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Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness
رابرت والدینگر: چه چیزی یک زندگی را خوب میکند؟ درس‌هایی از طولانی‌ترین مطالعه درباره شادی
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چه چیزی ما را در طول زندگی شاد و سالم نگه می‌دارد؟ اگر فکر می‌کنید این شهرت و پول هست، شما تنها نیستید- اما، طبق نظر روانشناس رابرت والینگر، شما در اشتباه هستید. به عنوان مدیر یک مطالعه‌ی ۷۵ ساله بر روی پیشرفت و سیر تکاملی بزرگسالان ، والدینگر دسترسی بی سابقه ای به داده ها در مورد شادی و رضایت از زندگی دارد.در این سخنرانی، او سه درس ژرف را که از این مطالعه فراگرفته را به اشتراک می‌گذارد، همراه با برخی از حکمت های عملی قدیمی را در مورد چگونگی ایجاد شادی یک زندگی طولانی.
Robert Waldinger - Psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, Zen priest
Robert Waldinger is the Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the most comprehensive longitudinal studies in history. Full bio
Robert Waldinger is the Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the most comprehensive longitudinal studies in history. Full bio
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00:12
What keeps us healthy and happy
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چه چیزی ما را سالم و شاد نگه می‌دارد
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as we go through life?
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در طول مدتی که زندگی میکنیم
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If you were going to invest now
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اگر قرار بود الان شما
00:21
in your future best self,
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برای آینده تان به بهترین
نحو سرمایه گذاری کنید
نحو سرمایه گذاری کنید
00:23
where would you put your time
and your energy?
and your energy?
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کجا زمان و انرژی خود را صرف می‌کردید؟
00:27
There was a recent survey of millennials
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ابتدای این قرن نظر سنجی
از نسل جوان شد که از آنها
از نسل جوان شد که از آنها
00:29
asking them what their
most important life goals were,
most important life goals were,
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پرسیده اند مهمترین اهداف زندگیشان چیست؟
00:34
and over 80 percent said
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و بیش از ۸۰ درصد گفته اند
00:36
that a major life goal for them
was to get rich.
was to get rich.
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که هدف اصلی آنها در
زندگی پولدار شدن هست.
زندگی پولدار شدن هست.
00:40
And another 50 percent
of those same young adults
of those same young adults
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و ۵۰ درصد ازهمین جوانان
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said that another major life goal
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اهداف اصلی دیگری را عنوان کرده اند
00:47
was to become famous.
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که آن مشهور شدن بود.
00:50
(Laughter)
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(خنده حضار)
00:52
And we're constantly told
to lean in to work, to push harder
to lean in to work, to push harder
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و همواره به ما گفته شده که شدیدا کار کنید
00:58
and achieve more.
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و بیشتر به دست آورید.
01:00
We're given the impression that these
are the things that we need to go after
are the things that we need to go after
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به ما این تصور را داده اند که اینها لازم
01:04
in order to have a good life.
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است به منظور داشتن یه زندگی خوب
01:06
Pictures of entire lives,
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تصویری از کل آن با انتخابهای که انسانها
01:08
of the choices that people make
and how those choices work out for them,
and how those choices work out for them,
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انجام می دهند وبه موفقیت می رسند
01:13
those pictures
are almost impossible to get.
are almost impossible to get.
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دستیابی به آنها تقریبا غیر ممکن است
01:18
Most of what we know about human life
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بیشترچیزی که ما ا ز زندگی انسانها میدانیم
01:21
we know from asking people
to remember the past,
to remember the past,
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از مردم میخواهیم که گذشته را بخاطر بیاورند
01:24
and as we know, hindsight
is anything but 20/20.
is anything but 20/20.
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و همانطور که می دانیم ادراک
01:29
We forget vast amounts
of what happens to us in life,
of what happens to us in life,
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فراموش میکنیم خیلی از آنها را
01:33
and sometimes memory
is downright creative.
is downright creative.
