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Monica Lewinsky: The price of shame
莫尼卡·莱温斯基: 羞辱的代价
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”公开羞辱是必须要被制止的流血的娱乐“，莫尼卡·莱温斯基说。在1998年，她说过”我是零号病人，一瞬间就在世界面前丧失了名誉。“今天，她曾经历过的公开羞辱的现象变得普遍——并且变得致命。在这次勇敢的演讲中，她以一种犀利的方式看待网络羞辱文化，并且寻求一种新的方式来对待它。
Monica Lewinsky - Social activist
Monica Lewinsky advocates for a safer and more compassionate social media environment, drawing from her unique experiences at the epicenter of a media maelstrom in 1998. Full bio
Monica Lewinsky advocates for a safer and more compassionate social media environment, drawing from her unique experiences at the epicenter of a media maelstrom in 1998. Full bio
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00:12
You're looking at a woman
who was publicly silent for a decade.
who was publicly silent for a decade.
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站在你们面前的这个女人，
曾经在公众面前沉默了十年。
曾经在公众面前沉默了十年。
当然，这已经改变了。
00:18
Obviously, that's changed,
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but only recently.
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但是也只是最近才发生而已。
00:23
It was several months ago
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几个月之前，
00:24
that I gave my very first
major public talk
major public talk
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我在“30位30岁以下创业者”福布斯峰会上,
00:27
at the Forbes 30 Under 30 summit:
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贡献了我第一个公众演讲。
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1,500 brilliant people,
all under the age of 30.
all under the age of 30.
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1500位杰出的人，
年龄全部都在30岁以下。
年龄全部都在30岁以下。
00:35
That meant that in 1998,
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这意味着在1998年，
00:37
the oldest among the group were only 14,
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这些人中年龄最大的只有14岁，
00:41
and the youngest, just four.
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而最小的，只有4岁。
00:45
I joked with them that some
might only have heard of me
might only have heard of me
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我开玩笑的跟他们说，
他们其中的一些人
他们其中的一些人
00:48
from rap songs.
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可能只在说唱歌曲里听说过我。
00:50
Yes, I'm in rap songs.
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是的，说唱歌曲里有我。
00:53
Almost 40 rap songs. (Laughter)
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近乎有40首。
（观众笑）
（观众笑）
00:58
But the night of my speech,
a surprising thing happened.
a surprising thing happened.
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但是就在我演讲的那一晚，
一件意外的事发生了。
一件意外的事发生了。
01:02
At the age of 41, I was hit on
by a 27-year-old guy.
by a 27-year-old guy.
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41岁的我被一个27岁的男生搭讪了。
01:09
I know, right?
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我知道（我还算有些名气），对吧？
01:12
He was charming and I was flattered,
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他十分迷人并且不断地讨好我，
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and I declined.
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但是我拒绝了。
01:17
You know what his
unsuccessful pickup line was?
unsuccessful pickup line was?
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你们知道他不成功的搭讪句是什么吗？
他说他可以让我重新体验22岁。
01:21
He could make me feel 22 again.
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01:24
(Laughter) (Applause)
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（笑声）（掌声）
01:30
I realized later that night,
I'm probably the only person over 40
I'm probably the only person over 40
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我那晚才意识到我大概是唯一一个
01:35
who does not want to be 22 again.
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不想重新体验22岁的中年人。
01:38
(Laughter)
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（笑声）
01:41
(Applause)
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（掌声）
01:47
At the age of 22,
I fell in love with my boss,
I fell in love with my boss,
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在我22岁的时候，我爱上了我的上司，
01:52
and at the age of 24,
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然后在24岁的时候，
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I learned the devastating consequences.
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我得到了毁灭性的教训。
01:59
Can I see a show of hands of anyone here
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在场的人，有22岁时没做过错事
02:02
who didn't make a mistake
or do something they regretted at 22?
or do something they regretted at 22?
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或者没后悔过自己22岁经历的，
请举手示意好吗？
请举手示意好吗？
02:09
Yep. That's what I thought.
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没错，我就是那样想的。
02:12
So like me, at 22, a few of you
may have also taken wrong turns
may have also taken wrong turns
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所以你们中一些人，就像我一样，
在22岁时做了错误的选择，
在22岁时做了错误的选择，
02:18
and fallen in love with the wrong person,
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爱上了错的人，
02:21
maybe even your boss.
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这个人甚至可能是你的上司。
02:24
Unlike me, though, your boss
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虽然跟我的情况不同，
02:26
probably wasn't the president
of the United States of America.
of the United States of America.
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你的上司可能不是美国总统。
当然了，生活充满着惊喜。
02:31
Of course, life is full of surprises.
