TEDxToronto 2010
Drew Dudley: Everyday leadership
卓杜立 (Drew Dudley)：微細領導力
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我們都曾經改變某些人的生命--常常自己都不知道。透過卓杜立 (Drew Dudley) 幽默話語，我們得以審視並慶賀日常生活中改善彼此生命品質的領導力。
Drew Dudley - Leadership educator
Drew Dudley believes leadership is not a characteristic reserved for the extraordinary. He works to help people discover the leader within themselves. Full bio
Drew Dudley believes leadership is not a characteristic reserved for the extraordinary. He works to help people discover the leader within themselves. Full bio
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00:16
How many of you are completely comfortable
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你們之中有多少人對於稱呼自己為領導者
00:17
with calling yourselves a leader?
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感到自在？
00:20
See, I've asked that question all the way across the country,
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看吧！我到全國各地演講都問這個問題
00:23
and everywhere I ask it, no matter where,
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不論我在那裡問
00:25
there's always a huge portion of the audience that won't put up their hand.
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觀眾中絶大多數人都不會舉手
00:28
And I've come to realize that we have made leadership
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然後我明白一件事：我們把領導力
00:30
into something bigger than us.
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弄得太過龐大
00:31
We've made into something beyond us.
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我們把它想地大過我們自身
00:33
We've made it about changing the world.
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我們把它想成是改變世界的能力
00:35
And we've taken this title of leader, and we treat it
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我們把領導人這稱謂
00:37
as if it's something that one day we're going to deserve,
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想成某年某月經過許多努力後
我們才有資格戴上的頭銜
我們才有資格戴上的頭銜
00:40
but to give it to ourselves right now
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如果想成是當下我們就能承當的頭銜
00:42
means a level of arrogance or cockiness that we're not comfortable with.
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意涵某種程度讓人不舒服的驕傲自大
00:45
And I worry sometimes that we spend so much time
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而我擔心我們花那麼多時間
00:47
celebrating amazing things that hardly anybody can do
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慶祝一些我們很難達到的成就
00:51
that we've convinced ourselves that those are
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我們說服自己
00:52
the only things worth celebrating, and we start to
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那些豐功偉業才是值得慶祝的事。我們開始
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devalue the things that we can do every day, and we start
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貶抑日常生活中可做到的事
00:56
to take moments where we truly are a leader
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對於那些能讓我們被稱得上領導人的時刻
00:59
and we don't let ourselves take credit for it,
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我們拒不讓稱功
01:01
and we don't let ourselves feel good about it.
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我們不讓自己引以為傲
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And I've been lucky enough over the last
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我很幸運在過去這十年中
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10 years to work with some amazing people
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和一群很特別的人一起工作
01:06
who have helped me redefine leadership in a way
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他們幫我重新定義領導力
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that I think has made me happier.
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讓我覺得我變得更快樂
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And with my short time today, I just want to share with you
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就今天很短的時間，我想和各位分享
01:11
the one story that is probably most responsible for that redefinition.
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一個和重新定義領導力
最直接相關的故事
最直接相關的故事
01:16
I went to school in a little school called
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我大學是在一所規模小的學校叫
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Mount Allison University in Sackville, New Brunswick,
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Mount Allison大學，在New Brunswick的Sackville
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and on my last day there, a girl came up to me
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我在那的最後一天，一個女孩走上前來
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and she said, "I remember the first time that I met you."
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她說：「我記得第一次見到你的情景」
01:25
And then she told me a story that had happened four years earlier.
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然後她告訴我四年前發生的一個故事
01:28
She said, "On the day before I started university,
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她說；「大學開學的前一天，
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I was in the hotel room with my mom and my dad, and
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我和我的父母待在一個旅館，
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I was so scared and so convinced that I couldn't do this,
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我超害怕的，怕到相信自己沒準備好自己上大學，
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that I wasn't ready for university, that I just burst into tears.
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於是就哭了起來。
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And my mom and my dad were amazing. They were like,
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我爸媽真是很酷。他們說：
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'Look, we know you're scared, but let's just go tomorrow.
