TEDWomen 2010
Sheryl Sandberg: Why we have too few women leaders
Sheryl Sandberg: Hvorfor der er for få kvindelige ledere
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Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg ser på, hvorfor færre kvinder end mænd, når toppen indenfor deres profession - og giver 3 gode råd til kvinder, som ønsker at sidde på chef-gangen.
Sheryl Sandberg - COO, Facebook
As the COO at the helm of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg juggles the tasks of monetizing the world’s largest social networking site while keeping its users happy and engaged. Full bio
As the COO at the helm of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg juggles the tasks of monetizing the world’s largest social networking site while keeping its users happy and engaged. Full bio
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So for any of us in this room today,
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Til alle jer der er her idag,
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let's start out by admitting we're lucky.
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lad os starte med at erkende at vi er heldige.
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We don't live in the world
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Vi lever ikke i samme verden,
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our mothers lived in, our grandmothers lived in,
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som vores mødre eller bedstemødre levede i,
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where career choices for women were so limited.
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hvor karrierevalget for kvinder var meget begrænset.
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And if you're in this room today,
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Alle os der er her i dag,
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most of us grew up in a world
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er opvokset i en verden
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where we had basic civil rights,
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hvor vi har basale borgerrettigheder.
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and amazingly, we still live in a world
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Og utroligt nok, lever vi stadig i en verden,
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where some women don't have them.
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hvor nogle kvinder ikke har dem.
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But all that aside, we still have a problem,
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Men bortset fra det, så har vi stadig et problem,
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and it's a real problem.
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og det er et aktuelt problem.
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And the problem is this:
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Problemet er:
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Women are not making it
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Kvinder når ikke toppen
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to the top of any profession
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indenfor nogen professioner overhovedet
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anywhere in the world.
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nogensteder i verden.
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The numbers tell the story quite clearly.
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Tallene viser det tydeligt.
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190 heads of state --
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190 verdensledere -
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nine are women.
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9 er kvinder.
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Of all the people in parliament in the world,
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Af alle folk i parlamenterne i verden,
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13 percent are women.
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er 13% kvinder.
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In the corporate sector,
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I den private sektor,
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women at the top,
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er kvinder på toppen,
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C-level jobs, board seats --
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leder jobs, bestyrelsesposter-
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tops out at 15, 16 percent.
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udgør de 15-16%.
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The numbers have not moved since 2002
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Tallene har ikke ændret sig siden 2002,
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and are going in the wrong direction.
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og de bevæger sig i den forkerte retning.
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And even in the non-profit world,
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Og selv indenfor non-profit organisationerne,
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a world we sometimes think of
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en verden vi til tider opfatter
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as being led by more women,
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som domineret af kvinder,
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women at the top: 20 percent.
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er der kun 20% kvinder på toppen.
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We also have another problem,
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Vi har også et andet problem,
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which is that women face harder choices
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kvinder har ofte sværere valg
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between professional success and personal fulfillment.
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mellem professionel succes og personlig tilfredsstillelse.
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A recent study in the U.S.
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En undersøgelse i USA fornylig viste,
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showed that, of married senior managers,
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at ud af senior managere som var gift,
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two-thirds of the married men had children
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havde 2/3 af de gifte mænd børn,
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and only one-third of the married women had children.
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og kun 1/3 af de gifte kvinder havde børn.
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A couple of years ago, I was in New York,
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For et par år siden var jeg i New York,
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and I was pitching a deal,
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hvor jeg skulle fremlægge en aftale,
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and I was in one of those fancy New York private equity offices
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og jeg var i et af de her moderne New York investeringskontorer
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you can picture.
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som i kan forestille jer.
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And I'm in the meeting -- it's about a three-hour meeting --
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Og under mødet - som er et 3-timers møde -
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and two hours in, there kind of needs to be that bio break,
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omkring 2 timer inde, burde der ligesom være en toilet-pause,
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and everyone stands up,
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og alle rejser sig op,
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and the partner running the meeting
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og mødelederen løber forvirret rundt
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starts looking really embarrassed.
