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Tim Ferriss: Why you should define your fears instead of your goals
Tim Ferriss: Zakaj bi morali namesto ciljev morali definirati svoje strahove
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Težke odločitve -- tisto, kar se bojimo početi, vprašati, povedati -- so ponavadi točno tisto, kar moramo storiti. Kako lahko premagamo osebno paralizo in ukrepamo? Tim Ferriss nas vzpodbudi da si predstavljamo in podrobno zapišemo naše strahove, v preprosti a učinkoviti vaji imenovani "določanje stahov". Naučite se več o tem, kako vam lahko ta vaja pomaga uspeti v stresnem okolju in določiti, na kaj lahko vplivate in na kaj ne.
Tim Ferriss - Investor, human guinea pig, author
Tim Ferriss is an early-stage tech investor, best-selling author and podcaster. Full bio
Tim Ferriss is an early-stage tech investor, best-selling author and podcaster. Full bio
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00:12
So, this happy pic of me
was taken in 1999.
was taken in 1999.
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Torej, ta moja vesela slika
je bila posneta leta 1999.
je bila posneta leta 1999.
00:16
I was a senior in college,
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Bil sem v zadnjem letniku faksa,
00:18
and it was right after a dance practice.
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in bilo je takoj po plesnih vajah.
00:20
I was really, really happy.
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Bil sem zares, zares srečen.
00:22
And I remember exactly where I was
about a week and a half later.
about a week and a half later.
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In spomnim se točno, kje sem
bil teden in pol za tem.
bil teden in pol za tem.
00:26
I was sitting in the back
of my used minivan
of my used minivan
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Sedel sem na zadnjih sedežih
svojega kombija,
svojega kombija,
00:29
in a campus parking lot,
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na parkirišču kampusa,
00:31
when I decided
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ko sem se odločil,
00:32
I was going to commit suicide.
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da bom storil samomor.
00:35
I went from deciding
to full-blown planning very quickly.
to full-blown planning very quickly.
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Od odločitve do planiranja
sem prešel zelo hitro.
sem prešel zelo hitro.
00:40
And I came this close
to the edge of the precipice.
to the edge of the precipice.
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In do roba tega prepada sem
prišel tako blizu.
prišel tako blizu.
00:43
It's the closest I've ever come.
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Temu sem takrat prišel najbližje.
00:45
And the only reason I took
my finger off the trigger
my finger off the trigger
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In edini razlog, zaradi česar sem
umaknil prst s sprožilca,
umaknil prst s sprožilca,
00:48
was thanks to a few lucky coincidences.
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je zahvaljujoč nekaj golim naključjem.
00:51
And after the fact,
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In po tem dejstvu,
00:53
that's what scared me the most:
the element of chance.
the element of chance.
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me je najbolj prestrašilo prav to:
element naključja.
element naključja.
00:57
So I became very methodical
about testing different ways
about testing different ways
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Postal sem zelo sistematičen
pri testiranju različnih možnosti
pri testiranju različnih možnosti
01:00
that I could manage my ups and downs,
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kontroliranja svojih vzponov in padcev,
01:02
which has proven to be
a good investment. (Laughs)
a good investment. (Laughs)
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kar pa se je izkazalo kot dobra naložba.
(Smeh)
(Smeh)
01:06
Many normal people might have,
say, six to 10 major depressive episodes
say, six to 10 major depressive episodes
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Marsikateri normalni človek bo morda
imel 6-10 epizod depresije
imel 6-10 epizod depresije
01:10
in their lives.
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v svojem življenju.
01:12
I have bipolar depression.
It runs in my family.
It runs in my family.
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Jaz imam bipolarno depresijo.
Imamo jo v družini.
Imamo jo v družini.
01:14
I've had 50-plus at this point,
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Na tisti točki sem imel 50-plus
01:17
and I've learned a lot.
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in ogromno sem se naučil.
01:19
I've had a lot of at-bats,
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Imel sem veliko odločilnih trenutkov,
01:21
many rounds in the ring with darkness,
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veliko bojev s temo,
01:24
taking good notes.
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kjer sem se veliko naučil.
01:25
So I thought rather than get up
and give any type of recipe for success
and give any type of recipe for success
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In pomislil sem, namesto da vstanem
in dam kakršnekoli recepte za uspeh,
in dam kakršnekoli recepte za uspeh,
01:29
or highlight reel,
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ali prikažem vrhunce tega obdobja,
01:30
I would share my recipe
for avoiding self-destruction,
for avoiding self-destruction,
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bom raje delil svoj recept, kako se
izogniti samouničenju
izogniti samouničenju
01:35
and certainly self-paralysis.