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『喔！我們知道妳怕，但讓我們明天去看看。
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Let's go to the first day, and if at any point
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我們去開學第一天。如果妳任何時候覺得
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you feel as if you can't do this, that's fine, just tell us,
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妳沒辦法，儘管告訴我們，
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we will take you home. We love you no matter what.'"
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我們就帶妳回家。無論如何，我們還是愛妳。』」
01:50
And she says, "So I went the next day
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她說：「隔天我去了，
01:51
and I was standing in line getting ready for registration,
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在排隊註冊的時候，
01:54
and I looked around and I just knew I couldn't do it.
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我四下觀望，知道自己沒辦法
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I knew I wasn't ready. I knew I had to quit."
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我知道我還沒準備好。我知道我要打退堂鼓。」
01:58
And she says, "I made that decision, and as soon as I made it,
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她說：「我決定了。當我一下決定，
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there was this incredible feeling of peace that came over me.
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有一股平和的感覺罩住我
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And I turned to my mom and my dad to tell them
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我轉過身對我爸媽說
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that we needed to go home, and just at that moment,
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我們需要回家。就在那時候，
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you came out of the Student Union building
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你從學生中心走出來
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wearing the stupidest hat I have ever seen in my life." (Laughter)
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戴著我見過最傻氣的帽子」（笑）
02:12
"It was awesome.
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「真是太有意思了
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And you had a big sign promoting Shinerama,
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你身上穿了一個Shinerama募款的牌子
02:15
which is Students Fighting Cystic Fibrosis,"
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上面寫著『學生團體共同對抗囊腫纖維症』」
02:17
— a charity I've worked with for years —
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是一個我投入多年的慈善組織
02:18
"and you had a bucketful of lollipops.
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「然後你提了一桶棒棒糖
02:20
And you were walking along and you were handing the lollipops out
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一路走一路發
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to people in line and talking about Shinerama.
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給排在隊伍裏的人，介紹Shinerama的理念
02:25
And all of a sudden, you got to me, and you just stopped,
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突然間，你看到我，就停住了
02:28
and you stared. It was creepy." (Laughter)
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你盯著我看。真讓人起雞皮疙瘩！」（笑）
02:32
This girl right here knows exactly what I'm talking about. (Laughter)
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眼前這個女孩知道我在說什麼（笑）
02:35
"And then you looked at the guy next to me,
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「然後你看著站在我身邊的一個男孩
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and you smiled, and you reached in your bucket, and you pulled
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你笑了！你把手放進桶子，拿出
02:38
out a lollipop, and you held it out to him, and you said,
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一枝棒棒糖，你伸手遞給他，說：
02:41
'You need to give a lollipop to the beautiful woman standing next to you.'"
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『你必須給站在你旁邊這個漂亮的小姑娘一枝棒棒糖』」
02:44
And she said, "I have never seen anyone get more embarrassed faster in my life.
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她說：「我一輩子沒見過任何人這麼快就被冏住
02:49
He turned beet red, and he wouldn't even look at me.
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他滿臉通紅，看也不看我一眼
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He just kind of held the lollipop out like this." (Laughter)
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他只是側著身把棒棒糖給我」（笑）
02:54
"And I felt so bad for this dude that I took the lollipop,
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「我替這傢伙感到好尷尬，
所以我就接下那枝棒棒糖，
所以我就接下那枝棒棒糖，
02:57
and as soon as I did, you got this incredibly severe look
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但是當我一接下那棒棒糖，
我看到你臉上極度嚴肅的表情，
我看到你臉上極度嚴肅的表情，
02:59
on your face and you looked at my mom and my dad,
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你看著我的爸媽
03:01
and you said, 'Look at that. Look at that.
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然後你說：『你看看！你看看 ！
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First day away from home, and already she's taking candy
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離家第一天，她己經從一個陌生人的手上
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from a stranger?!'" (Laughter)
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接受糖果？』」（笑）
03:09
And she said, "Everybody lost it. Twenty feet in every
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然後她說：「每個人都忍不住了！方圓二十呎內，
03:12
direction, everyone started to howl.
