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Michael Kimmel: Why gender equality is good for everyone — men included
麥可·基梅爾: 為什麼性別平等對大家都好 － 包含男性
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對，我們都知道那是一件該做的事，但是麥可·基梅爾為在家裡、在工作上的性別平等提供了驚人、有趣又實用的理由。性別平等不是一個零和遊戲，而是為大家帶來更多機會和快樂的雙贏局面。
Michael Kimmel - Sociologist
The author of "Angry White Men," Michael Kimmel is a pre-eminent scholar of men and masculinity. Full bio
The author of "Angry White Men," Michael Kimmel is a pre-eminent scholar of men and masculinity. Full bio
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I'm here to recruit men
to support gender equality.
to support gender equality.
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我在此邀請男士們支持性別平等。
00:16
(Cheers)
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(歡呼聲)
00:19
Wait, wait. What?
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等等、等等，什麼?
00:22
What do men have to do
with gender equality?
with gender equality?
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男士們和性別平等有什麼關係?
00:25
Gender equality is about women, right?
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性別平等只和女性有關，對吧?
00:27
I mean, the word gender is about women.
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我是說，性別這個詞和女性有關。
00:32
Actually, I'm even here speaking
as a middle class white man.
as a middle class white man.
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事實上，我以一位
中產階級男性的身分在此演講。
中產階級男性的身分在此演講。
00:36
Now, I wasn't always
a middle class white man.
a middle class white man.
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但我並非一直都是
中產階級的白人男性。
中產階級的白人男性。
00:39
It all happened for me about 30 years ago
when I was in graduate school,
when I was in graduate school,
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這件事是大約30年前
我在讀研究所時發生的，
我在讀研究所時發生的，
00:44
and a bunch of us graduate students
got together one day,
got together one day,
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有一天，我們一群研究生聚在一起，
00:48
and we said, you know,
there's an explosion
there's an explosion
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我們說，
女性主義理論的文章和思想
正如爆炸般蔓延，
正如爆炸般蔓延，
00:50
of writing and thinking
in feminist theory,
in feminist theory,
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00:54
but there's no courses yet.
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卻還沒有人開設相關課程。
00:56
So we did what graduate students
typically do in a situation like that.
typically do in a situation like that.
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所以我們做了研究生
一般在此情況下會做的事，
一般在此情況下會做的事，
00:59
We said, OK, let's have a study group.
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我們說，好，我們來成立一個讀書會，
01:02
We'll read a text, we'll talk about it,
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一起讀點文章、然後討論，
01:05
we'll have a potluck dinner.
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當然還有一些晚餐聚會。
01:06
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
01:08
So every week,
11 women and me got together.
11 women and me got together.
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所以每星期，我都和
11位女性聚在一起。
11位女性聚在一起。
01:11
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
01:14
We would read some text in feminist theory
and have a conversation about it.
and have a conversation about it.
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我們會讀一些女性主義理論
的文章，然後討論。
的文章，然後討論。
01:18
And during one of our conversations,
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在其中一次討論中，
01:20
I witnessed an interaction
that changed my life forever.
that changed my life forever.
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我看到一個從此改變我一生
的一個互動。
的一個互動。
01:25
It was a conversation between two women.
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那是兩個女性間的談話。
01:28
One of the women was white,
and one was black.
and one was black.
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其中一位是白人，另一位則是黑人。
01:32
And the white woman said --
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白人女性說 －
01:34
this is going to sound
very anachronistic now --
very anachronistic now --
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現在聽起來會覺得非常不合時宜 －
01:36
the white woman said, "All women
face the same oppression as women.
face the same oppression as women.
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白人女性說：「所有女人
都因女人的身分受到同樣的壓迫。
都因女人的身分受到同樣的壓迫。
01:42
All women are similarly
situated in patriarchy,
situated in patriarchy,
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所有女人在父權社會下都有類似處境，
01:45
and therefore all women have a kind
of intuitive solidarity or sisterhood."
of intuitive solidarity or sisterhood."
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因此所有女人都出於直覺地
有種團結或姐妹意識。」
有種團結或姐妹意識。」
01:50
And the black woman said,
"I'm not so sure.
"I'm not so sure.
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那位黑人女性說：「這我可不確定。
01:54
Let me ask you a question."
