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Isabel Allende: How to live passionately—no matter your age
Isabel Allende: Com viure amb passió—tant fa la teva edat
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L'escriptora Isabel Allende té 71 anys i, sí, ja té algunes arrugues, però també té una visió increïble. En aquesta sincera xerrada, per a espectadors de totes les edats, ens parla de les seves pors a mesura que es fa gran i comparteix els seus plans per seguir gaudint d'una vida apassionant.
Isabel Allende - Novelist
Isabel Allende writes stories of passion. Her novels and memoirs, including The House of the Spirits and Eva Luna, tell the stories of women and men who live with passionate commitment -- to love, to their world, to an ideal. Full bio
Isabel Allende writes stories of passion. Her novels and memoirs, including The House of the Spirits and Eva Luna, tell the stories of women and men who live with passionate commitment -- to love, to their world, to an ideal. Full bio
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Hola nens.
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Hi, kids.
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(Laughter)
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I'm 71.
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Tinc 71 anys.
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(Applause)
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My husband is 76.
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El meu marit en té 76.
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My parents are in their late 90s,
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Els meus pares 90 i molts,
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and Olivia, the dog, is 16.
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i l'Olivia, la gossa, en té 16.
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So let's talk about aging.
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Parlem d'envellir.
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Let me tell you how I feel
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Deixeu-me dir-vos com em sento
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when I see my wrinkles in the mirror
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quan veig les meves arrugues al mirall
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and I realize that some parts of me have dropped
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i me n'adono que algunes parts
han començat a caure
han començat a caure
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and I can't find them down there.
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i que ja no les trobo allà baix.
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(Laughter)
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(Rialles)
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Mary Oliver says in one of her poems,
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Mary Oliver va dir en un dels seus poemes,
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"Tell me, what is it that you plan to do
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"Digue'm, què penses fer
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with your one wild and precious life?"
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amb la teva única vida preciosa i indomable?"
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Me, I intend to live passionately.
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Jo, intentaré viure amb passió.
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When do we start aging?
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Quan comencem a envellir?
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Society decides when we are old,
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La societat decideix quan som vells,
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usually around 65, when we get Medicare,
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per allà els 65, quan ens donen
el carnet de l'Imserso,
el carnet de l'Imserso,
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but we really start aging at birth.
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però comencem a envellir quan naixem.
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We are aging right now,
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Ara mateix estem envellint,
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and we all experience it differently.
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i cada u ho experimenta de forma diferent.
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We all feel younger than our real age,
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Ens sentim més joves del que som,
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because the spirit never ages.
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perquè l'esperit no envelleix.
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I am still 17.
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Jo encara tinc 17 anys.
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Sophia Loren. Look at her.
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Sophia Loren, Mireu-vos-la.
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She says that everything you see
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Diu que tot el que veiem
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she owes to spaghetti.
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ho deu als espaguetis.
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I tried it and gained 10 pounds
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Jo ho vaig intentar i vaig guanyar 5 kilos
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in the wrong places.
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on no tocava.
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But attitude, aging is also attitude and health.
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Però actitud, envellir és actitud i salut.
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But my real mentor in this journey of aging
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Però el meu mentor de debó en
aquest viatge d'envellir
aquest viatge d'envellir
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is Olga Murray.
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és Olga Murray.
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This California girl at 60
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Aquesta noia de California,
quan tenia 60 anys
quan tenia 60 anys
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started working in Nepal to save young girls
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va anar al Nepal per salvar a noies
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from domestic bondage.
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de l'esclavatge domèstic.
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At 88, she has saved 12,000 girls,
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Als 88, ja havia salvat 12.000 noies,
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and she has changed the culture in the country.
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i ha canviat la cultura en aquest pais.
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(Applause)
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(Aplaudiments)
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Now it is illegal for fathers
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Ara és il·legal que els pares
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to sell their daughters into servitude.
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venguin les seves filles com a esclaves.
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She has also founded orphanages
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També ha fundat orfenats
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and nutritional clinics.
