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Larry Smith: Why you will fail to have a great career
ल्यारी स्मिथ: सर्बोत्कृस्ट पेशा प्राप्त गर्नबाट तपाईं कसरी वन्चित हुनुहुनेछ
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Larry Smith - Professor of Economics, University of Waterloo
A professor of economics at the University of Waterloo in Canada, Larry Smith coaches his students to find the careers that they will truly love. Full bio
A professor of economics at the University of Waterloo in Canada, Larry Smith coaches his students to find the careers that they will truly love. Full bio
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00:03
I want to discuss with you this afternoon
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यस मध्यान्ह म तपाईंहरु संग छलफल गर्दैछु -
00:08
why you're going to fail to have a great career. (Laughter)
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किन तपाईं सर्बोत्कृस्ट पेशा पाउन
असक्षम हुनुहुनेछ
असक्षम हुनुहुनेछ
-----(हाँसो)-----
00:12
I'm an economist. I do dismal.
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म अर्थशास्त्री हुँ ।
म उदास रहने गर्छु ।
00:16
End of the day, it's ready for dismal remarks.
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दिनको समाप्तिसंगै उदास प्रतिक्रियाको
बेला हुन्छ ।
बेला हुन्छ ।
00:21
I only want to talk to those of you who want a great career.
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म तपाईंहरु मध्य सर्बोत्कृस्ट पेशा
चाहनेहरुसंग मात्रै कुरा गर्छु ।
चाहनेहरुसंग मात्रै कुरा गर्छु ।
00:25
I know some of you have already decided
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तपाई मध्ये कतिपयले राम्रो पेशा
बनाउने निर्णय गर्नुभएको छ ।
बनाउने निर्णय गर्नुभएको छ ।
00:26
you want a good career.
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तपाईंपनि असफल नै हुनुहुने छ ।
00:29
You're going to fail, too — (Laughter) —
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-----(हाँसो)-----
00:31
because — Goodness, you're all cheery about failing. (Laughter)
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किनभने-- हे प्रभु,
असफल हुन खोज्दा पनि प्रशन्न !
असफल हुन खोज्दा पनि प्रशन्न !
00:34
Canadian group, undoubtedly. (Laughter)
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-----(हाँसो)-----
पक्कैपनि, क्यानेडियन समूह !
-----(हाँसो)-----
00:40
Those trying to have good careers are going to fail,
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राम्रो पेशा चाहने जो हुनुहुन्छ,
असफल हुदै हुनुहुन्छ
असफल हुदै हुनुहुन्छ
00:42
because, really, good jobs are now disappearing.
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किनकि, बास्तवमै, अचेल
राम्रो पेशा हराउदै छन् ।
राम्रो पेशा हराउदै छन् ।
00:46
There are great jobs and great careers,
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सर्बोत्कृस्ट काम र पेशा भेटिन्छन्,
00:49
and then there are the high-workload, high-stress,
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र ती संगै कामको चाप,
उच्च तनाव, आत्मा मारेर रगत पसिना एक
गर्नु पर्ने अवस्था आउँछ,
गर्नु पर्ने अवस्था आउँछ,
00:53
bloodsucking, soul-destroying kinds of jobs,
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00:56
and practically nothing in between.
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ब्यावहारिक रुपमा बिचमा केहि हुन्न
00:58
So the people looking for good jobs are going to fail.
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तेसैले राम्रो काम खोज्नेहरु अन्तत:
असफल हुन्छन् ।
असफल हुन्छन् ।
01:00
I'm going to talk about those looking for great jobs, great
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म सर्बोत्कृस्ट काम, पेशा
खोज्नेहरुको कुरा गर्दै छु,
खोज्नेहरुको कुरा गर्दै छु,
01:03
careers, and why you're going to, why you're going to fail.
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तपाईंहरु किन असफल हुँदै हुनुहुन्छ ।
01:07
First reason is that no matter how many times people tell you,
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पहिलो कारण, मानिसहरुले
जतिपटक नै किन नभनुन्,
जतिपटक नै किन नभनुन्,
01:13
"If you want a great career, you have to pursue your passion,
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"तिमी सर्बोत्कृस्ट पेशा चाहान्छौ भने,
आफ्नो अभिलाषा पछ्याउ,
आफ्नो अभिलाषा पछ्याउ,
01:17
you have to pursue your dreams, you have to pursue,
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आफ्नो सपनाको पछि लाग,
र पछि लाग,
र पछि लाग,
01:20
the greatest fascination in your life,"
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आफ्नो सबै भन्दा ठुलो कल्पनाको",
01:23
you hear it again and again and then you decide
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तपाईं बारम्बार यहि कुरा सुनेपनि
आफ्नो विचार परित्याग गर्नुहुनेछ
आफ्नो विचार परित्याग गर्नुहुनेछ
01:25
not to do it. It doesn't matter how many times you download
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यसले केहि फरक पर्दैन कि तपाईंले कति पटक
Steven J को स्ट्यान्डफोर्ड
Steven J को स्ट्यान्डफोर्ड
01:29
Steven J.'s Stanford commencement address,
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शुभारम्भ संबोधन download गर्नुभो,
01:34
you still look at it and decide not to do it.
