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Joachim de Posada: Don't eat the marshmallow!
Joachim de Posada: Mos e ha marshmalloun!
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Ne kete fjalim te shkurter nga TED U, Joachim de Posada ndan nje eksperiment kyc mbi kenaqjen e vonuar -- dhe se si ajo mund te parashikoje suksesin ne te ardhmen. Me video te cmueshme te femijeve qe perpiqen me force te mos hane marshmalloun.
Joachim de Posada - Speaker and author
Joachim de Posada was a speaker and motivational coach. He was the author of "How to Survive Among the Piranhas" and "Don't Eat the Marshmallow ... Yet." Full bio
Joachim de Posada was a speaker and motivational coach. He was the author of "How to Survive Among the Piranhas" and "Don't Eat the Marshmallow ... Yet." Full bio
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I'm here because I have a very important message:
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Jam ketu sepse kam nje mesazh shume te rendesishem:
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I think we have found
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Mendoj se kemi gjetur
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the most important factor for success.
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faktorin me te rendesishem per sukses.
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And it was found close to here, Stanford.
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Dhe eshte gjetur ketu afer, ne Stanford.
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Psychology professor took kids that were four years old
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Profesori i psikologjise mori disa femije kater vjec
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and put them in a room all by themselves.
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dhe i vendosi ata ne nje dhome, vetem.
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And he would tell the child, a four-year-old kid,
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I tha femijes, nje femije kater vjec,
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"Johnny, I am going to leave you here with a marshmallow
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"Johnny, une do te le ty ketu se bashku me nje marshmallou
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for 15 minutes.
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per 15 minuta.
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If, after I come back, this marshmallow is here,
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Nese, pasi te kthehem, kjo marshmallou vazhdon te jete ketu,
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you will get another one. So you will have two."
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ti do marresh dhe nje tjeter. Pra do kesh dy."
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To tell a four-year-old kid to wait 15 minutes
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Ti thuash nje femije kater vjecar te prese per 15 minuta
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for something that they like,
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per dicka qe ata e pelqejne
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is equivalent to telling us, "We'll bring you coffee in two hours."
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eshte i barasvlefshem si te na thuash ne, "Do te te sjellim kafe per dy ore."
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(Laughter)
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(Te qeshura)
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Exact equivalent.
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Ekzaktesisht e barasvlefshme.
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So what happened when the professor left the room?
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Pra cfare ndodhi kur profesori u largua?
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As soon as the door closed...
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Sapo dera u mbyll..
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two out of three ate the marshmallow.
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dy nga tre e hengren marshmallou.
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Five seconds, 10 seconds, 40 seconds, 50 seconds,
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Pese sekonda, 10 sekonda, 40 sekonda, 50 sekonda,
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two minutes, four minutes, eight minutes.
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dy minuta, kater minuta, tete minuta,
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Some lasted 14-and-a-half minutes.
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Disa duruan 14 minuta e gjysem.
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(Laughter)
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(Te qeshura)
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Couldn't do it. Could not wait.
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Nuk ja dolen. Nuk mund te prisnin.
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What's interesting is that one out of three
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Interesantja eshte se nje nga tre
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would look at the marshmallow and go like this ...
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e shikonte xhelatinen dhe bente keshtu..
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Would look at it.
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E shikonte.
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Put it back.
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E vendoste prape ne vend.
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They would walk around. They would play with their skirts and pants.
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Ecnin rrotull. Luanin me fundin dhe pantallonat e tyre.
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That child already, at four, understood
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Ai femije tashme, kater vjec, e kuptonte
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the most important principle for success,
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parimin kryesor te suksesit
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which is the ability to delay gratification.
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qe eshte aftesia per te vonuar kenaqjen.
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Self-discipline:
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Vete-disipline:
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the most important factor for success.
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faktori kryesor i suksesit.
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15 years later, 14 or 15 years later,
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15 vjet me vone, 14 ose 15 vjet me vone,
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follow-up study.
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ndjekja e studimit.
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What did they find?
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Cfare zbuluan?
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They went to look for these kids who were now 18 and 19.
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Vajten te kerkonin per keta femijet te cilet tani ishin 18 dhe 19.
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And they found that 100 percent
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Dhe zbuluan se 100 perqind
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of the children that had not eaten the marshmallow were successful.
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te femijeve qe nuk e kishin ngrene marshmallou ishin te suksesshem.
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They had good grades. They were doing wonderful.
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Ata kishin nota te mira. Po ja dilnin mrekullueshem.
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They were happy. They had their plans.
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Ata ishin te lumtur. Kishin planet e tyre.
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They had good relationships with the teachers, students.
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Kishin marredhenie te mira me mesuesit dhe studentet.
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They were doing fine.
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Po ja dilnin shume mire.
