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Kevin Breel: Confessions of a depressed comic
Kevin Breel: Rrefimi i nje komiku ne depresion
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Kevin Breel nuk dukej si nje femije ne depresion: kapiten skuadre, pjestar i cdo feste, zbavites dhe me besim ne vete. Por ai tregon nje histori te nates ku zbuloi se... per te shpetuar jeten e tij... ai duhet te thoshte kater fjale te thjeshta.
Kevin Breel - Comedian, activist
Writer, comic and mental health activist Kevin Breel speaks up about depression. Full bio
Writer, comic and mental health activist Kevin Breel speaks up about depression. Full bio
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00:12
For a long time in my life,
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Per nje kohe te gjate ne jeten time,
00:15
I felt like I'd been living two different lives.
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ndjeja sikur po jetoja dy jete te ndryshme.
00:19
There's the life that everyone sees,
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Jeten qe shohin te gjithe,
00:23
and then there's the life that only I see.
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dhe jeten qe vetem une e shoh.
00:26
And in the life that everyone sees,
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Dhe ne jeten qe shohin te gjithe
00:29
who I am is a friend,
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une jam nje mik,
00:31
a son, a brother,
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nje djale, nje vella,
00:34
a stand-up comedian and a teenager.
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nje komedian dhe nje adoleshent.
00:37
That's the life everyone sees.
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Kjo eshte jeta qe shohin te gjithe.
00:39
If you were to ask my friends and family to describe me,
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Nese do t'i kerkonit miqvee dhe familjes sime te me pershkruajne,
00:41
that's what they would tell you.
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ata do te thonin kete liste.
00:43
And that's a huge part of me. That is who I am.
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Dhe ajo eshte nje pjese e madhe imja. Ajo eshte cka une jam.
00:45
And if you were to ask me to describe myself,
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Dhe nese do me pyesnit mua te pershkruaja veten time,
00:47
I'd probably say some of those same things.
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me siguri mundesi do permendja disa nga ato gjera.
00:50
And I wouldn't be lying,
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Dhe nuk do shtiresha,
00:54
but I wouldn't totally be telling you the truth, either,
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por nuk do te isha duke thene te verteten e plote,
00:58
because the truth is,
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sepse e verteta eshte,
00:59
that's just the life everyone else sees.
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se ajo eshte thjesht jeta qe shohin te tjeret.
01:02
In the life that only I see, who I am,
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Ne jeten qe e shoh vetem une, ai qe une jam,
01:06
who I really am,
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ai qe jam vertete,
01:08
is someone who struggles intensely with depression.
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eshte dikush qe lufton intensivisht depresionin.
01:12
I have for the last six years of my life,
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E kam bere per gjashte vitet e fundit ne jeten time,
01:15
and I continue to every day.
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dhe vazhdoj t'a bej cdo dite.
01:20
Now, for someone who has never experienced depression
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Per dike qe nuk ka vuajtur kurre nga depresioni
01:23
or doesn't really know what that means,
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ose qe nuk e di cfare eshte vertete,
01:24
that might surprise them to hear,
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per te kjo mund te jete nje surprize,
01:25
because there's this pretty popular misconception
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sepse ekziston nje ide e gabuar por popullore
01:27
that depression is just being sad
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qe depresioni eshte kur ti je i merzitur
01:30
when something in your life goes wrong,
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meqenese dicka po shkon keq ne jeten tende,
01:32
when you break up with your girlfriend,
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kur ndahesh nga e dashura,
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when you lose a loved one,
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kur humbet nje person te dashur,
01:35
when you don't get the job you wanted.
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kur nuk fiton punen qe doje.
01:37
But that's sadness. That's a natural thing.
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Por kjo eshte thjesht merzitje. Eshte dicka natyrale.
01:39
That's a natural human emotion.
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Eshte nje emocion natyral human.
01:41
Real depression isn't being sad
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Depresioni i vertet nuk eshte te jesh i merzitur
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when something in your life goes wrong.
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kur dicka ne jeten tende shkon keq.
01:48
Real depression is being sad
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Depresioni i vertete eshte te jesh i merzitur
01:50
when everything in your life is going right.
