Caroline Paul: To raise brave girls, encourage adventure
卡洛琳·保罗: 为了培育勇敢的女孩子,鼓励她们去冒险吧
Brimming with insights gained on her picaresque journey from firefighter to best-selling author, Caroline Paul’s "The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure" is a revolutionary guide for raising brave young women. Full bio
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对吉尼斯世界纪录大全很着迷,
with the Guinness Book of World Records,
属于我自己的世界纪录。
to set a world record myself.
完全不需要任何技巧
a world record in something
was 12 and a half miles,
this seemed totally manageable.
这看起来很容易办到。
甚至都不需要训练。
we didn't even need to train.
幸运牛仔裤外面,
on the outside of our good luck jeans
were bleeding through my jeans,
并且透过了牛仔裤,
of the suffer-fest that I was undergoing,
我当时遭受的痛苦,
the high school track took 10 minutes.
the 12-and-a-half-mile record.
this was a story of abject failure,
这是一个关于悲惨失败的故事,
attempting the world record,
the attributes of failure.
in a department of 1,500 men.
部门中的第15位女性员工。
能胜作这份工作的质疑。
about whether we could do the job.
150-pound collegiate rower,
体重150磅的大学赛艇手,
12 hours of searing knee pain --
长达12个小时的剧烈疼痛——
my strength and fitness.
我的实力以及我能够适应这里。
when my engine group pulled up,
我非常确定
from a building off an alleyway.
小巷中的一栋建筑中冒出。
斯基普的大个子在一起,
and I was right behind,
was supposed to do:
by a water heater,
最终也没酿成大的灾难。
and ultimately it was not a big deal,
the fire hadn't been difficult physically,
这场大火并不是很激烈,
with something like astonishment?
惊讶的神情看着我呢?
that women could not be strong,
could not be brave either.
所有的这些危险,
男消防员被问这些问题。
a male firefighter asked this.
女性的勇敢抱有期待?
感叹道她年轻的
was a big scaredy-cat,
the parents were anxious.
when she was outside began with,
她父母对她说得最多的就是,
much more than they caution their sons.
a playground fire pole, ironically,
消防滑杆的研究,讽刺的是,
were very likely to be warned
通常很有可能会被
about the fire pole's risk,
still wanted to play on the fire pole,
很可能陪伴她一起玩。
to play on the fire pole
that they might have,
guidance on how to use it on their own.
怎样独自去玩消防滑杆。
to both boys and girls?
女孩传递了怎样的信息呢?
and more in need of help,
更需要获得帮助,
master difficult tasks by themselves.
自己处理好困难的任务。
very alike physically.
身体上是非常相似的。
stronger until puberty,
之前女孩通常更强壮,
that we absorb as kids,
that fully permeates as we grow up.
整个成长的过程中。
男人也相信这一点,
we pass it on to our children,
把它又传给了下一代,
通常胆小害怕的原因。
won't believe me when I tell you this,
不会相信我跟你说的这些,
and it's there to keep us safe.
情绪,使我们保持安全。
when fear is the primary reaction
女儿在外遇到困难,
教导和鼓励她们
outside their comfort zone.
for many years --
像降落伞一样的翅膀,
it looks just like a bedsheet
对此有些害怕也是应该的。
a little fear would make sense here.
to come in just right,
or I wouldn't be there.
时候才会站在那里。
a thousand feet in the air.
高空中是多么的了不起。
your girls must be firefighters
our girls to be timid, even helpless,
女孩们培养得胆小,甚至无助,
against physical risk.
注意身体上的危险开始。
and the experiences we don't
我们不曾有过的经历
that we face and try to shed:
并且试图去摆脱的事情:
in our own decisions.
on that playground fire pole.
is really important for kids, all kids,
对小孩子很重要,对所有的小孩子,
and practice bravery,
cautioning our girls willy-nilly.
都不要再去警告女孩们。
what you're really telling her
practicing bravery, too.
until we teach ourselves.
我们没资格去教女孩们。
the heightened heart rate,
you were scared out of your wits,
mostly exhilaration,
outside to learn to be gutsy,
to get on hoverboards or climb trees,
she's too scared to go down,
太害怕了不敢骑下去,
really is too steep,
through courage, not fear.
about the steep hill in front of her.
that we cannot protect her from,
be there to guide her through,
to see a girl go break that.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Caroline Paul - AuthorBrimming with insights gained on her picaresque journey from firefighter to best-selling author, Caroline Paul’s "The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure" is a revolutionary guide for raising brave young women.
Why you should listen
Before launching her career as a writer, Caroline Paul embarked on a long list of unlikely adventures, ranging from flying experimental planes to whitewater rafting unexplored rivers in Borneo and Australia.
Paul was one of the first women to work for the San Francisco Fire Department -- a job that inspired her first work of nonfiction, Fighting Fire. Her latest book, The Gutsy Girl, uses stories from her own life as a gutsy woman to inspire girls to break the rules, take risks and accept seemingly insurmountable challenges.
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