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जतिपटक त्यो संबोधन हेरेपनि हताश नै हुनुभो
01:37
I'm not quite sure why you decide not to do it.
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मलाई थाहा छैन तपाई किन यस्तो हताश हुनुभो ।
01:39
You're too lazy to do it. It's too hard.
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तपाईं अल्छि हुनुहुन्छ वा यो काम नै कठिन छ
01:41
You're afraid if you look for your passion and don't find it,
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तपाईं डराउनुहुन्छ, जब यो काममा
आफ्नो अभिलाषा देख्नुहुन्न,
आफ्नो अभिलाषा देख्नुहुन्न,
01:44
you'll feel like you're an idiot, so then you make excuses
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आफू मुर्ख भएजस्तो महसुश गरेर,
बिभिन्न बहाना बनाउनुहुन्छ
बिभिन्न बहाना बनाउनुहुन्छ
01:47
about why you're not going to look for your passion.
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कसरी यो कामबाट हात झिकौं भनेर
01:50
And they are excuses, ladies and gentlemen.
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महिला तथा सज्जनबृन्द त्यो केवल बहाना हो
01:51
We're going to go through a whole long list, your creativity,
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हामी एउटा तालिका बनाउन सक्छौं --
01:54
and thinking of excuses not to do what you really
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गर्नै पर्ने कामहरु नगर्न सिर्जना
गरिएका बहानाहरुको जून कामहरु,
गरिएका बहानाहरुको जून कामहरु,
01:57
need to do if you want to have a great career.
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सर्बोत्कृस्ट पेशा प्राप्त गर्न
अत्यावाशक थिए
अत्यावाशक थिए
02:00
So, for example, one of your great excuses is,
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उदाहरणको लागि तपाईंहरुको एउटा बहाना -
02:06
"Well, great careers are really and truly, for most people,
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---(लामो स्वाश)---
"बास्तवमा,सर्बोत्कृस्ट पेशा भनेको प्राय:
02:11
just a matter of luck, so I'm going to stand around,
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भाग्यमा भर पर्ने कुरा हो"
त्यसैले म पनि प्रयाश गर्दै गर्छु,
भाग्यले कतिको साथ् दिन्छ,
भाग्यले कतिको साथ् दिन्छ,
02:15
I'm going to try to be lucky, and if I'm lucky,
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भाग्यमा रहेछ भने
सर्बोत्कृस्ट पेशा भेट्नेछु
सर्बोत्कृस्ट पेशा भेट्नेछु
02:17
I'll have a great career. If not, I'll have a good career."
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रैन्छ भने, राम्रो कार्य भेटिएला"
02:20
But a good career is an impossibility, so that's not going to work.
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राम्रो कार्य लगभग असम्भव जस्तै हो,
केहि हुनेवाला छैन ।
केहि हुनेवाला छैन ।
02:24
Then, your other excuse is, "Yes, there are special people
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तपाईंको अर्को बहाना हुनेछ :
आफ्नो अभिलाषाको पछिलाग्ने मानिस,
बेग्लै हुन्छन,
बेग्लै हुन्छन,
02:28
who pursue their passions, but they are geniuses.
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असाधारण हुन्छन् ।
02:32
They are Steven J. I'm not a genius.
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उनीहरु Steven J. हुन्
म त्यस्तो असाधारण छैन ।
02:35
When I was five, I thought I was a genius,
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५ बर्षको छँदा, म पनि असाधारण छु
जस्तो लाग्थ्यो ।
जस्तो लाग्थ्यो ।
02:38
but my professors have beaten that idea
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मेरो प्रोफेसरहरुले धेरै अगाडी
त्यो विचार सफा गर्दिसके" ।
त्यो विचार सफा गर्दिसके" ।
02:40
out of my head long since." (Laughter) Mm?
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-----(हाँसो)-----
02:43
"And now I know I am completely competent."
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मलाई थाहा छ, म सामान्य छु ।
02:47
Now, you see, if this was 1950,
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यदि यो सामान्य हुने कुरा,
02:50
being completely competent,
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१९५० तिर भए --
02:53
that would have given you a great career.
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तपाईंलाइ महान व्यक्ति बनाउथ्यो ।
02:55
But guess what? This is almost 2012, and saying
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तर के त ?
लगभग २०१२ को समयमा, यो संसारलाइ
02:59
to the world, "I am totally, completely competent,"
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"म केवल साधारण क्षमताको हुँ" भन्नु भनेको
03:03
is damning yourself with the faintest of praise.
