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Anne Lamott: 12 truths I learned from life and writing
Anne Lamott: Ukweli 12 niliojifunza kupitia maisha na uandishi
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Siku chache kabla ya kutimiza miaka 61, mwandishi Anne Lamott aliamua kuandika kuhusu kila kitu alichofahamu kwa hakika. Anazama katika mihangaiko ya mwanadamu anayeishi katika ulimwengu uliochanganika, wenye uzuri na hisia, unaompa hekima na ucheshi kuhusu familia, uandishi, maana ya Mungu, kifo na zaidi.
Anne Lamott - Novelist, essayist
With disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos. Full bio
With disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos. Full bio
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Chumba cha mjukuu wangu mwenye miaka saba kipo karibu na changu
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My seven-year-old grandson
sleeps just down the hall from me,
sleeps just down the hall from me,
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mara nyingi huamka asubuhi
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and he wakes up a lot of mornings
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00:18
and he says,
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na kusema,
00:19
"You know, this could be
the best day ever."
the best day ever."
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"Unajua, leo inaweza kuwa siku bora kuliko zote. "
00:22
And other times,
in the middle of the night,
in the middle of the night,
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Na mara nyingine, usiku wa manane,
00:24
he calls out in a tremulous voice,
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huita kwa sauti za woga
00:27
"Nana, will you ever get sick and die?"
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"Nana, utaumwa na kufa siku moja?"
00:31
I think this pretty much says it for me
and most of the people I know,
and most of the people I know,
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Nadhani hili linasema mengi kwangu na watu wengi ninaowajua,
00:35
that we're a mixed grill
of happy anticipation
of happy anticipation
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kwamba sisi ni mchanganyiko
wa matarajio yenye furaha
wa matarajio yenye furaha
00:38
and dread.
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na hofu.
00:40
So I sat down a few days
before my 61st birthday,
before my 61st birthday,
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Hivyo, siku chache kabla ya kutimiza miaka 61, nilitafakari
00:44
and I decided to compile a list
of everything I know for sure.
of everything I know for sure.
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nikaamua kukusanya orodha ya kila kitu ninachojua.
00:50
There's so little truth
in the popular culture,
in the popular culture,
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Kuna ukweli mchache sana katika utamaduni wetu,
00:53
and it's good to be sure of a few things.
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na ni vizuri tuwe na uhakika na mambo machache.
00:57
For instance, I am no longer 47,
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Kwa mfano, umri wangu sio 47 tena,
01:00
although this is the age I feel,
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Ingawa ndio umri ninaojisikia,
01:03
and the age I like to think
of myself as being.
of myself as being.
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au umri ningependa kufikiri niko.
01:06
My friend Paul used to say in his late 70s
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Rafiki yangu Paulo alisema katika miaka yake ya 70
01:09
that he felt like a young man
with something really wrong with him.
with something really wrong with him.
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kwamba alihisi kama kijana mwenye matatizo mengi tu.
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(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
01:17
Our true person is outside
of time and space,
of time and space,
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Nafsi yetu ya kweli ipo nje ya muda na sehemu
01:19
but looking at the paperwork,
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lakini nikiangalia nyaraka,
01:21
I can, in fact, see
that I was born in 1954.
that I was born in 1954.
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Naweza, kwa kweli, kuona kwamba nilizaliwa mwaka wa 1954
01:25
My inside self is outside
of time and space.
of time and space.
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Hisia zangu binafsi zipo nje ya muda na sehemu.
01:28
It doesn't have an age.
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Haina umri.
01:30
I'm every age I've ever been,
and so are you,
and so are you,
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Nina kila umri ambao nimewahi kuwa,na wewe pia,
01:33
although I can't help
mentioning as an aside
mentioning as an aside
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Ingawa siwezi kuepuka kusema,
01:36
that it might have been helpful
if I hadn't followed
if I hadn't followed
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kwamba ingesaidia kama nisingefuata
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the skin care rules of the '60s,
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kanuni za huduma ya ngozi za miaka ya 60,
01:41
which involved getting
as much sun as possible
as much sun as possible
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ambayo ilihusisha kuota jua kama iwezekanavyo
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while slathered in baby oil
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nikijisiliba mafuta ya mtoto
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and basking in the glow
of a tinfoil reflector shield.
of a tinfoil reflector shield.
