Srikumar Rao: Plug into your hard-wired happiness
Šrikumar Rao (Srikumar Rao): Priklonite se sreći koja vam je urođena
Executive, educator, writer and life coach Srikumar S. Rao asks, "Are you ready to succeed?" -- and in his famous course "Creativity and Personal Mastery," he teaches his students how to do so. Full bio
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of being who you are
da ste ono što jeste
to your knees in gratitude
na kolena iz zahvalnosti
that's been bestowed on you;
that you're wasting your life.
na to da traćite svoj život.
da bi se uludo trošio.
in the next 17 minutes --
da vam u narednih 17 minuta,
a conference on happiness,
that in some way, shape, fashion or form,
u nekom vidu ili obliku,
children, relationships, whatever --
deca, odnosi, šta god -
a minute on this.
in order to be happy?
a bunch of stuff comes up:
gomila stvari proizađe:
lots of travel, time, etc, etc, etc.
supružnik koji je premija,
mnogo putovanja, vremena itd.
kada biste razmislili o tome,
of, "Here's what I need to get
koje su vam potrebne
može da više ne bude vaše.
you can get, you can un-get.
Vast wealth can disappear tomorrow.
Veliko bogatstvo može sutradan nestati.
have discovered this already.
to je već otkrio.
that can make you happy
a što vas čini srećnima, može nestati.
to suggest to you.
that you have to get, do or be
da dobijete, uradite ili budete
uradite ili budete da biste bili srećni.
do or be in order to be happy.
unutrašnjoj prirodi.
It is part of your DNA.
I speak in, such as top business schools,
na kojima govorim,
nisu baš tako pristojni.
what many of you are thinking,
ono o čemu mnogi među vama misle,
is my innate nature,
u mojoj urođenoj prirodi,
da je moj život bezveze?“
is actually very simple.
your entire life learning to be unhappy.
učeći da budete nesrećni.
a particular mental model.
that this is the way the world works.
o načinu na koji svet funkcioniše.
we've got dozens of mental models.
desetine mentalnih modela.
o tome kako pronaći posao,
on how to find a job,
kako odabrati restoran u kome ćemo jesti,
how to pick a restaurant to eat at,
to go to ... dozens of them.
that we have mental models.
što imamo mentalne modele.
that we have mental models.
da imamo mentalne modele.
na koji svet funkcioniše.
is the way the world works.
način na koji svet funkcioniše.
that we buy into so strongly
i koga se tako snažno držimo
so we can do something
da bismo uradili nešto
so we can travel to exotic places
da bismo putovali na egzotična mesta
so we can have great sex
da bismo imali sjajne seksualne odnose
of the if-then model.
if I were to get more money,
kada bih imao više novca,
if only my wife would leave me --
samo kada bi me žena ostavila,
and go to college ...
i krenula na fakultet...
ako se ovo dogodi,
that's different
that you are focusing on?
na koje ste fokusirani.
and where you were 10 years ago
na vas pre deset godina
that you were focusing on?
na koje ste se fokusirali.
želeli ste određene stvari.
koje ste želeli pre deset godina.
10 years ago you now have.
is the model itself is flawed.
je da je sam taj model pogrešan.
"If this happens I will be happy" --
„ako se to desi, biću srećan“ -
that it is the model itself that's flawed,
da je sam taj model pogrešan,
enormous amounts of time
CEO it would help,
ako postanem generalni direktor,
da hoću da budem direktor.
that I want to become a CEO.
not what you put on the "if" side
a ne ono što stavite na stranu „ako“
može prisetiti trenutka
of such spectacular beauty
tako upečatljive lepote
into a place of great serenity?
i odveo na mesto velikog spokoja?
raise your hands if you could.
podignite ruke ako ste se setili.
zašto se to dogodilo?
exactly as it was.
baš onakav kakav jeste.
ali nekako ide malo više ulevo,
but it's kind of off to the left,
200 yards to the right,
"That's a beautiful valley,
has too many crooked branches.
ima previše krivih grana.
a chainsaw and 20 minutes,
motornu testeru i 20 minuta,
the universe just as it was,
univerzum onakvog kakav jeste,
your innate nature surfaced,
koja je vaše urođeno stanje
što je vaš sadašnji život,
that you think you have --
koje mislite da imate -
to make it different.
kako možete izaći iz toga,
you can get out of that,
towards getting out of that.
sa koracima ka izlaženju iz toga.
to achieve something, correct?
da nešto postignemo, je l' tako?
and we want to have something.
a successful conference.
great programs for your companies
sjajne programe za svoje kompanije
all of that, is that correct?
sve to, zar nije tako?
you would like something to happen.
voleli biste da se nešto dogodi.
about the following:
out of your control.
outside your control.
that when you have a goal
da, kada imate cilj
you don't achieve your goal,
onome što ste hteli?