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आफैंले आफ्नो घातक प्रसंसा गर्नु जस्तै हो
03:07
And then, of course, another excuse:
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त्यसपछि निश्चितरुपमा अर्को बहाना :
03:10
"Well, I would do this, I would do this, but, but,
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हुन त म यो काम गर्न सक्थें, तर .. तर ....
03:13
well, after all, I'm not weird.
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म त्यस्तो बिचित्रको मान्छे होइन ।
03:17
Everybody knows that people who pursue their passions
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सबैलाई थाहा छ, आफ्नो अभिलाषाको
पछि लाग्ने मानिस
पछि लाग्ने मानिस
03:20
are somewhat obsessive. A little strange? Mm? Mm? Okay?
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अलिकति अप्ठ्यारा हुन्छन् ।
अनौठा खालका ।
हो कि होइन ?
03:25
You know, a fine line between madness and genius.
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एउटा बिभाजन रेखा - पागलपन र
असाधारण क्षमता बीचको ।
असाधारण क्षमता बीचको ।
03:28
I'm not weird. I've read Steven J.'s biography.
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म अप्ठ्यारो होइन, मैले Steven J. को
जीवनकथा पढेको छु ।
जीवनकथा पढेको छु ।
03:32
Oh my goodness. I am not that person. I am nice.
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हे भगवान ... म त्यस्तो मान्छे होइन क्या!!
म ज्ञानी छु ।
म ज्ञानी छु ।
03:36
I am normal. I'm a nice, normal person,
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म बिल्कुल ठिक छु ।
म ज्ञानी, बिल्कुल ठिक
ज्ञानी र बिल्कुल ठिक ----
ज्ञानी र बिल्कुल ठिक ----
03:39
and nice, normal people
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03:41
don't have passion.
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किनकि म संग कुनै अभिलाषा छैन ।
-----(हाँसो)-----
03:45
Ah. But I still want a great career.
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"तैपनि, म महान व्यक्ति बन्न चाहन्छु ।
03:48
I'm not prepared to pursue my passion, so I know
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म आफ्नो अभिलाषा प्रति समर्पित छैन ,
03:50
what I'm going to do, because I have, I have a solution,
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त्यसैले मलाई थाहा छ, के गर्ने
किनकि म संग उपाय छ ।
03:53
I have a strategy.
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म संग योजना छ ।
03:55
It's the one Mommy and Daddy told me about.
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यो मलाई मेरो बा आमाले सिकाएको कुरा हो ।
03:57
Mommy and Daddy told me that if I worked hard,
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बा आमाले भनेको, यदि मैंले
कडा परिश्रम गरें भने -
कडा परिश्रम गरें भने -
04:00
I'd have a good career. So, if you work hard
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मैंले सर्बोत्कृस्ट पेशा पाउने छु ।
तसर्थ, कडा मेहनेत गर, राम्रो कार्य गर ।
04:04
and have a good career, if you work really, really, really hard,
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यदि तिमीले धेरै धेरै मेहेनत गर्यौ भने
04:07
you'll have a great career. Doesn't that, like,
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सर्बोत्कृस्ट पेशा पाउनेछौ
गणितीय नतिजा जस्तो छैन त ?
04:09
mathematically make sense?"
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04:11
Hmm. Not. (Laughter)
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पक्कै छैन ।
04:12
But you've managed to talk yourself into that.
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तर तपाईंले आफुलाई यसै भनेर चित्त
बुझाउनु भएको छ ।
बुझाउनु भएको छ ।
04:15
You know what? Here's a little secret.
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एउटा गोप्य कुरा भन्दै छु :
04:17
You want to work? You want to work really, really, really hard?
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तपाईं काम गर्नुहुन्छ ? तपाईं साँचै नै
कडा मेहिनेत गर्नुहुन्छ ?
कडा मेहिनेत गर्नुहुन्छ ?
04:20
You know what? You'll succeed. The world will give you
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तपाईं पक्कै सफल हुनुहुनेछ ।
04:22
the opportunity to work really, really, really, really hard,
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यो संसारले तपाईंलाइ मरी मरी
काम गर्ने अवसर दिनेछ ।
04:27
but are you so sure that that's going to give you
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के तपाईं निश्चित हुनुहुन्छ,
यो तपाईंको सर्बोत्कृस्ट पेशा हुनेछ,
04:32
a great career when all the evidence is to the contrary?
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जबकि साह्रा परिस्थितिले बिपरीत
संकेत दिंदै छन् ?
संकेत दिंदै छन् ?
04:36
So let's assume, let's deal with those of you
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आउनुस कुरा गरौं आफ्नो अभिलाषा
खोज्दै गरेकाहरुसंग ।
खोज्दै गरेकाहरुसंग ।
04:40
who are trying to find your passion.
