Alexandra Sacks: A new way to think about the transition to motherhood
Alexandra Sacks: Cara baru menyikapi transisi menjadi ibu
Alexandra Sacks, M.D. is widely recognized as the leading clinical expert on matrescence: the developmental transition into motherhood. Full bio
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when you felt hormonal and moody?
hormon dan mood mudah berubah?
in strange places and very fast,
di bagian-bagian tertentu
grown-up in this new way.
dewasa dengan cara baru ini
to a woman when she's having a baby.
terjadi kepada ibu hamil
for teenagers to feel all over the place,
yang labil adalah hal yang normal,
pregnancy in the same way?
dengan cara yang sama?
the developmental arc of adolescence,
tentang tumbuh kembang remaja,
to describe the transition to motherhood.
yang menggambarkan proses menjadi ibu.
with pregnant and postpartum women,
untuk ibu hamil dan melahirkan,
working in this field,
di bidang ini,
I'm not enjoying this.
Saya tidak menikmatinya.
of that diagnosis,
gejala-gejala diagnosis itu,
that she's not clinically depressed,
ia tidak mengalami depresi klinis,
like this," she insists.
tidak begini," ujarnya.
expect it to feel like?"
kamu harap rasanya seperti apa?"
would make feel whole and happy.
membuat saya merasa lengkap dan bahagia.
would naturally tell me what to do.
saya tahu harus berbuat apa.
to put the baby first."
mengutamakan anak saya."
yang tidak nyata
to motherhood feels like.
menjadi seorang ibu.
like this from hundreds of women,
pertanyaan ini dari ratusan wanita,
that they weren't sick
bahwa mereka tidak sakit
to normalize this transition,
untuk membiasakan transisi ini,
the same thing as disease.
kegelisahan tak selalu berarti sakit.
the psychology of motherhood.
tentang psikologi menjadi seorang ibu.
in the medical textbooks,
yang dimuat dalam buku medis,
write about disease.
menulis tentang penyakit.
but in an out-of-print essay
dalam esai yang tak lagi dicetak
oleh Dana Raphael,
to frame this conversation:
untuk menjelaskan topik ini:
sounds like "adolescence."
terdengar seperti "adolescence" (remaja).
and hormone shifting
bentuk tubuh dan hormon.
in how a person feels emotionally
pada perasaan seseorang.
matrescence is not a disease,
matrescence bukan penyakit,
in the medical vocabulary,
tidak ada pada kamus medis,
educating people about it,
masyarakat tentang hal itu,
with a more serious condition
dengan kondisi yang lebih serius
depresi pasca melahirkan
the anthropology literature
literatur antropologi
about matrescence with my patients
dengan pasien saya
the "push and pull."
"dorong dan tarik."
are uniquely dependent.
sangat berkegantungan
our babies can't walk,
bayi kita tak bisa berjalan,
with this hormone called oxytocin.
dengan hormon bernama oksitoksin.
give birth to the baby.
bahkan jika kamu tidak melahirkan.
zoom in, pulling her attention in,
memusatkan perhatiannya,
at the center of her world.
pusat dunianya sekarang.
her mind is pushing away,
pikirannya menjauh,
all these other parts to her identity --
lain yang menjadi identitasnya --
tug-of-war of matrescence.
dalam matrescence.
the women calling me were feeling.
pasien-pasien saya rasakan.
progression of matrescence,
proses natural matrescence,
hard to live inside this push and pull,
kesusahan dalam dorong dan tarik ini,
these circumstances,
and nothing to be ashamed of,
dan tak perlu malu,
rates of postpartum depression.
mengurangi angka depresi pasca melahirkan
our culture understands
cara budaya kita memahami
masa matrescence kalian
their own transition
protecting your relationship.
menjaga hubunganmu.
a separate part of your identity,
identitasmu yang berbeda,
for your child to develop their own.
untuk anakmu berkembang sendiri.
dengan jalannya sendiri.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Alexandra Sacks - Reproductive psychiatristAlexandra Sacks, M.D. is widely recognized as the leading clinical expert on matrescence: the developmental transition into motherhood.
Why you should listen
Alexandra Sacks has spent the last decade of her career helping women navigate their emotional lives as a reproductive psychiatrist. She is a regular contributor to the New York Times, and her work has been featured in TIME, NPR and throughout Asia, Europe and Latin America.
Board-certified in psychiatry with specialty fellowship training in women's mental health via New York Presbyterian Cornell and Columbia, Sacks helms a private practice in New York City and serves on the advisory boards for the American Psychoanalytic Association and the Columbia Psychoanalytic Center for Training and Research. In April 2019, Dr. Sacks will publish her first co-authored book, What No One Tells You: A Guide to Your Emotions from Pregnancy to Motherhood (Simon and Schuster).
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