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Caroline Paul - Author
Brimming with insights gained on her picaresque journey from firefighter to best-selling author, Caroline Paul’s "The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure" is a revolutionary guide for raising brave young women.

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Before launching her career as a writer, Caroline Paul embarked on a long list of unlikely adventures, ranging from flying experimental planes to whitewater rafting unexplored rivers in Borneo and Australia.

Paul was one of the first women to work for the San Francisco Fire Department -- a job that inspired her first work of nonfiction, Fighting Fire. Her latest book, The Gutsy Girl, uses stories from her own life as a gutsy woman to inspire girls to break the rules, take risks and accept seemingly insurmountable challenges.

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卡洛琳·保罗: 为了培育勇敢的女孩子,鼓励她们去冒险吧

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勇敢的女孩子玩滑板、爬树、到处攀爬,然后摔倒、擦伤膝盖,得到适当的支持——最后成长为一名勇敢的女性。从消防员、滑翔伞运动员以及全能冒险者卡洛琳·保罗的故事和建议中,学会如何通过激发一点富有成效的危险游戏,培育出自信的女孩。
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在我小的时候,
对吉尼斯世界纪录大全很着迷,
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When I was a kid孩子, I was obsessed痴迷
with the Guinness吉尼斯 Book of World世界 Records记录,
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并且真的很想创造一个
属于我自己的世界纪录。
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and I really wanted
to set a world世界 record记录 myself.
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But there was just one small problem问题:
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但是有一个小问题:
那就是我完全没有什么天赋。
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I had absolutely绝对 no talent天赋.
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所以我决定去创造一个
完全不需要任何技巧
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So I decided决定 to set
a world世界 record记录 in something
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就能达成的世界纪录。
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that demanded要求 absolutely绝对 no skill技能 at all.
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I decided决定 to set a world世界 record记录
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我决定去创造一个
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in crawling爬行.
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爬行的世界纪录。
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(Laughter笑声)
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(笑声)
当时的纪录是12.5英里,
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Now, the record记录 at the time
was 12 and a half miles英里,
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and for some reason原因,
this seemed似乎 totally完全 manageable管理.
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而且出于某种原因
这看起来很容易办到。
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(Laughter笑声)
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(笑声)
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I recruited应征 my friend朋友 Anne安妮,
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我找来了我的朋友安妮,
我们一起决定行动了,
甚至都不需要训练。
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and together一起 we decided决定,
we didn't even need to train培养.
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(笑声)
00:59
(Laughter笑声)
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在我们挑战纪录那一天,
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And on the day of our record记录 attempt尝试,
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我们将家具垫绑在
幸运牛仔裤外面,
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we put furniture家具 pads
on the outside of our good luck运气 jeans牛仔裤
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01:08
and we set off,
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然后我们开始了,
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and right away, we were in trouble麻烦,
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很快,我们就遇到麻烦了,
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because the denim牛仔布 was against反对 our skin皮肤
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因为牛仔布料会产生磨擦,
开始擦伤皮肤,
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and it began开始 to chafe摩擦,
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and soon不久 our knees膝盖 were being存在 chewed咀嚼 up.
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所以很快我们的膝盖就磨破了。
几个小时后,
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Hours小时 in,
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it began开始 to rain.
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开始下雨了。
然后,安妮退出了。
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Then, Anne安妮 dropped下降 out.
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Then, it got dark黑暗.
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再然后,天黑了。
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Now, by now, my knees膝盖
were bleeding流血的 through通过 my jeans牛仔裤,
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到了这会儿,我的膝盖血流不止,
并且透过了牛仔裤,
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and I was hallucinating幻觉 from the cold
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寒冷的天气、疼痛,
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and the pain疼痛 and the monotony单调.
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以及单调的动作使我产生了幻觉。
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And to give you an idea理念
of the suffer-fest遭受巨星 that I was undergoing经历,
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可以给你们形容一下
我当时遭受的痛苦,
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the first lap膝部 around
the high school学校 track跟踪 took 10 minutes分钟.