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na kumeremeta chini ya foii ya aluminium
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(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
01:53
It was so liberating, though,
to face the truth
to face the truth
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Nilijisikia uhuru sana, ingawa,
nilbidi kuutizama ukweli
nilbidi kuutizama ukweli
01:56
that I was no longer
in the last throes of middle age,
in the last throes of middle age,
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kwamba sikuwa tena katika miaka ya mwisho ya rika la kati,
01:59
that I decided to write down
every single true thing I know.
every single true thing I know.
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hivyo niliamua kuandika
kila kitu nilichojua.
kila kitu nilichojua.
02:04
People feel really doomed
and overwhelmed these days,
and overwhelmed these days,
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Siku hizi watu wamejisikia wameelemewa,
02:07
and they keep asking me what's true.
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na huniuliza ukweli ni upi.
02:10
So I hope that my list of things
I'm almost positive about
I'm almost positive about
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Hivyo, natumaini orodha ya vitu ninavzo fahamu kwau fasaha
02:16
might offer some basic
operating instructions
operating instructions
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itatoa misingi ya uendeshaji
02:19
to anyone who is feeling
really overwhelmed or beleaguered.
really overwhelmed or beleaguered.
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kwa mtu yeyote anayehisi
kuelemewa au kuchanganyikiwa.
kuelemewa au kuchanganyikiwa.
02:24
Number one:
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Namba moja:
02:26
the first and truest thing
is that all truth is a paradox.
is that all truth is a paradox.
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Jambo la kwanza na ukweli kabisa ni kwamba ukweli wote ni kitendawili.
02:29
Life is both a precious,
unfathomably beautiful gift,
unfathomably beautiful gift,
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Maisha yana thamani, na zawadi nzuri sana kupita maelezo,
02:34
and it's impossible here,
on the incarnational side of things.
on the incarnational side of things.
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na haiwezekani kutelezeka kwa kiumbe cha mwili.
02:38
It's been a very bad match
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Imekuwa uwiano mbaya sana
02:40
for those of us who were born
extremely sensitive.
extremely sensitive.
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kwa wale ambao tulizaliwa nyeti sana.
02:43
It's so hard and weird
that we sometimes wonder
that we sometimes wonder
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Ni vigumu sana na ni ajabu
kwamba wakati mwingine tunajiuliza
kwamba wakati mwingine tunajiuliza
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if we're being punked.
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kama tunataniwa.
02:49
It's filled simultaneously
with heartbreaking sweetness and beauty,
with heartbreaking sweetness and beauty,
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Imejazwa na wema na uzuri wa umbo,
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desperate poverty,
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umasikini,
02:55
floods and babies and acne and Mozart,
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Mafuriko na watoto na chunusi na Mozart,
02:59
all swirled together.
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vyote vilibiringizwa pamoja.
03:01
I don't think it's an ideal system.
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Sidhani ni mfumo mzuri.
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(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
03:07
Number two: almost
everything will work again
everything will work again
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Namba mbili: karibia kila kitu kitafanya kazi tena
03:10
if you unplug it for a few minutes --
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ukikichomoa kwa dakika chache --
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(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
03:15
(Applause)
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(Makofi)
03:19
including you.
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hata na wewe.
03:22
Three: there is almost
nothing outside of you
nothing outside of you
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Tatu: karibia, hakuna chochote nje ya wewe
03:26
that will help in any kind of lasting way,
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kitakachokusaidia kwa njia yoyote ya kudumu,
03:29
unless you're waiting for an organ.
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isipokuwa kama unasubiria kiungo.
03:31
You can't buy, achieve or date
serenity and peace of mind.
serenity and peace of mind.
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Huwezi kununua, kutekeleza au kuchumbia utulivu na amani.
03:36
This is the most horrible truth,
and I so resent it.
and I so resent it.
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Huu ni kweli ya kutisha,
na ninauchukia.
na ninauchukia.
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But it's an inside job,
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Lakini ni kazi ya ndani,
03:43
and we can't arrange peace
or lasting improvement
or lasting improvement
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na hatuwezi kupanga amani
au uboreshaji wa kudumu
au uboreshaji wa kudumu
03:46
for the people we love most in the world.