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og begynder at se forlegen ud.
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And I realized he doesn't know
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Og det gik op for mig at han ikke ved
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where the women's room is in his office.
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hvor kvindernes toilet er henne.
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So I start looking around for moving boxes,
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Så jeg begynder at kigge efter flyttekasser,
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figuring they just moved in, but I don't see any.
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fordi jeg antager at de lige er flyttet ind, men kan ikke se nogen.
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And so I said, "Did you just move into this office?"
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Og så spurgte jeg, "Er i lige flyttet ind i dette kontor?"
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And he said, "No, we've been here about a year."
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Hvortil han svarede, "Nej, vi har været her i 1 år."
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And I said, "Are you telling me
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Og så sagde jeg, "Fortæller du mig
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that I am the only woman
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at jeg er den eneste kvinde
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to have pitched a deal in this office in a year?"
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der har fremlagt et oplæg i dette kontor i et år?"
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And he looked at me, and he said,
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Hvorefter han kiggede på mig og sagde,
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"Yeah. Or maybe you're the only one who had to go to the bathroom."
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"Ja, eller måske er du bare den eneste der skulle på toilettet."
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(Laughter)
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(Latter)
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So the question is,
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Spørgsmålet er,
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how are we going to fix this?
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hvordan løser vi dette?
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How do we change these numbers at the top?
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Hvordan får vi ændret på tallene i toppen?
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How do we make this different?
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Hvordan kan vi gøre det anderledes?
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I want to start out by saying,
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Jeg vil starte med at sige,
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I talk about this --
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jeg taler om dette -
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about keeping women in the workforce --
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om at holde kvinder i arbejdsstyrken -
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because I really think that's the answer.
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fordi jeg virkelig tror det er svaret.
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In the high-income part of our workforce,
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I den højst-lønnede del af arbejdsstyrken,
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in the people who end up at the top --
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blandt dem som ender på toppen -
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Fortune 500 CEO jobs,
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Top 500 direktør jobs,
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or the equivalent in other industries --
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eller tilsvarende i andre industrier -
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the problem, I am convinced,
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er jeg overbevist om, at problemet er
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is that women are dropping out.
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at kvinder dropper ud.
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Now people talk about this a lot,
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Folk taler meget om dette,
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and they talk about things like flextime and mentoring
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og de taler om flekstid og mentor-ordninger
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and programs companies should have to train women.
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og programmer, som virksomheder burde have for at uddanne kvinder.
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I want to talk about none of that today,
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Jeg ønsker ikke at snakke om den slags i dag -
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even though that's all really important.
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selvom det altsammen er vigtigt.
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Today I want to focus on what we can do as individuals.
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Idag vil jeg fokusere på, hvad vi kan gøre som individer.
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What are the messages we need to tell ourselves?
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Hvad er det vi skal fortælle os selv?
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What are the messages we tell the women who work with and for us?
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Hvad er det vi skal fortælle de kvinder, der arbejder sammen med og for os?
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What are the messages we tell our daughters?
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Hvad er det vi skal fortælle vores døtre?
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Now, at the outset, I want to be very clear
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Jeg vil fra begyndelsen gøre det klart,
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that this speech comes with no judgments.
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at dette foredrag ikke vil komme med en endelig løsning.
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I don't have the right answer.
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Jeg har ikke det endelige svar;
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I don't even have it for myself.
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Jeg har ikke engang et til mig selv.
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I left San Francisco, where I live, on Monday,
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Jeg forlod San Fransisco, hvor jeg bor, i mandags,
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and I was getting on the plane for this conference.
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og jeg steg om bord på flyet til denne konference.
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And my daughter, who's three, when I dropped her off at preschool,
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Og min 3-årige datter, som jeg fulgte i børnehave,
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did that whole hugging-the-leg,
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holdt fast i mit ben og græd,
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crying, "Mommy, don't get on the plane" thing.
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"Mor, tag ikke afsted".
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This is hard. I feel guilty sometimes.
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Det er hårdt, jeg føler skyld til tider.
