Hannah Fry: The mathematics of love
Hana Fraj (Hannah Fry): Matematika ljubavi
Hannah Fry researches the trends in our civilization and ways we can forecast its future. Full bio
Double-click the English transcript below to play the video.
about the mathematics of love.
o matematici ljubavi.
da su matematičari
are famously excellent at finding love.
da sjajno pronalaze ljubav.
because of our dashing personalities,
zbog naših očaravajućih ličnosti,
and excellent pencil cases.
i odličnih pernica za olovke.
an awful lot of work into the maths
uložili mnogo truda u proračunavanje
on the subject, which is entitled,
koji se zove
(Laughter) --
(Smeh) -
his chances of finding love.
svoje šanse da pronađe ljubav.
u Ujedinjenom kraljevstvu,
is somebody who lives near him,
ko živi blizu njega,
verovatno dobro slagao,
to find him attractive.
njega smatrao privlačnim.
of 26 women in the whole of the UK.
u celom Ujedinjenom kraljevstvu.
is it Peter?
than the best estimates
extraterrestrial life forms there are.
u svemiru.
a 1 in 285,000 chance
od 1 u 285 000
of these special ladies
that's why mathematicians
going on nights out anymore.
to such a pessimistic view.
just as well as all of you do,
and rational and easily predictable.
i racionalne i lako predvidive.
that it can offer us
is full of patterns
u životu, prepuna šablona,
all about the study of patterns.
proučavanjem šablona.
to the fluctuations in the stock market,
do variranja vrednosti na berzi,
or the growth of cities.
none of those things
and easily predictable, either.
i lako predvidivo.
is so powerful that it has the potential
da ima potencijal
at almost anything.
skoro na sve.
poput ljubavi.
and relevant mathematics is,
odlična i bitna,
mathematically verifiable tips for love.
matematički dokaziva saveta za ljubav.
u sastancima preko interneta.
website is OkCupid,
preko interneta je OkCupid,
by a group of mathematicians.
što ga je osnovala grupa matematičara.
for almost a decade.
skoro deceniju.
to search for patterns
interact with each other
seriously interesting findings.
veoma zanimljivih rezultata.
that on an online dating website,
da na internet sajtu za upoznavanje
does not dictate how popular you are,
ne povlači to koliko ste popularni,
think that you're ugly
kako ovo funkcioniše.
section of OkCupid,
koji je srećom dobrovoljan,
how attractive you think people are
da je neko privlačan,
the average score,
selection of people receive,
dobije određeni broj ljudi,
on an online dating website.
na internet sajtu za upoznavanje.
have come up with.
ljudi iz OkCupid-a.
is that it's not totally true
the more messages you get.
što ste privlačniji.
of what is it about people up here
šta je to sa ovim ljudima
than people down here,
od ovih ljudi dole,
same score of attractiveness?
na skali privlačnosti?
straightforward looks that are important.
izgled sam po sebi.
findings with an example.
njihove rezultate kroz primer.
Portia de Rossi, for example,
poput Porše de Rosi,
is a very beautiful woman.
prelepa žena.
but she's not a supermodel, either.
ali nije ni supermodel.
to someone like Sarah Jessica Parker,
s nekim poput Sare Džesike Parker,
myself included, I should say,
uključujući i mene,
is seriously fabulous
veoma zanosna
most beautiful creatures
on the face of the Earth.
i.e., most of the Internet,
npr. većina interneta,
a bit like a horse. (Laughter)
pomalo kao konj. (Smeh)
how attractive they thought
koliko misle da su atraktivne
or Portia de Rossi were,
them a score between 1 and 5,
na skali od jedan do pet,
da je prosečan rezultat manje-više isti.
to have roughly the same score.
would be very different.
bio bi potpuno drugačiji.
all be clustered around the 4
oko broja četiri
that she's very beautiful,
completely divides opinion.
mišljenja potpuno podeljena.
bilo bi velikih podela.
that makes you more popular
što vas čini popularnijim
think that you're attractive,
think that you're a massive minger.
da ste potpuni grob.
