TEDWomen 2010
Sheryl Sandberg: Why we have too few women leaders
Sheryl Sandberg: Mengapa Pemimpin Wanita Terlalu Sedikit
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COO Facebook Sheryl Sandberg membahas mengapa persentase wanita yang sampai ke posisi puncak di profesinya lebih rendah daripada laki-laki -- dan menawarkan 3 nasihat ampuh bagi wanita yang ingin masuk ke jajaran manajemen.
Sheryl Sandberg - COO, Facebook
As the COO at the helm of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg juggles the tasks of monetizing the world’s largest social networking site while keeping its users happy and engaged. Full bio
As the COO at the helm of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg juggles the tasks of monetizing the world’s largest social networking site while keeping its users happy and engaged. Full bio
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So for any of us in this room today,
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Kita yang berada di ruangan ini hari ini,
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let's start out by admitting we're lucky.
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mari mengakui kalau kita ini beruntung.
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We don't live in the world
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Kita tidak hidup di dunia yang sama
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our mothers lived in, our grandmothers lived in,
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dengan dunia ibu kita, nenek kita,
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where career choices for women were so limited.
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di mana pilihan karir untuk wanita terbatas.
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And if you're in this room today,
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Dan kalau Anda berada di sini hari ini,
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most of us grew up in a world
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kebanyakan dari kita tumbuh di dunia
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where we had basic civil rights,
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di mana kita mempunyai hak asasi.
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and amazingly, we still live in a world
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Hebatnya, kita masih tinggal di dunia
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where some women don't have them.
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di mana sementara wanita tidak memilikinya.
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But all that aside, we still have a problem,
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Tapi di luar itu, kita masih menghadapi masalah,
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and it's a real problem.
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dan ini masalah nyata.
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And the problem is this:
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Masalahnya begini:
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Women are not making it
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para wanita tidak mencapai
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to the top of any profession
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posisi puncak dalam profesinya
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anywhere in the world.
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di mana pun di dunia.
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The numbers tell the story quite clearly.
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Data memaparkan hal ini dengan jelas.
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190 heads of state --
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Dari 190 kepala negara,
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nine are women.
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sembilan yang wanita.
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Of all the people in parliament in the world,
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Dari semua anggota parlemen di dunia,
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13 percent are women.
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13 persen adalah wanita.
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In the corporate sector,
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Di sektor swasta,
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women at the top,
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wanita di posisi puncak,
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C-level jobs, board seats --
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posisi eksekutif, komisaris,
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tops out at 15, 16 percent.
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paling tinggi 15, 16 persen.
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The numbers have not moved since 2002
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Angka ini tidak berubah sejak 2002
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and are going in the wrong direction.
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dan bergerak ke arah yang salah.
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And even in the non-profit world,
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Bahkan di dunia nirlaba,
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a world we sometimes think of
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yang sering kita lihat sebagai bidang
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as being led by more women,
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yang dipimpin lebih banyak wanita,
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women at the top: 20 percent.
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wanita di posisi puncak: 20 persen.
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We also have another problem,
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Kita juga menghadapi masalah lain,
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which is that women face harder choices
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bahwa wanita menghadapi pilihan yang lebih sulit
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between professional success and personal fulfillment.
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antara sukses profesional dan kepuasan pribadi.
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A recent study in the U.S.
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Studi di Amerika baru-baru ini
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showed that, of married senior managers,
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menunjukkan bahwa dari manajer senior yang menikah,
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two-thirds of the married men had children
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dua-pertiga dari pria menikah memiliki anak
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and only one-third of the married women had children.
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tapi hanya sepertiga dari wanita menikah memiliki anak.
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A couple of years ago, I was in New York,
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Dua tahun lalu, sewaktu saya di New York,
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and I was pitching a deal,
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sedang mengusung suatu transaksi,
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and I was in one of those fancy New York private equity offices
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saya tiba di kantor mewah perusahaan ekuitas di New York.
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you can picture.
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Anda bisa bayangkan.
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And I'm in the meeting -- it's about a three-hour meeting --
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Saya mengikuti rapat yang dijadwalkan untuk 3 jam.
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and two hours in, there kind of needs to be that bio break,
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Setelah dua jam ada kebutuhan untuk jeda biologis,
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and everyone stands up,
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jadi semua orang berdiri.
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and the partner running the meeting
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Lalu partner yang memimpin rapat
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starts looking really embarrassed.
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mulai terlihat sangat malu.