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I know no women,
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Jeg kender ingen kvinder,
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whether they're at home or whether they're in the workforce,
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hverken hjemmegående eller arbejdende,
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who don't feel that sometimes.
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som ikke føler det engang imellem.
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So I'm not saying that staying in the workforce
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Jeg siger ikke at arbejdslivet
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is the right thing for everyone.
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er det rigtige valg for alle.
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My talk today is about what the messages are
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Mit foredrag i dag handler om budskaberne,
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if you do want to stay in the workforce,
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hvis du vil fortsætte i arbejdsstyrken.
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and I think there are three.
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Og jeg tror der er 3.
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One, sit at the table.
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Et, sid ved bordet.
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Two, make your partner a real partner.
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To, gør din partner til en ægte partner.
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And three, don't leave before you leave.
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Og tre - gå ikke før du går.
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Number one: sit at the table.
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Nummer 1, sid ved bordet.
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Just a couple weeks ago at Facebook,
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For blot et par uger siden hos Facebook,
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we hosted a very senior government official,
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havde vi besøg af en repræsentant for staten
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and he came in to meet with senior execs
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og han kom for at besøge forskellige topledere
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from around Silicon Valley.
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fra Silicon Valley.
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And everyone kind of sat at the table.
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Og alle ligesom sad ved bordet.
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And then he had these two women who were traveling with him
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Han havde 2 kvinder som rejste rundt med ham,
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who were pretty senior in his department,
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som også var højtstående i hans afdeling.
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and I kind of said to them, "Sit at the table. Come on, sit at the table,"
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Jeg sagde til dem, "Kom over og sid ved bordet."
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and they sat on the side of the room.
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Og de satte sig ude i siden af lokalet.
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When I was in college my senior year,
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I det sidste år på universitetet,
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I took a course called European Intellectual History.
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tog jeg et fag der hed Intellektuel Europæisk Historie.
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Don't you love that kind of thing from college?
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Elsker i ikke den slags fra universitetet.
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I wish I could do that now.
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Jeg ville ønske jeg kunne gøre det nu.
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And I took it with my roommate, Carrie,
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Jeg tog faget med min bofælle, Carrie,
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who was then a brilliant literary student --
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som var en dygtig litterær studerende -
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and went on to be a brilliant literary scholar --
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og senere blev en dygtig litterær underviser -
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and my brother --
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og min bror -
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smart guy, but a water-polo-playing pre-med,
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en smart fyr, en vandpolo-spillende læge-studerende,
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who was a sophomore.
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der var førsteårsstuderende.
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The three of us take this class together.
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Vi 3 tog faget sammen.
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And then Carrie reads all the books
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Carrie læste alle bøgerne
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in the original Greek and Latin,
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på græsk og latin -
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goes to all the lectures.
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går til alle forelæsninger -
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I read all the books in English
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Jeg læste alle bøgerne på engelsk
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and go to most of the lectures.
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og gik til de fleste forelæsninger.
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My brother is kind of busy.
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Min bror har travlt;
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He reads one book of 12
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han læser een ud af 12 bøger
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and goes to a couple of lectures,
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og går til et par enkelte forelæsninger,
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marches himself up to our room
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kommer marcherende op på vores værelse
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a couple days before the exam to get himself tutored.
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et par dage før eksamen for at få eksamenshjælp.
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The three of us go to the exam together, and we sit down.
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Vi 3 går til eksamen sammen, og vi sætter os ned.
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And we sit there for three hours --
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Vi sidder der i 3 timer -
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and our little blue notebooks -- yes, I'm that old.
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med vores små blå notesbøger - ja, jeg er så gammel.
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And we walk out, and we look at each other, and we say, "How did you do?"
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Vi går ud og ser på hinanden og spørger, "Hvordan gik det?"
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And Carrie says, "Boy, I feel like I didn't really draw out the main point
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Carrie sagde, "Det føles som om jeg slet ikke kom til sagens kerne
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on the Hegelian dialectic."
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i den Hegelianske dialektik."
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And I say, "God, I really wish I had really connected
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Og jeg sagde, "Jeg ønskede virkelig at jeg havde forbundet
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John Locke's theory of property with the philosophers who follow."
