Sophie Andrews: The best way to help is often just to listen
سوفي أندروز: أفضل طريقة للمساعدة في كثير من الأحيان يكون بالإستماع فقط
Sophie Andrews is the CEO of The Silver Line, a 24-hour phone line that provides social connectivity for isolated senior citizens in the UK and receives approximately 1,500 calls per day. Full bio
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on the railway station platform.
when the station toilets were opened,
المحطة مفتوحة
and made her way over to them.
الى دورة المياه
for three months, not three days.
وليس ثلاثة أيام
just started the bleeding again.
she would go to a hospital.
تذهب إِلى المستشفى
to cover the blood.
لتغطية الدم
but was past caring.
she could think of doing.
and into a phone box nearby.
You sound very upset.
How old are you?
to make you so upset?
Every day I wake up and wish I was dead.
كنت ميتة
I want to do it myself.
ask the girl about herself.
there were lots of silences.
felt so comforting.
بارتياح أكثر
that made that call was me.
sleeping rough on the streets in London.
أنام في العراء في شوارع لندن
by my father and his friends.
قبل والدي و أصدقائه
I was suicidal.
I was 12 and absolutely desperate.
الثانية عشر وكنت يائسة
my mother had deserted me,
at the hands of my father and his friends
والدي و أصدقائه
helpline in the UK
في المملكة المتحدة
desperate or suicidal.
around the clock every day of the year,
على مدار الساعة كل يوم من أيام السنة
when I was most desperate,
أكثر يأساً
found my story, they never showed it.
ولم يظهروا ذلك
and listened without judgment.
إصـدار أحكـام
encouraged me to get help;
in every other aspect of my life.
بكل جوانب حياتي الأخرى
was probably the only area
some control in my life.
تمكنت من الحصول على بعض السيطرة في حياتي
with what had happened.
rather than a victim.
to become a volunteer.
that had really saved my life.
in an empathetic way
listening to me without judgment
to give me a job,
at Samaritans.
في السامريون
it's an odd word to use,
إنها كلمة غريبة يمكن استخدامها
to think of anyone
of that listening ear
لتلك الأذن المستمعة
at that desperate time
الوقت العصيب
as a Samaritan.
كالسامري
I was asked to perform many roles.
طُلب مني أداء العديد من الأدوار
the organization for three years.
المنظمة لمدة ثلاث سنوات
from that vulnerable caller
المساعدة
for the organization
screwed up as a caller,
by professionalizing everything we do,
الطابع الاحترافي على كل ما نقوم به
that that simple act of listening
across all areas of life.
مجالات الحياة
no one wanted to talk about.
لا أحد يريد التحدث عنه
victims were often judged.
and no one really wanted to talk about it.
بالتحدث عنه
surround a different issue.
that's out there.
is to talk about loneliness.
هو الحديث عن الشعور بالوحدة
have profound health impacts.
on your own well-being.
حول صحة نفسك
the mortality rates,
higher levels of depression,
with alcohol abuse or smoking cigarettes.
مع تعاطي الكحول أو تدخين السجائر
that smoking 15 cigarettes.
with higher levels of dementia.
مع مستويات أعلى في الخرف
of Alzheimer's disease.
للزهايمر
that live alone who are not lonely.
الذين يعيشون وحدهم وليسوا وحيدون
that maybe has dementia
المصاب بالخرف
a very good, clear definition
و جيد
unwelcome feeling
مرغوب به
of relationships that we have
I've ever received
تلقيتها على الإطلاق
in an empathetic way.
I'm speaking to a room of professionals,
مليئة بالمختصين
giving up their time
الذي يتخلي عن بعض من وقتهم
in a confidential way,
تامة
life-changing effect for me.
that really stayed with me.
in my teenage years,
wondering if I'd even live the next day.
إذا كنت سأعيش في اليوم التالي
listening to me stayed with me.
المتطوعة المستمعة إلي
with what had happened,
in a transforming way
volunteering with Samaritans.
مع السامريون
and the new stigma of loneliness,
العار الجديدة من الوحدة
helpline in the UK for older people,
كبار السن في بريطانيا
lonely and isolated older people.
we've taken 1.5 million calls.
based on the feedback we get every day.
الملاحظات التي نتلقاها يومياً
for a friendly chat,
about local services.
because they're suicidal.
because they're reporting abuse.
may have simply just given up on life.
setting up a helpline.
of chief exec, but in the early days,
لازلت الرئيس التنفيذي لكن في أيامي الأولى
the best meetings ever in my career --
في عملي على الإطلاق
listening to older people
إلى كبار السن
making weekly friendship calls
يجرون مكالمات ودية اسبوعيا
that like the written word,
المكتوبة
and we write pen-pal letters
لأصدقاء مراسلة
receiving a letter.
بتلقي رسالة
something called Silver Circles --
the word "silver" here --
talk about shared interests.
play musical instruments
أسبوعياً
desperation, loneliness and isolation.
و العزلة
you would also hear laughter.
المملكة المتحدة، ستسمع الضحك أيضاً
the wonderful lives of older people
just a snippet of one of our calls.
واحدة من مكالماتنا
you're through to the Silver Line.
the telephone is, you know?
تعرفين ذلك ؟
invention, isn't it?
when I was a little girl,
a phone call to somebody,
and have your phone call.
just whenever you fancied.
تريد
to the absolute essentials.
in my dressing gown still,
isn't it wonderful?
we might receive at our helpline.
على خط المساعدة لدينا
as part of the family.
are now helping older people
كبار السن
that Samaritans has helped me.
they're listening confidentially
without giving advice?
إسداء النصائح
an older person would say,
في المكالمات الهاتفية
"Thank you for your advice,"
and we haven't interrupted.
maybe we have given advice.
a survey at The Silver Line
what they thought of the service.
ماذا يعتقدون حول الاستبيان
came back and said,
in the sport cricket a wicketkeeper,
حارس الوكت
in baseball, a catcher.
and I'm talking American.
when I get home.
she had that catcher,
ملتقط الكرة
because actually,
and needing a catcher
إلى ملتقط الكرة
by putting something back
خلال إعطاء شيء بالمقابل
and becoming part of our family.
talking about my own personal experience.
عن تجربتي الشخصية
I often say that I've been lucky.
سأقول بأني كنت محظوظة
at every stage of my life,
alongside me at the right time
بجانبي في الوقت المناسب
in myself, which has been so important.
والذي كان مهماً جداً
at some point in their lives.
في حياتهم
in the phone box, over 30 years ago.
منذ أكثر من 30 سنة
the power of a simple human connection.
the power to save a life.
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Sophie Andrews - Author, helpline advocateSophie Andrews is the CEO of The Silver Line, a 24-hour phone line that provides social connectivity for isolated senior citizens in the UK and receives approximately 1,500 calls per day.
Why you should listen
Sophie Andrews's harrowing childhood experiences, documented in her 2009 autobiography, Scarred, inspired her to become a local volunteer for the suicide prevention line Samaritans over 25 years ago, and she later served as the organization's national chairman for three years. Andrews makes regular appearances as a motivational speaker before a variety of audiences, giving talks about her life experiences and the importance of charity work.
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