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我問你一個問題。」
01:56
So the black woman
says to the white woman,
says to the white woman,
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所以那位黑人女性對那位白人女性說：
01:59
"When you wake up in the morning
and you look in the mirror,
and you look in the mirror,
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「當你早上起來，往鏡子裡看，
你看到什麼?」
02:01
what do you see?"
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白人女性說：「我看到一個女人。」
02:03
And the white woman said, "I see a woman."
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02:05
And the black woman said,
"You see, that's the problem for me.
"You see, that's the problem for me.
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黑人女性說：「你看，對我而言，
那就是問題所在。
那就是問題所在。
02:09
Because when I wake up in the morning
and I look in the mirror," she said,
and I look in the mirror," she said,
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因我當我早上起來時，我往鏡子裡看，
我看到的是一個女黑人。
02:12
"I see a black woman.
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02:13
To me, race is visible. But to you,
race is invisible. You don't see it."
race is invisible. You don't see it."
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對我來說，種族是看得見的。
但對你來說，種族是隱形的。你看不見。」
但對你來說，種族是隱形的。你看不見。」
02:19
And then she said
something really startling.
something really startling.
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然後她接下來說的更令人吃驚。
02:22
She said, "That's how privilege works.
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她說，「特權就是這樣運作的，
02:25
Privilege is invisible
to those who have it."
to those who have it."
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擁有特權的人看不到它。」
02:28
It is a luxury, I will say
to the white people sitting in this room,
to the white people sitting in this room,
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我要對在座的白人說，
你們不用在生活中的每個時刻
你們不用在生活中的每個時刻
02:31
not to have to think about race
every split second of our lives.
every split second of our lives.
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思考種族這回事，是件很奢侈的事。
02:35
Privilege is invisible
to those who have it.
to those who have it.
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特權對於擁有者來說，是隱形的。
02:39
Now remember, I was
the only man in this group,
the only man in this group,
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記得嗎？我是這個團體唯一的男人，
02:41
so when I witnessed this, I went, "Oh no."
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當我目擊這一切時，
我心想：「喔，糟了。」
我心想：「喔，糟了。」
02:44
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
02:46
And somebody said,
"Well what was that reaction?"
"Well what was that reaction?"
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有人問：「你為什麼會有這種反應?」
02:48
And I said, "Well, when I wake up
in the morning and I look in the mirror,
in the morning and I look in the mirror,
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我回答：「嗯...因為當我
早上起來照鏡子時，
早上起來照鏡子時，
02:52
I see a human being.
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我看到的是一個人。
02:54
I'm kind of the generic person.
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我只是一個普通的人。
02:57
You know, I'm a middle class white man.
I have no race, no class, no gender.
I have no race, no class, no gender.
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我是一個中產階級白人，
沒有種族、沒有階級、沒有性別。
沒有種族、沒有階級、沒有性別。
03:01
I'm universally generalizable."
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是個舉世通用的身分。」
03:03
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
03:04
So I like to think that was the moment
I became a middle class white man,
I became a middle class white man,
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所以我喜歡這麼想：在那個時刻
我才成為一個中產階級白人，
我才成為一個中產階級白人，
階級、種族和性別不是只和別人有關，
03:08
that class and race and gender
were not about other people,
were not about other people,
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03:12
they were about me.
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它們也跟我有關。
03:14
I had to start thinking about them,
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我必須開始思考這些問題，
03:16
and it had been privilege that had
kept it invisible to me for so long.
kept it invisible to me for so long.
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因為特權讓我長久以來
一直看不見它們。
一直看不見它們。
03:21
Now, I wish I could tell you
this story ends 30 years ago
this story ends 30 years ago
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現在，我倒希望這個故事
就結束在30年前的那個小組討論，
就結束在30年前的那個小組討論，
03:23
in that little discussion group,
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03:25
but I was reminded of it quite recently
at my university where I teach.
at my university where I teach.
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但最近又在我任教的大學被提醒了。
03:29
I have a colleague, and she and I
both teach the sociology of gender course
both teach the sociology of gender course
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我有個同事，
她和我教同一堂性別社會學的課，
她和我教同一堂性別社會學的課，
開設在不同學期。
03:33
on alternate semesters.
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03:35
So she gives a guest lecture
for me when I teach.
for me when I teach.
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所以她在我的課上擔任客座講師，
03:37
I give a guest lecture
for her when she teaches.
for her when she teaches.
