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Andrew Solomon - Writer
Andrew Solomon writes about politics, culture and psychology.

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Andrew Solomon is a writer, lecturer and Professor of Clinical Psychology at Columbia University. He is president of PEN American Center. He writes regularly for The New Yorker and the New York Times.

Solomon's newest book, Far and Away: Reporting from the Brink of Change, Seven Continents, Twenty-Five Years was published in April, 2016. His previous book, Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity won the National Book Critics Circle award for nonfiction, the Wellcome Prize and 22 other national awards. It tells the stories of parents who not only learn to deal with their exceptional children but also find profound meaning in doing so. It was a New York Times bestseller in both hardcover and paperback editions. Solomon's previous book, The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression, won the 2001 National Book Award for Nonfiction, was a finalist for the 2002 Pulitzer Prize and was included in The Times of London's list of one hundred best books of the decade. It has been published in twenty-four languages. Solomon is also the author of the novel A Stone Boat and of The Irony Tower: Soviet Artists in a Time of Glasnost.

Solomon is an activist in LGBT rights, mental health, education and the arts. He is a member of the boards of directors of the National LGBTQ Force and Trans Youth Family Allies. He is a member of the Board of Visitors of Columbia University Medical Center, serves on the National Advisory Board of the Depression Center at the University of Michigan, is a director of Columbia Psychiatry and is a member of the Advisory Board of the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance. Solomon also serves on the boards of the Metropolitan Museum of Art, Yaddo and The Alex Fund, which supports the education of Romani children. He is also a fellow of Berkeley College at Yale University and a member of the New York Institute for the Humanities and the Council on Foreign Relations.

Solomon lives with his husband and son in New York and London and is a dual national. He also has a daughter with a college friend; mother and daughter live in Texas but visit often.

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Andrew Solomon: Love, no matter what

Andrew Solomon: Guztiaren gainetik, maitasuna

Filmed: 2013-04-24

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Nolakoa da zurekin alderatuta desberdina den (haur supergaitu bat, edo gaitasun ezberdinak dituen haur bat, edo delitugile bat) haur bat heztea? Hitzaldi lasai honetan, Andrew Solomon idazleak dozenaka gurasoekin hitz egitetik ikasitakoa partekatzen du. Hauei egindako galdera: Non dago mugarik gabeko maitasunaren eta mugarik gabeko onarpenaren arteko muga?

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00:12

"Even in purely non-religious terms,

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"Erlijioz kanpoko ikuspuntutik ere,

00:16

homosexuality represents a misuse of the sexual faculty.

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homosexualitatea sexu-gaitasunaren
erabilera okerra da.

00:22

It is a pathetic little second-rate substitute for reality --

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Errealitatearen bigarren mailako
ordezko penagarria da --

00:27

a pitiable flight from life.

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bizitzatik ihesa negargarria.

00:29

As such, it deserves no compassion,

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Beraz, ez du merezi inolako errukirik, ,

00:33

it deserves no treatment

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ez du merezi tratatzea

00:36

as minority martyrdom,

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gutxiengo martirizatu gisa,

00:38

and it deserves not to be deemed anything but a pernicious sickness."

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eta gaixotasun kaltegarritzat
jotzea baino ez du merezi."

00:45

That's from Time magazine in 1966, when I was three years old.

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Hau Time Magazinen agertu zen
1966an, nik 3 urte nituenean.

00:50

And last year, the president of the United States

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Eta iaz, AEBtako presidenteak

00:54

came out in favor of gay marriage.

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gayen arteko ezkontzen alde azaldu zen.

00:57

(Applause)

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(Txaloak)

01:04

And my question is, how did we get from there to here?

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Nire galdera da, nola joan
gara handik hona?

01:10

How did an illness become an identity?

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Nola bihurtu da gaixotasun bat identitate?

01:15

When I was perhaps six years old,

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Sei urte inguru nituenean,

01:18

I went to a shoe store with my mother and my brother.

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Zapata denda batera joan nintzen
ama eta anaiarekin.

01:21

And at the end of buying our shoes,

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Zapatak erosten amaitu genuenean,

01:23

the salesman said to us that we could each have a balloon to take home.

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saltzaileak esan zigun puxika bat
aukeratzeko etxera eramateko.

01:27

My brother wanted a red balloon, and I wanted a pink balloon.

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Anaiak puxika gorria nahi zuen,
eta nik puxika arrosa.

01:32

My mother said that she thought I'd really rather have a blue balloon.

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Amak esan zuen nik puxika urdina
nahiago izango nuela.

01:37

But I said that I definitely wanted the pink one.

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Baina nik esan nion puxika arrosa
nahi nuela benetan.

01:40

And she reminded me that my favorite color was blue.

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Berak gogorarazi zidan nire kolore
gustukoena urdina zela.

01:46

The fact that my favorite color now is blue, but I'm still gay --

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Gauza da orain nire kolore gustukoena
urdina dela, baina gay naiz oraindik --

01:51

(Laughter) --

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(Barreak) --

01:54

is evidence of both my mother's influence and its limits.

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eta horrek erakusten ditu
amaren eragina eta bere mugak.

01:58

(Laughter)

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(Barreak)

02:00

(Applause)

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(Txaloak)

02:07

When I was little, my mother used to say,

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Txikia nintzenean, amak esaten zuen,

02:10

"The love you have for your children is like no other feeling in the world.

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"Umeenganako maitasunak ez du
pareko sentimendurik munduan.

02:14

And until you have children, you don't know what it's like."

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Eta umeak dituzunera arte,
ez dakizu nolakoa den."

02:17

And when I was little, I took it as the greatest compliment in the world

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Eta txikia nintzenean,
munduko laudorio hoberena zen

02:21

that she would say that about parenting my brother and me.

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amak hori esatea ni
eta anaiaren guraso izateari buruz.

02:24

And when I was an adolescent, I thought

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Eta nerabe nintzenean, uste nuen

02:26

that I'm gay, and so I probably can't have a family.

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gay nintzela, beraz,
ezin izango nuela familiarik izan.

02:30

And when she said it, it made me anxious.

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Eta berak hau zionean,
kezkatu egiten nintzen.

02:32

And after I came out of the closet,

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Eta armairutik irten nintzenean,

02:33

when she continued to say it, it made me furious.