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तपाईंलाइ राम्ररी थाहा छ,
राम्रै काम गर्नु पर्छ,
राम्रै काम गर्नु पर्छ,
04:42
You actually understand that you really had better do it,
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04:44
never mind the excuses. You're trying to find your passion,
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बहानाले पुग्दैन ।
आफ्नो अभिलाषा केमा छ, खोज्दैहुनुहुन्छ ---
--(सुस्केरा) --
04:49
and you're so happy.
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अनि त्यसै दङ्ग पर्नुभएकोछ ।
04:51
You found something you're interested in.
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तपाईंलाइ रुची भएको केहि भेट्नुभो ।
04:54
I have an interest! I have an interest! You tell me.
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"मलाई रुची छ, मलाई रुची छ"
मलाई भन्नुहुनेछ ।
04:57
You say, "I have an interest!" I say, "That's wonderful!
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मलाई भन्नुहुनेछ -मलाई रुची छ
म भन्ने छु - गज्ज़ब !!
म भन्ने छु - गज्ज़ब !!
04:59
And what, what are you trying to tell me? That you — "
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तपाईं मलाई के भन्न खोज्दैहुनुहुन्छ ?
05:02
"Well, I have an interest."
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"त्यहि, मलाई रुची छ" ।
05:04
I say, "Do you have passion?"
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म - "अभिलाषा छ?"
05:05
"I have an interest," you say.
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तपाईं - "मलाई रुची छ"
05:08
Your interest is compared to what?
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"के संग तुलना गर्दा रुची छ त ?"
05:09
"Well, I'm interested in this."
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"मलाई यसमा रुची छ"
05:12
And what about the rest of humanity's activities?
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अरु मानवीय क्रियाकलाप प्रति के विचार छ ?
05:15
"I'm not interested in them."
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"मलाई तिनीहरु मन पर्दैन "
05:17
You've looked at them all, have you?
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ति कुराहरुको विचार त गर्नुभएको छ नी !
05:19
"No. Not exactly."
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"छैन । खासमा छैन ।"
05:22
Passion is your greatest love.
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अभिलाषा नै तपाईंको बिशेष प्रेम हो ।
05:25
Passion is the thing that will help you create
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अभिलाषा त्यस्तो कुरा हो-
जसले तपाईंभित्रको प्रतिभालाइ
प्रस्फुटन हुन मद्धत गर्छ ।
प्रस्फुटन हुन मद्धत गर्छ ।
05:30
the highest expression of your talent.
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05:32
Passion, interest -- it's not the same thing.
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अभिलाषा, मनपर्नु --- उस्तै कुरा होइनन
05:35
Are you really going to go to your sweetie and say,
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तपाईं अफ्न्नो प्रेमिकालाई गएर भन्नुहुन्छ -
05:37
"Marry me! You're interesting." (Laughter)
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"तिमि एकदम रोचक छौ, के म संग बिहे गर्छौ"
-----(हाँसो)-----
काम बन्दैन ।
05:44
Won't happen. Won't happen, and you will die alone. (Laughter)
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उसले मान्दिन र तपाईंको जिन्दगी एक्लो हुनेछ
-----(हाँसो)-----
05:49
What you want, what you want, what you want,
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के चाहनुहुन्छ,
के चाहनुहुन्छ, आखिर के चाहनुहुन्छ,
05:52
is passion. It is beyond interest.
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त्यो नै अभिलाषा हो ।
रुची भन्दा पर अभिलाषा छ ।
05:56
You need 20 interests, and then one of them,
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तपाईंका २० वोटा रुचि छन् भने, कुनै एउटा
05:59
one of them might grab you, one of them might engage you
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कुनै एउटाले तपाईंलाइ पक्रिने छ,
कुनै एउटाले तपाईंलाइ पुरै ब्यस्त बनाउने छ,
06:02
more than anything else, and then you may have found
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तपाईंलाइ यसैमा प्यार लाग्ने छ,
06:05
your greatest love in comparison to all the other things
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तपाईंलाइ रुचि भएका कुनै पनि
अरु कुरा भन्दा,
अरु कुरा भन्दा,
06:09
that interest you, and that's what passion is.
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यो अवस्था नै अभिलाषा हो ।
06:12
I have a friend, proposed to his sweetie.
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मेरो एउटा साथीले प्रेमिकालाइ
प्रस्ताव राख्यो ।
प्रस्ताव राख्यो ।
06:16
He was an economically rational person.
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उ आर्थिकरुपमा पनि समृद्ध थियो ।
06:18
He said to his sweetie, "Let us marry.
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उसले प्रेमिकालाइ भन्यो "हामी बिबाह गरौँ ।
06:22
Let us merge our interests."
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हाम्रा रुचिहरूलाई एकीकृत गरौँ" ।
06:25
(Laughter)
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-----(हाँसो)-----
06:27
Yes he did.