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And I realized he doesn't know
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Akhirnya saya sadari bahwa ia tidak tahu
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where the women's room is in his office.
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di mana toilet wanita di kantornya.
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So I start looking around for moving boxes,
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Jadi saya mulai mencari-cari kotak bekas pindahan,
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figuring they just moved in, but I don't see any.
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siapa tahu mereka baru pindah, tapi tak ada apa-apa.
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And so I said, "Did you just move into this office?"
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Saya tanya, "Apakah Anda baru pindah ke kantor ini?"
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And he said, "No, we've been here about a year."
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Beliau menjawab, "Tidak, kami di sini sudah setahun."
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And I said, "Are you telling me
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Kata saya, "Apakah maksud Anda
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that I am the only woman
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saya ini satu-satunya wanita
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to have pitched a deal in this office in a year?"
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yang datang mengusung transaksi di sini dalam setahun ini?"
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And he looked at me, and he said,
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Lalu beliau menatap saya dan menjawab,
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"Yeah. Or maybe you're the only one who had to go to the bathroom."
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"Ya. Atau mungkin Anda satu-satunya yang butuh ke kamar mandi."
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(Laughter)
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(Tawa)
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So the question is,
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Jadi pertanyaannya adalah,
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how are we going to fix this?
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bagaimana kita akan menyelesaikan masalah ini?
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How do we change these numbers at the top?
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Bagaimana kita mengubah angka di pucuk pimpinan?
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How do we make this different?
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Bagaimana kita membuat perbedaan?
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I want to start out by saying,
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Saya ingin menegaskan,
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I talk about this --
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bahwa saya berbicara soal ini --
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about keeping women in the workforce --
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soal bagaimana wanita bisa tetap bekerja --
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because I really think that's the answer.
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karena saya berpikir inilah jawabannya.
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In the high-income part of our workforce,
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Di antara pegawai berpenghasilan tinggi,
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in the people who end up at the top --
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mereka yang mencapai puncak --
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Fortune 500 CEO jobs,
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500 eksekutif edisi majalah Fortune,
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or the equivalent in other industries --
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atau yang setara di industri lain --
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the problem, I am convinced,
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saya yakin masalahnya
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is that women are dropping out.
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adalah karena wanita berhenti bekerja.
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Now people talk about this a lot,
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Hal ini sudah banyak dibicarakan,
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and they talk about things like flextime and mentoring
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soal waktu kerja fleksibel, mentoring
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and programs companies should have to train women.
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dan pelatihan untuk wanita.
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I want to talk about none of that today,
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Saya tidak akan berbicara mengenainya,
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even though that's all really important.
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walaupun itu semua penting.
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Today I want to focus on what we can do as individuals.
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Saya ingin menyoroti apa yang bisa kita lakukan sebagai perorangan.
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What are the messages we need to tell ourselves?
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Pesan apa yang perlu kita sampaikan pada diri sendiri?
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What are the messages we tell the women who work with and for us?
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Pesan apa yang kita sampaikan pada wanita yang bekerja?
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What are the messages we tell our daughters?
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Pesan apa yang kita sampaikan pada anak perempuan kita?
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Now, at the outset, I want to be very clear
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Dari awal ini, saya ingin meluruskan
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that this speech comes with no judgments.
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bahwa pidato ini tidak bermaksud menghakimi.
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I don't have the right answer.
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Saya tidak punya jawaban yang benar;
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I don't even have it for myself.
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bahkan tidak untuk diri saya sendiri.
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I left San Francisco, where I live, on Monday,
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Saya meninggalkan San Francisco, tempat tinggal saya, hari Senin.
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and I was getting on the plane for this conference.
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Saya bersiap mengejar pesawat untuk konferensi ini.
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And my daughter, who's three, when I dropped her off at preschool,
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Lalu anak perempuan saya, tiga tahun, waktu saya antar ke taman bermain,
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did that whole hugging-the-leg,
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tiba-tiba memeluk kaki saya
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crying, "Mommy, don't get on the plane" thing.
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sambil menangis, "Ibu, jangan naik pesawat."
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This is hard. I feel guilty sometimes.
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Ini sulit. Terkadang saya merasa bersalah.
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I know no women,
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Saya tidak kenal satu pun wanita,
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whether they're at home or whether they're in the workforce,
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apakah mereka di rumah ataupun bekerja,
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who don't feel that sometimes.
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yang tidak pernah merasa begitu sesekali.
