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Sheryl Sandberg: Why we have too few women leaders
谢乐尔·桑德伯格Sheryl Sandberg:为什么女性领导那么少？
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脸谱网首席运营官谢乐尔·桑德伯格看到为什么女性在职业高管比例中要比男性所占比例小，她讲了让女性直至总裁级高管的3个强有力的建议。
Sheryl Sandberg - COO, Facebook
As the COO at the helm of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg juggles the tasks of monetizing the world’s largest social networking site while keeping its users happy and engaged. Full bio
As the COO at the helm of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg juggles the tasks of monetizing the world’s largest social networking site while keeping its users happy and engaged. Full bio
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So for any of us in this room today,
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今天在座的各位，
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let's start out by admitting we're lucky.
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我们先承认我们是幸运的。
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We don't live in the world
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我们没有生活在
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our mothers lived in, our grandmothers lived in,
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我们母亲和我们祖母生活过的那个世界，
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where career choices for women were so limited.
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在那时女性的职业选择是非常有限的。
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And if you're in this room today,
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今天在座的各位，
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most of us grew up in a world
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大多数人成长于一个
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where we had basic civil rights,
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女性有基本公民权的世界。
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and amazingly, we still live in a world
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令人惊讶地是，我们还生活在一个
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where some women don't have them.
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有些女性还没有这些权利的世界。
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But all that aside, we still have a problem,
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但除上所述，我们还有一个问题，
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and it's a real problem.
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它是一个实际问题。
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And the problem is this:
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这问题是：
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Women are not making it
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在世界各地，女性没达到
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to the top of any profession
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任何职业
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anywhere in the world.
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的高管职位。
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The numbers tell the story quite clearly.
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这些数据很清楚地告诉我们这实情。
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190 heads of state --
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190个国家元首里，
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nine are women.
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九位是女性领导。
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Of all the people in parliament in the world,
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在世界上议会的总人数中，
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13 percent are women.
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13%是女性议员。
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In the corporate sector,
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在公司部门，
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women at the top,
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女性占据高位，
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C-level jobs, board seats --
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C级职位，董事会席位
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tops out at 15, 16 percent.
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高管职位比例占15%，16%。
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The numbers have not moved since 2002
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自从2002年起这数据没变化过
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and are going in the wrong direction.
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有下降趋势。
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And even in the non-profit world,
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即使在非营利的行业，
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a world we sometimes think of
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我们有时认为这一行业
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as being led by more women,
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是被更多女性所领导的，
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women at the top: 20 percent.
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女性领导人占20%。
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We also have another problem,
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我们还面临着另一个问题，
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which is that women face harder choices
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就是女性
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between professional success and personal fulfillment.
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在职业成功和个人价值实现中所面临的艰难选择。
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A recent study in the U.S.
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美国最近一个研究
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showed that, of married senior managers,
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表明，已婚高管人员，
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two-thirds of the married men had children
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三分之二的已婚男性高管人员有孩子
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and only one-third of the married women had children.
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只有三分之一的已婚女性高管人员有孩子。
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A couple of years ago, I was in New York,
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几年前，我在纽约，
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and I was pitching a deal,
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出席一个协议，
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and I was in one of those fancy New York private equity offices
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在那种别致的纽约私募投资办事处中的一个
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you can picture.
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你能想象到的。
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And I'm in the meeting -- it's about a three-hour meeting --
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我在这个大约有3小时的会议上，
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and two hours in, there kind of needs to be that bio break,
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过了2小时，有个间歇休息，
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and everyone stands up,
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所有人都站起来，
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and the partner running the meeting
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这会议组织者
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starts looking really embarrassed.
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开始显得的确很尴尬。
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And I realized he doesn't know
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我意识到他不知道
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where the women's room is in his office.
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在他办公室哪里是女洗手间。
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So I start looking around for moving boxes,
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所以我开始寻找移动厕所，
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figuring they just moved in, but I don't see any.
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盘算他们刚搬进来，但我没有看到任何移动厕所。
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And so I said, "Did you just move into this office?"
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然后我说，“你是刚搬到这办公室吗？”
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And he said, "No, we've been here about a year."
