Srikumar Rao: Plug into your hard-wired happiness
Srikumar Rao: Conectar con la felicidad innata
Executive, educator, writer and life coach Srikumar S. Rao asks, "Are you ready to succeed?" -- and in his famous course "Creativity and Personal Mastery," he teaches his students how to do so. Full bio
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of being who you are
to your knees in gratitude
de rodillas agradecidos
that's been bestowed on you;
que se les ha dado;
that you're wasting your life.
están desperdiciando sus vidas.
in the next 17 minutes --
les propongo...
a moverse hacia allí.
a conference on happiness,
that in some way, shape, fashion or form,
de alguna forma, manera o modo,
children, relationships, whatever --
los niños, las relaciones, lo que sea --
a minute on this.
in order to be happy?
a bunch of stuff comes up:
surgen cosas como:
lots of travel, time, etc, etc, etc.
buena salud, muchos viajes, tiempo, etc.
of, "Here's what I need to get
de "Cosas que necesito
you can get, you can un-get.
pueden dejar de tenerla.
Vast wealth can disappear tomorrow.
Y puede desaparecer mañana.
have discovered this already.
ya lo han descubierto.
that can make you happy
que puede hacerlos felices,
to suggest to you.
una propuesta diferente.
that you have to get, do or be
conseguir, hacer o ser,
do or be in order to be happy.
hacer o ser, para ser felices.
It is part of your DNA.
Es parte del ADN.
I speak in, such as top business schools,
como importantes escuelas de negocios,
what many of you are thinking,
lo que muchos de Uds. están pensando:
is my innate nature,
is actually very simple.
your entire life learning to be unhappy.
aprendiendo a ser infelices.
a particular mental model.
that this is the way the world works.
tenemos de cómo funciona el mundo.
we've got dozens of mental models.
decenas de modelos mentales.
on how to find a job,
sobre cómo buscar empleo,
how to pick a restaurant to eat at,
cómo elegir un restaurante,
to go to ... dozens of them.
decenas de modelos.
that we have mental models.
modelos mentales.
that we have mental models.
que tenemos modelos mentales.
is the way the world works.
que así funciona el mundo.
that we buy into so strongly
ha calado tan hondo en nosotros
so we can do something
entonces hacemos algo,
so we can travel to exotic places
entonces viajamos a lugares exóticos,
so we can have great sex
entonces podemos tener buen sexo,
of the if-then model.
del modelo "si-entonces".
if I were to get more money,
si tuviera más dinero,
if only my wife would leave me --
si tan solo me dejara mi mujer...
and go to college ...
y fueran a la universidad...
that's different
that you are focusing on?
and where you were 10 years ago
that you were focusing on?
en el que hicieron hincapié.
10 years ago you now have.
hace 10 años, ahora las tengan.
is the model itself is flawed.
el modelo en sí es defectuoso.
"If this happens I will be happy" --
"si pasa esto, entonces seré feliz",
that it is the model itself that's flawed,
que el modelo tiene defectos,
enormous amounts of time
CEO it would help,
general ayudaría,
that I want to become a CEO.
no quiero ser director general,
multimillonario,
not what you put on the "if" side
y no lo que ponen del lado del "si"
of such spectacular beauty
de una belleza espectacular
into a place of great serenity?
a un lugar de gran serenidad?
una cadena montañosa,
raise your hands if you could.
recuerde qué pasó.
por qué ocurrió eso?
exactly as it was.
but it's kind of off to the left,
está un poco torcido a la izquierda,
200 yards to the right,
180 metros a la derecha,
"That's a beautiful valley,
"Es un valle hermoso,
has too many crooked branches.
tiene demasiadas ramas torcidas.
a chainsaw and 20 minutes,
the universe just as it was,
el universo tal como era,
your innate nature surfaced,
that you think you have --
los problemas que piensan que tienen,
to make it different.
para que sea diferente.
you can get out of that,
cómo apartarse de eso,
towards getting out of that.
para alejarse de eso.
con Uds. esa acción.
en nuestras vidas, ¿no?
to achieve something, correct?
and we want to have something.
y queremos tener algo.
a successful conference.
una conferencia exitosa.
great programs for your companies
grandes programas para sus empresas,
all of that, is that correct?
todo eso, ¿correcto?
you would like something to happen.
Uds. quisieran que ocurra algo.
about the following:
en lo siguiente:
out of your control.
a su control.
outside your control.
a su control.
that when you have a goal
tener un objetivo
you don't achieve your goal,
al que querían?
who said, "Gee, you know,
que me dijo: "Oye, sabes,
a lot of attention to my wife,
mucha atención a mi esposa,
we went on a business trip,
fuimos en viaje de negocios,
you know, I care for you,
que se preocupaba por ella,
to his wife, her immediate reaction was,
su reacción inmediata fue:
you don't know my size?"
