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Jia Jiang: What I learned from 100 days of rejection
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Jia Jiang - Author, blogger, entrepreneur
Jia Jiang's journey through rejection revealed a world hidden in plain sight, where people are much kinder than we imagine. Full bio
Jia Jiang's journey through rejection revealed a world hidden in plain sight, where people are much kinder than we imagine. Full bio
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00:12
When I was six years old,
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Waktu saya berumur enam tahun,
00:14
I received my gifts.
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saya menerima hadiah saya.
00:16
My first grade teacher
had this brilliant idea.
had this brilliant idea.
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Guru kelas pertama saya
ada idea menarik.
ada idea menarik.
00:19
She wanted us to experience
receiving gifts
receiving gifts
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Dia ingin kelas kami mendapat pengalaman
menerima hadiah
menerima hadiah
00:23
but also learning the virtue
of complimenting each other.
of complimenting each other.
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dan juga kebaikan memuji
satu sama lain.
satu sama lain.
Jadi dia menyuruh seluruh kelas
ke hadapan bilik darjah.
ke hadapan bilik darjah.
00:27
So she had all of us
come to the front of the classroom,
come to the front of the classroom,
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00:30
and she bought all of us gifts
and stacked them in the corner.
and stacked them in the corner.
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Dia telah membeli hadiah untuk semua
dan susun di satu sudut.
dan susun di satu sudut.
00:33
And she said,
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Dia berkata,
00:34
"Why don't we just stand here
and compliment each other?
and compliment each other?
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"Bolehkah semua diri di sini
dan saling memuji?
dan saling memuji?
00:37
If you hear your name called,
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Jika dengar nama anda dipanggil,
00:39
go and pick up your gift and sit down."
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pilih satu hadiah dan duduk."
00:42
What a wonderful idea, right?
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Idea yang bagus, kan?
Apa yang boleh jadi salah?
00:44
What could go wrong?
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00:46
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
00:48
Well, there were 40 of us to start with,
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Pertama, kami ada 40 orang,
00:50
and every time I heard
someone's name called,
someone's name called,
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setiap kali saya mendengar
nama dipanggil,
nama dipanggil,
00:53
I would give out the heartiest cheer.
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saya akan menyorak dengan semangat.
00:55
And then there were 20 people left,
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Kemudian, tinggal 20 orang,
00:57
and 10 people left,
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dan 10 orang,
00:59
and five left ...
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lima orang ...
01:01
and three left.
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dan akhirnya tiga orang.
01:03
And I was one of them.
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Saya salah satu dari mereka.
01:04
And the compliments stopped.
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Pujian terhenti.
01:07
Well, at that moment, I was crying.
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Pada masa itu, saya menangis.
01:10
And the teacher was freaking out.
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Cikgu pula cemas.
01:12
She was like, "Hey, would anyone
say anything nice about these people?"
say anything nice about these people?"
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Dia berkata, "Ada sesiapa mahu cakap
perkara baik tentang murid-murid ini?
perkara baik tentang murid-murid ini?
01:16
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
01:17
"No one? OK, why don't you
go get your gift and sit down.
go get your gift and sit down.
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"Tiada siapa? OK, awak boleh pergi
ambil hadiah dan duduk.
ambil hadiah dan duduk.
01:20
So behave next year --
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Tahun depan berkelakuan baik
mungkin ada orang akan puji awak
mungkin ada orang akan puji awak
01:21
someone might say
something nice about you."
something nice about you."
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01:24
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
01:26
Well, as I'm describing this you,
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Dari gaya saya bercerita,
01:28
you probably know
I remember this really well.
I remember this really well.
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anda mungkin sedar
saya sangat mengingatinya.
saya sangat mengingatinya.
01:30
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
Saya tak tahu siapa rasa
lebih teruk hari itu.
lebih teruk hari itu.
01:32
But I don't know who felt worse that day.
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01:35
Was it me or the teacher?
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Adakah saya atau cikgu?
01:37
She must have realized
that she turned a team-building event
that she turned a team-building event
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Dia mungkin sedar dia menukar
acara berkumpulan
acara berkumpulan
01:40
into a public roast
for three six-year-olds.
for three six-year-olds.
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kepada acara memalukan untuk
tiga budak berumur enam tahun.
tiga budak berumur enam tahun.
01:43
And without the humor.
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Tanpa jenaka.
01:45
You know, when you see
people get roasted on TV,
people get roasted on TV,
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Bila anda tengok
orang dimalukan di TV,
orang dimalukan di TV,
01:47
it was funny.
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Biasanya, lucu.
01:48
There was nothing funny about that day.
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Tapi tiada yang lucu
tentang hari itu.
tentang hari itu.
01:51
So that was one version of me,
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Itu satu versi saya,
01:54
and I would die to avoid
being in that situation again --
being in that situation again --
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dan saya sanggup mati untuk elak
melalui situasi itu lagi --
melalui situasi itu lagi --
01:57
to get rejected in public again.
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ditolak di khalayak umum.
02:00
That's one version.
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Itu satu versi.
02:02
Then fast-forward eight years.
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Lapan tahun kemudian.
02:04
Bill Gates came to my hometown --
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Bill Gates datang ke kampung halaman saya --
02:06
Beijing, China --
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Beijing, China --
02:07
to speak,
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untuk memberi ceramah,
02:08
and I saw his message.
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saya melihat ceramahnya.
02:10
I fell in love with that guy.
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Saya mengaguminya.
02:13
I thought, wow,
I know what I want to do now.
I know what I want to do now.
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Saya berfikir, wow,
saya tahu apa saya nak buat.
saya tahu apa saya nak buat.
