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Caroline Paul: To raise brave girls, encourage adventure
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Caroline Paul - Author
Brimming with insights gained on her picaresque journey from firefighter to best-selling author, Caroline Paul’s "The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure" is a revolutionary guide for raising brave young women. Full bio
Brimming with insights gained on her picaresque journey from firefighter to best-selling author, Caroline Paul’s "The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure" is a revolutionary guide for raising brave young women. Full bio
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00:12
When I was a kid, I was obsessed
with the Guinness Book of World Records,
with the Guinness Book of World Records,
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Kad sam bila dete, bila sam opsednuta
Ginisovom knjigom svetskih rekorda
Ginisovom knjigom svetskih rekorda
00:17
and I really wanted
to set a world record myself.
to set a world record myself.
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i zaista sam želela
da sama postavim svetski rekord.
da sama postavim svetski rekord.
00:20
But there was just one small problem:
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Ali postojao je jedan mali problem:
00:23
I had absolutely no talent.
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uopšte nisam bila talentovana.
00:26
So I decided to set
a world record in something
a world record in something
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Pa sam odlučila da postavim
svetski rekord u nečemu
svetski rekord u nečemu
00:29
that demanded absolutely no skill at all.
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što ne zahteva apsolutno nikakve veštine.
00:33
I decided to set a world record
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Odlučila sam da postavim svetski rekord
00:36
in crawling.
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u puzanju.
00:39
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
00:42
Now, the record at the time
was 12 and a half miles,
was 12 and a half miles,
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Sad, tadašnji rekord je iznosio 20,1 km
00:47
and for some reason,
this seemed totally manageable.
this seemed totally manageable.
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i iz nekog razloga
se ovo činilo potpuno izvodljivim.
se ovo činilo potpuno izvodljivim.
00:51
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
00:54
I recruited my friend Anne,
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Regrutovala sam prijateljicu Anu
00:56
and together we decided,
we didn't even need to train.
we didn't even need to train.
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i zajedno smo odlučile
da nam nije potreban trening.
da nam nije potreban trening.
00:59
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:03
And on the day of our record attempt,
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A na dan kad smo napale rekord,
01:04
we put furniture pads
on the outside of our good luck jeans
on the outside of our good luck jeans
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stavile smo uloške za nameštaj
sa spoljašnje strane srećnih farmerica
sa spoljašnje strane srećnih farmerica
01:08
and we set off,
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i krenule smo,
01:10
and right away, we were in trouble,
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i odmah smo bile u nevolji
01:13
because the denim was against our skin
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jer nam je teksas bio do kože
01:15
and it began to chafe,
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i počeo je da žulja
01:17
and soon our knees were being chewed up.
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i uskoro je počeo da nam izjeda kolena.
01:20
Hours in,
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Satima kasnije,
01:23
it began to rain.
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počela je kiša.
01:25
Then, Anne dropped out.
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Onda je Ana odustala.
01:29
Then, it got dark.
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Potom se smračilo.
01:32
Now, by now, my knees
were bleeding through my jeans,
were bleeding through my jeans,
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E sad, do tad su mi kolena
krvarila kroz farmerice
krvarila kroz farmerice
01:35
and I was hallucinating from the cold
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i halucinirala sam od hladnoće
01:37
and the pain and the monotony.
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i bola i monotonije.
01:40
And to give you an idea
of the suffer-fest that I was undergoing,
of the suffer-fest that I was undergoing,
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A da bih vam dala ideju
o agoniji kroz koju sam prolazila,
o agoniji kroz koju sam prolazila,
01:45
the first lap around
the high school track took 10 minutes.
the high school track took 10 minutes.
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prvi krug po stazi oko srednje škole
trajao je deset minuta.
trajao je deset minuta.
01:49
The last lap took almost 30.
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Poslednji krug je trajao skoro 30.
01:54
After 12 hours of crawling,
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Nakon 12 sati puzanja,
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I stopped,
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stala sam,
01:59
and I had gone eight and a half miles.
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a bila sam prešla 13,7 kilometara.
02:03
So I was short of
the 12-and-a-half-mile record.
the 12-and-a-half-mile record.
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Dakle, bila sam ispod
rekorda od 20,1 kilometar.
rekorda od 20,1 kilometar.