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我也在她的課上擔任客座講師。
03:39
So I walk into her class
to give a guest lecture,
to give a guest lecture,
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某次我走進她的班級當客座講師，
教室裡大約有300個學生，
03:43
about 300 students in the room,
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03:45
and as I walk in, one of the students
looks up and says,
looks up and says,
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而我走進去時，一個學生看到我就說，
03:48
"Oh, finally, an objective opinion."
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「喔，終於有客觀的意見了。」
03:52
All that semester, whenever
my colleague opened her mouth,
my colleague opened her mouth,
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那整個學期，我同事無論何時開口，
03:56
what my students saw was a woman.
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都提到她的學生看到的是一個女人。
03:58
I mean, if you were to say to my students,
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我意思是，如果你對我的學生說：
04:00
"There is structural inequality
based on gender in the United States,"
based on gender in the United States,"
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「美國在性別上有結構性的不平等，」
04:04
they'd say, "Well of course
you'd say that.
you'd say that.
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他們會說：「當然你會這麼說，
因為你是女人，你有偏見。」
04:06
You're a woman. You're biased."
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04:07
When I say it, they go,
"Wow, is that interesting.
"Wow, is that interesting.
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當我說的時候，他們會說，
「哇，這很有趣，
「哇，這很有趣，
那會出現在考題嗎？
『結構性』怎麼拼？」
『結構性』怎麼拼？」
04:10
Is that going to be on the test?
How do you spell 'structural'?"
How do you spell 'structural'?"
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04:13
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
04:15
So I hope you all can see,
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所以我希望你們都可以看到，
04:17
this is what objectivity looks like.
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客觀大概就長這樣。
04:20
(Laughter) (Applause)
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(笑聲)(掌聲)
04:24
Disembodied Western rationality.
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我代表了無形的西方理性。
04:27
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
順便提一下，我想那是
男人經常打領帶的原因。
男人經常打領帶的原因。
04:30
And that, by the way, is why I think
men so often wear ties.
men so often wear ties.
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04:34
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
04:36
Because if you are going to embody
disembodied Western rationality,
disembodied Western rationality,
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因為如果你要體現無形的西方理性，
04:40
you need a signifier,
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你需要一個信物，
04:42
and what could be a better signifier
of disembodied Western rationality
of disembodied Western rationality
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而對無形的西方理性而言，
還有什麼比這個更好的信物 －
還有什麼比這個更好的信物 －
04:46
than a garment that at one end is a noose
and the other end points to the genitals?
and the other end points to the genitals?
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把一端打結成絞索，
另一端則指著生殖器的東西?
另一端則指著生殖器的東西?
04:50
(Laughter) (Applause)
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(笑聲)(掌聲)
04:57
That is mind-body dualism right there.
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這就是身心二元論。
05:04
So making gender visible to men
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讓男人看到性別
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is the first step to engaging men
to support gender equality.
to support gender equality.
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是讓他們支持男女平等的第一步。
05:13
Now, when men first hear
about gender equality,
about gender equality,
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當男人第一次聽到性別平等，
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when they first start thinking about it,
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當他們開始思考這個議題，
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they often think, many men think,
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他們通常認為 － 許多男人認為，
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well, that's right,
that's fair, that's just,
that's fair, that's just,
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對啊，那樣才對，那是公平、公正，
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that's the ethical imperative.
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那是道德義務。
05:27
But not all men.
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但並非所有男人。
05:28
Some men think --
the lightning bolt goes off,
the lightning bolt goes off,
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有些男人認為 － 閃電熄滅了，
05:31
and they go, "Oh my God,
yes, gender equality,"
yes, gender equality,"
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他們會想：「我的天，對，性別平等」
05:34
and they will immediately begin
to mansplain to you your oppression.
to mansplain to you your oppression.
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然後立刻開始搬出男性至上的觀點
對你們進行壓迫。
對你們進行壓迫。
05:39
They see supporting gender equality
something akin to the cavalry,
something akin to the cavalry,
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他們認為支持性別平等等同苦難，
05:44
like, "Thanks very much for bringing this
to our attention, ladies,
to our attention, ladies,
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他們會想，「女士們，感謝你們
提出這個引起我們的注意，
提出這個引起我們的注意，
05:47
we'll take it from here."
