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Anne Lamott: 12 truths I learned from life and writing
Ana Lamot (Anne Lamott): 12 istina koje sam naučila od života i pisanja
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Nekoliko dana pre nego što je napunila 61 godinu, pisac Ana Lamot je odlučila da napiše sve što je znala sa sigurnošću. Ona uranja u nijanse svega onoga što znači biti čovek koji živi u zbunjujućem, prelepom, emocionalnom svetu, nudeći svoju karakterističnu mudrost koja afirmiše život i humor o porodici, pisanju, značenju boga, smrti i drugo.
Anne Lamott - Novelist, essayist
With disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos. Full bio
With disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos. Full bio
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00:13
My seven-year-old grandson
sleeps just down the hall from me,
sleeps just down the hall from me,
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Moj sedmogodišnji unuk spava
dole niz hodnik od mene
dole niz hodnik od mene
00:16
and he wakes up a lot of mornings
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i često ujutru kada se probudi
00:18
and he says,
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kaže:
00:19
"You know, this could be
the best day ever."
the best day ever."
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„Znaš, ovo bi mogao da bude
najbolji dan ikada.“
najbolji dan ikada.“
00:22
And other times,
in the middle of the night,
in the middle of the night,
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Drugi put, u sred noći
00:24
he calls out in a tremulous voice,
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doziva me drhtavim glasom,
00:27
"Nana, will you ever get sick and die?"
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„Bako, da li ćeš se ti ikada razboleti
i umreti?“
i umreti?“
00:31
I think this pretty much says it for me
and most of the people I know,
and most of the people I know,
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Mislim da ovo prilično očigledno govori
o meni i ljudima koje poznajem,
o meni i ljudima koje poznajem,
00:35
that we're a mixed grill
of happy anticipation
of happy anticipation
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da smo mešovit roštilj srećnog iščekivanja
00:38
and dread.
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i očaja.
00:40
So I sat down a few days
before my 61st birthday,
before my 61st birthday,
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Pa sam ja sela nekoliko dana pre mog
61. rođendana,
61. rođendana,
00:44
and I decided to compile a list
of everything I know for sure.
of everything I know for sure.
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i odlučila sam da sastavim listu
svega onoga što znam sa sigurnošću.
svega onoga što znam sa sigurnošću.
00:50
There's so little truth
in the popular culture,
in the popular culture,
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Toliko je malo istine u popularnoj kulturi
00:53
and it's good to be sure of a few things.
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i dobra je stvar kada ste sigurni
u nekoliko stvari.
u nekoliko stvari.
00:57
For instance, I am no longer 47,
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Na primer, ja više nemam 47 godina,
01:00
although this is the age I feel,
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iako osećam da su to moje godine
01:03
and the age I like to think
of myself as being.
of myself as being.
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i godine koje volim da verujem da imam.
01:06
My friend Paul used to say in his late 70s
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Moj prijatelj Pol je govorio
u svojim kasnim 70-im
u svojim kasnim 70-im
01:09
that he felt like a young man
with something really wrong with him.
with something really wrong with him.
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da se osećao kao mladić
s kojim nešto ozbiljno nije u redu.
s kojim nešto ozbiljno nije u redu.
01:13
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:17
Our true person is outside
of time and space,
of time and space,
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Naša istinska ličnost je izvan prostora
i vremena,
i vremena,
01:19
but looking at the paperwork,
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ali gledajući u papirologiju,
01:21
I can, in fact, see
that I was born in 1954.
that I was born in 1954.
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ja mogu, zapravo, da vidim
da sam rođena u 1954. godini.
da sam rođena u 1954. godini.
01:25
My inside self is outside
of time and space.
of time and space.
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Moje unutrašnje biće je izvan prostora
i vremena.
i vremena.
01:28
It doesn't have an age.
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Ono nema godine.
01:30
I'm every age I've ever been,
and so are you,
and so are you,
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Ja sam sve godine koje sam ikada bila,
i vi ste takođe,
i vi ste takođe,
01:33
although I can't help
mentioning as an aside
mentioning as an aside
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iako ne mogu a da ne pomenem dodatno
01:36
that it might have been helpful
if I hadn't followed
if I hadn't followed
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da bi možda bilo od pomoći
da nisam pratila
da nisam pratila
01:39
the skin care rules of the '60s,
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pravila za negu kože iz '60-ih,
01:41
which involved getting
as much sun as possible
as much sun as possible
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koja su uključivala izlaganje suncu
što je više moguće
što je više moguće
01:45
while slathered in baby oil
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dok biste bili potpoljeni u ulje za bebe
01:47
and basking in the glow
of a tinfoil reflector shield.
of a tinfoil reflector shield.
