Susan David: The gift and power of emotional courage
سوزان ديفد: موهبة الشجاعة العاطفية وتأثيرها
Susan David, a Harvard Medical School psychologist, studies emotional agility: the psychology of how we can use emotion to bring forward our best selves in all aspects of how we love, live, parent and lead. Full bio
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intention behind the word
literally translated means,
I bring you into being."
being greeted like that.
in the way we see ourselves?
and fraught world?
at the center of my life's work.
في حياتي العملية.
with our inner world drives everything.
تحرّك كل شيء،
of emotions as good or bad,
بالجيدة والسيئة،
of complexity is toxic.
of emotional agility
من المرونة العاطفية
of a university,
of apartheid South Africa,
أثناء الفصل العنصري في جنوب أفريقيا،
committed to not seeing.
of racist legislation possible
من التشريعات العنصرية ممكنةً
that they are doing nothing wrong.
أنهم لا يرتكبون أي خطأ.
of the destructive power of denial
القوة المدمرة للإنكار
to the country of my birth.
في البلد الذي وُلِدت فيه.
and say goodbye to my father
and walked the passage that ran through
وسرت في الممر الذي يوصل
my father lay dying of cancer.
الذي يحتضر من السرطان.
but he knew I was there.
to mathematics to history to biology,
والرياضيات والتاريخ والأحياء،
I would shrug and say, "OK."
وأقول: "بخير".
to keep his small business going
على استمرار مشروعه الصغير
was grieving the love of her life
and emotionally ravaged.
isolated, fast.
the full weight of my grief.
that values relentless positivity,
تقدر الإيجابية الدؤوبة،
my story of triumph over grief.
بحكاية انتصاري على المأساة.
fixed me with burning blue eyes
عينيها الزراقاوين عليّ
authentically to my grief and pain.
that started in this blank notebook
correspondence with myself.
the rigidity of denial
from its fragility.
that we are unseen.
where that child once was,
brings us to our knees.
this frailty successfully or sustainably.
أو على نحوِ مستدام.
tells us that depression
of disability globally --
على مستوى العالم،
political and economic change,
الغير مسبوقة،
into rigid responses to their emotions.
في ردود أفعال جامدة تجاه مشاعرهم.
obsessively brood on our feelings.
bottle our emotions,
deemed legitimate.
with over 70,000 people,
مع أكثر من 70 ألف شخص،
so-called "bad emotions,"
ما يسمى بـ"المشاعر السيئة"،
these feelings.
like our children --
out of emotions seen as negative,
على المشاعر التي نراها سلبية،
as inherently valuable.
are now seen as good or bad.
جيدة أو سيئة.
a new form of moral correctness.
من أشكال السلوك الأخلاقي القويم.
to just stay positive.
هو أن يظلوا إيجابيين،
or false positivity, it's this:
أو الإيجابية الزائفة فهو الآتي:
lesson we can learn
are pushed aside or ignored,
in the refrigerator --
of unwanted emotions when you ignore them,
عندما تتجاهلها،
to embrace false positivity,
لكي نعتنق الإيجابية الزائفة،
to deal with the world as it is,
للتعامل مع الأمور على طبيعتها،
what they don't want to feel.
بما لا يريدون أن يشعروا به.
I don't want to feel disappointed."
لأني لا أريد أن أشعر بخيبة الأمل"
by their feelings.
that comes with failure.
of our contract with life.
من عقدنا مع الحياة.
to a meaningful life.
to what I did feel.
لما كنت أحسه فعلاً.
of all of our emotions --
to resilience, thriving,
that just an acceptance of emotions.
تقبل المشاعر.
I found that words are essential.
to describe our feelings.
لوصف مشاعرنا.
common one I hear.
between stress and disappointment
of "I'm in the wrong career."
"أنني أمتهن مهنة لا تناسبني".
the precise cause of our feelings.
the readiness potential in our brain
to take concrete steps.
باتخاذ خطوات ملموسة.
the right steps for us.
بل الخطوات الصحيحة بالنسبة لنا.
to things that we care about.
للأشياء التي نهتم بها.
anything in our worlds.
في دنيتنا.
that you value equity and fairness --
لأنك تقدّر المساواة والعدالة،
to the difficult emotions,
that are values-aligned.
they are not directives.
our emotions for their values
in his frustration with his baby sister --
بالضيق من أخته الرضيعة،
that he gets to give her away
he sees in a shopping mall.
between how I feel in all my wisdom
to the journal of your hearts.
as in, "I'm angry" or "I'm sad."
أو "أنا حزين".
as if you are the emotion.
and the emotion is a data source.
the feeling for what it is:
to bring the best of themselves to work,
أفضل ما لديهم في العمل،
to feel their emotional truth,
flourish in the organization.
تزدهر في المنظمة.
individuals, teams,
عند الأفراد والفِرق
to the normal human emotions.
المشاعر الإنسانية العادية.
towards my values?"
to be with your emotions
مع مشاعرك
to take values-connected steps.
متصلة مع القيم.
terrified by the idea of death.
with soft pats and kisses.
a buffer between me and reality.
through those nights.
is not an absence of fear;
ليست في انعدام الخوف،
is all too precious
correspondence with your own heart.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Susan David - Psychologist, researcher, authorSusan David, a Harvard Medical School psychologist, studies emotional agility: the psychology of how we can use emotion to bring forward our best selves in all aspects of how we love, live, parent and lead.
Why you should listen
What does it take internally, in the way we deal with our thoughts, emotions and stories, for us to thrive in a complex and changing world? How we respond to these inner experiences drives our actions, careers, relationships, happiness, health -- everything that matters in our lives. Susan David became fascinated by this question through first-hand experience of loss and resilience, while growing up in a country in which hate was legislated: apartheid South Africa.
David holds a PhD in the psychology of emotions, is an award-winning Harvard Medical School psychologist, and is ranked as one of the world's leading management thinkers. Her #1 Wall Street Journal bestselling book, Emotional Agility, describes the psychological skills critical to thriving in times of complexity and change. David is CEO of Evidence Based Psychology, on Harvard Medical School faculty, and a co-founder of the Institute of Coaching. Described as "a powerful speaker, visionary thinker and inspirational personality," she is an unwavering believer in the power of people to bring the best of who they are to themselves, their children, their organizations and their communities.
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