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و بعضی وقتها حافظه می تواند خلاق باشد
01:36
But what if we could watch entire lives
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ولی اگر بتوانیم کل زندگی را ببینیم چه چیزی
01:41
as they unfold through time?
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از طریق زمان آشکارا میشود؟
01:44
What if we could study people
from the time that they were teenagers
from the time that they were teenagers
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بتوان مردم را اززمان نوجوانی مطالعه کنیم
01:48
all the way into old age
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تا سن پیری
01:50
to see what really keeps people
happy and healthy?
happy and healthy?
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چه چیزی واقعا مردم را شاد نگه می دارد؟
01:55
We did that.
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ما این کار را انجام دادیم
01:57
The Harvard Study of Adult Development
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رشد بزرکسالی در مطالعه هاوارد که می تواند
01:59
may be the longest study
of adult life that's ever been done.
of adult life that's ever been done.
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طولانی ترین مطالعه از زندگی بزرگسالی باشد
02:05
For 75 years, we've tracked
the lives of 724 men,
the lives of 724 men,
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۷۵ سال، زندگی ۷۲۴ مرد را زیر نظر گرفتیم
02:13
year after year, asking about their work,
their home lives, their health,
their home lives, their health,
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هر سال در مورد کار محل زندگی و سلامتی آنها
02:17
and of course asking all along the way
without knowing how their life stories
without knowing how their life stories
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که همه این سوالات بدون اطلاع از زندگی
02:22
were going to turn out.
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آنها پرسیده می شد وآغاز شد
02:25
Studies like this are exceedingly rare.
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مشابه این مطالعه بسیار نادر است مطالعات
02:28
Almost all projects of this kind
fall apart within a decade
fall apart within a decade
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از این قبیل در طول یک دهه از بین رفته است
02:33
because too many people
drop out of the study,
drop out of the study,
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زیرا بسیاری از مردم مطالعه را رها کردند
02:36
or funding for the research dries up,
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یا بودجه پروژه قطع شده است
02:39
or the researchers get distracted,
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یا محققین جدا شده اند
02:41
or they die, and nobody moves the ball
further down the field.
further down the field.
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یا افراد مرده اند، و هیچ کسی پی گیری نکرد
02:46
But through a combination of luck
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ولی با ترکیبی از شانس
02:48
and the persistence
of several generations of researchers,
of several generations of researchers,
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وبا مقامت و اصرار چند نسل از پژوهشگران
02:52
this study has survived.
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این مطالعه انجام شده است
02:54
About 60 of our original 724 men
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حدود ۶۰ مرد از ۷۲۴ مرد شرکت کننده
02:59
are still alive,
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هنوز زنده هستند
03:00
still participating in the study,
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و هنوز در این مطالعه حضور دارند
03:02
most of them in their 90s.
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بیشتر آنها بالای ۹۰ سال سن دارند
03:05
And we are now beginning to study
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و ما الان شروع به مطالعه برروی
03:07
the more than 2,000 children of these men.
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بیش از ۲٫۰۰۰ ازبچه‌های
این مردها کرده ایم
این مردها کرده ایم
03:11
And I'm the fourth director of the study.
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و من مدیر چهارم این مطالعه هستم
03:15
Since 1938, we've tracked the lives
of two groups of men.
of two groups of men.
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از۱۹۳۸ زندگی دو گروه از را درنظز گرفته ایم
03:20
The first group started in the study
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گروه اول از این مطالعه زمانی آغاز شد که
03:22
when they were sophomores
at Harvard College.
at Harvard College.
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آنها سال دوم دانشگاه هاروادر بوده اند
03:25
They all finished college
during World War II,
during World War II,
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ودرطول جنگ جهانی دوم دانشگاه را تمام کردند
03:27
and then most went off
to serve in the war.
to serve in the war.