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So I'm not saying that staying in the workforce
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Jadi saya bukan berkata bahwa tetap bekerja
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is the right thing for everyone.
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adalah tepat bagi semua orang.
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My talk today is about what the messages are
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Bicara saya hari ini lebih mengenai apa pesannya
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if you do want to stay in the workforce,
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jika Anda ingin tetap bekerja.
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and I think there are three.
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Dan saya kira ada tiga pesan.
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One, sit at the table.
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Pertama, ikut duduk di meja.
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Two, make your partner a real partner.
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Kedua, jadikan partner Anda partner sungguhan.
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And three, don't leave before you leave.
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Dan ketiga, jangan pergi sampai Anda benar-benar pergi.
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Number one: sit at the table.
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Nomor satu: ikut duduk di meja.
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Just a couple weeks ago at Facebook,
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Dua minggu lalu di Facebook,
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we hosted a very senior government official,
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kami kedatangan pejabat pemerintahan senior.
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and he came in to meet with senior execs
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Beliau datang untuk menemui eksekutif
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from around Silicon Valley.
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dari Silicon Valley [pusat industri teknologi informasi].
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And everyone kind of sat at the table.
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Semua orang duduk di meja.
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And then he had these two women who were traveling with him
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Lalu ada dua wanita yang turut dalam rombongan,
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who were pretty senior in his department,
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yang cukup senior jabatannya.
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and I kind of said to them, "Sit at the table. Come on, sit at the table,"
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Saya katakan pada mereka, "Mari ikut duduk di meja."
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and they sat on the side of the room.
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Kemudian mereka duduk di sisi ruangan.
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When I was in college my senior year,
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Waktu saya masih di universitas tahun terakhir,
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I took a course called European Intellectual History.
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saya mengambil mata kuliah Sejarah Intelektual Eropa.
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Don't you love that kind of thing from college?
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Tidakkah Anda suka hal-hal begitu di universitas.
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I wish I could do that now.
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Seandainya saya masih di sana.
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And I took it with my roommate, Carrie,
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Saya mengambil matakuliah itu dengan teman kos saya, Carrie,
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who was then a brilliant literary student --
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yang sangat pandai dalam studi literatur
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and went on to be a brilliant literary scholar --
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dan akhirnya menjadi pakar literatur cemerlang.
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and my brother --
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Dan saudara lelaki saya --
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smart guy, but a water-polo-playing pre-med,
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orangnya pandai, pemain polo air dan calon mahasiswa kedokteran,
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who was a sophomore.
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mahasiswa tahun kedua.
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The three of us take this class together.
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Kami bertiga mengambil kelas ini.
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And then Carrie reads all the books
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Carrie membaca semua buku
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in the original Greek and Latin,
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dalam bahasa asli Yunani dan Latin
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goes to all the lectures.
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dan menghadiri semua kuliah.
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I read all the books in English
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Saya membaca semua buku berbahasa Inggris
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and go to most of the lectures.
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dan menghadiri sebagian besar kuliah.
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My brother is kind of busy.
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Saudara lelaki saya sibuk;
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He reads one book of 12
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dia membaca satu buku dari 12,
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and goes to a couple of lectures,
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menghadiri dua kuliah,
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marches himself up to our room
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lalu datang ke kamar kami
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a couple days before the exam to get himself tutored.
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dua hari sebelum ujian, mencari bimbingan belajar.
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The three of us go to the exam together, and we sit down.
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Kami bertiga pergi ujian bersama-sama.
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And we sit there for three hours --
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Kami ikut ujian selama 3 jam
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and our little blue notebooks -- yes, I'm that old.
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dengan buku catatan biru.
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And we walk out, and we look at each other, and we say, "How did you do?"
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Keluar ujian, kami saling berpandangan dan bertanya, "Bagaimana ujiannya tadi?"
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And Carrie says, "Boy, I feel like I didn't really draw out the main point
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Carrie bilang, "Sepertinya saya tidak menarik kesimpulan utama
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on the Hegelian dialectic."
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dari dialektika Hegel."
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And I say, "God, I really wish I had really connected
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Dan saya bilang, "Coba saya tadi menghubungkan
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John Locke's theory of property with the philosophers who follow."
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teori kepemilikan John Locke dengan filsuf lain setelahnya."
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And my brother says,
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Lalu saudara saya berkata,
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"I got the top grade in the class."
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"Aku dapat angka teratas di kelas."
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"You got the top grade in the class?