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i tako se grejali u sjaju reflektora
od folije.
od folije.
01:51
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
01:53
It was so liberating, though,
to face the truth
to face the truth
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Bilo je tako oslobađajuće, ipak,
suočiti se sa istinom
suočiti se sa istinom
01:56
that I was no longer
in the last throes of middle age,
in the last throes of middle age,
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da ja više nisam bila u poslednjoj
trci srednjih godina,
trci srednjih godina,
01:59
that I decided to write down
every single true thing I know.
every single true thing I know.
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da sam odlučila da zapišem svaku
pojedinačnu istinitu stvar koju znam.
pojedinačnu istinitu stvar koju znam.
02:04
People feel really doomed
and overwhelmed these days,
and overwhelmed these days,
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Ljudi se osećaju prokletim i preplavljenim
ovih dana,
ovih dana,
02:07
and they keep asking me what's true.
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i stalno me zapitkuju šta je istina.
02:10
So I hope that my list of things
I'm almost positive about
I'm almost positive about
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Pa se nadam da će moja lista stvari
oko kojih sam gotovo sigurna
oko kojih sam gotovo sigurna
02:16
might offer some basic
operating instructions
operating instructions
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možda pružiti neka osnovna
efikasna uputstva
efikasna uputstva
02:19
to anyone who is feeling
really overwhelmed or beleaguered.
really overwhelmed or beleaguered.
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za sve koji se osećaju preplavljenim
ili opkoljenim.
ili opkoljenim.
02:24
Number one:
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Broj jedan:
02:26
the first and truest thing
is that all truth is a paradox.
is that all truth is a paradox.
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prva i najistinitija stvar jeste
da je svaka istina paradoks.
da je svaka istina paradoks.
02:29
Life is both a precious,
unfathomably beautiful gift,
unfathomably beautiful gift,
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Život je istovremeno vredan
i nesumnjivo predivan poklon,
i nesumnjivo predivan poklon,
02:34
and it's impossible here,
on the incarnational side of things.
on the incarnational side of things.
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i nemoguće je ovde,
na ovaploćenoj strani stvari.
na ovaploćenoj strani stvari.
02:38
It's been a very bad match
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Ovo je bila veoma loša utakmica
02:40
for those of us who were born
extremely sensitive.
extremely sensitive.
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za one od nas koji su rođeni
ekstremno osetljivi.
ekstremno osetljivi.
02:43
It's so hard and weird
that we sometimes wonder
that we sometimes wonder
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Veoma je teško i čudno
da se ponekad zapitamo
da se ponekad zapitamo
02:46
if we're being punked.
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da li neko pokušava da nas nasamari.
02:49
It's filled simultaneously
with heartbreaking sweetness and beauty,
with heartbreaking sweetness and beauty,
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Prepun je istovremeno
srceparajućom slašću i lepotom,
srceparajućom slašću i lepotom,
02:53
desperate poverty,
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očajničkom bedom,
02:55
floods and babies and acne and Mozart,
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poplavama i bebama i aknama i Mocartom,
02:59
all swirled together.
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svim tim u jednom zajedničkom vrtlogu.
03:01
I don't think it's an ideal system.
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Ne mislim da je ovo idealan sistem.
03:04
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
03:07
Number two: almost
everything will work again
everything will work again
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Broj dva: gotovo sve će ponovo raditi
03:10
if you unplug it for a few minutes --
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ako ga isključite na nekoliko minuta -
03:13
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
03:15
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
03:19
including you.
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uključujući i vas.
03:22
Three: there is almost
nothing outside of you
nothing outside of you
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Tri: Ne postoji gotovo ništa izvan vas
03:26
that will help in any kind of lasting way,
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što će vam pomoći
na bilo koji trajan način
na bilo koji trajan način
03:29
unless you're waiting for an organ.
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osim ako čekate na organ.
03:31
You can't buy, achieve or date
serenity and peace of mind.
serenity and peace of mind.
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Ne možete da kupite, dostignete ili da
budete u vezi sa spokojstvom i mirom uma.
budete u vezi sa spokojstvom i mirom uma.
03:36
This is the most horrible truth,
and I so resent it.
and I so resent it.
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Ovo je najodvratnija istina,
stoga je ja prezirem.
stoga je ja prezirem.
03:41
But it's an inside job,
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Ali to je unutrašnji posao,
03:43
and we can't arrange peace
or lasting improvement
or lasting improvement
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i mi ne možemo da uredimo mir
ili trajno poboljšanje
ili trajno poboljšanje
03:46
for the people we love most in the world.