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و تعداد زیادی از آنها به خدمت جنگ در آمدند
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And the second group that we've followed
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و گروه دومی که ما زیرنظر گرفته ایم
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was a group of boys
from Boston's poorest neighborhoods,
from Boston's poorest neighborhoods,
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گروهی از پسران از فقیرترین محله بوستون بود
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boys who were chosen for the study
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پسرانی که در این مطالعه انتخاب شدند
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specifically because they were
from some of the most troubled
from some of the most troubled
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مخصوصا از خانواده های مشکل دار و
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and disadvantaged families
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محروم انتخاب شدند
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in the Boston of the 1930s.
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در سال ۱۹۳۰ در بوستون
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Most lived in tenements,
many without hot and cold running water.
many without hot and cold running water.
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آنها در اتاقهای فاقد آب گرم و سرد زندگی
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When they entered the study,
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میکردند زمانی که آنها وارد مطالعه شدند
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all of these teenagers were interviewed.
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همه این نوجوانان مصاحبه شدند
03:59
They were given medical exams.
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و آزمایشات پزشکی را انجام دادند و ما به
04:01
We went to their homes
and we interviewed their parents.
and we interviewed their parents.
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خانه هایشان رفته وبا والدین آنها صحبت شد
04:05
And then these teenagers
grew up into adults
grew up into adults
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و بعد این نوجوانان که به بزرگسالی رسیدند
04:07
who entered all walks of life.
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وبه تمام جنبه های زندگی وارد شدند
04:10
They became factory workers and lawyers
and bricklayers and doctors,
and bricklayers and doctors,
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آنها یا کارگر و وکیل یا دکتر شدنند
04:16
one President of the United States.
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یکنفر رئیس جمهور آمریکا شد
04:20
Some developed alcoholism.
A few developed schizophrenia.
A few developed schizophrenia.
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عده ای الکلی عده ای مبتلا به شیزوفرنی شدند
04:25
Some climbed the social ladder
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عده ای از نردبان اجتماعی صعود کرده
04:27
from the bottom
all the way to the very top,
all the way to the very top,
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و تمام مسیر را تا بالا رفته اند
04:30
and some made that journey
in the opposite direction.
in the opposite direction.
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و عده ای مسیر خود را در جهت عکس رفته اند
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The founders of this study
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بنیانگذاران این مطالعه
04:38
would never in their wildest dreams
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هرگز در رویایشان هم تصورنکرده اند
04:40
have imagined that I would be
standing here today, 75 years later,
standing here today, 75 years later,
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که من، اینجا ۷۵ سال بعد، ایستاده ام و به
04:45
telling you that
the study still continues.
the study still continues.
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شما میگویم این مطالعه همچنان ادامه دارد
04:49
Every two years, our patient
and dedicated research staff
and dedicated research staff
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هر دو سال یکباربیماران ومحققین فراخوانده
04:52
calls up our men
and asks them if we can send them
and asks them if we can send them
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شده و تقاضا می کردنند از بیماران برای
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yet one more set of questions
about their lives.
about their lives.
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سوال بیشتر در مورد زندگیشان
05:00
Many of the inner city Boston men ask us,
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خیلی از آنها در مرکز شهر بوستون می پرسیدند
05:03
"Why do you keep wanting to study me?
My life just isn't that interesting."
My life just isn't that interesting."
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زندگی من خوب نیست چرا همچنان تحقیق می کنی؟
05:08
The Harvard men never ask that question.
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مردم هاروارد هرگز این سوال را نکردنند
05:11
(Laughter)
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(خنده)
05:20
To get the clearest picture
of these lives,
of these lives,
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برای داشتن شمای واضحی از زندگیها
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we don't just send them questionnaires.
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ما نمی توانیم فقط پرسشنامه بفرستیم
05:26
We interview them in their living rooms.
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مصاحبه در اطاق نشیمنشان انجام می شود
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We get their medical records
from their doctors.
from their doctors.