02:07
Now, for many years, I thought
this was a story of abject failure,
this was a story of abject failure,
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Sad, mnogo godina sam mislila
da je ovo priča o ubedljivom porazu,
da je ovo priča o ubedljivom porazu,
02:12
but today I see it differently,
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ali danas na to gledam drugačije
02:14
because when I was
attempting the world record,
attempting the world record,
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jer kad sam napadala svetski rekord,
02:17
I was doing three things.
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radila sam tri stvari.
02:19
I was getting outside my comfort zone,
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Izlazila sam iz stanja udobnosti,
02:21
I was calling upon my resilience,
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izazivala sam svoju otpornost
02:23
and I was finding confidence in myself
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i tragala sam za samopuzdanjem u sebi
02:26
and my own decisions.
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i u sopstvenim odlukama.
02:28
I didn't know it then,
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Tada nisam znala
02:29
but those are not
the attributes of failure.
the attributes of failure.
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kako to nisu atributi za neuspeh.
02:33
Those are the attributes of bravery.
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To su atributi za hrabrost.
02:37
Now, in 1989, at the age of 26,
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Sad, 1989, u 26. godini,
02:39
I became a San Francisco firefighter,
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postala sam vatrogaska u San Francisku
02:42
and I was the 15th woman
in a department of 1,500 men.
in a department of 1,500 men.
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i bila sam 15. žena
u odseku od 1500 muškaraca.
u odseku od 1500 muškaraca.
02:47
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
I kao što pretpostavljate, kad sam stigla
02:53
And as you can imagine, when I arrived
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02:55
there were many doubts
about whether we could do the job.
about whether we could do the job.
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mnogo se sumnjalo u to
da li možemo da obavljamo posao.
da li možemo da obavljamo posao.
02:57
So even though I was a 5'10",
150-pound collegiate rower,
150-pound collegiate rower,
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Pa, iako sam bila
studentska kajakašica od 177,8 cm i 68 kg,
studentska kajakašica od 177,8 cm i 68 kg,
03:03
and someone who could endure
12 hours of searing knee pain --
12 hours of searing knee pain --
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i neko koje mogao da istrpi
12 sati razornog bola u kolenima -
12 sati razornog bola u kolenima -
03:07
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
03:09
I knew I still had to prove
my strength and fitness.
my strength and fitness.
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Znala sam da moram da dokažem
svoju snagu i kondiciju.
svoju snagu i kondiciju.
03:12
So one day a call came in for a fire,
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Jednog dana
stigao je poziv zbog požara
stigao je poziv zbog požara
03:14
and sure enough,
when my engine group pulled up,
when my engine group pulled up,
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i čim se moja grupa u vozilu zaustavila,
03:16
there was black smoke billowing
from a building off an alleyway.
from a building off an alleyway.
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videli smo tamni dim kako kulja
iz zgrade pored ulice.
iz zgrade pored ulice.
03:20
And I was with a big guy named Skip,
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Ja sam bila sa krupnim momkom
po imenu Skip,
po imenu Skip,
03:22
and he was on the nozzle,
and I was right behind,
and I was right behind,
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i on je držao crevo
a ja sam bila tik iza njega,
a ja sam bila tik iza njega,
03:25
and it was a typical sort of fire.
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i bio je to nekako tipičan požar.
03:27
It was smoky, it was hot,
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Bilo je mnogo dima, vrelo
03:30
and all of a sudden,
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i iznenada
03:32
there was an explosion,
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desila se eksplozija,
03:34
and Skip and I were blown backwards,
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a Skip i ja smo odgurnuti unazad,
03:36
my mask was knocked sideways,
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maska mi se oborila sa strane
03:38
and there was this moment of confusion.
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i nastao je trenutak zbunjenosti.
03:40
And then I picked myself up,
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I onda sam se podigla,
03:44
I groped for the nozzle,
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opipala sam crevo
03:46
and I did what a firefighter
was supposed to do:
was supposed to do:
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i uradila sam ono
što bi vatrogasci trebalo da rade:
što bi vatrogasci trebalo da rade:
03:48
I lunged forward,
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trgnula sam se napred,
03:50
opened up the water
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pustila vodu
03:51
and I tackled the fire myself.