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berak hori esaten jarraitzeak
haserrarazten ninduen.

02:37

I said, "I'm gay. That's not the direction that I'm headed in.

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Esan nuen: "Gay naiz.
Hori ez da nire jarraibidea.

02:41

And I want you to stop saying that."

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Eta hori esateari uztea nahi dut."

02:47

About 20 years ago, I was asked by my editors at The New York Times Magazine

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Direla 20 bat urte, The New York Times
Magazineko editoreek eskatu zidaten

02:52

to write a piece about deaf culture.

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gorren kulturari buruzko
artikulua idazteko.

02:54

And I was rather taken aback.

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Guztiz txundituta geratu nintzen.

02:56

I had thought of deafness entirely as an illness.

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Gortasuna niretzako gaixotasun bat zen.

02:58

Those poor people, they couldn't hear.

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Gizajo horiek ezin zuten entzun.

03:00

They lacked hearing, and what could we do for them?

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Ezin zuten entzun,
eta zer egin genezaken euren alde?

03:03

And then I went out into the deaf world.

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Eta gorren munduan murgildu nintzen.

03:05

I went to deaf clubs.

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Gorren klubetara joan nintzen.

03:07

I saw performances of deaf theater and of deaf poetry.

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Gorren antzerki eta poesia saioak
ikusi nituen.

03:11

I even went to the Miss Deaf America contest in Nashville, Tennessee

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Baita Nashvillen, Tennesseen, izan zen
miss Amerika gorra lehiaketara ere

03:17

where people complained about that slurry Southern signing.

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non jendea hegoaldeko kutsudun
zeinu-hizkuntzari buruz kexatzen zen.

03:21

(Laughter)

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(Barreak)

03:25

And as I plunged deeper and deeper into the deaf world,

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Eta gor-munduan sakon
murgiltzen nintzen bitartean,

03:29

I become convinced that deafness was a culture

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gortasuna kultura bat zela
konbentzitu nintzen

03:32

and that the people in the deaf world who said,

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eta gorren munduko kideek,
hau esaten zutena:

03:35

"We don't lack hearing, we have membership in a culture,"

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"Ez zaigu entzutea falta,
kultura baten kideak gara",

03:38

were saying something that was viable.

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gauza bideragarria adierazten zutela.

03:41

It wasn't my culture,

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Ez zen nire kultura,

03:42

and I didn't particularly want to rush off and join it,

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eta ez nuen gogo handirik
bertan izena emateko,

03:45

but I appreciated that it was a culture

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baina kultura bat zelaz ohartu nintzen

03:48

and that for the people who were members of it,

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eta bertako kideentzat,

03:50

it felt as valuable as Latino culture or gay culture or Jewish culture.

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kultura latino, gay
edo judua bezain baliotsua.

03:56

It felt as valid perhaps even as American culture.

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Amerikar kultura bezain baliotsua
behar bada ere.

04:01

Then a friend of a friend of mine had a daughter who was a dwarf.

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Orduan, lagun baten lagunak
alaba bat izan zuen, nanoa zena.

04:04

And when her daughter was born,

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Bere alaba jaio zenean,

04:06

she suddenly found herself confronting questions

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bere burua zenbait arazoen aurre
ikusten zuen

04:08

that now began to seem quite resonant to me.

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nigan oihartzuna izaten hasi zena.

04:11

She was facing the question of what to do with this child.

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Arazoa zen ume honekin
zer egin behar zuen.

04:15

Should she say, "You're just like everyone else but a little bit shorter?"

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Esan beharko luke: "Beste edonor
bezalakoa zara, baina txikiagoa?

04:18

Or should she try to construct some kind of dwarf identity,

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Edo nano identitate bat
sortzen saiatuko beharko litzateke,

04:22

get involved in the Little People of America,

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Ameriketako Jende Txikiak
elkartean sartu,

04:24

become aware of what was happening for dwarfs?

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nanoei gertatzen zaienaz ikasi?

04:27

And I suddenly thought,

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Bat-batean bururatu zitzaidan,

04:28

most deaf children are born to hearing parents.

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ume gor gehienak entzuten duten
gurasoengandik jaiotzen direla.

04:31

Those hearing parents tend to try to cure them.

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Entzuten duten gurasoek
umea sendatzen saiatzen dira.

04:34

Those deaf people discover community somehow in adolescence.

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Lagun gor horiek nerabezaroan
aurkitzen dute komunitateren bat.

04:38

Most gay people are born to straight parents.

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Lagun gay gehienak guraso heterosexualengandik jaiotzen dira.

04:40

Those straight parents often want them to function

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Guraso horiek askotan nahi izaten dute

04:42

in what they think of as the mainstream world,

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umea funtzionatzea korronte nagusia dena
uste dutenaren arabera,

04:45

and those gay people have to discover identity later on.

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eta lagun gay horiek identitatea
beranduago deskubritu behar dute.

04:48

And here was this friend of mine

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Eta hona hemen nire lagun hura

04:50

looking at these questions of identity with her dwarf daughter.

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identitateari inguruko arazoei so
bere alaba nanoarekin.

04:53

And I thought, there it is again:

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Eta pentsatu nuen: hemen dago berriz.

04:55

A family that perceives itself to be normal

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Bere burua normaltzat
jotzen duen familia bat

04:58

with a child who seems to be extraordinary.

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ezohizkoa dirudien ume batekin.

05:00

And I hatched the idea that there are really two kinds of identity.

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Eta ideia hau errun nuen,
identitate bi daudela egiaz.

05:05

There are vertical identities,

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Badira identitate bertikalak,

05:06

which are passed down generationally from parent to child.

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gurasoengandik umeengana doazenak.

05:09

Those are things like ethnicity, frequently nationality, language, often religion.

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Hor dira etnia, nazionalitatea askotan,
hizkuntza, erlijioa maiz.

05:15

Those are things you have in common with your parents and with your children.

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Horiek dira guraso eta seme-alabengan
bat datozen gauzak.

05:20

And while some of them can be difficult,

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Eta batzuk zailak badira ere,

05:22

there's no attempt to cure them.

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inor ez da haiek osatzen saiatzen.

