Sue Jaye Johnson: What we don't teach kids about sex
Sue Jaye Johnson: Co naše děti o sexu neučíme
TED Resident Sue Jaye Johnson explores the ways cultural expectations shape our public and private behavior. Full bio
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brushing my hair when I was a child.
když jsem byla dítě.
with a fine-bristled brush.
jemnými štětinami kartáče.
that you can feel in your body right now?
spojenou s tělesným pocitem?
in the world -- through touch.
the hands, on the skin.
experience love.
to have healthy intimate relationships.
zdravý intimní vztah.
is we teach our children about sex.
about biology and mechanics,
lekce z biologie a mechaniky,
that sex is pretty much all about.
jejich představa o sexu vypadat.
about pleasure and desire,
učit o potěšení a touze,
to be present in their body
that we model touch, play,
not just about sex,
that I needed as a girl.
mému měnícímu se tělu
for what I was experiencing;
co jsem zažívala.
I could at the time
co jsem tenkrát mohla
just the difficult feelings,
the pleasure, the play,
k radosti, potěšení, hře.
what it meant to be a grown-up.
about their relationship to sex
že jsou příliš citlivé.
they were too sensitive, too much.
of how much I used to feel.
jak moc jsem uměla cítit.
"Day at the beach with the girls."
"Den na pláži s holkami".
just out of reach of the surf
drizzling sand on her arm like this,
of sand on her skin
to lechtání písku na kůži
and then her legs.
pak na nohy.
"Hey, you want me to bury you?"
"Chceš abych tě celou zahrabala?"
and she was like, "Yeah!"
and lathered her up in the shower
namydlila ve sprše,
that I was creating for her?"
like she was on some assembly line
and put to bed.
in a towel tenderly the way a lover would,
tak, jak by to udělal její partner,
to expect that kind of touch.
očekávat podobný dotek.
about intimacy.
and respect her body.
a respektovat své tělo.
that can't be conveyed in words.
slovy nepřenositelné.
on their partner's pleasure,
na partnerovo potěšení,
with my girls when they're older,
mluvit později, až budou starší,
identify what gives them pleasure
objevovat, co jim dělá potěšení
when I tuck her in.
to rub your back?"
"OK, up and to the right,
how to articulate their sensations
jak vyjádřit svoje pocity,
with my girls at home to do this.
on my daughter's arm and say,
to tell them how I'm feeling,
abych jim řekla, jak se cítím já.
means I'm nervous and I'm excited.
že jsem nervózní a vzrušená.
in response to me.
nejspíše zažíváte pocity.
is to judge these reactions
nebo se jim vyhýbáme.
in this binary culture
ve které žijeme,
to sort the world into good and bad.
třídit svět na dobré a špatné.
notice about that story?"
"Co tě na tom příběhu zaujalo?"
and curious about their experiences,
otevřené a zvědavé,
without checking out --
zvýšeným a náročným pocitům,
and challenging ones --
co jsem potřebovala jako dívka.
můžeme naučit
in turn remind our children
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Sue Jaye Johnson - Journalist, filmmaker, writerTED Resident Sue Jaye Johnson explores the ways cultural expectations shape our public and private behavior.
Why you should listen
Working across mediums, from radio, film, print and interactive media, Sue Jaye Johnson has investigated the US criminal justice system, women in sports, the legacy of apartheid and girls in South Africa. As a TED Resident, she is examining our current relationship with pleasure and sex through intimate interviews with people from all walks of life asking what they believe about sex and why. She is working on a book about rethinking how we talk about sexuality and sensuality fostered by this series of interviews.
Jaye is a two-time Peabody-winner and recipient of a Creative Capital award for her pioneering interactive documentary about US prisons. Her first feature film, T-Rex (PBS, Netflix) followed 17-year-old boxer Claressa Shields from Flint, Michigan to the gold medal at the London Olympics. Her work has been broadcast on PBS, NPR, WNY and published in the New York Times and The Washington Post.
She studied visual arts at Harvard University and interactive telecommunications at New York University. She lives in New York City with radio producer and frequent collaborator Joe Richman and their two daughters.
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