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John Lockes teori
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And my brother says,
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Og min bror sagde,
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"I got the top grade in the class."
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"Jeg fik den højeste karakter i klassen."
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"You got the top grade in the class?
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"Du fik den højeste karakter i klassen?
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You don't know anything."
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Du ved jo ingenting."
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The problem with these stories
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Problemet med disse historier er
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is that they show what the data shows:
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at de viser os, hvad dataene viser:
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women systematically underestimate their own abilities.
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kvinder undervurderer systematisk deres egne evner.
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If you test men and women,
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Hvis du tester mænd og kvinder,
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and you ask them questions on totally objective criteria like GPAs,
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og stiller dem objektive spørgsmål om fx. karaktergennemsnit,
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men get it wrong slightly high,
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vil mænd svare lidt for højt,
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and women get it wrong slightly low.
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og kvinder vil svare lidt for lavt.
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Women do not negotiate for themselves in the workforce.
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Kvinder forhandler ikke for sig selv i arbejdsstyrken.
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A study in the last two years
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Et studie gennem de sidste 2 år
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of people entering the workforce out of college
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af folk, der starter på arbejdsmarkedet,
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showed that 57 percent of boys entering,
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viser at 57% af drenge -
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or men, I guess,
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eller mænd -
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are negotiating their first salary,
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forhandler om deres første løn,
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and only seven percent of women.
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og kun 7% af kvinder.
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And most importantly,
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Og vigtigst,
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men attribute their success to themselves,
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mænd tilskriver deres succes til sig selv,
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and women attribute it to other external factors.
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og kvinder tilegner det til eksterne faktorer.
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If you ask men why they did a good job,
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Hvis du spørger mænd, hvorfor de gjorde et godt stykke arbejde,
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they'll say, "I'm awesome.
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svarer de, "Jeg er bare fantastisk.
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Obviously. Why are you even asking?"
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Selvfølgelig. Hvorfor spørger du overhovedet?"
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If you ask women why they did a good job,
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Hvis du spørger kvinder, hvorfor de gjorde et godt stykke arbejde,
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what they'll say is someone helped them,
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vil de svare, at nogen hjalp dem,
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they got lucky, they worked really hard.
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de var heldige, eller de arbejdede hårdt.
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Why does this matter?
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Hvorfor betyder det noget?
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Boy, it matters a lot
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Ja, det betyder meget
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because no one gets to the corner office
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fordi ingen kommer til hjørnekontoret
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by sitting on the side, not at the table,
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ved at sidde på sidelinien, og ikke ved bordet.
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and no one gets the promotion
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Og ingen får deres forfremmelse,
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if they don't think they deserve their success,
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hvis de ikke synes, de fotrjener deres succes,
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or they don't even understand their own success.
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eller ikke engang forstår deres egen succes.
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I wish the answer were easy.
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Jeg ville ønske, der var et let svar.
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I wish I could just go tell all the young women I work for,
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Jeg ville ønske, at jeg kunne fortælle alle de unge kvinder jeg arbejder med,
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all these fabulous women,
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alle disse fantastiske kvinder,
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"Believe in yourself and negotiate for yourself.
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"Tro på jer selv og kæmp for jer selv.
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Own your own success."
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Ej jeres egen success."
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I wish I could tell that to my daughter.
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Jeg ville ønske, at jeg kunne fortælle det til min datter.
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But it's not that simple.
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Men så simpelt er det ikke.
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Because what the data shows, above all else, is one thing,
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Det, som data viser, som det vigtigste af alt -
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which is that success and likeability
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er at succes og vellidthed
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are positively correlated for men
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er hænger positivt sammen for mænd
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and negatively correlated for women.
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og negativt sammen for kvinder.
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And everyone's nodding,
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Og alle nikker,
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because we all know this to be true.
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fordi vi alle godt ved, at det er sandt.
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There's a really good study that shows this really well.
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Der er en rigtig god undersøgelse, der viser dette.