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in zagotovo samo-paralizi.
01:38
And the tool I've found which has proven
to be the most reliable safety net
to be the most reliable safety net
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In orodje, ki se je izkazalo za najbolj
zanesljivo varnostno mrežo
zanesljivo varnostno mrežo
01:42
for emotional free fall
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pri čustvenem prostem padu
01:44
is actually the same tool
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je bilo isto orodje,
01:46
that has helped me to make
my best business decisions.
my best business decisions.
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ki mi je pomagalo
pri najboljših poslovnih odločitvah.
pri najboljših poslovnih odločitvah.
01:48
But that is secondary.
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A to je sekundarno.
01:50
And it is ... stoicism.
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In to je ... stoicizem.
01:53
That sounds boring.
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Zveni dolgočasno.
01:55
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:56
You might think of Spock,
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Morda pomislite na Spocka,
01:58
or it might conjure and image like this --
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lahko pa prikliče tako podobo --
02:00
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
02:02
a cow standing in the rain.
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krave, ki stoji na dežju.
02:04
It's not sad. It's not particularly happy.
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Ni žalostna. Ni pa niti vesela.
02:07
It's just an impassive creature taking
whatever life sends its way.
whatever life sends its way.
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Samo neobčutljivo bitje, ki sprejme,
karkoli življenje prinese.
karkoli življenje prinese.
02:11
You might not think of the ultimate
competitor, say, Bill Belichick,
competitor, say, Bill Belichick,
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Morda ne boste pomislili na ultimativnega
nasprotnika, recimo, Billa Belichicka,
nasprotnika, recimo, Billa Belichicka,
02:16
head coach of the New England Patriots,
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ki je glavni trener ekipi
New England Patriots,
New England Patriots,
02:18
who has the all-time NFL record
for Super Bowl titles.
for Super Bowl titles.
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ki ima NFL rekord vseh časov,
v številu Super Bowl zmag.
v številu Super Bowl zmag.
02:21
And stoicism has spread like wildfire
in the top of the NFL ranks
in the top of the NFL ranks
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In stoicizem se je v vrstah NFL-a
razširil kot požar,
razširil kot požar,
02:27
as a means of mental toughness
training in the last few years.
training in the last few years.
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kot vrsta treniranja mentalne trdnosti
v zadnjih nekaj letih.
v zadnjih nekaj letih.
02:30
You might not think
of the Founding Fathers --
of the Founding Fathers --
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Morda ne pomislite na ustanovitelje --
02:34
Thomas Jefferson, John Adams,
George Washington
George Washington
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Thomas Jefferson, John Adams in
George Washington
George Washington
02:37
to name but three students of stoicism.
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so le trije izmed tistih,
ki so stoicizem študirali.
ki so stoicizem študirali.
02:40
George Washington actually had
a play about a Stoic --
a play about a Stoic --
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George Washington
je ustvaril igro o stoiku-
je ustvaril igro o stoiku-
02:44
this was "Cato, a Tragedy" --
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Imenovala se je "Cato, tragedija" -
02:46
performed for his troops at Valley Forge
to keep them motivated.
to keep them motivated.
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ki jo je za motivacijo odigral za svoje
vojake v dolini Forge.
vojake v dolini Forge.
02:50
So why would people of action
focus so much on an ancient philosophy?
focus so much on an ancient philosophy?
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Zakaj bi se torej ljudje, ki ukrepajo,
osredotočali na starodavno filozofijo?
osredotočali na starodavno filozofijo?
02:54
This seems very academic.
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Zdi se zelo akademsko.
02:56
I would encourage you to think
about stoicism a little bit differently,
about stoicism a little bit differently,
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Spodbujam vas, da o tem razmislite
malo drugače,
malo drugače,
03:00
as an operating system for thriving
in high-stress environments,
in high-stress environments,
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kot o operacijskem sistemu za uspeh v
visoko stresnem okolju,
visoko stresnem okolju,
03:03
for making better decisions.
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za boljše odločitve.
03:05
And it all started here,
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In vse se je začelo tu,
03:08
kind of,
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recimo,
03:09
on a porch.
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na verandi.
03:10
So around 300 BC in Athens,
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Torej, nekje okoli 300 pr.n.št. v Atenah,
03:14
someone named Zeno of Citium
taught many lectures
taught many lectures
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je človek z imenom Zeno Citiuma
poučeval kar nekaj lekcij,
poučeval kar nekaj lekcij,
03:17
walking around a painted porch, a "stoa."
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hodeč naokoli po poslikani verandi
imenovani stoa.
imenovani stoa.
03:19
That later became "stoicism."
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To je kasneje postal stoicizem.