05:24

You can argue that it's harder in the United States --

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Esan dezakezu AEBtan zailagoa dela --

05:27

our current presidency notwithstanding --

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gure oraingo presidentea gorabehera --

05:29

to be a person of color.

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pertsona beltza izatea.

05:31

And yet, we have nobody who is trying to ensure

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Eta jada, inor ez da saiatzen ari

05:34

that the next generation of children born to African-Americans and Asians

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Ameriketan jatorri afrikar edo asiarreko
jaioko den hurrengo belaunaldia

05:38

come out with creamy skin and yellow hair.

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ile horia eta azal argia izateko.

05:41

There are these other identities which you have to learn from a peer group.

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Badira beste zenbait identitate taldeko
kideengandik ikasi behar dituzunak.

05:45

And I call them horizontal identities,

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Nik identitate horizontalak deritzet,

05:48

because the peer group is the horizontal experience.

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kideen taldea esperientzia
horizontala delako.

05:51

These are identities that are alien to your parents

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Identitate hauek arrotzak dira
gurasoentzako

05:53

and that you have to discover when you get to see them in peers.

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eta kideengan ikustean
deskubritu behar dira.

05:57

And those identities, those horizontal identities,

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Identitate horizontal horiek,

06:00

people have almost always tried to cure.

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jendea beti saiatu da horiek sendatzen.

06:04

And I wanted to look at what the process is

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Prozesu hori aztertu nahi nuen,

06:07

through which people who have those identities

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identitate hori dutenek

06:09

come to a good relationship with them.

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berarekin harreman onak izatera
nola heltzen diren.

06:12

And it seemed to me that there were three levels of acceptance

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Iruditu zitzaidan
hiru onarpen maila zeudela

06:16

that needed to take place.

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gertatu behar zirenak.

06:17

There's self-acceptance, there's family acceptance, and there's social acceptance.

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Badago norberaren onarpena,
familiarena eta gizartearena.

06:23

And they don't always coincide.

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Eta ez dira beti aldi berean gertatzen.

06:25

And a lot of the time, people who have these conditions are very angry

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Askotan, ezaugarri hauek dutenek
oso haserre daude

06:29

because they feel as though their parents don't love them,

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gurasoek ez dituztela maite
sentitzen dutelako,

06:32

when what actually has happened is that their parents don't accept them.

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egiaz gertatzen dena gurasoek
ez dituztela onartzen izan arren.

06:36

Love is something that ideally is there unconditionally

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Amodioa, inolako baldintzarik gabekoa
izan beharko litzateke

06:40

throughout the relationship between a parent and a child.

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guraso eta seme-alaben harremanetan.

06:43

But acceptance is something that takes time.

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Baina onarpenak denbora behar du.

06:46

It always takes time.

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Beti behar du denbora.

06:48

One of the dwarfs I got to know was a guy named Clinton Brown.

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Ezagutu nuen nanoetako bat
Clinton Brown zeritzon.

06:53

When he was born, he was diagnosed with diastrophic dwarfism,

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Jaiotzean nanismo diastrofikoa
diagnostikatu zioten,

06:56

a very disabling condition,

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gaixotasun oso larria,

06:58

and his parents were told that he would never walk, he would never talk,

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Eta gurasoei esan zieten
ezin izango zuela inoiz ibili, hitz egin,

07:02

he would have no intellectual capacity,

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adimen gutxi izango zuela,

07:04

and he would probably not even recognize them.

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gurasoak ere ez zituela ezagutuko.

07:06

And it was suggested to them that they leave him at the hospital

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Iradoki zieten umea ospitalean uzteko

07:10

so that he could die there quietly.

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bertan lasai hil zedin.

07:12

And his mother said she wasn't going to do it.

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Amak esan zuen
ez zuela horrelakorik egingo.

07:14

And she took her son home.

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Eta umea etxera eraman zuen.

07:16

And even though she didn't have a lot of educational or financial advantages,

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Eta hezkuntza edo diruzko baliabide asko
ez bazuen ere,

07:19

she found the best doctor in the country

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estatuko doktorerik hoberena aurkitu zuen

07:21

for dealing with diastrophic dwarfism,

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nanismo diastrofikoa tratatzeko,

07:24

and she got Clinton enrolled with him.

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eta medikuak Clinton zaintzea lortu zuen.

07:26

And in the course of his childhood,

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Eta haurtzaroan zehar,

07:28

he had 30 major surgical procedures.

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30 ebakuntza garrantzitsu egin zioten.

07:31

And he spent all this time stuck in the hospital

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Denbora hura ospitalean sartuta eman zuen

07:33

while he was having those procedures,

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ebakuntzak egiten zizkiotenean,

07:35

as a result of which he now can walk.

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eta ondorioz gaur ibiltzeko gai da.

07:37

And while he was there, they sent tutors around to help him with his school work.

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Bertan zegoela, irakasleak bidali
zizkioten eskola-lanarekin laguntzeko.

07:41

And he worked very hard because there was nothing else to do.

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Gogor egin zuen lan
ez baitzegoen beste zereginik.

07:44

And he ended up achieving at a level

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Eta lortu zuen maila bat,

07:46

that had never before been contemplated by any member of his family.

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beste seniderik inoiz lortu izan ez zuena.

07:50

He was the first one in his family, in fact, to go to college,

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Bera izan zen bere familian
unibertsitatera joan zen lehena,

07:53

where he lived on campus and drove a specially-fitted car

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kanpusean bizi zen
eta egokitutako kotxea gidatzen zuen,

07:56

that accommodated his unusual body.

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bere ezohizko gorputzari moldatutakoa.

07:59

And his mother told me this story of coming home one day --

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Amak kontatu zidanez,
behin etxera zetorrela --

08:02

and he went to college nearby --

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auzoan zegoen unibertsitatea --

08:04

and she said, "I saw that car, which you can always recognize,

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amak esan zidan: "Kotxe hura ikusi nuen,
erraz ezagutzen dena,

08:07

in the parking lot of a bar," she said. (Laughter)

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taberna baten aparkalekuan". (Barreak)

08:11

"And I thought to myself, they're six feet tall, he's three feet tall.

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"Nire buruari esan nion:
haiek 1,80 m dute, berak 0.90m.

08:16

Two beers for them is four beers for him."

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Haientzako 2 garagardo
berarentzako 4 dira."

