Elizabeth Lesser: Say your truths and seek them in others
エリザベス・レッサー: 真の自分を語り真の他者を見出すとは
Elizabeth Lesser helps her readers and students transform their lives after brushes with pain, adversity and life's myriad problems. Full bio
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for all of them.
仕事のいしずえとなりました
throughout my 20s.
自宅出産の助産師をしていました
valuable and sometimes surprising things,
時に驚くようなことを教えてくれました
who's fainted at the sight of blood.
息を吹き返す方法など
that stuck with me or guided me
別の仕事に就いても
and started other jobs.
こういった事柄ではありません
with a unique worth.
この世に生まれるという信念でした
to describe that spark,
ふさわしいと思います
that comes close to naming
近い表現だからです
as a snowflake,
一人として同じものはありません
覆い隠すようになります
of things happen to us
さまざまなことを経て
eccentricities and authenticity.
真正直さを隠すようになります
生来の権利として持っていました
of our time uncomfortable in our own skin,
内心で居心地悪さを感じながら過ごします
authenticity deficit disorder.
患っているかのように
それは―
from laboring women.
学んだこともあります
普段はこうなっています
it has to stretch from this
この幅からー
妨げてしまいます
that would happen
それはー
of the universe took notice
それに気づいて
or painful things happen to me
困難や苦痛に遭遇した時
what I learned from the mothers:
学んだことを思い出します
魂に溢れる教訓があります
from Albert Einstein.
Albert Einstein concluded
experience of life
我々の日常の人生経験は
is this whole other dimension
全く異なる次元があるのです
and the future merge
this state, this dimension,
この状態― この次元を
それを経験して
hours and hours,
ただひたすら呼吸をしていました
I took with me from midwifery.
私が学んだことです
or painful, try to stay open.
心を開くこと
step off your hamster wheel
throughout my life,
私の助けとなりましたが
important job of my life thus far.
came out of remission
was a bone marrow transplant.
we found a match for her,
適合者が見つかりました
I was my sister's perfect genetic match,
分かった時の姉妹の反応は
there's lots of things.
and there's protection.
assembling many of those first layers
数多く掛け始める所
is pretty straightforward.
シンプルだということです
in the cancer patient
がん患者の骨髄を破壊した後に
健康な細胞を移植するのです
marrow cells from a donor.
engraft in the patient.
あらゆる手を尽くします
transplants are fraught with danger.
危険を伴うことを知りました
through the near-lethal chemotherapy,
うまく成功したとしても
もしくは攻撃と呼ばれます
a long history of love,
of rejection and attack,
to bigger betrayals.
大きな裏切りにまで至ります
the kind of the relationship
in all kinds of relationships,
どの人間関係でもありがちなのは
the dangers of rejection or attack,
危険について学んだ時の私は
transplant up to the doctors,
してしまわずに
to call our "soul marrow transplant?"
呼ぶものを行えばどうなるか?と
we had caused each other,
同じ事をさせられるでしょうか?
I turned to my parents' holy text:
両親の聖典を持ち出しました
why we should visit a therapist
妹の身体に移植する前に
and transplanted into her body.
I made up in my head."
彼が私にしたことを許さないわ」
しているはずだと伝えました
in our heads that kept us separate.
お互いを退けているのです
of each of those cells
for the rest of your life,"
私はあなたの体内を泳ぎ続けるのよ」と
our relationship."
do all sorts of risky things,
人はさまざまな危険を冒します
or jumping out of an airplane
飛行機から飛び降りたり
受けることを了承したことでした
落ち込んでいた時のことです
相手に対する憶測
to undergo the bone marrow harvest,
勇敢だと褒められましたが
of harvest and transplant,
with another human being,
our vulnerable souls.
お互いにさらし共有したことです
学んだことを思い出しました
after the harvest.
farm-to-table event --
more and more time together.
共に過ごすようになりました
隔離ユニットで過ごしました
隔離ユニットで過ごしました
this kind of work.
評価すらしません
of real life and important work.
混乱を招くと見なし
and the financial cost --
出費がかさむことを心配します
seems to have forgotten all about.
通貨をもってなされました
was the best year of her life,
人生で一番幸せな時だったそうです
一番甘美だったと語りました
we had done with each other,
she'd always needed to say.
きちんと話すようになりました
やるようになりました
with the people in my life.
率直であることを恐れなくなりました
I sought the truth of others.
あるがままの他者も見い出せたことです
the final chapter of this story
midwifery had trained me.
高めてくれたかに気づいていませんでした
過ごした後に
the doctors could do.
もうありませんでした
a couple of months to live.
私たちの血でもありました
私の一部も死にました
なれたことです
to the pain of our past,
心を開くことにより
with just one of them.
そのうちの一つをお届けします
for a life-or-death situation
待つ必要はありません
that matter to you,
浄化することはできます
of first responder,
the first courageous step
行動を起こし努力する事はできます
同じことが言えるのです
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Elizabeth Lesser - Wellness specialistElizabeth Lesser helps her readers and students transform their lives after brushes with pain, adversity and life's myriad problems.
Why you should listen
Elizabeth Lesser is a bestselling author and the cofounder of Omega Institute, the renowned conference and retreat center located in Rhinebeck, New York. Lesser's first book, The Seeker's Guide, chronicles her years at Omega and distills lessons learned into a potent guide for growth and healing. Her New York Times bestselling book, Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow (Random House), has sold more than 300,000 copies and has been translated into 20 languages. Her latest book, Marrow: A Love Story (Harper Collins/September 2016), is a memoir about Elizabeth and her younger sister, Maggie, and the process they went through when Elizabeth was the donor for Maggie’s bone marrow transplant.
Lesser cofounded Omega Institute in 1977 -- a time when a variety of fresh ideas were sprouting in American culture. Since then, the institute has been at the forefront of holistic education, offering workshops and trainings in: integrative medicine, prevention, nutrition, and the mind/body connection; meditation and yoga; cross-cultural arts and creativity; ecumenical spirituality; and social change movements like women's empowerment and environmental sustainability. Lesser is also the cofounder of Omega's Women's Leadership Center, which grew out of the popular Women & Power conference series featuring women leaders, activists, authors and artists from around the world. Each year more than 30,000 people participate in Omega's programs on its campus in Rhinebeck, New York and at urban and travel sites, and more than a million people visit its website for online learning.
A student of the Sufi master, Pir Vilayat Inayat Khan, for many years, Lesser has also studied with spiritual teachers, healers, psychologists and philosophers from other traditions. In 2008 she helped Oprah Winfrey produce a ten-week online seminar based on Eckhart Tolle's book, A New Earth. The webinar was viewed by more than 8 million people worldwide. She was a frequent host on Oprah's "Soul Series," a weekly radio show on Sirius/XM, and a guest on Oprah's "Super Soul Sunday." In 2011, she gave a TED Talk, "Take 'the Other' to lunch ," in which she called for civility and understanding as we negotiate our differences as human beings.
Lesser attended Barnard College, where she studied literature, and San Francisco State University, where she received a teaching degree. In 2011 she received an honorary doctorate from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology, in Palo Alto, California. Early in her career she was a midwife and birth educator. Today, besides writing and her work at Omega Institute, she lends her time to social and environmental causes and is an avid walker, cook and gardener. She lives with her family in New York's Hudson River Valley.
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