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i clíniques nutricionals.
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She is always happy
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Sempre està feliç
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and eternally young.
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i es manté eternament jove.
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What have I lost in the last decades?
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Què he perdut aquestes dècades passades?
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People, of course,
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Gent, sobretot,
llocs, i la inesgotable
energia de la joventut,
energia de la joventut,
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places, and the boundless energy of my youth,
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i, ara, començo a perdre
la meva independència,
la meva independència,
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and I'm beginning to lose independence,
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and that scares me.
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i m'espanta.
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Ram Dass says that dependency hurts,
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Ram Dass diu que la dependència
és dolorosa,
és dolorosa,
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but if you accept it, there is less suffering.
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però que si l'acceptes,
hi ha menys patiment.
hi ha menys patiment.
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After a very bad stroke,
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Després d'un infart crític,
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his ageless soul watches the changes
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la seva ànima eterna veu els canvis
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in the body with tenderness,
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al cos amb tendresa,
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and he is grateful to the people who help him.
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i està agraït a tothom que l'ha ajudat.
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What have I gained?
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Què he guanyat?
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Freedom: I don't have to prove anything anymore.
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Llibertat: no haig de provar res a ningú.
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I'm not stuck in the idea of who I was,
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I no estic encallada a l'idea de qui era,
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who I want to be,
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i qui vull ser,
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or what other people expect me to be.
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o el que els altres volen que sigui.
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I don't have to please men anymore,
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Ja no haig de complaure a ningú,
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only animals.
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només a animals.
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I keep telling my superego to back off
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No paro de dir-li al meu superego
que pari de molestar
que pari de molestar
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and let me enjoy what I still have.
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i que em deixi gaudir del que encara tinc.
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My body may be falling apart,
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El meu cos pot estar ensorrant-se,
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but my brain is not, yet.
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però el meu cervell no, de moment.
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I love my brain.
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M'estimo el meu cervell.
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I feel lighter.
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Em sento lleugera.
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I don't carry grudges, ambition, vanity,
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No tinc rencúnies, ambició o vanitat,
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none of the deadly sins that are not even
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cap dels pecats capitals
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worth the trouble.
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que no són res més que una molèstia.
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It's great to let go.
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És genial deixar-se portar.
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I should have started sooner.
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Hauria d'haver començat abans.
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And I also feel softer
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També em sento més sencilla
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because I'm not scared of being vulnerable.
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perquè no m'espanta ser vulnerable.
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I don't see it as weakness anymore.
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Ja no ho considero una debilitat.
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And I've gained spirituality.
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I he guanyat espiritualitat.
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I'm aware that before,
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Ara me n'adono que abans,
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death was in the neighborhood.
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la mort em sotjava al barri.
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Now, it's next door, or in my house.
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Ara, a la casa del veí, o a la meva.
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I try to live mindfully
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Intento viure el present
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and be present in the moment.
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i estar present al moment.
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By the way, the Dalai Lama
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Per cert, el Dalai Lama
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is someone who has aged beautifully,
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sí que ha envellit molt bé,
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but who wants to be vegetarian and celibate?
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però, qui vol ser vegetarià i cèlibe?
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(Laughter)
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(Rialles)
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Meditation helps.
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La meditació ajuda.
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(Video) Child: Ommm. Ommm. Ommm.
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(Video) Noi: Ommm. Ommm. Ommm.
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Isabel Allende: Ommm. Ommm. There it is.
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Isabel Allende: Ommm. Ommm.
Aquí ho tenim.
Aquí ho tenim.
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And it's good to start early.
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I va bé començar aviat.
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You know, for a vain female like myself,
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Ja que, per a una dona banal com jo,
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it's very hard to age in this culture.
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és molt difícil envellir
en aquesta cultura.
en aquesta cultura.
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Inside, I feel good, I feel charming, seductive, sexy.
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Per dins, em sento bé, encantadora,
seductora, sexy.
seductora, sexy.
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Nobody else sees that. (Laughter)
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Però ningú més ho veu. (Rialles)
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I'm invisible.
