TEDxWomen 2011
Tan Le: My immigration story
Tan Le: Historia e emigrimit tim
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Në vitin 2010, ekspertja e teknologjisë Tan Le u ngjit në skenën e TEDGlobal për të prezantuar një teknollogji të re shumë te fuqishme. Ndërsa tani, ngjitet në podiumin e TEDxWomen, për të na rrëfyer një histori shumë personale: historinë e familjes së saj – se si bashkë me mamanë, gjyshen dhe motrën e saj, largoheshin nga Vjetnami për të ndërtuar një jetë të re.
Tan Le - Entrepreneur
Tan Le is the founder & CEO of Emotiv, a bioinformatics company that's working on identifying biomarkers for mental and other neurological conditions using electroencephalography (EEG). Full bio
Tan Le is the founder & CEO of Emotiv, a bioinformatics company that's working on identifying biomarkers for mental and other neurological conditions using electroencephalography (EEG). Full bio
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How can I speak in 10 minutes
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Si mund te flas ne 10 minuta
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about the bonds of women over three generations,
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mbi relatat e grave nder tre gjenerata,
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about how the astonishing strength of those bonds
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dhe fuqine mahnitese te ketyre lidhjeve
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took hold in the life
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qe ka mbajtur gjalle
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of a four-year-old girl
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nje vajze kater vjeçare
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huddled with her young sister,
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bashke me motren,
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her mother and her grandmother
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mamane e gjyshen e saj
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for five days and nights
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per pese dite e net
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in a small boat in the China Sea
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ne nje varke te vogel ne detin Kinez
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more than 30 years ago,
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mbi 30 vite me pare,
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bonds that took hold in the life of that small girl
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lidhje qe rezistuan fuqishem ne jeten e vajzes se vogel
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and never let go --
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dhe nuk e lane kurre --
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that small girl now living in San Francisco
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kjo vajze tani jeton ne San Francisco
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and speaking to you today?
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dhe sot po flet para jush?
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This is not a finished story.
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Kjo histori nuk ka perfunduar.
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It is a jigsaw puzzle still being put together.
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Eshte nje mozaik, pjeset e te cilit akoma po kerkojne perputhen me njera tjetren.
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Let me tell you about some of the pieces.
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Me lejoni t'ju tregoj per disa nga copezat e mozaikut.
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Imagine the first piece:
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Imagjinoni Pjesen e Pare:
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a man burning his life's work.
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nje burre qe i ve zjarrin punes se nje jete te tere.
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He is a poet, a playwright,
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Ai eshte poet, dramaturg,
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a man whose whole life
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nje njeri, jeta e te cilit
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had been balanced on the single hope
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ishte gjithe kohes e bilancuar mbi nje shprese te vetme.
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of his country's unity and freedom.
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Bashkimi dhe liria e vendit te tij.
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Imagine him as the communists enter Saigon,
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Imagjinojeni ndersa komunistet hyne ne Saigon,
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confronting the fact
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duke u perballuar me faktin
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that his life had been a complete waste.
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se jeta e tij kishte qene nje shpenzim i kote.
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Words, for so long his friends, now mocked him.
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Fjale pa peshe, perderisa tani miqte talleshin me te.
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He retreated into silence.
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Ai u strehua tek vetmia.
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He died broken by history.
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Ai vdiq i thyer nga historia.
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He is my grandfather.
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Ai ishte gjyshi im.
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I never knew him in real life.
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Une nuk kam arritur ta njon ate.
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But our lives are much more than our memories.
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Por jetet tona jane shume me teper se kujtimet tona.
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My grandmother never let me forget his life.
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Gjyshja ime asnjehere nuk me beri te harroja jeten e tij.
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My duty was not to allow it to have been in vain,
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Detyra ime ishte te mos lejoja qe jeta e tij te shkonte dem.
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and my lesson was to learn
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dhe mesimi im ishte te arrija te mesoja
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that, yes, history tried to crush us,
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se, vertete, historia u perpoq te na shtypte,
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but we endured.
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por ne rezistuam.
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The next piece of the jigsaw
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Pjesa tjeter e mozaikut
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is of a boat in the early dawn
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ka te beje me nje varke, heret ne agim
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slipping silently out to sea.
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qe rreshket pa zhurme ne pafundesine e detit.