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我們會看著辦。」
05:49
This results in a syndrome that I like
to call 'premature self-congratulation.'
to call 'premature self-congratulation.'
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形成一種我喜歡稱為
「過早沾沾自喜」的症狀。
「過早沾沾自喜」的症狀。
05:53
(Laughter) (Applause)
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(笑聲)(掌聲)
05:58
There's another group, though,
that actively resists gender equality,
that actively resists gender equality,
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當然還有一群人，積極打壓性別平等，
06:02
that sees gender equality
as something that is detrimental to men.
as something that is detrimental to men.
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他們將性別平等視為一種
對男人有害的東西。
對男人有害的東西。
06:07
I was on a TV talk show
opposite four white men.
opposite four white men.
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我曾在一個電視談話節目
面對四個白人男性。
面對四個白人男性。
06:11
This is the beginning of the book
I wrote, 'Angry White Men.'
I wrote, 'Angry White Men.'
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這是日後我寫下《憤怒的白人男性》
這本書的起源。
這本書的起源。
06:14
These were four angry white men
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四個憤怒的白人男性，
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who believed that they,
white men in America,
white men in America,
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相信他們這些美國白人男性，
06:20
were the victims of reverse discrimination
in the workplace.
in the workplace.
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是工作場合裡逆向性別歧視的受害者。
06:25
And they all told stories
about how they were qualified for jobs,
about how they were qualified for jobs,
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他們訴說自己如何勝任一些工作、
06:28
qualified for promotions,
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擁有升遷的資格，
06:30
they didn't get them,
they were really angry.
they were really angry.
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卻沒有得到機會，他們非常生氣。
06:32
And the reason I'm telling you this
is I want you to hear the title
is I want you to hear the title
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我之所以告訴各位這件事，
是想讓大家聽聽這個節目的名稱。
是想讓大家聽聽這個節目的名稱。
06:35
of this particular show.
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06:37
It was a quote from one of the men,
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那是引述自其中一位的話，
06:39
and the quote was,
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而這句話是：
06:40
"A Black Woman Stole My Job."
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「一個女黑人偷了我的工作。」
他們每個都訴說自己的故事，
06:44
And they all told their stories,
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如何勝任工作、如何有資格升遷
06:45
qualified for jobs,
qualified for promotions,
qualified for promotions,
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卻得不到，非常生氣。
06:48
didn't get it, really angry.
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然後輪到我說話，
06:49
And then it was my turn to speak,
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06:51
and I said, "I have
just one question for you guys,
just one question for you guys,
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我說：「我對你們只有一個問題，
06:53
and it's about the title of the show,
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就是這個節目的名稱，
06:56
'A Black Woman Stole My Job.'
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『一個女黑人偷了我的工作』
06:58
Actually, it's about
one word in the title.
one word in the title.
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實際上，我的問題在其中一個詞。
07:01
I want to know about the word 'my.'
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我想知道的是『我的』這個詞，
07:03
Where did you get the idea
it was your job?
it was your job?
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你為什麼會認為這是你的工作?
07:07
Why isn't the title of the show,
'A Black Woman Got the Job?'
'A Black Woman Got the Job?'
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為什麼節目名稱不是
『一位黑人女性得到那份工作』?
『一位黑人女性得到那份工作』?
07:10
or 'A Black Woman Got A Job?'"
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或是『一位黑人女性得到一份工作』？
07:13
Because without confronting
men's sense of entitlement,
men's sense of entitlement,
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因為如果不是
和男人的權力感有所衝突，
和男人的權力感有所衝突，
07:16
I don't think we'll ever understand
why so many men resist gender equality.
why so many men resist gender equality.
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我不認為我們真能了解
為何這麼多人打壓性別平等。
為何這麼多人打壓性別平等。
07:20
(Applause)
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(掌聲)
07:27
Look, we think this
is a level playing field,
is a level playing field,
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請注意，我們認為這樣
才是公平的競爭環境，
才是公平的競爭環境，
07:30
so any policy that tilts it
even a little bit,
even a little bit,
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所以任何政策只要讓它偏移一點，
07:32
we think, "Oh my God,
water's rushing uphill.
water's rushing uphill.
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我們就想：「我的天，水往上流了。
這是對我們的逆向歧視。」
07:34
It's reverse discrimination against us."