02:15
That night I wrote a letter to my family
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Malam itu, saya menulis sepucuk
surat ke keluarga saya
surat ke keluarga saya
02:18
telling them: "By age 25,
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isinya: sebelum umur 25,
02:20
I will build the biggest
company in the world,
company in the world,
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saya akan membina syarikat
terbesar di dunia,
terbesar di dunia,
02:23
and that company will buy Microsoft."
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dan syarikat itu akan beli Microsoft."
02:25
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
02:26
I totally embraced this idea
of conquering the world --
of conquering the world --
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Saya sangat percaya
menakluk dunia --
menakluk dunia --
02:29
domination, right?
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penguasaan, kan?
02:31
And I didn't make this up,
I did write that letter.
I did write that letter.
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Saya tidak membuat-buat,
saya betul-betul menulis surat itu.
saya betul-betul menulis surat itu.
02:34
And here it is --
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Inilah dia --
02:35
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
02:37
You don't have to read this through --
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Anda tidak perlu membaca semuanya --
02:39
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
02:41
This is also bad handwriting,
but I did highlight some key words.
but I did highlight some key words.
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Ini juga tulisan buruk,
tetapi saya tekankan beberapa perkataan.
tetapi saya tekankan beberapa perkataan.
02:45
You get the idea.
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Awak faham-fahamlah.
02:46
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
02:48
So ...
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Jadi ...
02:51
that was another version of me:
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itu adalah versi lain saya:
02:53
one who will conquer the world.
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satu yang akan menakluki dunia.
02:55
Well, then two years later,
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Dua tahun kemudian,
02:57
I was presented with the opportunity
to come to the United States.
to come to the United States.
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saya diberi peluang untuk ke
Amerika Syarikat.
Amerika Syarikat.
03:01
I jumped on it,
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Saya tidak memikir panjang,
03:03
because that was
where Bill Gates lived, right?
where Bill Gates lived, right?
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kerana di situ Bill Gates berada, bukan?
03:05
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
03:06
I thought that was the start
of my entrepreneur journey.
of my entrepreneur journey.
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Saya fikir itu adalah permulaan
keusahawanan saya.
keusahawanan saya.
03:09
Then, fast-forward another 14 years.
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14 tahun kemudian.
03:11
I was 30.
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Saya mencapai 30 tahun.
03:13
Nope, I didn't build that company.
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Saya tidak membina syarikat itu.
03:15
I didn't even start.
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Saya masih belum bermula.
03:17
I was actually a marketing manager
for a Fortune 500 company.
for a Fortune 500 company.
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Saya pengurus pemasaran untuk
sebuah syarikat Fortune 500.
sebuah syarikat Fortune 500.
03:21
And I felt I was stuck;
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Saya rasa tersangkut;
03:23
I was stagnant.
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tidak ke mana-mana.
03:25
Why is that?
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Kenapa?
03:26
Where is that 14-year-old
who wrote that letter?
who wrote that letter?
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Mana semangat budak 14 tahun
yang tulis surat itu?
yang tulis surat itu?
03:29
It's not because he didn't try.
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Bukan kerana dia tidak mencuba.
03:31
It's because every time I had a new idea,
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Tapi kerana setiap kali saya mempunyai
idea baru,
idea baru,
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every time I wanted to try something new,
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setiap kali saya ingin cuba sesuatu baru,
walaupun di tempat kerja --
walaupun di tempat kerja --
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even at work --
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03:37
I wanted to make a proposal,
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Bila saya ingin membuat cadangan,
03:39
I wanted to speak up
in front of people in a group --
in front of people in a group --
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atau bersuara di depan sekumpulan orang --
03:43
I felt there was this constant battle
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saya rasa pertempuran yang tiada henti
03:45
between the 14-year-old
and the six-year-old.
and the six-year-old.
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antara 14 tahun dan 6 tahun saya.
03:47
One wanted to conquer the world --
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Satu yang ingin menakluki dunia --
03:50
make a difference --
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melakukan perubahan --
03:51
another was afraid of rejection.
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satu lagi takut untuk ditolak.
03:54
And every time that six-year-old won.
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Dan setiap kali si 6 tahun menang.
03:57
And this fear even persisted
after I started my own company.
after I started my own company.
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Dan ketakutan ini belarutan
selepas saya memulakan syarikat saya.
selepas saya memulakan syarikat saya.
04:01
I mean, I started
my own company when I was 30 --
my own company when I was 30 --
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Saya memulakan syarikat saya
bila berumur 30 tahun --
bila berumur 30 tahun --
04:05
if you want to be Bill Gates,
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jika nak jadi Bill Gates,
04:06
you've got to start
sooner or later, right?
sooner or later, right?
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anda perlu bermula lambat laun, kan?
04:09
When I was an entrepreneur,
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Bila saya menjadi usahawan,
04:11
I was presented
with an investment opportunity,
with an investment opportunity,
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saya diberi peluang pelaburan,
04:14
and then I was turned down.
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dan ditolak.
04:17
And that rejection hurt me.
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Penolakan itu menyakiti saya.
04:18
It hurt me so bad
that I wanted to quit right there.
that I wanted to quit right there.
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Kesannya begitu kuat membuat
saya ingin berhenti.
saya ingin berhenti.
04:23
But then I thought,
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Tapi saya berfikir,
04:24
hey, would Bill Gates quit
after a simple investment rejection?
after a simple investment rejection?
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adakah Bill Gates akan berhenti
selepas ditolak pelaburannya?
selepas ditolak pelaburannya?
04:29
Would any successful
entrepreneur quit like that?
entrepreneur quit like that?