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za ljude koje volimo najviše na svetu.
03:49
They have to find their own ways,
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Oni moraju da pronađu sami svoj put,
03:51
their own answers.
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njihove sopstvene odgovore.
03:52
You can't run alongside
your grown children
your grown children
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Ne možete da trčite
pored svoje odrasle dece
pored svoje odrasle dece
03:56
with sunscreen and ChapStick
on their hero's journey.
on their hero's journey.
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sa kremom za sunčanje i labelom
na njihovom herojskom putu.
na njihovom herojskom putu.
04:01
You have to release them.
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Morate da ih oslobodite.
04:03
It's disrespectful not to.
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Nemate poštovanje prema njima
ako to ne uradite.
ako to ne uradite.
04:07
And if it's someone else's problem,
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I ako je nečiji drugi problem u pitanju,
04:08
you probably don't have
the answer, anyway.
the answer, anyway.
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verovatno nemate odgovor, ionako.
04:11
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
04:12
Our help is usually not very helpful.
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Naša pomoć obično nije mnogo od pomoći.
04:15
Our help is often toxic.
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Naša pomoć je često toksična.
04:18
And help is the sunny side of control.
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A pomoć je sunčana strana kontrole.
04:22
Stop helping so much.
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Prestanite da pomažete toliko.
04:25
Don't get your help and goodness
all over everybody.
all over everybody.
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Nemojte da prosipate
svoju pomoć i dobrotu po svima.
svoju pomoć i dobrotu po svima.
04:28
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
04:31
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
04:33
This brings us to number four:
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Ovo nas dovodi do broja četiri:
04:35
everyone is screwed up,
broken, clingy and scared,
broken, clingy and scared,
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svako je upropašćen, slomljen,
zahtevan i uplašen,
zahtevan i uplašen,
04:38
even the people who seem
to have it most together.
to have it most together.
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čak i ljudi za koje deluje
da sve drže pod kontrolom.
da sve drže pod kontrolom.
04:41
They are much more like you
than you would believe,
than you would believe,
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Oni su mnogo više kao vi
nego što možete da poverujete,
nego što možete da poverujete,
04:44
so try not to compare your insides
to other people's outsides.
to other people's outsides.
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pa nemojte pokušavati da poredite
svoju unutrašnjost sa tuđom spoljašnjosti.
svoju unutrašnjost sa tuđom spoljašnjosti.
04:49
It will only make you worse
than you already are.
than you already are.
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Samo će vam biti gore nego što već jeste.
04:51
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
04:56
Also, you can't save, fix
or rescue any of them
or rescue any of them
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Takođe, ne možete da sačuvate, popravite
ili spasite bilo koga od njih
ili spasite bilo koga od njih
04:59
or get anyone sober.
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ili da bilo koga učinite treznim.
05:01
What helped me get clean
and sober 30 years ago
and sober 30 years ago
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Ono što je meni pomoglo da postanem
čista i trezna pre 30 godina
čista i trezna pre 30 godina
05:04
was the catastrophe
of my behavior and thinking.
of my behavior and thinking.
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bilo je koliko sam se katastrofalno
ponašala i razmišljala.
ponašala i razmišljala.
05:08
So I asked some sober friends for help,
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Pa sam pitala neke trezne prijatelje
za pomoć,
za pomoć,
05:10
and I turned to a higher power.
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i okrenula sam se višoj sili.
05:12
One acronym for God
is the "gift of desperation,"
is the "gift of desperation,"
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Jedan akronim za boga je „poklon očaja“
05:16
G-O-D,
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B - O - G
(engl. GOD: gift of desperation),
(engl. GOD: gift of desperation),
05:17
or as a sober friend put it,
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ili kako je trezan prijatelj rekao,
05:19
by the end I was deteriorating faster
than I could lower my standards.
than I could lower my standards.
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na kraju sam propadao brže nego što sam
mogao da snizim svoje standarde.
mogao da snizim svoje standarde.
05:24
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
05:31
So God might mean, in this case,
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Tako da bi bog, u ovom slučaju,
mogao da znači
mogao da znači
05:33
"me running out of any more good ideas."
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„meni ponestaje dobrih ideja“.
05:37
While fixing and saving
and trying to rescue is futile,
and trying to rescue is futile,
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Dok je popravljanje i spašavanje i pokušaj
da se spasi neko beskoristan,
da se spasi neko beskoristan,
05:41
radical self-care is quantum,
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radikalna briga o sebi je kvantna
05:45
and it radiates out from you
into the atmosphere
into the atmosphere
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i sija iz vas u atmosferu
05:48
like a little fresh air.
