Sofia Jawed-Wessel: The lies we tell pregnant women
صوفيا جاويد وسيل: الأكاذيب التي نقولها للنساء الحوامل
Sofia Jawed-Wessel's teachings utilize a sex-positive and pleasure-inclusive approach to providing medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality education. Full bio
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a lot of secrets today, you and I,
العديد من الأسرار معكم.
many of us feel about sex.
أثناء حديثنا عن الجنس.
catcalled by a stranger?
للتحرش اللفظي من قبل شخص غريب؟
was a student of mine.
what I already knew:
I would never have said those things."
لما تفوهت بتلك الأشياء."
until I was his professor.
حتى أصبحت أستاذته.
through every aspect of our lives.
جميع جوانب حياتنا.
to sell an entirely unrelated product?
بضاعة ليس لها علاقة بذلك؟
as only love interests?
inconsequential and harmless,
that refuses to see women as people.
المرأة كإنسان.
that sends home a 10-year-old girl
في العاشرة من عمرها إلى بيتها
a distraction to boys trying to learn,
الذين يحاولون التعلم،
to punish men for raping women
الرجال المغتصبين للنساء
grinding on her on the dance floor.
بها على ساحة الرقص.
the objectification of women.
في جعل المرأة مجرد شيء مادي.
the classic romantic comedy.
الرومانسية الكوميدية التقليدية مثلا.
to two kinds of women in these movies,
في هذا النوع من الأفلام،
with the perfect body.
مع جسد مثالي.
has no trouble identifying her
أي عقبات في التعرف عليها
ممارسة الجنس معها.
our leading man falls in love with
الرجل البطل
of our leading man's future babies.
لأطفال رجلنا البطل في المستقبل.
that women have two roles,
existing within the same woman.
في نفس المرأة.
that I share with a new acquaintance
التي أشارك فيها أحد معارفي الجدد
the conversation right then,
in studying the sexual behaviors
التصرفات الجنسية
a different kind of response.
لاحظت نوعاَ مختلفاَ من الإجابات.
about studying sexual desire
that come to mind
in a survey of over 500 adults,
هذا السؤال عند القيام باستطلاع،
partnered with is pregnant,
to imagine that they are pregnant,
the first words that come to mind
التي تطرأ على مخيلتهم
"Not worth the risk."
"لا يستحق المخاطرة."
pregnant women and moms from sexuality,
النساء الحوامل والأمهات من الجنس،
of sexual objectification.
بالتجسيد الموضوعي للجنس.
الجنس أقلّ. صحيح؟
is a different kind of objectification.
نوع آخر من التجسيد الموضوعي.
led to the Venus of Willendorf,
was a goddess of love and beauty,
علماء العصر الحجري القديم،
the sculptor's obvious focus
ركّز بشكل واضح
considered ideal for nursing;
alluding to menstruation or birth.
تُشير إلى الحيض أو الولادة.
meant to be held or placed lying down
أن تكون في وضع استلقاء
don't allow her to be freestanding.
لا تسمح لها بالوقوف.
that she was a representation of fertility
أن تُمثّل الخصوبة
of ideal beauty and love
who have interpreted her purpose
of the figurine herself.
وهو معرفة نفسها.
of men's sexual desire
برغبة الرجل الجنسية
and child-rearing role.
وطرق تربية الأطفال.
but only because she's pregnant. Right?
the Willendorf effect,
in many aspects of her life.
في الكثير من جوانب حياتها
ever been visibly pregnant?
touch your belly during pregnancy,
في فترة حملها
your permission first?
your medical care provider?
أو مقدم الرعاية الطبية
about your birth plan?
عن طريقة ولادتك؟
those choices are all wrong?
الإختيارت خاطئة
to bring you a glass of wine?
I know, but stay with me.
in moderation during pregnancy.
شرب النبيذ باعتدال أثناء الحمل.
pregnant women with this secret --
or a woman of color.
وذوات البشرة السمراء
it's also classist and racist.
