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Caroline Paul: To raise brave girls, encourage adventure
Caroline Paul: Vychovávajme odvážne dievčatá a podnecujme dobrodružstvo
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Dievčatá s gurážou skatebordujú, lezú po stromoch, šplhajú sa kade tade, padajú, odierajú si kolená a hneď nato sú späť na nohách – nakoniec z nich vyrastú odvážne ženy. Naučte sa ako podnietiť malé produktívne riziko a vychovať sebavedomé dievčatá s príbehmi a radami od požiarničky, ktorá lieta na závesnom padáku, a dobrodruha, Caroline Paul.
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Brimming with insights gained on her picaresque journey from firefighter to best-selling author, Caroline Paul’s "The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure" is a revolutionary guide for raising brave young women. Full bio
Brimming with insights gained on her picaresque journey from firefighter to best-selling author, Caroline Paul’s "The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure" is a revolutionary guide for raising brave young women. Full bio
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Keď som bola dieťa, bola som posadnutá
Guinnesovou knihou rekordov
Guinnesovou knihou rekordov
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When I was a kid, I was obsessed
with the Guinness Book of World Records,
with the Guinness Book of World Records,
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a aj ja som chcela vytvoriť rekord.
00:17
and I really wanted
to set a world record myself.
to set a world record myself.
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Bol tu však jeden malý problém,
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But there was just one small problem:
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nemala som žiaden talent.
00:23
I had absolutely no talent.
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00:26
So I decided to set
a world record in something
a world record in something
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Tak som sa rozhodla vytvoriť
svetový rekord v niečom,
svetový rekord v niečom,
na čo žiaden talent netreba.
00:29
that demanded absolutely no skill at all.
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00:33
I decided to set a world record
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Rozhodla som sa vytvoriť
svetový rekord v plazení.
svetový rekord v plazení.
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in crawling.
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00:39
(Laughter)
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(smiech)
00:42
Now, the record at the time
was 12 and a half miles,
was 12 and a half miles,
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V tom čase bol tento rekord 12 a pol míle
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and for some reason,
this seemed totally manageable.
this seemed totally manageable.
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a z nejakého dôvodu som si myslela,
že nie je problém to zvládnuť.
že nie je problém to zvládnuť.
00:51
(Laughter)
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(smiech)
Nahovorila som kamarátku Anne
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I recruited my friend Anne,
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and together we decided,
we didn't even need to train.
we didn't even need to train.
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a spoločne sme sa rozhodli,
že ani nepotrebujeme trénovať.
že ani nepotrebujeme trénovať.
00:59
(Laughter)
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(smiech)
V deň pokusu o náš rekord
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And on the day of our record attempt,
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01:04
we put furniture pads
on the outside of our good luck jeans
on the outside of our good luck jeans
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sme si obliekli džínsy pre šťastie,
nalepili na ne plstené podložky,
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and we set off,
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a pustili sme sa do toho.
01:10
and right away, we were in trouble,
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Hneď zo začiatku sme narazili na problém.
Tesná džínsovina nám odierala kolená
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because the denim was against our skin
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01:15
and it began to chafe,
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01:17
and soon our knees were being chewed up.
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a čoskoro boli úplne spálené.
01:20
Hours in,
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Po pár hodinách začalo pršať.
01:23
it began to rain.
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01:25
Then, Anne dropped out.
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Vtedy to Anne vzdala.
01:29
Then, it got dark.
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Nato sa zotmelo.
01:32
Now, by now, my knees
were bleeding through my jeans,
were bleeding through my jeans,
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V tomto štádiu mi už kolená
krvácali cez džínsy
krvácali cez džínsy
a mala som halucinácie zo zimy,
01:35
and I was hallucinating from the cold
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01:37
and the pain and the monotony.
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z bolesti a monotónosti.
01:40
And to give you an idea
of the suffer-fest that I was undergoing,
of the suffer-fest that I was undergoing,
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Aby ste mali predstavu
o tom, ako veľmi som trpela,
o tom, ako veľmi som trpela,
01:45
the first lap around
the high school track took 10 minutes.
the high school track took 10 minutes.
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prvý okruh okolo školskej bežeckej dráhy
mi trval 10 minút.
01:49
The last lap took almost 30.
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Posledný okruh mi trval skoro pol hodiny.
