne e dime qe eshte nje gabim ne matje
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because it's messing up my data.
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sepse po i ngaterron te dhenat.
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So one of the very first things we teach people
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Pra nje nder gjerat e para qe ne i mesojme njerezve
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in economics and statistics and business and psychology courses
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ne ekonomi dhe statistike dhe biznes dhe kurse te psikologjise
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is how, in a statistically valid way, do we eliminate the weirdos.
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eshte si ne nje menyre statistike valide, ne i elimonojme te cuditshmet.
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How do we eliminate the outliers
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Si i eliminojme personat e vecuar
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so we can find the line of best fit?
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pra ne mund te gjejme vijen se si te pershtatemi me se miri?
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Which is fantastic if I'm trying to find out
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E cila eshte fantastike nese une tentoj ta gjej
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how many Advil the average person should be taking -- two.
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sa eshte sasid e Advilit qe nje person mesatar duhet te marr -- dy.
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But if I'm interested in potential, if I'm interested in your potential,
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Por nese une jam e interesuar ne potencial, nese une jam e interesuar ne potencialin tuaj,
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or for happiness or productivity
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ose per lumturine ose produktivitetin
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or energy or creativity,
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ose energjine ose kreativitetin,
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what we're doing is we're creating the cult of the average with science.
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cka ne jemi duke bere eshte qe ne jemi duke krijuar kultin e mesatares me shkence.
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If I asked a question like,
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Nese une do te beja nje pyetje sikur,
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"How fast can a child learn how to read in a classroom?"
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" Sa shpejte mundet nje femije te mesoj si te lexoj ne nje klase?"
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scientists change the answer to "How fast does the average child
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shkenctaret ndryshojne pergjigjen ne" Sa shpejte nje femije mesatar
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learn how to read in that classroom?"
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meson si te lexoj ne ate klase?"
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and then we tailor the class right towards the average.
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dhe pastaj e rregullojme klasen drejt mesatares.
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Now if you fall below the average on this curve,
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Tani nese bini poshte mesatares se kesaj kurbe,
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then psychologists get thrilled,
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atehere psikologu do te merakoset,
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because that means you're either depressed or you have a disorder,
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sepse ajo do te thote se ju ose jeni te deshpruar ose ju keni nje crregullim,
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or hopefully both.
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ose ndoshta te dyja.
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We're hoping for both because our business model is,
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Ne jemi duke shpresuar per te dyja sepse modeli yne i biznesit eshte,
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if you come into a therapy session with one problem,
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nese ju vini ne nje sesion terapie me nje problem,
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we want to make sure you leave knowing you have 10,
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ne duam te sigruohemi qe ju shkoni duke i ditur qe i keni 10,
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so you keep coming back over and over again.
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pra ju vazhdoni te vini perseri e perseri.
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We'll go back into your childhood if necessary,
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Ne do te shkojme ne femijerine tuaj nese eshte e nevojshme,
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but eventually what we want to do is make you normal again.
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por perfundimisht cka ne deshirojme te bejme eshte t'ju bejme perseri normal.
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But normal is merely average.
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Por normal eshte vetem mesatarja.
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And what I posit and what positive psychology posits
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Dhe cka parashtroj dhe cka parashtron psikologjia pozitive
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is that if we study what is merely average,
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eshte se nese ne studjojme cka eshte vetem mesatare,
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we will remain merely average.
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ne do te mbesim vetem mesatar.
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Then instead of deleting those positive outliers,
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Pastaj ne vend qe te fshijme ata persona te vecuar,
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what I intentionally do is come into a population like this one
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ajo cka une qellimisht bej eshte te vije ne nje popullesi si kjo
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and say, why?
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dhe te them, pse?
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Why is it that some of you are so high above the curve
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Pse ekziston qe disa prej jush jeni shume lart mbi kurbe
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in terms of your intellectual ability, athletic ability, musical ability,
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ne periudha te aftesise tuaj intelektuale, aftesise atletike, aftesise muzikore,
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creativity, energy levels,
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kreativitetit, niveleve te energjise,
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your resiliency in the face of challenge, your sense of humor?
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elasticitetit tuaj përballë sfidës, ndjenjes tuaj te humorit?
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Whatever it is, instead of deleting you, what I want to do is study you.
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Cfaredo qe te jete, ne vend te fshirjes tuaj, cka une dua te beje eshte te ju studjoj.