03:22
And in the Greco-Roman world,
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In v Grško-Rimskem svetu
03:24
people used stoicism
as a comprehensive system
as a comprehensive system
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so ljudje stoicizem uporabljali
kot celovit sistem
kot celovit sistem
03:27
for doing many, many things.
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za mnoge, mnoge stvari.
03:29
But for our purposes, chief among them
was training yourself
was training yourself
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A za naše namene, je bil glavni med njimi
treniranje samega sebe,
treniranje samega sebe,
03:33
to separate what you can control
from what you cannot control,
from what you cannot control,
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da si ločil tisto, kar si lahko in tisto,
česar nisi mogel kontrolirati,
česar nisi mogel kontrolirati,
03:37
and then doing exercises
to focus exclusively
to focus exclusively
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nato pa si delal vaje, da si se fokusiral
03:40
on the former.
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na tisto zadnje,
03:41
This decreases emotional reactivity,
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To zmanjšuje čustveno reaktivnost,
03:43
which can be a superpower.
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kar pa je lahko super-moč.
03:46
Conversely, let's say
you're a quarterback.
you're a quarterback.
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Recimo, za namene pogovora,
da ste podajalec.
da ste podajalec.
03:49
You miss a pass.
You get furious with yourself.
You get furious with yourself.
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Zamudite podajo. Ste besni sami nase.
03:51
That could cost you a game.
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To vas lahko stane igre.
03:53
If you're a CEO, and you fly
off the handle at a very valued employee
off the handle at a very valued employee
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Če ste direktor podjetja in se na
cenjenega delavca zelo zjezite
cenjenega delavca zelo zjezite
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because of a minor infraction,
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zaradi manjšega prekrška,
03:58
that could cost you the employee.
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vas to lahko stane tistega delavca.
04:01
If you're a college student
who, say, is in a downward spiral,
who, say, is in a downward spiral,
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Če ste študent na fakulteti in imate
dokaj slabo obdobje,
dokaj slabo obdobje,
04:06
and you feel helpless and hopeless,
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počutite pa se brez moči in upanja,
04:09
unabated, that could cost you your life.
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vas to brez dvoma lahko stane življenja.
04:11
So the stakes are very, very high.
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Stave so tako zelo, zelo visoke.
04:14
And there are many tools
in the toolkit to get you there.
in the toolkit to get you there.
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In obstaja mnogo orodij, ki vas bodo
pripeljala tja.
pripeljala tja.
04:17
I'm going to focus on one
that completely changed my life in 2004.
that completely changed my life in 2004.
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Osredotočil se bom na tistega, ki mi je
2004 popolnoma spremenil moje življenje.
2004 popolnoma spremenil moje življenje.
04:21
It found me then because of two things:
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Našlo me je zaradi dveh stvari:
04:24
a very close friend, young guy, my age,
died of pancreatic cancer unexpectedly,
died of pancreatic cancer unexpectedly,
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zelo dober prijatelj, mlad fant mojih let,
je nepričakovano umrl zaradi raka,
je nepričakovano umrl zaradi raka,
04:30
and then my girlfriend, who I thought
I was going to marry, walked out.
I was going to marry, walked out.
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nato pa me je punca, za katero sem mislil,
da se bova poročila, zapustila.
da se bova poročila, zapustila.
04:33
She'd had enough, and she didn't
give me a Dear John letter,
give me a Dear John letter,
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Imela je dovolj in ni mi napisala
"Dragi John" pisma,
"Dragi John" pisma,
04:37
but she did give me this,
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dala pa mi je tole,
04:40
a Dear John plaque.
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"Dragi John" spominsko ploščo.
04:41
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
04:42
I'm not making this up. I've kept it.
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Ne izmišljujem si. Obdržal sem jo.
04:44
"Business hours are over at five o'clock."
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"Delovni čas je do petih."
04:47
She gave this to me
to put on my desk for personal health,
to put on my desk for personal health,
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To mi je dala, da si dam na pisalno
mizo za osebno zdravje,
mizo za osebno zdravje,
04:49
because at the time, I was working
on my first real business.
on my first real business.
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saj sem v tistem času delal
na svojem prvem pravem poslu.
na svojem prvem pravem poslu.
04:53
I had no idea what I was doing.
I was working 14-plus hour days,
I was working 14-plus hour days,
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Pojma nisem imel, kaj delam.
Delal sem 14 ur in več na dan,
Delal sem 14 ur in več na dan,
04:56
seven days a week.
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sedem dni na teden.
04:58
I was using stimulants to get going.
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Bil sem na različnih stimulansih,
da sem zmogel.
da sem zmogel.