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हो, उसले यसै भन्यो ।
06:29
"I love you truly," he said. "I love you deeply. I love you
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"म तिमीलाई साँचो माया गर्छु" उसले भन्यो
"म धेरै माया गर्छु ।
"म धेरै माया गर्छु ।
मैंले भेटेका अरु कुनै पनि महिला भन्दा,
म तिमीलाई माया गर्छु ।
म तिमीलाई माया गर्छु ।
06:33
more than any other woman I've ever encountered.
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06:37
I love you more than Mary, Jane, Susie, Penelope,
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म तिमीलाई म्यारी, जेन, सुसी, पेनोलोप,
06:41
Ingrid, Gertrude, Gretel --
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एन्ग्रिड, गरतुर्ड, ग्रेटेल--
06:43
I was on a German exchange program then." (Laughter)
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त्यतिखेर म जर्मन आदानप्रदान
कार्यक्रममा थिएँ ।
कार्यक्रममा थिएँ ।
06:46
"I love you more than — "
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म तिमीलाई माया गर्छु ...
06:49
All right! She left the room halfway through his enumeration
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भयो अब !
उ बाहिर हिंडी
उसले राखेको प्रेम प्रस्ताव आधा पनि नहुँदै
उ बाहिर पुगी ।
उ बाहिर पुगी ।
06:55
of his love for her.
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06:57
After he got over his surprise at being, you know,
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आफ्नो चकित बनाउने योजनाले चित खाएको देखेर
07:00
turned down, he concluded he'd had a narrow escape
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उ यो निष्कर्षमा पुग्यो - गलत मान्छेसंग
07:05
from marrying an irrational person,
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बिबाह गर्नबाट धन्य बचेछ !
07:09
although he did make a note to himself that the next time
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संगै उसले अर्को एउटा पाठ पनि सम्झियो,
अब अरु प्रस्ताब राख्दा,
अब अरु प्रस्ताब राख्दा,
07:11
he proposed, it was perhaps not necessary to enumerate
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सबै महिलाहरुको नाम लिनुपनि
सायद लिनु नपर्ला कि !
07:15
all of the women he had auditioned for the part. (Laughter)
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-----(हाँसो)-----
07:21
But the point stands. You must look for alternatives
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कुरा के हो त !
बैकल्पिक उपायहरु सोच्नु पर्छ - ताकी
आफ्नो गन्तब्य भेटियोस्,
आफ्नो गन्तब्य भेटियोस्,
07:25
so that you find your destiny,
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07:26
or are you afraid of the word "destiny"?
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वा, "गन्तब्य" शब्द सुनेर नै सातो जान्छ ?
07:29
Does the word "destiny" scare you?
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"गन्तब्य" भन्ने शब्दले तर्साउँछ, हो ?
07:32
That's what we're talking about, and if you don't find
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हामी त्यहि कुरा गर्दैछौं ।
07:34
the highest expression of your talent, if you settle
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यदि तपाईंले आफ्नो क्षमताको
उच्चतम अभिब्यक्ती नभेटे,
उच्चतम अभिब्यक्ती नभेटे,
07:37
for "interesting," what the hell ever that means,
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या "मन पर्ने" मै सिमित रहे
07:40
do you know what will happen at the end of your long life?
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जिन्दगीको अन्त्यमा के हुनेछ, थाहा छ ?
07:43
Your friends and family will be gathered in the cemetery,
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तपाईंका परिवार र साथीहरु तपाईंको
चिहान वरीपरी जम्मा हुनेछन्,
चिहान वरीपरी जम्मा हुनेछन्,
07:46
and there, beside your gravesite will be a tombstone,
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चिहानको अगाडीपट्टि एउटा ढुंगा हुनेछ,
07:49
and inscribed on that tombstone, it will say,
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र त्यो ढुंगामा लेखिएको हुनेछ -
"यो महान इन्जिनीयरको चिहान हो,
07:52
"Here lies a distinguished engineer who invented Velcro."
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जसले Velcro को स्थापना गरेका थिए " ।
07:59
But what that tombstone should have said,
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तर त्यो ढुंगामा अर्कै कुरा
लेखिएको हुनसक्थ्यो,
लेखिएको हुनसक्थ्यो,
08:04
in an alternative lifetime,
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एउटा भिन्नै जीवनचरित्र,
08:07
what it should have said if it was your highest expression of
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तपाईंको क्षमताको उच्च सम्मान र ब्याख्या,
08:10
talent, was, "Here lies the last Nobel Laureate in Physics,
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"यहाँ छन् भौतिक शास्त्रका महान व्यक्तित्व,
08:16
who formulated the Grand Unified Field Theory
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Grand Unified Field Theory का जन्मदाता,
08:19
and demonstrated the practicality of warp drive."
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जसले warp drive को सफल प्रयोग गर्न सके ।
08:23
(Laughter)
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-----(हाँसो)-----
08:25
Velcro, indeed. (Laughter)
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भनेको त Velcro नै हो !
-----(हाँसो)-----
08:29
One was a great career.