01:54
After 12 hours of crawling,
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Po 12 hodinách
som sa prestala plaziť.
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I stopped,
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Podarilo sa mi prejsť 8 a pol míle.
01:59
and I had gone eight and a half miles.
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02:03
So I was short of
the 12-and-a-half-mile record.
the 12-and-a-half-mile record.
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Nestačilo to na 12 a pol míľový rekord.
Veľa rokov som si myslela,
02:07
Now, for many years, I thought
this was a story of abject failure,
this was a story of abject failure,
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že to bolo moje totálne zlyhanie.
Ale dnes to vidím inak,
02:12
but today I see it differently,
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pretože keď som sa pokúšala
o svetový rekord,
o svetový rekord,
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because when I was
attempting the world record,
attempting the world record,
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dokázala som tri veci.
02:17
I was doing three things.
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02:19
I was getting outside my comfort zone,
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Vystúpila som zo svojej zóny pohodlia,
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I was calling upon my resilience,
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testovala svoju odolnosť
a nadobúdala sebavedomie
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and I was finding confidence in myself
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a dôveru vo vlastné rozhodutia.
02:26
and my own decisions.
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02:28
I didn't know it then,
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Vtedy som to nevedela,
02:29
but those are not
the attributes of failure.
the attributes of failure.
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no toto nie sú znaky zlyhania.
02:33
Those are the attributes of bravery.
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Sú to atribúty odvahy.
02:37
Now, in 1989, at the age of 26,
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V roku 1989, vo veku 26
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I became a San Francisco firefighter,
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som sa stala požiarníčkou v San Franciscu
02:42
and I was the 15th woman
in a department of 1,500 men.
in a department of 1,500 men.
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a bola som pätnástou ženou
na oddelení s 1500 mužmi.
na oddelení s 1500 mužmi.
(potlesk)
02:47
(Applause)
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02:53
And as you can imagine, when I arrived
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Ako si viete predstaviť, keď som prišla,
02:55
there were many doubts
about whether we could do the job.
about whether we could do the job.
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mnohí pochybovali,
či ženy zvládnu túto prácu.
či ženy zvládnu túto prácu.
02:57
So even though I was a 5'10",
150-pound collegiate rower,
150-pound collegiate rower,
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Aj napriek tomu, že som bola veslárka
vysoká 180 metrov, s hmotnosťou 70 kg,
vysoká 180 metrov, s hmotnosťou 70 kg,
03:03
and someone who could endure
12 hours of searing knee pain --
12 hours of searing knee pain --
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schopná vydržať 12 hodín
pálivej bolesti kolien,
pálivej bolesti kolien,
(smiech)
03:07
(Laughter)
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vedela som, že budem musieť
dokázať svoju silu a spôsobilosť.
dokázať svoju silu a spôsobilosť.
03:09
I knew I still had to prove
my strength and fitness.
my strength and fitness.
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03:12
So one day a call came in for a fire,
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Jedného dňa sme mali poplach
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and sure enough,
when my engine group pulled up,
when my engine group pulled up,
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a keď moja skupina
dorazila na miesto požiaru,
dorazila na miesto požiaru,
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there was black smoke billowing
from a building off an alleyway.
from a building off an alleyway.
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z jednej budovy v uličke stúpal hustý dym.
Mojím partnerom bol
veľký chlap menom Skip.
veľký chlap menom Skip.
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And I was with a big guy named Skip,
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03:22
and he was on the nozzle,
and I was right behind,
and I was right behind,
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On bol na tryske,
ja som stála hneď za ním.
ja som stála hneď za ním.
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and it was a typical sort of fire.
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Bol to typický požiar:
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It was smoky, it was hot,
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veľa dymu, páľava...
A zrazu niečo vybuchlo.
03:30
and all of a sudden,
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03:32
there was an explosion,
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Skipa a mňa odhodilo dozadu,
03:34
and Skip and I were blown backwards,
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z tváre mi strhlo štít,
03:36
my mask was knocked sideways,
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bola som zmätená.
03:38
and there was this moment of confusion.
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O chvíľu som sa spamätala,
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And then I picked myself up,
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03:44
I groped for the nozzle,
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schmatla som trysku
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and I did what a firefighter
was supposed to do:
was supposed to do:
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a urobila to, čo sa očakáva
od každého hasiča:
od každého hasiča:
vyrazila som vpred,
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I lunged forward,
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03:50
opened up the water
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pustila vodu
a sama bojovala s ohňom.