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My mother, Mai, was 18
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Mamaja ime, Mai, ishte 18 vjec
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when her father died --
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kur i vdiq babai --
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already in an arranged marriage,
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ajo kishte perfunduar ne nje martese me nderhyrje,
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already with two small girls.
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dhe kishte dy vajza te vogla.
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For her, life had distilled itself into one task:
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Per te, jeta ishte perqendruar vetem ne nje qellim:
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the escape of her family
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te arratisej me familjen e saj
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and a new life in Australia.
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dhe te fillonte nje jete te re ne Australi.
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It was inconceivable to her
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Ishte e paperfytyrueshme per te
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that she would not succeed.
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qe te mos arrinte te realizonte kete qellim.
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So after a four-year saga that defies fiction,
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Keshtu, pas nje epopeje qe sfidonte çdo lloj trillimi, qe zgjati kater vjet,
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a boat slipped out to sea
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nje varke rreshkiti ne det te hapur
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disguised as a fishing vessel.
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e maskuar si nje anije peshkimi.
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All the adults knew the risks.
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Te rriturit i njihnin rreziqet e mundshme.
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The greatest fear was of pirates,
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Kishin shume frike nga piratet,
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rape and death.
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perdhunimet dhe vdekja.
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Like most adults on the boat,
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Si shumica e te rriturve ne varke,
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my mother carried a small bottle of poison.
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dhe mamaja ime kishte me vete nje shishe te vogel me helm.
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If we were captured, first my sister and I,
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Nese do ta na kapnin, do ta pinim helmin,
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then she and my grandmother would drink.
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fillimisht motra dhe une, pastaj mamaja dhe gjyshja.
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My first memories are from the boat --
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Kujtimet e mija te para i perkasin varkes --
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the steady beat of the engine,
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zhurma e rregullt e motorrit
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the bow dipping into each wave,
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lekundja ne çdo vale qe kalonim,
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the vast and empty horizon.
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horizonti i hapur dhe i zbrazet.
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I don't remember the pirates who came many times,
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Une nuk i mbaj mend piratet qe erdhen shume here,
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but were bluffed by the bravado
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por qe mashtroheshin nga
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of the men on our boat,
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burrat ne varke,
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or the engine dying
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as nuk mbaj mend motorrin qe prishej
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and failing to start for six hours.
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dhe nuk rregullohej per rreth gjashte ore.
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But I do remember the lights on the oil rig
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Por mbaj mend shume mire dritat e nje platforme nafte
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off the Malaysian coast
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ne bregdetin Malaizian
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and the young man who collapsed and died,
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dhe nje djale te ri qe ra poshte e vdiq,
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the journey's end too much for him,
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sepse fundi i udhetimit ishte shume i veshtire per te,
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and the first apple I tasted,
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dhe mollen e pare qe shijova,
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given to me by the men on the rig.
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mollen qe me dhane burrat ne platformen e naftes.
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No apple has ever tasted the same.
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Asnje molle nuk kishte patur te njejten shije.
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After three months in a refugee camp,
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Pas tre muajsh ne kampin e refugjateve,
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we landed in Melbourne.
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perfunduam ne Melburn.
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And the next piece of the jigsaw
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Pjesa tjeter e mozaikut
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is about four women across three generations
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flet per kater gra te tre gjeneratave te ndryshme
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shaping a new life together.
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qe i japin forme nje jete te re se bashku.
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We settled in Footscray,
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Fillimisht u vendosem ne Footscray,
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a working-class suburb
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nje lagje punetoresh ne periferi
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whose demographic is layers of immigrants.
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ku pjesa me e madhe e banoreve ishin emigrante.
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Unlike the settled middle-class suburbs,
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ne ndryshim nga zonat periferike te klases se mesme
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whose existence I was oblivious of,
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ekzistencen e te cilave une pothuaj e harroja,
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there was no sense of entitlement in Footscray.
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ne Footscray nuk kishte asnje lloj ideje ne lidhje me te drejtat.
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The smells from shop doors were from the rest of the world.
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Aromat qe vinin nga dyert e dyqaneve ishin nga pjesa tjeter e botes.
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And the snippets of halting English
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Dhe copezat e Anglishtes se çale
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were exchanged between people
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shkembeheshin nga njerez
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who had one thing in common,
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qe kishin nje gje te perbashket,
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they were starting again.