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سوابق پزشکی آنها را از دکترشان میگیریم
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We draw their blood, we scan their brains,
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از آنها خون گرفته و اسکن مغزی انجام میدهیم
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we talk to their children.
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با فرزندانشان صحبت میکنیم
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We videotape them talking with their wives
about their deepest concerns.
about their deepest concerns.
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ضبط تصاویرموقع بیان نگرانیها با همسرانشنان
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And when, about a decade ago,
we finally asked the wives
we finally asked the wives
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و ده سال پیش ما نهایتا از همسرانشان تقاضا
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if they would join us
as members of the study,
as members of the study,
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کردیم به مطالعه ما بپیوندید
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many of the women said,
"You know, it's about time."
"You know, it's about time."
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خیلی از آنها گفتند میدونی دیگه دیر است
05:50
(Laughter)
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(خنده)
05:51
So what have we learned?
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خُب ما چه بدست آوردیم؟
05:53
What are the lessons that come
from the tens of thousands of pages
from the tens of thousands of pages
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چه درسهای بدست آورده ایم
از صدها هزار ورقهای
از صدها هزار ورقهای
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of information that we've generated
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اطلاعاتی که در زندگی
06:01
on these lives?
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جمع کرده بودیم؟
06:03
Well, the lessons aren't about wealth
or fame or working harder and harder.
or fame or working harder and harder.
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درسها یی درمورد ثروت
شهرت یا سختکوشی نیست
شهرت یا سختکوشی نیست
06:10
The clearest message that we get
from this 75-year study is this:
from this 75-year study is this:
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پیام روشنی که ازاین مطالعه ۷۵ ساله گرفتیم
06:16
Good relationships keep us
happier and healthier. Period.
happier and healthier. Period.
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که روابط خوب ما را شادتر و سالمتر می کند.
06:23
We've learned three big lessons
about relationships.
about relationships.
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ما ۳ درس بزرگ از روابط بدست آورده ایم
06:26
The first is that social connections
are really good for us,
are really good for us,
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اول روابط اجتماعی واقعا خوب است برای ما
06:30
and that loneliness kills.
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که آن تنهایی را از بین می برد
06:33
It turns out that people
who are more socially connected
who are more socially connected
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بنظر میرسد که افرادی با روابط اجتماعی زیاد
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to family, to friends, to community,
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با خانواده دوستان و اجتماع
06:40
are happier, they're physically healthier,
and they live longer
and they live longer
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شادتر واز نظر فیزیکی سالمترو عمر طولانی تر
06:45
than people who are less well connected.
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نسبت به افرادی که روابط کمتری دارند
06:48
And the experience of loneliness
turns out to be toxic.
turns out to be toxic.
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و تنهایی یک تجربه سمی است
06:51
People who are more isolated
than they want to be from others
than they want to be from others
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افرادی که گوشه گیرند نسبت به افراد اجتمایی
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find that they are less happy,
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حس می کنند کمتر خوشحالند
07:00
their health declines earlier in midlife,
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و سلامتی انها زودتر ازمیانسالی بخطرمی افتد
07:03
their brain functioning declines sooner
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و کارکرد مغز خودرازودترازدست می دهند
07:05
and they live shorter lives
than people who are not lonely.
than people who are not lonely.
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وزندگی کوتاهتری ازآنهاکه تنها نیستن دارند
07:10
And the sad fact
is that at any given time,
is that at any given time,
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در هر دوره ای این واقعیت تلخ وجود دارد
07:13
more than one in five Americans
will report that they're lonely.
will report that they're lonely.
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که بیش از یک پنجم آمریکایی ها تنها هستند
07:19
And we know that you
can be lonely in a crowd
can be lonely in a crowd
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می دانیم که می شود در یک جمع هم تنها باشید
07:21
and you can be lonely in a marriage,
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و میتوانید دریک ازدواج هم تنها باشید
07:24
so the second big lesson that we learned
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پس دومین درس بزرگی که آموخته ایم
07:26
is that it's not just
the number of friends you have,
the number of friends you have,
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این است که تعداد دوستان مهم نیست
07:29
and it's not whether or not
you're in a committed relationship,
you're in a committed relationship,
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ویا در یک رابطه تعهد دارید یا نه
07:33
but it's the quality
of your close relationships that matters.
of your close relationships that matters.
