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Clint Smith: How to raise a black son in America
Bagaimana membesarkan anak kulit hitam di Amerika
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Saat kecil, kita menerima nasehat dari orang tua dan guru yang terkesan aneh, bahkan membingungkan. Hal ini tertanam di benak Clint Smith yang suatu malam bermain pistol air dengan teman kulit putihnya. Dalam suatu potongan yang mengharukan, sang penyair menggambarkan reaksi ayahnya yang penuh amarah dan rasa takut.
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Growing up, I didn't always understand
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Ketika tumbuh dewasa,
saya tidak selalu mengerti
saya tidak selalu mengerti
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why my parents made me
follow the rules that they did.
follow the rules that they did.
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mengapa orang tua memaksa saya mematuhi
aturan mereka.
aturan mereka.
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Like, why did I really
have to mow the lawn?
have to mow the lawn?
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Seperti, kenapa sih saya harus memotong
rumput?
rumput?
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Why was homework really that important?
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Kenapa PR begitu pentingnya?
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Why couldn't I put jelly beans
in my oatmeal?
in my oatmeal?
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Kenapa saya tidak boleh menaruh Jelly bean
dalam oatmeal saya?
dalam oatmeal saya?
00:27
My childhood was abound
with questions like this.
with questions like this.
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Masa kecil saya dipenuhi hal seperti ini.
00:30
Normal things about being a kid
and realizing that sometimes,
and realizing that sometimes,
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Hal yang lumrah bagi anak kecil
yang menyadari bahwa kadang kala
yang menyadari bahwa kadang kala
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it was best to listen to my parents
even when I didn't exactly understand why.
even when I didn't exactly understand why.
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lebih baik mematuhi saja orang tua kita
walau kita tak tahu alasannya.
walau kita tak tahu alasannya.
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And it's not that they didn't want
me to think critically.
me to think critically.
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Dan bukan karena mereka tak mau
saya berpikir kritis.
saya berpikir kritis.
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Their parenting always sought
to reconcile the tension
to reconcile the tension
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Mereka selalu mencari jalan tengah
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between having my siblings and I
understand the realities of the world,
understand the realities of the world,
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antara kesadaran saya dan saudara
atas kenyataan di dunia ini
atas kenyataan di dunia ini
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while ensuring that we never accepted
the status quo as inevitable.
the status quo as inevitable.
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dengan memastikan bahwa kami tidak
menganggap status quo itu mutlak.
menganggap status quo itu mutlak.
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I came to realize that this,
in and of itself,
in and of itself,
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Saya menyadari bahwa hal ini,
dalam dan akan penerapannya,
dalam dan akan penerapannya,
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was a very purposeful form of education.
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merupakan bentuk pendidikan yang sangat
bermakna.
bermakna.
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One of my favorite educators,
Brazilian author and scholar Paulo Freire,
Brazilian author and scholar Paulo Freire,
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Salah satu pengajar kesukaan saya,
Penulis dan sarjana Brasil, Paulo Freire
Penulis dan sarjana Brasil, Paulo Freire
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speaks quite explicitly
about the need for education
about the need for education
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mengungkapkan dengan tegas
perlunya pendidikan
perlunya pendidikan
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to be used as a tool for critical
awakening and shared humanity.
awakening and shared humanity.
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sebagai sarana pembangkit kesadaran kritis
dan penyebar kemanusiaan.
dan penyebar kemanusiaan.
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In his most famous book,
"Pedagogy of the Oppressed,"
"Pedagogy of the Oppressed,"
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Dalam bukunya,
"Pengajaran Bagi Orang Tertindas"
"Pengajaran Bagi Orang Tertindas"
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he states, "No one can be
authentically human
authentically human
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dia mengatakan. "Tidak ada yang bisa jadi
manusia seutuhnya
manusia seutuhnya
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while he prevents others from being so."
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selama dia menghalangi orang lain
untuk itu."
untuk itu."