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Adakah usahawan yang berjaya
berputus asa begitu sahaja?
berputus asa begitu sahaja?
04:31
No way.
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Mustahil.
04:33
And this is where it clicked for me.
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Perkara itu menyedarkan saya.
OK, saya boleh bina syarikat
yang lebih mantap.
yang lebih mantap.
04:35
OK, I can build a better company.
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04:37
I can build a better
team or better product,
team or better product,
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Saya boleh bina pasukan
atau produk yang lebih bagus,
atau produk yang lebih bagus,
04:39
but one thing for sure:
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tapi yang paling penting:
04:40
I've got to be a better leader.
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Saya perlu jadi pemimpin
yang lebih baik.
yang lebih baik.
04:42
I've got to be a better person.
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Saya perlu jadi seorang
yang lebih baik.
yang lebih baik.
04:44
I cannot let that six-year-old
keep dictating my life anymore.
keep dictating my life anymore.
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Saya tak boleh biarkan saya umur 6 tahun
tentukan hidup saya lagi.
tentukan hidup saya lagi.
04:48
I have to put him back in his place.
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Saya perlu pulangkan beliau ke tempatnya.
04:51
So this is where I went online
and looked for help.
and looked for help.
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Jadi saya melayar internet
dan mencari pertolongan.
dan mencari pertolongan.
04:53
Google was my friend.
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Google adalah kawan saya.
04:54
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
04:55
I searched, "How do I overcome
the fear of rejection?"
the fear of rejection?"
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Saya mencari, "Bagaimana mengatasi
ketakutan ditolak?"
ketakutan ditolak?"
04:59
I came up with a bunch
of psychology articles
of psychology articles
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Saya mendapat artikel-artikel psikologi
05:01
about where the fear
and pain are coming from.
and pain are coming from.
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tentang sumber ketakutan dan kesakitan.
05:04
Then I came up with a bunch
of "rah-rah" inspirational articles
of "rah-rah" inspirational articles
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Kemudian saya temui
artikel-artikel berinspirasi
artikel-artikel berinspirasi
05:08
about "Don't take it personally,
just overcome it."
just overcome it."
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tentang, "Jangan ambil hati,
atasinya sahaja."
atasinya sahaja."
05:11
Who doesn't know that?
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Siapa yang tidak tahu?
05:12
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
05:14
But why was I still so scared?
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Tapi kenapa saya masih begitu takut?
05:16
Then I found this website by luck.
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Kemudian, saya tercari laman web ini.
05:18
It's called rejectiontherapy.com.
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rejectiontherapy.com
05:21
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
05:23
"Rejection Therapy" was this game
invented by this Canadian entrepreneur.
invented by this Canadian entrepreneur.
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"Terapi Penolakan" adalah permainan
dicipta seorang usahawan Kanada.
dicipta seorang usahawan Kanada.
05:27
His name is Jason Comely.
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Namanya Jason Comely.
05:29
And basically the idea is for 30 days
you go out and look for rejection,
you go out and look for rejection,
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Ideanya mencari penolakan untuk 30 hari
05:34
and every day get rejected at something,
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dan setiap hari ditolak untuk sesuatu,
05:36
and then by the end,
you desensitize yourself from the pain.
you desensitize yourself from the pain.
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dan akhirnya, anda kurang terpengaruh
dengan sakit yang disebabkan.
dengan sakit yang disebabkan.
05:41
And I loved that idea.
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Saya suka idea itu.
05:43
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
05:44
I said, "You know what?
I'm going to do this.
I'm going to do this.
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Saya cakap, "Tahu tak?
Saya akan lakukannya.
Saya akan lakukannya.
05:46
And I'll feel myself
getting rejected 100 days."
getting rejected 100 days."
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Saya akan mempunyai pengalaman
penolakan 100 hari."
penolakan 100 hari."
05:49
And I came up with my own rejection ideas,
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Saya memikir sendiri idea untuk ditolak,
05:52
and I made a video blog out of it.
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dan membuat vlog tentangnya.
05:55
And so here's what I did.
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Inilah hasilnya.
05:57
This is what the blog looked like.
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Blog saya seperti ini.
06:00
Day One ...
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Hari Pertama ...
06:02
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
06:03
Borrow 100 dollars from a stranger.
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Pinjam 100 dolar
dari orang yang tak dikenali.
dari orang yang tak dikenali.
06:07
So this is where I went
to where I was working.
to where I was working.
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Saya pergi ke tempat kerja saya
06:10
I came downstairs
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turun ke tingkat bawah
06:12
and I saw this big guy
sitting behind a desk.
sitting behind a desk.
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nampak seorang lelaki besar
duduk di tempatnya.
duduk di tempatnya.
06:14
He looked like a security guard.
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Dia nampak seperti pengawal keselamatan.
Jadi saya mendekatinya.
Jadi saya mendekatinya.
06:16
So I just approached him.
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06:17
And I was just walking
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Bila saya berjalan
06:19
and that was the longest
walk of my life --
walk of my life --
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seperti perjalanan
paling lama dalam hidup --
paling lama dalam hidup --
06:22
hair on the back
of my neck standing up,
of my neck standing up,
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saya mulai rasa gementar,
bulu roma berdiri
bulu roma berdiri
06:24
I was sweating and my heart was pounding.
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saya berpeluh
dan hati berdebar.
dan hati berdebar.
06:26
And I got there and said,
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Saya sampai dan bertanya,
06:27
"Hey, sir, can I borrow
100 dollars from you?"
100 dollars from you?"
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"Hai, bolehkah saya pinjam
100 dolar dari awak?"
100 dolar dari awak?"