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and I tackled the fire myself.
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03:54
The explosion had been caused
by a water heater,
by a water heater,
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Výbuch bol zapríčinený ohrievačom vody,
takže nikto nebol zranený,
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so nobody was hurt,
and ultimately it was not a big deal,
and ultimately it was not a big deal,
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nebolo to až také vážne,
03:59
but later Skip came up to me and said,
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ale neskôr za mnou prišiel Skip
a s prekvapením v hlase povedal:
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"Nice job, Caroline,"
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„Dobrá práca, Caroline.“
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in this surprised sort of voice.
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(smiech)
04:07
(Laughter)
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04:09
And I was confused, because
the fire hadn't been difficult physically,
the fire hadn't been difficult physically,
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To ma zmiatlo.
Ten požiar nebol fyzicky náročný,
04:13
so why was he looking at me
with something like astonishment?
with something like astonishment?
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tak prečo sa na mňa pozeral s údivom?
04:18
And then it became clear:
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A potom mi to došlo.
04:20
Skip, who was by the way a really nice guy
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Skip, ktorý je mimochodom
veľmi milý chlap a skvelý požiarnik,
veľmi milý chlap a skvelý požiarnik,
04:23
and an excellent firefighter,
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04:25
not only thought
that women could not be strong,
that women could not be strong,
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si nielenže myslel, že ženy nie sú silné,
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he thought that they
could not be brave either.
could not be brave either.
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ale taktiež, že nie sú dostatočne odvážne.
04:32
And he wasn't the only one.
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A nebol jediný.
04:35
Friends, acquaintances and strangers,
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Priatelia, známi i neznámi ľudia,
muži i ženy
muži i ženy
04:37
men and women throughout my career
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sa ma počas mojej kariéry neustále pýtajú:
04:39
ask me over and over,
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04:41
"Caroline, all that fire, all that danger,
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„Caroline, všetok ten oheň,
všetko to nebezpečenstvo,
všetko to nebezpečenstvo,
nebojíš sa?“
04:45
aren't you scared?"
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04:47
Honestly, I never heard
a male firefighter asked this.
a male firefighter asked this.
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Popravde, nikdy som nepočula,
že by sa to spýtali hasiča-muža.
že by sa to spýtali hasiča-muža.
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And I became curious.
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A tak ma začalo zaujímať,
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Why wasn't bravery expected of women?
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prečo neočakávame, že aj
ženy môžu byť statočné?
ženy môžu byť statočné?
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Now, the answer began to come
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Na odpoveď som prišla,
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when a friend of mine lamented to me
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keď sa kamarátka sťažovala,
že jej malá dcéra je veľký bojko.
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that her young daughter
was a big scaredy-cat,
was a big scaredy-cat,
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Tak som si to začala všímať.
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and so I began to notice,
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Áno, jej dcéra bola úzkostlivá,
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and yes, the daughter was anxious,
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ale naviac, aj jej rodičia boli úzkostliví.
05:08
but more than that,
the parents were anxious.
the parents were anxious.
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05:12
Most of what they said to her
when she was outside began with,
when she was outside began with,
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Väčšina toho, čo jej hovorili,
keď bola vonku, začínalo:
keď bola vonku, začínalo:
„Buď opatrná“, „Dávaj si pozor“,
alebo „Nie“.
alebo „Nie“.
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"Be careful," "Watch out," or "No."
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05:20
Now, my friends were not bad parents.
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Moji kamaráti nie sú zlí rodičia.
Iba robia to, čo väčšina rodičov,
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They were just doing what most parents do,
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napomínajú svoje dcéry
oveľa viac než svojich synov.
oveľa viac než svojich synov.
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which is cautioning their daughters
much more than they caution their sons.
much more than they caution their sons.