05:00
I was using depressants
to wind down and go to sleep.
to wind down and go to sleep.
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Bil sem na pomirjevalih,
da sem se pomiril in zaspal.
da sem se pomiril in zaspal.
05:03
It was a disaster.
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Bila je katastrofa.
05:04
I felt completely trapped.
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Počutil sem se totalno ujetega.
05:06
I bought a book on simplicity
to try to find answers.
to try to find answers.
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Kupil sem si knjigo o preprostosti,
ter poskušal najti odgovore.
ter poskušal najti odgovore.
05:10
And I did find a quote
that made a big difference in my life,
that made a big difference in my life,
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In našel sem citat, ki mi
je spremenili življenje,
je spremenili življenje,
05:14
which was, "We suffer more often
in imagination than in reality,"
in imagination than in reality,"
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in sicer: "V domišljiji pogosto trpimo
bolj, kot v resničnosti,"
bolj, kot v resničnosti,"
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by Seneca the Younger,
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avtor je Seneka mlajši,
05:21
who was a famous Stoic writer.
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znan stoicistični pisatelj.
05:23
That took me to his letters,
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To me je pripeljalo do njegovih pisem,
05:25
which took me to the exercise,
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kar me je pripeljalo do vadbe,
05:27
"premeditatio malorum,"
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"premeditatio malorum",
05:30
which means the pre-meditation of evils.
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kar pomeni pre-meditacija nesreč.
05:32
In simple terms,
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Če posplošimo,
05:33
this is visualizing the worst-case
scenarios, in detail, that you fear,
scenarios, in detail, that you fear,
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gre za vizualiziranje najhujših
scenarijev, tistega, česar se bojimo,
scenarijev, tistega, česar se bojimo,
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preventing you from taking action,
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kar nam preprečuje, da ukrepamo,
05:40
so that you can take action
to overcome that paralysis.
to overcome that paralysis.
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da bi lahko ukrepali
in premagali paralizo.
in premagali paralizo.
05:43
My problem was monkey mind --
super loud, very incessant.
super loud, very incessant.
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Moj problem je bilo nemiren um-
izredno glasen, neustavljiv.
izredno glasen, neustavljiv.
05:47
Just thinking my way
through problems doesn't work.
through problems doesn't work.
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Samo razmišljati o problemih ne deluje.
05:49
I needed to capture my thoughts on paper.
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Moral sem zbrati svoje misli na papirju.
05:51
So I created a written exercise
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Tako da sem ustvaril pisno vadbo,
05:53
that I called "fear-setting,"
like goal-setting,
like goal-setting,
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imenovano "določanje strahov"
kot določanje ciljev,
kot določanje ciljev,
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for myself.
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zase.
05:57
It consists of three pages.
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Sestoji iz treh strani.
05:59
Super simple.
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Popolnoma preprosto.
06:01
The first page is right here.
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Prva stran je točno tukaj.
06:03
"What if I ...?"
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"Kaj če bi jaz ...?"
06:06
This is whatever you fear,
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To je vse, česar se bojite,
06:07
whatever is causing you anxiety,
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vse, kar vam povzroča tesnobo,
06:09
whatever you're putting off.
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vse, s čimer odlašate.
06:11
It could be asking someone out,
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Lahko je, da vabilo na zmenek,
06:12
ending a relationship,
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zaključiti razmerje,
06:14
asking for a promotion,
quitting a job, starting a company.
quitting a job, starting a company.
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prositi za povišico, dati odpoved,
ustvariti podjetje.
ustvariti podjetje.
06:17
It could be anything.
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Lahko je karkoli.
06:18
For me, it was taking
my first vacation in four years
my first vacation in four years
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Zame je bilo vzeti si prve
počitnice v štirih letih
počitnice v štirih letih
06:21
and stepping away from my business
for a month to go to London,
for a month to go to London,
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in se oddaljiti od mojega posla
za en mesec, da bi šel v London,
za en mesec, da bi šel v London,
06:24
where I could stay
in a friend's room for free,
in a friend's room for free,
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kjer sem lahko bival
v prijateljevi sobi zastonj,
v prijateljevi sobi zastonj,
06:27
to either remove myself
as a bottleneck in the business
as a bottleneck in the business
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da se bi se odstranil iz posla,
06:30
or shut it down.
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ali pa ga preprosto zaprl.
06:32
In the first column, "Define,"
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V prvem stolpcu "Definiraj,"
06:34
you're writing down all of the worst
things you can imagine happening
things you can imagine happening
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si zabeležiš vse možne slabe izide,
ki se lahko zgodijo
ki se lahko zgodijo
06:38
if you take that step.