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Sóc invisible.
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I want to be the center of attention.
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Vull ser el centre d'atenció.
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I hate to be invisible.
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No suporto ser invisible.
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(Laughter) (Applause)
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(Rialles) (Aplaudiments)
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This is Grace Dammann.
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Aquí teniu la Grace Dammann.
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She has been in a wheelchair for six years
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Fa sis anys que és en una cadira de rodes
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after a terrible car accident.
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a causa d'un accident de cotxe terrible.
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She says that there is nothing more sensual
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Diu que no hi ha res més sensual
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than a hot shower,
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que una dutxa calenta,
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that every drop of water
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i que cada gota d'aigua
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is a blessing to the senses.
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és una satisfacció per als sentits.
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She doesn't see herself as disabled.
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Ella no es considera discapacitada.
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In her mind, she's still surfing in the ocean.
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A la seva ment, encara fa surf al mar.
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Ethel Seiderman, a feisty, beloved activist
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Ethel Saiderman,
és una activista lliutadora i estimada
és una activista lliutadora i estimada
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in the place where I live in California.
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allà on visc, a Califòrnia.
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She wears red patent shoes,
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Porta unes sabates vermelles
marca de la casa
marca de la casa
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and her mantra is that one scarf is nice
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i el seu mantra és que
una bufanda és bo
una bufanda és bo
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but two is better.
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però dues millor.
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She has been a widow for nine years,
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Fa nou anys que és vídua,
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but she's not looking for another mate.
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però no busca una nova parella.
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She says that there is only a limited number
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Diu que que hi ha un número limitat
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of ways you can screw —
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de maneres de cardar...
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well, she says it in another way —
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bé, ella ho diu diferent...
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and she has tried them all.
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i que ja els ha provat tots.
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(Laughter)
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(Rialles)
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I, on the other hand,
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Jo, per d'altra banda,
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I still have erotic fantasies with Antonio Banderas —
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encara tinc fantasies eròtiques
amb Antonio Banderas.
amb Antonio Banderas.
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(Laughter) —
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(Rialles)
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and my poor husband has to put up with it.
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I el meu pobre marit
s'ha d'aguantar.
s'ha d'aguantar.
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So how can I stay passionate?
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Doncs, com puc mantenir la passió?
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I cannot will myself to be passionate at 71.
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No puc forçar-me a sentir passió
amb 71 anys.
amb 71 anys.
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I have been training for some time,
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Ja fa temps que entreno,
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and when I feel flat and bored, I fake it.
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i quan em sento deprimida
i avorrida, fingeixo.
i avorrida, fingeixo.
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Attitude, attitude.
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Actitut, actitut.
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How do I train? I train by saying yes
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Com m'entreno? Dient que sí
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to whatever comes my way:
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a tot el que surt;
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drama, comedy, tragedy,
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drama, comèdia, tragèdia,
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love, death, losses.
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amor, mort, pèrdues.
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Yes to life.
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Sí a la vida.
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And I train by trying to stay in love.
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I m'entreno per seguir enamorada.
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It doesn't always work,
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No sempre funciona,
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but you cannot blame me for trying.
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però no podràs culpar-me
de no intentar-ho.
de no intentar-ho.
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And, on a final note,
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I com a apunt final,
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retirement in Spanish is jubilación.
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jubilació vé de júbil.
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Jubilation. Celebration.
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Jubilacío, celebració.
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We have paid our dues.
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Ja hem pagat els nostres deutes.
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We have contributed to society.
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Hem contribuït a la societat.
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Now it's our time, and it's a great time.
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Ara és el nostre moment,
i és un gran moment.
i és un gran moment.
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Unless you are ill or very poor,
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A menys que estiguis malalt,
o siguis molt pobre,
o siguis molt pobre,
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you have choices.
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tens elecció.
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I have chosen to stay passionate,
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Jo he escollit mantenir la passió,
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engaged with an open heart.
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i dedicar-m'hi amb tot el cor.
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I am working on it every day.
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Hi treballo cada dia.