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There's a famous Harvard Business School study
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Der er en berømt Harvard Business School undersøgelse
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on a woman named Heidi Roizen.
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af en kvinde, Heidi Roizen.
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And she's an operator in a company
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Hun er receptionist i en virksomhed
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in Silicon Valley,
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i Silicon Valley,
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and she uses her contacts
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og hun bruger sine kontakter
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to become a very successful venture capitalist.
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for at blive en succesfuld invester.
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In 2002 -- not so long ago --
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I 2002 - ikke så længe siden -
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a professor who was then at Columbia University
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tog en professor ansat ved Columbia University
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took that case and made it Howard Roizen.
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denne undersøgelse og kaldte den Howard Roizen.
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to two groups of students.
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til 2 grupper elever.
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He changed exactly one word:
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Han ændrede et enkelt ord:
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"Heidi" to "Howard."
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Heidi til Howard.
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But that one word made a really big difference.
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Men det ene ord gjorde en stor forskel.
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He then surveyed the students,
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Derefter testede han eleverne.
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and the good news was the students, both men and women,
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Den gode nyhed var, at både mænd og kvinder,
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thought Heidi and Howard were equally competent,
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mente at Heidi og Howard var lige kompetente,
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and that's good.
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og det er godt.
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The bad news was that everyone liked Howard.
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Den dårlige nyhed var, at alle kunne lide Howard.
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He's a great guy. You want to work for him.
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Han er en fin fyr, du har lyst til at arbejde for ham,
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You want to spend the day fishing with him.
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du vil gerne tilbringe en hel dag sammen med ham.
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But Heidi? Not so sure.
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Men Heidi? Ikke helt det samme.
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She's a little out for herself. She's a little political.
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Hun er lidt for sig selv. Hun er lidt politisk.
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You're not sure you'd want to work for her.
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Du er ikke sikker på, om du har lyst til at arbejde for hende.
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This is the complication.
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Det er komplikationen.
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We have to tell our daughters and our colleagues,
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Vi er nødt til at fortælle vores døtre og kollegaer,
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we have to tell ourselves to believe we got the A,
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vi er nødt til at fortælle os selv, at vi skal tro på, at vi får 13,
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to reach for the promotion,
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for at opnå forfremmelsen,
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to sit at the table,
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for at sidde med ved bordet.
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and we have to do it in a world
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Og vi skal gøre det i en verden,
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where, for them, there are sacrifices they will make for that,
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hvor, der for dem er ting, der skal ofres for det,
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even though for their brothers, there are not.
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som deres brødre ikke skal.
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The saddest thing about all of this is that it's really hard to remember this.
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Det triste er, at det er rigtig svært at huske det.
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And I'm about to tell a story which is truly embarrassing for me,
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Jeg vil fortælle jer en historie, som er meget pinlig for mig,
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but I think important.
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men jeg synes den er vigtig.
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I gave this talk at Facebook not so long ago
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For ikke så længe siden, gav jeg dette foredrag hos Facebook
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to about 100 employees,
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til omkring 100 ansatte.
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and a couple hours later, there was a young woman who works there
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Og et par timer efter, var der en ung kvinde, som arbejdede der,
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sitting outside my little desk,
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som kom hen til mig,
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and she wanted to talk to me.
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og ville tale med mig.
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I said, okay, and she sat down, and we talked.
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Jeg sagde Ok, og hun satte sig, og vi talte.
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And she said, "I learned something today.
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Hun sagde: "Jeg lærte noget i dag.
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I learned that I need to keep my hand up."
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Jeg lærte, at jeg skal holde min hånd oppe."
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I said, "What do you mean?"
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Jeg svarede, "Hvad mener du?"
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She said, "Well, you're giving this talk,
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Hun sagde, "Ja, du holder dette foredrag,
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and you said you were going to take two more questions.
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og siger, at du tager imod 2 spørgsmål mere.
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And I had my hand up with lots of other people, and you took two more questions.
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Og jeg havde hånden oppe sammen med en masse andre, og du tog 2 spørgsmål mere.