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爬完第一圈跑道花了我们10分钟。
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The last lap膝部 took almost几乎 30.
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而最后一圈差不多是30分钟。
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After 12 hours小时 of crawling爬行,
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在12个小时的爬行后,
我停下了,
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I stopped停止,
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我总共爬了8.5英里。
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and I had gone走了 eight and a half miles英里.
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离12.5英里的纪录还有一定距离。
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So I was short of
the 12-and-a-half-mile- 和一个半英里 record记录.
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02:07
Now, for many许多 years年份, I thought
this was a story故事 of abject卑劣 failure失败,
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此后很多年,我一直认为
这是一个关于悲惨失败的故事,
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but today今天 I see it differently不同,
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但是今天我对此有了另一种看法,
因为当我向世界纪录冲刺的时候,
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because when I was
attempting尝试 the world世界 record记录,
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02:17
I was doing three things.
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我做着三件事。
我在走出我的安乐窝,
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I was getting得到 outside my comfort安慰 zone,
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I was calling调用 upon my resilience弹性,
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我在号召我的恢复力,
我在为我自己以及我所做的
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and I was finding发现 confidence置信度 in myself
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and my own拥有 decisions决定.
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决定找回自信。
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I didn't know it then,
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当时我并没有意识到,
但是这些都不是失败所具有的特质。
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but those are not
the attributes属性 of failure失败.
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02:33
Those are the attributes属性 of bravery.
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而是勇气的特征。
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Now, in 1989, at the age年龄 of 26,
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到了1989年,我26岁时
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I became成为 a San Francisco弗朗西斯科 firefighter消防队员,
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成为了旧金山的一名消防员,
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and I was the 15th woman女人
in a department of 1,500 men男人.
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而我是这个有着1500人的
部门中的第15位女性员工。
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(Applause掌声)
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(掌声)
正如你们所想象的,当我入职时
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And as you can imagine想像, when I arrived到达
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面临着许多对于我是否
能胜作这份工作的质疑。
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there were many许多 doubts疑惑
about whether是否 we could do the job工作.
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So even though虽然 I was a 5'10",
150-pound-磅 collegiate合议 rower划手,
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虽然我曾是身高177cm,
体重150磅的大学赛艇手,
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and someone有人 who could endure忍受
12 hours小时 of searing灼热 knee膝盖 pain疼痛 --
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并且能够忍受膝盖上
长达12个小时的剧烈疼痛——
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(Laughter笑声)
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(笑声)
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I knew知道 I still had to prove证明
my strength强度 and fitness身体素质.
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但我知道我依然不得不证明
我的实力以及我能够适应这里。
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So one day a call came来了 in for a fire,
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有一天,一个火警电话打了进来,
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and sure enough足够,
when my engine发动机 group pulled up,
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当我们消防小队赶到的时候,
我非常确定
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there was black黑色 smoke抽烟 billowing滚滚
from a building建造 off an alleyway胡同.
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滚滚黑烟正从一个
小巷中的一栋建筑中冒出。
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And I was with a big guy named命名 Skip跳跃,
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而我当时正跟一个叫做
斯基普的大个子在一起,
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and he was on the nozzle喷嘴,
and I was right behind背后,
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他在消防车喷头那里,我在他后方,
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and it was a typical典型 sort分类 of fire.
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这是一次很典型的火灾。
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It was smoky, it was hot,
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浓烟弥漫,高温炙热,
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and all of a sudden突然,
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突然之间
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there was an explosion爆炸,
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发生了爆炸,
斯基普和我被震得朝后飞去,
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and Skip跳跃 and I were blown backwards向后,
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my mask面具 was knocked被撞 sideways侧身,
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我的面罩被撞到了路边,
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and there was this moment时刻 of confusion混乱.
