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Laura Vanderkam: How to gain control of your free time
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प्रत्येक हप्तामा १६८ घण्टा हुन्छ / अत्यावश्यक कामको लागि हामीले कसरी समय निकाल्छौ ? टाइम म्यानेजमेन्ट बिशेषज्ञ लाउरा भ्यानडेरकमले व्यस्त व्यक्तिहरु कसरी जीवन बिताउछन् भन्ने बिषयमा अध्ययन गरेर के पत्ता लगाइन भने, हामी आवश्यकता भन्दा निकै बढी समय काममा व्यस्त रहने अनुमान गर्छौ जबकि हामी संग रहने समयको भने हामीले अति कम अनुमान गर्छौं / उनले केहि व्यवहारक रणनीति बनाएर हामीलाई आवश्यक बढी समय निकाल्ने र त्यो समय "हामीले चाहेको जीवन हामी संग भएको समयले निर्माण गरौँ" भन्ने आशय व्यक्त गरेकी छिन् /
Laura Vanderkam - Author
Laura Vanderkam shatters the myth that there just isn’t enough time in the week for working professionals to live happy, balanced and productive lives. Full bio
Laura Vanderkam shatters the myth that there just isn’t enough time in the week for working professionals to live happy, balanced and productive lives. Full bio
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म टाइम म्यानेजमेन्टको बारेमा
लेख्छु भन्ने थाहा पाएपछि
लेख्छु भन्ने थाहा पाएपछि
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When people find out
I write about time management,
I write about time management,
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they assume two things.
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मानिसहरु २ कुराको अनुमान गर्छन्:
00:19
One is that I'm always on time,
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पहिलो: म सधै समयमै पुग्छु,
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and I'm not.
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बास्तवमा त्यस्तो छैन
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I have four small children,
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मेरा ४ जना साना बच्चाहरु छन्
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and I would like to blame them
for my occasional tardiness,
for my occasional tardiness,
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कहिलेकाही हुने ढिलाको दोष, म
उनीहरु माथि थुपार्छु ,
उनीहरु माथि थुपार्छु ,
00:29
but sometimes it's just not their fault.
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तर कहिले कहीं उनीहरुको मात्र गल्ति हुदैन
00:32
I was once late to my own speech
on time management.
on time management.
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एकपटक म टाइम म्यानेजमेन्टको
आफ्नै प्रवचन दिन ढिला पुगें
आफ्नै प्रवचन दिन ढिला पुगें
00:35
(Laughter)
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........(हाँसो)......
00:36
We all had to just take a moment
together and savor that irony.
together and savor that irony.
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हामीले संगै बसेर त्यो विडम्बनाको
सामना गरेका थियौं
सामना गरेका थियौं
00:40
The second thing they assume
is that I have lots of tips and tricks
is that I have lots of tips and tricks
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दोस्रो कुरा, उनीहरु सोच्छन्: म संग
यता र उता गरेर
यता र उता गरेर
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for saving bits of time here and there.
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समय निकाल्न सक्ने चुट्की, तरिकाहरु छन्
00:46
Sometimes I'll hear from magazines
that are doing a story along these lines,
that are doing a story along these lines,
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कहिलेकाहीं पत्रिकाहरुमा सुन्छु,
उनीहरु आफ्नो पाठकहरुलाइ
उनीहरु आफ्नो पाठकहरुलाइ
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generally on how to help their readers
find an extra hour in the day.
find an extra hour in the day.
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एक घण्टा जगेडा समय कसरी निकाल्न
मद्धत गर्ने भनेर अध्ययन गर्दछन्
मद्धत गर्ने भनेर अध्ययन गर्दछन्
00:53
And the idea is that we'll shave
bits of time off everyday activities,
bits of time off everyday activities,
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उपाय भनेको आफ्ना सबै कामहरुबाट अलि अलि
00:56
add it up,
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निकाल्ने र जोड्ने,
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and we'll have time for the good stuff.
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त्यसरी हामी अरु कामको लागि
समय निकाल्न सक्छौं
समय निकाल्न सक्छौं
00:59
I question the entire premise
of this piece, but I'm always interested
of this piece, but I'm always interested
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यस बिषयमा म सबैलाई प्रश्न गर्ने गर्छु, तर
म संग कुरा गर्नु अगाडिको
म संग कुरा गर्नु अगाडिको
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in hearing what they've come
up with before they call me.
up with before they call me.