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kur gjithcka ne jeten tende shkon mire.
01:53
That's real depression, and that's what I suffer from.
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Ky eshte depresion i vertete, dhe nga kjo vuaj une.
01:55
And to be totally honest,
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Dhe per te qene totalisht i sinqerte,
01:58
that's hard for me to stand up here and say.
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eshte e veshtire per mua te qendroj ketu e ta them kete.
02:00
It's hard for me to talk about,
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Eshte e veshtire per mua te diskutoj per kete,
02:02
and it seems to be hard for everyone to talk about,
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dhe me sa duket te gjithe e kane te veshtire,
02:05
so much so that no one's talking about it.
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aq te veshtire, saqe pothuajse askush
nuk diskuton per te.
nuk diskuton per te.
02:07
And no one's talking about depression, but we need to be,
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Askush nuk flet per depresionin, por ne duhet medoemos te flasim,
02:10
because right now it's a massive problem.
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sepse sot ai eshte nje problem masiv.
02:13
It's a massive problem.
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Eshte problem masiv.
02:15
But we don't see it on social media, right?
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Po ne nuk lexojme per te ne mediat sociale, apo jo?
02:17
We don't see it on Facebook. We don't see it on Twitter.
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Nuk e shohim ne Facebook. Nuk e shohim ne Twitter.
02:19
We don't see it on the news, because it's not happy,
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Nuk e shohim ne lajme sepse nuk eshte lajm i bukur,
02:21
it's not fun, it's not light.
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nuk eshte argetues, nuk eshte i lehte.
02:22
And so because we don't see it, we don't see the severity of it.
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Dhe duke qene se nuk e shohim, nuk dallojme se sa i rende eshte ai.
02:26
But the severity of it and the seriousness of it is this:
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Por rendesia dhe serioziteti i tij shprehet keshtu:
02:30
every 30 seconds,
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cdo 30 sekonda,
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every 30 seconds, somewhere,
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cdo 30 sekonda, diku,
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someone in the world takes their own life
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dikush i jep fund jetes
02:36
because of depression,
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per shkak te depresionit,
02:37
and it might be two blocks away, it might be two countries away,
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dhe mund te jete dy lagje me tej, mund te jete dy shtete me tej,
02:39
it might be two continents away, but it's happening,
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dy kontinente larg, por kjo ndodh,
02:41
and it's happening every single day.
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dhe po ndodh cdo dite.
02:43
And we have a tendency, as a society,
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Dhe ne si shoqeri kemi prirjen,
02:46
to look at that and go, "So what?"
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t'a degjojme kete dhe te themi, "E po pastaj?"
02:51
So what? We look at that, and we go, "That's your problem.
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Po pastaj? E degjojme dhe themi, "Ky eshte problemi yt.
02:56
That's their problem."
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Ky eshte problem i tyre."
02:58
We say we're sad and we say we're sorry,
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Themi qe merzitemi dhe na vjen keq,
03:00
but we also say, "So what?"
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por gjithashtu themi dhe, "Po pastaj?"
03:02
Well, two years ago it was my problem,
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Mire pra, dy vite me pare ky ishte problemi im,
03:06
because I sat on the edge of my bed
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sepse isha ulur ne anen e krevatit tim
03:10
where I'd sat a million times before
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aty ku kisha qendruar me miliona here me pare
03:14
and I was suicidal.
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dhe po mendoja vetevrasjen.
03:17
I was suicidal, and if you were to look at my life on the surface,
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Po e mendoja, dhe po ta shihnit jeten time ne siperfaqe,
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you wouldn't see a kid who was suicidal.
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nuk do shihnit nje djale qe ishte gati te vetevritej.
03:23
You'd see a kid who was the captain of his basketball team,
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Do shihnit nje djale i cili ishte kapiten i
skuadres se tij te basketbollit,
skuadres se tij te basketbollit,
03:25
the drama and theater student of the year,
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studenti i vitit ne lenden e drames dhe teatrit,
03:27
the English student of the year,
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studenti i vitit i Anglishtes,
03:28
someone who was consistently on the honor roll
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nje djale qe ishte vazhdimisht ne listen e nderit
03:30
and consistently at every party.