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एउटा थियो - सर्बोत्कृस्ट पेशा
08:33
One was a missed opportunity.
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अर्को थियो गुमेको अवसर ।
08:37
But then, there are some of you,
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केहि मान्छेहरु छन्, तपाईजस्तै
08:39
in spite of all these excuses, you will find,
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यस्तै बहानाहरुको बीचमा पनि
08:43
you will find your passion,
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आफ्नो अभिलाषा प्राप्त गर्दछन् ।
तैपनि तपाई असफल हुनुहुनेछ ।
08:47
and you'll still fail.
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08:50
You're going to fail, because,
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तपाई असफल हुनुहुनेछ, किनभने --
08:53
because you're not going to do it,
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तपाई त्यो काम गर्नुहुन्न,
08:56
because you will have invented a new excuse,
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किनकि, तपाईंले अर्को बहानाको
आविस्कार गर्नुहुनेछ,
आविस्कार गर्नुहुनेछ,
09:00
any excuse to fail to take action, and this excuse
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एउटा बहाना जसले काम गर्नबाट रोक्नेछ ,
र यस्ता बहाना मैंले कयौंपटक सुनेको छु :
09:05
I've heard so many times.
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09:08
"Yes, I would pursue a great career, but I value
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"म राम्रो भविष्यको पछि लाग्ने थिएँ,
तर म मानवीय मान्यताको सम्मान गर्छु --
09:20
human relationships more than accomplishment.
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-----(हाँसो)-----
कुनै कुरा प्राप्तगर्नु भन्दाबढी
09:25
I want to be a great friend. I want to be a great spouse.
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म सर्बोत्कृस्ट साथी बन्न चाहन्छु ।
म सर्बोत्कृस्ट जीवनसाथी बन्न चाहन्छु ।
09:30
I want to be a great parent, and I will not sacrifice them
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म सर्बोत्कृस्ट अविभावक बन्नचाहन्छु,
ठुलो सफलता प्राप्त गर्नको लागी म उनीहरुको
09:33
on the altar of great accomplishment."
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बलिदान दिन सक्दिन ।
09:37
(Laughter)
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-----(हाँसो)-----
09:39
What do you want me to say?
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आखिर भन्न के खोज्दै हुनुहुन्छ ?
09:41
Now, do you really want me to say now, tell you,
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तपाईले मलाई भन्न खोजेको यहि हो-
09:44
"Really, I swear I don't kick children." (Laughter)
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"कस्सम, म केटाकेटीलाइ चुट्दीन"
-----(हाँसो)-----
09:47
Hmm? Look at the worldview you've given yourself.
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तपाईंले बनाएको संसारदृस्टी हेर्नुस त ।
09:51
You're a hero no matter what, and I, by suggesting,
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जेसुकै भएपनि तपाईं नायक हो ।
नम्रतापूर्वक एउटा सल्लाह दिन्छु, तपाईं
महान भबिष्यको
महान भबिष्यको
09:56
ever so delicately, that you might want a great career,
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कल्पना गर्नुहुन्छ भने, केटाकेटीको
तिरस्कार गर्नुपर्छ ।
तिरस्कार गर्नुपर्छ ।
10:00
must hate children. I don't hate children. I don't kick them.
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म केटाकेटीको तिरस्कार गर्दिन, भकुर्दिन ।
10:03
Yes, there was a little kid wandering through this building
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अघि म आउदैगर्दा एउटा केटाले
घुरेर हेर्दै थियो
घुरेर हेर्दै थियो
10:06
when I came here, and no, I didn't kick him. (Laughter)
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मैंले त्यसलाई लात्ताले हानिन ।
-----(हाँसो)-----
10:10
Course, I had to tell him that the building was for adults only
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मैंले खाली, यो भवन ठुलाको लागि मात्रै हो,
10:13
and to get out.
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बाहिर जाउ मात्रै भनेको हुँ ।
10:14
He mumbled something about his mother,
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उ मुर्मुरिदै आमाको बारेमा भन्दै थियो,
10:16
and I told him she'd probably find him outside anyway.
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मैंले तिम्रो आमा बाहिर कुर्दै होला भंने ।
10:20
Last time I saw him, he was on the stairs crying. (Laughter)
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अन्तिमपटक देख्दा उ भर्यांगमा रुँदै थियो ।
-----(हाँसो)-----
10:24
What a wimp. (Laughter)
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कस्तो रुन्चे !!
-----(हाँसो)-----
10:26
But what do you mean? That's what you expect me to say.
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मैंले त्यस्तै भन्छु भन्ने सोच्नु भएको ?
10:29
You really think, you really think it's appropriate
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यस्तो भन्नु ठिक हो भन्ने लाग्छ तपाईंलाइ ?
10:31
that you should actually take
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केटा केटिहरुलाई ढाल बनाएर उपयोग गर्नु
ठिक लाग्छ, तपाईंलाइ ?