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kwa ajili ya watu tunaowapenda duniani.
03:49
They have to find their own ways,
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Wanapaswa kutafuta njia yao wenyewe,
03:51
their own answers.
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majibu wenyewe.
03:52
You can't run alongside
your grown children
your grown children
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Huwezi kuenda pamoja na
watoto wako wakubwa
watoto wako wakubwa
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with sunscreen and ChapStick
on their hero's journey.
on their hero's journey.
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kwenye safari yao ya kishujaa.
04:01
You have to release them.
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Unapaswa kuwaacha huru.
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It's disrespectful not to.
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Sio heshima kuwavunga.
04:07
And if it's someone else's problem,
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Na kama ni tatizo la mtu mwingine,
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you probably don't have
the answer, anyway.
the answer, anyway.
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labda hata wewe hauna jibu, pia.
04:11
(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
04:12
Our help is usually not very helpful.
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Msaada wetu mara nyingi hausaidii.
04:15
Our help is often toxic.
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Msaada wetu mara nyingi ni sumu.
04:18
And help is the sunny side of control.
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Na msaada ni upande chanya wa udhibiti.
04:22
Stop helping so much.
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Acha kusaidia sana.
04:25
Don't get your help and goodness
all over everybody.
all over everybody.
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Usisambaze msaada wako na wema kwa kila mtu.
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(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
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(Applause)
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(Makofi)
04:33
This brings us to number four:
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Hii inatuleta kwa namba nne:
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everyone is screwed up,
broken, clingy and scared,
broken, clingy and scared,
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kila mtu amevunjika,
amevunjwa, ana wivu na hofu zake,
amevunjwa, ana wivu na hofu zake,
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even the people who seem
to have it most together.
to have it most together.
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hata wanaoonekana kuwa pamoja zaidi.
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They are much more like you
than you would believe,
than you would believe,
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Wako kama wewe kuliko unavzoweza kuamini,
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so try not to compare your insides
to other people's outsides.
to other people's outsides.
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hivyo usilinganisha undani wako na nje za watu wengine.
04:49
It will only make you worse
than you already are.
than you already are.
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Itakufanya ujisikie ovyo kuliko ulivyo tayari.
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(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
04:56
Also, you can't save, fix
or rescue any of them
or rescue any of them
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Pia, huwezi kuwaokoa, kurekebisha au kuwakomboa
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or get anyone sober.
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au kumpatia mtu yeyote busara.
05:01
What helped me get clean
and sober 30 years ago
and sober 30 years ago
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Kilichosaidia kupata nafuu na kukaa safi na madawa kwa miaka 30 iliyopita
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was the catastrophe
of my behavior and thinking.
of my behavior and thinking.
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ilikuwa janga la tabia na fikra zangu.
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So I asked some sober friends for help,
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Hivyo niliomba msaada kwa marafiki,
05:10
and I turned to a higher power.
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na nikamrudia muumbaji.
05:12
One acronym for God
is the "gift of desperation,"
is the "gift of desperation,"
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Kifupisho kimoja cha Mungu ni "zawadi ya kukata tamaa,"
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G-O-D,
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M-U-N-G-U,
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or as a sober friend put it,
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Au kama rafiki yangu mmoja alivyoiweka,
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by the end I was deteriorating faster
than I could lower my standards.
than I could lower my standards.
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mwishoni nilikuwa nikipungukiwa kuliko nilivyoweza kupunguza viwango vyangu.
05:24
(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
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So God might mean, in this case,
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Kwa hiyo Mungu anaweza kumaanisha, katika kesi hii,
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"me running out of any more good ideas."
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"mimi kuishiwa na mawazo yoyote mazuri zaidi."
05:37
While fixing and saving
and trying to rescue is futile,
and trying to rescue is futile,
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Wakati kurekebisha na kuokoa
na kujaribu kuokoa ni bure,
na kujaribu kuokoa ni bure,
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radical self-care is quantum,
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Kujitegemea na kujitunza ni quantum,
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and it radiates out from you
into the atmosphere
into the atmosphere
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na hujiangaza katika mazingira yako
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like a little fresh air.
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kama hewa safi.
05:50
It's a huge gift to the world.
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Ni zawadi kubwa kwa duniani.