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05:31
There was a study involving
a playground fire pole, ironically,
a playground fire pole, ironically,
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Existuje štúdia, týkajúca sa
preliezačiek na detských ihriskách,
preliezačiek na detských ihriskách,
05:36
in which researchers saw that little girls
were very likely to be warned
were very likely to be warned
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kde si výskumníci všimli,
že rodičia oveľa častejšie
že rodičia oveľa častejšie
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by both their moms and dads
about the fire pole's risk,
about the fire pole's risk,
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varujú dievčatá pred rizikom
veží s požiarnickými tyčami,
veží s požiarnickými tyčami,
a pokiaľ dievčatá trvajú na tom,
že sa tam hrať chcú,
že sa tam hrať chcú,
05:44
and if the little girls
still wanted to play on the fire pole,
still wanted to play on the fire pole,
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05:47
a parent was very likely to assist her.
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často im jeden z rodičov pri tom pomáha.
05:51
But the little boys?
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Ale malí chlapci?
05:53
They were encouraged
to play on the fire pole
to play on the fire pole
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Napriek obavám, ktoré rodičia pociťujú,
oni chlapcov povzbudzujú,
aby sa na veži hrali,
aby sa na veži hrali,
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despite any trepidations
that they might have,
that they might have,
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05:58
and often the parents offered
guidance on how to use it on their own.
guidance on how to use it on their own.
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a často im dávajú rady, ako
prekážku zdolať samostatne.
prekážku zdolať samostatne.
06:05
So what message does this send
to both boys and girls?
to both boys and girls?
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Aký odkaz tým dávame chlapcom a dievčatám?
06:09
Well, that girls are fragile
and more in need of help,
and more in need of help,
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Nuž, že dievčatá sú krehké
a potrebujú pomoc
a potrebujú pomoc
a že chlapci si vedia a musia vedieť
poradiť s ťažkými úlohami sami.
poradiť s ťažkými úlohami sami.
06:13
and that boys can and should
master difficult tasks by themselves.
master difficult tasks by themselves.
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06:18
It says that girls should be fearful
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Že dievčatá by mali byť bojazlivé
a chlapci by mali byť odvážni.
06:21
and boys should be gutsy.
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06:25
Now, the irony is that at this young age,
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Iróniou je, že v tomto mladom veku,
dievčatá a chlapci sú si
fyzicky veľmi podobní.
fyzicky veľmi podobní.
06:27
girls and boys are actually
very alike physically.
very alike physically.
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V skutočnosti, dievčatá sú
do puberty dokonca silnejšie
do puberty dokonca silnejšie
06:30
In fact, girls are often
stronger until puberty,
stronger until puberty,
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06:32
and more mature.
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a vyspelejšie.
06:34
And yet we adults act
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A my dospelí sa napriek tomu správame,
06:36
as if girls are more fragile
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ako keby dievčatá boli krehké
06:38
and more in need of help,
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a potrebovali viac pomoci
06:40
and they can't handle as much.
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a neboli schopné poradiť si
tak ako chlapci.
tak ako chlapci.
06:43
This is the message
that we absorb as kids,
that we absorb as kids,
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Toto je odkaz, ktorý ako deti vstrebávame,
06:45
and this is the message
that fully permeates as we grow up.
that fully permeates as we grow up.
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je to odkaz, ktorý do nás naplno
prenikne počas dospievania.
prenikne počas dospievania.
My ženy tomu veríme, muži tiež,
06:49
We women believe it, men believe it,
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a môžete hádať, čo nasleduje.
06:51
and guess what?
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06:53
As we become parents,
we pass it on to our children,
we pass it on to our children,
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Keď sa staneme rodičmi,
posúvame tento odkaz na naše deti
posúvame tento odkaz na naše deti
a tak ďalej.
06:56
and so it goes.
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06:58
Well, so now I had my answer.
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A tak som dostala odpoveď.
07:01
This is why women, even firewomen,
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Toto je dôvod, prečo sa od žien,
dokonca aj od požiarničiek,
dokonca aj od požiarničiek,
07:03
were expected to be scared.
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očakáva strach.
07:05
This is why women often are scared.
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Preto sa ženy často boja.
07:09
Now, I know some of you
won't believe me when I tell you this,
won't believe me when I tell you this,
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Viem, že niektorí z vás
mi nebudú veriť, keď poviem,
mi nebudú veriť, keď poviem,
07:13
but I am not against fear.
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že nie som proti strachu.
07:16
I know it's an important emotion,
and it's there to keep us safe.
and it's there to keep us safe.
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Ja viem, že je to dôležitý pocit,
ktorý nás drží v bezpečí.
ktorý nás drží v bezpečí.
