Emily Esfahani Smith: There's more to life than being happy
Emily Esfahani Smith: In sa vida non est sceti a essi prexaus.
In her book "The Power of Meaning," Emily Esfahani Smith rounds up the latest research -- and the stories of fascinating people she interviewed -- to argue that the search for meaning is far more fulfilling than the pursuit of personal happiness. Full bio
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was pursuing happiness.
fuet a circai sa biadìa.
to happiness was success,
conc'a sa biadìa fuet s'arrennescida,
that beautiful apartment.
they struggled with this, too.
s'intendiant a sa propriu manera.
to graduate school for positive psychology
a s'iscola de psicologia positiva
changed my life.
m'at furriau sa vida.
can make people unhappy.
ca fait sa genti trista.
around the world,
est crescendi in su mundu
a 30-year high in America.
a su massimu de 30 annus.
objectively better
ogetivamenti mellus
gnawing away at people,
clinically depressed to feel it.
po ddu cumprendi.
chi totus si domandeus:
what predicts this despair
su chi portat a custu disisperu
unus cantu preguntas.
chi a essi prexaus?
between being happy
tra essi prexaus
as a state of comfort and ease,
cument'a un istadu de benessiri,
Martin Seligman says
and serving something beyond yourself
e serbiri a cosas de prus de nosus e totu
est ossessionada de sa biadìa,
is the more fulfilling path.
donat prus cuntentu.
who have meaning in life,
unu sensu in sa vida
interviewing hundreds of people
a centenas de personas po cinc'annus
of pages of psychology,
de psicologia,
four pillars of a meaningful life.
de una vida prena de sensu.
of these pillars in our lives.
in sa vida cosa nosta.
from being in relationships
de essi in d'unu acapiu
for who you are intrinsically
deliver a cheap form of belonging;
donant una forma pobera de apartenentza:
nascit de s'amori.
to cultivate belonging with others.
de dda cultivai cun is aterus.
buys a newspaper
comporat su giornali
a transaction, though.
didn't have the right change,
non teniat dinai in cambiu
cancuna cosa chi non ddi serbiat
and bought something he didn't need
ma Jonathan iat arrefudau.
like this without realizing it.
chentz'e mancu si nd'acatai.
and barely acknowledge them.
chentz'e mancu ddu biri.
when someone's talking to me.
canuncu chistionat cun mei.
invisible and unworthy.
you create a bond
criasa un acapiu
is the most essential source of meaning,
ddis donat su sensu prus mannu,
cun sa famiglia e is amigus.
is the second pillar: purpose.
de su segundu pilastru: un'iscopu.
is not the same thing
non est sa propriu cosa
than about what you give.
est prus a donai.
her purpose is healing sick people.
ca s'iscopu cosa sua est a sanai sa genti.
a pesai a fillus mius".
is using your strengths to serve others.
is fortzas cosa tua po is aterus.
that happens through work.
custu sutzedit cun su traballu.
e s'intendeus utilis.
that issues like disengagement at work,
cument'a no agatai su traballu,
de is traballadoris,
they're existential ones, too.
ma funt puru esistentzialis.
purpose at work,
un iscopu in su traballu,
something to live for,
cancuna cosa chi ti fait bivi,
is also about stepping beyond yourself,
cumportat chi ndi bessat de tui e totu,
funt cussus rarus momentus
the hustle and bustle of daily life,
de dognia diri,
to a higher reality.
a una realidadi prus arta.
transcendence came from seeing art.
ddi benit castiendi s'arti.
and it happens through writing.
benit scriendi.
that I lose all sense of time and place.
su sensu de su tempus e su spatziu.
experiences can change you.
ti podint cambiai.
at 200-feet-tall eucalyptus trees
castiai una mata de ocalitu de 60 metrus
scientis de issus e totu
they felt less self-centered,
a s'ocasioni de agiudai a cancunu.
of meaning, I've found,
about yourself.
of your life brings clarity.
cument'a una storia ponit in craru,
how you became you.
ses diventau su chi ses.
that we're the authors of our stories
ca nosus e totu seus is autoris
sa manera de dda contai.
and retell your story,
e torrai a nai sa storia cosa nosta,
who'd been paralyzed playing football.
chi s'est amarmurau gioghendi a football.
gioghendi a football,
cument'a custa --
imoi est legia".--
e prus depressus.
to weave a different story.
a tessi unu contu diferenti.
my life was purposeless.
bivemu chentz'e un iscopu.
a pretty selfish guy.