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Want to join me?
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Voleu unir-vos a mi?
07:12
Thank you.
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Gràcies.
07:14
(Applause)
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(Aplaudiments)
07:19
June Cohen: So Isabel —
IA: Thank you.
IA: Thank you.
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Juen Cohen: Isabel, aleshores...
Isabel: Gràcies
Isabel: Gràcies
07:23
JC: First of all,
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Juen: En primer lloc,
07:26
I never like to presume to
speak for the TED community,
speak for the TED community,
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no sóc ningú per parlar en nom
de tota la comunitat de TED,
de tota la comunitat de TED,
07:29
but I would like to tell you that I have a feeling
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però vull dir-te que tinc la sensació
07:31
we can all agree that you are still charming,
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que tothom estarà d'acord
que encara ets encantadora,
que encara ets encantadora,
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seductive and sexy. Yes?
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seductora i sexy. Oi que sí?
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IA: Aww, thank you.
(Applause)
(Applause)
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Isabel: Oh, gràcies.
(Aplaudiments)
(Aplaudiments)
07:37
JC: Hands down.
IA: No, it's makeup.
IA: No, it's makeup.
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Juen: Mans avall.
Isabel: No, és maquillatge.
Isabel: No, és maquillatge.
07:40
Moderator: Now, would it be awkward
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Moderador: Ara seria una mica estrany
07:41
if I asked you a follow-up question
about your erotic fantasies?
about your erotic fantasies?
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si et preguntés per
les teves fantasies eròtiques?
les teves fantasies eròtiques?
07:44
IA: Oh, of course. About what?
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Isabel: És clar. Què exactament?
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(Laughter)
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(Rialles)
07:47
Moderator: About your erotic fantasies.
IA: With Antonio Banderas.
IA: With Antonio Banderas.
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Moderador: Això de les teves fantasies eròtiques.
Isabel: Amb l'Antonio banderas.
Isabel: Amb l'Antonio banderas.
07:50
Moderator: I was just wondering
if you have anything more to share.
if you have anything more to share.
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Moderador: Em preguntava si no
voldries explicar-nos res més.
voldries explicar-nos res més.
07:52
IA: Well, one of them is that — (Laughter)
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Isabel: Bé, una de les meves fantasies és (Rialles)
07:58
One of them is that I place a naked Antonio Banderas
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que poso a l'Antonio Banderas nu
08:00
on a Mexican tortilla,
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sobre una truita mexicana,
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I slather him with guacamole and salsa,
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i el condimento amb guacamole i salsa,
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I roll him up, and I eat him. (Laughter)
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l'enrotllo i me'l menjo. (Rialles)
08:10
Thank you.
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Gràcies.
08:12
(Applause)
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(Aplaudiments)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Isabel Allende - NovelistIsabel Allende writes stories of passion. Her novels and memoirs, including The House of the Spirits and Eva Luna, tell the stories of women and men who live with passionate commitment -- to love, to their world, to an ideal.
Why you should listen
As a novelist and memoirist, Isabel Allende writes of passionate lives, including her own. Born into a Chilean family with political ties, she went into exile in the United States in the 1970s—an event that, she believes, created her as a writer. Her voice blends sweeping narrative with touches of magical realism; her stories are romantic, in the very best sense of the word. Her novels include The House of the Spirits, Eva Luna and The Stories of Eva Luna, and her latest, Maya's Notebook and Ripper. And don't forget her adventure trilogy for young readers— City of the Beasts, Kingdom of the Golden Dragon and Forest of the Pygmies.
As a memoirist, she has written about her vision of her lost Chile, in My Invented Country, and movingly tells the story of her life to her own daughter, in Paula. Her book Aphrodite: A Memoir of the Senses memorably linked two sections of the bookstore that don't see much crossover: Erotica and Cookbooks. Just as vital is her community work: The Isabel Allende Foundation works with nonprofits in the San Francisco Bay Area and Chile to empower and protect women and girls—understanding that empowering women is the only true route to social and economic justice.
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