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उनीहरुको कुरा सुन्न मलाई खुबै रमाइलो लाग्छ
01:06
Some of my favorites:
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मलाई मनपर्ने केहि:
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doing errands where you only
have to make right-hand turns --
have to make right-hand turns --
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छोटो यात्रा जहाँ दायाँ मात्रै मोडे पुग्छ
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(Laughter)
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.........(हाँसो).....
01:11
Being extremely judicious
in microwave usage:
in microwave usage:
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माइक्रो वेभ प्रयोग गर्दा अत्ति विचार गर्ने
01:14
it says three to three-and-a-half
minutes on the package,
minutes on the package,
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यसको खोलमा ३ देखि ३.५ मिनेट भन्छ
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we're totally getting in on
the bottom side of that.
the bottom side of that.
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हामी ठ्याक्कै त्यसै गर्छौं
01:19
And my personal favorite,
which makes sense on some level,
which makes sense on some level,
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व्यक्तिगतरुपमा मलाई मन पर्ने:
यसले कुनै अर्थ पनि राख्छ
यसले कुनै अर्थ पनि राख्छ
01:21
is to DVR your favorite shows so you can
fast-forward through the commercials.
fast-forward through the commercials.
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मनपर्ने टिवी शो रेकोर्ड गर्ने र
बिज्ञापन स्किप गर्दै हेर्ने
बिज्ञापन स्किप गर्दै हेर्ने
01:25
That way, you save
eight minutes every half hour,
eight minutes every half hour,
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यसो गर्दा प्रत्येक ३० मिनेटमा ८ मिनेट बच्छ
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so in the course of two hours
of watching TV,
of watching TV,
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जसले २ घन्टाको टिवी हेर्ने क्रममा
01:30
you find 32 minutes to exercise.
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कसरत गर्न ३२ मिनेट बच्छ
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(Laughter)
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.........(हाँसो).....
01:32
Which is true.
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हुन त हो
01:34
You know another way to find
32 minutes to exercise?
32 minutes to exercise?
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कसरत गर्न ३२ मिनेट बचाउने अर्को
तरिका तपाईंलाइ थाहा छ ?
तरिका तपाईंलाइ थाहा छ ?
01:37
Don't watch two hours of TV a day, right?
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टिवि हेर्न दैनिक २ घण्टा खर्च नगर्ने,
कि कसो ?
कि कसो ?
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(Laughter)
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.........(हाँसो).....
01:41
Anyway, the idea is we'll save bits
of time here and there, add it up,
of time here and there, add it up,
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कुरा त्यहि हो कि, यता उति गरेर,
तान तुन थप थाप पारेर
तान तुन थप थाप पारेर
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we will finally get
to everything we want to do.
to everything we want to do.
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हामी आफुलाई मनपरेको काम गर्छौं
01:46
But after studying how successful
people spend their time
people spend their time
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तर सफल व्यक्तिहरु कसरी समय बिताउछन्
भन्ने अध्ययन गरेर
भन्ने अध्ययन गरेर
01:49
and looking at their
schedules hour by hour,
schedules hour by hour,
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तथा उनीहरुको प्रत्यक घन्टाको
कार्यतालिका हेरे पश्चात
कार्यतालिका हेरे पश्चात
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I think this idea
has it completely backward.
has it completely backward.
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अघिका विचारहरु एकदमै पुरातनवादी लागे
01:56
We don't build the lives
we want by saving time.
we want by saving time.
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हामी समय बचाएको भरमा हामीले
चाहेको जीवन प्राप्त गर्न सक्दैनौ
चाहेको जीवन प्राप्त गर्न सक्दैनौ
02:00
We build the lives we want,
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हामीले चाहेको जस्तो जीवन बाच्ने
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and then time saves itself.
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गर्दा समय आफै बच्दछ
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Here's what I mean.
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भन्नुको मतलब
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I recently did a time diary project
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मैंले भर्खरै १००१ अति ब्यस्त
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looking at 1,001 days in the lives
of extremely busy women.
of extremely busy women.
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महिलाहरुको समय तालिकाको अध्ययन गरें
02:14
They had demanding jobs,
sometimes their own businesses,
sometimes their own businesses,
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उनीहरुको राम्रो काम छ, कतिको
आफ्नै व्यापार व्यवसाय छ,
आफ्नै व्यापार व्यवसाय छ,
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kids to care for,
maybe parents to care for,
maybe parents to care for,
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हेरचाह गर्नुपर्ने केटा केटि
वा बाउ आमा छन्
वा बाउ आमा छन्
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community commitments --
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समुदाय प्रतिको प्रतिबद्धता-
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busy, busy people.