07:20
But the problem is
when fear is the primary reaction
when fear is the primary reaction
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Ale problémom je, keď sa strach
stane primárnou reakciou,
stane primárnou reakciou,
07:23
that we teach and encourage in girls
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ktorú povzbudzujeme a
vštepujeme dievčatám,
vštepujeme dievčatám,
07:25
whenever they face something
outside their comfort zone.
outside their comfort zone.
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kedykoľvek narazia na niečo nové.
07:29
So I was a paraglider pilot
for many years --
for many years --
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Roky som sa venovala paraglidingu.
07:33
(Applause)
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(potlesk)
07:35
and a paraglider is a parachute-like wing,
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Klzák je niečo ako padák podobný krídlu,
07:38
and it does fly very well,
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ktorý dobre lieta,
07:41
but to many people I realize
it looks just like a bedsheet
it looks just like a bedsheet
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mnohým pripomína posteľnú plachtu
s pripevnenými šnúrkami.
07:44
with strings attached.
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07:46
(Laughter)
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(smiech)
Strávila som veľa času na vrcholkoch hôr,
07:47
And I spent a lot of time on mountaintops
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nafukovaním tejto plachty,
07:50
inflating this bedsheet,
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07:51
running off and flying.
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bežaním a lietaním.
07:54
And I know what you're thinking.
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A viem, že si myslíte:
„Caroline, trochu strachu
by ti tu nezaškodilo.“
by ti tu nezaškodilo.“
07:56
You're like, Caroline,
a little fear would make sense here.
a little fear would make sense here.
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08:00
And you're right, it does.
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A máte pravdu.
08:02
I assure you, I did feel fear.
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A môžem vás uistiť, že som sa bála.
Ale na vrchole hory,
08:05
But on that mountaintop,
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08:06
waiting for the wind
to come in just right,
to come in just right,
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keď som čakala na ten správny vietor,
prežívala som taktiež
veľa ďalších pocitov:
veľa ďalších pocitov:
08:08
I felt so many other things, too:
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radosť, sebadôveru...
08:10
exhilaration, confidence.
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08:14
I knew I was a good pilot.
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Vedela som, že som dobrý pilot.
08:15
I knew the conditions were good,
or I wouldn't be there.
or I wouldn't be there.
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Vedela som, že podmienky sú dobré,
ináč by som tam nebola.
ináč by som tam nebola.
08:18
I knew how great it was going to be
a thousand feet in the air.
a thousand feet in the air.
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Vedela som, aké skvelé je
byť tisíc stôp nad zemou.
byť tisíc stôp nad zemou.
08:22
So yes, fear was there,
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Áno, strach tam bol,
ale dobre som sa naň pozrela
08:25
but I would take a good hard look at it,
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a ohodnotila jeho dôležitosť
08:27
assess just how relevant it was
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a umiestnila ho tam, kam patril,
08:29
and then put it where it belonged,
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čo väčšinou bolo až za vzrušenie,
08:32
which was more often than not
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08:33
behind my exhilaration, my anticipation
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očakávanie a moju sebaistotu.
08:37
and my confidence.
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08:39
So I'm not against fear.
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Takže nemám nič proti strachu.
Ale som za odvahu.
08:41
I'm just pro-bravery.
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08:46
Now, I'm not saying
your girls must be firefighters
your girls must be firefighters
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Tým nechcem povedať, že
vaše dcéry musia byť hasičky,
vaše dcéry musia byť hasičky,
alebo že by mali byť paraglajderky,
08:49
or that they should be paragliders,
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08:52
but I am saying that we are raising
our girls to be timid, even helpless,
our girls to be timid, even helpless,
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len tvrdím,
že vychovávame naše dievčatá,
aby boli bojazlivé, dokonca bezbranné
aby boli bojazlivé, dokonca bezbranné
08:57
and it begins when we caution them
against physical risk.
against physical risk.
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a začína to, keď ich varujeme
pred fyzickým rizikom.
pred fyzickým rizikom.