06:30
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
06:31
And he looked up, he's like, "No."
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Dia melihat saya,
dan berkata, "Tidak."
dan berkata, "Tidak."
06:34
"Why?"
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"Kenapa?"
06:36
And I just said, "No? I'm sorry."
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Saya menjawab, "Tidak? Maaf."
06:38
Then I turned around,
and I just ran.
and I just ran.
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Saya berpaling,
dan berlari.
dan berlari.
06:40
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
06:43
I felt so embarrassed.
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Saya berasa begitu malu.
06:44
But because I filmed myself --
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Tapi kerana saya telah merakam
06:46
so that night I was watching
myself getting rejected,
myself getting rejected,
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jadi malam itu, saya melihat rakaman
saya bila ditolak,
saya bila ditolak,
06:49
I just saw how scared I was.
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saya nampak begitu takut.
06:51
I looked like this kid
in "The Sixth Sense."
in "The Sixth Sense."
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Saya seperti budak
dalam filem "The Sixth Sense."
dalam filem "The Sixth Sense."
06:54
I saw dead people.
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Saya nampak orang mati.
06:55
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
06:57
But then I saw this guy.
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Kemudian saya nampak lelaki ini.
06:58
You know, he wasn't that menacing.
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Dia tidak begitu menakutkan.
07:00
He was a chubby, loveable guy,
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Dia montel, senang disukai,
07:03
and he even asked me, "Why?"
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dan tanya saya, "Kenapa?"
07:06
In fact, he invited me to explain myself.
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Dia minta saya beri penjelasan.
07:08
And I could've said many things.
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Saya boleh memberi banyak alasan.
07:10
I could've explained,
I could've negotiated.
I could've negotiated.
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Saya boleh jelaskan,
atau merunding,
atau merunding,
07:12
I didn't do any of that.
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Saya tidak melakukannya.
07:14
All I did was run.
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Saya hanya berlari.
07:17
I felt, wow, this is like
the microcosm of my life.
the microcosm of my life.
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Saya sedar betapa kecilnya hal ini.
07:21
Every time I felt the slightest rejection,
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Setiap kali saya berasa ditolak,
07:23
I would just run as fast as I could.
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saya akan berlari secepat mungkin.
07:25
And you know what?
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Anda tahu tak?
07:27
The next day, no matter what happens,
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Keesokan harinya, apa pun terjadi,
07:28
I'm not going to run.
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saya tidak akan berlari.
07:30
I'll stay engaged.
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Saya akan bertekad.
07:32
Day Two: Request a "burger refill."
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Hari Kedua: Meminta isi semula burger
07:34
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
07:36
It's when I went to a burger joint,
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Bila saya ke restoran burger,
07:38
I finished lunch,
and I went to the cashier and said,
and I went to the cashier and said,
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Saya habis makan tengahari,
saya ke juruwang dan cakap
saya ke juruwang dan cakap
07:41
"Hi, can I get a burger refill?"
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"Hai, boleh saya
isi semula burger saya?"
isi semula burger saya?"
07:42
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
07:44
He was all confused,
like, "What's a burger refill?"
like, "What's a burger refill?"
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Dia keliru and jawab,
"Apa itu isi semula burger?"
"Apa itu isi semula burger?"
07:47
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
07:48
I said, "Well, it's just like
a drink refill but with a burger."
a drink refill but with a burger."
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Saya jawab, "Seperti isi semula air,
tapi dengan burger."
tapi dengan burger."
07:52
And he said, "Sorry,
we don't do burger refill, man."
we don't do burger refill, man."
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Dia kata, "Maaf, kita tak
isi semula untuk burger."
isi semula untuk burger."
07:54
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
07:56
So this is where rejection happened
and I could have run, but I stayed.
and I could have run, but I stayed.
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Ini adalah penolakan dan saya patut lari,
tapi saya kekal.
tapi saya kekal.
08:00
I said, "Well, I love your burgers,
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Saya berkata, "Saya suka burger di sini,
08:02
I love your joint,
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saya suka restoran ini,
08:03
and if you guys do a burger refill,
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jika isi semula burrger wujud,
08:06
I will love you guys more."
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saya bertambah suka."
08:07
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
08:08
And he said, "Well, OK,
I'll tell my manager about it,
I'll tell my manager about it,
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Dia cakap, "OK, saya akan
beritahu pengurus tentangnya
beritahu pengurus tentangnya
08:11
and maybe we'll do it,
but sorry, we can't do this today."
but sorry, we can't do this today."
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dan mungkin kita akan melakukannya,
tapi maaf, bukan hari ini."
tapi maaf, bukan hari ini."
08:14
Then I left.
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Kemudian saya pergi.
08:15
And by the way,
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Sebenarnya,
08:17
I don't think they've
ever done burger refill.
ever done burger refill.
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saya rasa mereka takk pernah
beri isi semula burger.
beri isi semula burger.
08:19
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
08:21
I think they're still there.
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Saya rasa mereka masih sana.
08:23
But the life and death feeling
I was feeling the first time
I was feeling the first time
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Tetapi rasa takut dan cemas kali pertama
08:26
was no longer there,
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tiada lagi,
08:27
just because I stayed engaged --
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kerana saya kekal berbual --
08:29
because I didn't run.
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kerana saya tidak lari.
08:31
I said, "Wow, great,
I'm already learning things.
I'm already learning things.
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Saya berfikir, "Wow, bagus,
saya belajar benda baru.
saya belajar benda baru.
08:34
Great."
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Bagus."
08:35
And then Day Three:
Getting Olympic Doughnuts.
Getting Olympic Doughnuts.
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Kemudian Hari Ketiga:
Beli Donut Olimpik.