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če slediš temu koraku.
06:39
You want 10 to 20.
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Želiš si jih 10 do 20.
06:41
I won't go through all of them,
but I'll give you two examples.
but I'll give you two examples.
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Ne bom šel čez vse, vam bom
pa dal dva primera.
pa dal dva primera.
06:44
One was, I'll go to London,
it'll be rainy, I'll get depressed,
it'll be rainy, I'll get depressed,
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Eden je, šel bom v London, deževalo bo,
depresiven bom,
depresiven bom,
06:47
the whole thing will be
a huge waste of time.
a huge waste of time.
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vse skupaj bo velika izguba časa.
06:50
Number two, I'll miss
a letter from the IRS,
a letter from the IRS,
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Številka dve, zamudil bom
obvestilo z davčne službe
obvestilo z davčne službe
06:53
and I'll get audited
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in opravili mi bodo revizijo,
06:54
or raided or shut down or some such.
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me kako drugače napadli, zaprli,
ali kaj podobnega.
ali kaj podobnega.
06:57
And then you go to the "Prevent" column.
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In potem sledi stolpec "Prepreči".
06:59
In that column, you write
down the answer to:
down the answer to:
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V tem stolpcu si zabeležite odgovore na:
07:01
What could I do to prevent
each of these bullets from happening,
each of these bullets from happening,
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Kaj lahko storim, da preprečim
vsako izmed napisanih točk,
vsako izmed napisanih točk,
07:04
or, at the very least, decrease
the likelihood even a little bit?
the likelihood even a little bit?
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ali, nenazadnje, zmanjšam
možnost, da bi se zgodile?
možnost, da bi se zgodile?
07:08
So for getting depressed in London,
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Za točko, da bom v Londonu
postal depresiven,
postal depresiven,
07:11
I could take a portable blue light with me
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s seboj bi lahko vzel prenosno modro lučko
07:13
and use it for 15 minutes in the morning.
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in jo uporabljal 15 minut vsako jutro.
07:15
I knew that helped stave off
depressive episodes.
depressive episodes.
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Vedel sem, da to prepreči
epizode depresije.
epizode depresije.
07:17
For the IRS bit, I could change
the mailing address on file with the IRS
the mailing address on file with the IRS
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Glede davčne pa, lahko bi
spremenil naslov za pošiljanje,
spremenil naslov za pošiljanje,
07:21
so the paperwork would go to my accountant
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tako da bi šli papirji k moji računovodji,
07:23
instead of to my UPS address.
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namesto na moj kurirski naslov.
07:25
Easy-peasy.
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Mala malica.
07:27
Then we go to "Repair."
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Nato nadaljujemo z "Popravi".
07:30
So if the worst-case scenarios happen,
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Tako da, če se zgodi najslabša možnost,
07:32
what could you do to repair
the damage even a little bit,
the damage even a little bit,
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kaj lahko storimo, da vsaj
malo popravimo škodo
malo popravimo škodo
07:35
or who could you ask for help?
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oziroma, koga prositi za pomoč?
07:38
So in the first case, London,
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Za prvi primer torej, London,
07:39
well, I could fork over some money,
fly to Spain, get some sun --
fly to Spain, get some sun --
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lahko bi namenil nekaj denarja, letel
v Španijo, se malo posončil,
v Španijo, se malo posončil,
07:43
undo the damage, if I got into a funk.
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popravil škodo, če bi bil res nesrečen.
07:46
In the case of missing
a letter from the IRS,
a letter from the IRS,
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V primeru izgubljenega obvestila z davčne,
07:48
I could call a friend who is a lawyer
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lahko bi poklical prijatelja,
ki je odvetnik,
ki je odvetnik,
07:51
or ask, say, a professor of law
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ali pa vprašal, recimo, profesorja prava,
07:54
what they would recommend,
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kaj priporočata,
07:56
who I should talk to,
how had people handled this in the past.
how had people handled this in the past.
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s kom govoriti o tem, ter kako so ljudje
to rešili v preteklosti.
to rešili v preteklosti.
07:59
So one question to keep in mind
as you're doing this first page is:
as you're doing this first page is:
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Torej, eno vprašanje, ko popisujete
prvo stran je:
prvo stran je:
08:03
Has anyone else in the history of time
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Je že kdorkoli v zgodovini časa,
08:05
less intelligent or less driven
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manj inteligenten ali manj zagnan,
08:07
figured this out?
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to ugotovil?
08:09
Chances are, the answer is "Yes."
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Velika verjetnost je, da bo odgovor "Da".
08:11
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
08:12
The second page is simple:
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Druga stran je preprosta:
08:16
What might be the benefits
of an attempt or a partial success?
of an attempt or a partial success?