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بلکه موضوع کیفیت روابط نزدیک است
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It turns out that living in the midst
of conflict is really bad for our health.
of conflict is really bad for our health.
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جروبحث واقعا برای سلامتی مضر است
07:43
High-conflict marriages, for example,
without much affection,
without much affection,
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مثلا ازدواجهای مشکل دار و بدون احساس
07:47
turn out to be very bad for our health,
perhaps worse than getting divorced.
perhaps worse than getting divorced.
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برای سلامتی بدتر از گرفتن طلاق بوده است
07:53
And living in the midst of good,
warm relationships is protective.
warm relationships is protective.
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روابط گرم در میانسالی سلامتی را حفظ می کند
07:57
Once we had followed our men
all the way into their 80s,
all the way into their 80s,
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یکبار افراد را در ۸۰ سالگی بررسی کردیم
08:01
we wanted to look back at them at midlife
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میخواستیم به میانسالی آنها نگاهی بیاندازیم
08:04
and to see if we could predict
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وببینیم می توانیم پیش بینی کنیم
08:05
who was going to grow
into a happy, healthy octogenarian
into a happy, healthy octogenarian
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چه کسی در شادی و سلامتی
در دهه هشتاد زندگی است
در دهه هشتاد زندگی است
08:09
and who wasn't.
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و چه کسی نبود؟
08:11
And when we gathered together
everything we knew about them
everything we knew about them
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وقتی تمام اطلاعات آنها
را کنار هم گذاشتیم
را کنار هم گذاشتیم
08:15
at age 50,
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در سن ۵۰ سالگی
08:18
it wasn't their middle age
cholesterol levels
cholesterol levels
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سطح کلسترول میانسالگی نبود
08:20
that predicted how they
were going to grow old.
were going to grow old.
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که پیش بینی کردیم چگونه پیر شده اند
08:23
It was how satisfied they were
in their relationships.
in their relationships.
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و چقدر از روابط خود راضی بودنند
08:27
The people who were the most satisfied
in their relationships at age 50
in their relationships at age 50
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افرادی که رضایت از روابط در سن ۵۰ داشتند
08:31
were the healthiest at age 80.
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در ۸۰ سالگی سا لم ترین بودند
08:35
And good, close relationships
seem to buffer us
seem to buffer us
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و روابط خوب و نزدیک از ما محافظت میکند
08:38
from some of the slings and arrows
of getting old.
of getting old.
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و نا ملایمات ما را به سمت پیری می برد
08:42
Our most happily partnered men and women
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بیشتر خوشحال ترین زوجهای ما
08:46
reported, in their 80s,
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در ۸۰ سالگی شان گزارش شده
08:48
that on the days
when they had more physical pain,
when they had more physical pain,
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زمانی که آنها بیشتر درد جسمانی داشته اند
08:51
their mood stayed just as happy.
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ولی به همان اندازه خوشحال مانده بودند
08:54
But the people who were
in unhappy relationships,
in unhappy relationships,
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ولی افرادی که روابط خوبی نداشتند
08:57
on the days when they
reported more physical pain,
reported more physical pain,
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در آن زمان درد جسمانی بیشتری داشتند
09:00
it was magnified by more emotional pain.
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آن تشدید شده بودبیشتر با درد احساسی
09:04
And the third big lesson that we learned
about relationships and our health
about relationships and our health
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و سومین درسی که ما در مورد روابط آموختیم
09:08
is that good relationships
don't just protect our bodies,
don't just protect our bodies,
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که روابط خوب فقط جسم مارا محافظت نمیکند
09:12
they protect our brains.