05:53
When people respond by saying,
"Well, isn't she full of herself,"
"Well, isn't she full of herself,"
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Watu wanapojibu kwa kusema,
"Mmh, mtizame anavyojisikia,"
"Mmh, mtizame anavyojisikia,"
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just smile obliquely like Mona Lisa
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tabasamu tu kama vile Mona Lisa
06:00
and make both of you a nice cup of tea.
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na kuwatengenezea kikombe cha chai.
06:04
Being full of affection
for one's goofy, self-centered,
for one's goofy, self-centered,
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Kuonyesha upendo kikamilifu
kwa uzuzu wa mtu, ubinafsi,
kwa uzuzu wa mtu, ubinafsi,
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cranky, annoying self
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ukimwa, usumbufu wako
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is home.
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ni nyumbani.
06:13
It's where world peace begins.
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Ndipo amani ya dunia huanzia.
06:17
Number five:
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Namba tano:
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chocolate with 75 percent cacao
is not actually a food.
is not actually a food.
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chokoleti yenye asilimia 75 kakao sio kweli chakula.
06:23
(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
06:27
Its best use is as a bait in snake traps
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Matumizi yake bora ni katika mitego ya nyoka
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or to balance the legs of wobbly chairs.
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au kusawazisha miguu ya viti vinavyotetema.
06:36
It was never meant
to be considered an edible.
to be considered an edible.
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Haikuwahi kumaanishwa kama chakula.
06:41
Number six --
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Namba sita
06:43
(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
06:46
writing.
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Kuandika.
06:48
Every writer you know writes
really terrible first drafts,
really terrible first drafts,
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Kila mwandishi unayemjua huanaandika rasimu mbaya za mwanzo,
06:53
but they keep their butt in the chair.
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Lakini hutuliza kitako kwenye kiti.
06:55
That's the secret of life.
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Hiyo ndio siri ya maisha.
06:57
That's probably the main difference
between you and them.
between you and them.
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Hiyo labda ndio tofauti kuu
kati yako na wao.
kati yako na wao.
07:00
They just do it.
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Wanafanya tu.
07:01
They do it by prearrangement
with themselves.
with themselves.
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Wanafanya kwa makubaiano na wao wenyewe.
07:04
They do it as a debt of honor.
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Wanafanya katika deni la heshima yao.
07:07
They tell stories that come through them
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Wanasimulia hadithi kutokea kwao
07:09
one day at a time, little by little.
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siku moja banda ya nyingine, kidogo kidogo.
07:12
When my older brother was in fourth grade,
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Kaka yangu alipokuwa darasa la nne,
07:14
he had a term paper on birds
due the next day,
due the next day,
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alitakiwa kuwasilisha insha juu ya ndege kesho yake,
07:18
and he hadn't started.
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Na hakuanza bado.
07:20
So my dad sat down with him
with an Audubon book,
with an Audubon book,
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Basi baba akaketi naye na kitabu cha Audubon,
07:24
paper, pencils and brads --
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karatasi, penseli na brads -
07:27
for those of you who have gotten
a little less young and remember brads --
a little less young and remember brads --
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kwa wale ambao mmekuwaa wadogo kidogo na mna kukumbuka brads -
07:32
and he said to my brother,
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na akamwambia kaka yangu,
07:35
"Just take it bird by bird, buddy.
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"Chukua tu ndege kwa ndege, rafiki.
07:38
Just read about pelicans
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Soma tu juu ya Mwari
07:40
and then write about pelicans
in your own voice.
in your own voice.
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na kisha andika kuhusu Mwari kwa sauti yako mwenyewe.
07:44
And then find out about chickadees,
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Na kisha soma kuhusu chickadee,
07:47
and tell us about them in your own voice.
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na utuambie kwa sauti yako mwenyewe.
07:50
And then geese."
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Na kisha bata bukini. "
07:52
So the two most important things
about writing are: bird by bird
about writing are: bird by bird
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Hivyo vitu viwili muhimu kuhusu kuandika ni: ndege kwa ndege
07:56
and really god-awful first drafts.
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na kwa kweli rasimu ovyo za mwanzo.
07:59
If you don't know where to start,
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Kama hujui uanzie wapi
08:01
remember that every single thing
that happened to you is yours,
that happened to you is yours,
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kumbuka unamiliki kila kitu kilichokutokea
08:04
and you get to tell it.