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"Kamu dapat angka teratas di kelas?
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You don't know anything."
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Kamu tak tahu apa-apa."
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The problem with these stories
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Masalah dalam cerita ini
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is that they show what the data shows:
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adalah bahwa ia menunjukkan apa kata data:
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women systematically underestimate their own abilities.
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wanita secara sistematis menganggap rendah kemampuan mereka sendiri.
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If you test men and women,
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Kalau Anda menguji laki-laki dan perempuan,
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and you ask them questions on totally objective criteria like GPAs,
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lalu Anda tanyakan pertanyaan obyektif seperti nilai IP,
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men get it wrong slightly high,
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yang laki-laki cenderung menjawab lebih tinggi,
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and women get it wrong slightly low.
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yang wanita cenderung menjawab lebih rendah.
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Women do not negotiate for themselves in the workforce.
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Wanita tidak bernegosiasi untuk mereka sendiri.
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A study in the last two years
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Penelitian dalam dua tahun terakhir
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of people entering the workforce out of college
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di antara mereka yang baru masuk kerja setelah lulus universitas
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showed that 57 percent of boys entering,
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menunjukkan bahwa 57 persen dari anak-anak lelaki,
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or men, I guess,
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atau para pria, maksud saya --
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are negotiating their first salary,
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menegosiasikan gaji pertama mereka,
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and only seven percent of women.
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dan hanya 7 persen wanita yang bernegosiasi.
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And most importantly,
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Dan yang terpenting,
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men attribute their success to themselves,
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laki-laki menganggap sukses itu berkat mereka sendiri,
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and women attribute it to other external factors.
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sementara wanita menganggap sukses itu berkat faktor luar.
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If you ask men why they did a good job,
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Kalau Anda tanya para pria mengapa mereka berhasil,
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they'll say, "I'm awesome.
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mereka akan bilang, "Saya hebat.
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Obviously. Why are you even asking?"
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Jelas-jelas. Kenapa Anda pakai bertanya?"
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If you ask women why they did a good job,
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Kalau Anda tanya para wanita mengapa mereka berhasil,
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what they'll say is someone helped them,
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mereka akan bilang mereka dapat bantuan,
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they got lucky, they worked really hard.
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mereka beruntung, mereka bekerja keras.
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Why does this matter?
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Mengapa hal ini penting?
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Boy, it matters a lot
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Wah, ini penting sekali
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because no one gets to the corner office
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karena tak seorang pun mencapai posisi tinggi
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by sitting on the side, not at the table,
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dengan duduk di samping, tidak di meja.
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and no one gets the promotion
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Tidak ada yang mendapat promosi
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if they don't think they deserve their success,
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kalau mereka tidak merasa pantas mendapat sukses,
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or they don't even understand their own success.
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atau kalau mereka tidak memahami kesuksesan sendiri.
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I wish the answer were easy.
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Andai jawabannya mudah.
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I wish I could just go tell all the young women I work for,
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Andai saya bisa katakan pada semua wanita muda,
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all these fabulous women,
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semua wanita luar biasa ini,
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"Believe in yourself and negotiate for yourself.
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"Percayalah pada diri sendiri, dan bernegosiasilah.
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Own your own success."
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Miliki keberhasilan Anda."
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I wish I could tell that to my daughter.
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Andai saya bisa bilang itu pada anak perempuan saya.
07:27
But it's not that simple.
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Tapi tidak sesederhana itu.
07:29
Because what the data shows, above all else, is one thing,
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Karena data menunjukkan, di atas semuanya ada satu hal,
07:32
which is that success and likeability
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bahwa sukses dan disukai orang banyak
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are positively correlated for men
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berkorelasi positif dengan laki-laki
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and negatively correlated for women.
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dan berkorelasi negatif dengan perempuan.
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And everyone's nodding,
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Dan semua orang mengangguk,
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because we all know this to be true.
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karena kita tahu ini benar.
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There's a really good study that shows this really well.
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Ada penelitian bagus yang menunjukkan hal ini.
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There's a famous Harvard Business School study
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Ada studi terkenal dari Harvard Business School
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on a woman named Heidi Roizen.
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tentang wanita bernama Heidi Roizen.
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And she's an operator in a company
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Ia seorang operator di perusahaan
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in Silicon Valley,
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di Silicon Valley.
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and she uses her contacts
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Dia memanfaatkan kenalannya
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to become a very successful venture capitalist.
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untuk menjadi penanam modal yang sukses.