08:18

She said, "I knew I couldn't go in there and interrupt him,

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Esan zidan:"Banekien ezin nintzela sartu
eta bera moztu,

08:21

but I went home, and I left him eight messages on his cell phone."

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baina etxera joan eta sakelakoan
zortzi mezu utzi nizkion".

08:25

She said, "And then I thought,

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Esan zuen: "Orduan pentsatu nuen

08:27

if someone had said to me when he was born

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jaio zenean inork esan izan balit

08:29

that my future worry would be that he'd go drinking and driving with his college buddies -- "

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etorkizunean kezkatuko nintzela lagunekin
edaten eta gidatzen ibiliko zela -- "

08:34

(Applause)

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(Txaloak)

08:43

And I said to her, "What do you think you did

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Esan nion: "Zer uste duzu egin zenuela

08:45

that helped him to emerge as this charming, accomplished, wonderful person?"

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halako pertsona xarmant,
oso, zoragarria izan dadin?

Eta berak: "Zer egin dudan?
Bera maitatu, hori baino ez.

08:50

And she said, "What did I do? I loved him, that's all.

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Clintonek beti izan du
bere baitan argi hura.

08:54

Clinton just always had that light in him.

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08:57

And his father and I were lucky enough to be the first to see it there."

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Aita eta biok zoriontsuak gara
hura ikusten lehenak garelako."

09:04

I'm going to quote from another magazine of the '60s.

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60 hamarkadako beste aldizkari bat
aipatuko dut.

09:07

This one is from 1968 -- The Atlantic Monthly, voice of liberal America --

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Hau 1968koa da, The Atlantic Monthly,
Amerika liberalaren ahotsa,

09:13

written by an important bioethicist.

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bioetikan aditu batek idatzia.

09:15

He said, "There is no reason to feel guilty

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Hau zioen: "Ez daukagu
zertan errudun sentitu

09:19

about putting a Down syndrome child away,

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haur trisomiko bat baztertzeagatik,

09:22

whether it is put away in the sense of hidden in a sanitarium

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bai erietxe baten ezkutatzen dugulako

09:27

or in a more responsible, lethal sense.

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edo bai beste modu baten,
arduratsuago eta hilgarriagoan.

09:31

It is sad, yes -- dreadful. But it carries no guilt.

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Penagarria da, bai, izugarria.
Baina ez dakar errurik.

09:36

True guilt arises only from an offense against a person,

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Benetako errua
pertsona bati egindako kaltetik dator,

09:40

and a Down's is not a person."

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eta haur trisomikoa ez da pertsona bat".

09:45

There's been a lot of ink given to the enormous progress that we've made

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Tinta asko gastatu da
egin dugun aurrerapenari buruz

09:49

in the treatment of gay people.

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gay direnak tratatzen ditugun eran.

09:51

The fact that our attitude has changed is in the headlines every day.

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Gure jarrera aldatu dela
egunero ikusten dugu egunkarietan.

09:55

But we forget how we used to see people who had other differences,

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Baina beste motako ezberdintasundunak
nola tratatzen genituen ahazten dugu,

10:00

how we used to see people who were disabled,

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ezinduak nola ikusten genituen,

10:02

how inhuman we held people to be.

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ez genituela gizakitzat jotzen.

10:05

And the change that's been accomplished there,

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Eta hemen izan den aldaketa,

10:07

which is almost equally radical,

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ia hain erradikala dena,

10:09

is one that we pay not very much attention to.

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eta kontuan hartzen ez duguna.

10:11

One of the families I interviewed, Tom and Karen Robards,

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Elkarrizketatu nuen familia bat,
Tom and Karen Robards,

10:15

were taken aback when, as young and successful New Yorkers,

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txundituta gelditu ziren, newyorktar
gazte eta arrakastatsu zirelarik,

10:19

their first child was diagnosed with Down syndrome.

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euren lehen umea Down sindromea zuela
aurkitu zutenean.

10:23

They thought the educational opportunities for him were not what they should be,

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Iruditzen zitzaien heziketa aukerak
ez zirela izan beharrekoak,

10:27

and so they decided they would build a little center --

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eta beraz ikastetxe txiki bat sortzea
erabaki zuten,

10:31

two classrooms that they started with a few other parents --

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gela bi, beste guraso gutxiekin
martxan jarri zutena

10:34

to educate kids with D.S.

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haur trisomikoak hezteko.

10:37

And over the years, that center grew into something called the Cooke Center,

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Urteekin ikastetxea hazi
eta Cook Center izena hartu du,

10:41

where there are now thousands upon thousands

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eta bertan orain milaka ume daude

10:43

of children with intellectual disabilities who are being taught.

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adimen-ezgaitasunak izan
eta hezkuntza jasotzen dutenak.

10:47

In the time since that Atlantic Monthly story ran,

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Atlantic Monthlyko artikulua
irten zen egunetik,

10:50

the life expectancy for people with Down syndrome has tripled.

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haur trisomikoen bizi-itxaropena
hirukoiztu egin da.

10:54

The experience of Down syndrome people includes those who are actors,

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Down sindromedunen esperientzian
badaude aktoreak direnak,

10:59

those who are writers, some who are able to live fully independently in adulthood.

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idazleak direnak, helduak direnean
guztiz independente bizi daitekeenak.

11:05

The Robards had a lot to do with that.

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Robards bikoteak horretan badu zerikusia.

11:07

And I said, "Do you regret it?

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Esan nien: Damutzen al zarete?

11:08

Do you wish your child didn't have Down syndrome?

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Gustatuko litzaizueke zuen umea
trisomikoa ez izatea?

11:11

Do you wish you'd never heard of it?"

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Horren berririk inoiz izan ez izatea?"

11:12

And interestingly his father said,

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Aitaren erantzun bitxia hau izan zen:

11:15

"Well, for David, our son, I regret it,

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"Bai, David, semearengandik,
pena ematen dit,

11:17

because for David, it's a difficult way to be in the world,

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Davidek munduan duen bizimodua
zaila baita,

11:21

and I'd like to give David an easier life.

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eta Daviden bizitza erraztu nahiko nuke.

11:24

But I think if we lost everyone with Down syndrome, it would be a catastrophic loss."