وهو عنصري و مُفرق.
the government reminds women
are not her own,
to have sex during pregnancy,
and bodily autonomy
to make her own decisions.
isn't worth the risk during pregnancy,
لا يستحق المخاطرة أثناء الحمل
her sexual pleasure doesn't matter.
رغبتها الجنسية ليست مهمة.
is that she in fact doesn't matter,
أنك لست مهمة بالنسبة لنا
are not at odds with her own needs.
ليس ضمن احتياجاتها.
of Obstetricians and Gynecologists
about the safety of sex during pregnancy.
ممارسة الجنس الآمن للمرأة الحامل.
no public official statement
ليس لديها رأي مثبت
is generally positive
ترى أنه من الآمن
have sex throughout pregnancy,
ممارسة الجنس
to have sex during pregnancy,
to have sex during pregnancy,
is society telling women
with their bodies.
وما لا يجب أن يفعلوا بأجسادهن
identity-less vessels of reproduction
أو بلا هوية، مجرد وعاء
their sexual pleasure doesn't matter.
that women who have sex with women
تمارس الجنس مع امرأة
want children even exist.
to come along."
المناسب أن يأتي."
against society's insistence
her sexual needs is scary,
أولويتها مخيفة
her sexual needs prioritizes herself.
احتياجها الجنسي على نفسها.
that she be treated as an equal.
أن تُعامل بمساواة.
at the table of power,
the extra space we hold.
to recognize women as equals
to reinforce what happens in our home.
هو أن نعزّز ما يحدث في منازلنا
or a women's problem.
in dismantling systems of inequality.
في ترك عادات عدم المساواة
to stop telling women
with their bodies.
وما لا يجب أن يفعلن بأجسادهن.
like community property.
المرأة كملكية خاصة للمجتمع.
don't even ask to touch her belly.
لا تتجرأ على لمس بطنها.
what she can and cannot eat.
about her medical decisions.
بقرارتها الطبية.
personally against abortion,
for a woman's right to choose.
عن حق المرأة في الإختيار
the two need not oppose one another.
الاثنين لا يتعارضون
as early as possible,
in the dictionary anymore.
those conversations about sex,
because it feels good.
لأنه يشعرهم بالسعادة.
you have children or not,
that doesn't shame our teenagers.
الثقافة الجنسية ليس محرجا للمراهقين
and pregnancy tests.
وتحاليل الحمل الإيجابية.
we are all given the opportunity
that it's worth the trouble to do so.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Sofia Jawed-Wessel - Sex researcherSofia Jawed-Wessel's teachings utilize a sex-positive and pleasure-inclusive approach to providing medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality education.
Why you should listen
Dr. Sofia Jawed-Wessel teaches and generates new knowledge in the area of public health through scientific studies. Her research has focused on understanding and improving the sexual health of women and couples as they transition into parenthood by documenting sexual behaviors, sexual function, relationship adjustment and overall sexual changes during pregnancy and after childbirth. Jawed-Wessel's teachings utilize a sex-positive and pleasure-inclusive approach to providing medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality education to undergraduate students as well as in the local Omaha, Nebraska community. She teaches graduate level courses such as Research Methods, Health Behavior Theory, and Leadership and Advocacy. Jawed-Wessel also fights for women's rights and reproductive justice. She has provided expert testimony for the Nebraska Unicameral, the Nebraska School Board of Education and the Omaha Public School Board of Education. She has successfully argued in favor of comprehensive sex education in Omaha Public Schools and fought against restrictive anti-choice legislation in Nebraska.
Jawed-Wessel is an Assistant Professor in the School of Health, Physical Education and Recreation at the University of Nebraska at Omaha (UNO) and the Associate Director of the Midlands Sexual Health Research Collaborative. She also holds a joint appointment with the Women and Gender Studies program at UNO and a courtesy appointment in the College of Public Health at the University of Nebraska Medical Center. Jawed-Wessel holds both a Master of Science in Public Health (MPH) degree and a Doctor of Philosophy (PhD) degree in Health Behavior from the School of Public Health at Indiana University Bloomington.
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