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他说，“不是，我们在这儿已经有一年了。”
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And I said, "Are you telling me
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我说，“你能否告诉我
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that I am the only woman
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这一年来，
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to have pitched a deal in this office in a year?"
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我是唯一一个来这间办公室的女性吗？”
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And he looked at me, and he said,
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他看着我，说到，
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"Yeah. Or maybe you're the only one who had to go to the bathroom."
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“是的。或者说你可能是唯一一个要上女性洗手间。”
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(Laughter)
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（笑声）
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So the question is,
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所以问题是，
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how are we going to fix this?
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我们该怎样解决这样的尴尬？
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How do we change these numbers at the top?
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我们怎样改变这些高管职位的比例？
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How do we make this different?
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我们怎样使这个变得不同？
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I want to start out by saying,
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我首先想说，
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I talk about this --
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我谈这个
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about keeping women in the workforce --
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女性就职
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because I really think that's the answer.
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因为我的确认为我们得找到答案。
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In the high-income part of our workforce,
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在我们劳动力的高收入的部分，
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in the people who end up at the top --
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在高管的人员中
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Fortune 500 CEO jobs,
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财富500强首席执行长官中，
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or the equivalent in other industries --
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或在其它类似的高管行业中，
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the problem, I am convinced,
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我确信，问题
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is that women are dropping out.
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是女性被排除在外。
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Now people talk about this a lot,
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当下人们对此谈了很多，
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and they talk about things like flextime and mentoring
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他们谈到像弹性时间和指导
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and programs companies should have to train women.
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和公司应该培训妇女的计划的事。
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I want to talk about none of that today,
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今天我不想谈这些
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even though that's all really important.
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尽管所有这些事都非常重要。
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Today I want to focus on what we can do as individuals.
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今天我想关注作为个人我们所能做到的事。
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What are the messages we need to tell ourselves?
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我们要告诉给自己的事是什么？
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What are the messages we tell the women who work with and for us?
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我们告诉给女同事和打工的女性的事是什么？
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What are the messages we tell our daughters?
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我们要告诉给我们女儿的事是什么？
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Now, at the outset, I want to be very clear
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现在首先，我想澄清
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that this speech comes with no judgments.
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这个演讲不带有任何评判。
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I don't have the right answer.
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我也没有正确的答案；
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I don't even have it for myself.
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甚至就我而言，我也没有完全的答案。
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I left San Francisco, where I live, on Monday,
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在周一，我离开我生活的加利福尼亚，
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and I was getting on the plane for this conference.
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我坐上飞机赶赴这会议。
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And my daughter, who's three, when I dropped her off at preschool,
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当我送我三岁的女儿到幼儿园时，
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did that whole hugging-the-leg,
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她紧紧抱进我的腿，
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crying, "Mommy, don't get on the plane" thing.
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哭喊着，“妈咪，不要上飞机”之类的话。
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This is hard. I feel guilty sometimes.
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这很难受。有时我感到内疚。
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I know no women,
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我知道
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whether they're at home or whether they're in the workforce,
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无论是家庭主妇，还是职业女性，
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who don't feel that sometimes.
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有时她们都会感同身受。
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So I'm not saying that staying in the workforce
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所以我不会说对所有人来说，呆在职场
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is the right thing for everyone.
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是件正确的事。
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My talk today is about what the messages are
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今天我的演讲是要讲
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if you do want to stay in the workforce,
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如果你真正想呆在职场。
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and I think there are three.
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我想有3条建议。
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One, sit at the table.
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一，坐在桌旁。
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Two, make your partner a real partner.
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二，让你的伴侣成为一个真正的合作伙伴。
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And three, don't leave before you leave.
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三，在你离开前别放弃。
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Number one: sit at the table.
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第一，坐在桌旁。
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Just a couple weeks ago at Facebook,
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仅仅几周前在脸谱，
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we hosted a very senior government official,
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我们主持一个非常高级行政官员会议，
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and he came in to meet with senior execs
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他（马克·扎克伯格）与来自硅谷周围的高级行政官员
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from around Silicon Valley.
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一一见面。
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And everyone kind of sat at the table.