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02:36
Not a day goes by that I'm not
reminded of my mistake,
reminded of my mistake,
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生活中的每一天，
都在提醒着我曾经犯下的错误，
都在提醒着我曾经犯下的错误，
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and I regret that mistake deeply.
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我也为此后悔不已。
02:45
In 1998, after having been swept up
into an improbable romance,
into an improbable romance,
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1998年，在我陷入这段
不可能有结果的爱情之后，
不可能有结果的爱情之后，
02:52
I was then swept up into the eye
of a political, legal and media maelstrom
of a political, legal and media maelstrom
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我卷入了政治、法律和媒体漩涡的中心，
02:57
like we had never seen before.
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这场漩涡我们都前所未见。
要知道，仅仅在几年之前，
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Remember, just a few years earlier,
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news was consumed from just three places:
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我们只能从三个地方了解新闻：
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reading a newspaper or magazine,
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读报刊杂志，
听广播，
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listening to the radio,
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或者看电视。
03:11
or watching television.
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就是这么简单。
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That was it.
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03:14
But that wasn't my fate.
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但到了我这里，
就没有那么好的命了。
就没有那么好的命了。
03:18
Instead, this scandal was brought to you
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与以往不同，
那次丑闻是通过数字革命
那次丑闻是通过数字革命
03:21
by the digital revolution.
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被公之于众的。
03:24
That meant we could access
all the information we wanted,
all the information we wanted,
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这次革命使得我们可以在
任何时间、地点
任何时间、地点
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when we wanted it, anytime, anywhere,
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获得我们想知道的任何信息
03:32
and when the story broke in January 1998,
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在1998年的一月，事情曝光了，
03:36
it broke online.
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网上的相关报道铺天盖地。
03:39
It was the first time the traditional news
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那是网络第一次取代了传统媒体
03:42
was usurped by the Internet
for a major news story,
for a major news story,
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来传播主流新闻，
03:47
a click that reverberated
around the world.
around the world.
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一个点击的声音响彻了全世界。
03:52
What that meant for me personally
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对我个人来说，
03:54
was that overnight I went
from being a completely private figure
from being a completely private figure
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仅一个晚上过后，
我就从一个完全普通的无名人士，
我就从一个完全普通的无名人士，
04:00
to a publicly humiliated one worldwide.
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变成了一个全世界都在羞辱的人。
04:05
I was patient zero
of losing a personal reputation
of losing a personal reputation
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几乎在一瞬间，我就成为了零号病人，
在全世界公众眼中
在全世界公众眼中
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on a global scale almost instantaneously.
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彻底丧失了个人名誉。
科技使得人们草率的对我进行了评判，
04:15
This rush to judgment,
enabled by technology,
enabled by technology,
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04:17
led to mobs of virtual stone-throwers.
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也使得很多暴民开始攻击我。
04:22
Granted, it was before social media,
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诚然，那时并没有社交网络，
04:25
but people could still comment online,
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但人们仍可以在线评论，
通过邮件转发故事，
当然还有不堪入耳的笑话。
当然还有不堪入耳的笑话。
04:28
email stories, and, of course,
email cruel jokes.
email cruel jokes.
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04:34
News sources plastered
photos of me all over
photos of me all over
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新闻媒体将我的照片贴得到处都是，
04:37
to sell newspapers, banner ads online,
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借此提高报纸销量，
为网站吸引广告商，
为网站吸引广告商，
04:41
and to keep people tuned to the TV.
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为电视节目吸引更多观众。
04:45
Do you recall a particular image of me,
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你们还记得当时我的那张图片吗，
04:49
say, wearing a beret?
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就是戴着一顶贝雷帽的那一张？
04:53
Now, I admit I made mistakes,
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现在，我承认我当时犯下了错误，
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especially wearing that beret.
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尤其是不应该戴那顶贝雷帽。
05:00
But the attention and judgment
that I received, not the story,
that I received, not the story,
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但在此事件之外，仅仅因我个人
05:04
but that I personally received,
was unprecedented.
was unprecedented.
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所引起的轰动和道德评价，
是史无前例的。
是史无前例的。
05:08
I was branded as a tramp,
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我被打上各种标签，母狗、
05:12
tart, slut, whore, bimbo,
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妓女、荡妇、婊子、贱人，
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and, of course, that woman.
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当然还有，“那个女人”。
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I was seen by many
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很多人知道我，
但很少有人了解我。
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but actually known by few.
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05:28
And I get it: it was easy to forget
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并且我也明白：人们不会记得
05:32
that that woman was dimensional,
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”那个女人“也是多维的、
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had a soul, and was once unbroken.
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是有灵魂的、曾经也是完好无缺的。
05:41
When this happened to me 17 years ago,
there was no name for it.
there was no name for it.
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17年前发生这件事的时候，
它还没有相应的专属名词。
它还没有相应的专属名词。
05:46
Now we call it cyberbullying
and online harassment.
and online harassment.