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dhe qe merrte pjese ne cdo feste.
03:33
So you would say I wasn't depressed, you would say
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Pra do thonit qe nuk isha ne depresion, do thonit
03:35
I wasn't suicidal, but you would be wrong.
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qe nuk isha gati te vrisja veten, por do kishit gabuar.
03:38
You would be wrong. So I sat there that night
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Do kishit gabuar. U ula aty ate nate
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beside a bottle of pills with a pen and paper in my hand
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ne krahe te nje shisheje me ilace,
me nje leter dhe laps ne dore
me nje leter dhe laps ne dore
03:43
and I thought about taking my own life
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dhe mendova ti jap fund jetes sime
03:45
and I came this close to doing it.
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dhe ju afrova kaq afer.
03:49
I came this close to doing it.
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Iu afrova aq shume atij veprimi.
03:50
And I didn't, so that makes me one of the lucky ones,
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Por nuk e bera, dhe kjo tregon se jam prej fatlumeve,
03:53
one of the people who gets to step out on the ledge
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nje nga ata njerez qe arrin deri tek buza e humneres,
03:56
and look down but not jump,
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sheh poshte por nuk hidhet,
03:58
one of the lucky ones who survives.
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nje nga fatlumet qe mbijetojne.
04:00
Well, I survived, and that just leaves me with my story,
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Une mbijetova, dhe tani me ngelet vec historia ime,
04:02
and my story is this:
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dhe historia ime eshte kjo:
04:05
In four simple words, I suffer from depression.
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Ne kater fjale te thjeshta, une vuaj nga depresioni.
04:08
I suffer from depression,
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Vuaj nga depresioni,
04:10
and for a long time, I think,
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supozoj prej nje kohe te gjate,
04:18
I was living two totally different lives,
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jetoja dy jete totalisht te ndryshme,
04:20
where one person was always afraid of the other.
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ku njeri person kishte frike tjetrin.
04:22
I was afraid that people would see me for who I really was,
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Kisha frike se njerezit do shikonin tek une ate qe isha vertet,
04:24
that I wasn't the perfect, popular kid in high school everyone thought I was,
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qe une nuk isha femija perfekt, i famshem ne gjimnaz,
qe te gjithe mendonin se une isha,
qe te gjithe mendonin se une isha,
04:28
that beneath my smile, there was struggle,
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qe pas buzeqeshjes sime, kishte nje lufte,
04:30
and beneath my light, there was dark,
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dhe pertej drites time, kishte erresire,
04:32
and beneath my big personality just hid even bigger pain.
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dhe pertej personalitetit tim te forte fshihej nje dhimbje edhe me e forte.
04:36
See, some people might fear girls not liking them back.
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Disa njerez kane frike se vajzat nuk do t'i pelqejne.
04:39
Some people might fear sharks. Some people might fear death.
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Disa kane frike nga peshkaqenet. Disa nga vdekja.
04:41
But for me, for a large part of my life, I feared myself.
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Por une, per nje kohe te gjate te jetes time,
une kisha frike nga vetja.
une kisha frike nga vetja.
04:46
I feared my truth, I feared my honesty, I feared my vulnerability,
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Kisha frike nga e verteta ime, nga sinqeriteti im, nga dobesia ime,
04:48
and that fear made me feel
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dhe ajo frike me beri te ndjehesha
04:51
like I was forced into a corner,
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sikur isha i zene ne nje cep,
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like I was forced into a corner and there was only one way out,
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sikur isha i zene ne nje cep dhe rrugedalja ishte vetem nje,
04:56
and so I thought about that way every single day.
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dhe keshtu mendoja cdo dite per te.
05:00
I thought about it every single day,
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E mendoja ate cdo dite,
05:01
and if I'm being totally honest, standing here
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dhe duke qene se sot, teksa qendroj para jush,
po tregohem i totalisht i sinqerte,
po tregohem i totalisht i sinqerte,
05:03
I've thought about it again since, because that's the sickness,
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ju them se e kam menduar ate perseri,
sepse semundja eshte e tille,
sepse semundja eshte e tille,
05:06
that's the struggle, that's depression,
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kjo eshte lufta, ky eshte depresioni,
05:08
and depression isn't chicken pox.