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每个人都坐在桌边。
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And then he had these two women who were traveling with him
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然后携同他的2个女性
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who were pretty senior in his department,
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在他部门中她们也占非常高的职位。
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and I kind of said to them, "Sit at the table. Come on, sit at the table,"
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我对她们说，“坐在桌边。来吧，坐在桌边。”
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and they sat on the side of the room.
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她们坐在了屋子的一边。
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When I was in college my senior year,
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我在大四时，
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I took a course called European Intellectual History.
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我选修一节欧洲思想史的课程。
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Don't you love that kind of thing from college?
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你们喜爱大学的这类课程嘛。
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I wish I could do that now.
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我希望我现在能做到。
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And I took it with my roommate, Carrie,
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我和我室友卡丽一起学习，
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who was then a brilliant literary student --
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她那时是一个才华横溢的文学学生
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and went on to be a brilliant literary scholar --
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成为了一个杰出的文学家
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and my brother --
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我的弟弟
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smart guy, but a water-polo-playing pre-med,
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一个聪明的小伙子，但他爱打水球，他上医学预科
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who was a sophomore.
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大二。
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The three of us take this class together.
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我们三人一起选修这课。
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And then Carrie reads all the books
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然后卡丽读了
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in the original Greek and Latin,
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所有希腊文和拉丁文的原版书籍--
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goes to all the lectures.
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去了所有的课--
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I read all the books in English
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我读了所有英语的书
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and go to most of the lectures.
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上了大多数的课。
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My brother is kind of busy.
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我弟弟有点忙；
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He reads one book of 12
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他读了12本书中的一本
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and goes to a couple of lectures,
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去上了几节课，
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marches himself up to our room
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在考试前几天他来到我们房间
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a couple days before the exam to get himself tutored.
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自己辅导了一下。
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The three of us go to the exam together, and we sit down.
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我们三个一起去考试了，我们坐下来。
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And we sit there for three hours --
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我们考了有3个小时
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and our little blue notebooks -- yes, I'm that old.
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我们的小蓝笔记本，是的。
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And we walk out, and we look at each other, and we say, "How did you do?"
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我们走出来，对视对方，我们说，“你考得怎样？”
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And Carrie says, "Boy, I feel like I didn't really draw out the main point
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卡丽说，“伙计，我感到我真没有答对
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on the Hegelian dialectic."
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有关黑格尔辩证法的主要命题。”
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And I say, "God, I really wish I had really connected
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我说，“上帝啊，我真希望我考试时能想到
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John Locke's theory of property with the philosophers who follow."
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学习过的洛克的产权理论等哲学家。”
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And my brother says,
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我弟弟却说，
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"I got the top grade in the class."
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“我会是班里考得最好的。”
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"You got the top grade in the class?
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“你会是班里考得最好的？
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You don't know anything."
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你啥都不知道。”
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The problem with these stories
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这种故事的问题
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is that they show what the data shows:
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出在数据所表明的事实：
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women systematically underestimate their own abilities.
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女性被系统化地低估了她们自身的能力。
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If you test men and women,
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如果你测试男性和女性，
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and you ask them questions on totally objective criteria like GPAs,
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你问他们问题，按完全客观的标准平均成绩来算，
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men get it wrong slightly high,
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男性会错误的高估一些，
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and women get it wrong slightly low.
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女性则会错误地低估一些。
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Women do not negotiate for themselves in the workforce.
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女性在职场不会为自身利益去谈判。
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A study in the last two years
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在过去两年，
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of people entering the workforce out of college
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关于人们从学校进入职场的一个调查
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showed that 57 percent of boys entering,
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表明57%的男生
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or men, I guess,
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或男性进入职场，我猜
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are negotiating their first salary,
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会协商他们的第一份薪水，
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and only seven percent of women.
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只有7%的女性会去协商。
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And most importantly,
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更重要的是，
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men attribute their success to themselves,
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男性把他们的成功归功于他们自身，
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and women attribute it to other external factors.
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而女性则归功于其他外部因素。
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If you ask men why they did a good job,
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如果你问男性为什么他们能把工作做好，
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they'll say, "I'm awesome.
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他们会说，“我棒极了。
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Obviously. Why are you even asking?"
