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Kare Anderson: Be an opportunity maker
Kare Anderson: 成为机会制造者
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我们都想使用我们的天赋来创造我们生命中有意义的事。但如何开始？（如果你是个害羞的人，又该怎么办？）作家 Kare Anderson，分享了她自己长期害羞的故事，以及她如何通过帮助他人应用他们的才能及热情，而打开了她的世界。
Kare Anderson - Writer
A columnist for Forbes, Kare Anderson writes on behavioral research-based ways to become more deeply connected. Full bio
A columnist for Forbes, Kare Anderson writes on behavioral research-based ways to become more deeply connected. Full bio
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I grew up
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我在小时候
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diagnosed as phobically shy,
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曾被诊断为恐惧性害羞,
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and, like at least 20 other people
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就像在座的，至少
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in a room of this size,
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20人一样
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I was a stutterer.
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我曾患有口吃。
00:26
Do you dare raise your hand?
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在场的各位有谁敢举手吗？
00:29
And it sticks with us. It really does stick with us,
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恐惧性害羞时刻伴我们左右。
00:33
because when we are treated that way,
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因为当我们被不善地对待，
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we feel invisible sometimes,
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我们会觉得被忽视，
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or talked around and at.
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我们只能环顾周遭。
00:44
And as I started to look at people,
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而当我开始关注人们，
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which is mostly all I did,
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就像我一直在做的一样，
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I noticed that some people
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我注意到有些人，
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really wanted attention and recognition.
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非常渴望他人的注意力和认同感。
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Remember, I was young then.
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记得吗，我那时还很年轻。
00:59
So what did they do?
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那么，他们那时做了什么呢？
01:00
What we still do perhaps too often.
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也许是我们常做的事：
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We talk about ourselves.
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谈论自身。
01:05
And yet there are other people I observed
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但我也观察到其他人，
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who had what I called a mutuality mindset.
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他们拥有被我称作“共同心态”的品质。
01:11
In each situation, they found a way to talk about us
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不同情形下，
他们都能找到谈论我们的方式，
他们都能找到谈论我们的方式，
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and create that "us" idea.
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并创造“我们”这一理念。
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So my idea to reimagine the world
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所以我关于重塑世界的理念如下：
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is to see it one where we all become
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这是一个让我们都成为自己及他人的
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greater opportunity-makers with and for others.
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伟大的机会制造者的地方。
01:27
There's no greater opportunity
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再没有比成为为光明前程而使用天赋技能，
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or call for action for us now
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并完成我们无法独做的事，
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than to become opportunity-makers
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那样的机会制造者，
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who use best talents together more often
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更宏大的机会
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for the greater good
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或
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and accomplish things we
couldn't have done on our own.
couldn't have done on our own.
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行动了。
01:42
And I want to talk to you about that,
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我也想和你们谈谈
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because even more than giving,
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更甚于给予
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even more than giving,
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更有甚者于给予的，
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is the capacity for us to do something smarter
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是我们一起，为托举起我们
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together for the greater good
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光明前程并
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that lifts us both up
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勇攀高峰
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and that can scale.
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所做的努力。
02:02
That's why I'm sitting here.
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这就是我坐在此处的原因
02:04
But I also want to point something else out:
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但我也想指出一些其他的事：
02:07
Each one of you
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你们每一个人，
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is better than anybody else at something.
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在某些方面，都强于他人。
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That disproves that popular notion
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这反驳了那个流行的观点，
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that if you're the smartest person in the room,
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如果你是一个房间中最聪明的人，
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you're in the wrong room.
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那你一定是在一个错误的房间。
02:22
(Laughter)
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（众笑）
02:25
So let me tell you about
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所以让我告诉你们关于
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a Hollywood party I went to a couple years back,
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我数年前去的一个好莱坞聚会，
02:29
and I met this up-and-coming actress,
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我在那里遇见一位积极进取的女演员，
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and we were soon talking about something
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然后我们开始交谈，
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that we both felt passionately about: public art.
