Alexandra Sacks: A new way to think about the transition to motherhood
أليكساندرا ساكس: الانتقال للأمومة من منظور جديد
Alexandra Sacks, M.D. is widely recognized as the leading clinical expert on matrescence: the developmental transition into motherhood. Full bio
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when you felt hormonal and moody?
الهرمونات وبتقلب المزاج؟
in strange places and very fast,
غريبة وبسرعة كبيرة،
grown-up in this new way.
ناضجًا بهذه الطريقة الجديدة.
to a woman when she's having a baby.
للمرأة عندما تكون حاملاً.
for teenagers to feel all over the place,
أن يشعر المراهقون بالارتباك،
pregnancy in the same way?
the developmental arc of adolescence,
التطوري للمراهقة،
to describe the transition to motherhood.
لتصف الانتقال إلى مرحلة الأمومة.
with pregnant and postpartum women,
في مرحلتي الحمل وما بعد الولادة،
في مجال الإنجاب،
working in this field,
I'm not enjoying this.
أنا لا أستمتع بهذا.
of that diagnosis,
that she's not clinically depressed,
الطبية أنها ليست مكتئبة،
like this," she insists.
expect it to feel like?"
الذي كنت تتوقعينه؟"
would make feel whole and happy.
ستجعلني أشعر بالكمال والسعادة.
would naturally tell me what to do.
فطريًا بما ينبغي علي فعله.
to put the baby first."
طفلي على رأس أولوياتي."
to motherhood feels like.
الأمومة من أحاسيس.
like this from hundreds of women,
أسئلة كهذه من مئات السيدات،
that they weren't sick
to normalize this transition,
أن ذلك الانتقال طبيعي،
the same thing as disease.
دائمًا مرادفًا للمرض.
the psychology of motherhood.
عن سيكولوجية الأمومة.
in the medical textbooks,
الكثير في الكتب الطبية،
write about disease.
but in an out-of-print essay
لكن في مقال لم يعد ينشر
to frame this conversation:
لهيكلة هذه المحادثة:
sounds like "adolescence."
تشبه كلمة "المراهقة."
and hormone shifting
الجسد وتقلّب الهرمونات
in how a person feels emotionally
التي يشعر بها الشخص عاطفيًا
matrescence is not a disease,
in the medical vocabulary,
educating people about it,
with a more serious condition
the anthropology literature
في نصوص علم الإنسان
about matrescence with my patients
the "push and pull."
are uniquely dependent.
our babies can't walk,
with this hormone called oxytocin.
الذي يدعى الأوكسيتوسين.
بين الأم والرضيع،
give birth to the baby.
حتى إذا لم تلدي الطفل بعد.
zoom in, pulling her attention in,
على التقريب وجذب انتباهها،
at the center of her world.
her mind is pushing away,
العقل في دفعها بعيدًا،
all these other parts to her identity --
الأجزاء الأخرى من هويتها:
tug-of-war of matrescence.
التي تحدث عند الانتقال إلى الأمومة.
the women calling me were feeling.
به النساء اللواتي كن يتصلن بي.
progression of matrescence,
hard to live inside this push and pull,
العيش في ظل ذلك الدفع والجذب،
these circumstances,
طبيعية وليست شيئًا يُخجَل منه،
and nothing to be ashamed of,
rates of postpartum depression.
حتى من معدلات اكتئاب ما بعد الولادة.
our culture understands
بها ثقافتنا ذلك الانتقال إلى الأمومة
للأمومة أيتها الأمهات
their own transition
protecting your relationship.
a separate part of your identity,
for your child to develop their own.
لينمّي شخصيته الخاصة.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Alexandra Sacks - Reproductive psychiatristAlexandra Sacks, M.D. is widely recognized as the leading clinical expert on matrescence: the developmental transition into motherhood.
Why you should listen
Alexandra Sacks has spent the last decade of her career helping women navigate their emotional lives as a reproductive psychiatrist. She is a regular contributor to the New York Times, and her work has been featured in TIME, NPR and throughout Asia, Europe and Latin America.
Board-certified in psychiatry with specialty fellowship training in women's mental health via New York Presbyterian Cornell and Columbia, Sacks helms a private practice in New York City and serves on the advisory boards for the American Psychoanalytic Association and the Columbia Psychoanalytic Center for Training and Research. In April 2019, Dr. Sacks will publish her first co-authored book, What No One Tells You: A Guide to Your Emotions from Pregnancy to Motherhood (Simon and Schuster).
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