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这是显而易见的。这还用问吗？”
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If you ask women why they did a good job,
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如果你问女性是什么使她们在工作中出色，
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what they'll say is someone helped them,
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她们会说有人帮助她们，
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they got lucky, they worked really hard.
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她们很幸运，她们工作异常努力。
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Why does this matter?
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这个问题很重要吗？
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Boy, it matters a lot
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大家，这关系很大
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because no one gets to the corner office
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因为没人得到角落办公室的职位
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by sitting on the side, not at the table,
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要是只坐在旁边，而不是桌边。
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and no one gets the promotion
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没人得到提升
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if they don't think they deserve their success,
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如果他们认为他们不应享有这成功，
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or they don't even understand their own success.
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或者他们甚至不明白他们自己的成功。
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I wish the answer were easy.
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我但愿这答案是容易的。
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I wish I could just go tell all the young women I work for,
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我希望我尽可能告诉我所共事过的所有年轻女性，
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all these fabulous women,
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所有这些非常棒的女性，
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"Believe in yourself and negotiate for yourself.
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“相信你们自己，为自身利益要讨价还价。
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Own your own success."
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把握住你的成功。”
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I wish I could tell that to my daughter.
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我希望我也能告诉我的女儿。
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But it's not that simple.
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但这不是很简单。
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Because what the data shows, above all else, is one thing,
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因为首先是数据表明的是一件事
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which is that success and likeability
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它表明成功和人缘亲切性
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are positively correlated for men
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对于男性来说是积极影响的
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and negatively correlated for women.
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而对于女性来说是负面影响的。
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And everyone's nodding,
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每个人都点头，
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because we all know this to be true.
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因为我们大家都知道这是真的。
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There's a really good study that shows this really well.
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一个非常棒的研究也很好地表明了这一观点。
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There's a famous Harvard Business School study
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哈佛商学院的一个著名研究
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on a woman named Heidi Roizen.
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是有关于一位叫海蒂·罗森的女性。
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她是硅谷一家公司的
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in Silicon Valley,
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负责人，
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and she uses her contacts
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她使用她的关系
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to become a very successful venture capitalist.
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成为一名非常成功的风险资本家。
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In 2002 -- not so long ago --
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在2002年，不久前
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a professor who was then at Columbia University
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当时在哥伦比亚大学的一位教授
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took that case and made it Howard Roizen.
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做这个例子和把它改成霍华德·罗森。
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And he gave the case out, both of them,
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他把这个案例，他们两人
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to two groups of students.
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向两组学生展示。
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He changed exactly one word:
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他只改变了一个词：
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"Heidi" to "Howard."
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海蒂到霍华德。
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But that one word made a really big difference.
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但这个词就造成了非常大的差异。
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He then surveyed the students,
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然后他调查学生。
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and the good news was the students, both men and women,
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好消息是学生们，男生和女生
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thought Heidi and Howard were equally competent,
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认为海蒂和霍华德都是能力相当的，
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and that's good.
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这很好。
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The bad news was that everyone liked Howard.
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但坏消息是每个人都喜欢霍华德。
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He's a great guy. You want to work for him.
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他是个了不起的人，大家都想和他共事，
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You want to spend the day fishing with him.
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大家都想和他去钓鱼。
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But Heidi? Not so sure.
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但海蒂呢？不好说。
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She's a little out for herself. She's a little political.
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她有点只为自己着想，对政治有点热衷。
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You're not sure you'd want to work for her.
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大家不太想和她共事。
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This is the complication.
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这是复杂的。
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We have to tell our daughters and our colleagues,
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我们得告诉我们的女儿和我们的同事，
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we have to tell ourselves to believe we got the A,
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我们得告诉我们自己相信我们能获得A，
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to reach for the promotion,
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得到提升，
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to sit at the table,
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坐在桌边。
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and we have to do it in a world
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我们在这世上得做到这点
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where, for them, there are sacrifices they will make for that,
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在世上，女性要争取这些就得做出牺牲，
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even though for their brothers, there are not.
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尽管她们的兄弟不用为此而付出牺牲。
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The saddest thing about all of this is that it's really hard to remember this.