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na unaweza kusimulia.
08:06
If people wanted you to write
more warmly about them,
more warmly about them,
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Ikiwa watu walitaka uandike mazuri kuhusu wao,
08:10
they should've behaved better.
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wangemudu tabia zao vizuri zaidi.
08:11
(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
08:14
(Applause)
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(Makofi)
08:19
You're going to feel like hell
if you wake up someday
if you wake up someday
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Utajisikia ovyo siku moja utakapoamka
08:22
and you never wrote the stuff
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na hujaandika juu ya mambo
08:23
that is tugging on the sleeves
of your heart:
of your heart:
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yanazo anazokukereketa, unayotunza moyoni:
08:27
your stories, memories,
visions and songs --
visions and songs --
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hadithi zako, kumbukumbu,
maono na nyimbo -
maono na nyimbo -
08:30
your truth,
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Ukweli wako,
08:32
your version of things --
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mtizamo wako wa vitu -
08:34
in your own voice.
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katika sauti yako mwenyewe.
08:35
That's really all you have to offer us,
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Hicho pekee ndicho unachokubui kutupatia,
08:38
and that's also why you were born.
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Hiyo ndiyo sababu ulizaliwa.
08:42
Seven: publication and temporary
creative successes
creative successes
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Saba: kuchapishwa na mafanikio ya ubunifu ya muda mfupi
08:46
are something you have to recover from.
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ni kitu ambacho unapaswa kuponywa kutoka.
08:49
They kill as many people as not.
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Vinaua watu wengi kama visivo.
08:52
They will hurt, damage and change you
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Vitakuumiza, kukuharibu na kukubadilisha
08:55
in ways you cannot imagine.
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kwa njia ambazo huwezi kufikiria.
08:57
The most degraded
and evil people I've ever known
and evil people I've ever known
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Watu dhilifu na waovu kuliko wote niliowahi kujua
09:01
are male writers who've had
huge best sellers.
huge best sellers.
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ni waandishi wa kiume walioandika vitabu vilivyo uza vizuri mno.
09:05
And yet, returning to number one,
that all truth is paradox,
that all truth is paradox,
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Na bado, tukurudia namba moja, kwamba ukweli wote ni kitendawili,
09:09
it's also a miracle
to get your work published,
to get your work published,
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Pia ni muujiza kupata kazi yako kuchapishwa,
09:11
to get your stories read and heard.
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Ili hadithi zako zisomwe na kusikika.
09:14
Just try to bust yourself
gently of the fantasy
gently of the fantasy
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Jaribu tu kujitahidi polepole na fantasia
09:17
that publication will heal you,
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ambayo itakuponya,
09:19
that it will fill the Swiss-cheesy
holes inside of you.
holes inside of you.
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itajaza mashimo ya chizi ya Uswisi ndani yako.
09:23
It can't.
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haiwezekani.
09:25
It won't.
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haitokuwa.
09:26
But writing can.
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Lakini uandishi unaweza.
09:28
So can singing in a choir
or a bluegrass band.
or a bluegrass band.
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Pia unaweza kuimba kwenye kwaya
au bendi.
au bendi.
09:32
So can painting community
murals or birding
murals or birding
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Pia uchoraji au ufugaji wa ndege
09:35
or fostering old dogs
that no one else will.
that no one else will.
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au kukuza mbwa wazee ambao hakuna mtu mwingine anataka.
09:40
Number eight: families.
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Ya nane: familia.
09:44
Families are hard, hard, hard,
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Familia ni ngumu, ngumu, ngumu,
09:48
no matter how cherished
and astonishing they may also be.
and astonishing they may also be.
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haijalishi namna gani tunaipenda au wavyotushangaza.
09:51
Again, see number one.
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Tena, rudia namba moja
09:53
(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
09:54
At family gatherings where you suddenly
feel homicidal or suicidal --
feel homicidal or suicidal --
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Katika mikusanyiko ya familia ambapo ghafla hujisikia kuua au kujiua --
09:58
(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
10:00
remember that in all cases,
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Kumbuka kwamba katika hali zote,
10:02
it's a miracle that any of us,
specifically, were conceived and born.
specifically, were conceived and born.