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dhe depresioni nuk eshte si semundja e lise.
05:09
You don't beat it once and it's gone forever.
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Nuk mund t'a luftosh nje here dhe
te presesh qe te zhduket pergjithmone.
te presesh qe te zhduket pergjithmone.
05:11
It's something you live with. It's something you live in.
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Eshte dicka qe jeton me ty. Eshte dicka qe ti e jeton.
05:14
It's the roommate you can't kick out. It's the voice you can't ignore.
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Eshte shoku i dhomes qe nuk mund ta perzesh.
Eshte zeri qe ti nuk mund ta injorosh.
Eshte zeri qe ti nuk mund ta injorosh.
05:18
It's the feelings you can't seem to escape,
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Eshte ndjesia se nuk mund te arratisesh,
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the scariest part is that after a while,
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pjesa me e frikshme eshte qe pas nje fare kohe,
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you become numb to it. It becomes normal for you,
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ti mpihesh. Ai behet normale per ty,
05:28
and what you really fear the most
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dhe ajo cka te frikeson me shume
05:30
isn't the suffering inside of you.
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nuk eshte vuajtja brenda teje.
05:33
It's the stigma inside of others,
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Eshte njolla brenda te tjereve,
05:34
it's the shame, it's the embarrassment,
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eshte turpi, eshte veshtiresia,
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it's the disapproving look on a friend's face,
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eshte shikimi mosmiratues ne fytyren e nje miku,
05:39
it's the whispers in the hallway that you're weak,
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jane thashethemet ne korridor qe
thone se ti je i dobet,
thone se ti je i dobet,
05:43
it's the comments that you're crazy.
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jane komentet se ti je i cmendur.
05:44
That's what keeps you from getting help.
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Pikerisht kjo te pengon per te kerkuar ndihme.
05:46
That's what makes you hold it in and hide it.
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Te detyron ta mbash brenda dhe ta fshehesh.
05:49
It's the stigma. So you hold it in and you hide it,
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Eshte njolla. Pra e mban brenda dhe e fsheh,
05:51
and you hold it in and you hide it,
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e mban brenda dhe e fsheh,
05:53
and even though it's keeping you in bed every day
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dhe, edhe pse te mban cdo dite ne krevat
05:55
and it's making your life feel empty no matter how much you try and fill it,
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dhe e ben jeten tende boshe pavaresisht
sa shume perpiqesh ta mbushesh,
sa shume perpiqesh ta mbushesh,
05:58
you hide it, because the stigma in our society
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ti e fsheh, sepse njolla qe i vendos shoqeria jone
06:00
around depression is very real.
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depresionit eshte shume e vertete.
06:03
It's very real, and if you think that it isn't, ask yourself this:
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Eshte shume e vertete, dhe nese mendoni
qe nuk eshte, bejini vetes kete pyetje:
qe nuk eshte, bejini vetes kete pyetje:
06:06
Would you rather make your next Facebook status
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Ne statusin e ardhshem ne Facebook
do te shkruanit me mire
do te shkruanit me mire
06:08
say you're having a tough time getting out of bed
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qe keni veshtiresi per tu cuar nga krevati
06:10
because you hurt your back
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sepse ju dhemb shpina
06:12
or you're having a tough time getting out of bed every morning
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apo qe keni veshtiresi per tu cuar nga krevati cdo mengjes
06:14
because you're depressed?
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sepse jeni depresive?
06:16
That's the stigma, because unfortunately,
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Kjo eshte njolla, sepse fatkeqesisht,
06:18
we live in a world where if you break your arm,
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jetojme ne nje bote ku nese ti thyen krahun,
06:21
everyone runs over to sign your cast,
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te gjithe vrapojne qe te firmosin ne allcine tende,
06:23
but if you tell people you're depressed, everyone runs the other way.