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现在我们叫它”网络欺凌“或者”线上骚扰“。
05:52
Today, I want to share
some of my experience with you,
some of my experience with you,
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今天，我想和大家分享一些我的经历，
谈谈这些经历是
如何塑造了我对文化的审视，
如何塑造了我对文化的审视，
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talk about how that experience has helped
shape my cultural observations,
shape my cultural observations,
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06:00
and how I hope my past experience
can lead to a change that results
can lead to a change that results
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谈谈我是多么希望过去的经历
可以引起一场变革，帮助其他人
可以引起一场变革，帮助其他人
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in less suffering for others.
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少遭受一些痛苦。
1998年，我失去了我的名誉和尊严。
06:10
In 1998, I lost my reputation
and my dignity.
and my dignity.
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06:15
I lost almost everything,
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我几乎失去了所有，
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and I almost lost my life.
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甚至我的生命。
06:24
Let me paint a picture for you.
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我来给大家描述这样一个画面。
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It is September of 1998.
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在1998年的9月，
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I'm sitting in a windowless office room
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我坐在一个没有窗户的办公室，
06:35
inside the Office
of the Independent Counsel
of the Independent Counsel
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在独立检察官办公室里，
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underneath humming fluorescent lights.
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日光灯嗡嗡作响，
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I'm listening to the sound of my voice,
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我听着自己在一通电话里的声音，
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my voice on surreptitiously
taped phone calls
taped phone calls
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那个电话是一年前通过窃听录取的，
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that a supposed friend
had made the year before.
had made the year before.
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是一个我当时以为是朋友的人打来的。
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I'm here because
I've been legally required
I've been legally required
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我来到这里，
是因为我被法律要求亲自证明，
是因为我被法律要求亲自证明，
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to personally authenticate
all 20 hours of taped conversation.
all 20 hours of taped conversation.
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这20小时的录音对话全部是真实的。
07:05
For the past eight months,
the mysterious content of these tapes
the mysterious content of these tapes
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在过去的八个月里，这些对话的内容，
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has hung like the Sword
of Damocles over my head.
of Damocles over my head.
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一直像达摩克利斯之剑（临头的危险）
一样悬在我的头上。
一样悬在我的头上。
想想，谁会记得一年前自己说的话呢？
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I mean, who can remember
what they said a year ago?
what they said a year ago?
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07:17
Scared and mortified, I listen,
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我带着害怕与窘迫的心情听着，
听着自己闲聊一些琐碎的事；
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listen as I prattle on
about the flotsam and jetsam of the day;
about the flotsam and jetsam of the day;
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07:27
listen as I confess my love
for the president,
for the president,
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听着自己坦白对总统的爱，
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and, of course, my heartbreak;
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以及感到多么的心碎；
07:34
listen to my sometimes catty,
sometimes churlish, sometimes silly self
sometimes churlish, sometimes silly self
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我听着有时狡猾、有时脾气暴躁、
有时愚蠢的自己，
有时愚蠢的自己，
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being cruel, unforgiving, uncouth;
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变得残忍，不愿宽恕，变得陌生；
我听着，我对那最坏的自己
07:45
listen, deeply, deeply ashamed,
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07:48
to the worst version of myself,
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产生了极深、极深的羞耻感，
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a self I don't even recognize.
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那是一个连我都不认识的自己。
07:56
A few days later, the Starr Report
is released to Congress,
is released to Congress,
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几天之后，议会接到了斯塔尔报告，
08:00
and all of those tapes and transcripts,
those stolen words, form a part of it.
those stolen words, form a part of it.
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那里面包括了所有被偷走的
录音和文字记录。
录音和文字记录。
08:06
That people can read the transcripts
is horrific enough,
is horrific enough,
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人们能读到原文稿，
就已经十分可怕了，
就已经十分可怕了，
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but a few weeks later,
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但是几周之后，
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the audio tapes are aired on TV,
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录音在电视上被播报了，
08:17
and significant portions
made available online.
made available online.
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并且重要的部分都被传到了网上。
08:22
The public humiliation was excruciating.
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公众的羞辱令我备受折磨。
生命几乎变得不可承受。
08:27
Life was almost unbearable.
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08:32
This was not something that happened
with regularity back then in 1998,
with regularity back then in 1998,
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这种事在1998年并不常见，
08:38
and by this, I mean the stealing
of people's private words, actions,
of people's private words, actions,
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通过这种事，
我是指偷窃私人的言语，行为，
我是指偷窃私人的言语，行为，
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conversations or photos,
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谈话或者照片，
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and then making them public --
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然后将它们公之于众——
在未经允许的情况下、
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public without consent,
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08:51
public without context,
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在没有来龙去脉的情况下、
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and public without compassion.
