Emily Esfahani Smith: There's more to life than being happy
אמילי אספהאני סמית': החיים הם יותר מאשר להיות מאושרים
In her book "The Power of Meaning," Emily Esfahani Smith rounds up the latest research -- and the stories of fascinating people she interviewed -- to argue that the search for meaning is far more fulfilling than the pursuit of personal happiness. Full bio
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was pursuing happiness.
to happiness was success,
that beautiful apartment.
they struggled with this, too.
גם הם נאבקו עם זה.
to graduate school for positive psychology
לקראת תואר בבית ספר לפסיכולוגיה חיובית
להיות מאושרים.
changed my life.
can make people unhappy.
יכולה לגרום לאנשים להיות אומללים.
around the world,
a 30-year high in America.
ביותר מזה 30 שנה.
objectively better
החיים נעשים טובים יותר
gnawing away at people,
clinically depressed to feel it.
מדיכאון קליני כדי לחוש את זה.
what predicts this despair
between being happy
as a state of comfort and ease,
כמצב של נוחות ושלווה,
Martin Seligman says
and serving something beyond yourself
וממתן שרות למשהו מעבר לעצמכם
is the more fulfilling path.
הוא הנתיב המספק יותר.
who have meaning in life,
interviewing hundreds of people
במשך 5 שנים
of pages of psychology,
four pillars of a meaningful life.
של חיים משמעותיים.
of these pillars in our lives.
או את כולם.
from being in relationships
for who you are intrinsically
deliver a cheap form of belonging;
מספקות צורה זולה של השתייכות;
to cultivate belonging with others.
שייכות עם אחרים.
buys a newspaper
a transaction, though.
didn't have the right change,
המטבעות הנכונים,
and bought something he didn't need
like this without realizing it.
קטנות כמו אלו, מבלי להבין את זה.
and barely acknowledge them.
ובקושי מכירה בקיומם.
when someone's talking to me.
בזמן שמישהו מדבר אלי.
invisible and unworthy.
בלתי נראים ולא ראויים.
you create a bond
אתם יוצרים קשר
is the most essential source of meaning,
החיוני ביותר של משמעות,
is the second pillar: purpose.
הוא העמוד השני: התכלית.
is not the same thing
than about what you give.
מאשר על מה שאתם נותנים.
her purpose is healing sick people.
שתכלית עבודתה היא ריפוי חולים.
is using your strengths to serve others.
נקודות החוזק שלכם כדי לשרת אחרים.
that happens through work.
זה קורה במהלך העבודה.
that issues like disengagement at work,
they're existential ones, too.
הן גם בעיות קיומיות.
purpose at work,
למצוא את התכלית בעבודה,
something to live for,
משהו ששווה לחיות עבורו,
is also about stepping beyond yourself,
הוא גם על צעידה מעבר לעצמכם,
the hustle and bustle of daily life,
to a higher reality.
transcendence came from seeing art.
הגיעה מהתבוננות באמנות.
and it happens through writing.
that I lose all sense of time and place.
מאבדת כל תחושה של זמן ומקום.
experiences can change you.
at 200-feet-tall eucalyptus trees
לצמרות עצי אקליפטוס בגובה 200 מטרים
they felt less self-centered,
of meaning, I've found,
של משמעות, שמצאתי,
about yourself.
of your life brings clarity.
מעניק בהירות.
how you became you.
that we're the authors of our stories
שאנחנו מחברי הסיפורים של עצמנו
מספרים אותם.
and retell your story,
ולספר מחדש את הסיפור שלכם,
who'd been paralyzed playing football.
שהיה משותק, משחק כדורגל.
to weave a different story.
my life was purposeless.
a pretty selfish guy.
I could be a better man."
שאני יכול להיות אדם טוב יותר ".
changed Emeka's life.
calls this a "redemptive story,"
קורא לזה "סיפור גאולה"
lives, he's found,
change their stories?
on your life thoughtfully,
and we all struggle.
can lead to new insights and wisdom,
תוכלו לעורר תובנות חדשות וחוכמה
transcendence, storytelling:
by all of the pillars.
from our home in Montreal.
מהבית שלנו במונטריאול
associated with the whirling dervishes
עם הדרווישים המסתחררים
and share stories.
serving all of creation
even when people wronged you.
גם כאשר אנשים פוגעים בכם.
to reign in the ego.
of Sufism in my life,
that make life worth living.
ראויים לחיותם.
had a real culture of meaning.
helped us all live more deeply.
עזרה לנו לחיות חיים עם עומק רב יותר.
that use the pillars
שמשתמשות בעמודים
something to live and die for.
within our families and our institutions
בתוך המשפחות שלנו והמוסדות שלנו
של עצמם .
דורש השקעה.
we're constantly creating our lives,
יוצרים את חיינו,
I had with my father.
שהיה לי עם אבא שלי.
I graduated from college,
את הלימודים בקולג',
that should have killed him.
שעלול היה להרוג אותו.
what was going through his mind
was needing to live
היה הצורך לחיות
for my brother and me,
to fight for life.
for emergency surgery,
the last words he spoke on earth
he had a reason to live:
repeating our names --
כשהוא חוזר על שמותינו -
why he survived.
something to hold on to.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Emily Esfahani Smith - Journalist, authorIn her book "The Power of Meaning," Emily Esfahani Smith rounds up the latest research -- and the stories of fascinating people she interviewed -- to argue that the search for meaning is far more fulfilling than the pursuit of personal happiness.
Why you should listen
Emily Esfahani Smith is the author of The Power of Meaning: Finding Fulfillment in a World Obsessed With Happiness. In her book and TED Talk, she argues that we're chasing the wrong goal -- a life of meaning, not happiness, should be our aim.
Our culture is obsessed with happiness. Even though we devote vast amounts of time and resources trying to be happier, many of us feel aimless and alienated nonetheless. With depression and loneliness trending upward for decades and the suicide rate rising around the world -- recently reaching a 30-year high in the United States -- it's clear that something is wrong. In recent years, social scientists have been trying to understand what exactly the problem is. What they've found is striking. What predicts the rising tide of despair sweeping across society is not a lack of happiness. It's a lack of something else -- a lack of having meaning in life. In fact, chasing and valuing happiness, the way our culture encourages us to do, can actually make people unhappy.
This set Smith on a journey to understand what constitutes a meaningful life. After extensive research and reporting, she came to see that there are four pillars of a meaningful life -- and she lays them out in her TED Talk. Ultimately, she discovered that the search for meaning is far more fulfilling than the pursuit of personal happiness -- and we all have the power to build more meaning in our lives.
Smith's articles and essays have appeared in the Wall Street Journal, New York Times, and The Atlantic. The former managing editor of The New Criterion, Smith is also an editor at the Stanford University's Hoover Institution, where she advises the Ben Franklin Circles project, a collaboration with the 92nd Street Y and Citizen University to build meaning in local communities.
Emily Esfahani Smith | Speaker | TED.com