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谈我们都热衷的话题：公共艺术。
02:37
And she had the fervent belief
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她有强烈的信念：
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that every new building in Los Angeles
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在洛杉矶的每座新建筑
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should have public art in it.
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都饱含着公共艺术的精髓。
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She wanted a regulation for it,
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她认为公共艺术应有规章，
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and she fervently started —
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然后，她饱含热情地付之以行---
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who is here from Chicago? —
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这里有谁来自芝加哥？---
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she fervently started talking about
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她开始热情地谈论，
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these bean-shaped reflective sculptures
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千禧公园里的，
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in Millennium Park,
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表面发光且呈豆状的雕塑。
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and people would walk up to it
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那里的人们走上前，
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and they'd smile in the reflection of it,
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在镜像里凝眸一笑，
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and they'd pose and they'd vamp
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他们摆姿势和造型，
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and they'd take selfies together,
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一起自拍，
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and they'd laugh.
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大笑。
03:08
And as she was talking, a
thought came to my mind.
thought came to my mind.
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当她在述说的时候，
一个想法闪现在我脑中。
一个想法闪现在我脑中。
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I said, "I know someone you ought to meet.
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我说：“我认识一个人，你应当去见一面。
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He's getting out of San Quentin
in a couple of weeks" —
in a couple of weeks" —
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他再不久就要离开圣昆廷了。“---
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(Laughter) —
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（笑声）---
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"and he shares your fervent desire
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“他跟你一样，充满热情地认为
03:20
that art should engage and
enable people to connect."
enable people to connect."
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艺术应让人们联系在一起。”
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He spent five years in solitary,
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他独居五年，
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and I met him because I gave
a speech at San Quentin,
a speech at San Quentin,
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我因在圣昆廷监狱演讲过而有幸结识他，
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and he's articulate
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他满有文化，
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and he's rather easy on
the eyes because he's buff.
the eyes because he's buff.
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他很壮硕，非常好看。
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He had workout regime he did every day.
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他有健身习惯，每日持续不怠。
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(Laughter)
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（众笑）
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I think she was following me at that point.
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一直到这里，她还继续在听我说。
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I said, "He'd be an unexpected ally."
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我说：“他会成为你意想不到的助手。”
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And not just that. There's James. He's an architect
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且不止这个。还有个叫詹姆士的。他是建筑师
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and he's a professor, and he loves place-making,
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，他还是教授，他最喜欢景观设计，
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and place-making is when you have
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尤其是那些小商场，
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those mini-plazas and those urban walkways
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那些城市走道，
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and where they're dotted with art,
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也是我们用艺术点缀之地，
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where people draw and
come up and talk sometimes.
come up and talk sometimes.
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是人们涂鸦，相见问好的地方。
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I think they'd make good allies.
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我想，他们一定可以合作。
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And indeed they were.
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确然如此。
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They met together. They prepared.
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他们相聚，筹备，
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They spoke in front of the
Los Angeles City Council.
Los Angeles City Council.
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在洛杉矶议会厅前演讲，
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And the council members not
only passed the regulation,
only passed the regulation,
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议会成员通过提案，
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half of them came down and asked
to pose with them afterwards.
to pose with them afterwards.
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而且，半数议员在散会后同他们合影。
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They were startling,
compelling and credible.
compelling and credible.
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他们出色、动人、可靠。
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You can't buy that.
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简直千金难买。
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What I'm asking you to consider
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我要问的是，
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is what kind of opportunity-
makers we might become,
makers we might become,
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想想你们会成为，
什么样的机会制造者吧，
什么样的机会制造者吧，
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because more than wealth
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因为，更甚于财富，
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or fancy titles
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头衔
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or a lot of contacts, it's our capacity to connect
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或联系人列表的，是我们
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around each other's
better side and bring it out.
better side and bring it out.
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发掘他人优势，激发潜能的信念。
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And I'm not saying this is easy,
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这并不容易，
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and I'm sure many of you have
made the wrong moves too
made the wrong moves too
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我也确信，你们中很多人，
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about who you wanted to connect with,
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未曾寻见知己。
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but what I want to suggest is,
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但我想要指出的是，
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this is an opportunity.