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在没有怜悯心的情况下公之于众。
12年很快过去了，到了2010年
08:58
Fast forward 12 years to 2010,
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09:01
and now social media has been born.
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社交媒体诞生了。
像我这样的例子更加层出不穷，
09:05
The landscape has sadly become much
more populated with instances like mine,
more populated with instances like mine,
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09:10
whether or not someone
actually make a mistake,
actually make a mistake,
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不论当事人是否真的犯了错误，
09:13
and now it's for both public
and private people.
and private people.
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甚至不论公众人物还是普通人，
都不能幸免。
都不能幸免。
09:18
The consequences for some
have become dire, very dire.
have become dire, very dire.
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这个结果对一些人来说
变得可怕，非常可怕。
变得可怕，非常可怕。
09:25
I was on the phone with my mom
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在2010年的9月，我和妈妈
09:28
in September of 2010,
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打了一通电话，
09:31
and we were talking about the news
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讨论了关于泰勒·克莱门蒂的新闻，
09:32
of a young college freshman
from Rutgers University
from Rutgers University
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他是罗格斯大学
09:35
named Tyler Clementi.
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一年级的新生。
09:38
Sweet, sensitive, creative Tyler
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亲切的、敏感的、充满创造力的泰勒
09:41
was secretly webcammed by his roommate
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被他的室友在宿舍安装了网络摄像头，
09:44
while being intimate with another man.
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录下了他与另一名男子的亲密行为。
09:48
When the online world
learned of this incident,
learned of this incident,
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当这件事传播到网络上，
09:51
the ridicule and cyberbullying ignited.
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嘲笑和网络欺凌被点燃。
09:56
A few days later,
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几天之后，
09:57
Tyler jumped from
the George Washington Bridge
the George Washington Bridge
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泰勒从乔治华盛顿大桥跳下。
10:01
to his death.
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他自杀了。
10:03
He was 18.
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他当时只有18岁。
我妈妈对于泰勒和他家庭
遭受的一切感到十分悲伤，
遭受的一切感到十分悲伤，
10:07
My mom was beside herself about
what happened to Tyler and his family,
what happened to Tyler and his family,
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10:12
and she was gutted with pain
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但当时我对于她的悲伤和痛苦
10:14
in a way that I just couldn't
quite understand,
quite understand,
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并不能感同身受，
10:18
and then eventually I realized
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后来我终于明白了，
10:20
she was reliving 1998,
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妈妈又重新经历了1998年的事，
10:23
reliving a time when she sat
by my bed every night,
by my bed every night,
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重新经历了那段她每个晚上
都坐在我床头的时期，
都坐在我床头的时期，
重新经历了那段她要我
开着浴室门洗澡的时期，
开着浴室门洗澡的时期，
10:30
reliving a time when she made me shower
with the bathroom door open,
with the bathroom door open,
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10:36
and reliving a time
when both of my parents feared
when both of my parents feared
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重新经历了那段令我的
父母担惊受怕的时期，
父母担惊受怕的时期，
10:40
that I would be humiliated to death,
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他们怕我因受不了流言蜚语的羞辱
10:43
literally.
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而自杀。
10:48
Today, too many parents
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今天，太多父母
10:51
haven't had the chance to step in
and rescue their loved ones.
and rescue their loved ones.
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没有机会干预或拯救他们挚爱的人。
10:54
Too many have learned
of their child's suffering and humiliation
of their child's suffering and humiliation
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太多父母在得知他们孩子正遭受痛苦，
备受凌辱的时候，
备受凌辱的时候，
10:58
after it was too late.
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一切都太晚了。
11:01
Tyler's tragic, senseless death
was a turning point for me.
was a turning point for me.
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泰勒的悲剧，他的死亡，
对我来说是一个转折点。
对我来说是一个转折点。
11:06
It served to recontextualize
my experiences,
my experiences,
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它让我再次想起了我的经历，
11:10
and I then began to look at the world
of humiliation and bullying around me
of humiliation and bullying around me
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我开始审视身边存在的
羞辱和欺凌，
羞辱和欺凌，
11:14
and see something different.
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并且发现了一些不同的东西。
11:18
In 1998, we had no way of knowing
where this brave new technology
where this brave new technology
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在1998年，我们根本没有意识到
这个叫做”互联网“的科技
这个叫做”互联网“的科技
11:23
called the Internet would take us.
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会将我们带往何处。
11:26
Since then, it has connected people
in unimaginable ways,
in unimaginable ways,
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从那时起，它以我们始料未及的
方式将人们彼此联系起来，
方式将人们彼此联系起来，
11:30
joining lost siblings,
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找到失散的兄弟姐妹，
11:32
saving lives, launching revolutions,
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拯救生命，发起革命，
11:36
but the darkness, cyberbullying,
and slut-shaming that I experienced
and slut-shaming that I experienced
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但是我经历过的黑暗、网络欺凌
和被骂做荡妇的状况，
和被骂做荡妇的状况，
11:41
had mushroomed.