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por nese i thua njerezve qe je depresiv,
te gjithe vrapojne ne drejtimin tjeter.
te gjithe vrapojne ne drejtimin tjeter.
06:26
That's the stigma.
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Kjo eshte njolla.
06:29
We are so, so, so accepting of any body part breaking down
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Jemi kaq shume te gatshem
te pranojme cdo thyerje te trupit tone
te pranojme cdo thyerje te trupit tone
06:34
other than our brains. And that's ignorance.
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por jo te trurit tone. Dhe kjo eshte injorance.
06:37
That's pure ignorance, and that ignorance has created
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Kjo eshte injorance e paster, dhe kjo injorance ka krijuar
06:39
a world that doesn't understand depression,
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nje bote e cila nuk e kupton depresionin,
06:40
that doesn't understand mental health.
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qe nuk e kupton shendetin mendor.
06:43
And that's ironic to me, because depression
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Dhe kjo per mua eshte ironike, sepse depresioni
06:45
is one of the best documented problems we have in the world,
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eshte nje nga problemet me te mire-dokumentuara
qe ne kemi ne bote,
qe ne kemi ne bote,
06:47
yet it's one of the least discussed.
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por eshte nje prej atyre qe diskutohen me pak.
06:49
We just push it aside and put it in a corner
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Ne thjesht e leme menjane dhe e vendosim ne nje cep
06:52
and pretend it's not there and hope it'll fix itself.
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dhe pretendojme qe nuk eshte aty dhe se do rregullohet vete.
06:55
Well, it won't. It hasn't, and it's not going to,
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Por nuk do rregullohet, nuk ka ndodhur dhe nuk do ndodhe,
06:59
because that's wishful thinking,
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sepse kjo do te thote te shprehesh nje deshire,
07:01
and wishful thinking isn't a game plan, it's procrastination,
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por te shprehesh nje deshire nuk do te thote
te kesh nje plan loje, do te thote zvarritje,
te kesh nje plan loje, do te thote zvarritje,
07:03
and we can't procrastinate on something this important.
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dhe nuk mund te zvarrisim dicka ka te rendesishme.
07:08
The first step in solving any problem
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Hapi i pare ne zgjidhjen e nje problemi
07:12
is recognizing there is one.
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eshte te kuptosh se ai ekziston.
07:13
Well, we haven't done that, so we can't really expect
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Ne nuk e kemi bere kete, ndaj nuk mund te presim
07:16
to find an answer when we're still afraid of the question.
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qe te gjejme nje pergjigje kur kemi ende frike nga pyetja.
07:19
And I don't know what the solution is.
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Dhe une nuk e di zgjidhjen.
07:23
I wish I did, but I don't -- but I think,
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Do deshiroja ta dija, por nuk e di... por mendoj,
07:25
I think it has to start here.
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mendoj se duhet te nisi ketu.
07:27
It has to start with me, it has to start with you,
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Duhet te nisi me mua, duhet te nisi me ju,
07:30
it has to start with the people who are suffering,
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duhet te nisi me njerezit qe po vuajne,
07:33
the ones who are hidden in the shadows.
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me ata qe fshihen neper hije.
07:35
We need to speak up and shatter the silence.
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Duhet te ngreme zerin dhe te thyejme heshtjen.
07:37
We need to be the ones who are brave for what we believe in,
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Duhet te jemi te guximshem per ate qe besojme,
07:39
because if there's one thing that I've come to realize,
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sepse gjeja e pare qe une kam kuptuar,
07:42
if there's one thing that I see as the biggest problem,
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problemi me i rendesishem qe duhet zgjidhur,
07:46
it's not in building a world
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nuk eshte ndertimi i nje bote
07:49
where we eliminate the ignorance of others.
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ku ne eliminojme injorancen e te tjereve.
07:52
It's in building a world where we teach the acceptance of ourselves,
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Eshte ndertimi i nje bote ku ne mesojme
te pranojme veten,
te pranojme veten,
07:56
where we're okay with who we are,
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aty ku jemi ne rregull me ate cka jemi,
07:57
because when we get honest,
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sepse kur ne tregohemi te sinqerte,
07:58
we see that we all struggle and we all suffer.