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In 2002 -- not so long ago --
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Tahun 2002 -- belum begitu lama berselang --
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a professor who was then at Columbia University
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seorang profesor di Universitas Columbia
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took that case and made it Howard Roizen.
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menamai studi kasus itu Heidi Roizen.
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And he gave the case out, both of them,
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Profesor ini membagikan studi kasus tadi
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to two groups of students.
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ke dua kelompok mahasiswa.
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He changed exactly one word:
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Beliau mengubah hanya satu kata:
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"Heidi" to "Howard."
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Heidi (wanita) menjadi Howard (pria).
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But that one word made a really big difference.
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Tapi satu kata itu yang membuat perbedaan besar.
08:17
He then surveyed the students,
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Profesor ini lantas mensurvei mahasiswanya.
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and the good news was the students, both men and women,
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Kabar baiknya adalah para mahasiswa, baik pria maupun wanita,
08:22
thought Heidi and Howard were equally competent,
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menganggap Heidi dan Howard sama-sama kompeten,
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and that's good.
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dan itu bagus.
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The bad news was that everyone liked Howard.
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Kabar buruknya adalah, semua orang menyukai Howard.
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He's a great guy. You want to work for him.
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Orangnya asyik, kami ingin bekerja untuknya,
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You want to spend the day fishing with him.
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kami ingin ikut memancing dengannya.
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But Heidi? Not so sure.
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Tapi Heidi? Tidak begitu yakin.
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She's a little out for herself. She's a little political.
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Ia sedikit egois. Agak politis.
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You're not sure you'd want to work for her.
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Kami tidak yakin ingin bekerja untuknya.
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This is the complication.
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Di sinilah keruwetannya.
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We have to tell our daughters and our colleagues,
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Kita harus bilang pada anak perempuan dan kolega kita,
08:44
we have to tell ourselves to believe we got the A,
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kita harus bilang pada diri sendiri, untuk percaya kita dapat nilai A,
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to reach for the promotion,
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untuk meraih promosi,
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to sit at the table,
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untuk duduk di meja.
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and we have to do it in a world
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Dan kita harus melakukannya di dunia
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where, for them, there are sacrifices they will make for that,
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di mana dari mereka akan harus ada pengorbanan
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even though for their brothers, there are not.
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meskipun tidak demikian bagi saudara lelaki mereka.
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The saddest thing about all of this is that it's really hard to remember this.
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Yang paling menyedihkan adalah bahwa hal ini sulit untuk diingat.
09:02
And I'm about to tell a story which is truly embarrassing for me,
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Saya akan berbagi satu cerita, yang sungguh memalukan.
09:05
but I think important.
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Tapi saya kira ini penting.
09:07
I gave this talk at Facebook not so long ago
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Baru-baru ini di Facebook saya berbicara
09:10
to about 100 employees,
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di hadapan sekitar seratus pegawai.
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and a couple hours later, there was a young woman who works there
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Tak lama setelah itu ada wanita muda yang bekerja di sana
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sitting outside my little desk,
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duduk dekat meja saya,
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and she wanted to talk to me.
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ingin berbicara dengan saya.
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I said, okay, and she sat down, and we talked.
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Baiklah, kata saya. Lalu ia duduk dan kami mengobrol.
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And she said, "I learned something today.
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Wanita ini berkata, "Saya belajar sesuatu hari ini.
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I learned that I need to keep my hand up."
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Saya belajar bahwa saya perlu mengangkat tangan."
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I said, "What do you mean?"
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"Bagaimana maksudmu?" tanya saya.
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She said, "Well, you're giving this talk,
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Ia berkata lagi, "Waktu Ibu sedang berbicara,
09:29
and you said you were going to take two more questions.
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Ibu mengatakan Ibu akan menjawab dua pertanyaan lagi.
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And I had my hand up with lots of other people, and you took two more questions.
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Saya mengangkat tangan, seperti orang lain, lalu Ibu menjawab dua pertanyaan.
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And I put my hand down, and I noticed all the women put their hand down,
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Lalu saya menurunkan tangan, dan saya perhatikan wanita lain berbuat sama.
09:37
and then you took more questions,
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Tapi Ibu terus menanggapi pertanyaan baru,
09:39
only from the men."
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hanya dari yang laki-laki."