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And I put my hand down, and I noticed all the women put their hand down,
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Så tager jeg hånden ned og ser samtidig, at alle de andre kvinder tager hånden ned,
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and then you took more questions,
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og så tager du imod flere spørgsmål,
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only from the men."
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men kun fra mænd."
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And I thought to myself,
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Det tænkte jeg lidt over,
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wow, if it's me -- who cares about this, obviously --
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Wow, hvis jeg - som interesser mig for dette -
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giving this talk --
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giver dette foredrag -
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and during this talk, I can't even notice
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og under foredraget, ikke engang bemærker,
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that the men's hands are still raised,
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at mændene stadig har deres hænder i vejret,
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and the women's hands are still raised,
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og kvinderne stadig har deres hænder i vejret,
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how good are we
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hvor gode vi er,
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as managers of our companies and our organizations
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som ledere i vores virksomheder og organisationer,
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at seeing that the men are reaching for opportunities
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til at se, at mænd går efter mulighederne
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more than women?
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mere end kvinder?
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We've got to get women to sit at the table.
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Vi bliver nødt til at få kvinderne til at sidde med ved bordet.
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(Applause)
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10:10
Message number two:
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Besked nummer 2:
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make your partner a real partner.
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Gør din partner til en ægte partner.
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I've become convinced that we've made more progress in the workforce
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Jeg er overbevist om, at vi har gjort større fremskridt i arbejdslivet,
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than we have in the home.
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end vi har derhjemme.
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The data shows this very clearly.
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Data viser det tydeligt.
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If a woman and a man work full-time
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and have a child,
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og får et barn,
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the woman does twice the amount of housework the man does,
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så vil kvinden lave dobbelt så meget arbejde i hjemmet end manden,
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and the woman does three times
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og kvinden laver
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the amount of childcare the man does.
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3 gange så meget børnepasning end manden.
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So she's got three jobs or two jobs,
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Hun har 3 eller 2 jobs,
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and he's got one.
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og han har et.
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Who do you think drops out when someone needs to be home more?
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Hvem tror du stopper, når der er behov for mere tid derhjemme?
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The causes of this are really complicated,
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Årsagerne til dette er komplicerede,
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and I don't have time to go into them.
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og jeg har ikke tid til at komme ind på dem alle.
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And I don't think Sunday football-watching
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Og jeg tror ikke søndagsfodboldkiggeri
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and general laziness is the cause.
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og generel dovenskab er årsagen.
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I think the cause is more complicated.
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Jeg tror, det er mere kompliceret.
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I think, as a society,
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Jeg tror, at samfundet
10:53
we put more pressure on our boys to succeed
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presser vores unge mænd til succes,
10:55
than we do on our girls.
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mere end kvinder.
10:57
I know men that stay home
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Jeg kender mænd, som er hjemme
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and work in the home to support wives with careers,
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og arbejder hjemme for at støtte deres koners karriere.
11:01
and it's hard.
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Og det er hårdt.
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When I go to the Mommy-and-Me stuff
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Når jeg tager til Mor-og-Mig ting
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and I see the father there,
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og ser en far der,
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I notice that the other mommies
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ser jeg, at de andre mødre
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don't play with him.
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ikke leger med ham.
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And that's a problem,
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Og det er et problem,
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because we have to make it as important a job,
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fordi vi er nødt til at gøre det til et vigtigt job -
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because it's the hardest job in the world to work inside the home,
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det hårdeste job i verden - at arbejde i hjemmet
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for people of both genders,
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for begge køn
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if we're going to even things out and let women stay in the workforce.
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hvis vi skal udligne tingene, og tillade kvinder at blive i arbejdsstyrken.
11:24
(Applause)
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(Klapsalver)
11:26
Studies show that households with equal earning
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Studier viser at husstande med lige indkomst
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and equal responsibility
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og lige ansvar
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also have half the divorce rate.
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har halvt så mange skilsmisser.
11:32
And if that wasn't good enough motivation for everyone out there,
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Og hvis det ikke er motivation nok for jer derude,
11:35
they also have more --
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så har de også -
11:37
how shall I say this on this stage? --
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hvordan skal jeg sige det her på scenen? -
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they know each other more in the biblical sense as well.