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kao malo svežeg vazduha.
05:50
It's a huge gift to the world.
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Ogroman je poklon svetu.
05:53
When people respond by saying,
"Well, isn't she full of herself,"
"Well, isn't she full of herself,"
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Kada ljudi odgovore tako što kažu:
„Ona je baš puna sebe“,
„Ona je baš puna sebe“,
05:57
just smile obliquely like Mona Lisa
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samo se nasmejte diskretno kao Mona Liza
06:00
and make both of you a nice cup of tea.
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i napravite oboma lepu šolju čaja.
06:04
Being full of affection
for one's goofy, self-centered,
for one's goofy, self-centered,
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Biti pun pažnje za jednog blesavog,
sebičnog,
sebičnog,
06:09
cranky, annoying self
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mrzovoljnog, dosadnog sebe
06:11
is home.
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jeste kuća.
06:13
It's where world peace begins.
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To je mesto gde započinje mir u svetu.
06:17
Number five:
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Broj pet:
06:18
chocolate with 75 percent cacao
is not actually a food.
is not actually a food.
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čokolada sa 75 posto kakaa zapravo
nije hrana.
nije hrana.
06:23
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
06:27
Its best use is as a bait in snake traps
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Najbolje je da se upotrebi kao mamac
u zamkama za zmije
u zamkama za zmije
06:32
or to balance the legs of wobbly chairs.
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ili da se izjednače nogice
klimave stolice.
klimave stolice.
06:36
It was never meant
to be considered an edible.
to be considered an edible.
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Nikada nije trebalo da se smatra jestivom.
06:41
Number six --
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Broj šest:
06:43
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
06:46
writing.
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pisanje.
06:48
Every writer you know writes
really terrible first drafts,
really terrible first drafts,
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Svaki pisac koga znate piše zaista očajne
prve verzije,
prve verzije,
06:53
but they keep their butt in the chair.
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ali oni ostaju na stolicama.
06:55
That's the secret of life.
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To je tajna života.
06:57
That's probably the main difference
between you and them.
between you and them.
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To je najverovatnije glavna razlika
između vas i njih.
između vas i njih.
07:00
They just do it.
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Oni to prosto učine.
07:01
They do it by prearrangement
with themselves.
with themselves.
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Oni to rade u prethodnom dogovoru
sa sobom.
sa sobom.
07:04
They do it as a debt of honor.
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Oni to rade kao obavezu prema časti.
07:07
They tell stories that come through them
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Oni govore priče koje dolaze kroz njih
07:09
one day at a time, little by little.
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jedan po jedan dan, malo po malo.
07:12
When my older brother was in fourth grade,
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Kada je moj stariji brat bio
četvrti razred,
četvrti razred,
07:14
he had a term paper on birds
due the next day,
due the next day,
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imao je seminarski rad o pticama
koji je trebalo da preda sutradan
koji je trebalo da preda sutradan
07:18
and he hadn't started.
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a on još nije počeo.
07:20
So my dad sat down with him
with an Audubon book,
with an Audubon book,
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Pa je moj otac seo sa njim,
knjigom Audobona,
knjigom Audobona,
07:24
paper, pencils and brads --
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papirom, olovkama i ekserima -
07:27
for those of you who have gotten
a little less young and remember brads --
a little less young and remember brads --
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za one od vas koji su postali malo manje
mladi i sećaju se eksera -
mladi i sećaju se eksera -
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and he said to my brother,
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i rekao je mom bratu,
07:35
"Just take it bird by bird, buddy.
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„Samo uzmi jednu po jednu pticu, druže.“
07:38
Just read about pelicans
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Samo pročitaj o pelikanima
07:40
and then write about pelicans
in your own voice.
in your own voice.
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i onda piši o pelikanima svojim rečima.
07:44
And then find out about chickadees,
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Onda saznaj o papagajima,
07:47
and tell us about them in your own voice.
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i ispričaj nam o njima svojim rečima.
07:50
And then geese."
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I onda o guskama.“
07:52
So the two most important things
about writing are: bird by bird
about writing are: bird by bird
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Tako su dve najvažnije stvari
u vezi sa pisanjem: ptica po ptica
u vezi sa pisanjem: ptica po ptica
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and really god-awful first drafts.
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i zaista očajna prva verzija.