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Baina Down sindromedunak desagertuz gero,
galera katastrofikoa litzateke.

11:29

And Karen Robards said to me, "I'm with Tom.

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Eta Karen Robardsek esan zidan:
Bat nator Tomekin.

11:32

For David, I would cure it in an instant to give him an easier life.

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Davidi dagokionez, bai sendatuko nuke
bizitza hobeagoa emateko.

11:36

But speaking for myself -- well, I would never have believed 23 years ago when he was born

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Baina nitaz ari banaiz --, direla 23 urte,
bera jaio zenean ez nuen inoiz sinistuko

11:41

that I could come to such a point --

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puntu honetara helduko nintzenik --

11:43

speaking for myself, it's made me so much better and so much kinder

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niri dagokidanez, hobea,
gozoagoa egin nau

11:48

and so much more purposeful in my whole life,

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eta nire bizitza esanguratsuago
bihurtu du,

11:51

that speaking for myself, I wouldn't give it up for anything in the world."

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nik neuk ez nioke inoiz uko egingo."

11:57

We live at a point when social acceptance for these and many other conditions

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Garai honetan gaixotasun honen
eta beste zenbaiten gizartearen onarpena

12:02

is on the up and up.

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gora doa.

12:03

And yet we also live at the moment

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Baina bizi garen une honetan

12:05

when our ability to eliminate those conditions

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gaixotasun hauek ezabatzeko gure ahalmena

12:08

has reached a height we never imagined before.

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inoiz uste izandako mailara heldu da.

12:11

Most deaf infants born in the United States now

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Gaur AEBn gor jaiotzen diren ume gehienek

12:14

will receive Cochlear implants,

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koklea inplanteak jasoko dituzte,

12:16

which are put into the brain and connected to a receiver,

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burmuinean jartzen direnak
hargailu bati konektatuta,

12:21

and which allow them to acquire a facsimile of hearing and to use oral speech.

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eta entzumen antzeko zerbait
ematen diena eta hitza erabiltzeko gaitu.

12:26

A compound that has been tested in mice, BMN-111,

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Arratoiengan probatu den
konposatu batek,BMN-111ak,

12:30

is useful in preventing the action of the achondroplasia gene.

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akondroplasia-genearen eragina
prebenitzeko balio du.

12:35

Achondroplasia is the most common form of dwarfism,

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Akondroplasia da nanismoaren
forma arruntena,

12:38

and mice who have been given that substance and who have the achondroplasia gene,

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eta konposatu hura jaso duten
akondroplasiadun arratoiek

12:42

grow to full size.

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normal hazten dira.

12:44

Testing in humans is around the corner.

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Laster egingo dituzte probak gizakiengan.

12:46

There are blood tests which are making progress

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Odol-proba batzuk
aurrerapena ekartzen ari dira,

12:48

that would pick up Down syndrome more clearly and earlier in pregnancies than ever before,

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haurdunaldian inoiz baino goizago
Down sindromea detektatuko lukete

12:54

making it easier and easier for people to eliminate those pregnancies,

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haurdunaldi horiek
errazago ekiditea erraztuz,

12:59

or to terminate them.

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edo haurdunaldia amaitzea.

13:00

And so we have both social progress and medical progress.

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Beraz gizarte eta medikuntza arlo bietan
daude aurrerapenak.

13:05

And I believe in both of them.

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Nik bietan sinesten dut.

13:07

I believe the social progress is fantastic and meaningful and wonderful,

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Uste dut gizarte-aurrerapena bikaina,
esanguratsua, zoragarria dela,

13:11

and I think the same thing about the medical progress.

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eta berdin deritzot
medikuntzaren aurrerapenari.

13:14

But I think it's a tragedy when one of them doesn't see the other.

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Baina uste dut tragedia dela
batak ez duenean bestea ikusten.

13:18

And when I see the way they're intersecting

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Eta nola gurutzatzen diren
ikusten dudanean

13:20

in conditions like the three I've just described,

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aipatu ditudan
hiru gaixotasunetan bezala,

13:23

I sometimes think it's like those moments in grand opera

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batzuetan iruditzen zait
operako une horiek bezalakoa dela,

13:26

when the hero realizes he loves the heroine

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gizon heroia ohartzen denean
emakume heroia maite duela

13:29

at the exact moment that she lies expiring on a divan.

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emakumea dibanean etzanda
hiltzen dagoen une berean.

13:33

(Laughter)

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(Barreak)

13:36

We have to think about how we feel about cures altogether.

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Hausnartu beharko genuke
sendaketez sentitzen dugunari buruz.

13:40

And a lot of the time the question of parenthood is,

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Askotan, guraso izatearen arazoa hau da:

13:43

what do we validate in our children,

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zer da umeengan ontzat ematen duguna,

13:45

and what do we cure in them?

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eta zer da sendatzen duguna?

13:47

Jim Sinclair, a prominent autism activist, said,

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Jim Sinclairek, autismoaren
aktibista famatuak, esan zuen:

13:51

"When parents say 'I wish my child did not have autism,'

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"Gurasoek diotenean: Gustatuko litzaidake
nire haurrak autismorik ez izatea,

13:55

what they're really saying is 'I wish the child I have did not exist

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benetan diotena da:Gustatuko litzaidake
umea existituko ez balitz

14:00

and I had a different, non-autistic child instead.'

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eta beste ume bat,
autista ez zena, izango banu.

14:04

Read that again. This is what we hear when you mourn over our existence.

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Berriz irakurri. Hau da entzuten duguna
gure existentziaz kexatzen zarenean.

14:09

This is what we hear when you pray for a cure --

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Hau da entzuten duguna
sendaketa eskatzen duzunean --

14:12

that your fondest wish for us

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guretzako gehien nahi duzuena dela

14:14

is that someday we will cease to be

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inoiz gehiago ez existitzea

14:17

and strangers you can love will move in behind our faces."

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eta gure aurpegien atzean
arrotz maitagarriak mugi daitezela."

14:22

It's a very extreme point of view,

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Muturreko ikuspuntua da,

14:25

but it points to the reality that people engage with the life they have

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baina erakusten du
jendeak jada duen bizitza bizi duela

14:29

and they don't want to be cured or changed or eliminated.

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eta ez dutela nahi inork sendatu,
aldatu edo ezabatzea.