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Because maybe we can glean information --
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Sepse ndoshta ne mund te mbledhim informacione --
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not just how to move people up to the average,
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jo vetem si t'i levizim njerezit tek mesatarja,
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but how we can move the entire average up
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por si mund te levizim tere mesataren
05:25
in our companies and schools worldwide.
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ne kompanite tona dhe shkollat ne mbare boten.
05:27
The reason this graph is important to me
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Arsyeja pse ky grafik eshte i rendesishme per mua
05:29
is, when I turn on the news, it seems like the majority of the information
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eshte, kur une ndez lajmet, duket sikur pjesa me e madhe e informacionit
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is not positive, in fact it's negative.
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nuk eshte pozitive, ne fakt eshte negative.
05:33
Most of it's about murder, corruption, diseases, natural disasters.
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Shumica e tyre është në lidhje me vrasjen, korrupsionin, sëmundjet, fatkeqësitë natyrore.
05:36
And very quickly, my brain starts to think
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Dhe shume shpejte, truri ime filon te mendoj
05:38
that's the accurate ratio of negative to positive in the world.
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ky eshte raporti i sakte i negatives tek pozitvja ne bote.
05:40
What that's doing is creating something
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Cka po bene ajo eshte krijimi i dickaje
05:42
called the medical school syndrome --
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i quajtur sindromi mjekesor shkollor --
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which, if you know people who've been to medical school,
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ku, nese ju njihni njerez qe kane qene ne shkollen e mjeksise,
05:46
during the first year of medical training,
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gjate vitit te pare te trajnimit mjekesor,
05:48
as you read through a list of all the symptoms and diseases that could happen,
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perderisa ju lexoni neper listen te te gjitha simptomave dhe semundjeve qe mund te ju ndodhin,
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suddenly you realize you have all of them.
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papritmas ju e kuptoni qe ju i keni te gjitha prej tyre.
05:52
I have a brother in-law named Bobo -- which is a whole other story.
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Une kam nje dhender i quajtur Bobo -- i cili eshte nje histori tjeter.
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Bobo married Amy the unicorn.
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Bobo u martua me Amy njebrireshen.
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Bobo called me on the phone
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Bobo me telefoni mua
06:01
from Yale Medical School,
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nga Yale Shkolla e Mjekesise,
06:04
and Bobo said, "Shawn, I have leprosy."
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dhe Bobo tha, "Shawn, une kam lebroz."
06:06
(Laughter)
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(Te qeshura)
06:08
Which, even at Yale, is extraordinarily rare.
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E cila, edhe ne Yale, eshte jashtezakonisht e rralle.
06:10
But I had no idea how to console poor Bobo
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Por une nuk kisha ide si ta ngushelloja te shkretin Bobo
06:13
because he had just gotten over an entire week of menopause.
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sepse ai kishte marrë vetëm mbi një javë të tërë të menopauzës.
06:15
(Laughter)
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(Te qeshura)
06:17
See what we're finding is it's not necessarily the reality that shapes us,
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Ajo cfare ne gjejme ekziston e nuk eshte domosdosshmeri realiteti qe i jep forme asaj
06:20
but the lens through which your brain views the world that shapes your reality.
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por lentet nëpërmjet të cilit truri juaj sheh botën që formon realitetin tuaj.
06:23
And if we can change the lens, not only can we change your happiness,
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Dhe nese ne mund te ndryshojme lentet, jo vetem qe ne mund te ndryshojme lumturine tuaj,
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we can change every single educational and business outcome at the same time.
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ne mund te ndryshojme cdo rezultat te vetem arsimor dhe biznesor ne te njejten kohe.
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When I applied to Harvard, I applied on a dare.
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Kur une aplikova ne Harvard, une aplikova me nje sfide.
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I didn't expect to get in, and my family had no money for college.
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Nuk e prisja te futesha, dhe familja ime nuk kishte para per kolegj.
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When I got a military scholarship two weeks later, they allowed me to go.
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Kur mora nje burse ushtarake dy jave me vone, ata me lejuan te shkoj.
06:36
Suddenly, something that wasn't even a possibility became a reality.
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Papritmas, dicka qe nuk ishte mundesi u be realitet.
06:39
When I went there, I assumed everyone else would see it as a privilege as well,
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Kur une shkova atje, une supuzova se cdo njeri do ta shihte ate si privilegj,
06:42
that they'd be excited to be there.
