Alexandra Sacks: A new way to think about the transition to motherhood
אלכסנדרה סאקס: דרך חדשה לחשוב על המעבר לאמהות
Alexandra Sacks, M.D. is widely recognized as the leading clinical expert on matrescence: the developmental transition into motherhood. Full bio
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when you felt hormonal and moody?
הרגשתם הורמונליים ומצוברחים?
in strange places and very fast,
grown-up in this new way.
במציאות החדשה הזו.
to a woman when she's having a baby.
לאישה כשהיא בהריון.
for teenagers to feel all over the place,
בני נוער שירגישו מפוזרים,
pregnancy in the same way?
הריון באותו האופן?
the developmental arc of adolescence,
הקשת ההתפתחותית של גיל ההתבגרות,
to describe the transition to motherhood.
with pregnant and postpartum women,
עם נשים בהריון ואחרי לידה,
working in this field,
I'm not enjoying this.
אני לא נהנית מזה,
of that diagnosis,
של האבחנה הזו,
that she's not clinically depressed,
like this," she insists.
expect it to feel like?"
איך ציפית שזה ירגיש?"
would make feel whole and happy.
תתן לי הרגשה של שלמות ושמחה.
would naturally tell me what to do.
באופן טבעי מה לעשות.
to put the baby first."
את התינוק במקום הראשון".
to motherhood feels like.
like this from hundreds of women,
that they weren't sick
to normalize this transition,
את המעבר הזה לנורמלי,
the same thing as disease.
אותו הדבר כמו מחלה.
the psychology of motherhood.
על הפסיכולוגיה של אמהות.
in the medical textbooks,
על כך בספרות הרפואית,
write about disease.
but in an out-of-print essay
שכבר אינו זמין בדפוס,
to frame this conversation:
למסגר את השיח הזה:
sounds like "adolescence."
and hormone shifting
וברמות הורמונים
in how a person feels emotionally
matrescence is not a disease,
in the medical vocabulary,
באוצר המילים הרפואי,
educating people about it,
with a more serious condition
the anthropology literature
about matrescence with my patients
the "push and pull."
are uniquely dependent.
our babies can't walk,
התינוקות שלנו לא יכולים ללכת,
with this hormone called oxytocin.
שנקרא אוקסיטוצין.
give birth to the baby.
zoom in, pulling her attention in,
להתמקד, מושך את תשומת הלב שלה,
at the center of her world.
her mind is pushing away,
all these other parts to her identity --
חלקים אחרים המרכיבים את האישיות שלה --
tug-of-war of matrescence.
the women calling me were feeling.
progression of matrescence,
התהליך הטבעי של ההתמאהות,
hard to live inside this push and pull,
מצליחים לחיות עם הדחפים המנוגדים האלה,
these circumstances,
and nothing to be ashamed of,
ולא צריך להתבייש בזה,
rates of postpartum depression.
את שיעורי הדיכאון שאחרי לידה,
our culture understands
הדרך בה התרבות שלנו מבינה
their own transition
protecting your relationship.
על מערכת היחסים שלכן.
a separate part of your identity,
for your child to develop their own.
לפתח אישיות משל עצמו.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Alexandra Sacks - Reproductive psychiatristAlexandra Sacks, M.D. is widely recognized as the leading clinical expert on matrescence: the developmental transition into motherhood.
Why you should listen
Alexandra Sacks has spent the last decade of her career helping women navigate their emotional lives as a reproductive psychiatrist. She is a regular contributor to the New York Times, and her work has been featured in TIME, NPR and throughout Asia, Europe and Latin America.
Board-certified in psychiatry with specialty fellowship training in women's mental health via New York Presbyterian Cornell and Columbia, Sacks helms a private practice in New York City and serves on the advisory boards for the American Psychoanalytic Association and the Columbia Psychoanalytic Center for Training and Research. In April 2019, Dr. Sacks will publish her first co-authored book, What No One Tells You: A Guide to Your Emotions from Pregnancy to Motherhood (Simon and Schuster).
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