Strach, ktorému sa učíme,
09:01
The fear we learn
and the experiences we don't
and the experiences we don't
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a zážitky, ktoré neprežijeme,
09:03
stay with us as we become women
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zostávajú s nami, aj keď sa staneme ženami
09:05
and morphs into all those things
that we face and try to shed:
that we face and try to shed:
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a formujú sa na veci,
s ktorými zápasíme celý život:
s ktorými zápasíme celý život:
09:10
our hesitation in speaking out,
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na našu zdráhavosť
pri verejných vystupovaniach,
pri verejných vystupovaniach,
09:12
our deference so that we can be liked
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na podriadenosť, ktorú ukazujeme,
len aby sme boli obľúbené,
len aby sme boli obľúbené,
09:15
and our lack of confidence
in our own decisions.
in our own decisions.
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na nedostatok sebaistoty pri
vlastných rozhodnutiach.
vlastných rozhodnutiach.
09:18
So how do we become brave?
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Ako sa teda stať odvážnymi?
09:22
Well, here's the good news.
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Mám dobrú správu.
Odvahe sa dá naučiť
09:24
Bravery is learned,
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a ako všetko, čo sa dá naučiť,
09:26
and like anything learned,
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09:27
it just needs to be practiced.
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potrebuje len tréning.
09:30
So first,
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A tak po prvé,
musíme sa zhlboka nadýchnuť
09:31
we have to take a deep breath
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09:33
and encourage our girls
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a povzbudiť naše dievčatá,
aby sa vozili na skateboarde
a liezli po stromoch
a liezli po stromoch
09:35
to skateboard, climb trees
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a aby sa šplhali po preliezačkách
na detskom ihrisku.
na detskom ihrisku.
09:38
and clamber around
on that playground fire pole.
on that playground fire pole.
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09:41
This is what my own mother did.
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To spravila moja mama.
Vtedy si toho nebola vedomá,
09:43
She didn't know it then,
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ale výskumníci majú na to pomenovanie.
09:45
but researchers have a name for this.
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Hovoria tomu riskantné hranie.
09:47
They call it risky play,
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A štúdie ukázali, že je to
pre všetky deti dôležité,
pre všetky deti dôležité,
09:49
and studies show that risky play
is really important for kids, all kids,
is really important for kids, all kids,
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pretože ich učí posúdiť riziko
09:54
because it teaches hazard assessment,
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a predčasne sa neradovať,
09:57
it teaches delayed gratification,
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09:59
it teaches resilience,
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trénuje ich odolnosť a sebaistotu.
10:01
it teaches confidence.
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10:03
In other words,
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Inými slovami,
keď deti idú von a testujú svoju odvahu,
10:04
when kids get outside
and practice bravery,
and practice bravery,
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dostávajú hodnotné lekcie života.
10:07
they learn valuable life lessons.
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10:12
Second, we have to stop
cautioning our girls willy-nilly.
cautioning our girls willy-nilly.
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Po druhé,
musíme prestať neustále
upozorňovať naše dievčatá.
upozorňovať naše dievčatá.
10:17
So notice next time you say,
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Takže všímajte si sami seba,
keď nabudúce poviete:
keď nabudúce poviete:
10:19
"Watch out, you're going to get hurt,"
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„Dávaj si pozor, lebo sa zraníš“,
10:21
or, "Don't do that, it's dangerous."
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alebo „Nerob to, je to nebezpečné“.
10:24
And remember that often
what you're really telling her
what you're really telling her
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A pamätajte, že čo jej
v skutočnosti vravíte je,
v skutočnosti vravíte je,
že sa nemá príliš snažiť,
10:28
is that she shouldn't be pushing herself,
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že nie je dosť dobrá
10:30
that she's really not good enough,
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a že by sa mala báť.
10:32
that she should be afraid.
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10:36
Third,
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Po tretie,
10:38
we women have to start
practicing bravery, too.
practicing bravery, too.
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musíme aj my ženy začať cvičiť odvahu.
10:41
We cannot teach our girls
until we teach ourselves.
until we teach ourselves.
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Nemôžme učiť naše dievčatá,
pokiaľ sa to sami nenaučíme.
pokiaľ sa to sami nenaučíme.
10:45
So here's another thing:
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Ďalej,
10:47
fear and exhilaration
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strach a radosť prežívame podobne,
10:51
feel very similar --
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trasenie rúk,
10:53
the shaky hands,
the heightened heart rate,
the heightened heart rate,
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zrýchlený tep,
napäté nervy.