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每個人都大笑起來！
03:14
And I know this is cheesy, and I don't know why I'm telling you this,
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我知道這很肉麻，我也不知道我為什麼要告訴你們這件事，
03:16
but in that moment when everyone was laughing,
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但在那個大家都大笑的時刻
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I knew that I shouldn't quit.
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我知道我不應該掉頭回家
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I knew that I was where I was supposed to be,
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我知道我在做我該做的
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and I knew that I was home, and I haven't spoken to you
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我知道我站對地方。這四年中
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once in the four years since that day,
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我一次都沒有和你說過話
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but I heard that you were leaving,
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但我聽說你要離開了
03:28
and I had to come up and tell you that you've been
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我一定要告訴你，你曾經
03:30
an incredibly important person in my life, and I'm going to miss you. Good luck."
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是我生命中那麼重要的人。
我會想念著你。祝你好運」
我會想念著你。祝你好運」
03:34
And she walks away, and I'm flattened.
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她轉身離去，我則是受寵若驚
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And she gets about six feet away, she turns around and smiles, and goes,
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當她走到六呎遠時，她轉過身來，微笑著說：
03:39
"You should probably know this, too.
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「也許你也該知道這個
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I'm still dating that guy four years later." (Laughter)
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我和四年前那傢伙一直都在約會」（笑）
03:44
A year and a half after I moved to Toronto,
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一年半後我搬去多倫多
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I got an invitation to their wedding.
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我收到一張他們倆婚禮的請帖
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Here's the kicker. I don't remember that.
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吊詭的是，我不記得這事
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I have no recollection of that moment,
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我一點都不記得她所說的那個時刻
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and I've searched my memory banks, because that is funny
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我搜索我的記憶庫，因為這事很有趣
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and I should remember doing it, and I don't remember it.
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而我應該會記得，可是我真不記得
03:59
And that was such an eye-opening, transformative moment
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而這真是令人大開眼界，脫胎換骨的時刻
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for me to think that maybe the biggest impact I'd ever had
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要我說我這輩子對任何生命最大的影響
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on anyone's life, a moment that had a woman walk up
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像一個女孩在四年後走上前去
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to a stranger four years later and say,
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對一個陌生人說：
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"You've been an incredibly important person in my life,"
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「你在我的生命中相當重要」
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was a moment that I didn't even remember.
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是這樣一個我一點都不記得的時刻。
04:12
How many of you guys have a lollipop moment,
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你們中多少人有這樣「棒棒糖時刻」？
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a moment where someone said something or did something
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那麼一個時刻某人說了什麼或做了什麼
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that you feel fundamentally made your life better?
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讓你的生命徹底地變更好？
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All right. How many of you have told that person they did it?
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好吧！你們中有多少人告訴那個幫忙的人？
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See, why not? We celebrate birthdays,
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看吧！為什麼不說呢？
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where all you have to do is not die for 365 days — (Laughter) —
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你需要做的只是活365天不死（笑）
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and yet we let people who have made our lives better
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但是我們對於那些改善我們生命的人
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walk around without knowing it.
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日復一日，不知道他們對我們的生命有多重要
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And every single one of you, every single one of you
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你們每一個人，每一個
04:35
has been the catalyst for a lollipop moment.
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都曾經是那棒棒糖時刻的催化劑
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You have made someone's life better by something
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你們曾改善某人的生命
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that you said or that you did, and if you think you haven't,
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因為你們說了什麼或做了什麼。
如果你覺得你不曾，
如果你覺得你不曾，
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think about all the hands that didn't go back up when I asked that question.
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想想我開場問那個問題，
有多少手沒擧起來
有多少手沒擧起來
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You're just one of the people who hasn't been told.
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你只是沒被告知的群眾中的一名
04:45
But it is so scary to think of ourselves as that powerful.