14:34

They want to be whoever it is that they've come to be.

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Existitu nahi dute, direnak direla.

14:37

One of the families I interviewed for this project

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Proiektu honetarako
elkarrizketatutako familia bat

14:41

was the family of Dylan Klebold who was one of the perpetrators of the Columbine massacre.

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Dylan Kleboldena izan zen,
Columbineko sarraskiaren egileetako bat.

14:46

It took a long time to persuade them to talk to me,

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Kostatu zitzaidan
nirekin hitz egiteko konbentzitzea,

14:49

and once they agreed, they were so full of their story

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eta onartu zutenean,
hain zuten istorioaz burua beteta

14:52

that they couldn't stop telling it.

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ezin ziotela kontatzeari utzi.

14:53

And the first weekend I spent with them -- the first of many --

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Eurekin pasa nuen lehen asteburuan
-- askoetatik lehena--

14:56

I recorded more than 20 hours of conversation.

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20 ordu baino gehiagoko
elkarrizketa grabatu nuen.

14:59

And on Sunday night, we were all exhausted.

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Igande gauean, jota geunden denak.

15:01

We were sitting in the kitchen. Sue Klebold was fixing dinner.

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Sukaldean geunden jezarrita.
Sue Klebold afaria prestatzen ari zen.

15:04

And I said, "If Dylan were here now,

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Eta esan nuen: "Dylan hemen balego orain,

15:07

do you have a sense of what you'd want to ask him?"

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ba al dakizue zer galdetuko zenioketen?"

15:10

And his father said, "I sure do.

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Eta aitak: Noski baietz.

15:12

I'd want to ask him what the hell he thought he was doing."

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Galdetuko nioke
zer uste zuen ari zela egiten."

15:16

And Sue looked at the floor, and she thought for a minute.

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Suek lurrera begiratu zuen,
eta minutu batez pentsatzen egon zen.

15:19

And then she looked back up and said,

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Orduan, begirada altxatu eta esan zuen:

15:21

"I would ask him to forgive me for being his mother

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"Bere ama izateagatik
barkatzeko eskatuko nioke

15:25

and never knowing what was going on inside his head."

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inoiz ez bainuen asmatu buruan zeukana."

15:30

When I had dinner with her a couple of years later --

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Urte pare bat geroago
berarekin afaldu nuenean --

15:33

one of many dinners that we had together --

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maiz izan genuen afarietako baten --

15:35

she said, "You know, when it first happened,

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esan zidan: "Ba al dakizu,
hura gertatu zenean,

15:38

I used to wish that I had never married, that I had never had children.

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nahi izaten nuen inoiz ez ezkondu izana,
umeak izan ez izana.

15:42

If I hadn't gone to Ohio State and crossed paths with Tom,

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Ohiora joan eta Tom aurkitu izan ez banu,

15:45

this child wouldn't have existed and this terrible thing wouldn't have happened.

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ume hau ez zen existituko eta gauza
ikaragarri hura ez zen gertatuko.

15:49

But I've come to feel that I love the children I had so much

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Baina sentitzen dut izan ditudan umeak
hainbeste maitatzen ditudala

15:54

that I don't want to imagine a life without them.

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ez dudala nahi eurak gabeko bizitzan
pentsatu ere.

15:57

I recognize the pain they caused to others, for which there can be no forgiveness,

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Ikusten dut besteei egin zieten mina,
eta ez dago hori barkatzerik,

16:02

but the pain they caused to me, there is," she said.

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baina niri eragindako minak,
badu barkamena" esan zuen.

16:05

"So while I recognize that it would have been better for the world

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"Beraz, nahiz eta ikusi
munduarentzako hobea izango zela

16:09

if Dylan had never been born,

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Dylan jaio ez izana,

16:12

I've decided that it would not have been better for me."

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erabaki dut niretzako
hori ez zela hobea izango."

16:17

I thought it was surprising how all of these families had all of these children with all of these problems,

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Harrigarria zen familia hauek,arazo
hauek dituzten ume hauek dituztenak,

16:24

problems that they mostly would have done anything to avoid,

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arazoa ez izateko gehienek edozer
egingo luketen arazoak,

16:27

and that they had all found so much meaning in that experience of parenting.

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eta zer nolako esangura aurkitu dioten
guraso izateari ikustea.

16:30

And then I thought, all of us who have children

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Orduan pentsatu nuen,
umeak ditugunok

16:34

love the children we have, with their flaws.

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gure umeak maite ditugu,
euren akatsekin.

Aingeru zoragarri bat tupustean
salako sabaitik bera baletor

16:36

If some glorious angel suddenly descended through my living room ceiling

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16:41

and offered to take away the children I have

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eta eskainiko balit
ditudan umeak eramatea

16:43

and give me other, better children -- more polite, funnier, nicer, smarter --

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beste hobeago batzuk emateko, finagoak,
dibertigarriagoak, goxoagoak, azkarragoak,

16:49

I would cling to the children I have and pray away that atrocious spectacle.

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umeak gogor heldu eta otoi egingo nuke
ikuskizun anker hura desagertzeko.

16:54

And ultimately I feel

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Eta azkenean uste dut

16:56

that in the same way that we test flame-retardant pajamas in an inferno

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suaren kontrako pijamak su-ontzian
probatzen ditugun modu berean

17:00

to ensure they won't catch fire when our child reaches across the stove,

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gure umea labera hurbiltzean
ez dela erreko ziurtatzeko,

17:05

so these stories of families negotiating these extreme differences

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desberdintasun itzel hauetara
moldatzen diren familien istorio hauek

17:09

reflect on the universal experience of parenting,

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gurasotasunaren esperientzia
unibertsala islatzen dutela.

17:11

which is always that sometimes you look at your child and you think,

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Batzuetan zure umeari begiratu
eta bururatzen zaizu:

17:15

where did you come from?

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Nondik etorri ote haiz hi?