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所有关于这的最可悲的事是很难记住这个。
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And I'm about to tell a story which is truly embarrassing for me,
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我将讲个对我来说是个真正尴尬的故事，
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but I think important.
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但我认为它很重要。
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I gave this talk at Facebook not so long ago
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在脸谱不久前我给
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to about 100 employees,
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大约100名员工做这个演讲。
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and a couple hours later, there was a young woman who works there
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几小时后，在脸谱工作的一个年轻女性
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sitting outside my little desk,
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坐到我小桌子旁边，
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and she wanted to talk to me.
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她想和我谈谈。
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I said, okay, and she sat down, and we talked.
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我说，好，她坐了下来，我们谈了起来。
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And she said, "I learned something today.
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她说，“我今天学了一些东西。
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I learned that I need to keep my hand up."
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我知道我需要举起我的手。”
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I said, "What do you mean?"
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我说，“你指什么啊？”
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She said, "Well, you're giving this talk,
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她说，“你在讲这个话时，
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and you said you were going to take two more questions.
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你说你将会回答2个以上问题。
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And I had my hand up with lots of other people, and you took two more questions.
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我和其他一些人举起手，你回答了2个以上问题。
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And I put my hand down, and I noticed all the women put their hand down,
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我把手放下来，我注意到所有女性都把手放下来，
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and then you took more questions,
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然后你又回答了很多问题，
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only from the men."
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仅有男性参与。”
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And I thought to myself,
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我自己想了一下，
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wow, if it's me -- who cares about this, obviously --
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如果换成是我，谁会在乎这个，明显地
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giving this talk --
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做这次演讲，
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and during this talk, I can't even notice
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在这演讲中，我甚至没注意到
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that the men's hands are still raised,
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男人们的手是不是还一直举着，
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and the women's hands are still raised,
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女人们的手是不是还一直举着，
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how good are we
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我们到底有多出色，
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as managers of our companies and our organizations
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当我们作为公司和组织的经理人的时候，
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at seeing that the men are reaching for opportunities
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以及当我们作为少数，与男性竞争
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more than women?
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争取机会的时候？
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We've got to get women to sit at the table.
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我们得让女性坐到桌子边上。
10:07
(Applause)
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（掌声）
10:10
Message number two:
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第二条：
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make your partner a real partner.
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让你的伴侣成为一个真正的合作伙伴。
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I've become convinced that we've made more progress in the workforce
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我已经确信我们在职场
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than we have in the home.
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比起我们在家庭中起了更大的作用。
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The data shows this very clearly.
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数据也很清楚地表明这点。
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If a woman and a man work full-time
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如果一个女性和一个男性同时全职
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and have a child,
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并有一个小孩，
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the woman does twice the amount of housework the man does,
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女性比起男性要做两倍多家务活儿，
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and the woman does three times
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女性比起男性做了三倍多
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the amount of childcare the man does.
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照顾婴儿的事。
10:34
So she's got three jobs or two jobs,
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所以她有了2份，3份工作，
10:36
and he's got one.
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而他只有一份。
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Who do you think drops out when someone needs to be home more?
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当有人必须在家多干活时，谁应该留下来？
10:41
The causes of this are really complicated,
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这个的理由实在太复杂，
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and I don't have time to go into them.
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我没有时间来讲它们。
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And I don't think Sunday football-watching
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但我也不认为周日看美式足球
10:47
and general laziness is the cause.
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和日常的懒惰是理由。
10:49
I think the cause is more complicated.
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我认为理由是更加复杂化的。
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I think, as a society,
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我认为，作为一个社会，
10:53
we put more pressure on our boys to succeed
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我们总是更希望男孩子们成功，
10:55
than we do on our girls.
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对女孩子则压力小些。
10:57
I know men that stay home
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我知道有居家男人
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and work in the home to support wives with careers,
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呆在家里做内务支持职场妻子
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and it's hard.
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这很难。
11:03
When I go to the Mommy-and-Me stuff
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当我去“妈咪和我”的培训课时，
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and I see the father there,
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我看到那里的父亲，
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I notice that the other mommies
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我留意到其他妈咪
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don't play with him.