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And I thought to myself,
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Saya jadi berpikir,
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wow, if it's me -- who cares about this, obviously --
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wah, kalau saya saja -- yang peduli akan hal ini, tentunya --
09:46
giving this talk --
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berbicara soal ini --
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and during this talk, I can't even notice
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kalau selama pembicaraan ini, saya tidak melihat
09:51
that the men's hands are still raised,
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tangan para pria masih terangkat,
09:54
and the women's hands are still raised,
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dan tangan para wanita juga masih terangkat,
09:56
how good are we
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seberapa baikkah kami
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as managers of our companies and our organizations
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sebagai manajer di perusahaan dan organisasi
10:00
at seeing that the men are reaching for opportunities
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dalam memperhatikan bahwa pria menggapai kesempatan
10:02
more than women?
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lebih daripada wanita?
10:04
We've got to get women to sit at the table.
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Kita harus mendorong wanita untuk duduk di meja.
10:07
(Applause)
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(Tepuk tangan)
10:10
Message number two:
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Pesan nomor dua:
10:12
make your partner a real partner.
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jadikan partner Anda partner sungguhan.
10:14
I've become convinced that we've made more progress in the workforce
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Saya yakin kita sudah lebih maju soal ini di lingkungan kerja
10:17
than we have in the home.
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dibandingkan di rumah.
10:19
The data shows this very clearly.
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Data menunjukkan hal ini dengan jelas.
10:22
If a woman and a man work full-time
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Kalau wanita dan pria bekerja purna waktu
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and have a child,
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dan mempunyai anak,
10:26
the woman does twice the amount of housework the man does,
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wanita mengerjakan dua kali lebih banyak pekerjaan rumah dibanding pria.
10:29
and the woman does three times
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Dan wanita mengerjakan tiga kali lebih banyak
10:31
the amount of childcare the man does.
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pekerjaan mengurus anak dibanding pria.
10:34
So she's got three jobs or two jobs,
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Jadi wanita punya tiga, atau dua pekerjaan,
10:36
and he's got one.
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sementara pria punya satu.
10:38
Who do you think drops out when someone needs to be home more?
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Anda pikir siapa yang berhenti bekerja ketika harus ada yang lebih banyak di rumah.
10:41
The causes of this are really complicated,
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Penyebabnya sangat rumit,
10:43
and I don't have time to go into them.
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dan saya tak punya waktu untuk membahasnya.
10:45
And I don't think Sunday football-watching
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Menurut saya, nonton bola hari Minggu
10:47
and general laziness is the cause.
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dan kemalasan bukanlah penyebabnya.
10:49
I think the cause is more complicated.
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Saya rasa penyebabnya lebih rumit.
10:51
I think, as a society,
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Saya rasa sebagai masyarakat
10:53
we put more pressure on our boys to succeed
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kita lebih mendorong anak lelaki untuk sukses
10:55
than we do on our girls.
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dibanding kita mendorong anak perempuan.
10:57
I know men that stay home
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Saya kenal beberapa pria yang tinggal di rumah
10:59
and work in the home to support wives with careers,
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dan melakukan pekerjaan rumah untuk menyokong istri berkarir.
11:01
and it's hard.
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Dan itu sulit.
11:03
When I go to the Mommy-and-Me stuff
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Waktu saya mengikuti acara untuk ibu dan anak
11:05
and I see the father there,
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saya melihat seorang ayah.
11:07
I notice that the other mommies
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Saya perhatikan ibu-ibu lain
11:09
don't play with him.
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tidak bermain dengan si ayah.
11:11
And that's a problem,
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Dan itu suatu masalah,
11:13
because we have to make it as important a job,
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karena kita harus membuat pekerjaan rumah ini sama penting.
11:16
because it's the hardest job in the world to work inside the home,
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karena ini pekerjaan paling sulit di dunia -- bekerja di rumah
11:19
for people of both genders,
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bagi laki-laki dan wanita
11:21
if we're going to even things out and let women stay in the workforce.
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bila kita ingin menyetarakan posisi supaya wanita bisa tetap bekerja.
11:24
(Applause)
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(Tepuk tangan)
11:26
Studies show that households with equal earning
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Menurut penelitian, rumah tangga dengan pendapatan setara
11:28
and equal responsibility
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dan tanggung jawab setara
11:30
also have half the divorce rate.
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menurunkan angka perceraian hingga separuh.
11:32
And if that wasn't good enough motivation for everyone out there,
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Dan kalau itu masih belum juga memotivasi Anda semua,
11:35
they also have more --
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masih ada kelebihan lain --
11:37
how shall I say this on this stage? --
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bagaimana cara saya mengutarakannya? --
11:39
they know each other more in the biblical sense as well.