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07:36
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
07:37
So let me be very clear:
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所以我要非常明白地說：
07:39
white men in Europe and the United States
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在歐洲和美國的白人男性，
07:42
are the beneficiaries of the single
greatest affirmative action program
greatest affirmative action program
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是全世界的歷史上最大的
平權活動中的受益者。
平權活動中的受益者。
07:46
in the history of the world.
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07:48
It is called "the history of the world."
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這說的是「全世界的歷史」。
07:50
(Laughter) (Applause)
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(笑聲)(掌聲)
07:56
So, now I've established
some of the obstacles to engaging men,
some of the obstacles to engaging men,
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所以，現在我已經製造了
一些吸引男性的阻礙，
一些吸引男性的阻礙，
08:01
but why should we support gender equality?
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但為什麼我們應該支持性別平等?
08:03
Of course, it's fair,
it's right and it's just.
it's right and it's just.
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當然，那才公平，
那是正確的、正義的事。
那是正確的、正義的事。
08:07
But more than that,
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但不僅如此，
08:08
gender equality is also
in our interest as men.
in our interest as men.
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性別平等也對男人有利。
08:13
If you listen to what men say
about what they want in their lives,
about what they want in their lives,
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如果你聽聽男人談論自己
在生命中想要的東西，
在生命中想要的東西，
08:18
gender equality is actually a way
for us to get the lives we want to live.
for us to get the lives we want to live.
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性別平等其實是給予我們
理想生活的一種方式。
理想生活的一種方式。
08:23
Gender equality is good for countries.
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性別平等對國家有利。
08:27
It turns out, according to most studies,
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根據大多數研究的結果，
08:31
that those countries
that are the most gender equal
that are the most gender equal
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性別最平等的國家
08:34
are also the countries that score highest
on the happiness scale.
on the happiness scale.
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同時也是快樂指數最高的國家。
08:39
And that's not just because
they're all in Europe.
they're all in Europe.
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而且不是因為他們都在歐洲。
08:41
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
08:42
Even within Europe, those countries
that are more gender equal
that are more gender equal
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即使在歐洲的國家中，
性別比較平等的國家
性別比較平等的國家
08:46
also have the highest levels of happiness.
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也是快樂指數最高的。
08:50
It is also good for companies.
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對公司也有好處。
08:52
Research by Catalyst and others
has shown conclusively
has shown conclusively
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由Catalyst和其他機構
所做的研結果確切顯示
所做的研結果確切顯示
08:56
that the more gender-equal companies are,
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公司越是性別平等，
09:00
the better it is for workers,
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對員工的結果越好，
09:04
the happier their labor force is.
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因為他們的員工會越快樂。
09:06
They have lower job turnover.
They have lower levels of attrition.
They have lower levels of attrition.
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他們的流動率較低、工作摩擦較少。
09:10
They have an easier time recruiting.
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他們也比較容易招募到員工。
09:12
They have higher rates of retention,
higher job satisfaction,
higher job satisfaction,
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他們擁有較高的
員工留職率、工作滿意度、
員工留職率、工作滿意度、
09:15
higher rates of productivity.
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生產力也較高。
09:17
So the question I'm often asked
in companies is,
in companies is,
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所以企業經理人常常問我的問題是：
09:20
"Boy, this gender equality thing,
that's really going to be expensive, huh?"
that's really going to be expensive, huh?"
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「性別平等啊，那要花很多錢，是吧?」
09:24
And I say, "Oh no, in fact,
what you have to start calculating
what you have to start calculating
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然後我說：「喔不，事實上，
你得開始算算
你得開始算算
09:28
is how much gender inequality
is already costing you.
is already costing you.
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不這麼做已經花了你們多少錢，
09:32
It is extremely expensive."
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那才是最貴的花費。」
09:34
So it is good for business.
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所以性別平等對企業是有利的。
09:37
And the other thing is, it's good for men.
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另一個好處是，它也對男人有利。
09:41
It is good for the kind of lives
we want to live,
we want to live,
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它有利於我們想要過的生活，
09:44
because young men especially
have changed enormously,
have changed enormously,
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因為現在的年輕男人
和過去有很大的不同，
和過去有很大的不同，
09:48
and they want to have lives
that are animated
that are animated
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他們渴望和孩子擁有很棒的親子關係，
09:51
by terrific relationships
with their children.
with their children.