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但是要把自己想成那麼有力是很嚇人的
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It can be frightening to think that we can matter that much
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要想見自己找別人那麼重要真的很嚇人
04:50
to other people, because as long as we make leadership something bigger than us,
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因為只要我們將領導力想成超越我們的能力
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as long as we keep leadership something beyond us,
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只要我們將領導力想成我們不能企及的
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as long as we make it about changing the world,
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只要我們把它想成是用來改變世界
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we give ourselves an excuse not to expect it
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我們給自己一個藉口不去期盼
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every day from ourselves and from each other.
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期盼由市井小民如我們自己或彼此有領導力
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Marianne Williamson said, "Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate.
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Marianne Williamson說過：
「我們最大的恐懼不是我們無能，
「我們最大的恐懼不是我們無能，
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Our greatest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
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我們最大的恐懼是我們強大有力，不可限量；
05:07
It is our light, and not our darkness, that frightens us."
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嚇壞我們的是我們的光明面，
不是我們的黑暗面。」
不是我們的黑暗面。」
05:10
And my call to action today is that we need to get over that.
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我現在的呼籲是我們必須克服這個恐懼
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We need to get over our fear of how extraordinarily
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我們需要克服我們擔心自己
05:15
powerful we can be in each other's lives.
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對彼此生命有多特殊的影響力
05:16
We need to get over it so we can move beyond it, and our
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我們必須終結它，才能超越它，然後
05:19
little brothers and our little sisters, and one day our kids --
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我們的小小兄弟姊妹們，
或有一天我們的孩子
或有一天我們的孩子
05:22
or our kids right now -- can watch and start to value
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或我們現在的孩子——
能看見我們對彼此生命的影響
能看見我們對彼此生命的影響
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the impact we can have on each other's lives
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然後開始珍視它
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more than money and power and titles and influence.
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更甚於金錢、權力、頭銜和影響力
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We need to redefine leadership as being about lollipop moments,
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我們需要重新定義領導力像棒棒糖時刻
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how many of them we create, how many of them we acknowledge,
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我們創造了多少個棒棒糖時刻？
有多少我們真的知道？
有多少我們真的知道？
05:35
how many of them we pay forward, and how many of them we say thank you for.
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有多少我們流傳下去？
有多少我們說謝謝？
有多少我們說謝謝？
05:38
Because we've made leadership about changing the world,
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因為我們把領導力界定在關於改變世界
05:41
and there is no world. There's only six billion understandings of it,
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但是沒有這麼樣的世界。
只有六百億個對這世界的理解
只有六百億個對這世界的理解
05:44
and if you change one person's understanding of it,
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如果你改變一個人對這世界的理解
05:46
one person's understanding of what they're capable of,
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一個人對於他能力的理解
05:48
one person's understanding of how much people care about them,
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一個人對於別人多麼關心他的理解
05:50
one person's understanding of how powerful an agent
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一個人對於他在這世界上
是多有力的改變因素的了解
是多有力的改變因素的了解
05:53
for change they can be in this world, you've changed the whole thing.
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你己經改變全部
05:56
And if we can understand leadership like that,
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如果我們能夠多此理解領導力
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I think if we can redefine leadership like that,
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我想如果我們能如此重新定義領導力
06:01
I think we can change everything.
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我想我們能改變任何事
06:03
And it's a simple idea, but I don't think it's a small one,
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這是個簡單的想法，但我
不覺得這是個微不足道的想法
不覺得這是個微不足道的想法
06:06
and I want to thank you all so much for letting me share it with you today.
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謝謝你讓我和你分享這個想法
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Drew Dudley - Leadership educatorDrew Dudley believes leadership is not a characteristic reserved for the extraordinary. He works to help people discover the leader within themselves.
Why you should listen
Drew Dudley’s interest in developing people’s leadership began when he was the Leadership Development coordinator at the University of Toronto, Scarborough. In 2010 he founded Nuance Leadership Development Services, a company that creates leadership curricula for communities, organizations and individuals -- a subject on which he also speaks widely.
Drew Dudley | Speaker | TED.com