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A great percentage of the kids that ate the marshmallow,
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Nje perqindje e mire e atyre femijve qe e hengren marshmalloun,
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they were in trouble.
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ishin ne telashe.
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They did not make it to university.
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Nuk kaluan dot ne universitet.
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They had bad grades. Some of them dropped out.
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Kishin nota te ulta. Disa nga ata e kishin lene shkollen.
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A few were still there with bad grades.
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Disa ishin ende aty me nota te ulta.
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A few had good grades.
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Disa kishin nota te mira.
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I had a question in my mind: Would Hispanic kids
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Kisha nje pyetje ne mendjen time: A do reagonin
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react the same way as the American kids?
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dhe femijet hispanike ne te njejten menyre si femijet amerikane?
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So I went to Colombia. And I reproduced the experiment.
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Ndaj u nisa per ne Kolumbi. Dhe riprodhova eksperimentin.
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And it was very funny. I used four, five and six years old kids.
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Ishte shume e kendshme. Perdora femije te moshave kater, pese dhe gjashte vjec.
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And let me show you what happened.
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Me lejoni tju tregoj se cfare ndodhi.
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(Spanish) (Laughter)
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(Spanjisht) (Te qeshura)
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So what happened in Colombia?
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Pra cfare ndodhi ne Kolumbi?
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Hispanic kids, two out of three ate the marshmallow;
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Femije hispanik, dy nga tre e hengren marshmalloun;
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one out of three did not.
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nje nga tre nuk e hengri.
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This little girl was interesting;
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Kjo vajza vogel ishte interesante;
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she ate the inside of the marshmallow.
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ajo hengri pjesen e brendshme te marshmallous.
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(Laughter)
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(Te qeshura)
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In other words, she wanted us to think that she had not eaten it, so she would get two.
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Me pak fjale, ajo donte te na bente te mendonim se ajo nuk e kish ngrene ne menyre qe te merrte dy.
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But she ate it.
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Por e hengri.
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So we know she'll be successful. But we have to watch her.
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Pra ne e dime qe ajo do jete e suksesshme. Por duhet ta vezhgojme.
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(Laughter)
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(Te qeshura)
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She should not go into banking, for example,
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Per shembull ajo nuk duhet te futet ne fushen e bankave,
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or work at a cash register.
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ose te punoje te arka e pagesave.
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But she will be successful.
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Por ajo do jete e suksesshme.
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And this applies for everything. Even in sales.
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Dhe kjo aplikohet ne gjithcka. Madje dhe ne shitje.
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The sales person that --
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Personi i shitjeve qe--
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the customer says, "I want that." And the person says, "Okay, here you are."
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ku klienti thote, "Dua ate." dhe personi i thote, "Ne rregull ja ku e ke."
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That person ate the marshmallow.
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Ai person e hengri marshmalloun.
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If the sales person says, "Wait a second.
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Nese personi i shitjeve thote, "Prit nje sekonde.
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Let me ask you a few questions to see if this is a good choice."
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Me lejoni tju bej disa pyetje ne menyre qe te shohim nese kjo eshte nje zgjedhje e mire."
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Then you sell a lot more.
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Atehere ju shisni me shume.
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So this has applications in all walks of life.
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Pra kjo aplikohet ne shume fusha te jetes.
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I end with -- the Koreans did this.
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E perfundoj me --Koreanet e bene kete.
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You know what? This is so good
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E dini cfare? Kjo eshte aq e mire
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that we want a marshmallow book for children.
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sa ne na duhet nje liber marshmallou per femijet.
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We did one for children. And now it is all over Korea.
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E krijuam nje per femijet. Dhe tani eshte ne te gjithe Korene.
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They are teaching these kids exactly this principle.
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Po i mesojne femijet ekzaktesisht me kete parim.
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And we need to learn that principle here in the States,
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Dhe ne na duhet te mesojme ate parim ketu ne Shtetet e Bashkuara,
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because we have a big debt.
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sepse kemi nje borxh te madh.
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We are eating more marshmallows than we are producing.
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Jemi duke ngrene me shume marshmallou sesa po prodhojme.
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Thank you so much.
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Ju faleminderit shume.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Joachim de Posada - Speaker and authorJoachim de Posada was a speaker and motivational coach. He was the author of "How to Survive Among the Piranhas" and "Don't Eat the Marshmallow ... Yet."
Why you should listen
Joachim de Posada's infectious energy and humor turned him into a popular motivational coach. Working in Spanish and English, he helped companies and teams find deep and lasting reasons to succeed. His books included How to Survive Among the Piranhas and his latest, No te comas el marshmallow ... todavia, or Don't Eat the Marshmallow ... Yet. (He had recently updated the book for the recession, calling it Don't Eat the Marshmallow ... Ever.)
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