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mereka juga "mengenal satu sama lain" dalam arti seperti di kitab suci.
11:42
(Cheers)
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(Riuh rendah)
11:44
Message number three:
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Pesan nomor tiga:
11:46
don't leave before you leave.
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jangan pergi sebelum Anda benar-benar pergi.
11:48
I think there's a really deep irony
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Saya rasa ada ironi mendalam di sini
11:50
to the fact that actions women are taking --
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bahwa tindakan yang diambil wanita --
11:52
and I see this all the time --
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dan saya sering lihat ini terjadi --
11:54
with the objective of staying in the workforce
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meskipun tujuannya adalah tetap bekerja,
11:57
actually lead to their eventually leaving.
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justru berakhir dengan meninggalkan pekerjaan.
11:59
Here's what happens:
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Begini terjadinya:
12:01
We're all busy. Everyone's busy. A woman's busy.
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kita semua sibuk; semua orang sibuk; si wanita sibuk.
12:03
And she starts thinking about having a child,
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Lalu ia mulai berpikir soal punya anak.
12:06
and from the moment she starts thinking about having a child,
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Sejak dia mulai berpikir soal mempunyai anak,
12:09
she starts thinking about making room for that child.
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ia mulai berpikir untuk menyediakan ruang bagi anak itu.
12:11
"How am I going to fit this into everything else I'm doing?"
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"Bagaimana saya bisa menyempatkan ini di tengah kesibukan lain?"
12:15
And literally from that moment,
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Dan sejak saat itu,
12:17
she doesn't raise her hand anymore,
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ia tidak lagi mengangkat tangan,
12:20
she doesn't look for a promotion, she doesn't take on the new project,
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ia tidak lagi mencari promosi, tidak lagi mengambil proyek baru,
12:23
she doesn't say, "Me. I want to do that."
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ia tidak lagi berkata, "Saya ingin mengerjakan itu."
12:25
She starts leaning back.
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Ia mulai menjauh.
12:27
The problem is that --
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Masalahnya adalah --
12:29
let's say she got pregnant that day, that day --
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katakanlah pada hari itu ia mengandung --
12:32
nine months of pregnancy, three months of maternity leave,
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sembilan bulan kehamilan, tiga bulan cuti hamil,
12:35
six months to catch your breath --
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enam bulan menarik napas.
12:37
fast-forward two years,
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Loncat ke depan dua tahun.
12:39
more often -- and as I've seen it --
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Lebih seringnya, seperti yang saya lihat,
12:41
women start thinking about this way earlier --
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wanita mulai memikirkan ini jauh lebih awal --
12:43
when they get engaged, when they get married,
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waktu mereka bertunangan, waktu mereka menikah,
12:45
when they start thinking about trying to have a child, which can take a long time.
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waktu mereka mulai berpikir ingin punya anak, yang sebenarnya bisa makan waktu lama.
12:48
One woman came to see me about this,
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Seseorang datang menemui saya tentang hal ini.
12:50
and I kind of looked at her -- she looked a little young.
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Saya perhatikan, wanita ini tampak masih muda.
12:52
And I said, "So are you and your husband thinking about having a baby?"
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Saya bertanya, "Jadi kamu dan suami berpikir ingin punya bayi?"
12:55
And she said, "Oh no, I'm not married."
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Jawabnya, "Oh tidak, saya belum menikah."
12:58
She didn't even have a boyfriend.
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Dia bahkan tidak punya pacar.
13:00
I said, "You're thinking about this
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Saya katakan, "Kamu berpikir soal ini
13:02
just way too early."
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jauh terlalu awal."
13:04
But the point is that what happens
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Tapi intinya adalah, apa yang terjadi
13:07
once you start kind of quietly leaning back?
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begitu kita mulai menjauh diam-diam?
13:10
Everyone who's been through this --
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Semua orang yang pernah mengalaminya --
13:12
and I'm here to tell you, once you have a child at home,
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saya bisa bilang, begitu kita punya anak di rumah,
13:15
your job better be really good to go back,
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sebaiknya kita punya pekerjaan bagus untuk kembali,
13:17
because it's hard to leave that kid at home --
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karena meninggalkan anak di rumah itu sulit.
13:19
your job needs to be challenging.
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Pekerjaan kita harus menantang,
13:21
It needs to be rewarding.
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harus mendatangkan kepuasan.