17:18

(Laughter)

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(Barreak)

17:20

It turns out that while each of these individual differences is siloed --

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Kontua da banakako desberdintasunak
zatituta gordetzen diren bitartean --

17:25

there are only so many families dealing with schizophrenia,

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familia kopuru mugatu batean
dago eskizofrenia,

17:28

there are only so many families of children who are transgender,

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familia kopuru mugatu batean
daude ume-transgeneroak,

17:30

there are only so many families of prodigies --

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familia kopuru mugatu batean
haur prodijioak --

pareko erronkak dituzten familiak --

17:32

who also face similar challenges in many ways --

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17:35

there are only so many families in each of those categories --

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familia kopuru mugatu bat dago
kategoria bakoitzean --

17:37

but if you start to think

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baina pentsatzen hasiz gero

17:39

that the experience of negotiating difference within your family

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familian desberdintasunei
moldatzeko esperientzia

17:42

is what people are addressing,

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dela jendeak egin beharrekoa,

17:44

then you discover that it's a nearly universal phenomenon.

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orduan ikusten duzu
arazo ia unibertsala dela.

17:48

Ironically, it turns out, that it's our differences, and our negotiation of difference,

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Ironikoki, gure desberdintasunak
eta berak moldatzen dugun modua direla

17:53

that unite us.

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bat egiten gaituena.

17:55

I decided to have children while I was working on this project.

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Proiektu honetan ari nintzela
erabaki nuen umeak izatea.

18:01

And many people were astonished and said,

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Askok harrituta zioten:

18:04

"But how can you decide to have children

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"Nola erabaki dezakezu umeak izatea

18:05

in the midst of studying everything that can go wrong?"

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oker joan daitekeen guztia
ikertzen duzun bitartean?"

18:10

And I said, "I'm not studying everything that can go wrong.

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Esan nien:"Ez dut ikertzen
oker joan daitekeena.

18:13

What I'm studying is how much love there can be,

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Ikertzen ari naizena da
zenbat maitasun egon daitekeen,

18:16

even when everything appears to be going wrong."

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dena oker doala dirudienean ere."

18:21

I thought a lot about the mother of one disabled child I had seen,

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Asko akordatzen nintzen
haur ezindu baten amarekin,

18:26

a severely disabled child who died through caregiver neglect.

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haur larri ezindu bat
zaindarien utzikeriarengatik hil zena.

18:30

And when his ashes were interred, his mother said,

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Errautsak lurperatu zituztenean,
amak esan zuen:

18:33

"I pray here for forgiveness for having been twice robbed,

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"Bi gauza lapurtu dizkidatelako
barkamena eskatzeko egiten dut otoi,

18:41

once of the child I wanted and once of the son I loved."

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lehena, desiratzen nuen haurra
eta bigarrena, maite nuen semea."

18:47

And I figured it was possible then for anyone to love any child

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Ulertu nuen edonor
edozein haur maitatzeko gai zela

18:52

if they had the effective will to do so.

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horretarako borondatea izanez gero.

18:54

So my husband is the biological father of two children

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Nire senarra
ume biren aita biologikoa da

18:59

with some lesbian friends in Minneapolis.

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Minneapoliseko bi lagun
lesbianekin izandakoak.

19:02

I had a close friend from college who'd gone through a divorce and wanted to have children.

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Eskolako nire lagun min bat dibortziatuta
zegoen eta ume bat izan nahi zuen.

Beraz, gu biok
alaba bat izan genuen,

19:08

And so she and I have a daughter,

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19:10

and mother and daughter live in Texas.

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eta ama eta alaba Texasen bizi dira.

19:12

And my husband and I have a son who lives with us all the time

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Senarra eta biok seme bat dugu
gurekin bizi dena.

19:15

of whom I am the biological father,

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Ni naiz aita biologikoa,

19:17

and our surrogate for the pregnancy was Laura,

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eta Laura izan zen
haurdunaldia bizi zuena,

19:21

the lesbian mother of Oliver and Lucy in Minneapolis.

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Minneapolisen bizi diren
Lucy eta Oliverren ama lesbiana.

19:24

(Applause)

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(Txaloak)

19:33

So the shorthand is five parents of four children in three states.

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Hau da, 5 guraso
3 estatuetan 4 umeentzako.

19:39

And there are people who think that the existence of my family

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Bada jendea uste duena
nire familia existitzeak

19:42

somehow undermines or weakens or damages their family.

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bere familia ahuldu
edo kaltetzen duela nolabait.

19:47

And there are people who think that families like mine

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Bada jendea uste duena
nirea bezalako familiak

ez liratekeela baimenduta egon beharko.

19:50

shouldn't be allowed to exist.

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19:52

And I don't accept subtractive models of love, only additive ones.

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Eta ez dut maitasun eredu kentzailerik
onartzen, gehitzaileak bakarrik.

19:58

And I believe that in the same way that we need species diversity

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Uste dut espezieen aniztasuna
behar dugun eran

20:01

to ensure that the planet can go on,

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planeta aurrera joango dela ziurtatzeko,

20:03

so we need this diversity of affection and diversity of family

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familia eta maitasun aniztasuna ere
behar dugula

20:08

in order to strengthen the ecosphere of kindness.

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ontasunaren ekosfera indartzeko.

20:12

The day after our son was born,

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Gure umea jaio eta hurrengo egunean,

20:15

the pediatrician came into the hospital room and said she was concerned.

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pediatra ospitaleko gelan sartu
eta kezkatuta zegoela esan zigun.

20:19

He wasn't extending his legs appropriately.

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Umeak ez zituen hankak ondo luzatzen.

20:22

She said that might mean that he had brain damage.

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Hori burmuineko kaltearen
adierazgarri izan litzateke.

20:25

In so far as he was extending them, he was doing so asymmetrically,

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Luzatzen zituenean,
asimetrikoki egiten zuen,

20:29

which she thought could mean that there was a tumor of some kind in action.

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eta bere ustez
tumore baten eraginagatik izan litzateke.

20:32

And he had a very large head, which she thought might indicate hydrocephalus.

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Eta buru oso handia zuen,
hidrozefalia adieraz zezakeena.

20:37

And as she told me all of these things,

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Hau dena esan zidanean,

20:39

I felt the very center of my being pouring out onto the floor.

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neure burua lurrean urtzen sentitu nuen.

20:43

And I thought, here I had been working for years

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Pentsatu nuen; Hara, urtetan ibili naiz

20:45

on a book about how much meaning people had found

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liburu bat idazten,
jendeak zer gauza aurkitu dituen

20:48

in the experience of parenting children who are disabled,

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ume ezinduen guraso izatean,

20:51

and I didn't want to join their number.