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i sama sam se izborila s vatrom.
03:54
The explosion had been caused
by a water heater,
by a water heater,
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Eksploziju je izazvao bojler,
03:57
so nobody was hurt,
and ultimately it was not a big deal,
and ultimately it was not a big deal,
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te niko nije povređen
i naposletku nije bilo strašno,
i naposletku nije bilo strašno,
03:59
but later Skip came up to me and said,
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ali mi je kasnije prišao Skip i rekao:
04:03
"Nice job, Caroline,"
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"Odličan posao, Karolin",
04:04
in this surprised sort of voice.
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nekako iznenađenim glasom.
04:07
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
04:09
And I was confused, because
the fire hadn't been difficult physically,
the fire hadn't been difficult physically,
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A ja sam bila zbunjena
jer požar nije bio fizički zahtevan,
jer požar nije bio fizički zahtevan,
04:13
so why was he looking at me
with something like astonishment?
with something like astonishment?
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pa zašto me je gledao nekako zapanjeno?
04:18
And then it became clear:
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A potom mi je postalo jasno:
04:20
Skip, who was by the way a really nice guy
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Skip, koji je usput zaista fin momak
04:23
and an excellent firefighter,
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i odličan vatrogasac,
04:25
not only thought
that women could not be strong,
that women could not be strong,
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ne samo da je smatrao
kako žene ne mogu da budu jake,
kako žene ne mogu da budu jake,
04:28
he thought that they
could not be brave either.
could not be brave either.
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smatrao je da ne mogu ni da budu hrabre.
04:32
And he wasn't the only one.
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A on nije bio usamljen.
04:35
Friends, acquaintances and strangers,
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Prijatelji, poznanici stranci,
04:37
men and women throughout my career
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muškarci i žene čitavu moju karijeru
04:39
ask me over and over,
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pitaju me iznova i iznova:
04:41
"Caroline, all that fire, all that danger,
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"Karolina, sva ta vatra, sva ta opasnost,
04:45
aren't you scared?"
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zar te nije strah?"
04:47
Honestly, I never heard
a male firefighter asked this.
a male firefighter asked this.
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Iskreno, nikad nisam čula
da muškog vatrogasca to pitaju.
da muškog vatrogasca to pitaju.
04:50
And I became curious.
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Pa sam postala znatiželjna.
04:53
Why wasn't bravery expected of women?
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Zašto se hrabrost ne očekuje od žena?
04:57
Now, the answer began to come
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Sad, odgovor je počeo da se začinje
04:59
when a friend of mine lamented to me
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kad mi se prijateljica požalila
05:01
that her young daughter
was a big scaredy-cat,
was a big scaredy-cat,
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da joj je mlađa kćerka
velika plašljivica-cica,
velika plašljivica-cica,
05:03
and so I began to notice,
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pa sam počela da obraćam pažnju,
05:05
and yes, the daughter was anxious,
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i, da, kćerka je bila anksiozna,
05:08
but more than that,
the parents were anxious.
the parents were anxious.
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ali više od toga
su roditelji bili anksiozni.
su roditelji bili anksiozni.
05:12
Most of what they said to her
when she was outside began with,
when she was outside began with,
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Većina onoga što su joj govorili
kad je bila napolju, počinjalo je sa:
kad je bila napolju, počinjalo je sa:
05:15
"Be careful," "Watch out," or "No."
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"Pazi", "Čuvaj se", ili "Ne".
05:20
Now, my friends were not bad parents.
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Sad, moji prijatelji
nisu bili loši roditelji.
nisu bili loši roditelji.
05:23
They were just doing what most parents do,
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Samo su radili što i većina roditelja,
05:26
which is cautioning their daughters
much more than they caution their sons.
much more than they caution their sons.
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a to je nadziranje svojih kćerki
mnogo više nego što nadziru svoje sinove.
mnogo više nego što nadziru svoje sinove.