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व्यस्त, अति ब्यस्त मान्छे /
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I had them keep track
of their time for a week
of their time for a week
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एक हप्तासम्म उनीहरुको
क्रियाक्रलाप अवलोकन गरें
क्रियाक्रलाप अवलोकन गरें
02:25
so I could add up how much
they worked and slept,
they worked and slept,
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र उनीहरु कति घण्टा काम गरे,
कति सुते विचार गरें
कति सुते विचार गरें
02:27
and I interviewed them
about their strategies, for my book.
about their strategies, for my book.
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र आफ्नो किताबको लागि उनीहरुको
रणनीति बारे प्रश्न गरें
रणनीति बारे प्रश्न गरें
02:30
One of the women whose time log I studied
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मैंले समय तालिका हेर्दै गरेको एक महिला
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goes out on a Wednesday night
for something.
for something.
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कुनै बुधबार राती कहीं जान्छिन्
02:34
She comes home to find
that her water heater has broken,
that her water heater has broken,
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फर्केर घर आउंदा, उनको भान्छाको
धारो बिग्रिएको रहेछ,
धारो बिग्रिएको रहेछ,
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and there is now water
all over her basement.
all over her basement.
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जता ततै पानी नै पानी जमेको रहेछ
02:40
If you've ever had anything
like this happen to you,
like this happen to you,
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तपाईंलाइ पनि कहिले यस्तो घटना घटेको भए
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you know it is a hugely damaging,
frightening, sopping mess.
frightening, sopping mess.
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थाहा छ नी: कति भद्रगोल, भिजेको,
बिग्रेको गन्हाउने हुन्छ
बिग्रेको गन्हाउने हुन्छ
02:45
So she's dealing with the immediate
aftermath that night,
aftermath that night,
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तुरुन्तै उनी त्यो परिस्थिति संग
भिड्न थालिन्
भिड्न थालिन्
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next day she's got plumbers coming in,
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दोस्रो दिन, प्लम्बर आयो
02:50
day after that, professional cleaning
crew dealing with the ruined carpet.
crew dealing with the ruined carpet.
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कोठाको भिजेको कार्पेटहरु तथा
अन्य समान सुकाउन मद्धत खोजिन्
अन्य समान सुकाउन मद्धत खोजिन्
02:53
All this is being recorded
on her time log.
on her time log.
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यो सबै कार्य उनले समय तालिकामा
लेखेकी थिइन्
लेखेकी थिइन्
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Winds up taking seven hours of her week.
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त्यो हप्ताको ७ घण्टा सरसफाईमा लाग्यो
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Seven hours.
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पुरै ७ घण्टा
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That's like finding
an extra hour in the day.
an extra hour in the day.
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भन्नाले झन्डै दिनको १ घण्टा
03:04
But I'm sure if you had asked her
at the start of the week,
at the start of the week,
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यदि उनलाई हप्ताको पहिलो दिन
03:07
"Could you find seven hours
to train for a triathlon?"
to train for a triathlon?"
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खेलकुदको लागि ७ घण्टा
फुर्सद निकाल्न सक्नुहुन्छ?
फुर्सद निकाल्न सक्नुहुन्छ?
03:11
"Could you find seven hours
to mentor seven worthy people?"
to mentor seven worthy people?"
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वा केहि महत्वपूर्ण मान्छे लाइ भेट्न
७ घण्टा फुर्सद छ?
७ घण्टा फुर्सद छ?
03:15
I'm sure she would've said
what most of us would've said,
what most of us would've said,
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भन्ने प्रश्न गरेको भए पक्कै पनि उनले
03:18
which is, "No -- can't you see
how busy I am?"
how busy I am?"
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"भ्याउंदिन, साह्रै व्यस्त छु" भन्थिन्
03:23
Yet when she had to find seven hours
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तर, जसरी पनि ७ घण्टा
03:25
because there is water
all over her basement,
all over her basement,
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नभई नहुने अवस्था पर्दा त्यो ७ घण्टा
03:28
she found seven hours.
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उनले निकाल्न सकिन्
03:31
And what this shows us
is that time is highly elastic.
is that time is highly elastic.
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यसले के प्रमाणित गर्छ भने, समय तन्किन्छ
03:35
We cannot make more time,
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हामी समय बढाउन सक्दैनौ,
03:37
but time will stretch to accommodate
what we choose to put into it.
what we choose to put into it.
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तर आवश्यकता पर्दा मिलाउन सक्छौं
03:42
And so the key to time management
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यसर्थ, टाइम म्यानेजमेन्टको महत्वपूर्ण कडी
03:45
is treating our priorities
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हाम्रो आवश्यकताको प्राथमिकता हो,
03:47
as the equivalent
of that broken water heater.
of that broken water heater.