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I've been thinking a lot about this
lately, this idea of humanity,
lately, this idea of humanity,
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Saya banyak memikirkan hal ini,
ide tentang kemanusiaan,
ide tentang kemanusiaan,
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and specifically, who in this world
is afforded the privilege
is afforded the privilege
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dan khususnya, siapa di dunia ini
yang mendapat keleluasaan
yang mendapat keleluasaan
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of being perceived as fully human.
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untuk dianggap sebagai manusia utuh.
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Over the course of
the past several months,
the past several months,
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Selama beberapa bulan terakhir,
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the world has watched
as unarmed black men, and women,
as unarmed black men, and women,
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dunia menyaksikan pria dan wanita kulit
hitam yang tak bersenjata,
hitam yang tak bersenjata,
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have had their lives taken
at the hands of police and vigilante.
at the hands of police and vigilante.
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telah kehilangan nyawa mereka di tangan
polisi dan penjahat.
polisi dan penjahat.
01:39
These events and all that
has transpired after them
has transpired after them
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Kejadian ini serta kejadian lainnya yang
mengikuti
mengikuti
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have brought me back to my own childhood
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membawa saya kembali ke masa kecil saya
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and the decisions that my parents made
about raising a black boy in America
about raising a black boy in America
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serta cara orang tua saya membesarkan anak
kulit hitam di Amerika yang sedang tumbuh
kulit hitam di Amerika yang sedang tumbuh
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that growing up, I didn't always
understand in the way that I do now.
understand in the way that I do now.
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saya dulunya tidak mengerti seperti
sekarang ini.
sekarang ini.
Saya pikir betap beratnya dan betapa
tidak adil rasanya buat mereka,
tidak adil rasanya buat mereka,
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I think of how hard it must have been,
how profoundly unfair it must have felt
how profoundly unfair it must have felt
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01:58
for them to feel like they had
to strip away parts of my childhood
to strip away parts of my childhood
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dimana mereka seperti mencabut
sebagian masa kecil saya
sebagian masa kecil saya
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just so that I could come home at night.
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hanya supaya saya tetap bisa pulang
ke rumah malam hari.
ke rumah malam hari.
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For example, I think of how one night,
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Contoh, saya ingat pada suatu malam,
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when I was around 12 years old, on an
overnight field trip to another city,
overnight field trip to another city,
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saat saya berusia 12 tahun, dalam suatu
perjalanan ke luar kota,
perjalanan ke luar kota,
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my friends and I bought Super Soakers
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saya dan teman teman membeli pistol air
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and turned the hotel parking lot
into our own water-filled battle zone.
into our own water-filled battle zone.
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dan menjadikan tempat parkir sebagai
arena tempur air kami.
arena tempur air kami.
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We hid behind cars,
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Kami bersembunyi di belakang mobil,
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running through the darkness that
lay between the streetlights,
lay between the streetlights,
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bersembunyi dalam kegelapan di antara
lampu jalan,
lampu jalan,
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boundless laughter ubiquitous
across the pavement.
across the pavement.
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tawa riang kami terdengar jelas
di sepanjang jalan.
di sepanjang jalan.
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But within 10 minutes,
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Dan 10 menit kemudian,
ayah keluar, mencengkeram
lengan saya
lengan saya
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my father came outside,
grabbed me by my forearm
grabbed me by my forearm
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02:31
and led me into our room
with an unfamiliar grip.
with an unfamiliar grip.
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dan menyeret saya ke kamar kami
dengan cengkeraman yang aneh.
dengan cengkeraman yang aneh.
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Before I could say anything,
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Sebelum saya sempat berbicara,
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tell him how foolish he had
made me look in front of my friends,
made me look in front of my friends,
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betapa dia telah membuatku terlihat
konyol di depan temanku,
konyol di depan temanku,
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he derided me for being so naive.
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dia mencela betapa bodohnya diriku.
02:42
Looked me in the eye,
fear consuming his face,
fear consuming his face,
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Menatap mataku, rasa takut terlihat jelas
di wajahnya,
di wajahnya,
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and said, "Son, I'm sorry,
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dan katanya, "Nak, maafkan aku,
02:49
but you can't act the same
as your white friends.
as your white friends.