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机遇即在眼前。
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I started thinking about it
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回溯过往，
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way back when I was a
Wall Street Journal reporter
Wall Street Journal reporter
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我曾是华尔街日报的记者。
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and I was in Europe and I was
supposed to cover trends
supposed to cover trends
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我在欧洲的时候，理应关注
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and trends that transcended business
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贸易趋势
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or politics or lifestyle.
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或政治，或生活方式。
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So I had to have contacts
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所以，我不得不
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in different worlds very different than mine,
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接触我圈子外的其他人，
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because otherwise you couldn't spot the trends.
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反之，你便无法紧跟时代潮流。
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And third, I had to write the story
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同时，我必须站在读者的角度，
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in a way stepping into the reader's shoes,
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去写一篇篇报告。
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so they could see how these
trends could affect their lives.
trends could affect their lives.
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这样他们才能知晓，
这些趋势对生活的影响。
这些趋势对生活的影响。
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That's what opportunity-makers do.
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这便是机会创造者的功能。
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And here's a strange thing:
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但有一点很奇怪：
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Unlike an increasing number of Americans
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不像越来越多的美国人，
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who are working and living
and playing with people
and playing with people
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只与那些和他们持有相同想法的人
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who think exactly like them
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一起工作、生活、玩乐，
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because we then become more rigid and extreme,
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那样我们只会更偏激，
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opportunity-makers are actively seeking situations
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机会制造者积极地找寻
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with people unlike them,
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与他们不一样的人，
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and they're building relationships,
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他们构筑联系，
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and because they do that,
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正因为他们这样做
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they have trusted relationships
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他们拥有相互信任的友谊，
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where they can bring the right team in
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这样的联系使优秀的团队
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and recruit them to solve a
problem better and faster
problem better and faster
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更快，更好地解决问题，
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and seize more opportunities.
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同时抓住更多机遇。
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They're not affronted by differences,
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他们不因相异趋散，
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they're fascinated by them,
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他们为之欢欣鼓舞，
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and that is a huge shift in mindset,
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这和我们一般的想法很不同，
06:20
and once you feel it, you
want it to happen a lot more.
want it to happen a lot more.
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一旦你感受到它，你希望它常常发生。
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This world is calling out for us
to have a collective mindset,
to have a collective mindset,
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这个世界要我们同心合一，
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and I believe in doing that.
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我是这么相信的。
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It's especially important now.
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尤其是现在，
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Why is it important now?
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为何？
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Because things can be devised like drones
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因为像无人飞行器，
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and drugs and data collection,
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药物，数据收集这些工具，
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and they can be devised by more people
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它们将会广为人所用，
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and cheaper ways for beneficial purposes
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成本越来越低，
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and then, as we know from the news every day,
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然后，就像我们每天从新闻上知道的，
06:53
they can be used for dangerous ones.
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它们也有可能带来危险。
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It calls on us, each of us,
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它呼吁我们，我们每个人，
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to a higher calling.
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提升理想。
07:01
But here's the icing on the cake:
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锦上添花的是：
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It's not just the first opportunity
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这不仅是你能同他人合作
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that you do with somebody else
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的首次机遇，
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that's probably your greatest,
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这也许是，
07:10
as an institution or an individual.
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作为一个机构或个体的最佳机遇。
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It's after you've had that experience
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你们患难与共，
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and you trust each other.
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相互信任。
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It's the unexpected things
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稍候你会发现，
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that you devise later on
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那些你想象不到的事，
07:20
you never could have predicted.
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之前你从不可能预知的。
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For example, Marty is the husband
of that actress I mentioned,
of that actress I mentioned,
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举例来说，Marty，那位女演员的丈夫，
07:28
and he watched them
when they were practicing,
when they were practicing,
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她们练习时，他静静观望，
07:30
and he was soon talking to Wally,
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然后他很快开始和我之前提到的
07:32
my friend the ex-con,
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刚出狱的 Wally 聊，
07:33
about that exercise regime.