ठिक लाग्छ, तपाईंलाइ ?
10:34
children and use them as a shield?
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10:37
You know what will happen someday,
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थाहा छ, कुनै यस्तो दिन आउनेछ,
10:39
you, you ideal parent, you?
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तपाईं आदर्श अविभावक होइन त ?
10:43
The kid will come to you someday and say,
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कुनै दिन बच्चा तपाईंकहाँ आएर भन्ने छन्
10:47
"I know what I want to be.
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"मलाई थाहा छ म के बन्न चाहन्छु ।
10:49
I know what I'm going to do with my life."
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जिन्दगी कसरी बाँच्नुपर्छ,
मलाई थाहा छ ।"
मलाई थाहा छ ।"
10:51
You are so happy. It's the conversation
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तपाईं खुशी हुनुहुनेछ ।
आमा बाबुले यस्तै बार्ता सुन्न चाहन्छन् ,
10:53
a parent wants to hear, because your kid's good in math,
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किनकि तपाईंको बच्चा गणितमा राम्रो छ,
10:56
and you know you're going to like what comes next.
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अब उसले के भन्छ भन्ने पनि
तपाईंलाइ थाहा छ ।
तपाईंलाइ थाहा छ ।
10:59
Says your kid, "I have decided
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तपाईंको बच्चाले भन्नेछ,
11:01
I want to be a magician.
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"म जादुगर बन्न चहान्छु,
11:04
I want to perform magic tricks on the stage."
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म स्टेजमा जादु देखाउन चाहन्छु ।"
11:08
(Laughter)
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-----(हाँसो)-----
11:10
And what do you say?
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त्यतिखेर तपाई के भन्नुहुनेछ ?
11:13
You say, you say,
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तपाई बल्ल तल्ल बोल्नुहुनेछ,
11:15
"Umm ... that's risky, kid.
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¨त्यसमा अलि खतरा छ, बाबु !
11:19
Might fail, kid. Don't make a lot of money at that, kid.
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खसेर लड्न सक्छ र खासै पैसा पनि कमाईन्न,
11:21
You know, I don't know, kid,
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एकपटक फेरी राम्ररी विचार गर्छस कि बाबु,
11:23
you should think about that again, kid,
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11:24
you're so good at math, why don't you — "
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तँ गणितमा त्यस्तो राम्रो छस, बरु ...."
11:26
And the kid interrupts you, and says,
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बिचैमा रोकेर बच्चाले भन्ने छ -
11:27
"But it is my dream. It is my dream to do this."
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"तर यो मेरो सपना हो,
म आफ्नो सपना पुरा गर्न चाहन्छु "
म आफ्नो सपना पुरा गर्न चाहन्छु "
11:32
And what are you going to say?
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अनि तपाई के भन्नुहुनेछ ?
11:34
You know what you're going to say?
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तपाईं के भन्नुहुनेछ, थाहा छ -
11:35
"Look kid. I had a dream once, too, but -- but."
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"हेर् बाबु, कुनै दिन मेरा पनि सपना थिए,
तर ---"
11:41
So how are you going to finish the sentence with your "but"?
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तर भन्दै के भनेर बाक्य टुंग्याउनु हुन्छ ?
11:44
"... But. I had a dream too, once, kid, but I was afraid to pursue it."
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"तर, मेरो पनि सपना थियो तर
पुरा गर्ने हिम्मत भएन ।"
पुरा गर्ने हिम्मत भएन ।"
11:50
Or, are you going to tell him this?
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अथवा यसो भन्नुहुनेछ -
11:52
"I had a dream once, kid.
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"कुनै बेला मेरो पनि सपना थियो,
11:56
But then you were born." (Laughter)
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तर तेतिखेरै तँ जन्मिस ।"
-----(हाँसो)-----
12:01
(Laughter) (Applause)
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---- ताली -----
12:03
Do you, do you really want to use your family,
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के तपाई परिवारको प्रयोग गर्न चाहनु हुन्छ.
12:08
do you really ever want to look at your spouse
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आफ्नो जीवनसाथी र बच्चालाइ हेर्दै
यसो भन्न चाहनुहुन्छ -
यसो भन्न चाहनुहुन्छ -
12:11
and your kid and see your jailers?
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तिमीहरु मेरो बन्धन हौ ?
12:16
There was something you could have said to your kid
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तपाईंले बच्चालाई भन्न सक्ने
अर्कै कुरा थियो -
अर्कै कुरा थियो -
12:20
when he or she said, "I have a dream."
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जब उनीहरु आफ्नो सपनाको कुरा गर्थे
12:24
You could have said, looked the kid in the face, and said,
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तपाईं पनि उनीहरुको अनुहारमा हेरेर
भन्न सक्नुहुन्थ्यो -
12:29
"Go for it, kid,
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"जा बाबु, अगाडी बढ,
12:32
just like I did."
