Jia Jiang: What I learned from 100 days of rejection
Jia Jiang: Co jsem se naučil za 100 dní odmítnutí
Jia Jiang's journey through rejection revealed a world hidden in plain sight, where people are much kinder than we imagine. Full bio
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had this brilliant idea.
měla skvělý nápad.
receiving gifts
přijímání dárků,
of complimenting each other.
come to the front of the classroom,
před tabuli,
and stacked them in the corner.
naskládala do rohu místnosti.
and compliment each other?
navzájem něco hezkého?
someone's name called,
say anything nice about these people?"
něco pěkného o těchto lidech?"
go get your gift and sit down.
a pak si sedněte na místo.
something nice about you."
I remember this really well.
that she turned a team-building event
že besídku na utužení vztahů přeměnila
for three six-year-olds.
pro tři šestileté děti.
people get roasted on TV,
lidi v televizi,
being in that situation again --
opakování té situace --
I know what I want to do now.
vím, co chci teď dělat."
company in the world,
of conquering the world --
zcela pohltila --
I did write that letter.
ten dopis jsem napsal.
but I did highlight some key words.
ale pro vaši představu jsem zvýraznil
to come to the United States.
jít do USA.
where Bill Gates lived, right?
Bill Gates, že?
of my entrepreneur journey.
mé dráhy podnikatele.
for a Fortune 500 company.
v jedné z 500 největších společností USA.
who wrote that letter?
který psal ten dopis?
když jsem měl nápad,
in front of people in a group --
před lidmi ve skupině --
and the six-year-old.
a druhý měl strach z odmítnutí.
after I started my own company.
kdy jsem založil svou firmu.
my own company when I was 30 --
když mi bylo 30.
sooner or later, right?
with an investment opportunity,
that I wanted to quit right there.
že jsem chtěl rovnou skončit.
after a simple investment rejection?
jediném zamítnutí investice?
entrepreneur quit like that?
úspěšný podnikatel?
team or better product,
keep dictating my life anymore.
aby mi nadále dirigoval život.
and looked for help.
hledat pomoc.
the fear of rejection?"
"Jak překonám strach z odmítnutí?"
of psychology articles
and pain are coming from.
of "rah-rah" inspirational articles
inspirujících článků
just overcome it."
prostě to překonejte."
webovou stránku.
invented by this Canadian entrepreneur.
hra vymyšlená kanadským podnikatelem.
you go out and look for rejection,
chodíte s kůží na trh a hledáte odmítnutí.
you desensitize yourself from the pain.
I'm going to do this.
getting rejected 100 days."
nápady k zamítnutí
to where I was working.
kde jsem pracoval.
sitting behind a desk.
sedícího za stolem.
walk of my life --
v mém životě --
of my neck standing up,
100 dollars from you?"
and I just ran.
myself getting rejected,
jak jsem byl odmítnutý
in "The Sixth Sense."
v Šestém smyslu.
I could've negotiated.
mohl jsem vyjednávat.
the microcosm of my life.
mého života.
nejmenší odmítnutí,
Žádost o znovu naplnění burgeru.
and I went to the cashier and said,
a šel jsem k pokladně a řekl,
like, "What's a burger refill?"
"Co je nová náplň burgeru?"
a drink refill but with a burger."
jen tady jde o burger."
we don't do burger refill, man."
náplně do burgerů."
and I could have run, but I stayed.
dát na útěk, ale tentokrát jsem zůstal.
I'll tell my manager about it,
"Dobře, řeknu o tom manažerovi
but sorry, we can't do this today."
dnes to udělat nemůžeme."
ever done burger refill.
začali doplňovat burgery.
I was feeling the first time
cítil poprvé,
I'm already learning things.
"Super, už se ty věci učím.
Getting Olympic Doughnuts.
Dostat olympijské koblížky.
was turned upside down.
of the United States.
that look like Olympic symbols?
v podobě olympijských kruhů?
five doughnuts together ... "
pět koblih dohromady ..."
they could say yes, right?
the colors and the rings,
that looked like Olympic rings.
Olympijské kruhy.
over five million views on Youtube.
5 milionů zhlédnutí.