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这一刻一切都陷入了混乱之中。
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And then I picked采摘的 myself up,
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然后我迅速的爬起来,
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I groped摸索 for the nozzle喷嘴,
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去摸索寻找喷头,
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and I did what a firefighter消防队员
was supposed应该 to do:
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我做了一个消防员应该做的:
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I lunged扑来 forward前锋,
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我向前冲过去,
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opened打开 up the water
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打开了水龙头,
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and I tackled解决 the fire myself.
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一个人扑灭了大火。
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The explosion爆炸 had been caused造成
by a water heater加热器,
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爆炸是由一个热水器引起的,
所幸没人受伤,
最终也没酿成大的灾难。
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so nobody没有人 was hurt伤害,
and ultimately最终 it was not a big deal合同,
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but later后来 Skip跳跃 came来了 up to me and said,
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然而稍后斯吉普过来,
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"Nice尼斯 job工作, Caroline卡罗琳,"
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用那种带着吃惊的声音对我说,
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in this surprised诧异 sort分类 of voice语音.
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“干得好,卡洛琳。”
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(Laughter笑声)
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(笑声)
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And I was confused困惑, because
the fire hadn't有没有 been difficult physically物理,
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我当时就懵了,因为
这场大火并不是很激烈,
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so why was he looking at me
with something like astonishment惊愕?
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那么他为什么会用这种
惊讶的神情看着我呢?
后来我就明白了:
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And then it became成为 clear明确:
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04:20
Skip跳跃, who was by the way a really nice不错 guy
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斯吉普,当然他是一个很好的人,
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and an excellent优秀 firefighter消防队员,
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而且也是一个出色的消防员,
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not only thought
that women妇女 could not be strong强大,
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但他不仅不认为女性能够足够强壮,
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he thought that they
could not be brave勇敢 either.
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也不认为女性可以非常勇敢。
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And he wasn't the only one.
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而且他并不是唯一一个这么想的人。
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Friends, acquaintances熟人 and strangers陌生人,
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不管是朋友、熟人还是陌生人,
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men男人 and women妇女 throughout始终 my career事业
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不分男女,在我的整个职业生涯中
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ask me over and over,
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一遍又一遍的问我,
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"Caroline卡罗琳, all that fire, all that danger危险,
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“卡洛琳,面对所有的这些大火,
所有的这些危险,
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aren't you scared害怕?"
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你害怕过吗?”
说实话,我从来没听过一个
男消防员被问这些问题。
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Honestly老老实实, I never heard听说
a male firefighter消防队员 asked this.
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And I became成为 curious好奇.
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所以我变得好奇。
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Why wasn't bravery expected预期 of women妇女?
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为什么人们都不对
女性的勇敢抱有期待?
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Now, the answer回答 began开始 to come
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当我的一个朋友对我
感叹道她年轻的
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when a friend朋友 of mine lamented感叹 to me
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女儿很容易受到惊吓时,
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that her young年轻 daughter女儿
was a big scaredy-cat胆小的猫,
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答案在我的脑海中开始显现出来,
从那时起我开始留意,
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and so I began开始 to notice注意,
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and yes, the daughter女儿 was anxious,
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是的,那个朋友的女儿很焦虑,
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but more than that,
the parents父母 were anxious.
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但不仅如此,她的父母也很焦虑。
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Most of what they said to her
when she was outside began开始 with,
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当她去室外玩耍时,
她父母对她说得最多的就是,
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"Be careful小心," "Watch out," or "No."
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“当心点”、“注意点”或者“不行”。
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Now, my friends朋友 were not bad parents父母.
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我朋友他们是很好的父母。
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They were just doing what most parents父母 do,
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他们只是做了大部分父母做的,
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which哪一个 is cautioning警诫 their daughters女儿
much more than they caution警告 their sons儿子.