Beli Donut Olimpik.
08:38
This is where my life
was turned upside down.
was turned upside down.
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Inilah peristiwa yang mengubah
hidup saya.
hidup saya.
08:42
I went to a Krispy Kreme.
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Saya ke Krispy Kreme.
08:43
It's a doughnut shop
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Sebuah gerai donut
08:45
in mainly the Southeastern part
of the United States.
of the United States.
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kebanyakannya di bahagian tenggara
Amerika Syarikat.
Amerika Syarikat.
08:47
I'm sure they have some here, too.
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Saya tentu mereka ada
cawangan di sini.
cawangan di sini.
08:49
And I went in,
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Saya melangkah masuk,
08:50
I said, "Can you make me doughnuts
that look like Olympic symbols?
that look like Olympic symbols?
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dan bertanya, "Bolehkah saya membeli donut
mirip simbol Olimpik?
mirip simbol Olimpik?
08:54
Basically, you interlink
five doughnuts together ... "
five doughnuts together ... "
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Kamu hanya perlu menyambung
lima donut bersama ..."
lima donut bersama ..."
08:56
I mean there's no way
they could say yes, right?
they could say yes, right?
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Mereka tidak akan bersetuju, kan?
08:59
The doughnut maker took me so seriously.
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Pembuat donut bersetuju.
09:02
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
09:03
So she put out paper,
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Dia keluarkan kertas,
menulis warna dan bulatan
menulis warna dan bulatan
09:04
started jotting down
the colors and the rings,
the colors and the rings,
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dan bertanya,
"Bagaimana nak buat?"
"Bagaimana nak buat?"
09:06
and is like, "How can I make this?"
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09:08
And then 15 minutes later,
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15 minit kemudian,
09:10
she came out with a box
that looked like Olympic rings.
that looked like Olympic rings.
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dia keluar dengan sebuah kotak
mirip bulatan Olimpik.
mirip bulatan Olimpik.
09:14
And I was so touched.
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Saya berasa terharu.
09:15
I just couldn't believe it.
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Saya tidak boleh mempercayainya.
09:18
And that video got
over five million views on Youtube.
over five million views on Youtube.
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Video itu ditonton lebih lima juta
kali di Youtube.
kali di Youtube.
09:22
The world couldn't believe that either.
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Dunia ini tidak mempercayainya juga.
09:24
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
09:27
You know, because of that
I was in newspapers,
I was in newspapers,
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Kerana peristiwa itu,
saya muncul disurat khabar,
saya muncul disurat khabar,
09:30
in talk shows, in everything.
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program bual bicara, dan banyak lagi.
Saya menjadi terkenal.
Saya menjadi terkenal.
09:32
And I became famous.
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09:33
A lot of people
started writing emails to me
started writing emails to me
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Ramai orang mula menulis emel
kepada saya
kepada saya
09:35
and saying, "What you're
doing is awesome."
doing is awesome."
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berkata, "Apa yang awak lakukan
amat menarik."
amat menarik."
09:38
But you know, fame and notoriety
did not do anything to me.
did not do anything to me.
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Tapi tahukah anda, kemasyuran
tidak menolong saya.
tidak menolong saya.
09:42
What I really wanted to do was learn,
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Apa yang saya ingin adalah belajar,
09:43
and to change myself,
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dan merubah diri saya.
09:45
so I turned the rest
of my 100 days of rejection
of my 100 days of rejection
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Jadi saya menukar 100 hari penolakan
saya yang lain
saya yang lain
09:47
into this playground --
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ke taman permainan ini --
09:49
into this research project.
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projek penyelidikan ini.
09:51
I wanted to see what I could learn.
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Saya ingin lihat apa yang
saya boleh pelajari.
saya boleh pelajari.
Kemudian saya pun belajar
banyak perkara.
banyak perkara.
09:54
And then I learned a lot of things.
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09:56
I discovered so many secrets.
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Saya menemui banyak rahsia.
09:57
For example, I found if I just don't run,
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Contohnya, saya mendapati jika
saya tak berlari,
saya tak berlari,
10:00
if I got rejected,
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bila ditolak,
10:01
I could actually turn a "no" into a "yes,"
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saya boleh merubah "tidak" kepada "ya",
dan kata keramatnya ialah, "kenapa".
dan kata keramatnya ialah, "kenapa".
10:04
and the magic word is, "why."
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10:05
So one day I went to a stranger's house,
I had this flower in my hand,
I had this flower in my hand,
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Suatu hari, saya ke rumah seorang yang
tak dikenali, dengan bunga di tangan,
tak dikenali, dengan bunga di tangan,
10:09
knocked on the door and said,
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ketuk pintu dan bertanya,
10:11
"Hey, can I plant this flower
in your backyard?"
in your backyard?"
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"Hai, boleh saya tanam bunga
ini di belakang rumah awak?"
ini di belakang rumah awak?"
10:13
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
10:15
And he said, "No."
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Dia menjawab, "Tidak."
10:17
But before he could leave I said,
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Sebelum saya pergi, saya bertanya,
10:19
"Hey, can I know why?"
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"Bolehkah saya tahu kenapa?"
10:21
And he said, "Well, I have this dog
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Dan dia menjawab, "Saya membela
seekor anjing
seekor anjing
10:24
that would dig up
anything I put in the backyard.
anything I put in the backyard.
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ia gali semua yang saya
tanam di belakang rumah.
tanam di belakang rumah.
10:26
I don't want to waste your flower.
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Saya tak nak bazir bunga awak.
Jika awak nak tanam juga,
Jika awak nak tanam juga,
10:28
If you want to do this,
go across the street and talk to Connie.
go across the street and talk to Connie.