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也在迅速增加。
网上的人们，尤其是那些还没有成熟到
11:45
Every day online, people,
especially young people
especially young people
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11:49
who are not developmentally
equipped to handle this,
equipped to handle this,
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可以处理这些事的年轻人，
11:52
are so abused and humiliated
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每天都被指责、羞辱，
11:55
that they can't imagine living
to the next day,
to the next day,
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以至于他们甚至不敢
想象如何面对新的一天，
想象如何面对新的一天，
11:57
and some, tragically, don't,
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很遗憾，一些年轻人也的确
因此失去了生命，
因此失去了生命，
12:01
and there's nothing virtual about that.
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而他们的生命失去得没有任何意义。
ChildLine，英国的一个旨在帮助年轻人
解决各种问题的公益组织，
解决各种问题的公益组织，
12:05
ChildLine, a U.K. nonprofit that's focused
on helping young people on various issues,
on helping young people on various issues,
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12:11
released a staggering statistic
late last year:
late last year:
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在去年年末给出了一个令人惊愕的数据：
12:15
From 2012 to 2013,
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与2012年相比，2013年
12:18
there was an 87 percent increase
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有关网络凌辱的电话和邮件的数量
12:22
in calls and emails related
to cyberbullying.
to cyberbullying.
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增长了87%。
荷兰的一项综合分析
12:27
A meta-analysis done
out of the Netherlands
out of the Netherlands
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12:29
showed that for the first time,
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首次指出，
网络欺凌比线下欺凌更容易导致
12:31
cyberbullying was leading
to suicidal ideations
to suicidal ideations
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12:36
more significantly than offline bullying.
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人们产生自杀的念头。
12:40
And you know what shocked me,
although it shouldn't have,
although it shouldn't have,
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而且，去年还有一项研究
更让我震惊，
更让我震惊，
12:43
was other research last year
that determined humiliation
that determined humiliation
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尽管我本不该如此，那项研究发现
12:47
was a more intensely felt emotion
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相比快乐或是愤怒，羞辱是一种
12:50
than either happiness or even anger.
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更加强烈的一种情感。
12:56
Cruelty to others is nothing new,
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粗暴的对待他人
已经不是什么新鲜事了，
已经不是什么新鲜事了，
12:59
but online, technologically
enhanced shaming is amplified,
enhanced shaming is amplified,
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但是在网络上，技术的进步
导致羞辱被无限放大、
导致羞辱被无限放大、
13:05
uncontained, and permanently accessible.
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缺乏他人的包容，而且永久可见。
13:11
The echo of embarrassment used to extend
only as far as your family, village,
only as far as your family, village,
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在过去，羞辱的传播
只会涉及到你的家人、村庄，
只会涉及到你的家人、村庄，
13:16
school or community,
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学校或者社区，
13:19
but now it's the online community too.
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但是现在有了网上社区。
13:23
Millions of people, often anonymously,
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成百万的人，通常是匿名的人
13:25
can stab you with their words,
and that's a lot of pain,
and that's a lot of pain,
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用他们的言语刺伤你，
那种伤痛难以言表，
那种伤痛难以言表，
13:29
and there are no perimeters
around how many people
around how many people
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而且你不知道到底有多少人，
什么样的人
什么样的人
13:33
can publicly observe you
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能够公开地
13:35
and put you in a public stockade.
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看到这些言论。
被公开羞辱
13:39
There is a very personal price
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13:42
to public humiliation,
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对个人的伤害很大，
13:45
and the growth of the Internet
has jacked up that price.
has jacked up that price.
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而且网络的发展加剧了这种伤害。
13:51
For nearly two decades now,
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近二十年来，
13:54
we have slowly been sowing the seeds
of shame and public humiliation
of shame and public humiliation
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无论是网络还是生活中，
我们都在文化的土壤里慢慢地
我们都在文化的土壤里慢慢地
13:58
in our cultural soil,
both on- and offline.
both on- and offline.
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种下了公开羞辱的种子。
八卦网站，狗仔队，真人节目，政治话题，
14:04
Gossip websites, paparazzi,
reality programming, politics,
reality programming, politics,
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14:09
news outlets and sometimes hackers
all traffic in shame.
all traffic in shame.
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新闻报道，甚至黑客，
这些都是羞辱的渠道。
这些都是羞辱的渠道。
14:14
It's led to desensitization
and a permissive environment online
and a permissive environment online
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麻木不仁、放纵自由的网络环境，
14:19
which lends itself to trolling,
invasion of privacy, and cyberbullying.
invasion of privacy, and cyberbullying.