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tapi kau tak boleh seperti temanmu
yang berkulit putih.
yang berkulit putih.
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You can't pretend to shoot guns.
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Jangan bermain tembak-tembakan.
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You can't run around in the dark.
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Jangan berkeliaran di kegelapan.
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You can't hide behind anything
other than your own teeth."
other than your own teeth."
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Jangan bersembunyi selain di belakang
gigimu."
gigimu."
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I know now how scared he must have been,
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Aku tahu betapa takutnya dia saat itu,
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how easily I could have fallen
into the empty of the night,
into the empty of the night,
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betapa mudahnya aku jadi korban malam itu,
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that some man would mistake this water
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jika ada orang yang menyangka bahwa
mainanku
mainanku
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for a good reason to wash
all of this away.
all of this away.
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sebagai alasan untuk menghabisiku.
03:13
These are the sorts of messages I've been
inundated with my entire life:
inundated with my entire life:
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Inilah pesan yang saya terima selama
hidup saya:
hidup saya:
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Always keep your hands where they
can see them, don't move too quickly,
can see them, don't move too quickly,
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Letakkan tanganmu agar bisa terlihat
selalu, jangan bergerak terlalu cepat
selalu, jangan bergerak terlalu cepat
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take off your hood when the sun goes down.
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lepaskan tudungmu setelah matahari
terbenam.
terbenam.
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My parents raised me and my siblings
in an armor of advice,
in an armor of advice,
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Orang tuaku membesarkanku dan saudaraku
dalam benteng nasehat,
dalam benteng nasehat,
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an ocean of alarm bells so someone
wouldn't steal the breath from our lungs,
wouldn't steal the breath from our lungs,
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lautan peringatan supaya tak seorangpun
akan mencuri nafas kami,
akan mencuri nafas kami,
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so that they wouldn't make
a memory of this skin.
a memory of this skin.
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supaya mereka tak mengingat
warna kulit ini.
warna kulit ini.
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So that we could be kids,
not casket or concrete.
not casket or concrete.
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Agar kami tetap jadi anak anak,
bukan mayat.
bukan mayat.
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And it's not because they thought it
would make us better than anyone else
would make us better than anyone else
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Dan bukanlah mereka ingin kami lebih baik
dari anak yang lain
dari anak yang lain
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it's simply because they wanted
to keep us alive.
to keep us alive.
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tapi hanya agar kami tetap hidup.
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All of my black friends were raised
with the same message,
with the same message,
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Semua teman kulit hitamku tumbuh
dengan pesan yang sama,
dengan pesan yang sama,
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the talk, given to us
when we became old enough
when we became old enough
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ruang bicara, yang diberikan
jika kami cukup tua
jika kami cukup tua
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to be mistaken for a nail ready
to be hammered to the ground,
to be hammered to the ground,
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dianggap sebagai paku yang siap
dipalu ke tanah,
dipalu ke tanah,
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when people made our melanin
synonymous with something to be feared.
synonymous with something to be feared.
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ketika orang menyamakan warna kulit kami
sesuatu yang patut ditakuti.
sesuatu yang patut ditakuti.
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But what does it do to a child
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Tapi apa akibatnya bagi seorang anak kecil
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to grow up knowing that you
cannot simply be a child?
cannot simply be a child?
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yang tumbuh dengan anggapan bahwa
anda tak bisa jadi sekedar anak kecil?
anda tak bisa jadi sekedar anak kecil?
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That the whims of adolescence
are too dangerous for your breath,
are too dangerous for your breath,
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Bahwa menjadi remaja terlalu berbahaya
bagi hidupmu,
bagi hidupmu,
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that you cannot simply be curious,
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anda tidak boleh terlalu ingin tahu
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that you are not afforded the luxury
of making a mistake,
of making a mistake,
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dan anda tidak boleh berbuat salah,
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that someone's implicit bias
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dan opini samar dari seseorang saja
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might be the reason you don't
wake up in the morning.
wake up in the morning.