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Kakšne so lahko prednosti poskusa,
ali pa delnega uspeha?
ali pa delnega uspeha?
08:19
You can see we're playing up the fears
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Vidite lahko, da se igramo s strahovi
08:21
and really taking a conservative
look at the upside.
look at the upside.
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in imamo zares konzervativen pogled nanje.
08:24
So if you attempted whatever
you're considering,
you're considering,
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Torej, če ste poskusili,
karkoli ste mislili,
karkoli ste mislili,
08:27
might you build confidence,
develop skills,
develop skills,
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morda ste gradili samozavest, spretnosti,
08:29
emotionally, financially, otherwise?
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čustveno, finančno, kako drugače?
08:32
What might be the benefits
of, say, a base hit?
of, say, a base hit?
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Kaj so lahko prednosti, varnega udarca?
08:35
Spend 10 to 15 minutes on this.
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Porabite 10 do 15 minut za to.
08:37
Page three.
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Stran tri.
08:38
This might be the most important,
so don't skip it:
so don't skip it:
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Verjetno najpomembnejša,
zato je ne preskočite:
zato je ne preskočite:
08:41
"The Cost of Inaction."
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"Stroški ne-ukrepanja."
08:42
Humans are very good at considering
what might go wrong
what might go wrong
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Ljudje smo odlični pri razmišljanju,
kaj bi lahko šlo narobe,
kaj bi lahko šlo narobe,
08:45
if we try something new,
say, ask for a raise.
say, ask for a raise.
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ko bi lahko poskusili kaj novega,
recimo, prosili za povišico.
recimo, prosili za povišico.
08:49
What we don't often consider
is the atrocious cost of the status quo --
is the atrocious cost of the status quo --
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Kar pa ne pomislimo je, kako grozna je
lahko cena, če stvari ostanejo iste --
lahko cena, če stvari ostanejo iste --
08:54
not changing anything.
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če ničesar ne spremenimo.
08:56
So you should ask yourself,
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Tako da bi se morali vprašati,
08:58
if I avoid this action or decision
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če se izognemo temu ukrepu ali odločitvi
09:03
and actions and decisions like it,
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in podobnim ukrepom in odločitvam,
09:05
what might my life look like in,
say, six months, 12 months, three years?
say, six months, 12 months, three years?
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kako bo moje življenje izgledalo čez tri,
šest, 12 mesecev, čez tri leta?
šest, 12 mesecev, čez tri leta?
09:10
Any further out, it starts
to seem intangible.
to seem intangible.
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Če greste dlje
začne delovati neoprijemljivo.
začne delovati neoprijemljivo.
09:12
And really get detailed --
again, emotionally, financially,
again, emotionally, financially,
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Če pa se spustimo v podrobnosti --
ponovno, čustveno, finančno,
ponovno, čustveno, finančno,
09:16
physically, whatever.
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fizično, kakorkoli.
09:18
And when I did this, it painted
a terrifying picture.
a terrifying picture.
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In, ko sem to storil, se mi je naslikal
grozen prizor.
grozen prizor.
09:21
I was self-medicating,
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Samo-zdravil sem se,
09:23
my business was going to implode
at any moment at all times,
at any moment at all times,
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moje podjetje bi se podrlo kadarkoli,
09:27
if I didn't step away.
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če ne bi stopil stran.
09:28
My relationships were fraying or failing.
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Boril sem se za odnose.
09:30
And I realized that inaction
was no longer an option for me.
was no longer an option for me.
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In odkril sem, da ne-ukrepanje ni bilo
več prava možnost zame.
več prava možnost zame.
09:36
Those are the three pages. That's it.
That's fear-setting.
That's fear-setting.
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To so te tri strani. To je to.
To je določanje strahov.
To je določanje strahov.
09:38
And after this, I realized
that on a scale of one to 10,
that on a scale of one to 10,
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In po tem sem ugotovil,
na lestvici od ena do deset,
na lestvici od ena do deset,
09:42
one being minimal impact,
10 being maximal impact,
10 being maximal impact,
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ena pomeni najmanjši,
deset pa največji vpliv,
deset pa največji vpliv,
09:46
if I took the trip, I was risking
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če se odločim za to pot, tvegam
09:47
a one to three of temporary
and reversible pain
and reversible pain
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začasno in povratno bolečino od ena do tri
09:51
for an eight to 10 of positive,
life-changing impact
life-changing impact
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za osem do 10 pozitivne
življenjske spremembe,
življenjske spremembe,
09:55
that could be a semi-permanent.
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ki je lahko delno-stalna.