who said, "Gee, you know,
je jednom rekao: „Bože, znaš,
dovoljno pažnje svojoj ženi
a lot of attention to my wife,
we went on a business trip,
na poslovni put,
you know, I care for you,
da pokaže da mu je stalo,
to his wife, her immediate reaction was,
njena reakcija u tom trenutku je bila:
you don't know my size?"
ne znaš koju veličinu nosim?“
I never wear this kind of thing?"
da nikada ne nosim takve stvari?“
he had a full-blown marital spat.
imali su bračnu razmiricu velikih razmera.
for a particular outcome
bio je potpuno suprotan
was the exact opposite
where what we think of,
u kome ono o čemu razmišljamo,
kako bih stigao sa mesta na kome sam
in order to get from where I am
from what we would like,
u odnosu na ono što bismo voleli,
of what we would like.
u odnosu na ono što bismo voleli.
and you are guaranteed to have
that makes life suck.
zbog kojih vam je život bezveze.
invest in the outcome,
is a quote by John Wooden.
je pomoću citata Džona Vudena.
are familiar with John Wooden.
the basketball Hall of Fame
do Dvorane slavnih u košarci
Los Anđeles, ka nečuvenom broju pobeda
of victories and finals in the NCAA --
sportske asocijacije -
is he never spoke about winning.
nijednom novom timu o pobeđivanju.
and you look in the mirror,
i kada se pogledate u ogledalu,
that you were capable of?
that you were capable of,
the best that you were capable of,
ako date sve od sebe,
je potpuno suprotno tome.
I want it so desperately,
to do whatever you can,
da uradite sve što možete,
on, "This is the outcome."
of a particular outcome
određenog rezultata
here is where I am,
gde se nalazite,
and that's fine,
to the extent that it gives you direction,
da vam to daje pravac,
completely in the process.
you want to take,
and from that new starting point,
i sa te polazne tačke
that every day is a blast.
da je svaki dan uživancija.
your hands if you have children.
dete koje uči da hoda?
a small child learn to walk?
typically between 11 and 13 months,
između 11. i 13. meseca,
and she sees everybody walking,
she falls down, she starts crying
padne, počne da plače,
kisses the place, makes it well.
i poljubi gde boli da bude bolje.
mommy runs up again.
mama ponovo dotrči.
and no longer runs up
mama se umori i više ne dotrčava
and then she takes another,
she's walking all over the place,
ono šeta svuda unaokolo
to a new stage of parenting.
na novom stadijumu roditeljstva.
feelings of inadequacy
sa osećanjima neadekvatnosti
and fail yet again.
i da iznova pada.
bi mu trebalo da nauči da hoda
to learn to walk if you had to do that,
you had to get a counselor
morali da nađete savetnika
is focusing on the process.
to invest in the process,
da ulažemo u proces
is outside of our control,
all of our emotional energy,
celokupnu emocionalnu energiju,
I am going to invest in the process
the vision that I outlined to you.
viziju koju sam vam opisao.
is people say, "Professor Rao,
ništa ne izaziva strast.“
you know, here is a list of things.
i evo koliko je plaćen,
here's how much I travel,
evo koliko putujem,
koliko mi je debeo tepih,
how deep the carpeting is,
I want to share with you,
da podelim i sa vama,
first of all, it doesn't exist.
pre svega, to ne postoji.
and you were plugged into it,
i očajni kao što ste sada,
miserable self there as you are now,
to ignite it within you
da je razbuktate u sebi
to ignite it where you are,
da je razbuktate tu gde jeste,
da se spoljašnji svet preuređuje
that you are becoming.
that miracles happen on a regular basis.
svakodnevno dešavaju.
whom you're delighted to meet.
is you take journeys.
su odlaženja na putovanja.
you went on a journey.
otišli ste na putovanje.
your place of work is;
vaše radno mesto -
you go on a journey.
otišli ste na putovanje.
u aferi sa baštovanima od oko 19,
affairs with 19-something gardeners
unaokolo za manekenkama.
are playing around with models.
but just ask yourself,
ali se samo zapitajte:
na koje želim da idem?
I want to spend time?"
na kome želim da provedem vreme?“
the things you talk about,
stvari o kojima govorite,
knjige koje čitate - sve se menja.
the books you read --
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Srikumar Rao - Happiness teacherExecutive, educator, writer and life coach Srikumar S. Rao asks, "Are you ready to succeed?" -- and in his famous course "Creativity and Personal Mastery," he teaches his students how to do so.
Why you should listen
Srikumar Rao was an executive at Warner Communications and McGraw-Hill before he created his celebrated MBA course, "Creativity and Personal Mastery." The course -- the only business school course that has its own alumni association -- shows students how to discover their unique purpose, creativity and happiness, through group work and a philosophical perspective. Its popularity has led to write-ups in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal and Business Week.
Rao is also an adviser to senior business executives, whom he helps find deeper meaning and engagement in their work. He's the author of Are You Ready to Succeed: Unconventional Strategies for Achieving Personal Mastery in Business and Life, and has been a contributing editor for Forbes. His latest book is titled Happiness at Work: Be Resilient, Motivated, and Successful - No Matter What.
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