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cuba pergi ke rumah depan
dan tanya Connie. Dia suka bunga."
dan tanya Connie. Dia suka bunga."
10:31
She loves flowers."
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Jadi saya pun melakukannya.
10:33
So that's what I did.
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10:34
I went across and knocked
on Connie's door.
on Connie's door.
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Saya melintas jalan dan ketuk
pintu Connie.
pintu Connie.
10:36
And she was so happy to see me.
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Dia gembira melihat saya.
10:38
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
10:39
And then half an hour later,
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Setengah jam kemudian,
ada bunga di belakang rumah Connie.
ada bunga di belakang rumah Connie.
10:41
there was this flower
in Connie's backyard.
in Connie's backyard.
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Saya pasti ia nampak lebih
cantik sekarang.
cantik sekarang.
10:43
I'm sure it looks better now.
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10:44
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
10:46
But had I left
after the initial rejection,
after the initial rejection,
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Tapi jika saya pergi selepas
penolakan pertama,
penolakan pertama,
10:49
I would've thought,
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saya mungkin fikir,
mungkin lelaki itu tak percaya saya
mungkin lelaki itu tak percaya saya
10:50
well, it's because
the guy didn't trust me,
the guy didn't trust me,
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mungkin sebab saya gila,
saya tak berpakaian kemas
saya tak berpakaian kemas
10:52
it's because I was crazy,
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10:53
because I didn't dress up well,
I didn't look good.
I didn't look good.
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tak nampak elok.
Itu bukan sebab-sebanya.
10:56
It was none of those.
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Ia kerana apa yang saya tawar
tidak bersesuaian dengan kemahuannya.
tidak bersesuaian dengan kemahuannya.
10:57
It was because what I offered
did not fit what he wanted.
did not fit what he wanted.
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Dan dia percayakan saya untuk
beri rujukan,
beri rujukan,
11:00
And he trusted me enough
to offer me a referral,
to offer me a referral,
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11:02
using a sales term.
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menggunakan istilah jualan.
11:04
I converted a referral.
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Saya berjaya dengan rujukan.
11:06
Then one day --
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Kemudian suatu hari --
11:07
and I also learned that I can
actually say certain things
actually say certain things
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saya juga belajar
saya boleh cakap sesuatu
saya boleh cakap sesuatu
11:10
and maximize my chance to get a yes.
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dan tinggikan peluang
dapat ya.
dapat ya.
11:12
So for example,
one day I went to a Starbucks,
one day I went to a Starbucks,
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Contohnya, suatu hari
saya ke Starbucks,
saya ke Starbucks,
11:15
and asked the manager,
"Hey, can I be a Starbucks greeter?"
"Hey, can I be a Starbucks greeter?"
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dan tanya pengurus, "Hai,
boleh saya jadi penyambut Starbucks?"
boleh saya jadi penyambut Starbucks?"
11:18
He was like, "What's a Starbucks greeter?"
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Dia bertanya,
"Apa itu penyambut Starbucks?"
"Apa itu penyambut Starbucks?"
11:21
I said, "Do you know
those Walmart greeters?
those Walmart greeters?
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Saya cakap, "Awak tahu penyambut
di Walmart?
di Walmart?
11:23
You know, those people who say
'hi' to you before you walk in the store,
'hi' to you before you walk in the store,
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Orang yang menyambut pelanggan
dan berkata "hai" sebelum masuk kedai,
dan berkata "hai" sebelum masuk kedai,
11:26
and make sure you
don't steal stuff, basically?
don't steal stuff, basically?
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dan memastikan awak tidak mencuri,
11:28
I want to give a Walmart experience
to Starbucks customers."
to Starbucks customers."
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Saya nak beri pengalaman Walmart
kepada pelanggan Starbucks."
kepada pelanggan Starbucks."
11:31
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
11:33
Well, I'm not sure
that's a good thing, actually --
that's a good thing, actually --
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Sebenarnya, saya tidak pasti
ini perkara baik atau sebaliknya,
ini perkara baik atau sebaliknya,
11:37
Actually, I'm pretty sure
it's a bad thing.
it's a bad thing.
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Sebenarnya, saya pasti ini
bukan idea bagus.
bukan idea bagus.
11:40
And he was like, "Oh" --
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Dan dia berkata, "Oh"--
11:42
yeah, this is how he looked,
his name is Eric --
his name is Eric --
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ini reaksinya, namanya Eric --
dia berkata, "Saya tak pasti."
11:44
and he was like, "I'm not sure."
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11:46
This is how he was hearing me. "Not sure."
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Dia dengar saya kata.
"Tak pasti."
"Tak pasti."
Kemudian saya tanya dia,
"Pelikkah?"
"Pelikkah?"
11:48
Then I ask him, "Is that weird?"
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11:49
He's like, "Yeah, it's really weird, man."
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Dia jawab, "Ya, sangat pelik."
11:52
But as soon as he said that,
his whole demeanor changed.
his whole demeanor changed.
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Sebaik dia mengaku, sikapnya berubah.
11:55
It's as if he's putting
all the doubt on the floor.
all the doubt on the floor.
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Seakan rasa ragu-ragunya hilang.
11:58
And he said, "Yeah, you can do this,
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Dia berkata, "Ya, awak boleh buat
jangan buat terlalu pelik."
jangan buat terlalu pelik."
12:00
just don't get too weird."
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12:01
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
Untuk satu jam kemudian,
saya jadi penyambut Starbucks.
saya jadi penyambut Starbucks.
12:03
So for the next hour
I was the Starbucks greeter.
I was the Starbucks greeter.
