Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness
Robert Waldinger: Kas lemia gerą gyvenimą? Ilgiausio laimės tyrimo išvados
Robert Waldinger is the Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the most comprehensive longitudinal studies in history. Full bio
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and your energy?
atstovų,
most important life goals were,
was to get rich.
tapti turtingam.
of those same young adults
to lean in to work, to push harder
turime pasinerti į darbą,
are the things that we need to go after
and how those choices work out for them,
are almost impossible to get.
to remember the past,
is anything but 20/20.
of what happens to us in life,
gyvenime,
is downright creative.
gyvenimus,
from the time that they were teenagers
nuo jų paauglystės
happy and healthy?
vystymąsi,
of adult life that's ever been done.
suaugusiųjų gyvenimo studija.
the lives of 724 men,
their home lives, their health,
darbą, gyvenimą namuose, sveikatą
without knowing how their life stories
nežinodami, kaip pakryps
fall apart within a decade
yra nutraukiami,
drop out of the study,
tyrime,
further down the field.
of several generations of researchers,
of two groups of men.
tirti,
at Harvard College.
antrakursiai.
during World War II,
pasaulinį karą
to serve in the war.
from Boston's poorest neighborhoods,
from some of the most troubled
sunkumų patiriančiose
many without hot and cold running water.
būstuose be karšto ir šalto vandens.
and we interviewed their parents.
grew up into adults
and bricklayers and doctors,
teisininkais, mūrininkais, gydytojais,
A few developed schizophrenia.
keletui pasireiškė šizofrenija.
socialinės pakopos
all the way to the very top,
in the opposite direction.
linkme.
standing here today, 75 years later,
stovinčio po 75 metų
the study still continues.
and dedicated research staff
tyrimo darbuotojai
and asks them if we can send them
leidimo išsiųsti
about their lives.
klausimų rinkinį.
My life just isn't that interesting."
nėra toks jau įdomus.“
klausimo.
of these lives,
vaizdą,
from their doctors.
about their deepest concerns.
didžiausius susirūpinimus savo žmonoms.
we finally asked the wives
žmonų,
as members of the study,
"You know, it's about time."
„Žinote ką, seniai reikėjo!“
from the tens of thousands of pages
informacijos,
or fame or working harder and harder.
vis sunkesnį ir sunkesnį darbą.
from this 75-year study is this:
studijos žinia yra tokia:
happier and healthier. Period.
geri tarpusavio santykiai. Taškas.
about relationships.
apie tarpusavio santykius.
are really good for us,
ryšiai,
who are more socially connected
and they live longer
ilgiau gyvena,
bendraujančiais su kitais.
turns out to be toxic.
than they want to be from others
nei jie to norėtų,
than people who are not lonely.
kurie nėra vieniši.
is that at any given time,
will report that they're lonely.
metu nurodo esąs vienišas.
can be lonely in a crowd
the number of friends you have,
you're in a committed relationship,
of your close relationships that matters.
of conflict is really bad for our health.
sveikatai.
without much affection,
smarkiai kivirčijamasi,
perhaps worse than getting divorced.
net stipriau nei skiriantis.
warm relationships is protective.
saugumo jausmą.
all the way into their 80s,
mūsų vyrų gyvenimus iki 80-ies,
tarpsnį
into a happy, healthy octogenarian
aštuoniasdešimtmetis,
everything we knew about them
cholesterol levels
gyvenimo viduryje
were going to grow old.
in their relationships.
in their relationships at age 50
patenkinti savitarpio ryšiu,
seem to buffer us
pakylėja
of getting old.
senstant.
when they had more physical pain,
skausmą,
in unhappy relationships,
santykiuose,
reported more physical pain,
skausmą
about relationships and our health
santykius ir sveikatą
don't just protect our bodies,
mūsų kūną,
in a securely attached relationship
su kitu žmogumi –
is protective,
on the other person in times of need,
pasikliauti kitu žmogumi,
stay sharper longer.
can't count on the other one,
earlier memory decline.
they don't have to be smooth all the time.
jie visuomet turi būti sklandūs.
could bicker with each other
poros bardavosi
could really count on the other
vienas kitu pasikliauti,
on their memories.
jų atminčiai.
are good for our health and well-being,
veikia sveikatą ir gerovę,
and so easy to ignore?
ignoruoti?
and keep them that way.
eiti ta linkme.
and they're complicated
sudėtingas dalykas,
to family and friends,
reikalauja pastangų,
who were the happiest in retirement
į pensiją išėję žmonės yra tie,
to replace workmates with new playmates.
atsirastų naujų draugų.
in that recent survey,
were starting out as young adults
suaugusiaisiais,
and high achievement
pasiekimai
to have a good life.
our study has shown
the people who leaned in to relationships,
bendruomene.
or you're 40, or you're 60.
to relationships even look like?
are practically endless.
as replacing screen time with people time
bendravimu su žmonėmis
by doing something new together,
ką nors nauja,
who you haven't spoken to in years,
ilgai nebendravote,
nesutarimai
from Mark Twain.
heartburnings, callings to account.
apmaudui, pasiaiškinimams.
so to speak, for that."
tik akimirksnis.“
with good relationships.
santykiai.
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Robert Waldinger - Psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, Zen priestRobert Waldinger is the Director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the most comprehensive longitudinal studies in history.
Why you should listen
Robert Waldinger is a psychiatrist, psychoanalyst and Zen priest. He is Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and directs the Harvard Study of Adult Development, one of the longest-running studies of adult life ever done. The Study tracked the lives of two groups of men for over 75 years, and it now follows their Baby Boomer children to understand how childhood experience reaches across decades to affect health and wellbeing in middle age. He writes about what science and Zen can teach us about healthy human development.
Dr. Waldinger is the author of numerous scientific papers as well as two books. He teaches medical students and psychiatry residents at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston, and he is a Senior Dharma Teacher in Boundless Way Zen.
To keep abreast of research findings, insights and more, visit robertwaldinger.com.
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