05:31
There was a study involving
a playground fire pole, ironically,
a playground fire pole, ironically,
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Rađeno je istraživanje u vezi sa
požarnom šipkom na igralištu, ironično,
požarnom šipkom na igralištu, ironično,
05:36
in which researchers saw that little girls
were very likely to be warned
were very likely to be warned
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u kome su istraživači primetili
da je velika prilika da će devojčice
da je velika prilika da će devojčice
05:40
by both their moms and dads
about the fire pole's risk,
about the fire pole's risk,
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i mama i tata da upozore
na rizike u vezi sa požarnom šipkom,
na rizike u vezi sa požarnom šipkom,
05:44
and if the little girls
still wanted to play on the fire pole,
still wanted to play on the fire pole,
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a ako bi devojčice i dalje želele
da se igraju na požarnoj šipki,
da se igraju na požarnoj šipki,
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a parent was very likely to assist her.
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jedan roditelj bi joj
najverovatnije pomagao.
najverovatnije pomagao.
05:51
But the little boys?
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Dečaci međutim?
05:53
They were encouraged
to play on the fire pole
to play on the fire pole
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Njih ohrabruju
da se igraju na požarnoj šipki,
da se igraju na požarnoj šipki,
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despite any trepidations
that they might have,
that they might have,
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uprkos bojaznima koje mogu da imaju,
05:58
and often the parents offered
guidance on how to use it on their own.
guidance on how to use it on their own.
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a često bi roditelji ponudili
uputstva kako da je samostalno koriste.
uputstva kako da je samostalno koriste.
06:05
So what message does this send
to both boys and girls?
to both boys and girls?
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Dakle, kakvu poruku ovo šalje
i dečacima i devojčicama?
i dečacima i devojčicama?
06:09
Well, that girls are fragile
and more in need of help,
and more in need of help,
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Pa, da su devojke krhke
i da im je više potrebna pomoć,
i da im je više potrebna pomoć,
06:13
and that boys can and should
master difficult tasks by themselves.
master difficult tasks by themselves.
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a da dečaci mogu i trebaju
da savladavaju teške zadatke samostalno.
da savladavaju teške zadatke samostalno.
06:18
It says that girls should be fearful
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Govori nam da bi devojke
trebalo da budu plašljive,
trebalo da budu plašljive,
06:21
and boys should be gutsy.
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a dečaci bi trebalo da budu odvažni.
06:25
Now, the irony is that at this young age,
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Sad, ironija je da su u ovom uzrastu
06:27
girls and boys are actually
very alike physically.
very alike physically.
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devojčice i dečaci zapravo
fizički veoma slični.
fizički veoma slični.
06:30
In fact, girls are often
stronger until puberty,
stronger until puberty,
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Zapravo, devojčice su često
snažnije do puberteta
snažnije do puberteta
06:32
and more mature.
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kao i zrelije.
06:34
And yet we adults act
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A ipak se mi odrasli ponašamo
06:36
as if girls are more fragile
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kao da su devojke krhkije
06:38
and more in need of help,
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i da im je potrebnija pomoć
06:40
and they can't handle as much.
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i da ne mogu jednako da podnesu.
06:43
This is the message
that we absorb as kids,
that we absorb as kids,
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Ovo je poruka koju kao deca upijamo,
06:45
and this is the message
that fully permeates as we grow up.
that fully permeates as we grow up.
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i to je poruka koja nas
potpuno prožima kad odrastemo.
potpuno prožima kad odrastemo.
06:49
We women believe it, men believe it,
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Mi žene verujemo u nju,
muškarci veruju u nju
muškarci veruju u nju
06:51
and guess what?
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i znate šta?
06:53
As we become parents,
we pass it on to our children,
we pass it on to our children,
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Kad postanemo roditelji,
prenosimo je na našu decu
prenosimo je na našu decu
06:56
and so it goes.
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i tako to ide.
06:58
Well, so now I had my answer.
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Dakle, sad sam imala odgovor.
07:01
This is why women, even firewomen,
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Evo zašto žene, čak i vatrogaske,
07:03
were expected to be scared.
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bi trebalo da se plaše.
07:05
This is why women often are scared.
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To je razlog zašto žene često jeste strah.
07:09
Now, I know some of you
won't believe me when I tell you this,
won't believe me when I tell you this,
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Sad, znam da neki od vas
mi neće verovati kad vam ovo kažem,
mi neće verovati kad vam ovo kažem,
07:13
but I am not against fear.
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ali ja nisam protiv straha.
07:16
I know it's an important emotion,
and it's there to keep us safe.
and it's there to keep us safe.