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shohim se te gjithe luftojme dhe te gjithe vuajme.
08:01
Whether it's with this, whether it's with something else,
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Qofte per kete problem, apo per dicka tjeter,
08:03
we all know what it is to hurt.
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te gjithe e dime cdo te thote te vuash.
08:06
We all know what it is to have pain in our heart,
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Te gjithe e dime cdo te thote te kesh dhimbje ne zemer,
08:08
and we all know how important it is to heal.
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dhe te gjithe e dime sa e rendesishme eshte t'a sherojme ate.
08:11
But right now, depression is society's deep cut
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Por momentalisht, depresioni eshte plaga e thelle e shoqerise
08:14
that we're content to put a Band-Aid over and pretend it's not there.
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te ciles ne mjaftohemi duke i vendosur nje fasho dhe pretendojme se nuk eshte aty.
08:17
Well, it is there. It is there, and you know what? It's okay.
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Por ajo eshte aty. Eshte aty, dhe e dini cfare? Nuk ka problem.
08:21
Depression is okay. If you're going through it, know that you're okay.
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Depresioni eshte normal. Nese jeni duke e kaluar,
duhet te dini se nuk ka problem.
duhet te dini se nuk ka problem.
08:25
And know that you're sick, you're not weak,
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Dhe duhet te dini se jeni te semure, e jo te dobet,
08:27
and it's an issue, not an identity,
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dhe eshte nje problem, por jo identitet,
08:29
because when you get past the fear and the ridicule
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sepse kur te kaloni friken dhe talljet
08:32
and the judgment and the stigma of others,
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dhe gjykimet apo turpin e te tjereve,
08:34
you can see depression for what it really is,
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do ta shihni depresionin per ate cka eshte vertete,
08:37
and that's just a part of life,
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dhe ajo eshte thjesht nje pjese e jetes,
08:39
just a part of life, and as much as I hate,
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thjesht nje pjese e jetes, dhe sado te urrej,
08:43
as much as I hate some of the places,
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sado te urrej disa nga vendet,
08:45
some of the parts of my life depression has dragged me down to,
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disa nga momentet e jetes time qe
depresioni me ka bere te jetoj,
depresioni me ka bere te jetoj,
08:49
in a lot of ways I'm grateful for it.
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une i jam atij mirenjohes ne shume menyra .
08:51
Because yeah, it's put me in the valleys,
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Sepse po, me ka vendosur neper lugina,
08:53
but only to show me there's peaks,
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por vetem per te me treguar majat,
08:54
and yeah it's dragged me through the dark
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dhe po me ka terhequr neper erresire
08:56
but only to remind me there is light.
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por vetem per te me kujtuar se ka drite.
08:58
My pain, more than anything in 19 years on this planet,
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Dhimbja ime, me shume se gjithcka tjeter
ne keto 19 vitet e mia ne kete planet,
ne keto 19 vitet e mia ne kete planet,
09:02
has given me perspective, and my hurt,
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me ka dhene prespektive, dhe vuajtja ime,
09:04
my hurt has forced me to have hope,
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vuajtja ime me ka detyruar te kem shprese,
09:07
have hope and to have faith, faith in myself,
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te kem shprese dhe besim ne vetvete.
09:10
faith in others, faith that it can get better,
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Besim tek te tjeret, besim qe mund te behet me mire,
09:12
that we can change this, that we can speak up
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se ne mund ta ndryshojme kete, se ne mund ta ngreme zerin
09:14
and speak out and fight back against ignorance,
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dhe te flasim dhe te luftojme kunder injorances,
09:17
fight back against intolerance,
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te luftojme kundra mos-tolerances,
09:19
and more than anything,
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dhe me shume se gjithcka,
09:21
learn to love ourselves,
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te mesojme te duam veten tone,
09:24
learn to accept ourselves for who we are,
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te mesojme te pranojme vetveten per ate cka jemi,
09:26
the people we are, not the people the world wants us to be.