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不愿和他相处。
11:11
And that's a problem,
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这是个问题，
11:13
because we have to make it as important a job,
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因为我们得把内务变成一个重要的工作
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because it's the hardest job in the world to work inside the home,
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因为它是世界上最难的工作-居家工作
11:19
for people of both genders,
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无论男人女人，
11:21
if we're going to even things out and let women stay in the workforce.
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我们只有平分了这些事，女性才可能留在职场。
11:24
(Applause)
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（掌声）
11:26
Studies show that households with equal earning
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研究表明夫妻收入相等、
11:28
and equal responsibility
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且夫妻分担责任相当的家庭
11:30
also have half the divorce rate.
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也有50%的离婚率。
11:32
And if that wasn't good enough motivation for everyone out there,
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如果这数据并不那么鼓舞人，
11:35
they also have more --
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还有更多的
11:37
how shall I say this on this stage? --
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在这个讲台我该怎么讲呢？
11:39
they know each other more in the biblical sense as well.
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夫妻双方对于彼此的了解，不仅是做爱这么简单。
11:42
(Cheers)
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（欢呼）
11:44
Message number three:
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建议三：
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don't leave before you leave.
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在你离开前别放弃。
11:48
I think there's a really deep irony
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我认为这是一个非常深刻的讽刺
11:50
to the fact that actions women are taking --
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对于女性所采取行动而言--
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and I see this all the time --
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我一直目睹类似情况的发生--
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with the objective of staying in the workforce
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女性希望留在职场这个目标，
11:57
actually lead to their eventually leaving.
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往往导致它们最终不得不离开职场。
11:59
Here's what happens:
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曾发生这样的事：
12:01
We're all busy. Everyone's busy. A woman's busy.
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我们都忙；每个人都很忙；作为一个女人也很忙。
12:03
And she starts thinking about having a child,
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她开始考虑生小孩。
12:06
and from the moment she starts thinking about having a child,
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从她开始考虑生小孩的时候起，
12:09
she starts thinking about making room for that child.
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她开始考虑为孩子准备房间。
12:11
"How am I going to fit this into everything else I'm doing?"
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“我该如何调整孩子这件事和手头上的其他事呢？”
12:15
And literally from that moment,
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言下之意，
12:17
she doesn't raise her hand anymore,
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她不再举起她的手，
12:20
she doesn't look for a promotion, she doesn't take on the new project,
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她不寻求提升，她不找新的计划，
12:23
she doesn't say, "Me. I want to do that."
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她不会说，“我，我想做那个。”
12:25
She starts leaning back.
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她开始退缩。
12:27
The problem is that --
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这是个问题
12:29
let's say she got pregnant that day, that day --
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让我们说说她怀孕的那段日子
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nine months of pregnancy, three months of maternity leave,
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9个月的怀胎，3个月的产假，
12:35
six months to catch your breath --
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6个月来调养休息
12:37
fast-forward two years,
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快速调整要2年，
12:39
more often -- and as I've seen it --
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更多的，正如我看到的
12:41
women start thinking about this way earlier --
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女性开始过早考虑这事
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when they get engaged, when they get married,
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当她们有约会或者结婚时，
12:45
when they start thinking about trying to have a child, which can take a long time.
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当她们开始考虑要小孩，这会花相当长的一段时间。
12:48
One woman came to see me about this,
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一位女性关于此事来找我，
12:50
and I kind of looked at her -- she looked a little young.
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我看着她，她显得有点年轻。
12:52
And I said, "So are you and your husband thinking about having a baby?"
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我说，“那么你和你丈夫考虑要小孩了？”
12:55
And she said, "Oh no, I'm not married."
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她说，“哦不，我还没结婚。”
12:58
She didn't even have a boyfriend.
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她甚至没有男友。
13:00
I said, "You're thinking about this
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我说，“你考虑这个
13:02
just way too early."
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太早了吧。”
13:04
But the point is that what happens
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但关键是
13:07
once you start kind of quietly leaning back?
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一旦你开始退缩下来，接下来会发生什么呢？
13:10
Everyone who's been through this --
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每个人都会经历这个
13:12
and I'm here to tell you, once you have a child at home,
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在这儿我告诉你，一旦在家你有了孩子，
13:15
your job better be really good to go back,
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你真的最好是回到你的工作中去，
13:17
because it's hard to leave that kid at home --
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因为把小孩留在家太难了，
13:19
your job needs to be challenging.