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po nisnin cdo gje nga e para.
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My mother worked on farms,
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Mamaja ime punoi ne bujqesi,
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then on a car assembly line,
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me pas ne nje fabrike qe montonte pjese makinash,
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working six days, double shifts.
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punonte gjashte dite ne jave me dy turne.
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Somehow she found time to study English
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Dhe nuk e di se si arrinte te gjente kohe te mesonte Anglisht
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and gain IT qualifications.
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dhe te merrte ca kualifikime ne informatike.
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We were poor.
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Ne ishim te varfra.
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All the dollars were allocated
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Shpenzimi qofte dhe i nje dollari ishte i rendesishem
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and extra tuition in English and mathematics
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dhe shpenzimet per kurse shtese ne Anglisht dhe Matematike
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was budgeted for
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ishin te padiskutueshme
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regardless of what missed out,
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dhe per to na duhet te hiqnim dore nga ndonje shpenzim tjerer
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which was usually new clothes;
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qe zakonisht ishin rrobat e reja;
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they were always secondhand.
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ndaj blinim gjithnje rroba te perdorura.
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Two pairs of stockings for school,
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Dy pale çorape per shkolle,
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each to hide the holes in the other.
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qe nje pale te mbulonte vrimat e tjetres.
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A school uniform down to the ankles,
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Uniformen e shkolles qe arrinte deri poshte kembeve,
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because it had to last for six years.
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sepse duhet te rezistonte per te pakten gjashte vjet.
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And there were rare but searing chants
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Dhe ndonjehere hasnim kenge perzhitese
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of "slit-eye"
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te "syve me bisht" te aziatikeve
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and the occasional graffiti:
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dhe ndonjehere lexonim shkrimet mbi mure:
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"Asian, go home."
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"Aziatike, kthehuni ne shtepite tuaja."
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Go home to where?
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Ne cilen shtepi te ktheheshim?
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Something stiffened inside me.
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Dhe diçka ngurtesohej brenda meje.
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There was a gathering of resolve
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Vendosmeria rritej
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and a quiet voice saying, "I will bypass you."
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dhe nje ze i qete brenda meje thoshte: "Une do t'ju parakaloj nje dite."
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My mother, my sister and I
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Mamaja, motra dhe une
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slept in the same bed.
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flinim ne te njejtin krevat.
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My mother was exhausted each night,
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Nena ime ishte e stermunduar cdo nate,
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but we told one another about our day
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por prape se prape ne i tregonim njera tjetres se si kishte kaluar dita
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and listened to the movements
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dhe degjonim levizjet e gjyshes
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of my grandmother around the house.
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neper shtepi.
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My mother suffered from nightmares
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Mamaja vuante nga enderrat e keqija
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all about the boat.
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nga kujtesa e varkes.
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And my job was to stay awake until her nightmares came
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Dhe detyra ime ishte te rrija zgjuar derisa ti vinin endrrat e keqija
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so I could wake her.
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qe te mund ta zgjoja.
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She opened a computer store
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Ajo hapi nje dyqan kompjuterash
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then studied to be a beautician
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pastaj studioi qe te punonte ne sallone bukurie
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and opened another business.
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dhe hapi nje biznes te ri.
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And the women came with their stories
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Dhe grate vinin ne sallon me historite e tyre
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about men who could not make the transition,
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mbi burrat qe nuk mund ti rezistonin tranzicionit,
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angry and inflexible,
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dhe nevrikoseshin e ngurteshin
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and troubled children caught between two worlds.
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dhe mbi femijet e trazuar qe gjindeshin midis dy boteve.
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Grants and sponsors were sought.
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Kerkuam bursa dhe sponsor.
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Centers were established.
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Hapem qendra.
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I lived in parallel worlds.
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Jetova ne bote paralele.
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In one, I was the classic Asian student,
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Ne njeren, isha nje studente aziatike klasike,
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relentless in the demands that I made on myself.
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e pameshirshme ne kerkesat qe kisha ndaj vetes.
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In the other, I was enmeshed in lives that were precarious,
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Ne tjetren, isha nderthurur ne jete te pasigurta,
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tragically scarred by violence,
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te trembura tragjikisht nga violenca,
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drug abuse and isolation.
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nga abuzimi i droges dhe nga izolimi.