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Znam da je to važno osećanje
i tu je radi naše bezbednosti.
i tu je radi naše bezbednosti.
07:20
But the problem is
when fear is the primary reaction
when fear is the primary reaction
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Ali problem je kad je strah
primarna reakcija
primarna reakcija
07:23
that we teach and encourage in girls
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koju podučavamo i podstičemo kod devojaka
07:25
whenever they face something
outside their comfort zone.
outside their comfort zone.
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kad god se suoče s nečim
što ih izbacuje iz stanja udobnosti.
što ih izbacuje iz stanja udobnosti.
07:29
So I was a paraglider pilot
for many years --
for many years --
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Dakle, dugo godina sam bila
pilotkinja paraglajdera -
pilotkinja paraglajdera -
07:33
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
07:35
and a paraglider is a parachute-like wing,
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a paraglajder je krilo nalik padobranu
07:38
and it does fly very well,
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i leti dosta dobro,
07:41
but to many people I realize
it looks just like a bedsheet
it looks just like a bedsheet
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ali shvatam da mnogim ljudima
izgleda upravo kao čaršav
izgleda upravo kao čaršav
07:44
with strings attached.
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sa zakačenim konopcima.
07:46
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
07:47
And I spent a lot of time on mountaintops
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I ja sam provela mnogo vremena
na vrhovima planina
na vrhovima planina
07:50
inflating this bedsheet,
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pumpajući ovaj čaršav,
07:51
running off and flying.
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hitajući se i leteći.
07:54
And I know what you're thinking.
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I znam na šta mislite.
07:56
You're like, Caroline,
a little fear would make sense here.
a little fear would make sense here.
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U stilu ste, Karolina,
malo straha bi imalo smisla.
malo straha bi imalo smisla.
08:00
And you're right, it does.
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I u pravu ste, bi.
08:02
I assure you, I did feel fear.
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Uveravam vas, osećala sam strah.
08:05
But on that mountaintop,
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Ali na tom vrhu planine,
08:06
waiting for the wind
to come in just right,
to come in just right,
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čekajući baš odgovarajući vetar,
08:08
I felt so many other things, too:
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osećala sam i toliko drugih stvari:
08:10
exhilaration, confidence.
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uzbuđenje, samopouzdanje.
08:14
I knew I was a good pilot.
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Znala sam da sam dobar pilot.
08:15
I knew the conditions were good,
or I wouldn't be there.
or I wouldn't be there.
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Znala sam da su uslovi dobri,
inače ne bih bila tu.
inače ne bih bila tu.
08:18
I knew how great it was going to be
a thousand feet in the air.
a thousand feet in the air.
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Znala sam kako će sjajno da bude
stotinama kilometara u vazduhu.
stotinama kilometara u vazduhu.
08:22
So yes, fear was there,
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Dakle, da, strah je bio prisutan,
08:25
but I would take a good hard look at it,
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ali bih se dobro zagledala u njega,
08:27
assess just how relevant it was
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pozabavila bih se njegovim značajem
08:29
and then put it where it belonged,
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i smestila ga gde mu je mesto,
08:32
which was more often than not
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a to je češće puta bilo
08:33
behind my exhilaration, my anticipation
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iza mog uzbuđenja, mog iščekivanja
08:37
and my confidence.
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i mog samopouzdanja.
08:39
So I'm not against fear.
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Dakle, nisam protiv straha.
08:41
I'm just pro-bravery.
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Samo sam zagovornica hrabrosti.
08:46
Now, I'm not saying
your girls must be firefighters
your girls must be firefighters
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Sad, ne govorim da vaše devojke
moraju da budu vatrogaske
moraju da budu vatrogaske
08:49
or that they should be paragliders,
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ili da bi trebalo da budu paraglajderke,
08:52
but I am saying that we are raising
our girls to be timid, even helpless,
our girls to be timid, even helpless,
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ali govorim da vaspitavamo naše devojke
da budu plašljive, čak bespomoćne,
da budu plašljive, čak bespomoćne,
08:57
and it begins when we caution them
against physical risk.
against physical risk.
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a to počinje kada ih upozoravamo
na fizičke rizike.
na fizičke rizike.