07:59
If you don't know where to start,
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Ako ne znate gde da počnete,
08:01
remember that every single thing
that happened to you is yours,
that happened to you is yours,
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zapamtite da svaka stvar
koja vam se dogodila je vaša
koja vam se dogodila je vaša
08:04
and you get to tell it.
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i vi imate priliku da je ispričate.
08:06
If people wanted you to write
more warmly about them,
more warmly about them,
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Ako su ljudi hteli da pišete
toplije o njima,
toplije o njima,
08:10
they should've behaved better.
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trebalo je da se bolje ponašaju.
08:11
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
08:14
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
08:19
You're going to feel like hell
if you wake up someday
if you wake up someday
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Osećaćete se kao u paklu
ako se probudite jednog dana
ako se probudite jednog dana
08:22
and you never wrote the stuff
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i nikada niste napisali stvari
08:23
that is tugging on the sleeves
of your heart:
of your heart:
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koje vise sa rukava vašeg srca:
08:27
your stories, memories,
visions and songs --
visions and songs --
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vaše priče, uspomene, vizije i pesme -
08:30
your truth,
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vašu istinu,
08:32
your version of things --
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vašu verziju stvari -
08:34
in your own voice.
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vašim rečima.
08:35
That's really all you have to offer us,
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To je zaista sve što možete
da nam ponudite,
da nam ponudite,
08:38
and that's also why you were born.
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i to je takođe razlog zašto ste se rodili.
08:42
Seven: publication and temporary
creative successes
creative successes
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Sedam: objavljivanja i trenutni
kreativni uspesi
kreativni uspesi
08:46
are something you have to recover from.
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jesu nešto od čega morate
da se oporavite.
da se oporavite.
08:49
They kill as many people as not.
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Oni ubijaju isto onoliko ljudi
koliko i ne ubiju.
koliko i ne ubiju.
08:52
They will hurt, damage and change you
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Oni će vas boleti, oštetiti i promeniti
08:55
in ways you cannot imagine.
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na načine koje ne možete da zamislite.
08:57
The most degraded
and evil people I've ever known
and evil people I've ever known
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Najdegradiraniji i zli ljudi
koje sam ikad upoznala
koje sam ikad upoznala
09:01
are male writers who've had
huge best sellers.
huge best sellers.
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jesu muški pisci koji su imali
velike bestselere.
velike bestselere.
09:05
And yet, returning to number one,
that all truth is paradox,
that all truth is paradox,
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Pa ipak, vraćajući se na broj jedan,
da je sva istina paradoks,
da je sva istina paradoks,
09:09
it's also a miracle
to get your work published,
to get your work published,
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takođe je čudo da objavite svoje delo,
09:11
to get your stories read and heard.
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da učinite da se vaše priče pročitaju
i čuju.
i čuju.
09:14
Just try to bust yourself
gently of the fantasy
gently of the fantasy
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Probajte da oslobodite sebe
nežno od fantazije
nežno od fantazije
09:17
that publication will heal you,
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da će vas objavljivanje izlečiti,
09:19
that it will fill the Swiss-cheesy
holes inside of you.
holes inside of you.
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da će ispuniti rupe nalik švajcarskom siru
unutar vas.
unutar vas.
09:23
It can't.
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Ne može.
09:25
It won't.
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Neće.
09:26
But writing can.
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Ali pisanje može.
09:28
So can singing in a choir
or a bluegrass band.
or a bluegrass band.
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Tako može i pevanje u horu
ili u blugras bendu.
ili u blugras bendu.
09:32
So can painting community
murals or birding
murals or birding
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Pa i slikanje zajedničkih murala
ili posmatranje ptica
ili posmatranje ptica
09:35
or fostering old dogs
that no one else will.
that no one else will.
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ili briga o starim psima
o kojima niko drugi neće.
o kojima niko drugi neće.
09:40
Number eight: families.
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Broj osam: porodice.
09:44
Families are hard, hard, hard,
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Porodice su teške, teške, teške,
09:48
no matter how cherished
and astonishing they may also be.
and astonishing they may also be.
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bez obzira na to koliko dragocene
i zapanjujuće takođe mogu da budu.
i zapanjujuće takođe mogu da budu.
09:51
Again, see number one.
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Opet, pogledajte broj jedan.
09:53
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
09:54
At family gatherings where you suddenly
feel homicidal or suicidal --
feel homicidal or suicidal --
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Na porodičnim okupljanjima
gde se odjednom osetite ubilački
gde se odjednom osetite ubilački
ili suicidalno nastrojeni -
09:58
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
10:00
remember that in all cases,
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zapamtite da u je svim slučajevima,
10:02
it's a miracle that any of us,
specifically, were conceived and born.
specifically, were conceived and born.