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qe ata do te ishin te gezuar qe jane atje.
06:44
Even if you're in a classroom full of people smarter than you,
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Edhe nese je ne nje klase te mbushur me njerez me te mencur se ti
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you'd be happy just to be in that classroom, which is what I felt.
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ju do te ishit te lumtur te jeni ne ate klase, kjo eshte ajo cka une ndjeva.
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But what I found there
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is, while some people experience that,
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eshte, qe derisa disa njerez e provojne ate,
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when I graduated after my four years
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kur une u diplomva pas kater viteve
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and then spent the next eight years living in the dorms with the students --
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dhe pastaj kalova tete vitet e ardhshme duke jetuar ne konvikte me studentet --
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Harvard asked me to; I wasn't that guy.
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Hravard me pyeti mua; Une nuk isha ai djali.
06:59
(Laughter)
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I was an officer of Harvard to counsel students through the difficult four years.
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Une isha nje oficer i Harvardit per te keshilluar studentet gjate kater viteve te veshtira.
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And what I found in my research and my teaching
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Dhe cka une zbulova ne hulumtimin dhe mesimdhenien time
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is that these students, no matter how happy they were
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eshte se keta student, pa marre parasysh sa te lumtur ishin ata
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with their original success of getting into the school,
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me suksesin e tyre origjinal te hyrjes ne shkolle,
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two weeks later their brains were focused, not on the privilege of being there,
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dy jave me vone truri i tyre ishte i fokusara, jo ne privilegjin e te qenurit aty,
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nor on their philosophy or their physics.
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as ne filozofine e tyre ose ne fizikun e tyre.
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Their brain was focused on the competition, the workload,
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Truri i tyre ishte fokusuar ne konkursin, ne ngarkesen e punes,
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the hassles, the stresses, the complaints.
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streset, ankesat.
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When I first went in there, I walked into the freshmen dining hall,
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which is where my friends from Waco, Texas, which is where I grew up --
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ne te cilen jane shoket e mi mga Waco, Texas, vendi ku une u rrita --
07:27
I know some of you have heard of it.
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E di qe disa prej jush keni degjuar per te.
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When they'd come to visit me, they'd look around,
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Kur ata erdhen per te me vizituar, ata shikuan rreth e rrotull,
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they'd say, "This freshman dining hall looks like something
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ata thane, " Kjo salle e ngrenies duket si dicka
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out of Hogwart's from the movie "Harry Potter," which it does.
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nga Hogwart nga filmi "Harry Potter", të cilën e bën.
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This is Hogwart's from the movie "Harry Potter" and that's Harvard.
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Ky eshte Hogwart nga filmi "Harry Poter" dhe ky Harvard.
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And when they see this,
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Dhe kur ju e shihni kete,
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they say, "Shawn, why do you waste your time studying happiness at Harvard?
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ata thone, " Shawn, pse e humbni kohen tuaj duke studiuar lumturine ne Harvard?
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Seriously, what does a Harvard student possibly have
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Serizisht, cka kane studentet e Harvardit
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to be unhappy about?"
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qe te jene te pa lumtur?"
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Embedded within that question
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Ngulititja brenda kesaj pytjeje
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is the key to understanding the science of happiness.
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eshte celesi per te kuptuar shkencen e lumturise.
07:49
Because what that question assumes
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is that our external world is predictive of our happiness levels,
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është se bota jonë e jashtme është parashikuese e niveleve tona lumturise,
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when in reality, if I know everything about your external world,
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ku ne realitet, nese une di cdo gje rreth botes tuaj te jashtme,
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I can only predict 10 percent of your long-term happiness.
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une mund te parashikoj vetem 10 perqind te jete-gjatesise se lumturise tuaj.
07:59
90 percent of your long-term happiness
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90 perqind te jete-gjatesise se lumturise tuaj
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is predicted not by the external world,
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eshte e parashikuar nga bota e jashtme
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but by the way your brain processes the world.
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por meqe ra fjala truri juaj proceson boten.
08:05
And if we change it,
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Dhe nese ne e ndryshojme ate,
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if we change our formula for happiness and success,
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nese ne e ndryshojme formulen tone per lumturi dhe sukses,
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what we can do is change the way
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cka ne mund te bejme eshte te ndryshojme menyren
08:11
that we can then affect reality.
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qe pastaj te mund te ndikojme ne realitet.