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來達成美好而動人的生活。
09:53
They expect their partners,
their spouses, their wives,
their spouses, their wives,
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他們期待他們的伴侶、配偶、妻子
09:57
to work outside the home
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外出工作，
09:58
and be just as committed
to their careers as they are.
to their careers as they are.
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和他們一樣專注於事業。
10:02
I was talking, to give you
an illustration of this change --
an illustration of this change --
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現在給各位一個
能說明這個轉變的案例 －
能說明這個轉變的案例 －
10:06
Some of you may remember this.
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你們有些人可能記得這個。
10:08
When I was a lot younger,
there was a riddle that was posed to us.
there was a riddle that was posed to us.
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在我年輕許多時，曾被問過一個謎題，
10:13
Some of you may wince
to remember this riddle.
to remember this riddle.
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有些人可能會皺起眉頭、不太記得，
10:15
This riddle went something like this.
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但這個謎題是這樣的。
10:18
A man and his son
are driving on the freeway,
are driving on the freeway,
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一個男人和他兒子行駛於高速公路上，
10:21
and they're in a terrible accident,
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他們出了一場嚴重車禍，
10:23
and the father is killed,
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父親當場死亡，
10:25
and the son is brought
to the hospital emergency room,
to the hospital emergency room,
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兒子被送到一家醫院的急診室，
10:28
and as they're bringing the son
into the hospital emergency room,
into the hospital emergency room,
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而當他們將兒子推進急診室時，
10:32
the emergency room attending physician
sees the boy and says,
sees the boy and says,
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急診室的值班醫師看了這個男孩後說，
10:35
"Oh, I can't treat him, that's my son."
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「哦，我不能治療他，他是我兒子。」
10:38
How is this possible?
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這怎麼可能呢?
10:40
We were flummoxed by this.
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這個謎題讓我們非常困惑，
10:42
We could not figure this out.
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我們無法找出答案。
10:44
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
10:46
Well, I decided to do a little experiment
with my 16-year old son.
with my 16-year old son.
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所以，我決定對16歲的兒子
進行一個小實驗，
進行一個小實驗，
10:49
He had a bunch of his friends
hanging out at the house
hanging out at the house
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最近某天他和一群朋友待在家裡，
10:53
watching a game on TV recently.
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看著電視裡的一場最近的比賽，
10:55
So I decided I would pose
this riddle to them,
this riddle to them,
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我決定要問他們這個謎題，
10:57
just to see, to gauge the level of change.
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純粹為了測量一下這個轉變的程度。
11:00
Well, 16-year-old boys,
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結果，這些16歲的男孩們，
11:02
they immediately turned to me
and said, "It's his mom." Right?
and said, "It's his mom." Right?
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立即對我說：「那是他媽媽，對吧?」
11:06
No problem. Just like that.
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毫無猶豫、就那樣回答。
11:08
Except for my son, who said,
"Well, he could have two dads."
"Well, he could have two dads."
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除了我兒子，他說：
「喔，他也可能有兩個爸爸。」
「喔，他也可能有兩個爸爸。」
11:11
(Laughter) (Applause)
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(笑聲)(掌聲)
11:17
That's an index, an indicator
of how things have changed.
of how things have changed.
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這是一個指標，說明事情的轉變。
11:21
Younger men today expect
to be able to balance work and family.
to be able to balance work and family.
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今天的年輕男人希望
能在工作和家庭間取得平衡。
能在工作和家庭間取得平衡。
11:26
They want to be dual-career,
dual-carer couples.
dual-carer couples.
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他們想要兩人都有事業、
都能顧家的伴侶關係。
都能顧家的伴侶關係。
11:32
They want to be able to balance
work and family with their partners.
work and family with their partners.
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他們想要和伴侶一起
取得工作和家庭的平衡。
取得工作和家庭的平衡。
11:35
They want to be involved fathers.
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他們想當陪著孩子長大的父親。
11:37
Now, it turns out
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現在，結果發現，
11:39
that the more egalitarian
our relationships,
our relationships,
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我們的關係越平等，
11:43
the happier both partners are.
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伴侶之間就越快樂。
11:46
Data from psychologists and sociologists
are quite persuasive here.
are quite persuasive here.