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让网络煽动、隐私侵犯和
网络欺凌越来越猖獗。
网络欺凌越来越猖獗。
14:25
This shift has created
what Professor Nicolaus Mills calls
what Professor Nicolaus Mills calls
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这种转变创造了
尼古拉斯·米尔斯教授所说的
尼古拉斯·米尔斯教授所说的
14:29
a culture of humiliation.
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羞辱文化。
来看一些典型的例子，
都是过去六个月内刚刚发生的。
都是过去六个月内刚刚发生的。
14:33
Consider a few prominent examples
just from the past six months alone.
just from the past six months alone.
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14:38
Snapchat, the service which is used
mainly by younger generations
mainly by younger generations
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Snapchat，这种服务主要是年轻人在用，
14:43
and claims that its messages
only have the lifespan
only have the lifespan
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宣称它上面的信息
14:46
of a few seconds.
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只会保留几秒种。
14:47
You can imagine the range
of content that that gets.
of content that that gets.
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你们可以想象一下这会涉及到哪些内容。
14:51
A third-party app which Snapchatters
use to preserve the lifespan
use to preserve the lifespan
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一个Snapchat用来维持
信息寿命的第三方软件
信息寿命的第三方软件
14:55
of the messages was hacked,
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被黑客攻击了，
14:57
and 100,000 personal conversations,
photos, and videos were leaked online
photos, and videos were leaked online
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这导致10万条私人对话、照片、视频
在网络上遭到泄露，
在网络上遭到泄露，
15:04
to now have a lifespan of forever.
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并且变得随时随地唾手可得。
15:09
Jennifer Lawrence and several other actors
had their iCloud accounts hacked,
had their iCloud accounts hacked,
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詹妮弗·劳伦斯和其他几个演员的
iCloud账户被入侵，
iCloud账户被入侵，
15:13
and private, intimate, nude photos
were plastered across the Internet
were plastered across the Internet
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私人的，亲密的，裸体的照片未经过允许
15:17
without their permission.
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就被粘贴在了网上。
15:19
One gossip website
had over five million hits
had over five million hits
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仅这一个丑闻就使得一个八卦网站获得了
15:23
for this one story.
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超过五百万的点击量。
想想索尼影业黑客攻击？
15:27
And what about the Sony Pictures
cyberhacking?
cyberhacking?
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15:30
The documents which received
the most attention
the most attention
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最受关注的文件就是那些私人邮件，
15:33
were private emails that had
maximum public embarrassment value.
maximum public embarrassment value.
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它们具备最大的公开羞辱的价值。
15:39
But in this culture of humiliation,
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但是在羞辱文化中，
15:42
there is another kind of price tag
attached to public shaming.
attached to public shaming.
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公开羞辱还被贴上了另外一种价格标签。
这里不衡量受害者的损失，
15:47
The price does not measure
the cost to the victim,
the cost to the victim,
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15:50
which Tyler and too many others,
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就像泰勒还有其他很多人，
15:53
notably women, minorities,
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尤其是女人、少数群体，
15:55
and members of the LGBTQ
community have paid,
community have paid,
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以及多元性别社区，
这些受害者的损失，
这些受害者的损失，
15:59
but the price measures the profit
of those who prey on them.
of those who prey on them.
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而是衡量通过折磨他们所获得的利润。
16:04
This invasion of others is a raw material,
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侵入他人的私人领域是一种原材料，
16:08
efficiently and ruthlessly mined,
packaged and sold at a profit.
packaged and sold at a profit.
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被有效地、无情地挖掘出来，
然后包装，销售，获取利润。
然后包装，销售，获取利润。
16:14
A marketplace has emerged
where public humiliation is a commodity
where public humiliation is a commodity
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在一个新生的市场中，
公开羞辱成了一种商品，
公开羞辱成了一种商品，
16:20
and shame is an industry.
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而耻辱成为了一个产业。
16:24
How is the money made?
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如何赚钱呢？
16:27
Clicks.
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点击。
16:29
The more shame, the more clicks.
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越是见不得人的事，点击量就越多。
16:32
The more clicks,
the more advertising dollars.
the more advertising dollars.
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点击量越多，赚取的广告费用就越多。
16:37
We're in a dangerous cycle.
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我们处在一个危险的循环当中。
16:39
The more we click on this kind of gossip,
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我们越多地点击这种八卦，
16:42
the more numb we get
to the human lives behind it,
to the human lives behind it,
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我们对其背后当事人的
生活就越麻木不仁。
生活就越麻木不仁。
16:46
and the more numb we get,
the more we click.
the more we click.
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我们越麻木不仁，点击得就越多。
16:51
All the while, someone is making money
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自始至终，都是某些人在利用
16:54
off of the back
of someone else's suffering.
of someone else's suffering.