13:23
You need to feel like you're making a difference.
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Kita harus merasa kita membuat perbedaan.
13:26
And if two years ago you didn't take a promotion
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Kalau dua tahun lalu Anda tidak mengambil promosi
13:29
and some guy next to you did,
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dan pria sebelah yang mengambilnya.
13:31
if three years ago
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Kalau tiga tahun lalu
13:33
you stopped looking for new opportunities,
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Anda berhenti mencari kesempatan baru,
13:35
you're going to be bored
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Anda akan bosan.
13:37
because you should have kept your foot on the gas pedal.
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Karena Anda seharusnya tetap menginjak pedal gas.
13:40
Don't leave before you leave.
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Jangan pergi sebelum Anda pergi.
13:42
Stay in.
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Tinggallah.
13:44
Keep your foot on the gas pedal,
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Injakkan kaki Anda pada pedal gas,
13:46
until the very day you need to leave
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sampai hari di mana Anda harus pergi
13:48
to take a break for a child --
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untuk mengambil jeda demi anak --
13:50
and then make your decisions.
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lalu barulah Anda buat keputusan.
13:52
Don't make decisions too far in advance,
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Jangan membuat keputusan terlalu dini,
13:55
particularly ones you're not even conscious you're making.
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terutama keputusan yang Anda pun tidak sadar membuatnya.
13:59
My generation really, sadly,
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Generasi saya, sayangnya,
14:01
is not going to change the numbers at the top.
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tidak akan mengubah angka di posisi puncak.
14:03
They're just not moving.
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Tidak ada perubahan.
14:05
We are not going to get to where 50 percent of the population --
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Kita tidak akan sampai ke titik di mana 50 persen --
14:08
in my generation, there will not be 50 percent of [women]
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Di generasi saya, tidak akan sampai ada 50 persen (wanita)
14:11
at the top of any industry.
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di posisi puncak di industri manapun.
14:13
But I'm hopeful that future generations can.
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Tapi saya harap generasi mendatang bisa.
14:17
I think a world that was run
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Saya rasa sebuah dunia yang
14:19
where half of our countries and half of our companies
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setengah negaranya dan setengah perusahaannya
14:21
were run by women, would be a better world.
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dipimpin wanita, akan menjadi dunia yang lebih baik.
14:24
And it's not just because people would know where the women's bathrooms are,
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Dan bukan hanya karena orang akan tahu di mana letak toilet wanita,
14:27
even though that would be very helpful.
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walaupun hal itu sangat membantu.
14:30
I think it would be a better world.
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Saya rasa dunia seperti itu akan lebih baik.
14:32
I have two children.
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Saya punya dua anak.
14:34
I have a five-year-old son and a two-year-old daughter.
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Anak laki-laki umur lima tahun dan anak perempuan umur dua tahun.
14:37
I want my son to have a choice
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Saya ingin anak laki-laki saya punya pilihan
14:39
to contribute fully in the workforce or at home,
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untuk bekerja purna waktu atau di rumah.
14:42
and I want my daughter to have the choice
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Dan saya ingin anak perempuan saya punya pilihan
14:44
to not just succeed,
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untuk tidak hanya berhasil,
14:46
but to be liked for her accomplishments.
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tapi juga disukai karena keberhasilannya.
14:48
Thank you.
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Terima kasih.
14:50
(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Sheryl Sandberg - COO, FacebookAs the COO at the helm of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg juggles the tasks of monetizing the world’s largest social networking site while keeping its users happy and engaged.
Why you should listen
Long before Sheryl Sandberg left Google to join Facebook as its Chief Operating Officer in 2008, she was a fan. Today she manages Facebook’s sales, marketing, business development, human resources, public policy and communications. It’s a massive job, but one well suited to Sandberg, who not only built and managed Google’s successful online sales and operations program but also served as an economist for the World Bank and Chief of Staff at the US Treasury Department. Sandberg’s experience navigating the complex and socially sensitive world of international economics has proven useful as she and Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg work to strike a balance between helping Facebook users control privacy while finding ways to monetize its most valuable asset: data.
At TEDWomen in 2010 Sandberg made the bold decision to talk about the experience of being one of very few women at the C-level of business. She noted that many women, in anticipating having a family, "lean back" from leading at work. After her TED Talk took off, Sandberg wrote the book Lean In, which has spent nearly a year on the New York Times Bestseller list. Sandberg plans to release a version of the book for graduates.
Sheryl Sandberg | Speaker | TED.com