09:01
The fear we learn
and the experiences we don't
and the experiences we don't
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Strah koji naučimo
i iskustva koja ne steknemo
i iskustva koja ne steknemo
09:03
stay with us as we become women
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ostaju sa nama dok postajemo žene
09:05
and morphs into all those things
that we face and try to shed:
that we face and try to shed:
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i srastaju sa svim tim stvarima s kojima
se suočavamo i pokušavamo da odagnamo:
se suočavamo i pokušavamo da odagnamo:
09:10
our hesitation in speaking out,
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naše oklevanje od govorenja,
09:12
our deference so that we can be liked
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naša popustljivost kako bi nas voleli
09:15
and our lack of confidence
in our own decisions.
in our own decisions.
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i naš nedostatak samopouzdanja
u sopstvene odluke.
u sopstvene odluke.
09:18
So how do we become brave?
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Dakle, kako da postanemo hrabre?
09:22
Well, here's the good news.
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Pa, evo dobrih vesti.
09:24
Bravery is learned,
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Hrabrost se uči
09:26
and like anything learned,
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i kao bilo šta što se uči,
09:27
it just needs to be practiced.
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prosto mora da se vežba.
09:30
So first,
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Dakle, prvo
09:31
we have to take a deep breath
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moramo duboko da udahnemo
09:33
and encourage our girls
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i da ohrabrimo naše devojke
09:35
to skateboard, climb trees
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da voze skejtbord, penju se na drveće
09:38
and clamber around
on that playground fire pole.
on that playground fire pole.
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i da se pentraju oko te
vatrogasne šipke na igralištu.
vatrogasne šipke na igralištu.
09:41
This is what my own mother did.
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To je moja majka radila.
09:43
She didn't know it then,
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Nije tada bila svesna toga,
09:45
but researchers have a name for this.
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ali istraživači imaju naziv za ovo.
09:47
They call it risky play,
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Nazivaju to rizičnom igrom,
09:49
and studies show that risky play
is really important for kids, all kids,
is really important for kids, all kids,
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a istraživanja pokazuju da je rizična igra
zaista važna za decu, svu decu
zaista važna za decu, svu decu
09:54
because it teaches hazard assessment,
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jer uči o proceni opasnosti,
09:57
it teaches delayed gratification,
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podučava o odloženom zadovoljenju,
09:59
it teaches resilience,
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podučava otpornosti,
10:01
it teaches confidence.
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podučava samopouzdanju.
10:03
In other words,
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Drugim rečima,
10:04
when kids get outside
and practice bravery,
and practice bravery,
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kada deca izađu napolje
i vežbaju hrabrost,
i vežbaju hrabrost,
10:07
they learn valuable life lessons.
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uče vredne životne lekcije.
10:12
Second, we have to stop
cautioning our girls willy-nilly.
cautioning our girls willy-nilly.
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Pod dva: moramo da prestanemo
da nonšalantno opominjemo naše devojke.
da nonšalantno opominjemo naše devojke.
10:17
So notice next time you say,
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Zato primetite sledeći put kada kažete:
10:19
"Watch out, you're going to get hurt,"
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"Pazi, povredićeš se!"
10:21
or, "Don't do that, it's dangerous."
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ili: "Ne radi to, to je opasno."
10:24
And remember that often
what you're really telling her
what you're really telling her
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I setite se da im često zapravo govorite
10:28
is that she shouldn't be pushing herself,
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da ne bi trebalo da se naprežu,
10:30
that she's really not good enough,
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da one zaista nisu dovoljno dobre,
10:32
that she should be afraid.
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da bi trebalo da budu uplašene.
10:36
Third,
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Treće:
10:38
we women have to start
practicing bravery, too.
practicing bravery, too.
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i mi žene moramo da počnemo
da vežbamo hrabrost.
da vežbamo hrabrost.
10:41
We cannot teach our girls
until we teach ourselves.
until we teach ourselves.
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Ne možemo da podučavamo devojke,
dok ne podučimo nas.
dok ne podučimo nas.