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But so many over the years were helped.
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Por shume njerez u ndihmuan nder vite.
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And for that work, when I was a final year law student,
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Dhe pikerisht per shkak te kesaj pune, kur isha studente juridiku e vitit te fundit,
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I was chosen as the young Australian of the year.
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me zgjodhen si Vajza e Re Australiane e Vitit.
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And I was catapulted
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Dhe u katapultova
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from one piece of the jigsaw to another,
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nga nje pjese e mozaikut ne nje tjeter,
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and their edges didn't fit.
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dhe pse copezat nuk perputheshin me njera-tjetren.
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Tan Le, anonymous Footscray resident,
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Tan Le, banore anonime e Footscray,
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was now Tan Le, refugee and social activist,
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tashme ishte bere Tan Le, refugjate dhe aktiviste sociale,
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invited to speak in venues she had never heard of
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dhe e ftonin te fliste neper vende per te cilat nuk kishte degjuar kurre
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and into homes whose existence
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dhe ne shtepi per te cilat nuk kishte menduar kurre
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she could never have imagined.
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se mund te ekzistonin.
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I didn't know the protocols.
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Une nuk i njihja protokollet.
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I didn't know how to use the cutlery.
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Une nuk dija si te perdorja thike e pirun.
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I didn't know how to talk about wine.
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Une nuk dija se si te flisja per vererat.
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I didn't know how to talk about anything.
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Une nuk dija te flisja per asgje.
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I wanted to retreat to the routines and comfort
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Doja te strukesha tek rutina dhe rehatija
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of life in an unsung suburb --
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e jetes ne nje periferi te panjohur--
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a grandmother, a mother and two daughters
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nje gjyshe, nje mama dhe dy vajza
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ending each day as they had for almost 20 years,
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qe mbyllnin diten e tyre siç kishin bere per pothuaj 20 vite me rradhe,
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telling one another the story of their day
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duke u treguar njera-tjetres historite e dites se tyre
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and falling asleep,
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dhe dalengadale i zinte gjumi,
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the three of us still in the same bed.
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te treja ne te njejtin krevat.
07:06
I told my mother I couldn't do it.
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I thashe mamase qe nuk isha ne gjendje te vazhdoja.
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She reminded me that I was now the same age she had been
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Ajo me kujtoi se tani une isha ne te njejten moshe qe ishte ajo
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when we boarded the boat.
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kur ne u nisem me varke.
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No had never been an option.
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Te thenit "Jo" asnjehere nuk e kemi marre ne konsiderate.
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"Just do it," she said,
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"Thjesht beje" me tha ajo,
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"and don't be what you're not."
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"dhe mos u sill ndryshe nga ç'je ne te vertete"
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So I spoke out on youth unemployment and education
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Keshtu fillova te flas mbi papunesine e te rinjve dhe arsimimin
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and the neglect of the marginalized and the disenfranchised.
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mbi neglizhencen ndaj te leneve menjane dhe qytetareve qe nuk kishin te drejta
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And the more candidly I spoke,
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Dhe sa me shume flisja me sinqeritet,
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the more I was asked to speak.
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aq me shume kerkonin qe une te flisja.
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I met people from all walks of life,
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Takova njerez me lloj lloj historish jete,
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so many of them doing the thing they loved,
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shume prej tyre benin gjera te cilat i pelqenin,
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living on the frontiers of possibility.
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duke jetuar ne kufinjte e mundesive.
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And even though I finished my degree,
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Dhe kur u diplomova,
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I realized I could not settle into a career in law.
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kuptova se nuk mund te pozicionohesha thjesht ne nje karriere si juriste.
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There had to be another piece of the jigsaw.
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Patjeter qe duhet te ekzistonte dhe nje pjese tjeter e mozaikut.
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And I realized at the same time
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Dhe pikerisht ne ate moment kuptova
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that it is okay to be an outsider,
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se nuk eshte keq te jesh "nje i huaj",
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a recent arrival,
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nje i sapoardhur,
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new on the scene --
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qe sapo ka filluar te dale ne skene --
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and not just okay,
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biles jo vetem qe nuk eshte keq,
08:03
but something to be thankful for,
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por eshte diçka per te cilen duhet te falenderojme,
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perhaps a gift from the boat.
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mbase nje dhurate nga varka.