08:13
What we found is that only 25 percent of job successes
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Cka ne gjetem eshte se vetem 25 perqind e sukseseve te punes
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are predicted by I.Q.
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parashikohen nga I.Q.
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75 percent of job successes
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75 perqind e sukseseve te punes
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are predicted by your optimism levels, your social support
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parashikohen nga niveli juaj optimistik, nga perkrahja sociale
08:22
and your ability to see stress as a challenge instead of as a threat.
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dhe aftesia te shihni stresin si nje sfide ne vend te nje kercenimi.
08:25
I talked to a boarding school up in New England, probably the most prestigious boarding school,
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Une fola me nje shkolle konviktu ne Angli, ndoshta shkolla me prestigjioze,
08:28
and they said, "We already know that.
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dhe ata thane, " Ne tani e dime ate.
08:30
So every year, instead of just teaching our students, we also have a wellness week.
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Keshtu qe cdo vit, ne vend qe vetem t'i mesojme studentet tane, ne gjithashtu kemi javen e miresise.
08:33
And we're so excited. Monday night we have the world's leading expert
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Dhe ne jemi shume te ngazellyer. Te henen mbrema ne kemi ekspertin e udheheqjes se botes
08:36
coming in to speak about adolescent depression.
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qe do te vije te flas rreth depresionit ne adoleshence.
08:38
Tuesday night it's school violence and bullying.
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Te marten mbrema eshte dhuna ne shkolla dhe fyerjet.
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Wednesday night is eating disorders.
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Te merkuren mbrema jane crregullimet e ushqimit.
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Thursday night is elicit drug use.
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Te ejten mbrema perdorimi i droges.
08:44
And Friday night we're trying to decide between risky sex or happiness."
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Dhe te premten mbrema ne jemi duke provuar te vendosim ndermjet marredhenieve te rrezikshme seksuale dhe lumturise."
08:47
(Laughter)
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08:50
I said, "That's most people's Friday nights."
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Une thashe, " Kjo eshte e Premtja e shumices prej njerezve."
08:52
(Laughter)
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(Te qeshura)
08:55
(Applause)
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08:58
Which I'm glad you liked, but they did not like that at all.
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Te cilen jam i kenqaur qe e pelqyet, por ata nuk e perlqyen ate aspak.
09:00
Silence on the phone.
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09:02
And into the silence, I said, "I'd be happy to speak at your school,
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Dhe ne qetesi, Une thashe, " Une do te isha i lumtur te flas ne shkollen tuaj,
09:04
but just so you know, that's not a wellness week, that's a sickness week.
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por vetem qe ta dini, kjo nuk eshte java e miresise, kjo eshte java e semundjes.
09:07
What you've done is you've outlined all the negative things that can happen,
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Çfarë keni bërë është që ju keni paraqitur të gjitha gjërat negative që mund të ndodhin,
09:09
but not talked about the positive."
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por nuk keni folur per pozitivet."
09:11
The absence of disease is not health.
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Mungesa e semundjes nuk eshte shendet.
09:13
Here's how we get to health:
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Ketu eshte si te fitojme shendet:
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We need to reverse the formula for happiness and success.
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Ne duhet te ndryshojme formulen per lumturi dhe sukses.
09:18
In the last three years, I've traveled to 45 different countries,
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Ne tri vitet e fundit, une kam udhetuar ne 45 vende te ndryshme,
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working with schools and companies
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duke punuar me shkolla dhe kompani
09:22
in the midst of an economic downturn.
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ne mes te renies ekonomike.
09:24
And what I found is that most companies and schools
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Dhe cka une gjeta eshte se shumica e kompanive dhe shkollave
09:26
follow a formula for success, which is this:
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ndjekin nje formule per sukses, e cila eshte kjo:
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If I work harder, I'll be more successful.
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Nese une punoj me shume, une do te jem me i sukseshem.
09:30
And if I'm more successful, then I'll be happier.
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Dhe nese une jam me i sukseshem, pastaj une do te jem me i lumtur.
09:33
That undergirds most of our parenting styles, our managing styles,
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Kjo mbeshtet shumicen prej prinderve tane, stilet tona menaxhuese,
09:35
the way that we motivate our behavior.
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menyra si ne motivojme sjelljen tone.
09:37
And the problem is it's scientifically broken and backwards for two reasons.
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Dhe problemi është se eshte thyer shkencërisht dhe prapa për dy arsye.
