George Blair-West: 3 ways to build a happy marriage and avoid divorce
George Blair-West: Mutlu bir evlilik kurmanın ve boşanmayı önlemenin 3 yolu
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and Thomas Holmes developed an inventory
human experiences that we could have.
Three, marital separation.
what comes in number seven on the list,
in an institution.
has been counted twice.
pretty much equated to a marriage.
I'm going to be including
common-law marriages
soon hopefully to become marriages.
with same-sex couples,
to talk about are no different.
is better than cure.
boğmaca, kızamık aşıları oluyoruz.
tetanus, whooping cough, measles.
for melanoma, stroke, diabetes --
our current divorce rate.
our policymakers don't believe
değişken veya eğitilebilir
and the way relationships are built
are Generation X.
about these issues,
people attract other people
analytical and skeptical generation,
of any generation before them.
I get a very different reaction.
çok farklı bir tepki alıyorum.
have relationships that last?
the post- "romantic destiny" era with me,
for preventing divorce.
to prevent divorce at two points:
in an established relationship;
before we have children.
çocuk olmadan önce.
on their devices a day.
their face-to-face relationships.
the hookup culture,
the 20-somethings that I work with
how it is often easier for them
of the institution of marriage.
and get all moral on me,
in the American Public Report,
these relationships are happening later.
at an average age for women of 20
the older you are when you get married,
the other two preventers of divorce
to go with tertiary education.
kind of get mixed up together.
until at least the age of 25.
and what you're thinking
to my mind, is personality.
your personality at the age of 50.
your personality at the age of 50.
who got married young why they broke up,
of rapid change and maturation.
before you get married is older.
and relationship researcher,
with a happy, successful marriage.
self-destruct, if this problem is present.
to talk about it here
you can evaluate while you're dating.
değerlendirebileceğiniz bir şey olması.
that were the most stable and happy
the couple shared power.
overseas trips, buying a car,
drilled down on this data,
were generally pretty influenceable.
two options here, isn't there?
onunla birliktesiniz.
in the decision-making process.
why couples come in to see me
merak ediyorum.
for 30 or 40 years.
the infirmities and illness of old age.
focused on caring for each other.
that have bugged them for years.
even infidelities,
on caring for each other.
for this is reliability,
to do what they say they're going to do?
verbally attacked by somebody,
a really disabling illness,
and do what needs to be done
cared for and protected?
isn't doing that for you --
to do that for them --
be better off out of it rather than in it.
when it really matters?
commit to do something for your partner.
as much as you can follow through
sound-good-in-the-moment
to your partner, and you commit to it,
and high water to follow through.
that I'm saying you can look for.
things that can be built
kimi seçeceğiniz.
the other parent of your children.
and quirky thing.
en önemli kararını verirken
to a romantic, loving heart
decision of our life.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
George Blair-West - PsychiatristDr. George Blair-West is an author, researcher and doctor specializing in psychiatry.
Why you should listen
Dr. George Blair-West specializes in psychiatry in private practice in Brisbane, Australia. He sub-specializes in trauma and relationship/sex therapy. His abiding interest is distilling the latest psychotherapeutic research, honing these insights for impactful delivery through his clinical work, and then sharing them with the greater population.
In the 1990s, as a Senior Lecturer at the University of Queensland, Blair-West published widely on suicide and depression. Needing to lose weight himself, he then turned his focus to the overlooked research into the psychological forces that prevent weight loss. The bestselling book Weight Loss for Food Lovers: Understanding Our Minds and Why We Sabotage Our Weight Loss (translated into Dutch and Chinese) along with related research papers resulted in keynote addresses, a regular spot on the Australian breakfast show Today and media appearances around the world. A children's book on teaching healthy eating habits followed, and in 2010 Blair-West was named one of the "top 20 most influential obesity experts in the world."
Blair-West's 2013 novel The Way of The Quest received three international awards and was about the "how to" of finding one's meaning and purpose in life while building healthy relationships.
Helping people make sense of relationships is Blair-West's most important work. Drawing on his 25 years as a relationship therapist, he is currently writing his fourth book, How to Make the Biggest Decision of Your Life with his daughter Jiveny Blair-West, a dating coach. He and his wife Penny, a psychologist, celebrated 30 years of marriage in 2018.
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