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Saya cakap "hai" kepada setiap
pelanggan yang masuk,
pelanggan yang masuk,
12:05
I said "hi" to every customer
that walked in,
that walked in,
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12:07
and gave them holiday cheers.
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dan memberi mereka ucapan cuti.
12:10
By the way, I don't know
what your career trajectory is,
what your career trajectory is,
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Saya tidak tahu laluan kerjaya anda,
12:12
don't be a greeter.
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jangan jadi peyambut.
12:14
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
12:15
It was really boring.
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Ia amat membosankan.
12:17
But then I found I could do this
because I mentioned, "Is that weird?"
because I mentioned, "Is that weird?"
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Tetapi saya dapati saya boleh buat
kerana saya bertanya, "Pelik ke?"
kerana saya bertanya, "Pelik ke?"
12:22
I mentioned the doubt that he was having.
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Saya menyebut keraguan yang hadir.
12:24
And because I mentioned, "Is that weird?",
that means I wasn't weird.
that means I wasn't weird.
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Dan kerana saya tanya, "Pelik ke?',
bermaksud saya tidak pelik.
bermaksud saya tidak pelik.
12:27
That means I was actually
thinking just like him,
thinking just like him,
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Ini bermaksud saya berfikir
sepertinya,
sepertinya,
12:30
seeing this as a weird thing.
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mengakui ini sebenarnya pelik.
12:32
And again, and again,
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Berkali-kali,
12:34
I learned that if I mention
some doubt people might have
some doubt people might have
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saya mempelajari jika saya menyebut
keraguan yang orang mungkin ada
keraguan yang orang mungkin ada
12:37
before I ask the question,
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sebelum saya bertanya,
saya mendapat kepercayaan mereka.
saya mendapat kepercayaan mereka.
12:39
I gained their trust.
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12:40
People were more likely to say yes to me.
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Orang lebih cenderung berkata ya.
12:42
And then I learned
I could fulfill my life dream ...
I could fulfill my life dream ...
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Kemudian saya juga menemui saya
boleh menyatakan impian hidup ...
boleh menyatakan impian hidup ...
12:46
by asking.
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dengan bertanya.
12:47
You know, I came
from four generations of teachers,
from four generations of teachers,
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Saya datang dari empat generasi guru,
12:50
and my grandma has always told me,
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dan nenek saya selalu memberitahu saya,
12:53
"Hey Jia, you can do anything you want,
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"Jia, awak boleh jadi apa saja,
12:55
but it'd be great
if you became a teacher."
if you became a teacher."
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tapi ia amat bagus
jika awak seorang guru."
jika awak seorang guru."
12:58
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
12:59
But I wanted to be
an entrepreneur, so I didn't.
an entrepreneur, so I didn't.
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Tetapi saya ingin jadi usahawan,
jadi saya jadi.
jadi saya jadi.
13:01
But it has always been my dream
to actually teach something.
to actually teach something.
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Sentiasa jadi impian saya
untuk ajar sesuatu.
untuk ajar sesuatu.
13:05
So I said, "What if I just ask
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Jadi saya cakap,
"Bagaimana kalau saya tanya
"Bagaimana kalau saya tanya
13:07
and teach a college class?"
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dan mengajar satu kelas kolej?"
13:09
I lived in Austin at the time,
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Saya tinggal di Austin masa itu,
jadi saya ke University of Texas,
jadi saya ke University of Texas,
13:11
so I went to University
of Texas at Austin,
of Texas at Austin,
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13:13
and knocked on professors' doors
and said, "Can I teach your class?"
and said, "Can I teach your class?"
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ketuk pintu profesor dan bertanya,
"Bolehkah saya ajar kelas awak?"
"Bolehkah saya ajar kelas awak?"
13:16
I didn't get anywhere
the first couple of times.
the first couple of times.
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Saya tidak kemana beberapa
kali pertama.
kali pertama.
13:18
But because I didn't run --
I kept doing it --
I kept doing it --
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Sebab saya tidak lari --
saya terus melakukannya --
saya terus melakukannya --
13:21
and on the third try
the professor was very impressed.
the professor was very impressed.
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dan dalam percubaan ketiga
profesor amat kagum.
profesor amat kagum.
13:24
He was like, "No one
has done this before."
has done this before."
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Dia cakap, "Tiada siapa
pernah lakukannya."
pernah lakukannya."
13:26
And I came in prepared
with powerpoints and my lesson.
with powerpoints and my lesson.
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Dan saya masuk siap dengan
powerpoint dan pengajaran saya.
powerpoint dan pengajaran saya.
13:30
He said, "Wow, I can use this.
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Dia berkata, "Wow, saya boleh guna ini.
13:33
Why don't you come back in two months?
I'll fit you in my curriculum."
I'll fit you in my curriculum."
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Boleh datang semula dua bulan lagi?
Saya masukkan awak dalam kurikulum."
Saya masukkan awak dalam kurikulum."
13:36
And two months later
I was teaching a class.
I was teaching a class.
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Dua bulan kemudian
saya mengajar satu kelas.
saya mengajar satu kelas.
Ini. Awak mungkin tak dapat lihat,
gambar ini kurang jelas.
gambar ini kurang jelas.
13:38
This is me -- you probably can't see,
this is a bad picture.
this is a bad picture.
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13:41
You know, sometimes you get
rejected by lighting, you know?
rejected by lighting, you know?
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Kadang kala lampu pun boleh menolak
awak, tahu tak?
awak, tahu tak?