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آنها مغزمان را هم محافظت میکنند
09:14
It turns out that being
in a securely attached relationship
in a securely attached relationship
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بنظر میرسد که وجود یک رابطه وابسته امن
09:19
to another person in your 80s
is protective,
is protective,
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با یک فرد دیگر در ۸۰ سالگی حفاظت کننده است
09:23
that the people who are in relationships
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و افرادی که در روابط انسانی هستند
09:25
where they really feel they can count
on the other person in times of need,
on the other person in times of need,
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جایی که روی دیگران بتوانند حساب کنند
09:29
those people's memories
stay sharper longer.
stay sharper longer.
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حافظه آنها طولانی تر و قویتر است
09:32
And the people in relationships
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و افرادی که در رابطه هستند
09:34
where they feel they really
can't count on the other one,
can't count on the other one,
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نمیتوانند درزمان نیازبه فرد دیگر تکیه کنند
09:37
those are the people who experience
earlier memory decline.
earlier memory decline.
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از دست دادن حافظه را زودتر تجربه میکنند
09:42
And those good relationships,
they don't have to be smooth all the time.
they don't have to be smooth all the time.
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و روابط آنها، درهمه ایام مناسب نبوده است
09:46
Some of our octogenarian couples
could bicker with each other
could bicker with each other
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تعدادی از زوجهای ۸۰ ساله
که با هم جروبحث داشتند
که با هم جروبحث داشتند
09:49
day in and day out,
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در روزهای زیادی از زندگیشان
09:51
but as long as they felt that they
could really count on the other
could really count on the other
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تا زمانی که حس تعلق به یکدیگر را
09:54
when the going got tough,
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در زمانهای سختی و مشکلات
09:56
those arguments didn't take a toll
on their memories.
on their memories.
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این بحث ها تاثیر منفی درخاطر آنها نمیگذارد
10:01
So this message,
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پس این پیام
10:04
that good, close relationships
are good for our health and well-being,
are good for our health and well-being,
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که روابط خوب برای سلامتی ما خوب هستند
10:10
this is wisdom that's as old as the hills.
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یک موضوع خیلی قدیمی است
10:13
Why is this so hard to get
and so easy to ignore?
and so easy to ignore?
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چرا این سخت فهمیده و راحت چشم پوشی میشود؟
10:17
Well, we're human.
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خوب زیرا ما انسان هستیم
10:19
What we'd really like is a quick fix,
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دوست داریم سریع هر چیزی را درست کنیم
10:21
something we can get
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چیزی که بدست میآوریم
10:23
that'll make our lives good
and keep them that way.
and keep them that way.
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و باعث خوب شدن زندگی شود آنرا حفظ می کنیم
10:27
Relationships are messy
and they're complicated
and they're complicated
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روابط گیج کننده وآنها پیچیده هم هستند
10:30
and the hard work of tending
to family and friends,
to family and friends,
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و رسیدگی به خانواده و دوستان کار سختی است
10:34
it's not sexy or glamorous.
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آن کاری نیست که مورد علاقه باشد
10:37
It's also lifelong. It never ends.
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و آن کاری است مادام العمر و تمام نشدنی
10:40
The people in our 75-year study
who were the happiest in retirement
who were the happiest in retirement
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افراد ۷۵ ساله درمطالعه ما و خوشحال بودند
10:45
were the people who had actively worked
to replace workmates with new playmates.
to replace workmates with new playmates.
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کسانی بودنند فعال با دوستان جدید
10:51
Just like the millennials
in that recent survey,
in that recent survey,
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دقیقا شبیه نسل حاضردراین مطالعه
10:54
many of our men when they
were starting out as young adults
were starting out as young adults
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خیلی از دوران جوانی مورد مطالعه اکه بودنند
10:58
really believed that fame and wealth
and high achievement
and high achievement
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معتقد بودنند که شهرت ثروت وموفقیت و کار
11:02
were what they needed to go after
to have a good life.
to have a good life.