09:57
So I took the trip.
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Zato sem se odločil za to pot.
09:59
None of the disasters came to pass.
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Nobena od katastrof se ni uresničila.
10:00
There were some hiccups, sure.
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Bilo je nekaj trenj, seveda.
10:02
I was able to extricate myself
from the business.
from the business.
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Uspel sem se oddaljiti od podjetja.
10:05
I ended up extending that trip
for a year and a half around the world,
for a year and a half around the world,
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Na koncu sem podaljšal pot
in sem leto in pol potoval okoli sveta,
in sem leto in pol potoval okoli sveta,
10:08
and that became the basis
for my first book,
for my first book,
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kar je postalo osnova za mojo prvo knjigo,
10:11
that leads me here today.
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ki me je danes pripeljala sem.
10:12
And I can trace all of my biggest wins
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In sledim lahko mojim največjim zmagam
10:16
and all of my biggest disasters averted
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in največjim katastrofam,
ki sem se jim izognil
ki sem se jim izognil
10:18
back to doing fear-setting
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in se vrnem k določanju strahov,
10:20
at least once a quarter.
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vsaj enkrat na tri mesece.
10:23
It's not a panacea.
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To ni zdravilo za vse.
10:24
You'll find that some of your fears
are very well-founded.
are very well-founded.
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Ugotovili boste, da so nekateri vaši
strahovi utemeljeni.
strahovi utemeljeni.
10:27
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
10:28
But you shouldn't conclude that
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A tega ne bi smeli zaključiti,
10:30
without first putting them
under a microscope.
under a microscope.
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brez da jih najprej date pod drobnogled.
10:33
And it doesn't make all the hard times,
the hard choices, easy,
the hard choices, easy,
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In to ne povzroči, da so težki časi
in težke odločitve lahke,
in težke odločitve lahke,
10:36
but it can make a lot of them easier.
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a lahko jih olajša.
10:39
I'd like to close with a profile
of one of my favorite modern-day Stoics.
of one of my favorite modern-day Stoics.
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Rad bi zaključil z opisom enega mojih
najljubših modernih stoikov.
najljubših modernih stoikov.
10:44
This is Jerzy Gregorek.
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To je Jerzy Gregorek.
10:46
He is a four-time world champion
in Olympic weightlifting,
in Olympic weightlifting,
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Je štirikratni svetovni prvak
v olimpijskem dviganju uteži,
v olimpijskem dviganju uteži,
10:50
political refugee,
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politični ubežnik,
10:51
published poet,
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objavljeni poet,
10:53
62 years old.
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62 let star.
10:54
He can still kick my ass and probably
most asses in this room.
most asses in this room.
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Še vedno pretepe mene in mnoge izmed vas.
10:59
He's an impressive guy.
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Res je impresiven gospod.
11:00
I spent a lot of time
on his stoa, his porch,
on his stoa, his porch,
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Veliko časa sem preživel
na njegovi stoi, verandi,
na njegovi stoi, verandi,
11:02
asking life and training advice.
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ga spraševal o življenju in treningih.
11:06
He was part of the Solidarity in Poland,
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Bil je del društva Solidarnost na Poljskem
11:09
which was a nonviolent
movement for social change
movement for social change
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ki je ne-nasilno društvo
za socialne spremembe,
za socialne spremembe,
11:12
that was violently suppressed
by the government.
by the government.
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ki pa ga je vlada nasilno zatrla.
11:14
He lost his career as a firefighter.
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Izgubil je kariero kot gasilec.
11:16
Then his mentor, a priest,
was kidnapped, tortured, killed
was kidnapped, tortured, killed
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Nato je bil njegov mentor, duhovnik,
ugrabljen, mučen in ubit
ugrabljen, mučen in ubit
11:20
and thrown into a river.
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in vržen v reko.
11:21
He was then threatened.
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Nato so grozili njemu.
11:22
He and his wife had to flee Poland,
bounce from country to country
bounce from country to country
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Skupaj z ženo sta pobegnila iz Poljske,
hodila iz države v državo,
hodila iz države v državo,
11:26
until they landed in the US
with next to nothing,
with next to nothing,
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dokler nista prišla v Ameriko,
praktično brez vsega,
praktično brez vsega,
11:28
sleeping on floors.
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spala sta na tleh.
11:30
He now lives in Woodside, California,
in a very nice place,
in a very nice place,
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Sedaj živi v Woodsidu, Kalifornija,
v zelo lepem kraju
v zelo lepem kraju
11:34
and of the 10,000-plus people
I've met in my life,
I've met in my life,
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in od 10.000-ih ljudi, ki sem
jih spoznal v življenju,
jih spoznal v življenju,
11:37
I would put him in the top 10,
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bi njega uvrstil med top 10,
11:39
in terms of success and happiness.
