Özlem Cekic: Why I have coffee with people who send me hate mail
Ozlem Džekidž (Özlem Cekic): Zašto pijem kafu sa ljudima koji mi šalju poruke mržnje
Born in Turkey with Kurdish roots, Özlem Sara Cekic was one of the first women with a Muslim immigrant background to be elected to the Danish Parliament, where she served from 2007 to 2015. Full bio
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and personal abuse
mržnje i zlostavljanja
na njih da odgovaram
that we might meet for coffee and a chat.
da se nađemo na kafi i razgovoru.
that I want to share with you.
što želim da podelim sa vama.
when I was a young child.
kada sam bila dete.
in the Danish parliament
za mesto u danskom parlamentu
with a minority background.
manjinske pripadnosti.
that not everyone was happy about it
da nisu svi bili srećni zbog toga
to finding hate messages in my inbox.
na poruke mržnje u svom sandučetu.
with something like this:
doing in our parliament?"
radi u našem parlamentu?“
and I had nothing in common.
iz parlamenta mi je rekla
in the parliament said
policija će imati trag.“
it will give the police a lead."
"When something happens" and not "if."
were also sent to my home address.
stizala na kućnu adresu.
in public debate,
u javnu debatu,
dobila sam tajnu adresu,
to protect my family.
da bih zaštitila porodicu.
je počeo da me uznemirava.
Muslim women on the street.
Muslimanku na ulici.
and the phone was ringing constantly.
a telefon je non-stop zvonio.
he hate you so much, Mom,
kada te i ne poznaje?“
that was a pretty clever answer.
prilično pametan odgovor.
most of us would give.
and they are the bad guys, period.
bila sam kod prijatelja,
I was at a friend's house,
about all the hate and racism I had met.
zbog te mržnje i rasizma.
that I should call them up
of the Danish Parliament," he said.
danskog parlamenta,“ rekao je.
you would become a martyr."
postala bi mučenica.“
where I had saved all the hate mail.
with words like "terrorist,"
who had sent me the most.
mi je poslao najviše poruka.
so I could say at least I had tried.
da mogu da kažem da sam bar probala.
You have sent me so many hate mails.
Poslali ste mi toliko poruka mržnje.
and we can drink a coffee together
we met at his house.
when he opened his front door
kada je otvorio vrata
nothing like I'd imagined.
kakve su moji roditelji koristili.
identical to the one my parents used.
for two and a half hours.
that when he waits for the bus
toliko zajedničkog
of having so much in common
such clearly racist views.
of those who had sent me hate mails
of what I call #dialoguecoffee.
the most terrible things to me
why they hate people like me
zašto mrze ljude kao što sam ja
the last eight years.
da se vidi sa mnom.
I approach agree to meet me.
da se uvek srećemo kod njih
to always meet them in their house
that I trust them.
because when we eat together,
kada jedemo zajedno,
what we have in common
some valuable lessons.
hate mails are workers,
their behavior is acceptable,
ponašanje prihvatljivo,
from the hateful views
od mrskih gledišta,
od osobe koja ih izražava.
who's expressing those views.
as afraid of people they don't know
kao što sam se i ja njih plašila
I started inviting myself for coffee.
da se pozivam na kafu.
a specific theme keeps coming up.
I'm talking to a humanist or a racist,
sa humanistom ili rasistom,
are to blame for the hate
have to stop demonizing.
da prestanu da demonizuju.
the media, their neighbor
who stops 10 meters away.
koji staje 10 metara od vas.
any power or influence --
of the Danish parliament.
and influence where we are,
have taught me
can be caught demonizing
mogu da demonizuju
different population groups.
populacijske grupe.
were very extreme.
bila vrlo ekstremna.
with Danes, with Jews and with racists
Dancima, Jevrejima i rasistima
against my own prejudices.
sopstvenih predrasuda.
who have insisted on speaking to me.
koji su insistirali da pričaju sa mnom.
citizen and a bridge builder.
koji pravi mostove među ljudima.
people as possible
that doesn't demonize people.
you get home and in the coming days,
i narednih dana,
no one else will know it.
President Trump are deplorables?
Trampove pristalice jadnici?
President Erdoğan are crazy Islamists?
ludi islamisti?
in France are stupid fascists?
u Francuskoj glupi fašisti?
who voted for Bernie Sanders
koji su glasali za Bernija Sandersa
to vilify those groups.
da ocrne te grupe.
do you think I am an idealist?
someone who you demonize --
politically and/or culturally
politički i/ili kulturno
anything in common with.
ništa zajedničko.
like this to #dialoguecoffee.
pozovete na #razgovoruzkafu.
to find an Ingolf in your life,
Ingolfa u svom životu,
for #dialoguecofee.
you have to remember this:
morate zapamtiti ovo:
if the person refuses at first.
da dogovorim #razgovoruzkafu.
to arrange a #dialoguecoffee meeting.
into their home is just as brave.
focuses on what you have in common.
o onome što vam je zajedničko.
the conversation in a positive way
hold definitive and often extreme opinions
on the other side than in our own bases.
kod drugih, ali ne kod sebe.
who think like us
in a category of disdain.
who are discriminating
to challenge their opinions.
da izazovemo njihovo mišljenje.
societies break down --
responsibility for the democracy.
za demokratiju.
thing in a democracy
between people, yes,
the bridges that cross the trenches.
mostove preko tih rovova.
in a terror attack
u terorističkom napadu
u Kopenhagenu, 2015. godine.
by kindness between people.
dobrotom među ljudima.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Özlem Cekic - Bridge builder, authorBorn in Turkey with Kurdish roots, Özlem Sara Cekic was one of the first women with a Muslim immigrant background to be elected to the Danish Parliament, where she served from 2007 to 2015.
Why you should listen
During her time as a member of Folketing, the Danish Parliament, Özlem Cekic's inbox was inundated with hate mail and threats. She first responded by deleting the emails, but then she started replying and inviting those who had sent her abusive messages to meet and engage in dialogue. She calls it #dialoguecoffee, as the meetings generally happen over coffee, and usually at the home of the person who wrote the message. She has met neo-Nazis, racists and religious extremists as she works to try to understand the origin of the hate, find a common language and develop a toolkit for building bridges.
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