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čudo da je bilo ko od nas, posebno,
bio začet i rođen.
bio začet i rođen.
10:08
Earth is forgiveness school.
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Zemlja je škola opraštanja.
10:10
It begins with forgiving yourself,
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Počinje od opraštanja sebi,
10:12
and then you might as well
start at the dinner table.
start at the dinner table.
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a zatim možete i da započnete
od stola za večeru.
od stola za večeru.
10:16
That way, you can do this work
in comfortable pants.
in comfortable pants.
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Na taj način, ovaj posao možete
da obavite u udobnim pantalonama.
da obavite u udobnim pantalonama.
10:20
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
10:23
When William Blake said that we are here
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Kada je Vilijam Blejk rekao da smo ovde
10:25
to learn to endure the beams of love,
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kako bismo naučili da izdržimo
zrake ljubavi,
zrake ljubavi,
10:28
he knew that your family would be
an intimate part of this,
an intimate part of this,
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on je znao da će vaša porodica biti
intimni deo ovoga,
intimni deo ovoga,
10:31
even as you want to run screaming
for your cute little life.
for your cute little life.
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čak i dok želite da pobegnete vrišteći
i boreći se za svoj slatki mali život.
i boreći se za svoj slatki mali život.
10:35
But I promise you are up to it.
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Ali obećavam vam da možete to da izdržite.
10:38
You can do it, Cinderella, you can do it,
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Vi to možete, Pepeljugo, vi to možete,
10:41
and you will be amazed.
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i bićete oduševljeni.
10:45
Nine: food.
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Devet: hrana.
10:48
Try to do a little better.
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Pokušajte to malo bolje.
10:51
I think you know what I mean.
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Mislim da znate na šta mislim.
10:53
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
11:03
Number 10 --
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Broj 10 -
11:04
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
11:06
grace.
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milost.
11:08
Grace is spiritual WD-40,
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Milost je duhovni WD-40,
11:11
or water wings.
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ili vodena krila.
11:13
The mystery of grace is that God loves
Henry Kissinger and Vladimir Putin
Henry Kissinger and Vladimir Putin
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Misterija milosti je u tome da bog voli
Henrija Kisindžera i Vladimira Putina
Henrija Kisindžera i Vladimira Putina
11:19
and me
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i mene
11:20
exactly as much as He or She
loves your new grandchild.
loves your new grandchild.
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isto onoliko koliko On ili Ona
voli vaše novo unuče.
voli vaše novo unuče.
11:24
Go figure.
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Zamislite to.
11:26
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
11:28
The movement of grace
is what changes us, heals us
is what changes us, heals us
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Kretanje milosti je ono
što nas menja, leči
što nas menja, leči
11:31
and heals our world.
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i leči naš svet.
11:33
To summon grace, say, "Help,"
and then buckle up.
and then buckle up.
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Da biste prizvali milost, recite „pomoć“
i onda se vežite.
i onda se vežite.
11:37
Grace finds you exactly where you are,
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Milost vas pronalazi upravo tamo gde ste,
11:39
but it doesn't leave you
where it found you.
where it found you.
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ali vas ne ostavlja
tamo gde vas je pronašla.
tamo gde vas je pronašla.
11:42
And grace won't look
like Casper the Friendly Ghost,
like Casper the Friendly Ghost,
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I milost neće izgledati
kao Kasper dobri duh,
kao Kasper dobri duh,
11:45
regrettably.
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nažalost.
11:47
But the phone will ring
or the mail will come
or the mail will come
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Ali će telefon zvoniti ili će stići pošta
11:49
and then against all odds,
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i onda uprkos svim šansama,
11:51
you'll get your sense of humor
about yourself back.
about yourself back.
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vratiće vam se smisao za humor
po pitanju vas.
po pitanju vas.
11:54
Laughter really is carbonated holiness.
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Smeh je zaista gazirana svetost.
11:58
It helps us breathe again and again
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Pomaže nam da dišemo iznova i iznova
12:01
and gives us back to ourselves,
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i daje nas ponovo nama samima
12:03
and this gives us faith
in life and each other.
in life and each other.
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i ovo nam daje nadu u život
i u nas međusobno.
i u nas međusobno.
12:08
And remember -- grace always bats last.
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I zapamtite - milost uvek udara poslednja.
12:13
Eleven: God just means goodness.
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Jedanaest: bog jednostavno znači dobrota.
12:16
It's really not all that scary.
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Nije to sve tako strašno.