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即对女儿的担心程度要比儿子大得多。
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There was a study研究 involving涉及
a playground操场 fire pole, ironically讽刺地,
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曾经有一个涉及到游乐场里
消防滑杆的研究,讽刺的是,
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in which哪一个 researchers研究人员 saw that little girls女孩
were very likely容易 to be warned警告
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研究人员发现小女孩
通常很有可能会被
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by both their moms妈妈 and dads爸爸
about the fire pole's极的 risk风险,
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她的父母们警告消防滑杆的危险性,
05:44
and if the little girls女孩
still wanted to play on the fire pole,
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如果那个小女孩还是想要玩消防滑杆,
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a parent was very likely容易 to assist助攻 her.
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那么父母中的一个会
很可能陪伴她一起玩。
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But the little boys男孩?
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但是如果换成小男孩子呢?
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They were encouraged鼓励
to play on the fire pole
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他们通常被鼓励去玩消防滑杆,
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despite尽管 any trepidations心中无数
that they might威力 have,
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也不管他们是否会害怕,
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and often经常 the parents父母 offered提供
guidance指导 on how to use it on their own拥有.
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并且通常父母会指导他们
怎样独自去玩消防滑杆。
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So what message信息 does this send发送
to both boys男孩 and girls女孩?
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那么这个行为给这些男孩和
女孩传递了怎样的信息呢?
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Well, that girls女孩 are fragile脆弱
and more in need of help,
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那就是,女孩是脆弱的,
更需要获得帮助,
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and that boys男孩 can and should
master difficult tasks任务 by themselves他们自己.
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而男孩能够并且应该
自己处理好困难的任务。
06:18
It says that girls女孩 should be fearful可怕
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人们说女孩应该谨小慎微,
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and boys男孩 should be gutsy勇敢.
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而男孩应该勇敢。
06:25
Now, the irony讽刺 is that at this young年轻 age年龄,
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但讽刺的地方是在这么小的年纪,
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girls女孩 and boys男孩 are actually其实
very alike一样 physically物理.
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事实上男孩和女孩在
身体上是非常相似的。
06:30
In fact事实, girls女孩 are often经常
stronger until直到 puberty青春期,
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事实上,在青春期
之前女孩通常更强壮,
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and more mature成熟.
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也更成熟。
06:34
And yet然而 we adults成年人 act法案
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然而我们成年人表现出来的却是
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as if girls女孩 are more fragile脆弱
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好像女孩子更加的脆弱,
06:38
and more in need of help,
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更需要帮助,
06:40
and they can't handle处理 as much.
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以及她们不能应付很多事情。
06:43
This is the message信息
that we absorb吸收 as kids孩子,
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这是我们从小就接受的信息,
06:45
and this is the message信息
that fully充分 permeates渗透 as we grow增长 up.
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这个信息也渗透进我们
整个成长的过程中。
06:49
We women妇女 believe it, men男人 believe it,
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我们女人相信这一点,
男人也相信这一点,
06:51
and guess猜测 what?
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猜一下怎么着?
06:53
As we become成为 parents父母,
we pass通过 it on to our children孩子,
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当我们成为父母时,我们
把它又传给了下一代,
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and so it goes.
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就这样一代代传下去。
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Well, so now I had my answer回答.
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现在我已经有了答案。
07:01
This is why women妇女, even firewomenfirewomen,
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这就是为什么女人,甚至是女消防员,
07:03
were expected预期 to be scared害怕.
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也被认为是胆怯的。
07:05
This is why women妇女 often经常 are scared害怕.
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这也是为什么女人
通常胆小害怕的原因。
07:09
Now, I know some of you
won't惯于 believe me when I tell you this,
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我知道你们中的一部分人
不会相信我跟你说的这些,
07:13
but I am not against反对 fear恐惧.
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但是我并不是反对恐惧感。
07:16
I know it's an important重要 emotion情感,
and it's there to keep us safe安全.