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Because being an insider
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Sepse te jesh nje i brendshem, pra brenda sistemit,
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can so easily mean collapsing the horizons,
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ndonjehere do te thote dhe te kesh horizonte me te ngushta,
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can so easily mean
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dhe te tjeret te pranojme me me shume kollajllik
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accepting the presumptions of your province.
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nga fakti se vjen nga e njejta province.
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I have stepped outside my comfort zone enough now
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Tashme u bene shume vite qe kam dale nga zona ime "e rehatise"
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to know that, yes, the world does fall apart,
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dhe kam mesuar se, bota po merr tatepjeten,
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but not in the way that you fear.
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por jo ashtu siç e imagjinoni ju.
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Possibilities that would not have been allowed
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Oportunitete qe me pare as qe mund te imagjinoheshin
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were outrageously encouraged.
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tani jane inkurajuar pamase.
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There was an energy there,
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Ndjeja shume energji perreth,
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an implacable optimism,
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nje optimizem te pashpjegueshem,
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a strange mixture of humility and daring.
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nje perzjerje e cuditshme perulesie dhe guximi.
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So I followed my hunches.
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Keshtu pra une ndoqa instinktin tim.
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I gathered around me a small team of people
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Grumbullova rreth meje nje grup te vogel njerezish
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for whom the label "It can't be done"
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per te cilet etiketa "Eshte e mundur"
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was an irresistible challenge.
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perfaqesonte nje sfide te parrezistueshme.
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For a year we were penniless.
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Per nje vit ishim pothuaj pa para.
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At the end of each day, I made a huge pot of soup
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Ne fund te çdo dite, une gatuaja nje tenxhere te madhe me supe
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which we all shared.
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qe ndanim me njeri tjetrin.
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We worked well into each night.
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Punonim nate e dite.
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Most of our ideas were crazy,
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Shume nga idete tona ishin te çmendura,
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but a few were brilliant,
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por disa prej tyre ishin brilante,
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and we broke through.
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dhe arritem t'ja dalim mbane.
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I made the decision to move to the U.S.
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Une vendosa te trasferohem ne Amerike
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after only one trip.
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pasi bera nje udhetim aty.
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My hunches again.
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Perseri instinkti im.
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Three months later I had relocated,
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Tre muaj pasi isha transferuar,
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and the adventure has continued.
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aventura vazhdonte.
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Before I close though,
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Po para se ta mbyll kete fjalim,
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let me tell you about my grandmother.
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dua t'ju flas pak per gjyshen time.
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She grew up at a time
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Ajo u rrit ne nje periudhe kohore
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when Confucianism was the social norm
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kur Konfucianizmi ishte norma sociale
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and the local Mandarin was the person who mattered.
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dhe nje person Mandarin vendas kishte akoma rendesi.
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Life hadn't changed for centuries.
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Jeta nuk kishte ndryshuar per shekuj te tere.
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Her father died soon after she was born.
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Babai i vdiq menjehere pasi ajo lindi.
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Her mother raised her alone.
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Mamaja e rriti e vetme e pa ndihme.
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At 17 she became the second wife
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Kur mbushi 17 vjec u be gruaja e dyte
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of a Mandarin whose mother beat her.
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e nje Mandarini (personi te keq) mamaja e te cilit e rrihte.
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With no support from her husband,
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Pa patur asnje ndihme nga i shoqi,
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she caused a sensation by taking him to court
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ajo beri buje sepse e paditi burrin
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and prosecuting her own case,
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dhe mbrojti veten ne gjyq,
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and a far greater sensation when she won.
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dhe beri akoma me shume buje fakti se ajo fitoi gjyqin.
09:51
(Laughter)
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(qeshje)
09:53
(Applause)
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09:57
"It can't be done" was shown to be wrong.
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Vertetoi se ne kete rast fjala "Nuk mund te behet" ishte e gabuar.
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I was taking a shower in a hotel room in Sydney
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Une isha duke bere dush ne nje hotel ne Sidnei
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the moment she died
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ne momentin qe ajo vdiq
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600 miles away in Melbourne.
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950 km larg nga Melburni.
10:11
I looked through the shower screen
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Dhe ne xhamin e dushit e pashe gjyshen
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and saw her standing on the other side.
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tek rrinte perballe meje.