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बिग्रिएको धारो जस्तै
03:52
To get at this,
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यसलाई अझ जोड दिन,
03:53
I like to use language from one
of the busiest people I ever interviewed.
of the busiest people I ever interviewed.
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मैंले अहिले सम्म भेटेको अति व्यस्त
एक जनाको भनाइ राख्छु
एक जनाको भनाइ राख्छु
03:56
By busy, I mean she was running
a small business
a small business
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व्यस्त भन्नाले, उनको सानो व्यापार थियो ,
03:59
with 12 people on the payroll,
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१२ जना कर्मचारी थिए
04:00
she had six children in her spare time.
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अझ व्यस्त बनाउने ६ जना केटाकेटी थिए
04:02
I was getting in touch with her
to set up an interview
to set up an interview
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म उनीसंग एउटा अन्तर्वार्ताको लागि
समय खोज्दै थिएँ
समय खोज्दै थिएँ
04:05
on how she "had it all" -- that phrase.
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उनको व्यस्तताको सिमा थिएन
04:07
I remember it was a Thursday morning,
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बिहिबार बिहानको कुरा हो,
04:09
and she was not available
to speak with me.
to speak with me.
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उनीसंग बोल्ने पनि फुर्सद थिएन
04:11
Of course, right?
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अत्ति नै ब्यस्त
04:12
But the reason she was
unavailable to speak with me
unavailable to speak with me
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तर म संग बोल्ने समय नहुने कारण थियो
04:15
is that she was out for a hike,
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उनी पदयात्रामा जादै थिइन् ,
04:17
because it was a beautiful spring morning,
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सरद महिनाको शुन्दर बिहानी थियो
04:19
and she wanted to go for a hike.
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घुम्न जाने राम्रो दिन थियो
04:20
So of course this makes me
even more intrigued,
even more intrigued,
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यो कुराले उनलाई भेट्ने इच्छा
अझ तिब्र भयो
अझ तिब्र भयो
04:23
and when I finally do catch up with her,
she explains it like this.
she explains it like this.
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जब उनलाई भेटे मौका मिल्यो,
उनले यस्तो कुरा गरिन्-
उनले यस्तो कुरा गरिन्-
04:26
She says, "Listen Laura, everything I do,
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उनले भनिन "हेर लाउरा, म जे पनि गर्छु,
04:29
every minute I spend, is my choice."
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आफ्नै रोजाइमा प्रत्येक मिनेट खर्च गर्छु"
04:33
And rather than say,
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यसको अर्थ के हो भने,
04:35
"I don't have time to do x, y or z,"
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एक्स वाई जेड काम गर्न मलाई फुर्सद छैन
04:37
she'd say, "I don't do x, y or z
because it's not a priority."
because it's not a priority."
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किन कि, त्यो काम मेरो प्राथमिकतामा पर्दैन
04:43
"I don't have time," often means
"It's not a priority."
"It's not a priority."
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"फुर्सद छैन" भन्नुको अर्थ "त्यो मेरो
प्राथमिकता होइन" भन्नु हो
प्राथमिकता होइन" भन्नु हो
04:49
If you think about it,
that's really more accurate language.
that's really more accurate language.
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भाषागत हिसाबले त्यो भनाइ
एकदमै व्यवहारिक हो
एकदमै व्यवहारिक हो
04:51
I could tell you I don't have time
to dust my blinds,
to dust my blinds,
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मैले "पर्दा सफा गर्ने फुर्सद छैन"
भन्छु भने
भन्छु भने
04:54
but that's not true.
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त्यो सत्य होइन
04:55
If you offered to pay me $100,000
to dust my blinds,
to dust my blinds,
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कसैले पर्दा सफा गर्न मलाई
एक लाख दिन्छु भन्यो भने
एक लाख दिन्छु भन्यो भने
04:58
I would get to it pretty quickly.
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म सबै भन्दा पहिले त्यहि गर्छु
04:59
(Laughter)
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.........(हाँसो).....
05:00
Since that is not going to happen,
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त्यसो हुनेवाला त छैन,
05:02
I can acknowledge this is not
a matter of lacking time;
a matter of lacking time;
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त्यसैले यो समयको अभावको कुरा होइन
05:05
it's that I don't want to do it.
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खासमा मलाई गर्न मन नलागेको हो
05:06
Using this language reminds us
that time is a choice.
that time is a choice.