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Ni muujiza kwamba yeyote kati yetu hasa, alizaliwa.
10:08
Earth is forgiveness school.
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Dunia ni shule ya msamaha.
10:10
It begins with forgiving yourself,
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Inaanza kwa kujisamehe,
10:12
and then you might as well
start at the dinner table.
start at the dinner table.
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na kisha unaweza pia kuanza kusamehe watu mezani.
10:16
That way, you can do this work
in comfortable pants.
in comfortable pants.
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Hivyo unaweza kufanya kazi hio katika hali tulivu.
10:20
(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
10:23
When William Blake said that we are here
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William Blake aliposema kuwa tuko hapa
10:25
to learn to endure the beams of love,
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kujifunza kuhimili miale ya upendo,
10:28
he knew that your family would be
an intimate part of this,
an intimate part of this,
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alijua kwamba familia yako itakuwa sehemu kubwa ya hili,
10:31
even as you want to run screaming
for your cute little life.
for your cute little life.
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Hata unapotaka kukimbia, kupiga kelele kwa ajili ya kimaisha chako.
10:35
But I promise you are up to it.
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Lakini ninakuahidi uko tiyari.
10:38
You can do it, Cinderella, you can do it,
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Unaweza, Sindereli, unaweza,
10:41
and you will be amazed.
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Na utashangaa.
10:45
Nine: food.
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Tisa: chakula.
10:48
Try to do a little better.
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Jaribu kufanya vizuri zaidi.
10:51
I think you know what I mean.
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Nadhani unajua ninachmaanisha.
10:53
(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
11:03
Number 10 --
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Namba 10 --
11:04
(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
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grace.
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neema.
11:08
Grace is spiritual WD-40,
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Neema ni WD-40 ya kiroho,
11:11
or water wings.
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Au mabawa ya maji.
11:13
The mystery of grace is that God loves
Henry Kissinger and Vladimir Putin
Henry Kissinger and Vladimir Putin
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Fumbo la neema ni kwamba Mungu anapenda Henry Kissinger na Vladimir Putin
11:19
and me
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na mimi
11:20
exactly as much as He or She
loves your new grandchild.
loves your new grandchild.
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sawa kama anavyompenda mjukuu wako mpya.
11:24
Go figure.
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Embu fikiria.
11:26
(Laughter)
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(Vicheko)
11:28
The movement of grace
is what changes us, heals us
is what changes us, heals us
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Harakati ya neema ndio kinachotubadilisha, hutuponya
11:31
and heals our world.
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na huponya ulimwengu wetu.
11:33
To summon grace, say, "Help,"
and then buckle up.
and then buckle up.
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Kuita neema, sema, "Nisaidie,"
na kisha jiandae.
na kisha jiandae.
11:37
Grace finds you exactly where you are,
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Neema hukukuta wewe mahali ulipo,
11:39
but it doesn't leave you
where it found you.
where it found you.
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lakini haikuachi itakapokukuta.
11:42
And grace won't look
like Casper the Friendly Ghost,
like Casper the Friendly Ghost,
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Na neema haitofanana na Casper zimwi rafiki,
11:45
regrettably.
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kwa bahati mbaya.
11:47
But the phone will ring
or the mail will come
or the mail will come
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Lakini simu itapiga au barua itakuja
11:49
and then against all odds,
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Na kisha dhidi ya vikwazo vyote,
11:51
you'll get your sense of humor
about yourself back.
about yourself back.
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utapata ucheshi wako kuhusu mwenyewe tena.
11:54
Laughter really is carbonated holiness.
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Kicheko kweli ni utakatifu wenye kaboni.
11:58
It helps us breathe again and again
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Inatusaidia kupumua tena na tena
12:01
and gives us back to ourselves,
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Na kujipa tena,
12:03
and this gives us faith
in life and each other.
in life and each other.
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Na hutupa imani katika maisha na wengine.
12:08
And remember -- grace always bats last.
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Na kumbuka - daima neema huja mwishoni.
12:13
Eleven: God just means goodness.
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Eleven: Mungu anamaanisha wema tu.
12:16
It's really not all that scary.
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Hata haiogopeshi.