12:19
It means the divine or a loving,
animating intelligence,
animating intelligence,
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On znači božanski ili pun ljubavi,
animirajuća inteligencija,
animirajuća inteligencija,
12:23
or, as we learned
from the great "Deteriorata,"
from the great "Deteriorata,"
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ili, kao što smo naučili
od sjajne „Deteriorate“
od sjajne „Deteriorate“
12:27
"the cosmic muffin."
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„kosmički mafin“.
12:29
A good name for God is: "Not me."
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Dobro ime za boga je: „Ne ja“.
12:33
Emerson said that
the happiest person on Earth
the happiest person on Earth
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Emerson je rekao da je najsrećnija
osoba na svetu
osoba na svetu
12:36
is the one who learns from nature
the lessons of worship.
the lessons of worship.
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ona koja uči od prirode
lekcije obožavanja.
lekcije obožavanja.
12:40
So go outside a lot and look up.
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Idite napolje često i gledajte gore.
12:43
My pastor said you can trap bees
on the bottom of mason jars without lids
on the bottom of mason jars without lids
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Moj pastor je rekao da možete da zarobite
pčele na dnu tegli bez poklopca
pčele na dnu tegli bez poklopca
12:48
because they don't look up,
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zato što ne gledaju gore,
12:50
so they just walk around bitterly
bumping into the glass walls.
bumping into the glass walls.
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pa samo hodaju unaokolo ogorčene
i udaraju u staklene zidove.
i udaraju u staklene zidove.
12:54
Go outside. Look up.
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Idite napolje. Gledajte gore.
12:57
Secret of life.
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Tajna života.
12:59
And finally: death.
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I najzad: smrt.
13:02
Number 12.
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Broj 12.
13:04
Wow and yikes.
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Jee i uh.
13:07
It's so hard to bear when the few people
you cannot live without die.
you cannot live without die.
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Tako je teško izdržati kada nekoliko ljudi
bez kojih ne možete da živite umru.
bez kojih ne možete da živite umru.
13:11
You'll never get over these losses,
and no matter what the culture says,
and no matter what the culture says,
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Nikada nećete preboleti ove gubitke,
bez obzira na to šta kultura kaže,
bez obzira na to šta kultura kaže,
13:15
you're not supposed to.
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ni ne treba.
13:17
We Christians like to think of death
as a major change of address,
as a major change of address,
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Mi hrišćani volimo da verujemo da je smrt
značajna promena adrese,
značajna promena adrese,
13:22
but in any case, the person
will live again fully in your heart
will live again fully in your heart
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ali u svakom slučaju, osoba će ponovo
živeti u potpunosti u vašem srcu
živeti u potpunosti u vašem srcu
13:26
if you don't seal it off.
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ako ga ne zapečatite.
13:28
Like Leonard Cohen said,
"There are cracks in everything,
"There are cracks in everything,
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Kao što je Lenard Koen rekao:
„Postoje pukotine u svemu,
„Postoje pukotine u svemu,
13:31
and that's how the light gets in."
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i na taj način svetlost ulazi.“
13:33
And that's how we feel
our people again fully alive.
our people again fully alive.
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I to je ono kako osećamo da naši ljudi
u potpunosti ponovo žive.
u potpunosti ponovo žive.
13:39
Also, the people will make
you laugh out loud
you laugh out loud
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Takođe, ljudi će vas zasmejavati
13:43
at the most inconvenient times,
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u najnezgodnijim trenucima
13:46
and that's the great good news.
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i to su sjajne vesti.
13:48
But their absence will also be a lifelong
nightmare of homesickness for you.
nightmare of homesickness for you.
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Ali će njihovo odsustvo biti celoživotna
noćna mora nostalgije za kućom za vas.
noćna mora nostalgije za kućom za vas.
13:52
Grief and friends, time and tears
will heal you to some extent.
will heal you to some extent.
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Žalost i prijatelji, vreme i suze će vas
izlečiti u nekoj meri.
izlečiti u nekoj meri.
13:57
Tears will bathe and baptize
and hydrate and moisturize you
and hydrate and moisturize you
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Suze će okupati i krstiti i hidrirati
i vlažiti vas
i vlažiti vas
14:01
and the ground on which you walk.
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i zemlju na kojoj hodate.
14:04
Do you know the first thing
that God says to Moses?
that God says to Moses?
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Da li znate koja je prva stvar koju je bog
rekao Mojsiju?
rekao Mojsiju?
14:08
He says, "Take off your shoes."