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练习方法。
07:36
And he thought,
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然后他想，
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I have a set of racquetball courts.
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我手头有一些壁球练习室。
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That guy could teach it.
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他可以在那里教。
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A lot of people who work there
are members at my courts.
are members at my courts.
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许多在那工作的人是我俱乐部的成员。
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They're frequent travelers.
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他们常旅游。
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They could practice in their hotel room,
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他们可以在没有器材的情况下，
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no equipment provided.
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于宾馆房间练习，
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That's how Wally got hired.
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那就是 Wally 被雇用的经过。
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Not only that, years later
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不只于此，几年后，
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he was also teaching racquetball.
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他也开始教壁球了，
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Years after that,
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又过了几年，
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he was teaching the racquetball teachers.
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他开始教壁球老师了。
08:00
What I'm suggesting is, when
you connect with people
you connect with people
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我要指出的是，当你和
08:05
around a shared interest and action,
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有共同兴趣和爱好的人交往，
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you're accustomed to serendipitous
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你将习惯于未来
08:12
things happening into the future,
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偶然发生的事，
08:14
and I think that's what we're looking at.
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而我想，这也是我们正关注的。
08:16
We open ourselves up to those opportunities,
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我们敞开胸怀，迎接机遇，
08:19
and in this room
are key players in technology,
are key players in technology,
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这间屋子里，充满了有一技之长的关键人物，
08:23
key players who are uniquely positioned to do this,
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他们独一无二，为之而生，
08:26
to scale systems and projects together.
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一起完成不同任务和目标。
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So here's what I'm calling for you to do.
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所以，于此地，我呼吁：
08:32
Remember the three traits of opportunity-makers.
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记住机会制造者的三准则吧：
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Opportunity-makers keep honing their top strength
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他们凸显自己的优势，
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and they become pattern seekers.
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寻求典范。
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They get involved in different
worlds than their worlds
worlds than their worlds
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他们参与不同的圈子，
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so they're trusted and they
can see those patterns,
can see those patterns,
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他们值得信任，
他们知道这些事情该如何发生。
他们知道这些事情该如何发生。
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and they communicate to connect
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他们交流对话，
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around sweet spots of shared interest.
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话题环绕共同兴趣，
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So what I'm asking you is,
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所以，我想说的是：
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the world is hungry.
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世界充满了渴求。
09:01
I truly believe, in my firsthand experience,
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我自己的经验让我相信，
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the world is hungry for us
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世界需要我们
09:06
to unite together as opportunity-makers
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团结起来，创造机遇，
09:09
and to emulate those behaviors
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效之以行，
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as so many of you already do —
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就像你们中许多人已做的-
09:13
I know that firsthand —
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我亲历，所以我知道-
09:16
and to reimagine a world
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去重塑这样一个世界，
09:17
where we use our best talents together
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在那里，我们更频繁地使用最好的才能，
09:20
more often to accomplish greater things together
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成就比我们独立而为
09:23
than we could on our own.
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更为伟大的事业。
09:27
Just remember,
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只需谨记，
09:29
as Dave Liniger once said,
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就像 Dave Liniger 曾说的：
09:32
"You can't succeed
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“你不能啥也不干，
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coming to the potluck with only a fork."
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就想吃白食。”
09:37
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
09:39
Thank you very much.
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谢谢。
09:41
Thank you. (Applause)
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谢谢大家（掌声）
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Kare Anderson - WriterA columnist for Forbes, Kare Anderson writes on behavioral research-based ways to become more deeply connected.
Why you should listen
Kare Anderson think and writes about becoming connected (and being quoted). She’s an Emmy-winning former NBC and Wall Street Journal reporter, now columnist for Forbes and Huffington Post. Her diverse set of clients includes Salesforce, Novartis and The Skoll Foundation. She’s a founding board member of Annie’s Homegrown, and sits on several advisory boards including Watermark, Raynforest, TEDxMarin and Gloopt. Anderson is the author of Mutuality Matters, Moving from Me to We, Getting What You Want, Walk Your Talk, and Resolving Conflict Sooner.
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