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यसले हाम्रो रोजाईको कुरा देखाउंछ
05:10
And granted,
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भिन्न परिस्थितिमा,
05:11
there may be horrible consequences
for making different choices,
for making different choices,
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फरक रोजाईका डरलाग्दा घटनाक्रम होलान्
05:14
I will give you that.
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त्यसो हुन सक्छ
05:15
But we are smart people,
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तर हामी बुद्धिमान मानिस हौं
05:17
and certainly over the long run,
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समय संगै बिस्तारै
05:19
we have the power to fill our lives
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आफ्नो जीवनमा आवश्यक पर्ने कुराको
05:21
with the things that deserve to be there.
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व्यवस्थापन गर्ने सामर्थ्य हुन्छ
05:25
So how do we do that?
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कसरी त्यस्तो हुन्छ त भन्दा
05:27
How do we treat our priorities
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धारो बिग्रिएको अवस्था जस्तै
05:28
as the equivalent
of that broken water heater?
of that broken water heater?
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हामीले प्राथमिकता दिने बिषयमा भर पर्छ
05:31
Well, first we need
to figure out what they are.
to figure out what they are.
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सबै भन्दा पहिले आवश्यकताको
निर्धारण गर्नु पर्छ
निर्धारण गर्नु पर्छ
05:33
I want to give you two strategies
for thinking about this.
for thinking about this.
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यस बिषयमा सोच्न म तपाईंलाइ २
रणनीति दिन्छु
रणनीति दिन्छु
05:36
The first, on the professional side:
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पहिलो: पेशागत क्षेत्र
05:38
I'm sure many people
coming up to the end of the year
coming up to the end of the year
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बर्षको अन्त्य तिर मानिसहरु
05:40
are giving or getting
annual performance reviews.
annual performance reviews.
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आफ्नो बार्षिक प्रगतिको लेखा जोखा गर्छन्
05:43
You look back over
your successes over the year,
your successes over the year,
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तपाईं गत बर्षमा पाएको सफलता हेर्नु हुन्छ
05:45
your "opportunities for growth."
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आफ्नो "उन्नतिको सम्भावना" खोज्नुहुन्छ
05:47
And this serves its purpose,
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यसको अर्थ तथा उद्धेश्य त्यहि नै हो,
05:50
but I find it's more effective
to do this looking forward.
to do this looking forward.
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तर मलाई पछाडी फेर्कर हेर्नुभन्दा
अगाडी हेर्नु राम्रो लाग्छ
अगाडी हेर्नु राम्रो लाग्छ
05:53
So I want you to pretend
it's the end of next year.
it's the end of next year.
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अहिले अर्को बर्षको अन्त्य हो
भन्ने सम्झनुहोस
भन्ने सम्झनुहोस
05:56
You're giving yourself
a performance review,
a performance review,
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तपाई आफ्नो प्रगति विवरण हेर्दै हुनुहुन्छ
05:58
and it has been an absolutely
amazing year for you professionally.
amazing year for you professionally.
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तपाईंको व्यक्तित्वको हिसाबले
यो बर्ष अत्यन्त लाभदायक छ
यो बर्ष अत्यन्त लाभदायक छ
06:04
What three to five things did you do
that made it so amazing?
that made it so amazing?
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३-५ कुनै त्यस्ता काम भन्नुहोस जसले
तपाईंको यो बर्षलाइ सफल बनायो
तपाईंको यो बर्षलाइ सफल बनायो
06:10
So you can write next
year's performance review now.
year's performance review now.
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तपाई अर्को बर्षको प्रगति विवरण यसरी
अहिले लेख्न सक्नुहुन्छ
अहिले लेख्न सक्नुहुन्छ
06:14
And you can do this
for your personal life, too.
for your personal life, too.
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यस्तै कुरा आफ्नो व्यक्तिगत
जीवनको पनि सकिन्छ
जीवनको पनि सकिन्छ
06:16
I'm sure many of you,
like me, come December,
like me, come December,
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म जस्तै तपाईंहरु पनि कति जनाले
बर्षको अन्त्यमा
बर्षको अन्त्यमा
06:19
get cards that contain these folded up
sheets of colored paper,
sheets of colored paper,
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यसैगरी पट्टाएको रंगीन कागज पाउनुहुन्छ
06:23
on which is written what is known
as the family holiday letter.
as the family holiday letter.
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जसलाई पारिवारिक छुट्टीको कागज भनिन्छ
06:28
(Laughter)
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.........(हाँसो).....