than everybody just thinking
makes a bit more sense
malo više smisla
who are sending these messages.
koji šalju ove poruke.
somebody's attractive,
won't necessarily be that interested.
neće nužno biti toliko zainteresovani.
less competition for you
ima manje konkurencije,
da kontaktirate tu osobu.
for you to get in touch.
to if you think somebody is attractive
za koga mislite da je privlačan
is going to think they're attractive.
pomisliti da je ta osoba privlačna.
humiliating yourself, let's be honest?
da biste se ponizili?
interesting part comes.
that they use on an online dating website,
na internet sajtu za upoznavanje,
will find unattractive.
smatrati neprivlačnim.
who are, perhaps, a little bit overweight
imaju mali višak kilograma
a very cropped photo,
where they're wearing hats.
gde nose šešir.
of what you should do
što treba da radite
whatever it is that makes you different,
to što mislite da vas čini drugačijim,
will find it unattractive.
to smatrati neprivlačnim.
are just going to fancy you anyway,
kojima biste se inače svideli,
well, they only play up to your advantage.
pa, oni vam samo idu u korist.
How to pick the perfect partner.
kako odabrati savršenog partnera.
that you're a roaring success
of how do you then convert that success
kako preobratiti taj uspeh
and in particular,
when is the right time to settle down?
da se skrasite?
it's not advisable to just cash in
nije preporučljivo da se zaletite
who comes along
want to leave it too long
chance of long-term happiness.
svoje šanse za dugotrajnu sreću.
Jane Austen, puts it,
moja omiljena spisateljica, Džejn Ostin:
inspire affection again."
osetiti ili pobuditi naklonost".
What do you know about love?
A šta pa ti znaš o ljubavi?
is the right time to settle down
pravo vreme da se skrasite
s kojima u životu možete izaći?
that you can date in your lifetime?
of mathematics that we can use
nešto sjajno što možemo iskoristiti
teorijom optimalnog zaustavljanja.
optimal stopping theory.
by the time that you're 35.
želite da se venčate do svoje 35. godine.
date across your lifetime,
mogli da izađete u toku života,
levels of goodness.
you cash in and get married,
kada povučete potez i venčate se,
ka tome šta ste mogli da imate
what you could have had,
and change your mind.
i da se predomislite.
much like being recalled
da ih se setite
for somebody else, or that's just me.
nekog drugog, možda sam to samo ja.
that what you should do
šta onda treba da uradite -
of your dating window,
as serious marriage potential.
zbog nedostatka potencijala za brak.
next person that comes along
sledeću osobu koja naiđe,
that you've seen before.
koga ste do tada videli.
mathematically proven, in fact,
matematički dokazati
of finding the perfect partner.
za pronalazak savršenog partnera.
this method does come with some risks.
da ovaj metod ima svoje rizike.
your perfect partner appeared
savršeni partner dođe
you'd have to reject them.
you've seen before,
koje ste videli pre toga,
rejecting everyone and die alone.
dok ne umrete sami.
nibbling at your remains.
koje grickaju vaše ostatke.
let's imagine, instead,
zamislite umesto ovoga
in your first 37 percent
u vaših prvih 37% procenata
boring, terrible people.
bezlični, užasni ljudi.
you're in your rejection phase,
you can reject them.
person to come along
da je sledeća osoba koja naiđe
dull and terrible
bezlična i užasna
I'm afraid you have to marry them
bojim se da se morate venčati tom osobom
which is, frankly, suboptimal.
iskreno nezadovoljavajuća.
an opportunity here
and really cater for this market.
i zaista se prilagodi ovom tržištu.