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de kender hinanden mere på den bibelske måde.
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(Cheers)
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(Jubel)
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Message number three:
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Besked nummer 3:
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don't leave before you leave.
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Gå ikke før du går.
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I think there's a really deep irony
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Noget dybt ironisk er,
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to the fact that actions women are taking --
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at kvinder hele tiden tager tiltag -
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and I see this all the time --
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og jeg ser det hele tiden -
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with the objective of staying in the workforce
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hvor målet er at forblive i arbejdsstyrken,
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actually lead to their eventually leaving.
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reelt fører til, at de forlader den.
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Here's what happens:
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Her er hvad der sker:
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We're all busy. Everyone's busy. A woman's busy.
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Vi har alle travlt; En kvinde har travlt.
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And she starts thinking about having a child,
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Og hun tænker på at få et barn.
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and from the moment she starts thinking about having a child,
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Og fra det øjeblik hun tænker på at få et barn,
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she starts thinking about making room for that child.
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begynder hun at tænke på at skabe plads til barnet.
12:11
"How am I going to fit this into everything else I'm doing?"
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"Hvordan skal jeg passe det, blandt alt det jeg laver?"
12:15
And literally from that moment,
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Og bogstavelig talt, fra det øjeblik
12:17
she doesn't raise her hand anymore,
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rejser hun ikke hånden igen,
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she doesn't look for a promotion, she doesn't take on the new project,
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hun går ikke efter forfremmelse, hun kaster sig ikke over nye projekter,
12:23
she doesn't say, "Me. I want to do that."
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hun siger ikke, "Mig, jeg vil gøre det."
12:25
She starts leaning back.
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Hun begynder at slappe af.
12:27
The problem is that --
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Problemet er -
12:29
let's say she got pregnant that day, that day --
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lad os antage hun bliver gravid den dag -
12:32
nine months of pregnancy, three months of maternity leave,
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9 måneder graviditet, 3 måneders barsel,
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six months to catch your breath --
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6 måneder til at få vejret igen -
12:37
fast-forward two years,
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spol 2 år frem,
12:39
more often -- and as I've seen it --
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ofte - og jeg har oplevet det -
12:41
women start thinking about this way earlier --
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begynder kvinder at tænke på dette langt tidligere -
12:43
when they get engaged, when they get married,
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når de bliver forlovet, bliver gift,
12:45
when they start thinking about trying to have a child, which can take a long time.
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når de begynder at tænkte på at få et barn, som kan tage lang tid.
12:48
One woman came to see me about this,
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En kvinde kom forbi mig og fortalte om dette,
12:50
and I kind of looked at her -- she looked a little young.
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og jeg kiggede på hende - hun så ung ud.
12:52
And I said, "So are you and your husband thinking about having a baby?"
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Jeg sagde, "Så i tænker på at få et barn?"
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And she said, "Oh no, I'm not married."
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Hun svarede, "Nej, slet ikke, jeg er ikke gift."
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She didn't even have a boyfriend.
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Hun havde ikke engang en kæreste.
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I said, "You're thinking about this
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Jeg sagde, "Du tænker på det
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just way too early."
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alt for tidligt."
13:04
But the point is that what happens
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Men pointen er det, som begynder at ske
13:07
once you start kind of quietly leaning back?
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så snart du begynder at læne dig tilbage.
13:10
Everyone who's been through this --
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Alle som har gennemgået det -
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and I'm here to tell you, once you have a child at home,
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og jeg fortæller jer, at når der først er et barn derhjemme,
13:15
your job better be really good to go back,
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skal du have et virkelig godt job for at vende tilbage,
13:17
because it's hard to leave that kid at home --
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fordi det er svært at efterlade barnet derhjemme -
13:19
your job needs to be challenging.
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dit arbejde skal være udfordrende.
13:21
It needs to be rewarding.
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Det skal være givende.
13:23
You need to feel like you're making a difference.
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Du skal føle du gør en forskel.