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On je rekao: „Skini svoje cipele.“
14:11
Because this is holy ground,
all evidence to the contrary.
all evidence to the contrary.
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Zato što je ovo sveta zemlja,
uprkos svim dokazima u suprotno.
uprkos svim dokazima u suprotno.
14:15
It's hard to believe,
but it's the truest thing I know.
but it's the truest thing I know.
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Teško je da verujete, ali je to
najistinitija stvar koju ja znam.
najistinitija stvar koju ja znam.
14:18
When you're a little bit older,
like my tiny personal self,
like my tiny personal self,
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Kada ste malo stariji,
kao moja malenkost,
kao moja malenkost,
14:22
you realize that death
is as sacred as birth.
is as sacred as birth.
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shvatate da je smrt sveta kao rođenje.
14:26
And don't worry -- get on with your life.
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I ne brinite -
nastavite sa svojim životom.
nastavite sa svojim životom.
14:30
Almost every single death
is easy and gentle
is easy and gentle
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Gotovo svaka pojedinačna smrt
jeste laka i nežna
jeste laka i nežna
14:34
with the very best people surrounding you
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sa najboljim ljudima koji vas okružuju
14:37
for as long as you need.
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dok god vam je to potrebno.
14:39
You won't be alone.
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Nećete biti sami.
14:42
They'll help you cross over
to whatever awaits us.
to whatever awaits us.
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Oni će vam pomoći da pređete
do toga što nas čega.
do toga što nas čega.
14:46
As Ram Dass said,
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Kao što je Ram Das rekao,
14:48
"When all is said and done,
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„Kada je sve rečeno i učinjeno,
14:50
we're really just all walking
each other home."
each other home."
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mi svi zapravo samo pratimo
jedni druge kući.“
jedni druge kući.“
14:55
I think that's it,
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Mislim da je to to,
14:56
but if I think of anything else,
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ali ako smislim još nešto,
14:58
I'll let you know.
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reći ću vam.
15:00
Thank you.
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Hvala vam.
15:01
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
15:03
Thank you.
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Hvala vam.
15:04
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
15:06
I was very surprised to be asked to come,
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Zaista sam bila iznenađena
kada su me pozvali da dođem,
kada su me pozvali da dođem,
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because it is not my realm,
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zato što to nije moja oblast,
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technology or design or entertainment.
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tehnologija, dizajn ili zabava.
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I mean, my realm is sort of
faith and writing
faith and writing
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Mislim, moja oblast su vera i pisanje
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and kind of lurching along together.
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i neka vrsta zajedničkog teturanja.
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And I was surprised,
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I bila sam iznenađena,
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but they said I could give a talk,
and I said I'd love to.
and I said I'd love to.
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ali oni su rekli da mogu da govorim
i ja sam rekla da bih volela.
i ja sam rekla da bih volela.
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(Video) If you don't know where to start,
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(Video) Ako ne znate gde da počnete,
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remember that every single thing
that happened to you is yours
that happened to you is yours
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zapamtite da svaka stvar
koja vam se dogodila je vaša,
koja vam se dogodila je vaša,
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and you get to tell it.
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imate priliku da je pričate.
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Anne Lamott: People are very frightened
and feel really doomed
and feel really doomed
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Ana Lamot: Ljudi su veoma uplašeni
i osećaju se zaista prokletim
i osećaju se zaista prokletim
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in America these days,
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u Americi ovih dana,
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and I just wanted to help people
get their sense of humor about it
get their sense of humor about it
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I ja sam samo želela da pomognem
ljudima da povrate smisao za humor
ljudima da povrate smisao za humor
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and to realize how much isn't a problem.
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i da shvate koliko to nije problem.
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If you take an action,
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Ako preduzmete akciju,
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take a really healthy or loving
or friendly action,
or friendly action,
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preduzmete zaista zdravu ili punu ljubavi
ili prijateljsku akciju,
ili prijateljsku akciju,
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you'll have loving and friendly feelings.
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imaćete osećanja puna ljubavi
i prijateljska osećanja.
i prijateljska osećanja.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Anne Lamott - Novelist, essayistWith disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos.
Why you should listen
Anne Lamott hooks into our common experience and guides us to an understanding infused with openness. An activist, former alcoholic and Sunday School teacher, Lamott uses humor to weave through loss, parenthood, faith and the cancer diagnosis given to her best friend, in beloved books like Bird by Bird and Help, Thanks, Wow: The Three Essential Prayers. She says, "Hope begins in the dark ... if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don't give up."
Her next book, Hallelujah Anyway: Rediscovering Mercy, was released in April 2017.
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