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njerezit qe jemi, jo njerezit qe bota do qe ne te jemi.
09:30
Because the world I believe in is one
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Sepse bota ku une besoj eshte ajo
09:32
where embracing your light doesn't mean ignoring your dark.
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ku te perqafosh driten tende nuk do te thote
te injorosh erresiren.
te injorosh erresiren.
09:36
The world I believe in is one where we're measured
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Bota ku une besoj eshte ajo ku ne vleresohemi
09:38
by our ability to overcome adversities, not avoid them.
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nga aftesia per ti mundur fatkeqesite pa i shmangur ato.
09:43
The world I believe in is one where I can look someone in the eye
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Bota ku une besoj eshte ajo ku une mund te shoh dike ne sy
09:47
and say, "I'm going through hell,"
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dhe ti them, "Po kaloj neper ferr,"
09:49
and they can look back at me and go, "Me too," and that's okay,
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dhe ata te me shohin e te me thone,
"Edhe une" dhe kjo eshte normale,
"Edhe une" dhe kjo eshte normale,
09:52
and it's okay because depression is okay. We're people.
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dhe eshte ne rregull sepse depresioni
eshte dicka normale. Ne jemi njerez.
eshte dicka normale. Ne jemi njerez.
09:56
We're people, and we struggle and we suffer
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Jemi njerez, dhe luftojme e vuajme
09:59
and we bleed and we cry, and if you think that true strength
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dhe na pikon gjaku dhe qajme, dhe
nese mendoni se forca e vertete
nese mendoni se forca e vertete
10:01
means never showing any weakness, then I'm here
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do te thote te mos tregosh kurre dobesi,
atehere une jam ketu
atehere une jam ketu
10:03
to tell you you're wrong.
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per t'ju thene se e keni gabim.
10:07
You're wrong, because it's the opposite.
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E keni gabim, sepse e kunderta eshte e vertete.
10:11
We're people, and we have problems.
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Jemi njerez dhe kemi probleme.
10:13
We're not perfect, and that's okay.
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Nuk jemi perfekte, dhe kjo eshte normale.
10:15
So we need to stop the ignorance,
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Pra na duhet ti japim fund injorances,
10:17
stop the intolerance, stop the stigma,
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te ndalojme injorancen, te fshijme njollat,
10:20
and stop the silence, and we need to take away the taboos,
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dhe ti japim fund heshtjes, dhe na duhet te zhbejme tabute,
10:25
take a look at the truth, and start talking,
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ti hedhim nje sy te vertetes, dhe te nisim te flasim,
10:29
because the only way we're going to beat a problem
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sepse e vetmja menyre per ta zgjidhur nje problem
10:34
that people are battling alone
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qe njerezit po e luftojne vetem
10:37
is by standing strong together,
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eshte duke qene te forte se bashku,
10:41
by standing strong together.
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duke qene te forte se bashku.
10:45
And I believe that we can.
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Dhe une mendoj se ne mundemi.
10:48
I believe that we can. Thank you guys so much.
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Mendoj se mundemi. Ju falenderoj shume.
10:50
This is a dream come true. Thank you. (Applause)
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Kjo eshte ne enderr qe u be realitet.
Faleminderit. (Duartrokitje)
Faleminderit. (Duartrokitje)
10:52
Thank you. (Applause)
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Faleminderit. (Duartrokitje)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Kevin Breel - Comedian, activistWriter, comic and mental health activist Kevin Breel speaks up about depression.
Why you should listen
As a teenager, Kevin Breel almost took his own life. His story, so powerfully told in his viral TEDxYouth Talk, gives voice to an often silent struggle and offers a message of hope.
As Jack Knox writes in the Times Colonist :
His story, abbreviated, is this: He grew up in Cadboro Bay, a popular kid, fun at parties, English and drama awards, always on the honour roll, captain of the Lambrick Park basketball team when it was ranked No. 1 in the province. Under it all was the other him, the kid who plunged into depression at age 13 when his best friend died in a car crash.
Breel now speaks out about his own depression, with a mission of helping kids his age realize they're not alone.
Kevin Breel | Speaker | TED.com