(Smeh)
(Laughter)
are marginally less terrible
manje užasan od prvih 37% ljudi
of people I dated."
than I normally manage.
nego što to obično uspevam.
you a 100 percent success rate,
stopu uspeha od 100%,
strategy that can do any better.
koja ima bolji rezultat.
there are certain types
određene vrste ribe
employ this exact strategy.
suitor that turns up
udvarača koji se pojavi
of the mating season,
that comes along after that window
koja se pojavi nakon tog perioda,
that they've seen before.
humans, we do sort of do this anyway.
podsvesno, na neki način.
to play the field,
da istražimo igru,
or whatever when we're young.
kada smo mladi.
at potential marriage candidates
potencijalne kandidate za brak
u srednje i kasne dvadesete.
if ever it were needed,
ako je ikad bio potreban,
to be just a little bit mathematical.
da budu makar malo matematički.
that you picked your perfect partner
svog savršenog partnera
a lifelong relationship with them.
sa tom osobom.
would ideally like to avoid divorce,
voleo da izbegne razvod,
Piers Morgan's wife, maybe?
States ends in divorce,
not being far behind.
that precede a marital breakup
koje prethode rastavi braka
for mathematical investigation.
or what you should be quantifying.
ili šta treba da brojite.
John Gottman, who did exactly that.
Džona Gotmana, koji je uradio upravo to.
having a conversation
u toku razgovora
čega biste mogli da se setite.
everything you can think of.
in the conversation,
or not the wife was actually always right,
uvek bila u pravu ili ne,
su zapravo pronašli
most important predictors
is going to get divorced
partner was being in the conversation.
pozitivan ili negativan u razgovoru.
on Gottman's scale than negative.
nego negativnih poena na Gotmanovoj skali.
going to get divorced,
par verovatno razvesti,
into a spiral of negativity.
mogao da predvidi
was going to get divorced
with a mathematician, James Murray,
sa matematičarom Džejmsom Marejem,
and how they occur.
i kako se one dešavaju.
impressively simple and interesting.
neverovatno su prosti i zanimljivi.
the wife or husband is going to respond
kako će muž ili supruga reagovati
they're going to be.
od raspoloženja osobe
when they're on their own,
they're with their partner,
influence one another.
utiču jedno na drugo.
to point out at this stage,
have also been shown
countries in an arms race.
u toku trke za naoružavanje.
spiraling into negativity
koji srljaju u negativnost
the beginning of a nuclear war.
početku nuklearnog rata.
in this equation
u ovoj jednačini
have on one another,
the negativity threshold.
granicom negativnosti.
how annoying the husband can be
muž može da bude
really pissed off, and vice versa.
i obrnuto.
were about compromise and understanding
kompromis i razumevanje
have the space to be themselves.
da bude ono što jeste.
the most successful relationships
najuspešnije veze onda bile one
a really high negativity threshold.
they really were a big deal.
ako su zapravo velike.
and subsequent findings by the team
or the most successful couples,
negativity threshold.
veoma niska.
let anything go unnoticed
ništa ne prolazi neprimećeno
some room to complain.
prostora za prigovaranje.
trying to repair their own relationship,
da poprave svoju vezu,
outlook on their marriage.
sliku o svom braku.
end up being a really big deal.
da trivijalne stvari postanu velike.
just a low negativity threshold
niske granice negativnosti same po sebi
have a successful relationship.
da biste imali uspešnu vezu.
mathematical evidence
matematički dokazi
let the sun go down on your anger.
da potpuno obuzdate svoj bes.
with love and relationships.
da vam pomogne s ljubavlju i vezama.
that aside from their use as tips,
into the power of mathematics.
and symbols aren't just a thing.
nisu samo stvar.
about the incredible richness of nature
o neverovatnom bogatstvu prirode
and warp and evolve all around us,
i razvijaju svuda oko nas,
do toga kako se ponašamo.
for just a couple of you,
the mathematics of love
a little bit more love for mathematics.
da matematici pružite malo više ljubavi.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Hannah Fry - Complexity theoristHannah Fry researches the trends in our civilization and ways we can forecast its future.
Why you should listen
Hannah Fry completed her PhD in fluid dynamics in early 2011 with an emphasis on how liquid droplets move. Then, after working as an aerodynamicist in the motorsport industry, she began work on an interdisciplinary project in complexity sciences at University College London. Hannah’s current research focusses on discovering new connections between mathematically described systems and human interaction at the largest scale.
Hannah Fry | Speaker | TED.com