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我知道它是一种很重要的
情绪,使我们保持安全。
07:20
But the problem问题 is
when fear恐惧 is the primary reaction反应
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但是如果每当我们的
女儿在外遇到困难,
07:23
that we teach and encourage鼓励 in girls女孩
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我们的第一反应就是
教导和鼓励她们
07:25
whenever每当 they face面对 something
outside their comfort安慰 zone.
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去害怕的话,这就是个问题了。
07:29
So I was a paraglider滑翔伞 pilot飞行员
for many许多 years年份 --
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我曾经做过很多年的滑翔伞运动员——
07:33
(Applause掌声)
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(掌声)
07:35
and a paraglider滑翔伞 is a parachute-like降落伞状 wing翅膀,
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滑翔伞就是一个
像降落伞一样的翅膀,
07:38
and it does fly very well,
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它能够很好的飞翔,
07:41
but to many许多 people I realize实现
it looks容貌 just like a bedsheet床单
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但是我意识到对很多人来说它看起来
07:44
with strings字符串 attached.
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就像是一张系了绳子的床单。
07:46
(Laughter笑声)
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(笑声)
07:47
And I spent花费 a lot of time on mountaintops山顶
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我花了很多时间在山顶
07:50
inflating充气 this bedsheet床单,
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给这些床单充气,
07:51
running赛跑 off and flying飞行.
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然后一跃而下并飞翔。
07:54
And I know what you're thinking思维.
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我知道你们在想什么。
你们在想,卡洛琳,人们
对此有些害怕也是应该的。
07:56
You're like, Caroline卡罗琳,
a little fear恐惧 would make sense here.
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08:00
And you're right, it does.
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没错,你们是对的,的确如此。
08:02
I assure保证 you, I did feel fear恐惧.
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我的确也害怕过。
08:05
But on that mountaintop山顶,
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但是站在山顶上,
08:06
waiting等候 for the wind
to come in just right,
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等待正确的风向时,
08:08
I felt so many许多 other things, too:
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我也会感受到很多其它的东西:
08:10
exhilaration不亦乐乎, confidence置信度.
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比如快乐、自信。
08:14
I knew知道 I was a good pilot飞行员.
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我知道我是一个很好的滑翔伞运动员,
08:15
I knew知道 the conditions条件 were good,
or I wouldn't不会 be there.
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只有当我确认条件适合的
时候才会站在那里。
08:18
I knew知道 how great it was going to be
a thousand feet in the air空气.
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我知道飞翔在300米的
高空中是多么的了不起。
08:22
So yes, fear恐惧 was there,
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是的,有过害怕,
08:25
but I would take a good hard look at it,
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但是我会仔细的审视它,
08:27
assess评估 just how relevant相应 it was
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评估它的重要性,
08:29
and then put it where it belonged属于,
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然后把它放在正确的位置,
08:32
which哪一个 was more often经常 than not
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而它通常是排在
08:33
behind背后 my exhilaration不亦乐乎, my anticipation预期
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我的愉快、期待
08:37
and my confidence置信度.
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和信心之后。
08:39
So I'm not against反对 fear恐惧.
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因此我不是反对害怕。
08:41
I'm just pro-bravery亲胆.
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我只是支持勇敢。
08:46
Now, I'm not saying
your girls女孩 must必须 be firefighters消防员
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我不是说女孩子必须要成为消防员,
08:49
or that they should be paragliders滑翔伞,
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或者滑翔伞运动员,
08:52
but I am saying that we are raising提高
our girls女孩 to be timid胆小, even helpless无助,
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而是想说我们正在把我们的
女孩们培养得胆小,甚至无助,
08:57
and it begins开始 when we caution警告 them
against反对 physical物理 risk风险.
