Özlem Cekic: Why I have coffee with people who send me hate mail
أوزليم جيجك: لماذا أحتسي القهوة مع مرسلي رسائل الكراهية على بريدي الإلكتروني
Born in Turkey with Kurdish roots, Özlem Sara Cekic was one of the first women with a Muslim immigrant background to be elected to the Danish Parliament, where she served from 2007 to 2015. Full bio
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and personal abuse
برسائل كراهية وإساءات شخصية
that we might meet for coffee and a chat.
احتساء القهوة والدردشة معي.
that I want to share with you.
when I was a young child.
in the Danish parliament
انتخابات البرلمان الدنماركي
with a minority background.
that not everyone was happy about it
أن الجميع ليسوا سعداء بهذا الشأن
to finding hate messages in my inbox.
رسائل كراهية في بريدي الإلكتروني.
with something like this:
doing in our parliament?"
and I had nothing in common.
بيني وبين مرسلي الرسائل.
in the parliament said
it will give the police a lead."
ستكون دليلًا في حوزة الشرطة."
"When something happens" and not "if."
"عندما يحدث مكروه" وليس: "إذا حدث".
were also sent to my home address.
كانت تصلني رسائل كراهية إلى بيتي.
in public debate,
to protect my family.
إضافية لحماية عائلتي.
بدأ أحد النازيين مضايقتي.
Muslim women on the street.
على امرأة مسلمة في الشارع.
and the phone was ringing constantly.
بدأ هاتفي في الرنين بشكل مستمر.
he hate you so much, Mom,
that was a pretty clever answer.
most of us would give.
and they are the bad guys, period.
I was at a friend's house,
about all the hate and racism I had met.
العنصرية والكراهية التي واجهتها.
that I should call them up
الذي اقترح عليّ التواصل معهم
of the Danish Parliament," he said.
عضوة في البرلمان الدنماركي،"
you would become a martyr."
where I had saved all the hate mail.
فيه بكل رسائل الكراهية.
with words like "terrorist,"
who had sent me the most.
الذي أرسل لي معظم الرسائل.
so I could say at least I had tried.
حتى أستطيع القول أنني حاولت علي الأقل.
You have sent me so many hate mails.
أرسلت لي رسائل كراهية كثيرة.
and we can drink a coffee together
المجيء عندك لاحتساء القهوة.
we met at his house.
when he opened his front door
لي باب منزله الأمامي.
nothing like I'd imagined.
لما تخيلته في ذهني.
identical to the one my parents used.
للذي اعتاد والداي على استخدامه.
for two and a half hours.
that when he waits for the bus
تواجده في المحطة منتظرًا الحافلة.
of having so much in common
الكثير من القواسم المشتركة.
such clearly racist views.
of those who had sent me hate mails
الذين أرسلوا لي رسائل الكراهية.
of what I call #dialoguecoffee.
the most terrible things to me
why they hate people like me
the last eight years.
طوال الـ8 سنوات الأخيرة.
I approach agree to meet me.
الذين تواصلت معهم على مقابلتي.
to always meet them in their house
أن ألتقيهم دائمًا في منازلهم.
that I trust them.
because when we eat together,
لأننا عندما نأكل سويًا،
what we have in common
some valuable lessons.
hate mails are workers,
their behavior is acceptable,
from the hateful views
وجهات النظر التي تحمل الكراهية
who's expressing those views.
الشخص الذي يحمل وجهات النظر تلك.
as afraid of people they don't know
من الأشخاص الذين لا يعرفونهم.
I started inviting myself for coffee.
قبل أن أبدأ دعوتهم لتناول القهوة.
a specific theme keeps coming up.
محددة تطفو على السطح باستمرار.
I'm talking to a humanist or a racist,
مع شخص إنساني أو عنصري.
are to blame for the hate
have to stop demonizing.
يجب عليهم التوقف عن شيطنة الناس.
the media, their neighbor
who stops 10 meters away.
بعيدًا بأمتار قليلة.
any power or influence --
of the Danish parliament.
and influence where we are,
have taught me
can be caught demonizing
يمكنهم أن يُرصدوا وهم يشيطنون
different population groups.
إلى مجموعات عرقية أخرى.
were very extreme.
with Danes, with Jews and with racists
والدنماركيين واليهود والعنصريين
against my own prejudices.
who have insisted on speaking to me.
الذين أصرّوا على التحدث معي.
citizen and a bridge builder.
people as possible
that doesn't demonize people.
الذي لا يقوم على شيطنة الآخرين.
you get home and in the coming days,
في منازلكم وفي الأيام المقبلة،
no one else will know it.
لن يعرف أحد سواكم.
President Trump are deplorables?
الأمريكي ترامب هم مجموعة من الحمقى؟
President Erdoğan are crazy Islamists?
أردوغان هم إسلاميين مخبولين؟
in France are stupid fascists?
في فرنسا هم فاشيين أغبياء؟
who voted for Bernie Sanders
الذين صوّتوا لصالح بيرني ساندرز
to vilify those groups.
لتشويه سمعة تلك المجموعات.
do you think I am an idealist?
هل تعتقدون أنني مثالية؟
someone who you demonize --
politically and/or culturally
anything in common with.
like this to #dialoguecoffee.
لـ #حوارالقهوة.
to find an Ingolf in your life,
for #dialoguecofee.
you have to remember this:
ضعوا الأشياء التالية في الحسبان:
if the person refuses at first.
الشخص تلبية دعوتكم في أول مرة.
to arrange a #dialoguecoffee meeting.
لأجل ترتيب مقابلة قهوة وحوار.
الذي يوافق على مقابلتكم.
into their home is just as brave.
المحادثة على القواسم المشتركة بينكم.
focuses on what you have in common.
the conversation in a positive way
hold definitive and often extreme opinions
الكثيرون بآراء مطلقة وأحيانًا متطرفة
on the other side than in our own bases.
عند الآخرين ونتجاهل أنفسنا.
who think like us
in a category of disdain.
who are discriminating
to challenge their opinions.
للاعتراض على آرائهم ومناقشتها.
societies break down --
الديمقراطية السليمة للأضرار.
responsibility for the democracy.
الشخصية تجاه الديمقراطية.
على أنها شيء بديهي.
thing in a democracy
في المجتمع الديمقراطي
between people, yes,
التي يمكنها أن تمتد فوق تلك الخنادق.
the bridges that cross the trenches.
in a terror attack
خلال هجمات إرهابية
by kindness between people.
من خلال الرأفة بين الناس.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Özlem Cekic - Bridge builder, authorBorn in Turkey with Kurdish roots, Özlem Sara Cekic was one of the first women with a Muslim immigrant background to be elected to the Danish Parliament, where she served from 2007 to 2015.
Why you should listen
During her time as a member of Folketing, the Danish Parliament, Özlem Cekic's inbox was inundated with hate mail and threats. She first responded by deleting the emails, but then she started replying and inviting those who had sent her abusive messages to meet and engage in dialogue. She calls it #dialoguecoffee, as the meetings generally happen over coffee, and usually at the home of the person who wrote the message. She has met neo-Nazis, racists and religious extremists as she works to try to understand the origin of the hate, find a common language and develop a toolkit for building bridges.
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