¿no conoces mi talle?"
I never wear this kind of thing?"
me pongo este tipo de cosas?"
he had a full-blown marital spat.
en toda regla.
for a particular outcome
buscando un resultado
was the exact opposite
where what we think of,
en el que pensamos,
in order to get from where I am
para pasar de donde estoy
from what we would like,
de lo que nos gustaría,
of what we would like.
a lo que nos gustaría.
and you are guaranteed to have
de frustración, angustia,
that makes life suck.
que la vida apeste.
invest in the outcome,
en el resultado,
is a quote by John Wooden.
es con una cita de John Wooden.
are familiar with John Wooden.
familiar John Wooden.
al baloncesto.
the basketball Hall of Fame
al salón de la fama del baloncesto
of victories and finals in the NCAA --
y victorias en la liga universitaria,
is he never spoke about winning.
nunca solía hablarle de ganar.
and you look in the mirror,
y se miren al espejo, pregúntense:
that you were capable of?
that you were capable of,
the best that you were capable of,
lo mejor que pudieron,
I want it so desperately,
to do whatever you can,
hacen todo lo posible,
on, "This is the outcome."
en: "Este es el resultado".
el resultado está bien.
of a particular outcome
que asegura el fracaso.
here is where I am,
que están aquí,
and that's fine,
to the extent that it gives you direction,
la medida en que les dé orientación,
completely in the process.
you want to take,
que quiero dar,
and from that new starting point,
y a partir de ese nuevo punto de partida,
para seguir andando.
that every day is a blast.
que cada día es una maravilla.
your hands if you have children.
a small child learn to walk?
cómo aprenden a caminar?
typically between 11 and 13 months,
and she sees everybody walking,
y ven a todos caminando,
she falls down, she starts crying
se caen, empiezan a llorar;
kisses the place, makes it well.
besa donde duele, eso reconforta.
mommy runs up again.
se cae, mamá vuelve.
and no longer runs up
y ya no viene
and then she takes another,
she's walking all over the place,
está caminando por todo el lugar,
de la sala de estar.
to a new stage of parenting.
una nueva etapa de la crianza.
feelings of inadequacy
el sentimiento de inadecuación
and fail yet again.
to learn to walk if you had to do that,
aprender a caminar si hicieran eso,
you had to get a counselor
tuviesen que recurrir a alguien
is focusing on the process.
to invest in the process,
de invertir en el proceso,
is outside of our control,
está fuera de nuestro control,
all of our emotional energy,
energía emocional en eso,
I am going to invest in the process
voy a invertir en el proceso
the vision that I outlined to you.
la visión que les señalé.
is people say, "Professor Rao,
"Profesor Rao,
you know, here is a list of things.
con una lista de cosas.
here's how much I travel,
how deep the carpeting is,
la alfombra tiene esta profundidad,
I want to share with you,
lo que quiero compartir con Uds.,
first of all, it doesn't exist.
en primer lugar, no existen.
and you were plugged into it,
si existieran y dependieran de eso,
miserable self there as you are now,
lastimeros que son ahora,
to ignite it within you
de encenderla dentro suyo,
to ignite it where you are,
de encenderla donde están,
que el mundo exterior
that you are becoming.
that miracles happen on a regular basis.
los milagros ocurren con frecuencia.
whom you're delighted to meet.
les encantaría conocer.
is you take journeys.
you went on a journey.
emprendieron un viaje.
your place of work is;
que es su lugar de trabajo;
you go on a journey.
emprenden un viaje.
affairs with 19-something gardeners
asuntos con jardineros de 19 y tantos,
are playing around with models.
tienen sexo con modelos.
but just ask yourself,
pero solo pregúntense:
I want to spend time?"
quiero pasar mi tiempo?"
the things you talk about,
las cosas de las que hablan,
the books you read --
los libros que leen,
no en el resultado.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Srikumar Rao - Happiness teacherExecutive, educator, writer and life coach Srikumar S. Rao asks, "Are you ready to succeed?" -- and in his famous course "Creativity and Personal Mastery," he teaches his students how to do so.
Why you should listen
Srikumar Rao was an executive at Warner Communications and McGraw-Hill before he created his celebrated MBA course, "Creativity and Personal Mastery." The course -- the only business school course that has its own alumni association -- shows students how to discover their unique purpose, creativity and happiness, through group work and a philosophical perspective. Its popularity has led to write-ups in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal and Business Week.
Rao is also an adviser to senior business executives, whom he helps find deeper meaning and engagement in their work. He's the author of Are You Ready to Succeed: Unconventional Strategies for Achieving Personal Mastery in Business and Life, and has been a contributing editor for Forbes. His latest book is titled Happiness at Work: Be Resilient, Motivated, and Successful - No Matter What.
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