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I knew she had come to say goodbye.
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E dija se kishte ardhur per te me thene Lamtumire.
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My mother phoned minutes later.
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Mamaja me telefonoi pak minuta me vone.
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A few days later,
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Disa dite me pas,
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we went to a Buddhist temple in Footscray
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shkuam ne nje tempull Budist ne Footscray
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and sat around her casket.
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dhe ndenjem ulur perreth arkivolit te saj.
10:27
We told her stories
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I treguam histori
10:29
and assured her that we were still with her.
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dhe i thame se nuk do ta harronim kurre e do te ishim gjithnje me te.
10:32
At midnight the monk came
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Kur arriti mesnata nje murg na u afrua
10:35
and told us he had to close the casket.
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dhe na tha se duhej te mbyllte arkivolin.
10:38
My mother asked us to feel her hand.
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Atehere mamaja na kerkoi ti preknim doren.
10:41
She asked the monk,
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Dhe pyeti murgun,
10:43
"Why is it that her hand is so warm
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"Si ka mundesi qe dora e saj eshte kaq e ngrohte
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and the rest of her is so cold?"
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dhe gjithe pjesa tjeter e trupit eshte kaq e ftohte?"
10:48
"Because you have been holding it since this morning," he said.
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"Sepse ju e keni shtrenguar fort doren e saj qe nga mengjesi i sotem," i thote ai.
10:52
"You have not let it go."
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"Nuk e keni lene per asnje moment."
10:57
If there is a sinew in our family,
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Nese ka nje tradite ne familjen tone,
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it runs through the women.
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ajo trashegohet nepermjet grave.
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Given who we were and how life had shaped us,
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Duke patur parasysh se cilat ishim dhe se si na ka ndryshuar jeta,
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we can now see
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tani ne arrijme te kuptojme
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that the men who might have come into our lives
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se burrat qe mund te ndikonin ne jetet tona
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would have thwarted us.
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mund te na kishin penguar e ndikuar per keq.
11:10
Defeat would have come too easily.
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Mposhtja mbase do te kishte trokitur me kollaj.
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Now I would like to have my own children,
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Tani, une deshiroj te kem femije,
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and I wonder about the boat.
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dhe shpesh mendoj per varken.
11:18
Who could ever wish it on their own?
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A ka mundesi qe nje gje e tille ti urohet vetes?
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Yet I am afraid of privilege,
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Mbase po, pikerisht se mua privilegji me frikeson,
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of ease,
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ashtu si dhe kollajlliku,
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of entitlement.
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ose te drejtat e teperta.
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Can I give them a bow in their lives,
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A do te mundja valle t'jua jepja jeten e tyre nje cope druri,
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dipping bravely into each wave,
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qe lufton papushim me dallget,
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the unperturbed and steady beat of the engine,
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me zhurme te vazhdueshme motori,
11:35
the vast horizon
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qe shkon drejt horizonteve pafund
11:37
that guarantees nothing?
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dhe qe nuk i garanton asgje?
11:39
I don't know.
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Nuk e di.
11:41
But if I could give it
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Por nese do te kisha sigurine
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and still see them safely through,
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qe ata do te arrijne t'ja dalin mbare,
11:45
I would.
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do ta beja nje gje te tille.
11:48
(Applause)
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Trevor Neilson: And also, Tan's mother is here today
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Trevor Neilson: Mamaja e Tan-it eshte sot ketu me ne
12:03
in the fourth or fifth row.
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ulur ne rreshtin e katert apo te peste.
12:06
(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Tan Le - EntrepreneurTan Le is the founder & CEO of Emotiv, a bioinformatics company that's working on identifying biomarkers for mental and other neurological conditions using electroencephalography (EEG).
Why you should listen
Tan Le is the co-founder and president of Emotiv. Before this, she headed a firm that worked on a new form of remote control that uses brainwaves to control digital devices and digital media. It's long been a dream to bypass the mechanical (mouse, keyboard, clicker) and have our digital devices respond directly to what we think. Emotiv's EPOC headset uses 16 sensors to listen to activity across the entire brain. Software "learns" what each user's brain activity looks like when one, for instance, imagines a left turn or a jump.
Le herself has an extraordinary story -- a refugee from Vietnam at age 4, she entered college at 16 and has since become a vital young leader in her home country of Australia.
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