I could be a better man."
ca podemu essi un omini mellus".
changed Emeka's life.
at cambiau sa vida de Emeka.
calls this a "redemptive story,"
ddu tzerriat "contu de redentzioni",
at iscobertu,
lives, he's found,
crescida e amori.
change their stories?
is contus a sa genti?
ma si podit fai a solus puru,
on your life thoughtfully,
e poit essi dolorosu.
and we all struggle.
e totus tribuliaus.
can lead to new insights and wisdom,
arribas a una visioni e una sabiesa noa
transcendence, storytelling:
trascendentza e a nai contus:
de su sensu de sa vida.
by all of the pillars.
ingiriada de totu 'e is cuatru pilastrus.
from our home in Montreal.
in domu nosta in Montreal.
associated with the whirling dervishes
assotziada a is derviscius chi giranta
beniant a domu nosta
and share stories.
e contai istorias.
serving all of creation
puru serbiri totu sa creatzioni
even when people wronged you.
cun is chi t'ant ofendiu.
to reign in the ego.
po apoderai s'egoismu cosa insoru.
po andai a s'universidadi
of Sufism in my life,
de sufismu in sa vida mia
that make life worth living.
po tenni una vida digna.
had a real culture of meaning.
una cultura de sensu.
helped us all live more deeply.
a bivi una vida prena.
certus, si applicant
that use the pillars
chi imperant is pilastrus
something to live and die for.
po bivi e po morri.
poita sa sotziedadi nosta
within our families and our institutions
de is famiglias e is istitutzionis nostas
su mellus chi podint.
est traballosu.
we're constantly creating our lives,
I had with my father.
chi apu tentu cun babu miu.
I graduated from college,
that should have killed him.
chi nd'iat essi potziu morri.
what was going through his mind
candu at castiau sa morti in faci,
was needing to live
fuet ca depiat bivi
for my brother and me,
to fight for life.
de lutai po bivi.
for emergency surgery,
po s'operatzioni de urgenza,
a tipu mantra.
the last words he spoke on earth
is urtimus fueddus chi iat essi nau
he had a reason to live:
teniat un'arrexoni po bivi:
a sa famiglia sua,
repeating our names --
a ripiti is nominis nostus --
why he survived.
is cosas chi dd'anti fatu bivi.
chi si contat a issu e totu.
something to hold on to.
cancuna cosa po t'apoderai.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Emily Esfahani Smith - Journalist, authorIn her book "The Power of Meaning," Emily Esfahani Smith rounds up the latest research -- and the stories of fascinating people she interviewed -- to argue that the search for meaning is far more fulfilling than the pursuit of personal happiness.
Why you should listen
Emily Esfahani Smith is the author of The Power of Meaning: Finding Fulfillment in a World Obsessed With Happiness. In her book and TED Talk, she argues that we're chasing the wrong goal -- a life of meaning, not happiness, should be our aim.
Our culture is obsessed with happiness. Even though we devote vast amounts of time and resources trying to be happier, many of us feel aimless and alienated nonetheless. With depression and loneliness trending upward for decades and the suicide rate rising around the world -- recently reaching a 30-year high in the United States -- it's clear that something is wrong. In recent years, social scientists have been trying to understand what exactly the problem is. What they've found is striking. What predicts the rising tide of despair sweeping across society is not a lack of happiness. It's a lack of something else -- a lack of having meaning in life. In fact, chasing and valuing happiness, the way our culture encourages us to do, can actually make people unhappy.
This set Smith on a journey to understand what constitutes a meaningful life. After extensive research and reporting, she came to see that there are four pillars of a meaningful life -- and she lays them out in her TED Talk. Ultimately, she discovered that the search for meaning is far more fulfilling than the pursuit of personal happiness -- and we all have the power to build more meaning in our lives.
Smith's articles and essays have appeared in the Wall Street Journal, New York Times, and The Atlantic. The former managing editor of The New Criterion, Smith is also an editor at the Stanford University's Hoover Institution, where she advises the Ben Franklin Circles project, a collaboration with the 92nd Street Y and Citizen University to build meaning in local communities.
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