12:19
It means the divine or a loving,
animating intelligence,
animating intelligence,
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Ina maana ya kimungu au upendo,
kimaarifa
kimaarifa
12:23
or, as we learned
from the great "Deteriorata,"
from the great "Deteriorata,"
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au, kama tulivyojifunza kutoka kwa "Deteriorata" mkuu
12:27
"the cosmic muffin."
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"keki ya kikosmiki."
12:29
A good name for God is: "Not me."
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Jina jema la Mungu ni: "Sio mimi."
12:33
Emerson said that
the happiest person on Earth
the happiest person on Earth
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Emerson alisema mtu mwenye furaha zaidi duniani
12:36
is the one who learns from nature
the lessons of worship.
the lessons of worship.
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ni anayejifunza ibada kutoka kwa mazingira.
12:40
So go outside a lot and look up.
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Hivyo nenda nje na angalia juu.
12:43
My pastor said you can trap bees
on the bottom of mason jars without lids
on the bottom of mason jars without lids
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Mchungaji wangu alisema unaweza kutega nyuki ndani ya glasi bila kufunika
12:48
because they don't look up,
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kwa sababu hawaangalii juu,
12:50
so they just walk around bitterly
bumping into the glass walls.
bumping into the glass walls.
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hivyo wanatembea tu kwa huzuni na kuingia ndani ya glasi.
12:54
Go outside. Look up.
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Nenda nje. Tazama juu
12:57
Secret of life.
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Siri ya maisha.
12:59
And finally: death.
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Na hatimaye: kifo.
13:02
Number 12.
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Namba 12.
13:04
Wow and yikes.
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Wow na yikes.
13:07
It's so hard to bear when the few people
you cannot live without die.
you cannot live without die.
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Ni vigumu kuhimili kifo cha watu wachache tunaowapenda kwa dhati.
13:11
You'll never get over these losses,
and no matter what the culture says,
and no matter what the culture says,
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Kamwe huwezi kusahau hasara hizi, haijalishi utamaduni unasemaje,
13:15
you're not supposed to.
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hautakiwi.
13:17
We Christians like to think of death
as a major change of address,
as a major change of address,
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Sisi wakristo tunapenda kufikiria kifo kama mabadiliko makubwa ya anwani,
13:22
but in any case, the person
will live again fully in your heart
will live again fully in your heart
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Lakini katika hali yoyote, mtu huishi tena katika moyo wako
13:26
if you don't seal it off.
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usipoufunga na sili.
13:28
Like Leonard Cohen said,
"There are cracks in everything,
"There are cracks in everything,
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Kama Leonard Cohen alisema, "Kuna nyufa katika kila kitu,
13:31
and that's how the light gets in."
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na ndio jinsi mwanga unavyoingia.
13:33
And that's how we feel
our people again fully alive.
our people again fully alive.
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Na ndivyo tunavyojisikia wapendwa wetu wakiwa hai tena.
13:39
Also, the people will make
you laugh out loud
you laugh out loud
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Pia, watu watakufanya ucheke kwa nguvu
13:43
at the most inconvenient times,
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katika mida isio sahihi,
13:46
and that's the great good news.
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na hiyo ndiyo habari njema.
13:48
But their absence will also be a lifelong
nightmare of homesickness for you.
nightmare of homesickness for you.
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Lakini kutokuwepo kwao pia utakuacha na ndoto mbaya na ukimisi nyumbani daima
13:52
Grief and friends, time and tears
will heal you to some extent.
will heal you to some extent.
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Huzuni na marafiki, muda na machozi
vitakuponya kwa kiasi fulani.
vitakuponya kwa kiasi fulani.
13:57
Tears will bathe and baptize
and hydrate and moisturize you
and hydrate and moisturize you
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Machozi yatakuosha na kukubatiza
na kukuhidrati na kukurutubisha
na kukuhidrati na kukurutubisha
14:01
and the ground on which you walk.
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na ardhi unayotembelea.
14:04
Do you know the first thing
that God says to Moses?
that God says to Moses?
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Unajua kitu cha kwanza Mungu amwambia Musa?
14:08
He says, "Take off your shoes."
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Anasema, "Vua viatu vyako."
14:11
Because this is holy ground,
all evidence to the contrary.
all evidence to the contrary.
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Kwa sababu hii ni ardhi takatifu, ushahidi wote unakanua hili.