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他人的痛苦来牟利。
16:58
With every click, we make a choice.
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每一次点击，我们都是在作出选择。
17:01
The more we saturate our culture
with public shaming,
with public shaming,
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文化中充斥的公开羞辱越多，
17:05
the more accepted it is,
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我们越愿意接受它，
17:06
the more we will see behavior
like cyberbullying,
like cyberbullying,
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我们就会看到更多的像网络欺凌、
网络煽动
网络煽动
17:10
trolling, some forms of hacking,
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黑客入侵、线上骚扰，
17:12
and online harassment.
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诸如此类的行为。
17:15
Why? Because they all have
humiliation at their cores.
humiliation at their cores.
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为什么？因为它们的核心都是羞辱。
17:23
This behavior is a symptom
of the culture we've created.
of the culture we've created.
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这些行为是我们创造的文化的一种病症。
17:27
Just think about it.
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想一想吧。
从改变信仰开始，改变我们的行为。
17:31
Changing behavior begins
with evolving beliefs.
with evolving beliefs.
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17:34
We've seen that to be true
with racism, homophobia,
with racism, homophobia,
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过去和如今的很多种族歧视、
同性歧视及其他歧视，
同性歧视及其他歧视，
17:38
and plenty of other biases,
today and in the past.
today and in the past.
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都可以通过这样的方式来消除。
随着我们对同性结婚看法的改变，
17:42
As we've changed beliefs
about same-sex marriage,
about same-sex marriage,
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更多的人被赋予了平等的自由。
17:46
more people have been
offered equal freedoms.
offered equal freedoms.
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当我们意识到了可持续性的重要之处，
17:50
When we began valuing sustainability,
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17:52
more people began to recycle.
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更多的人开始已经
把目光转向了循环利用。
把目光转向了循环利用。
17:55
So as far as our culture
of humiliation goes,
of humiliation goes,
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现在，随着羞辱文化的发展，
17:58
what we need is a cultural revolution.
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我们需要的是文化的变革。
18:02
Public shaming
as a blood sport has to stop,
as a blood sport has to stop,
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公开羞辱这种流血的文化
是时候该停止了，
是时候该停止了，
18:06
and it's time for an intervention
on the Internet and in our culture.
on the Internet and in our culture.
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无论是互联网还是我们的文化，
都是时候对其进行干预了。
都是时候对其进行干预了。
18:11
The shift begins with something simple,
but it's not easy.
but it's not easy.
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转变可以从简单的事开始，
但是这又谈何容易。
但是这又谈何容易。
18:16
We need to return to a long-held value
of compassion -- compassion and empathy.
of compassion -- compassion and empathy.
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我们需要拾回怜悯的价值观——
同情心和同理心。
同情心和同理心。
18:22
Online, we've got a compassion deficit,
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在网络上，出现了同情心匮乏
18:25
an empathy crisis.
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和同理心危机。
18:29
Researcher Brené Brown said, and I quote,
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引用研究人员布林·布朗的话，
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"Shame can't survive empathy."
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“耻辱在同理心下无法存活。”
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Shame cannot survive empathy.
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耻辱在同理心下无法存活。
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I've seen some very dark days in my life,
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我的生命中有过一段十分黑暗的日子，
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and it was the compassion and empathy
from my family, friends, professionals,
from my family, friends, professionals,
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而来自家人、朋友、专家，
甚至一些陌生人的
甚至一些陌生人的
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and sometimes even strangers
that saved me.
that saved me.
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同情心和同理心拯救了我，
来自哪怕只有一个人的同理心，
都会是莫大的安慰。
都会是莫大的安慰。
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Even empathy from one person
can make a difference.
can make a difference.
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The theory of minority influence,
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社会学家谢尔盖·莫斯科维奇
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proposed by social psychologist
Serge Moscovici,
Serge Moscovici,
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所提出的小众影响理论认为，
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says that even in small numbers,
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哪怕是很小的一部分群体的行为，
19:10
when there's consistency over time,
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只要能坚持下去，
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change can happen.
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也会引起变化。
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In the online world,
we can foster minority influence
we can foster minority influence
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在网络世界，我们可以通过以身作则，
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by becoming upstanders.
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来培育小众影响力。
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To become an upstander means
instead of bystander apathy,
instead of bystander apathy,
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以身作则的意思是说，
并不只是同情的旁观，而是要
并不只是同情的旁观，而是要
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we can post a positive comment for someone
or report a bullying situation.
or report a bullying situation.
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发表积极的评论支持受害者，
或举报网络欺凌的现象。
或举报网络欺凌的现象。
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Trust me, compassionate comments
help abate the negativity.
help abate the negativity.