10:56
the nervous tension,
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A stavila by som sa,
10:57
and I'm betting that for many of you
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že skúsenosť, pred ktorou ste cúvli
10:59
the last time you thought
you were scared out of your wits,
you were scared out of your wits,
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lebo vás na smrť vyľakala,
11:02
you may have been feeling
mostly exhilaration,
mostly exhilaration,
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by väčšinu z vás posilnila
11:05
and now you've missed an opportunity.
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a vy ste tak o túto príležitosť prišli.
11:07
So practice.
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Takže začnite skúšať.
11:09
And while girls should be getting
outside to learn to be gutsy,
outside to learn to be gutsy,
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Zatiaľ čo dievčatá môžu ísť von
učiť sa byť odvážnymi,
učiť sa byť odvážnymi,
11:12
I get that adults don't want
to get on hoverboards or climb trees,
to get on hoverboards or climb trees,
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dospelí nebudú jazdiť na hoverboardoch
a liezť po stromoch.
a liezť po stromoch.
11:18
so we all should be practicing
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Ale môžeme trénovať doma, v práci,
11:22
at home, in the office
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alebo aj tu,
11:24
and even right here getting up the guts
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nájsť odvahu a prihovoriť sa
niekomu, koho obdivujete.
niekomu, koho obdivujete.
11:26
to talk to someone that you really admire.
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11:30
Finally, when your girl is, let's say,
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A na záver,
keď je vaša dcéra na bicykli,
povedzme na vrchole strmého kopca
11:34
on her bike on the top of the steep hill
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11:36
that she insists
she's too scared to go down,
she's too scared to go down,
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a bojí sa zísť dole,
11:39
guide her to access her bravery.
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veďte ju k tomu, aby sama
zhodnotila svoju odvahu.
zhodnotila svoju odvahu.
11:42
Ultimately, maybe that hill
really is too steep,
really is too steep,
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Napokon, ten kopec je možno
naozaj príliš strmý,
naozaj príliš strmý,
11:47
but she'll come to that conclusion
through courage, not fear.
through courage, not fear.
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ale k tomuto záveru musí dospieť
vďaka odvahe a nie zo strachu.
vďaka odvahe a nie zo strachu.
11:51
Because this is not
about the steep hill in front of her.
about the steep hill in front of her.
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Pretože toto nie je o tom
strmom kopci, ktorý je pred ňou.
strmom kopci, ktorý je pred ňou.
Je to o živote, ktorý má pred sebou,
11:55
This is about the life ahead of her
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11:58
and that she has the tools
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a o tom, že má prostriedky na to,
12:00
to handle and assess
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aby ohodnotila a zvládla
12:02
all the dangers
that we cannot protect her from,
that we cannot protect her from,
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všetky riziká, pred ktorými
ju ochrániť nemôžeme,
ju ochrániť nemôžeme,
12:05
all the challenges that we won't
be there to guide her through,
be there to guide her through,
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a výzvy, pri ktorých
jej nebudeme môcť radiť,
jej nebudeme môcť radiť,
12:10
everything that our girls here
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všetko, čomu naše dievčatá tu
a všade budú musieť v budúcnosti čeliť.
12:12
and around the world
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12:14
face in their future.
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12:18
So by the way,
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A mimochodom,
momentálny svetový rekord v plazení
12:20
the world record for crawling today --
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12:23
(Laughter)
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(smiech)
je 35,18 míľ
12:25
is 35.18 miles,
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(úžas)
a rada by som videla nejaké dievča
pokúsiť sa prekonať ho.
pokúsiť sa prekonať ho.
12:30
and I would really love
to see a girl go break that.
to see a girl go break that.
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12:34
(Applause)
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(potlesk)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Caroline Paul - AuthorBrimming with insights gained on her picaresque journey from firefighter to best-selling author, Caroline Paul’s "The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure" is a revolutionary guide for raising brave young women.
Why you should listen
Before launching her career as a writer, Caroline Paul embarked on a long list of unlikely adventures, ranging from flying experimental planes to whitewater rafting unexplored rivers in Borneo and Australia.
Paul was one of the first women to work for the San Francisco Fire Department -- a job that inspired her first work of nonfiction, Fighting Fire. Her latest book, The Gutsy Girl, uses stories from her own life as a gutsy woman to inspire girls to break the rules, take risks and accept seemingly insurmountable challenges.
Caroline Paul | Speaker | TED.com