06:30
Bit of a wretched genre
of literature, really,
of literature, really,
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आश्चर्य भनौ कि बिडम्बना,
06:32
going on about how amazing
everyone in the household is,
everyone in the household is,
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कति व्यस्त छन् त परिवारका सदस्यहरु
06:35
or even more scintillating,
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जहाँ परिवारका सदस्यहरु,
06:37
how busy everyone in the household is.
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संगै बस्ने, घुम्ने पनि समय छैन
06:39
But these letters serve a purpose,
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त्यसैले यो पत्रको अर्थ छ ,
06:41
which is that they tell
your friends and family
your friends and family
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जसले तपाईको परिवार तथा साथीभाईलाइ भन्छ
06:43
what you did in your personal life
that mattered to you over the year.
that mattered to you over the year.
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तपाइले व्यक्तिगत जीवनमा जे गर्नुभयो,
त्यो गएको समयको कुरा भो
त्यो गएको समयको कुरा भो
06:47
So this year's kind of done,
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यसर्थ यस बर्षको काम गराई
06:48
but I want you to pretend
it's the end of next year,
it's the end of next year,
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जुन आउदो बर्षको हो भनेर
कल्पना गर्दै हुनुहुन्छ
कल्पना गर्दै हुनुहुन्छ
06:50
and it has been an absolutely amazing year
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तपाई र तपाईले चाहनुभएको मान्छेको लागि
06:54
for you and the people you care about.
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अत्यन्त लाभदायक हुन्छ
06:57
What three to five things did you do
that made it so amazing?
that made it so amazing?
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त्यसैले ३ देखि ५ वोटा ती महत्वपूर्ण
कामहरु के हुन्?
कामहरु के हुन्?
07:02
So you can write next
year's family holiday letter now.
year's family holiday letter now.
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अर्को बर्षको बिदाको चिट्ठी
अहिले नै लेख्न सक्नुहुन्छ
अहिले नै लेख्न सक्नुहुन्छ
07:07
Don't send it.
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तर पठाई नै चै नहाल्नुस
07:09
(Laughter)
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.........(हाँसो).....
07:10
Please, don't send it.
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हो भन्या, नपठाउनुस
07:13
But you can write it.
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तर पक्कै लेख्न सक्नुहुन्छ
07:14
And now, between the performance
review and the family holiday letter,
review and the family holiday letter,
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पारिवारिक छुट्टी र बार्षिक
मुल्यांकनको बीचमा
मुल्यांकनको बीचमा
07:18
we have a list of six to ten goals
we can work on in the next year.
we can work on in the next year.
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आगामी बर्षमा सम्पन्न गर्न सकिने ६-१०
लक्ष्यहरु निर्धारण गर्न सकिन्छ
लक्ष्यहरु निर्धारण गर्न सकिन्छ
07:21
And now we need to break
these down into doable steps.
these down into doable steps.
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सम्पन्न गर्न सकिनेको आधारमा यीनलाइ
बर्गिकरण गर्न सकिन्छ
बर्गिकरण गर्न सकिन्छ
07:24
So maybe you want
to write a family history.
to write a family history.
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हुन सक्छ तपाई पारीवारक
इतिहास लेख्न सक्नुहुन्छ
इतिहास लेख्न सक्नुहुन्छ
07:26
First, you can read
some other family histories,
some other family histories,
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पहिला तपाईं अरुले लेखेको ईतिहास
पढ्न सक्नुहुन्छ
पढ्न सक्नुहुन्छ
07:28
get a sense for the style.
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लेख्ने तरिका बुझ्न
07:30
Then maybe think about the questions
you want to ask your relatives,
you want to ask your relatives,
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त्यसपछि, आफ्नो नातेदारहरुलाई सोध्ने
प्रश्नहरुको सुची तयार पारेर
प्रश्नहरुको सुची तयार पारेर
07:33
set up appointments to interview them.
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अन्तर्वार्ताको समय मिलाउनुहुनेछ
07:35
Or maybe you want to run a 5K.
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वा चन्दा संकलनको योजना
07:36
So you need to find a race and sign up,
figure out a training plan,
figure out a training plan,
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गरेर चन्दा संकलनको तरिका र नियम
07:39
and dig those shoes
out of the back of the closet.
out of the back of the closet.
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सिकेर त्यसैमा लाग्न सक्नुहुन्छ
07:42
And then -- this is key --
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यस्तो कार्य गर्दा,
07:44
we treat our priorities as the equivalent
of that broken water heater,
of that broken water heater,
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धारो भाँचिएको अवस्था जस्तै
07:48
by putting them into our schedules first.
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प्राथमिकता निर्धारण गर्नुहुनेछ
07:51
We do this by thinking through our weeks
before we are in them.
before we are in them.