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相信我，富有同情心的评论
可以帮助减少消极影响。
可以帮助减少消极影响。
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We can also counteract the culture
by supporting organizations
by supporting organizations
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我们还可以通过支持
处理这类问题的组织机构
处理这类问题的组织机构
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that deal with these kinds of issues,
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来对抗这种羞辱文化，
19:41
like the Tyler Clementi
Foundation in the U.S.,
Foundation in the U.S.,
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比如，美国有泰勒·克莱门蒂基金会，
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In the U.K., there's Anti-Bullying Pro,
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英国有反欺凌项目，
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and in Australia, there's Project Rockit.
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澳大利亚有Rockit项目。
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We talk a lot about our right
to freedom of expression,
to freedom of expression,
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我们一直在谈论言论自由的权利，
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but we need to talk more about
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但是我们也需要更多地谈到
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our responsibility
to freedom of expression.
to freedom of expression.
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我们在言论自由方面的义务。
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We all want to be heard,
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我们都想被听到，
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but let's acknowledge the difference
between speaking up with intention
between speaking up with intention
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但是我们要区别怀有意图的发声，
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and speaking up for attention.
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和想被关注的发声。
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The Internet is
the superhighway for the id,
the superhighway for the id,
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互联网是个人表达自我的高速公路，
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but online, showing empathy to others
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不过在网上，对他人表现出同理心
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benefits us all and helps create
a safer and better world.
a safer and better world.
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会使我们每个人受益，
并且会帮助创造更安全、更美好的世界。
并且会帮助创造更安全、更美好的世界。
20:27
We need to communicate
online with compassion,
online with compassion,
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我们需要怀着同情心在网上交流，
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consume news with compassion,
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怀着同情心阅读新闻，
怀着同情心进行点击。
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and click with compassion.
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20:36
Just imagine walking a mile
in someone else's headline.
in someone else's headline.
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想象一下自己活在别人
新闻头条里的情形吧。
新闻头条里的情形吧。
最后，我想以一些个人感想
结束今天的演讲。
结束今天的演讲。
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I'd like to end on a personal note.
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20:47
In the past nine months,
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在过去的九个月里，
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the question I've been
asked the most is why.
asked the most is why.
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我被问的最多的问题就是“为什么”。
为什么是现在？
为什么选择站出来面对大众？
为什么选择站出来面对大众？
20:53
Why now? Why was I
sticking my head above the parapet?
sticking my head above the parapet?
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20:57
You can read between the lines
in those questions,
in those questions,
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你们应该听出这些问题的言外之意，
20:59
and the answer has nothing
to do with politics.
to do with politics.
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答案和政治无关。
21:03
The top note answer was and is
because it's time:
because it's time:
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我的回答从来都是，因为是时候了：
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time to stop tip-toeing around my past;
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是时候不在为曾经的过失
而小心翼翼的生活，
而小心翼翼的生活，
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time to stop living a life of opprobrium;
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是时候停止那种充满羞辱的生活，
21:15
and time to take back my narrative.
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是时候找回我的人生方向。
21:18
It's also not just about saving myself.
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这不仅仅是自我救赎。
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Anyone who is suffering from shame
and public humiliation
and public humiliation
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任何遭受耻辱和公开羞辱的人都应该
21:26
needs to know one thing:
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知道这点：
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You can survive it.
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你能撑过去。
21:32
I know it's hard.
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我知道这很难。
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It may not be painless, quick or easy,
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可能会很痛苦，漫长和艰难，
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but you can insist
on a different ending to your story.
on a different ending to your story.
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但是你可以坚持下去，
并为你的故事改写不同的结局。
并为你的故事改写不同的结局。
21:43
Have compassion for yourself.
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同情自己，
我们都值得同情。
21:46
We all deserve compassion,
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and to live both online and off
in a more compassionate world.
in a more compassionate world.
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无论网络上还是生活中，
我们都需要活在一个更富有同情心的世界。
我们都需要活在一个更富有同情心的世界。
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Thank you for listening.
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谢谢聆听。
21:58
(Applause)
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ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Monica Lewinsky - Social activistMonica Lewinsky advocates for a safer and more compassionate social media environment, drawing from her unique experiences at the epicenter of a media maelstrom in 1998.
Why you should listen
After becoming the focus of the history-changing federal investigation into her private life, Monica Lewinsky found herself, at 24 years old, one of the first targets of a “culture of humiliation”: a now-familiar cycle of media, political and personal harassment – particularly online.
Lewinsky survived to reclaim her personal narrative. During a decade of silence she received her Masters in Social Psychology from the London School of Economics and Political Science. In 2014, Lewinsky returned to the public eye with an acclaimed essay for Vanity Fair, which has been nominated for a National Magazine Award for best Essay Writing, and with a widely viewed speech at Forbes’ 30 Under 30 Summit.
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