Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness
Robert Waldinger: Od čega je satkan dobar život? Lekcije iz najdužeg istraživanja o sreći
Robert Waldinger is the Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the most comprehensive longitudinal studies in history. Full bio
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and your energy?
svoje vrijeme i energiju?
most important life goals were,
najvažniji životni ciljevi
was to get rich.
najvećih životnih ciljeva obogatiti se.
of those same young adults
od najvećih životnih ciljeva
to lean in to work, to push harder
da se bacimo na posao, da se više trudimo
are the things that we need to go after
kojima moramo težiti
and how those choices work out for them,
i kakvima se ti izbori za njih pokažu
are almost impossible to get.
poznato o ljudskom životu
to remember the past,
da se prisjete prošlosti
is anything but 20/20.
nisu pretjerano pouzadana.
of what happens to us in life,
jednostavno zaboravimo,
is downright creative.
postanu strašno kreativna.
gledati cijele naše živote
from the time that they were teenagers
od tinejdžerske dobi
happy and healthy?
čini sretnima i zdravima?
of adult life that's ever been done.
o odraslosti ikada provedeno.
the lives of 724 men,
živote 724 muškarca,
their home lives, their health,
o karijeri, obiteljskom životu, zdravlju,
without knowing how their life stories
ne znajući kako će njihove životne priče
iznimno su rijetka.
fall apart within a decade
raspadnu se unutar deset godina
drop out of the study,
od sudjelovanja u istraživanju,
istraživanja presuše,
further down the field.
of several generations of researchers,
generacija istraživača
originalna 724 muškarca
of two groups of men.
dviju skupina muškaraca.
at Harvard College.
studija na Harvardu.
during World War II,
tijekom Drugog svjetskog rata,
to serve in the war.
sudjelovati u ratu.
from Boston's poorest neighborhoods,
iz najsiromašnijih dijelova Bostona.
from some of the most troubled
iz najproblematičnijih
many without hot and cold running water.
a mnogi bez tople i hladne vode.
and we interviewed their parents.
i intervjuirali im roditelje,
grew up into adults
izrasli u odrasle ljude
and bricklayers and doctors,
odvjetnici, zidari i doktori,
A few developed schizophrenia.
neki su oboljeli od šizofrenije,
all the way to the very top,
in the opposite direction.
standing here today, 75 years later,
the study still continues.
kako ovo istraživanje i dalje traje.
and dedicated research staff
i predano istraživačko osoblje
and asks them if we can send them
i pita ih možemo li im poslati
about their lives.
iz središta Bostona pita nas:
My life just isn't that interesting."
Moj život uopće nije toliko zanimljiv."
nas to nikad ne pitaju.
of these lives,
o njihovim životima,
u njihovom dnevnom boravku,
from their doctors.
tražimo povijest bolesti,
i skeniranje mozga.
about their deepest concerns.
razgovaraju o najdubljim strahovima.
we finally asked the wives
konačno i njihove supruge pitali
as members of the study,
ispitanice u istraživanju,
"You know, it's about time."
"Bilo je i vrijeme da me to pitate."
from the tens of thousands of pages
iz desetaka tisuća stranica
or fame or working harder and harder.
slavi i napornom radu.
from this 75-year study is this:
iz ovog 75-ogodišnjeg istraživanja jest:
happier and healthier. Period.
sretnijima i zdravijima. Točka.
about relationships.
are really good for us,
uistinu su dobre za nas,
who are more socially connected
and they live longer
turns out to be toxic.
than they want to be from others
nego što bi htjeli biti
tijekom srednjih godina,
than people who are not lonely.
koji nisu usamljeni.
is that at any given time,
will report that they're lonely.
tvrdi da je usamljen.
can be lonely in a crowd
biti usamljeni i u gomili ljudi,
koju smo naučili
the number of friends you have,
samo broj prijatelja koje imamo,
you're in a committed relationship,
of your close relationships that matters.
of conflict is really bad for our health.
loš je po zdravlje.
without much affection,
bez previše ljubavi
perhaps worse than getting divorced.
možda čak i gori od razvoda.
warm relationships is protective.
služi kao zaštitni faktor.
all the way into their 80s,
sve do njihovih 80-ih godina,
njihove srednje dobi
into a happy, healthy octogenarian
zdravog osamdesetogodišnjaka,
everything we knew about them
cholesterol levels
were going to grow old.
predvidjeti kako će ostariti,
in their relationships.
odnosima koje imaju.
in their relationships at age 50
svojim vezama u 50. godini
seem to buffer us
of getting old.
when they had more physical pain,
kad su iskusili više fizičke boli
in unhappy relationships,
reported more physical pain,
about relationships and our health
o odnosima i zdravlju jest:
don't just protect our bodies,
in a securely attached relationship
is protective,
djeluje kao zaštitni faktor.
on the other person in times of need,
na drugu osobu u teškoćama
stay sharper longer.
can't count on the other one,
računati na drugu osobu
earlier memory decline.
they don't have to be smooth all the time.
could bicker with each other
could really count on the other
da zaista mogu računati jedno na drugo
on their memories.
utjecale na njihovo pamćenje.
are good for our health and well-being,
za naše zdravlje i blagostanje
and so easy to ignore?
a tako lako ignorirati?
and keep them that way.
and they're complicated
to family and friends,
u brigu za obitelj i prijatelje
who were the happiest in retirement
kad su otišli u mirovinu
to replace workmates with new playmates.
kolege zamijene novim prijateljima.
in that recent survey,
u tom nedavnom istraživanju
were starting out as young adults
and high achievement
bogatstvo i veliki uspjeh
to have a good life.
our study has shown
naše je istraživanje pokazalo
the people who leaned in to relationships,
koji su najviše ulagali u odnose
or you're 40, or you're 60.
to relationships even look like?
uopće trebalo izgledati?
are practically endless.
as replacing screen time with people time
odmaknuti se od ekrana i približiti ljudima
by doing something new together,
nekom novom aktivnosti,
who you haven't spoken to in years,
s kojim niste razgovarali godinama
from Mark Twain.
heartburnings, callings to account.
srcobolje, pozivanja na red.
so to speak, for that."
with good relationships.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Robert Waldinger - Psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, Zen priestRobert Waldinger is the Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the most comprehensive longitudinal studies in history.
Why you should listen
Robert Waldinger is a psychiatrist, psychoanalyst and Zen priest. He is Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and directs the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the longest-running studies of adult life ever done. The Study tracked the lives of two groups of men for over 75 years, and it now follows their Baby Boomer children to understand how childhood experience reaches across decades to affect health and wellbeing in middle age. He writes about what science and Zen can teach us about healthy human development.
Dr. Waldinger is the author of numerous scientific papers as well as two books. He teaches medical students and psychiatry residents at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston, and he is a Senior Dharma Teacher in Boundless Way Zen.
To keep abreast of research findings, insights and more, visit robertwaldinger.com.
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