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काम सुरुगर्ने एक हप्ता अगाडिनै
हामी यस बिषयमा सोच्छौं
हामी यस बिषयमा सोच्छौं
07:56
I find a really good time to do this
is Friday afternoons.
is Friday afternoons.
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यो काममा हातहाल्न मलाई
शुक्रबार दिउसो ठिक लाग्छ
शुक्रबार दिउसो ठिक लाग्छ
08:00
Friday afternoon is what
an economist might call
an economist might call
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अर्थशास्त्रीहरु यो समयलाइ "न्यून
मुल्यको सम्भावना"
मुल्यको सम्भावना"
08:03
a "low opportunity cost" time.
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को समय भन्छन्
08:06
Most of us are not sitting there
on Friday afternoons saying,
on Friday afternoons saying,
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शुक्रबार दिउसो हामी कोहि पनि
08:09
"I am excited to make progress
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"म मेरो व्यक्तिगत र ब्यवसायिक
08:11
toward my personal
and professional priorities
and professional priorities
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प्राथमिकता निर्धारण गर्ने ठिक समय हो"
08:13
right now."
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भन्ने सोचाईमा हुन्नौ
08:15
(Laughter)
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.........(हाँसो).....
08:16
But we are willing to think
about what those should be.
about what those should be.
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के गर्दा ठिक होला भन्ने बिषयमा भने
सोच्दै हुन्छौं
सोच्दै हुन्छौं
08:18
So take a little bit
of time Friday afternoon,
of time Friday afternoon,
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त्यसैले, शुक्रबार दिउसो केहि
समय निकाल्नुस र आफ्नै
समय निकाल्नुस र आफ्नै
08:20
make yourself a three-category priority
list: career, relationships, self.
list: career, relationships, self.
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३ प्राथमिकताको सुची बनाउनुहोस:
कार्य, सम्बन्ध, र व्यक्तिगत
कार्य, सम्बन्ध, र व्यक्तिगत
08:28
Making a three-category list reminds us
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यस्तो ३ प्रकारको सुची बनाउँदा
08:31
that there should be something
in all three categories.
in all three categories.
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हरेक क्षेत्रमा केहि छ भन्ने सम्झना हुन्छ
08:35
Career, we think about;
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कार्यक्षेत्र: हामी सोच्छौं
08:36
relationships, self --
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सम्बन्ध र व्यक्तिगत कुरा
08:37
not so much.
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त्यति सोच्दैनौ
08:39
But anyway, just a short list,
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जे भएपनि एउटा छोटो सूची
08:41
two to three items in each.
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जसमा २-३ काम मात्रै होस्
08:43
Then look out over the whole
of the next week,
of the next week,
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अर्को हप्ताको काम हेरेर कहाँ
08:45
and see where you can plan them in.
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अटाउन सकिन्छ, हेर्नुहोस
08:48
Where you plan them in is up to you.
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कहाँ अटाउने, तपाईंकै विचार
08:50
I know this is going to be more
complicated for some people than others.
complicated for some people than others.
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कोहि मान्छेको लागि अरुको तुलनामा यो
निकै कठिन काम हुनेछ
निकै कठिन काम हुनेछ
08:53
I mean, some people's lives
are just harder than others.
are just harder than others.
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भन्नाले, कसैको काम अर्काको भन्दा
निकै कठिन हुन सक्छ
निकै कठिन हुन सक्छ
08:57
It is not going to be easy
to find time to take that poetry class
to find time to take that poetry class
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यदि तपाईंको धेरै बच्चाछन् भने, कामलाई
09:00
if you are caring for multiple
children on your own.
children on your own.
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प्राथमिकता निर्धारण गर्न कठिन हुन्छ
09:04
I get that.
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त्यो त म पनि बुझ्छु
09:05
And I don't want to minimize
anyone's struggle.
anyone's struggle.
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म कसैको संघर्षलाइ कम आंकलन गर्न चाहन्न
09:07
But I do think that the numbers
I am about to tell you are empowering.
I am about to tell you are empowering.
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तर मैंले भन्न गैरहेको एउटा नम्बरले
तपाईंलाइ उत्साहित गराउनेछ
तपाईंलाइ उत्साहित गराउनेछ
09:12
There are 168 hours in a week.
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हप्तामा १६८ घण्टा हुन्छन्
09:17
Twenty-four times seven is 168 hours.
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२४X७ = १६८ घण्टा
09:23
That is a lot of time.