13:44
(Laughter)
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(Gelak)
13:46
But wow --
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Tapi wow --
13:48
when I finished teaching that class,
I walked out crying,
I walked out crying,
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selepas habis mengajar kelas itu,
saya keluar menangis,
saya keluar menangis,
13:50
because I thought
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kerana saya berfikir
13:52
I could fulfill my life dream
just by simply asking.
just by simply asking.
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saya boleh menyatakan impian hidup
hanya dengan bertanya.
hanya dengan bertanya.
13:55
I used to think I have to accomplish
all these things --
all these things --
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Saya fikir saya perlu
laksanakan semua perkara --
laksanakan semua perkara --
13:58
have to be a great entrepreneur,
or get a PhD to teach --
or get a PhD to teach --
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menjadi usahawan hebat, atau
mendapat PhD untuk mengajar --
mendapat PhD untuk mengajar --
14:02
but no, I just asked,
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tetapi tidak,
saya hanya tanya,
saya hanya tanya,
14:03
and I could teach.
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dan saya dapat mengajar.
14:05
And in that picture --
which you can't see --
which you can't see --
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Dalam gambar itu, anda
tak dapat lihat,
tak dapat lihat,
14:07
I quoted Martin Luther King Jr.
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saya memaparkan petikan
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
14:11
Why? Because in my research I found
that people who really change the world,
that people who really change the world,
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Kenapa? Sebab dalam kajian saya, saya
dapati orang yang menukar dunia,
dapati orang yang menukar dunia,
14:15
who change the way we live
and the way we think,
and the way we think,
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menukar cara kita hidup dan
cara kita berberfikir,
cara kita berberfikir,
14:18
are the people who were met
with initial and often violent rejections.
with initial and often violent rejections.
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adalah orang pada mulanya
sering ditolak.
sering ditolak.
14:22
People like Martin Luther King Jr.,
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Orang seperti Martin Luther King, Jr..
14:24
like Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela,
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Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela,
14:27
or even Jesus Christ.
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ataupun Jesus Christ.
14:28
These people did not
let rejection define them.
let rejection define them.
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Semua orang ini tidak membiarkan
penolakan mendifinisi mereka.
penolakan mendifinisi mereka.
14:31
They let their own reaction
after rejection define themselves.
after rejection define themselves.
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Mereka membenarkan reaksi sendiri
selepas penolakan mendifinisi mereka.
selepas penolakan mendifinisi mereka.
14:37
And they embraced rejection.
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Mereka menerima penolakan.
14:39
And we don't have to be those people
to learn about rejection,
to learn about rejection,
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Kita tidak perlu menjadi mereka
untuk pelajari tentang penolakan,
untuk pelajari tentang penolakan,
14:42
but in my case,
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dan dalam kes saya,
14:43
rejection was my curse --
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penolakan adalah sumpahan saya,
14:46
was my boogeyman.
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ketakutan terbesar saya.
14:47
It has bothered me my whole life
because I was running away from it.
because I was running away from it.
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Ia menghantui saya seluruh hidup
kerana saya melarikan diri darinya.
kerana saya melarikan diri darinya.
14:51
Then I started embracing it.
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Bila saya mula menerimanya,
14:53
I turned that into
the biggest gift in my life.
the biggest gift in my life.
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saya menukarkannya ke hadiah
terbesar dalam hidup saya.
terbesar dalam hidup saya.
14:57
I started teaching people
how to turn rejections into opportunities.
how to turn rejections into opportunities.
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Saya bermula mengajar orang bagaimana
menukar penolakan kepada peluang.
menukar penolakan kepada peluang.
15:01
I use my blog, I use my talk,
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Saya menggunakan blog dan ceramah
15:03
I use the book I just published,
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buku saya terbit,
15:05
and I'm even using technology to help
people overcome their fear of rejection.
people overcome their fear of rejection.
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dan membina teknologi membantu
orang mengatasi takut akan penolakan.
orang mengatasi takut akan penolakan.
15:12
When you get rejected in life,
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Bila anda ditolak dalam hidup,
15:14
when you are facing the next obstacle,
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bila anda berdepan halangan
15:16
or next failure,
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atau kegagalan,
15:18
consider the possibilities.
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pertimbangkan kemungkinan.
15:20
Don't run.
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Jangan lari.
15:21
If you just embrace them,
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Jika awak terima,
15:22
they might become your gifts as well.
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ia mungkin menjadi
kurniaan untuk anda.
kurniaan untuk anda.
15:25
Thank you.
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Terima kasih.
15:26
(Applause)
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(Tepukan)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Jia Jiang - Author, blogger, entrepreneurJia Jiang's journey through rejection revealed a world hidden in plain sight, where people are much kinder than we imagine.
Why you should listen
Jia Jiang is the owner of Rejection Therapy, a website that provides inspiration, knowledge and products for people to overcome their fear of rejection. He is also the CEO of Wuju Learning, a company that teaches people and trains organizations to become fearless through rejection training. In 2015, he authored a bestselling book, Rejection Proof: How I Beat Fear and Became Invincible Through 100 Days of Rejection.
Several years after Jiang began his career in the corporate world, he took a life-altering risk and stepped into the unknown world of entrepreneurship. His result was everyone's biggest fear: rejection. This was the catalyst that set Jiang on the path to his true calling.
To conquer the fear of rejection, Jiang embarked on a personal quest and started a blog, 100 Days of Rejection Therapy. His journey revealed a world that was hidden in plain sight -- a world where people are much kinder than we imagine. He discovered that rejection can be much less painful than we believe and that the fear of rejection is much more destructive than we know.
Jiang grew up in Beijing, China and migrated to the United States at age 16. He holds a Bachelor of Computer Science from Brigham Young University and a Master of Business Administration from Duke University.
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