13:26
And if two years ago you didn't take a promotion
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Og hvis du for 2 år siden ikke tog imod din forfremmelse
13:29
and some guy next to you did,
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mens en anden fyr gjorde,
13:31
if three years ago
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hvis du får 3 år siden
13:33
you stopped looking for new opportunities,
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begynde at se efter nye muligheder,
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you're going to be bored
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så begynder du at kede dig
13:37
because you should have kept your foot on the gas pedal.
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fordi du skulle have holdt foden på gas-pedalen.
13:40
Don't leave before you leave.
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Gå ikke før du går.
13:42
Stay in.
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Bliv.
13:44
Keep your foot on the gas pedal,
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Hold foden på gassen,
13:46
until the very day you need to leave
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indtil den dag du bliver nødt til at holde en pause
13:48
to take a break for a child --
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for et barn -
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and then make your decisions.
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og tag så dér beslutningen.
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Don't make decisions too far in advance,
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Tag ikke beslutninger for lang tid i forvejen,
13:55
particularly ones you're not even conscious you're making.
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især dem som du ikke er bevidst om, at du tager.
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My generation really, sadly,
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Min generation vil - trist nok -
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is not going to change the numbers at the top.
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ikke ændre på tallene i toppen.
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They're just not moving.
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De bevæger sig bare ikke.
14:05
We are not going to get to where 50 percent of the population --
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Vi når ikke dertil, hvor 50% af befolkningen -
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in my generation, there will not be 50 percent of [women]
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i min generation, vil 50% af folk
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at the top of any industry.
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ikke sidde i toppen indenfor nogen industri.
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But I'm hopeful that future generations can.
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Men jeg tror på at fremtidens generationer kan.
14:17
I think a world that was run
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Jeg tror, at en verden
14:19
where half of our countries and half of our companies
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hvor halvdelen af lande og halvdelen af virksomheder
14:21
were run by women, would be a better world.
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var styret af kvinder, ville være en bedre verden.
14:24
And it's not just because people would know where the women's bathrooms are,
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Og det er ikke bare fordi folk vidste, hvor kvindernes toilet var,
14:27
even though that would be very helpful.
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selvom det ville være rart.
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I think it would be a better world.
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Jeg tror, det ville være en bedre verden.
14:32
I have two children.
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Jeg har 2 børn.
14:34
I have a five-year-old son and a two-year-old daughter.
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Jeg har en dreng på 5 og en pige på 3.
14:37
I want my son to have a choice
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Jeg vil have, at min søn får et valg
14:39
to contribute fully in the workforce or at home,
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mellem at deltage i arbejdstyrken eller derhjemme.
14:42
and I want my daughter to have the choice
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Og jeg vil have, at min datter får valget,
14:44
to not just succeed,
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og ikke bare at få success,
14:46
but to be liked for her accomplishments.
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men at blive velset for hendes præstationer.
14:48
Thank you.
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Tak
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(Applause)
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(Klapsalver)
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Sheryl Sandberg - COO, FacebookAs the COO at the helm of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg juggles the tasks of monetizing the world’s largest social networking site while keeping its users happy and engaged.
Why you should listen
Long before Sheryl Sandberg left Google to join Facebook as its Chief Operating Officer in 2008, she was a fan. Today she manages Facebook’s sales, marketing, business development, human resources, public policy and communications. It’s a massive job, but one well suited to Sandberg, who not only built and managed Google’s successful online sales and operations program but also served as an economist for the World Bank and Chief of Staff at the US Treasury Department. Sandberg’s experience navigating the complex and socially sensitive world of international economics has proven useful as she and Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg work to strike a balance between helping Facebook users control privacy while finding ways to monetize its most valuable asset: data.
At TEDWomen in 2010 Sandberg made the bold decision to talk about the experience of being one of very few women at the C-level of business. She noted that many women, in anticipating having a family, "lean back" from leading at work. After her TED Talk took off, Sandberg wrote the book Lean In, which has spent nearly a year on the New York Times Bestseller list. Sandberg plans to release a version of the book for graduates.
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