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त्यसरी नै, जसरी म बढेको थिएँ"
12:36
But you won't be able to say that
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तर तपाईंले त्यस्तो भन्न पाउनुहुने छैन,
12:39
because you didn't. So you can't. (Laughter)
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किनकि, तपाईं अगाढी बढ्नु भएन ।
तपाईं चुप्प हुनुहुनेछ ।
-----(हाँसो)-----
12:46
And so the sins of the parents
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यसरी बाउ आमाको गल्ति
12:49
are visited on the poor children.
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बिचरा केटाकेटीमा थोपरिन्छ ।
12:54
Why will you seek refuge in human relationships
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आफ्नो सपना पुरा गर्न नसकेको पिडा छोप्न
12:59
as your excuse not to find and pursue your passion?
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किन मानवीय सम्बन्धमा शरण खोज्नुहुन्छ ?
13:05
You know why.
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किन भने,
13:07
In your heart of hearts, you know why,
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तपाईंको भित्रि मनलाई थाहा छ, किन,
13:10
and I'm being deadly serious.
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म एकदमै गम्भीर भएर भन्दै छु ।
13:13
You know why you would get all warm and fuzzy
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तपाईंलाइ थाहा छ, किन तपाईं
अस्पस्ट हुनुहुन्छ
अस्पस्ट हुनुहुन्छ
13:15
and wrap yourself up in human relationships.
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र मानवीय सम्बन्धमा आफुलाई लुकाउनु हुन्छ ।
13:18
It is because you are —
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किन कि तपाईं, तपाईं
13:22
You know what you are.
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स्वयंलाइ थाहा छ तपाईं को हो
13:24
You're afraid to pursue your passion.
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तपाईं आफ्नो अभिलाषा प्राप्तगर्न डराउनुभयो
13:28
You're afraid to look ridiculous.
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हास्यास्पद बनिएला बन्ने डर लाग्यो ।
13:30
You're afraid to try. You're afraid you may fail.
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तपाईं प्रयत्न गर्न डराउनु भयो,
असफल भनिएला भनेर डराउनुभयो ।
13:36
Great friend, great spouse, great parent, great career.
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सर्बोत्तम साथि, सर्बोत्तम जीवनसाथी,
सर्बोत्तम अविभावक, सर्बोत्तम जीवन ।
सर्बोत्तम अविभावक, सर्बोत्तम जीवन ।
13:43
Is that not a package? Is that not who you are?
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समग्र रुपमा तपाईंको परिचय यहि होइन ?
13:48
How can you be one without the other?
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यो एउटा बिना अर्को कसरी सम्भव छ ?
13:51
But you're afraid.
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तर तपाईं डराउनु भयो ।
13:54
And that's why you're not going to have a great career, unless --
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त्यसैले तपाईंले जीवन सर्बोत्कृस्ट
बन्ने छैन ।
बन्ने छैन ।
तबसम्म ---
14:02
unless, that most evocative of all English words --
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"तबसम्म" अंग्रेजीको भाषाको
अर्थपूर्ण शब्द --
अर्थपूर्ण शब्द --
14:09
unless.
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"तबसम्म"
14:10
But the unless word is also attached
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तर यो "तबसम्म" शब्द अर्को डरलाग्दो
14:15
to that other, most terrifying phrase,
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बाक्यसंग पनि जोडिन सक्छ --
14:20
"If only I had ... "
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" यदि म संग भइदिएको भए" ---
14:23
"If only I had ... "
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" यदि म संग भइदिएको भए" ---
14:26
If you ever have that thought ricocheting in your brain,
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यदि तपाईंको दिमागमा यी शब्द
घुम्न थाले भने,
घुम्न थाले भने,
14:31
it will hurt a lot.
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धेरै चोट पुर्याउनेछ ।
14:35
So, those are the many reasons
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यसर्थ यीनै प्रमुख कारणहरु हुन्,
14:37
why you are going to fail
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जो तपाईंको सर्बोत्कृस्ट जीवन पथमा
14:39
to have a great career,
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बाधा बन्न आउछन् ।
14:42
unless ...
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"तबसम्म"---
14:47
Unless.
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तबसम्म ।
14:51
Thank you. (Applause)
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धन्यबाद ।
---- ताली -----
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Larry Smith - Professor of Economics, University of WaterlooA professor of economics at the University of Waterloo in Canada, Larry Smith coaches his students to find the careers that they will truly love.
Why you should listen
Larry Smith is a professor of economics at University of Waterloo. A well-known storyteller and advocate for youth leadership, he has also mentored many of his students on start-up business management and career development. The most notable start-up he advised in its infancy is Research in Motion (RIM), maker of the BlackBerry.
"What you see in the TED Talk is essentially thirty years of Smith’s frustrations reaching a boiling point," wrote Carmine Gallo in Forbes. “'Wasted talent is a waste I cannot stand,' Smith told me."
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