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这一切都从我们提醒她们
注意身体上的危险开始。
09:01
The fear恐惧 we learn学习
and the experiences经验 we don't
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我们学到的恐惧感和那些
我们不曾有过的经历
09:03
stay with us as we become成为 women妇女
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伴随着我们长大成为女人,
09:05
and morphs变种 into all those things
that we face面对 and try to shed:
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然后演变成那些我们所面对
并且试图去摆脱的事情:
09:10
our hesitation犹豫 in speaking请讲 out,
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我们因犹豫而不敢发声,
09:12
our deference尊重 so that we can be liked喜欢
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我们顺从以招人喜欢,
09:15
and our lack缺乏 of confidence置信度
in our own拥有 decisions决定.
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以及对自己的决定缺乏信心。
09:18
So how do we become成为 brave勇敢?
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那么我们如何变得勇敢呢?
09:22
Well, here's这里的 the good news新闻.
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这里有一些好消息。
09:24
Bravery is learned学到了,
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勇敢是可以学来的,
09:26
and like anything learned学到了,
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就像任何可以学的事情一样,
09:27
it just needs需求 to be practiced.
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它只需要多加练习。
09:30
So first,
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所以首先,
09:31
we have to take a deep breath呼吸
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我们需要做一个深呼吸。
09:33
and encourage鼓励 our girls女孩
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然后鼓励我们的女孩们
09:35
to skateboard滑板, climb trees树木
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去玩滑板、去爬树,
09:38
and clamber around
on that playground操场 fire pole.
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以及围绕游乐场的消防滑杆攀爬。
09:41
This is what my own拥有 mother母亲 did.
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我的母亲就是这么做的。
09:43
She didn't know it then,
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她当时并不知道什么理论,
09:45
but researchers研究人员 have a name名称 for this.
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但是研究人员对此有一个专门的名称,
09:47
They call it risky有风险 play,
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叫做危险游戏。
09:49
and studies学习 show显示 that risky有风险 play
is really important重要 for kids孩子, all kids孩子,
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研究表明危险游戏真的
对小孩子很重要,对所有的小孩子,
09:54
because it teaches hazard冒险 assessment评定,
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因为它教会你去评估危险,
09:57
it teaches delayed延迟 gratification享乐,
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它教会你延迟享乐,
09:59
it teaches resilience弹性,
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让你更有你韧性,
10:01
it teaches confidence置信度.
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为你带来你信心。
10:03
In other words,
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换而言之,
10:04
when kids孩子 get outside
and practice实践 bravery,
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当孩子们走到室外并练习勇敢时,
10:07
they learn学习 valuable有价值 life lessons教训.
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他们在学习非常有价值的人生课程。
10:12
Second第二, we have to stop
cautioning警诫 our girls女孩 willy-nilly不管三七二十一.
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第二,不管愿不愿意,
都不要再去警告女孩们。
10:17
So notice注意 next下一个 time you say,
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所以要留意下次想说
“小心点,你会受伤的,”
10:19
"Watch out, you're going to get hurt伤害,"
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或者“不要那样做,很危险”的时候。
10:21
or, "Don't do that, it's dangerous危险."
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10:24
And remember记得 that often经常
what you're really telling告诉 her
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请记住通常你真正想告诉她的是
10:28
is that she shouldn't不能 be pushing推动 herself她自己,
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她不应该去逼自己,
10:30
that she's really not good enough足够,
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她的能力有限,
10:32
that she should be afraid害怕.
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以及她应该害怕。
10:36
Third第三,
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第三,
10:38
we women妇女 have to start开始
practicing bravery, too.
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女性也需要开始去练习勇敢。
10:41
We cannot不能 teach our girls女孩
until直到 we teach ourselves我们自己.