09:40
First, every time your brain has a success,
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Se pari, cdo here truri juaj ka nje sukses,
09:43
you just changed the goalpost of what success looked like.
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ju vetem e ndryshuat qellimin se si u duk suksesi.
09:45
You got good grades, now you have to get better grades,
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Ju keni nota te mira, tani ju duhet te merrni nota me te mira,
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you got into a good school and after you get into a better school,
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ju keni hyre ne nje shkolle te mire dhe pasi te hyni ne nje shkolle me te mire
09:49
you got a good job, now you have to get a better job,
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ju fitoni nje pune te mire, tani ju duhet te fitoni nje pune me te mire,
09:51
you hit your sales target, we're going to change your sales target.
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ju goditni objektivin e shitjes tuaj, ne jemi duke shkuar për të ndryshuar objektivin e shitjes tuaj.
09:53
And if happiness is on the opposite side of success, your brain never gets there.
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Dhe nese lumturia eshte ne anen e kundert te suksesit, truri juaj kurre nuk shkon atje.
09:56
What we've done is we've pushed happiness
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Cka ne kemi bere eshte qe ne kemi shtyre lumturine
09:58
over the cognitive horizon as a society.
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mbi horizontin e njohes si shoqeri.
10:01
And that's because we think we have to be successful,
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Dhe kjo eshte sepse ne mendojme se ne duhet te jemi te sukseshem,
10:03
then we'll be happier.
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pastaj ne do te jemi te lumtur.
10:05
But the real problem is our brains work in the opposite order.
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Por problemi i vertete eshte se truri jone punon ne rendin e kundert.
10:07
If you can raise somebody's level of positivity in the present,
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Nese ju mund te ngrini nivelin e positivitetit te dikujt ne te tashmen,
10:10
then their brain experiences what we now call a happiness advantage,
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pastaj pervojat e trurit te tyre cka ne quajme perparesi e lumturise,
10:13
which is your brain at positive
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qe eshte truri juaj ne pozitivitet
10:15
performs significantly better
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performon me mire
10:17
than it does at negative, neutral or stressed.
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sese tek negatvi, neutrali ose i stresuari.
10:19
Your intelligence rises, your creativity rises, your energy levels rise.
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Inteligjenca juaj rritet, kreativiteti juaj rritet, niveli i energjise tuaj rritet.
10:22
In fact, what we've found
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Ne fakt, cka ne gjejme
10:24
is that every single business outcome improves.
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eshte se cdo dalje e biznesit permiresohet.
10:26
Your brain at positive is 31 percent more productive
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Truri juaj tek pozitivi eshte 31 perqind me produktiv
10:28
than your brain at negative, neutral or stressed.
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sesa truri juaj tek negativi, neutrali ose i stresuari.
10:31
You're 37 percent better at sales.
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Ju jeni 37 perqind me i mire tek shitjet
10:33
Doctors are 19 percent faster, more accurate
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Doktoret jane 19 perqind me te shpejte, me te sakte
10:35
at coming up with the correct diagnosis
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te sjellin diagnoza korrekte
10:37
when positive instead of negative, neutral or stressed.
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kur pozitivi ne vend te negativit, neutralit ose stresit.
10:39
Which means we can reverse the formula.
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Qe do te thote se ne mund te ndryshojme formulen.
10:41
If we can find a way of becoming positive in the present,
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Nese ne mund te gjejme nje rrugedalje qe te behemi pozitiv ne te tashmen,
10:44
then our brains work even more successfully
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pastaj truri jone punon me me shume sukses
10:46
as we're able to work harder, faster and more intelligently.
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pasi ne jemi ne gjendje te punojme me shume, me shpejte dhe më me inteligjence.
10:49
What we need to be able to do is to reverse this formula
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Cka na duhet te jemi ne gjendje te bejme eshte te ndryshojme kete formule
10:52
so we can start to see what our brains are actually capable of.
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pra ne mund te fillojme te shohim se cka eshte ne gjendje te beje truri jone.
10:54
Because dopamine, which floods into your system when you're positive,
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Sepse dopamine, e cila permbytet ne sistemin tuaj ku ju jeni pozitiv,
10:56
has two functions.
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ka dy funksione.
10:58
Not only does it make you happier,
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Jo vetem qe ju bene me te lumtur,
11:00
it turns on all of the learning centers in your brain
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kjo rezulton në të gjitha qendrat e mësimit në trurin tuaj
11:02
allowing you to adapt to the world in a different way.