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對此，心理學家和社會學家
的數據相當有說服力。
的數據相當有說服力。
11:50
I think we have the persuasive numbers,
the data, to prove to men
the data, to prove to men
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我認為我們已頗具說服力的
數字、數據，來對男人證明
數字、數據，來對男人證明
11:56
that gender equality
is not a zero-sum game, but a win-win.
is not a zero-sum game, but a win-win.
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性別平等不是一個零和遊戲、
而是雙贏局面。
而是雙贏局面。
12:00
Here's what the data show.
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以下是數據告訴我們的：
12:02
Now, when men begin
the process of engaging
the process of engaging
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當男人開始參與這個
12:08
with balancing work and family,
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平衡工作和家庭的過程，
12:09
we often have two phrases
that we use to describe what we do.
that we use to describe what we do.
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我們經常用兩個詞語描繪該做的事 －
12:13
We pitch in and we help out.
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努力貢獻、好好幫忙。
12:15
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
12:16
And I'm going to propose
something a little bit more radical,
something a little bit more radical,
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現在我要提一個更激進的，
12:19
one word: "share."
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一個詞：「分擔」
12:21
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
12:22
Because here's what the data show:
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因為數據顯示：
12:24
when men share housework and childcare,
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當男人分擔家事和照顧小孩，
12:26
their children do better in school.
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他們的孩子在學校成績越好。
12:29
Their children have lower rates
of absenteeism,
of absenteeism,
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他們的孩子曠課率較低、
12:32
higher rates of achievement.
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較能擁有成就感，
12:33
They are less likely
to be diagnosed with ADHD.
to be diagnosed with ADHD.
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被診斷為注意力不足過動症(ADHD)
的機率較低。
的機率較低。
12:36
They are less likely
to see a child psychiatrist.
to see a child psychiatrist.
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他們比較不需要看兒童精神醫師、
12:39
They are less likely
to be put on medication.
to be put on medication.
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也比較不需要藥物。
12:42
So when men share housework and childcare,
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所以當男人分擔家事和照顧小孩，
12:45
their children are happier and healthier,
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他們的孩子比較快樂、比較健康，
12:48
and men want this.
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這當然是男人想要的。
12:51
When men share housework and childcare,
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當男人分擔家事和照顧小孩，
12:53
their wives are happier. Duh.
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他們的老婆比較快樂 － 廢話。
12:57
Not only that, their wives are healthier.
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不僅如此，他們的老婆也比較健康。
13:00
Their wives are less likely
to see a therapist,
to see a therapist,
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他們的老婆比較不需要心理醫生、
13:02
less likely to be diagnosed
with depression,
with depression,
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比較不會得憂鬱症、
13:04
less likely to be put on medication,
more likely to go to the gym,
more likely to go to the gym,
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比較不需要依賴藥物、
比較會去健身房運動、
比較會去健身房運動、
13:08
report higher levels
of marital satisfaction.
of marital satisfaction.
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也反應出較高的婚姻滿意度。
13:11
So when men share housework and childcare,
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所以當男人分擔家事和照顧小孩，
13:13
their wives are happier and healthier,
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他們的老婆也會比較快樂、健康。
13:15
and men certainly want this as well.
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這當然也是男人想要的。
13:18
When men share housework and childcare,
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當男人分擔家事和照顧小孩，
13:20
the men are healthier.
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他們自己也比較健康。
13:22
They smoke less, drink less,
take recreational drugs less often.
take recreational drugs less often.
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他們較少抽煙、較少喝酒、
較少使用娛樂性藥物。
較少使用娛樂性藥物。
13:26
They are less likely to go to the ER
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他們比較不會進急診室，
13:29
but more like to go to a doctor
for routine screenings.
for routine screenings.
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但比較會去做例行健康檢查。
13:32
They are less likely to see a therapist,
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他們比較不需要看心理醫生、
13:34
less likely to be diagnosed
with depression,
with depression,
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比較不會得憂鬱症、
13:36
less likely to be taking
prescription medication.
prescription medication.
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也比較不需要長期藥物治療。
13:39
So when men share housework and childcare,
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所以當男人分擔家事和照顧小孩，
13:41
the men are happier and healthier.
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男人也比較快樂、比較健康。
13:44
And who wouldn't want that?
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誰會不想要這個呢?
13:46
And finally,
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最後，
13:47
when men share housework and childcare,
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當男人分擔家事和照顧小孩，
13:49
they have more sex.