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在我们教会自己之前
我们没资格去教女孩们。
10:45
So here's这里的 another另一个 thing:
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还有一件事:
10:47
fear恐惧 and exhilaration不亦乐乎
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害怕和愉快
10:51
feel very similar类似 --
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是很相似的感受——
10:53
the shaky摇摇欲坠 hands,
the heightened提高 heart rate,
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发抖的双手,加快的心跳,
10:56
the nervous紧张 tension张力,
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紧绷的神经,
10:57
and I'm betting博彩 that for many许多 of you
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我敢说对于大多数的你们来说,
上一次当你被吓到的时候,
10:59
the last time you thought
you were scared害怕 out of your wits斗智斗勇,
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11:02
you may可能 have been feeling感觉
mostly大多 exhilaration不亦乐乎,
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你很可能更多感到的是愉快,
11:05
and now you've missed错过 an opportunity机会.
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但是现在你已失去这一机会。
11:07
So practice实践.
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因此要不断练习。
11:09
And while girls女孩 should be getting得到
outside to learn学习 to be gutsy勇敢,
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同时女孩们应该出去学习变得胆大,
11:12
I get that adults成年人 don't want
to get on hoverboards悬浮滑板 or climb trees树木,
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我知道成年人不会想去滑板或者爬树,
11:18
so we all should be practicing
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所以我们所有的人都需要练习,
11:22
at home, in the office办公室
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不管是在家,还是在办公室,
11:24
and even right here getting得到 up the guts胆量
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甚至就在此时此刻鼓起勇气
11:26
to talk to someone有人 that you really admire欣赏.
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跟那个你钦佩的人交谈。
11:30
Finally最后, when your girl女孩 is, let's say,
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最后,当你的女儿,比方说,
11:34
on her bike自行车 on the top最佳 of the steep hill爬坡道
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坐在陡坡上的自行车上时,
11:36
that she insists坚持
she's too scared害怕 to go down,
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如果她坚持认为她
太害怕了不敢骑下去,
11:39
guide指南 her to access访问 her bravery.
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那么指导她去接近勇敢。
11:42
Ultimately最终,, maybe that hill爬坡道
really is too steep,
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最终,也许那个坡的确太陡,
11:47
but she'll贝壳 come to that conclusion结论
through通过 courage勇气, not fear恐惧.
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但是她会用勇气而不是害怕去克服它。
因为这与她面前的陡坡无关。
11:51
Because this is not
about the steep hill爬坡道 in front面前 of her.
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11:55
This is about the life ahead of her
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这关乎她以后的人生
11:58
and that she has the tools工具
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而她获得了这些工具
12:00
to handle处理 and assess评估
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去处理和接近
12:02
all the dangers危险
that we cannot不能 protect保护 her from,
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所有那些我们不能保护她远离的危险,
12:05
all the challenges挑战 that we won't惯于
be there to guide指南 her through通过,
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所有那些我们不能指导她通过的挑战,
12:10
everything that our girls女孩 here
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以及所有今天在座的女孩
12:12
and around the world世界
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以及全世界的女孩
12:14
face面对 in their future未来.
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在未来可能面对的事情。
12:18
So by the way,
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顺便说一下,
12:20
the world世界 record记录 for crawling爬行 today今天 --
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那个爬行的世界纪录现在是——
12:23
(Laughter笑声)
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(笑声)
12:25
is 35.18 miles英里,
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已经是35.18英里了,
12:30
and I would really love
to see a girl女孩 go break打破 that.
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而我真的很想看到一个女孩去打破它。
12:34
(Applause掌声)
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(掌声)
Translated by chunhua zhang
Reviewed by Jingdan Niu

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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Caroline Paul - Author
Brimming with insights gained on her picaresque journey from firefighter to best-selling author, Caroline Paul’s "The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure" is a revolutionary guide for raising brave young women.

Why you should listen

Before launching her career as a writer, Caroline Paul embarked on a long list of unlikely adventures, ranging from flying experimental planes to whitewater rafting unexplored rivers in Borneo and Australia.

Paul was one of the first women to work for the San Francisco Fire Department -- a job that inspired her first work of nonfiction, Fighting Fire. Her latest book, The Gutsy Girl, uses stories from her own life as a gutsy woman to inspire girls to break the rules, take risks and accept seemingly insurmountable challenges.

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