Leila Hoteit: 3 lessons on success from an Arab businesswoman
蕾拉·赫提特: 來自阿拉伯女實業家的三個關於成功的告誡
BCG's Leila Hoteit specializes in human capital and education throughout the Middle East. Full bio
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from my young daughter Alia
standing tall in the middle of the mall.
of the United Arab Emirates.
that these were the rulers of the UAE
to develop their nation
that here where we live,
where grandma and grandpa live,
of powerful women on the walls?
I've had to answer in my years as a parent
of professional life, for that matter.
to a very hard-working pilot
父親是努力工作的飛行員,
for the Lebanese Airlines
stay-at-home mom and grandma.
my sister and I to pursue our education
emphasized at the time
who should be professionally motivated.
of my generation
and I hope I didn't do too badly
of his would-be son.
in electrical engineering,
then consulting in the Middle East,
此外在中東諮詢,
in male-dominated environments.
a role model I could truly identify with.
wasn't into professional leadership.
encouraging men along the way,
and pressures I was facing,
when I had my own two beautiful children.
poor, oppressed Arab women advice,
受欺壓的阿拉伯女性忠告,
with different constraints.
有著不一樣的束縛。
have had to become our own role models.
more cultural rigidity than Western women.
that we poor, oppressed women
certainly hard-earned lessons to share,
in the modern world.
is touting as the key to success:
and how do you develop it?
the ability to transform shit into fuel.
把負面能量轉換成自身動力的能力
well before my current firm,
在我的工作中,
we will call John.
我們稱他約翰好了。
and was working hard,
很努力地工作,
my case to make partner at the firm.
on my consulting projects,
of women economic empowerment.
女性經濟自主的主題。
to a roomful of MBA students.
呈現我的研究成果。
to the details of my study.
in apparent shame.
to an applauding audience
gender parity indices,
性別待遇平等指數,
at the bottom of the index,
that was not factual?"
"The whole premise of your study is wrong.
break the social fabric of our society."
破壞我們的社會結構。」
their place is in the home."
他們歸屬就是在家裡面。」
in the chaos of my brain was:
that partnership, Leila.
absorb this incident and its implications,
I reached three conclusions.
我得到三個結論。
their issues become mine.
another sponsor, and fast.
and boy, was he great.
我找到了另一半,他真的很棒。
what women with children can do.
有小孩的女人可以做什麼。
to my personal life.
of encouragement,
by women, men and couples
with my husband and I
選擇雙薪家庭的道路存有質疑。
of a dual-career couple.
選擇雙薪家庭的道路存有質疑。
at a family gathering
或是在朋友聚會,
you're not a great mom,
in your career, right?
these words didn't hurt.
precious thing to me,
failing them in any way is intolerable.
無論如何都是無法忍受的。
that these were their issues,
in these situations, you have two options.
to internalize these negative messages
去內化這些
to ever achieve,
negativity is their own issue,
別人的負面能量是他們自己的問題,
into your own personal fuel.
變成你的個人動力。
to always go for option two,
from strength to strength.
to someone supportive of their career.
if you plan to have a long career.
如果你計畫要有很長的職業生涯。
is not an equal contributor in the home.
在家中仍不是個公平的貢獻者。
our society still assumes
我們的社會仍然認為
should be the happiness and prosperity
應該來自於
but it will take time.
但這會需要些時間。
that the professional Arab woman
職業阿拉伯女性
is being taken care of
professional skills to your personal life.
得來不易的職業技能。
has access to affordable domestic help.
都能找到可負擔費用的家務代理。
how to recruit effectively.
I have based the selection
我很大程度上
with my children while I'm at work
for four years with my sister
was well-established.
是受到公認的。
member of our family,
since Alia was six months old.
is running smoothly while I'm at work,
for her and my children,
whatever your childcare situation,
無論你的小孩的照護狀況事怎樣的,
that you share with someone else.
from 7pm to 8:30pm UAE time
ever since Alia was a baby.
to protect this time
去保留這段時間,
to spend quality time with my children,
與我的孩子們共度寶貴時光,
reading them a bedtime story
給他們讀睡前故事,
lots of kisses and cuddles.
許多的吻和擁抱。
in whatever the time zone,
無論在哪個時區,
even if I am miles away.
即使我在數哩之外。
and do basic maths.
和作基礎運算。
is actually more successful
實際上比起我更成功地
playing teacher to her little brother,
去扮演她弟弟的老師,
actually improve Burhan's literacy,
實際上改善了Burhan的讀寫能力,
to working their life
去安排他們的生活,
of responsibility in the home.
about surviving in your dual role
與一個母親的雙重角色下存活,
與一個母親的雙重角色下存活,
I can spend with them every day,
我每天可以陪著他們,
into memorable moments,
都變成難忘的片刻。
have not been very visible
在大眾眼中不是很引人注目,
在大眾眼中不是很引人注目,
in politics in the Arab world.
只有極少數的女性。
behind the scenes,
very important to success:
是非常重要的:
of friends and acquaintances.
often compare themselves to other women
經常把自己跟其他女性做比較,
successful woman in the room.
屋子裡最成功的女人。
competitive behavior
for one woman at the top,
much less lift them up.
更不用說激勵她們。
for this psychological trap.
這個心理陷阱。
that by helping each other out,
藉由幫助彼此,
senior woman in the Middle East,
in my network of female colleagues
with male seniors and peers.
came through the support of other women.
來自其他女人的幫助。
who initially suggested
她最初建議
to the World Economic Forum.
and my publications,
to voice her opinion,
a Saudi lady and friend,
一位沙烏地女士,是我的朋友,
my first project in Saudi Arabia,
to gain traction in as a woman.
of very many projects for me in Saudi.
as key to my own success.
就是開啟我成功之路的鑰匙。
despite many recent setbacks.
儘管現在有很多障礙。
five new female ministers to its cabinet,
五名新的女部長進入內閣,
developed countries can claim.
Alia's favorite picture.
Alia最愛的圖片。
no doubt, of great leadership,
在偉大的領導之下的結果。
of strong Arab women
pushing the boundaries.
deciding every day like me
to keep work out of their life,
在生活外保持發展,
when she stands on this stage
從現在開始20.30年後,
to call herself her mother's daughter
"her mother's son" or "mama's boy"
是「母親的兒子」或是「媽媽的男孩」,
a completely different meaning.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Leila Hoteit - Women's advocateBCG's Leila Hoteit specializes in human capital and education throughout the Middle East.
Why you should listen
Dr. Leila Hoteit is a partner and managing director at BCG, based in Dubai. She leads the education and human capital development work in the Middle East.
Dr. Hoteit's career spans over 13 years in the management consulting industry. As part of her assignments, Dr. Hoteit has covered a slew of in-depth societal issues that punctuate the MENA region; these include education, women's empowerment, human capital development, employment and culture. Dr. Hoteit was named Young Global Leader for the World Economic Forum in 2014 -- a multi-stakeholder community of exceptional young leaders who share a commitment to shaping the global future. Dr. Hoteit holds a Bachelor's degree and PhD in Electrical Engineering from Imperial College London, as well as an MBA from France's INSEAD. She is the author of multiple patents.
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