I was in newspapers,
started writing emails to me
doing is awesome."
did not do anything to me.
mi nic nedávaly.
of my 100 days of rejection
100 dní odmítnutí
I had this flower in my hand,
v ruce držel tuhle květinu.
in your backyard?"
zasadit tuhle květinu?"
anything I put in the backyard.
go across the street and talk to Connie.
přes ulici a zeptejte se Connie.
on Connie's door.
in Connie's backyard.
u Connie na zahradě.
after the initial rejection,
počátečním odmítnutí,
the guy didn't trust me,
I didn't look good.
nevypadal tak dobře.
did not fit what he wanted.
co jsem nabídl.
to offer me a referral,
mi dal doporučení,
actually say certain things
říct určité věci
one day I went to a Starbucks,
jednou jsem šel do Starbucks
"Hey, can I be a Starbucks greeter?"
"Zdravím, můžu vítat zákazníky Starbucks?"
"Co myslíte tím vítat zákazníky?"
those Walmart greeters?
'hi' to you before you walk in the store,
když přicházíte do obchodu
don't steal stuff, basically?
to Starbucks customers."
zákazníkům Starbucks."
that's a good thing, actually --
it's a bad thing.
že to je špatný nápad.
his name is Eric --
jmenoval se Eric --
"Je to divné?"
his whole demeanor changed.
celé chování se změnilo.
all the doubt on the floor.
I was the Starbucks greeter.
vítal lidi ve Starbucks.
that walked in,
kdo vešel,
what your career trajectory is,
ubírá vaše kariéra,
because I mentioned, "Is that weird?"
protože jsem zmínil: "Je to divné?"
that means I wasn't weird.
znamenalo to, že já nejsem divný.
thinking just like him,
myslel stejně jako on,
some doubt people might have
kterou mohou lidé mít,
I could fulfill my life dream ...
si můžu splnit životní sen --
from four generations of teachers,
generací učitelů
if you became a teacher."
kdybys byl učitel."
an entrepreneur, so I didn't.
učitelem jsem se nestal.
to actually teach something.
of Texas at Austin,
and said, "Can I teach your class?"
"Můžu učit váš předmět?"
the first couple of times.
I kept doing it --
snažil se dál --
the professor was very impressed.
jsem udělal na profesora dojem.
has done this before."
with powerpoints and my lesson.
I'll fit you in my curriculum."
Dám vás do svých osnov."
I was teaching a class.
jsem předmět vyučoval.
this is a bad picture.
mě nevidíte, je to špatná fotka.
rejected by lighting, you know?
zamítnutí bleskem, víte co myslím?
I walked out crying,
jsem v slzách,
just by simply asking.
all these things --
or get a PhD to teach --
abych mohl učit --
which you can't see --
kterou pořádně nevidíte,
Juniora.
that people who really change the world,
že lidé, kteří opravdu mění svět,
and the way we think,
a jakým myslíme,
with initial and often violent rejections.
s hrubým odmítnutím.
let rejection define them.
odmítnutí určilo, kým jsou.
after rejection define themselves.
aby určila, to, kým jsou.
to learn about rejection,
abychom se naučili o odmítnutí.
because I was running away from it.
protože jsem od toho utíkal.
the biggest gift in my life.
how to turn rejections into opportunities.
změnit odmítnutí v příležitost.
people overcome their fear of rejection.
pomůže lidem překonat strach z odmítnutí.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Jia Jiang - Author, blogger, entrepreneurJia Jiang's journey through rejection revealed a world hidden in plain sight, where people are much kinder than we imagine.
Why you should listen
Jia Jiang is the owner of Rejection Therapy, a website that provides inspiration, knowledge and products for people to overcome their fear of rejection. He is also the CEO of Wuju Learning, a company that teaches people and trains organizations to become fearless through rejection training. In 2015, he authored a bestselling book, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection.
Several years after Jiang began his career in the corporate world, he took a life-altering risk and stepped into the unknown world of entrepreneurship. His result was everyone's biggest fear: rejection. This was the catalyst that set Jiang on the path to his true calling.
To conquer the fear of rejection, Jiang embarked on a personal quest and started a blog, 100 Days of Rejection Therapy. His journey revealed a world that was hidden in plain sight -- a world where people are much kinder than we imagine. He discovered that rejection can be much less painful than we believe and that the fear of rejection is much more destructive than we know.
Jiang grew up in Beijing, China and migrated to the United States at age 16. He holds a Bachelor of Computer Science from Brigham Young University and a Master of Business Administration from Duke University.
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