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če merimo uspeh in srečo.
11:42
And there's a punchline coming,
so pay attention.
so pay attention.
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Vse to ima bistvo, ostanite pozorni.
11:44
I sent him a text a few weeks ago,
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Pred nekaj tedni
sem mu poslal sporočilo
sem mu poslal sporočilo
11:46
asking him: Had he ever read
any Stoic philosophy?
any Stoic philosophy?
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in ga vprašal, če je kdaj bral
stoicistično filozofijo?
stoicistično filozofijo?
11:49
And he replied with two pages of text.
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In odgovoril je na dveh straneh.
11:52
This is very unlike him.
He is a terse dude.
He is a terse dude.
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To sicer ni njemu podobno,
je mož malo besed.
je mož malo besed.
11:54
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
11:55
And not only was he familiar
with stoicism,
with stoicism,
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In ne samo, da je poznal stoicizem,
11:58
but he pointed out, for all
of his most important decisions,
of his most important decisions,
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poudaril je, kako je za vse njegove
najpomembnejše odločitve,
najpomembnejše odločitve,
12:02
his inflection points,
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vse točke prepletanja,
12:03
when he stood up
for his principles and ethics,
for his principles and ethics,
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ko je stal za svojimi principi in etiko,
12:08
how he had used stoicism
and something akin to fear-setting,
and something akin to fear-setting,
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uporabil stoicizem in nekaj podobnega
določanju strahov,
določanju strahov,
12:11
which blew my mind.
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kar me je šokiralo.
12:12
And he closed with two things.
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In zaključil je z dvema točkama.
12:14
Number one: he couldn't imagine
any life more beautiful
any life more beautiful
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Številka ena: ni si mogel predstavljati
lepšega življenja,
lepšega življenja,
12:17
than that of a Stoic.
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kot stoičnega.
12:20
And the last was his mantra,
which he applies to everything,
which he applies to everything,
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In zadnja je bila njegova mantra,
ki jo uveljavlja pri vsem
ki jo uveljavlja pri vsem
12:23
and you can apply to everything:
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in jo tudi vi lahko:
12:27
"Easy choices, hard life.
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"Lahke odločitve, težko življenje.
12:30
Hard choices, easy life."
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Težke odločitve, lahko življenje."
12:34
The hard choices --
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Težke odločitve --
12:36
what we most fear doing, asking, saying --
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česar se najbolj bojimo storiti,
vprašati, povedati,
vprašati, povedati,
12:41
these are very often exactly
what we most need to do.
what we most need to do.
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te so najpogosteje
točno tisto, kar moramo storiti.
točno tisto, kar moramo storiti.
12:45
And the biggest challenges
and problems we face
and problems we face
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In največji izzivi, največji problemi,
ki jih imamo,
ki jih imamo,
12:48
will never be solved
with comfortable conversations,
with comfortable conversations,
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nikoli ne bodo mogli biti rešeni s
preprostimi pogovori,
preprostimi pogovori,
12:51
whether it's in your own head
or with other people.
or with other people.
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ne glede na to, ali so samo v vaših glavah
ali z drugimi.
ali z drugimi.
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So I encourage you to ask yourselves:
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Zato vas spodbujam, da se vprašate:
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Where in your lives right now
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Kje v vaših življenjih, trenutno,
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might defining your fears be more
important than defining your goals?
important than defining your goals?
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bi definiranje strahov lahko bilo bolj
pomembno, kot definiranje ciljev?
pomembno, kot definiranje ciljev?
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Keeping in mind all the while,
the words of Seneca:
the words of Seneca:
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V mislih imejte besede Seneca:
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"We suffer more often
in imagination than in reality."
in imagination than in reality."
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"Pogosteje trpimo bolj v domišljiji
kot v realnosti."
kot v realnosti."
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Thank you very much.
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Najlepša vam hvala.
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Tim Ferriss - Investor, human guinea pig, authorTim Ferriss is an early-stage tech investor, best-selling author and podcaster.
Why you should listen
Tim Ferriss has been listed as one of Fast Company's "Most Innovative Business People" and one of Fortune's "40 under 40." He is an early-stage technology investor/advisor (Uber, Facebook, Shopify, Duolingo, Alibaba, and 50+ others) and the author of four #1 New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestsellers, including The 4-Hour Workweek and his latest, Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers. The Observer and other media have called Tim "the Oprah of audio" due to the influence of The Tim Ferriss Show podcast, which is the first business/interview podcast to exceed 100 million downloads.
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