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eta nik ez nuen euretako bat izan nahi.

20:55

Because what I was encountering was an idea of illness.

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Aurkitzen nuena
gaixotasunaren ideia bat zelako.

20:58

And like all parents since the dawn of time,

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Eta betidanik guraso guztiek
nahi izan duten bezala,

21:00

I wanted to protect my child from illness.

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nire umea gaixotasunetik
babestu nahi nuen.

21:03

And I wanted also to protect myself from illness.

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Neure burua ere
gaixotasunetik babestu nahi nuen.

21:07

And yet, I knew from the work I had done

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Haatik, nire lanarengatik banekien

21:09

that if he had any of the things we were about to start testing for,

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umeak izango balu frogen bidez bilatuko genituen gauzaren bat,

21:13

that those would ultimately be his identity,

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hura izango zela bere identitatea,

21:16

and if they were his identity they would become my identity,

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eta bere identitatea bazen,
nire identitatea ere izango zela,

21:21

that that illness was going to take a very different shape as it unfolded.

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gaixotasuna forma desberdinak
hartuko zituela hedatzean.

21:25

We took him to the MRI machine, we took him to the CAT scanner,

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Erresonantzia makinara,
OTA tomografiara eraman genuen,

21:28

we took this day-old child and gave him over for an arterial blood draw.

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egun bateko umea hartu eta odol arteriala
har ziezaioten eman genuen.

Babesgabe sentitzen ginen.

21:32

We felt helpless.

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21:33

And at the end of five hours,

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Bost orduren buruan,

21:34

they said that his brain was completely clear

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esan zuten burmuina guztiz normala zuela

21:37

and that he was by then extending his legs correctly.

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eta hankak ondo luzatzen zituela.

21:40

And when I asked the pediatrician what had been going on,

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Eta pediatrari galdetu genionean
zer gertatu zen,

21:43

she said she thought in the morning he had probably had a cramp.

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esan zigun goizekoa
karranpak izango zirela.

21:47

(Laughter)

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(Barreak)

21:51

But I thought how my mother was right.

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Baina nik pentsatu nuen
ene amak arrazoia zuela.

21:58

I thought, the love you have for your children

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Pentsatu nuen, umeenganako maitasuna

22:02

is unlike any other feeling in the world,

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ez du parekorik
beste edozein sentimenduekin,

22:05

and until you have children, you don't know what it feels like.

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eta umeak dituzunera arte
ez dakizu zer den.

Uste dut umeek harrapatu nindutela

22:11

I think children had ensnared me

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22:14

the moment I connected fatherhood with loss.

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guraso izatea galerarekin lotu nuenean.

22:17

But I'm not sure I would have noticed that

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Baina ez dakit
hortaz konturatuko nintzatekeenik

22:19

if I hadn't been so in the thick of this research project of mine.

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nire ikerketa proiektuan
sakon sartu izan ez banintz.

22:25

I'd encountered so much strange love,

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Hain maitasun arraro aurkitu dut,

22:28

and I fell very naturally into its bewitching patterns.

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eredu liluragarri horietan
amildu nintzela.

22:32

And I saw how splendor can illuminate even the most abject vulnerabilities.

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Ikusi dut edertasunak zaurgarritasun
gordinena argiztatu dezakeela.

22:38

During these 10 years, I had witnessed and learned

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10 urte hauetan, ikusi eta ikasi egin dut

22:42

the terrifying joy of unbearable responsibility,

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ardura jasanezinaren poz izugarria,

22:46

and I had come to see how it conquers everything else.

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eta ikusi dut horrek
beste dena garaitzen duela.

22:49

And while I had sometimes thought the parents I was interviewing were fools,

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Batzuetan elkarrizketatzen nituen gurasoak
memeloak zirela pentsatu izan arren,

22:54

enslaving themselves to a lifetime's journey with their thankless children

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bizitza osorako
esker gutxiko umeen esklabo bihurtuz

22:58

and trying to breed identity out of misery,

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zoritxarra identitate bihurtzen saiatzen,

23:01

I realized that day that my research had built me a plank

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ohartu nintzen ikerketak
euskarri bat eman zidala

23:06

and that I was ready to join them on their ship.

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eta euren ontzian
sartzeko prest nengoela.

23:09

Thank you.

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Eskerrik asko.

23:11

(Applause)

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(Txaloak)

Translated by Begoña Laka
Reviewed by Jone Aliri

ABOUT THE SPEAKER

Andrew Solomon - Writer
Andrew Solomon writes about politics, culture and psychology.

Why you should listen

Andrew Solomon is a writer, lecturer and Professor of Clinical Psychology at Columbia University. He is president of PEN American Center. He writes regularly for The New Yorker and the New York Times.

Solomon's newest book, Far and Away: Reporting from the Brink of Change, Seven Continents, Twenty-Five Years was published in April, 2016. His previous book, Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity won the National Book Critics Circle award for nonfiction, the Wellcome Prize and 22 other national awards. It tells the stories of parents who not only learn to deal with their exceptional children but also find profound meaning in doing so. It was a New York Times bestseller in both hardcover and paperback editions. Solomon's previous book, The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression, won the 2001 National Book Award for Nonfiction, was a finalist for the 2002 Pulitzer Prize and was included in The Times of London's list of one hundred best books of the decade. It has been published in twenty-four languages. Solomon is also the author of the novel A Stone Boat and of The Irony Tower: Soviet Artists in a Time of Glasnost.

Solomon is an activist in LGBT rights, mental health, education and the arts. He is a member of the boards of directors of the National LGBTQ Force and Trans Youth Family Allies. He is a member of the Board of Visitors of Columbia University Medical Center, serves on the National Advisory Board of the Depression Center at the University of Michigan, is a director of Columbia Psychiatry and is a member of the Advisory Board of the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance. Solomon also serves on the boards of the Metropolitan Museum of Art, Yaddo and The Alex Fund, which supports the education of Romani children. He is also a fellow of Berkeley College at Yale University and a member of the New York Institute for the Humanities and the Council on Foreign Relations.

Solomon lives with his husband and son in New York and London and is a dual national. He also has a daughter with a college friend; mother and daughter live in Texas but visit often.

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