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你的工作得有挑战性。
13:21
It needs to be rewarding.
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它也得有回报。
13:23
You need to feel like you're making a difference.
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你得感觉到世界因你而变。
13:26
And if two years ago you didn't take a promotion
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如果2年前你没有得到提升
13:29
and some guy next to you did,
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在你旁边的一个男孩得到提升，
13:31
if three years ago
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如果三年前
13:33
you stopped looking for new opportunities,
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你放弃寻找新的机会，
13:35
you're going to be bored
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你会变得很乏味
13:37
because you should have kept your foot on the gas pedal.
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因为你应该紧踩油门，加油。
13:40
Don't leave before you leave.
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在你离开前别放弃。
13:42
Stay in.
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保住工作。
13:44
Keep your foot on the gas pedal,
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紧踩油门，
13:46
until the very day you need to leave
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除非到了那一天你需要离开
13:48
to take a break for a child --
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为了孩子休假
13:50
and then make your decisions.
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然后做出你自己的决定。
13:52
Don't make decisions too far in advance,
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不要提前做太长远决定，
13:55
particularly ones you're not even conscious you're making.
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特别是你甚至不晓得自己该做怎样的决定。
13:59
My generation really, sadly,
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我这一代的女性非常可惜，
14:01
is not going to change the numbers at the top.
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没能改变高管职位的数据变化。
14:03
They're just not moving.
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女人们就是呆在原地。
14:05
We are not going to get to where 50 percent of the population --
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我们没能达到50%的高管职位
14:08
in my generation, there will not be 50 percent of [women]
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在任何行业的高管职位中，
14:11
at the top of any industry.
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女性都未达到50%。
14:13
But I'm hopeful that future generations can.
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但我希望未来一代人可以做到。
14:17
I think a world that was run
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我认为我们世界上
14:19
where half of our countries and half of our companies
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半数国家和半数公司
14:21
were run by women, would be a better world.
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会由女性所领导，那将会是一个更美好的世界。
14:24
And it's not just because people would know where the women's bathrooms are,
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这不仅仅是因为人们会知道女性洗手间在哪儿，
14:27
even though that would be very helpful.
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尽管这也有非常大的帮助。
14:30
I think it would be a better world.
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我认为它将会是一个更美好的世界。
14:32
I have two children.
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我有2个孩子。
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I have a five-year-old son and a two-year-old daughter.
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我5岁的儿子和3岁的女儿。
14:37
I want my son to have a choice
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我想我儿子会选择
14:39
to contribute fully in the workforce or at home,
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在职场或在家里都尽心尽责，全心奉献。
14:42
and I want my daughter to have the choice
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我女儿的选择
14:44
to not just succeed,
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不仅仅是成功，
14:46
but to be liked for her accomplishments.
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她会更热爱她所做出的成就。
14:48
Thank you.
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谢谢。
14:50
(Applause)
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（掌声）
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Sheryl Sandberg - COO, FacebookAs the COO at the helm of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg juggles the tasks of monetizing the world’s largest social networking site while keeping its users happy and engaged.
Why you should listen
Long before Sheryl Sandberg left Google to join Facebook as its Chief Operating Officer in 2008, she was a fan. Today she manages Facebook’s sales, marketing, business development, human resources, public policy and communications. It’s a massive job, but one well suited to Sandberg, who not only built and managed Google’s successful online sales and operations program but also served as an economist for the World Bank and Chief of Staff at the US Treasury Department. Sandberg’s experience navigating the complex and socially sensitive world of international economics has proven useful as she and Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg work to strike a balance between helping Facebook users control privacy while finding ways to monetize its most valuable asset: data.
At TEDWomen in 2010 Sandberg made the bold decision to talk about the experience of being one of very few women at the C-level of business. She noted that many women, in anticipating having a family, "lean back" from leading at work. After her TED Talk took off, Sandberg wrote the book Lean In, which has spent nearly a year on the New York Times Bestseller list. Sandberg plans to release a version of the book for graduates.
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