14:15
It's hard to believe,
but it's the truest thing I know.
but it's the truest thing I know.
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Ni vigumu kuamini, lakini ni jambo la ukweli kabisa nalojua .
14:18
When you're a little bit older,
like my tiny personal self,
like my tiny personal self,
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Unapokuwa mzee kidogo, kama mtoto mie,
14:22
you realize that death
is as sacred as birth.
is as sacred as birth.
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unatambua kifo ni takatifu kama kuzaliwa.
14:26
And don't worry -- get on with your life.
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Na hujali tena - bali uendelea na maisha yako.
14:30
Almost every single death
is easy and gentle
is easy and gentle
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Karibu kila kifo ni rahisi na polepole
14:34
with the very best people surrounding you
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pamoja na wapendwa wakikuzunguka
14:37
for as long as you need.
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kulingana na unavyohitaji.
14:39
You won't be alone.
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Hautokuwa peke yako.
14:42
They'll help you cross over
to whatever awaits us.
to whatever awaits us.
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Watakusaidia kuvuka kwa chochote kinachokusubiri.
14:46
As Ram Dass said,
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Kama Ram Dass alisema,
14:48
"When all is said and done,
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"Yote yakishasemwa na kutendwa,
14:50
we're really just all walking
each other home."
each other home."
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tunatembea tu katika nyumba ya kila mmoja wetu. "
14:55
I think that's it,
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Nadhani nimemaliza,
14:56
but if I think of anything else,
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lakini kama nikifikiria kitu kingine chochote,
14:58
I'll let you know.
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Nitawajulisha.
15:00
Thank you.
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Ahsante.
15:01
(Applause)
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(Makofi)
15:03
Thank you.
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Ahsante.
15:04
(Applause)
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(Makofi)
15:06
I was very surprised to be asked to come,
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Nilishangaa sana nilipoulizwa kuja hapa,
15:08
because it is not my realm,
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Kwa sababu sio eneo langu,
15:11
technology or design or entertainment.
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Teknolojia au tarakibu au burudani.
15:13
I mean, my realm is sort of
faith and writing
faith and writing
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Yaani eneo langu ni imani na uandishi
15:16
and kind of lurching along together.
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na huambatana pamoja.
15:19
And I was surprised,
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Na nilishangaa,
15:21
but they said I could give a talk,
and I said I'd love to.
and I said I'd love to.
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Lakini waliniuliza niwasilishe majadiliano, na nilikubali.
15:25
(Video) If you don't know where to start,
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(Video) Kama hujui utaanzia wapi,
15:27
remember that every single thing
that happened to you is yours
that happened to you is yours
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kukumbuka kwamba unamiliki kila kitu kilichokutokea
15:30
and you get to tell it.
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na una haki ya kusimulia.
15:32
Anne Lamott: People are very frightened
and feel really doomed
and feel really doomed
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Anne Lamott: Watu wana hofu sana na kuhisi kweli wamepotea
15:35
in America these days,
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katika Amerika ya leo,
15:36
and I just wanted to help people
get their sense of humor about it
get their sense of humor about it
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na nilitaka tu kuwasaidia watu
kuuona ucheshi kuhusu hilo
kuuona ucheshi kuhusu hilo
15:39
and to realize how much isn't a problem.
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na kutambua ni kiasi gani sio tatizo.
15:43
If you take an action,
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Ukikuchukua hatua,
15:47
take a really healthy or loving
or friendly action,
or friendly action,
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chukua kweli hatua katika upendo, katika kirafiki,
15:51
you'll have loving and friendly feelings.
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utabaki na hisia za upendo na urafiki.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Anne Lamott - Novelist, essayistWith disarming familiarity, Anne Lamott tackles what most don’t like to consider. Her honest writing helps us make sense of life’s chaos.
Why you should listen
Anne Lamott hooks into our common experience and guides us to an understanding infused with openness. An activist, former alcoholic and Sunday School teacher, Lamott uses humor to weave through loss, parenthood, faith and the cancer diagnosis given to her best friend, in beloved books like Bird by Bird and Help, Thanks, Wow: The Three Essential Prayers. She says, "Hope begins in the dark ... if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don't give up."
Her next book, Hallelujah Anyway: Rediscovering Mercy, was released in April 2017.
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