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他們有更多性生活。
13:51
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
13:52
Now, of these four fascinating findings,
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現在，在這四個迷人的發現裡，
13:55
which one do you think
Men's Health magazine put on its cover?
Men's Health magazine put on its cover?
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你認為哪一個該被
《男人健康》雜誌放上封面?
《男人健康》雜誌放上封面?
13:57
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
14:00
"Housework Makes Her Horny.
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「家事讓她有性緻，
14:03
(Not When She Does It.)"
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但不是讓她做。」
14:05
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
14:06
Now, I will say,
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現在，我想說一件事，
14:09
just to remind the men in the audience,
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純粹為了提醒在座的男士，
14:12
these data were collected
over a really long period of time,
over a really long period of time,
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這些數據是長時間收集而來的，
14:15
so I don't want listeners to say,
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所以希望聽到的人不要說：
14:18
"Hmm, OK, I think
I'll do the dishes tonight."
I'll do the dishes tonight."
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「嗯，好的，我想今晚我會洗碗。」
14:21
These data were collected
over a really long period of time.
over a really long period of time.
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這些數據是長時間收集而來的。
14:25
But I think it shows something important,
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但我想這顯示了一件很重要的事，
14:29
that when Men's Health magazine
put it on their cover,
put it on their cover,
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就是當《男性健康》雜誌
將此放上封面時，
將此放上封面時，
14:31
they also called,
you'll love this, "Choreplay."
you'll love this, "Choreplay."
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他們稱之為－我想妳們會喜歡：
「家事前戲」。
「家事前戲」。
14:35
So, what we found
is something really important,
is something really important,
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所以，我們發現非常重要的是，
14:40
that gender equality
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性別平等
14:42
is in the interest of countries,
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相當有利於國家、
14:45
of companies, and of men,
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企業、男人、
14:48
and their children and their partners,
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還有他們的孩子跟伴侶。
14:51
that gender equality
is not a zero-sum game.
is not a zero-sum game.
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性別平等不是一個零和遊戲；
14:53
It's not a win-lose.
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不是你輸我贏。
14:54
It is a win-win for everyone.
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它對所有人而言，都是雙贏。
14:58
And what we also know
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我們也知道的是，
15:00
is we cannot fully empower women and girls
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除非我們讓所有男性都參與，
15:04
unless we engage boys and men.
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否則很難真正達到男女平權。
15:06
We know this.
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這我們都知道。
15:09
And my position is
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所以我的立場是，
15:10
that men need the very things
that women have identified
that women have identified
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男人需要參與那些女人列為
15:15
that they need to live the lives
they say they want to live
they say they want to live
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讓她們能過想過的生活所需做的事，
15:18
in order to live the lives
that we say we want to live.
that we say we want to live.
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來讓我們能過自己想過的生活。
15:22
In 1915, on the eve of one
of the great suffrage demonstrations
of the great suffrage demonstrations
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1915年，在一個
偉大的選舉權遊行示威前夕，
偉大的選舉權遊行示威前夕，
15:27
down Fifth Avenue in New York City,
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在紐約市第五大道，
15:29
a writer in New York
wrote an article in a magazine,
wrote an article in a magazine,
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一位紐約的作者
在一本雜誌上寫了一篇文章，
在一本雜誌上寫了一篇文章，
15:33
and the title of the article was,
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文章的題目是
15:36
"Feminism for Men."
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《為男人好的女性主義》
15:39
And this was the first line
of that article:
of that article:
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這是那篇文章的第一句話：
15:42
"Feminism will make it possible
for the first time for men to be free."
for the first time for men to be free."
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「女性主義將是有史以來第一次，
讓男人的自由有可能實現。」
讓男人的自由有可能實現。」
15:47
Thank you.
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謝謝！
15:48
(Applause)
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(掌聲)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Michael Kimmel - SociologistThe author of "Angry White Men," Michael Kimmel is a pre-eminent scholar of men and masculinity.
Why you should listen
Sociologist Michael Kimmel is among the leading researchers and writers on men and masculinity in the world. He's the executive director of the Center for the Study of Men and Masculinities at Stony Brook University, where he is also Distinguished University Professor of Sociology and Gender Studies.
He is the author of many books, including Manhood in America, Angry White Men, and the best seller Guyland: The Perilous World Where Boys Become Men. An activist for gender equality for more than 30 years, he was recently called "the world's preeminent male feminist" by the Guardian.
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