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نیازاست برای رسیدن به یک زندگی خوب
11:06
But over and over, over these 75 years,
our study has shown
our study has shown
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مطالعه ۷۵ ساله ما بارها و بارها نشان داده
11:10
that the people who fared the best were
the people who leaned in to relationships,
the people who leaned in to relationships,
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افرادی وضعیت خوبی داشتند که رابطه خوبی با
11:16
with family, with friends, with community.
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با خانواده، با دوستان و با جامعه داشته اند
11:21
So what about you?
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در مورد شما چطور؟
11:23
Let's say you're 25,
or you're 40, or you're 60.
or you're 40, or you're 60.
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اجازه دهید بگویم شما
۲۵ یا ۴۰ یا ۶۰ ساله هستید
۲۵ یا ۴۰ یا ۶۰ ساله هستید
11:27
What might leaning in
to relationships even look like?
to relationships even look like?
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از یک رابطه (عاشقانه)
شما چه چیزی یاد می گیرید؟
شما چه چیزی یاد می گیرید؟
11:31
Well, the possibilities
are practically endless.
are practically endless.
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خوب، فرصتها عملا بی انتها هستند
11:35
It might be something as simple
as replacing screen time with people time
as replacing screen time with people time
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آن می تواند چیزی بسادگی گذر زمان با مردم
11:41
or livening up a stale relationship
by doing something new together,
by doing something new together,
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یا ایجاد یک زندگی یا رابطه جدید با یکدیگر
11:46
long walks or date nights,
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با بیرون رفتن شبانه یا قدم زدن
11:49
or reaching out to that family member
who you haven't spoken to in years,
who you haven't spoken to in years,
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یا صحبت با یک عضو خانواده بعد از سالها
11:54
because those all-too-common family feuds
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زیرا این ها معمولا دشمنان خانوادگی هستند
11:57
take a terrible toll
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و تاثیر منفی وحشتناکی دارند
12:00
on the people who hold the grudges.
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افرادی که کینه دارند
12:04
I'd like to close with a quote
from Mark Twain.
from Mark Twain.
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مایلم با شعری از مارک توان بحث را تمام کنم
12:09
More than a century ago,
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بیش از یک قرن پیش،
12:11
he was looking back on his life,
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او به دنبال برگشتن به زندگی خود بود،
12:14
and he wrote this:
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و این را نوشت:
12:16
"There isn't time, so brief is life,
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"وقتی نیست، زندگی خیلی کوتاه است
12:20
for bickerings, apologies,
heartburnings, callings to account.
heartburnings, callings to account.
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برای بحث ها، عذرخواهی ها، دل شکستن ها،
12:26
There is only time for loving,
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فقط برای دوست داشتن زمان وجود دارد،
12:29
and but an instant,
so to speak, for that."
so to speak, for that."
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و برای یک لحظه هم صحبت کنید راجع به آن
12:34
The good life is built
with good relationships.
with good relationships.
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زندگی خوب با روابط خوب ساخته شده است
12:39
Thank you.
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متشکرم
12:40
(Applause)
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تشویق حضار
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Robert Waldinger - Psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, Zen priestRobert Waldinger is the Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the most comprehensive longitudinal studies in history.
Why you should listen
Robert Waldinger is a psychiatrist, psychoanalyst and Zen priest. He is Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and directs the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the longest-running studies of adult life ever done. The Study tracked the lives of two groups of men for over 75 years, and it now follows their Baby Boomer children to understand how childhood experience reaches across decades to affect health and wellbeing in middle age. He writes about what science and Zen can teach us about healthy human development.
Dr. Waldinger is the author of numerous scientific papers as well as two books. He teaches medical students and psychiatry residents at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston, and he is a Senior Dharma Teacher in Boundless Way Zen.
To keep abreast of research findings, insights and more, visit robertwaldinger.com.
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