10:45
So here's another thing:
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Stoga, evo još nešto:
10:47
fear and exhilaration
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strah i ushićenost
10:51
feel very similar --
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imaju sličan osećaj -
10:53
the shaky hands,
the heightened heart rate,
the heightened heart rate,
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ruke se tresu, srce brže kuca,
10:56
the nervous tension,
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nervoza
10:57
and I'm betting that for many of you
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i kladim se da su mnogi od vas
10:59
the last time you thought
you were scared out of your wits,
you were scared out of your wits,
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kad ste poslednji put mislili
da ste uplašeni van pameti,
da ste uplašeni van pameti,
11:02
you may have been feeling
mostly exhilaration,
mostly exhilaration,
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možda ste osećali uglavnom ushićenost
11:05
and now you've missed an opportunity.
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i sad ste propustili priliku.
11:07
So practice.
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Zato vežbajte.
11:09
And while girls should be getting
outside to learn to be gutsy,
outside to learn to be gutsy,
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I dok bi devojke trebalo da izlaze napolje
i uče da budu odvažne,
i uče da budu odvažne,
11:12
I get that adults don't want
to get on hoverboards or climb trees,
to get on hoverboards or climb trees,
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razumem da odrasli ne žele
da voze hoverbord ili se penju na drveće,
da voze hoverbord ili se penju na drveće,
11:18
so we all should be practicing
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zato bi svi trebalo da vežbamo
11:22
at home, in the office
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kod kuće, u kancelariji,
11:24
and even right here getting up the guts
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pa čak i ovde, sakupljajući hrabrost
11:26
to talk to someone that you really admire.
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da razgovaramo s nekim
kome se zaista divimo.
kome se zaista divimo.
11:30
Finally, when your girl is, let's say,
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Naposletku, kada je devojčica, recimo,
11:34
on her bike on the top of the steep hill
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na svom biciklu na vrhu strmog brda
11:36
that she insists
she's too scared to go down,
she's too scared to go down,
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insistirajući da je suviše uplašena
da se spusti,
da se spusti,
11:39
guide her to access her bravery.
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uputite je da pristupi svojoj hrabrosti.
11:42
Ultimately, maybe that hill
really is too steep,
really is too steep,
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Konačno, možda je to brdo
uistinu suviše strmo,
uistinu suviše strmo,
11:47
but she'll come to that conclusion
through courage, not fear.
through courage, not fear.
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ali će doći do tog zaključka
putem hrabrosti, a ne straha.
putem hrabrosti, a ne straha.
11:51
Because this is not
about the steep hill in front of her.
about the steep hill in front of her.
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Jer se ne radi o strmom brdu ispred nje.
11:55
This is about the life ahead of her
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Radi se o životu koji je pred njom
11:58
and that she has the tools
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i tome da ona poseduje oruđa
12:00
to handle and assess
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kako bi se izborila i pristupila
12:02
all the dangers
that we cannot protect her from,
that we cannot protect her from,
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svim opasnostima
od kojih je ne možemo zaštititi,
od kojih je ne možemo zaštititi,
12:05
all the challenges that we won't
be there to guide her through,
be there to guide her through,
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svim izazovima kod kojih nećemo
biti tu da je vodimo kroz njih,
biti tu da je vodimo kroz njih,
12:10
everything that our girls here
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sa svime sa čime će se naše devojke ovde
12:12
and around the world
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i širom sveta
12:14
face in their future.
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suočiti u budućnosti.
12:18
So by the way,
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Dakle, usput,
12:20
the world record for crawling today --
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trenutni svetski rekord u puzanju -
12:23
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
12:25
is 35.18 miles,
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je 56,62 kilometra
12:30
and I would really love
to see a girl go break that.
to see a girl go break that.
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i zaista bih volela
da vidim devojku kako ga obara.
da vidim devojku kako ga obara.
12:34
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Caroline Paul - AuthorBrimming with insights gained on her picaresque journey from firefighter to best-selling author, Caroline Paul’s "The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure" is a revolutionary guide for raising brave young women.
Why you should listen
Before launching her career as a writer, Caroline Paul embarked on a long list of unlikely adventures, ranging from flying experimental planes to whitewater rafting unexplored rivers in Borneo and Australia.
Paul was one of the first women to work for the San Francisco Fire Department -- a job that inspired her first work of nonfiction, Fighting Fire. Her latest book, The Gutsy Girl, uses stories from her own life as a gutsy woman to inspire girls to break the rules, take risks and accept seemingly insurmountable challenges.
Caroline Paul | Speaker | TED.com