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dapat menyebabkan anda tak dapat
bangun esok pagi.
bangun esok pagi.
04:10
But this cannot be what defines us.
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Tapi ini tak boleh jadi cap kami.
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Because we have parents
who raised us to understand
who raised us to understand
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Karena orang tua kami mengajarkan kami
untuk memahami
untuk memahami
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that our bodies weren't meant
for the backside of a bullet,
for the backside of a bullet,
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bahwa tubuh kami bukanlah untuk jadi
sasaran tembak,
sasaran tembak,
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but for flying kites and jumping rope,
and laughing until our stomachs burst.
and laughing until our stomachs burst.
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tapi untuk bermain layangan dan tali,
dan tertawa sampai perut kami sakit.
dan tertawa sampai perut kami sakit.
04:20
We had teachers who taught us
how to raise our hands in class,
how to raise our hands in class,
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Guru mengajarkan kami mengacungkan tangan
di kelas
di kelas
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and not just to signal surrender,
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bukan sebagai tanda menyerah,
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and that the only thing we should give up
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dan satu satunya hal yang harus
kami buang
kami buang
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is the idea that we
aren't worthy of this world.
aren't worthy of this world.
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adalah anggapan bahwa kami tak layak
hidup didunia
hidup didunia
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So when we say that black lives matter,
it's not because others don't,
it's not because others don't,
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Jadi saat kami bilang nyawa kami penting,
bukannya yang lain tidak.
bukannya yang lain tidak.
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it's simply because we must affirm that we
are worthy of existing without fear,
are worthy of existing without fear,
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cuma memastikan bahwa kami pun layak hidup
tanpa rasa takut
tanpa rasa takut
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when so many things tell us we are not.
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saat orang lain beranggapan
kami tak layak.
kami tak layak.
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I want to live in a world where my son
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Saya ingin dunia dimana anak saya
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will not be presumed guilty
the moment he is born,
the moment he is born,
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tidak dianggap bersalah begitu dia
dilahirkan,
dilahirkan,
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where a toy in his hand isn't mistaken
for anything other than a toy.
for anything other than a toy.
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ketika mainan di tangannya tidak dianggap
bukan mainan.
bukan mainan.
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And I refuse to accept that we can't
build this world into something new,
build this world into something new,
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Dan saya menentang anggapan kita tak bisa
membangun dunia yang baru,
membangun dunia yang baru,
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some place where a child's name
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dunia dimana nama seorang anak
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doesn't have to be written
on a t-shirt, or a tombstone,
on a t-shirt, or a tombstone,
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tidak harus ditulis di kaos, atau
di batu nisan,
di batu nisan,
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where the value of someone's life
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dimana harga sebuah nyawa
04:56
isn't determined by anything other
than the fact that they had lungs,
than the fact that they had lungs,
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tidak ditentukan oleh hal lain selain
bahwa dia punya paru paru,
bahwa dia punya paru paru,
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a place where every single
one of us can breathe.
one of us can breathe.
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dimana semua orang dapat bernafas.
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Thank you.
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Terima kasih.
05:05
(Applause)
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(tepuk tangan)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Clint Smith - Poet, educatorClint Smith's work blends art and activism.
Why you should listen
Clint Smith is a writer, teacher and doctoral candidate at Harvard University studying education, incarceration and inequality. Previously, he taught high school English in Prince George’s County, Maryland where, in 2013, he was named the Christine D. Sarbanes Teacher of the Year by the Maryland Humanities Council.
Clint is a 2014 National Poetry Slam champion, an Individual World Poetry Slam Finalist, and author of the poetry collection Counting Descent. He has received fellowships from the National Science Foundation, Cave Canem and the Callaloo Creative Writing Workshop. His writing has appeared in The New Yorker, The Guardian, Boston Review, American Poetry Review, Harvard Educational Review and elsewhere. He was born and raised in New Orleans, LA.
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