Sofia Jawed-Wessel: The lies we tell pregnant women
Sofia Jawed-Wessel's teachings utilize a sex-positive and pleasure-inclusive approach to providing medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality education. Full bio
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a lot of secrets today, you and I,
many of us feel about sex.
catcalled by a stranger?
was a student of mine.
what I already knew:
I would never have said those things."
until I was his professor.
through every aspect of our lives.
to sell an entirely unrelated product?
as only love interests?
inconsequential and harmless,
that refuses to see women as people.
that sends home a 10-year-old girl
a distraction to boys trying to learn,
to punish men for raping women
grinding on her on the dance floor.
the objectification of women.
the classic romantic comedy.
to two kinds of women in these movies,
with the perfect body.
has no trouble identifying her
our leading man falls in love with
of our leading man's future babies.
that women have two roles,
existing within the same woman.
that I share with a new acquaintance
the conversation right then,
in studying the sexual behaviors
a different kind of response.
about studying sexual desire
that come to mind
in a survey of over 500 adults,
partnered with is pregnant,
to imagine that they are pregnant,
the first words that come to mind
"Not worth the risk."
pregnant women and moms from sexuality,
of sexual objectification.
is a different kind of objectification.
led to the Venus of Willendorf,
was a goddess of love and beauty,
the sculptor's obvious focus
considered ideal for nursing;
alluding to menstruation or birth.
meant to be held or placed lying down
don't allow her to be freestanding.
that she was a representation of fertility
of ideal beauty and love
who have interpreted her purpose
of the figurine herself.
of men's sexual desire
and child-rearing role.
but only because she's pregnant. Right?
the Willendorf effect,
in many aspects of her life.
ever been visibly pregnant?
touch your belly during pregnancy,
your permission first?
your medical care provider?
about your birth plan?
those choices are all wrong?
to bring you a glass of wine?
I know, but stay with me.
in moderation during pregnancy.
pregnant women with this secret --
or a woman of color.
it's also classist and racist.
the government reminds women
are not her own,
to have sex during pregnancy,
and bodily autonomy
to make her own decisions.
isn't worth the risk during pregnancy,
her sexual pleasure doesn't matter.
is that she in fact doesn't matter,
are not at odds with her own needs.
of Obstetricians and Gynecologists
about the safety of sex during pregnancy.
no public official statement
is generally positive
have sex throughout pregnancy,
to have sex during pregnancy,
to have sex during pregnancy,
is society telling women
with their bodies.
identity-less vessels of reproduction
their sexual pleasure doesn't matter.
that women who have sex with women
want children even exist.
to come along."
against society's insistence
her sexual needs is scary,
her sexual needs prioritizes herself.
that she be treated as an equal.
at the table of power,
the extra space we hold.
to recognize women as equals
to reinforce what happens in our home.
or a women's problem.
in dismantling systems of inequality.
to stop telling women
with their bodies.
like community property.
don't even ask to touch her belly.
what she can and cannot eat.
about her medical decisions.
personally against abortion,
for a woman's right to choose.
the two need not oppose one another.
as early as possible,
in the dictionary anymore.
those conversations about sex,
because it feels good.
you have children or not,
that doesn't shame our teenagers.
and pregnancy tests.
we are all given the opportunity
that it's worth the trouble to do so.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Sofia Jawed-Wessel - Sex researcherSofia Jawed-Wessel's teachings utilize a sex-positive and pleasure-inclusive approach to providing medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality education.
Why you should listen
Dr. Sofia Jawed-Wessel teaches and generates new knowledge in the area of public health through scientific studies. Her research has focused on understanding and improving the sexual health of women and couples as they transition into parenthood by documenting sexual behaviors, sexual function, relationship adjustment and overall sexual changes during pregnancy and after childbirth. Jawed-Wessel's teachings utilize a sex-positive and pleasure-inclusive approach to providing medically accurate, comprehensive sexuality education to undergraduate students as well as in the local Omaha, Nebraska community. She teaches graduate level courses such as Research Methods, Health Behavior Theory, and Leadership and Advocacy. Jawed-Wessel also fights for women's rights and reproductive justice. She has provided expert testimony for the Nebraska Unicameral, the Nebraska School Board of Education and the Omaha Public School Board of Education. She has successfully argued in favor of comprehensive sex education in Omaha Public Schools and fought against restrictive anti-choice legislation in Nebraska.
Jawed-Wessel is an Assistant Professor in the School of Health, Physical Education and Recreation at the University of Nebraska at Omaha (UNO) and the Associate Director of the Midlands Sexual Health Research Collaborative. She also holds a joint appointment with the Women and Gender Studies program at UNO and a courtesy appointment in the College of Public Health at the University of Nebraska Medical Center. Jawed-Wessel holds both a Master of Science in Public Health (MPH) degree and a Doctor of Philosophy (PhD) degree in Health Behavior from the School of Public Health at Indiana University Bloomington.
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