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duke i'u lejuar juve te adaptoheni me boten ne menyre tjeter.
11:05
We've found that there are ways that you can train your brain
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Ne zbuluam se ka menyra qe mund te trajtoni turin tuaj
11:07
to be able to become more positive.
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qe te jeni ne gjendje te jeni me pozitiv.
11:09
In just a two-minute span of time done for 21 days in a row,
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Ne nje hapsire dy minuteshe te kohes se bere per 21 dite me rradhe,
11:12
we can actually rewire your brain,
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ne faktikisht mund t'ua ri-instalojme trurit tuaj
11:14
allowing your brain to actually work
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duke lejuar trurin tuaj te punoj
11:16
more optimistically and more successfully.
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me me optimizem dhe me me shume sukses.
11:18
We've done these things in research now
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Ne kemi bere gjera ne hulumtim tani
11:20
in every single company that I've worked with,
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ne secilen kompani qe kam punuar,
11:22
getting them to write down three new things that they're grateful for
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duke i bindur ata te shkruajne tri gjera te reja per te cilat ata jane mirenjohes
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for 21 days in a row, three new things each day.
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per 21 dite me rradhe, tri gjera te reja cdo dite.
11:26
And at the end of that,
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Dhe ne fund te saj
11:28
their brain starts to retain a pattern
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truri i tyre fillon te ruaj nje model
11:30
of scanning the world, not for the negative, but for the positive first.
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te skanimit te botes, jo per negativin, por per pozitivin.
11:33
Journaling about one positive experience you've had over the past 24 hours
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Protokolimi rreth nje eksperinece pozitive qe ju keni pasuar pas 24 oreve te shkuara
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allows your brain to relive it.
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i lejon trurit tuaj ta zvogeloj ate
11:37
Exercise teaches your brain that your behavior matters.
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Ushtrimi meson trurin tuaj se sjellja juaj ka rendesi.
11:40
We find that meditation allows your brain
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Ne zbuluam se meditimi lejon trurin tuaj
11:42
to get over the cultural ADHD that we've been creating
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te mberrij mbi ADHD kulturore qe ne kemi qene duke krijuar
11:45
by trying to do multiple tasks at once
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duke provuar te bejme detyra te shumfishta njeheresh
11:47
and allows our brains to focus on the task at hand.
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dhe lejon trurin tone te fokusohet ne detyre.
11:50
And finally, random acts of kindness are conscious acts of kindness.
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Dhe se fundi, veprime te rastesishme te miresise jane veprime te vetedijshme te miresise.
11:52
We get people, when they open up their inbox,
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Ne i marrim njerezit, kur ata e hapin inbox-in e tyre,
11:54
to write one positive email
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per te shkruar nje email pozitiv
11:56
praising or thanking somebody in their social support network.
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duke lavderuar ose falenderuar dike ne rrjetin e tyre social.
11:58
And by doing these activities
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Dhe duke bere keto aktivitete
12:00
and by training your brain just like we train our bodies,
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dhe duke trajnuar turin tuaj ashtu sikur trajnojme trupin tone,
12:02
what we've found is we can reverse the formula for happiness and success,
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cka ne kemi gjetur eshte ne mund te ndryshojme formulen e lumturise dhe suksesit,
12:05
and in doing so, not only create ripples of positivity,
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dhe duke bere keshtu, jo vetem krijojme plluquritje te pozitivitetit,
12:08
but create a real revolution.
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por krijojme nje revulucion te vertete.
12:10
Thank you very much.
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Faleminderit shume.
12:12
(Applause)
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(Duartokitje)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Shawn Achor - PsychologistShawn Achor is the CEO of Good Think Inc., where he researches and teaches about positive psychology.
Why you should listen
Shawn Achor is the winner of over a dozen distinguished teaching awards at Harvard University, where he delivered lectures on positive psychology in the most popular class at Harvard.
He is the CEO of Good Think Inc., a Cambridge-based consulting firm which researches positive outliers -- people who are well above average -- to understand where human potential, success and happiness intersect. Based on his research and 12 years of experience at Harvard, he clearly and humorously describes to organizations how to increase happiness and meaning, raise success rates and profitability, and create positive transformations that ripple into more successful cultures. He is also the author of The Happiness Advantage.
Shawn Achor | Speaker | TED.com