Alexandra Sacks: A new way to think about the transition to motherhood
الکساندرا ساکس: راهی تازه برای درک گذر به مادر شدن.
Alexandra Sacks, M.D. is widely recognized as the leading clinical expert on matrescence: the developmental transition into motherhood. Full bio
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when you felt hormonal and moody?
و حساس بودید؟
in strange places and very fast,
رشد میکرد،
grown-up in this new way.
بالغ شوید.
to a woman when she's having a baby.
که باردار است میافتد.
for teenagers to feel all over the place,
که همه جا این احساس را داشته باشند،
pregnancy in the same way?
صحبت نکنیم؟
the developmental arc of adolescence,
قوس نوجوانی نوشته شده است،
to describe the transition to motherhood.
گذر به مادر شدن نداریم.
with pregnant and postpartum women,
و پس از زایمان کار میکنم
working in this field,
I'm not enjoying this.
از آن لذت نمیبرم.
of that diagnosis,
that she's not clinically depressed,
که او از نظر بالینی افسرده نیست،
like this," she insists.
《قرار نیست همچین حسی داشته باشم》
expect it to feel like?"
would make feel whole and happy.
احساس شادی و کامل بودن میدهد.
would naturally tell me what to do.
به من میگوید چه کنم.
to put the baby first."
بچه را الویت اولم قرار دهم.》
to motherhood feels like.
like this from hundreds of women,
از طرف هزاران مادر مواجه شدم،
که اشتباهی رخ داده است.
that they weren't sick
to normalize this transition,
این تغییر بودم،
the same thing as disease.
همیشه بیماری نیست.
the psychology of motherhood.
روانشناسی مادر کردم.
in the medical textbooks,
کتابهای پزشکی چیز زیادی نبود،
write about disease.
مینویسند.
but in an out-of-print essay
ولی در تحقیقی که دیگر منتشر نمیشود،
to frame this conversation:
به این مکالمه پیدا کردم:
sounds like "adolescence."
تصادفی نیست.
and hormone shifting
و تغییر هورمونی است
in how a person feels emotionally
از جهان میشوند، میگردد.
matrescence is not a disease,
in the medical vocabulary,
در لغت پزشکی وجود ندارد،
educating people about it,
این باره مطلع نمیکنند،
with a more serious condition
the anthropology literature
انسانشناسی بودهام
about matrescence with my patients
صحبت کردهام
the "push and pull."
are uniquely dependent.
طور منحصر به فردی وابستهاند.
our babies can't walk,
نوزادان ما نمیتوانند راه بروند،
with this hormone called oxytocin.
هورمون اکسیتوسین کمک کرد.
آزاد میشود.
give birth to the baby.
افزایش مییابد.
zoom in, pulling her attention in,
توجه به کودک کمک میکند،
at the center of her world.
قرار میگیرد.
her mind is pushing away,
ذهن او در حال هل دادن است،
all these other parts to her identity --
نیز وجود دارد--
tug-of-war of matrescence.
the women calling me were feeling.
حسش میکنند.
گمان میکنند بیمار هستند.
progression of matrescence,
را درک کنند،
hard to live inside this push and pull,
برای اغلب مردم دشوار است،
these circumstances,
and nothing to be ashamed of,
و چیزی برای شرمندگی وجود ندارد،
rates of postpartum depression.
بعد از زایمان را کاهش میداد.
our culture understands
این فرایند مادر شدن را
their own transition
متوجه شوند
protecting your relationship.
a separate part of your identity,
را حفظ میکنید،
for your child to develop their own.
از راه خودش را میدهید،
مادری نیز متولد میشود،
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Alexandra Sacks - Reproductive psychiatristAlexandra Sacks, M.D. is widely recognized as the leading clinical expert on matrescence: the developmental transition into motherhood.
Why you should listen
Alexandra Sacks has spent the last decade of her career helping women navigate their emotional lives as a reproductive psychiatrist. She is a regular contributor to the New York Times, and her work has been featured in TIME, NPR and throughout Asia, Europe and Latin America.
Board-certified in psychiatry with specialty fellowship training in women's mental health via New York Presbyterian Cornell and Columbia, Sacks helms a private practice in New York City and serves on the advisory boards for the American Psychoanalytic Association and the Columbia Psychoanalytic Center for Training and Research. In April 2019, Dr. Sacks will publish her first co-authored book, What No One Tells You: A Guide to Your Emotions from Pregnancy to Motherhood (Simon and Schuster).
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