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यो प्रसस्त समय हो
09:26
If you are working a full-time
job, so 40 hours a week,
job, so 40 hours a week,
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हप्तामा लगभग ४० घण्टा काम गर्नुहुन्छ
09:29
sleeping eight hours a night,
so 56 hours a week --
so 56 hours a week --
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दिनको ८ घन्टाको दरले ५६ घण्टा सुताई
09:32
that leaves 72 hours for other things.
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त्यति गर्दा अरुकामको लागि ७२ घण्टा
बाकी हुन्छ
बाकी हुन्छ
09:36
That is a lot of time.
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त्यो भनेको प्रसस्त समय हो
09:38
You say you're working 50 hours a week,
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मानौ, हप्तामा ५० घण्टा काम गर्नुहुन्छ
09:40
maybe a main job and a side hustle.
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मुख्य काम संगै अरु केहि काम
09:42
Well, that leaves 62 hours
for other things.
for other things.
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तैपनि अरुकामको लागि ६२ घण्टा बाकी हुन्छ
09:45
You say you're working 60 hours.
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६० घण्टा काम गर्छु भने पनि
09:47
Well, that leaves 52 hours
for other things.
for other things.
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अरुकामको लागि ५२ घण्टा बाकी नै हुन्छ
09:49
You say you're working more than 60 hours.
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हप्तामा ६० घण्टा भन्दा बढी भन्नुहुन्छ भने
09:51
Well, are you sure?
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पत्याउनु ?
09:53
(Laughter)
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.........(हाँसो).....
09:55
There was once a study comparing
people's estimated work weeks
people's estimated work weeks
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एकपटक मानिसको कार्यतालिकाको
09:58
with time diaries.
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अध्ययन गरिएको थियो
09:59
They found that people claiming
75-plus-hour work weeks
75-plus-hour work weeks
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७५ घण्टाभन्दा बढी काम गर्छु भन्नेहरु,
10:02
were off by about 25 hours.
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२५ घण्टा अघि नै हिडिसकेका थिए
10:04
(Laughter)
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.........(हाँसो).....
10:06
You can guess in which direction, right?
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कता लागे, त्यो प्रश्न भो
10:09
Anyway, in 168 hours a week,
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जे भने पनि हप्ताको १६८ घण्टा
10:11
I think we can find time
for what matters to you.
for what matters to you.
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आवश्यक पर्ने समय जसरीपनि निकाल्न सकिन्छ
10:14
If you want to spend
more time with your kids,
more time with your kids,
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केटा केटि संग बढी समय बिताउन चाहनुहुन्छ
10:17
you want to study more
for a test you're taking,
for a test you're taking,
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कुनै परिक्षाको तयारी गर्न चाहनुहुन्छ ,
10:19
you want to exercise for three hours
and volunteer for two,
and volunteer for two,
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३ घण्टा एक्सरसाइज र २ श्रमदान
गर्न चाहनुहुन्छ
गर्न चाहनुहुन्छ
10:22
you can.
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सब सम्भव छ
10:23
And that's even if you're working
way more than full-time hours.
way more than full-time hours.
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अहिले नै पनि धेरै समय काम गर्दै भएपनि
10:27
So we have plenty of time, which is great,
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हामी संग प्रसस्त समय छ, गज्ज़ब कुरा
10:29
because guess what?
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अर्को कुरा के, थाहा छ?
10:31
We don't even need that much
time to do amazing things.
time to do amazing things.
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रमाइलो काम गर्न हामीलाई
त्यति समय पनि चाहिन्न
त्यति समय पनि चाहिन्न
10:34
But when most of us have
bits of time, what do we do?
bits of time, what do we do?
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फुर्सद भयो कि हामी के गर्छौं ?
10:37
Pull out the phone, right?
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फोन गर्ने
10:39
Start deleting emails.
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पुरानो इमेल मेट्ने
10:42
Otherwise, we're puttering
around the house
around the house
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अथवा घरको झिनामसिना काम गर्ने
10:44
or watching TV.
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वा टि भी हेर्ने
10:46
But small moments can have great power.
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छोटो समय पनि महत्वपूर्ण हुनसक्छ
10:49
You can use your bits of time
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केहि खुशीको लागि
10:52
for bits of joy.
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केहि समय दिन सक्नुहुन्छ
10:55
Maybe it's choosing to read
something wonderful on the bus
something wonderful on the bus
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हुन सक्छ, काममा जादा आउदा कुनै रमाइलो
10:58
on the way to work.
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किताब पढ्न सक्नुहुन्छ
10:59
I know when I had a job
that required two bus rides
that required two bus rides
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एकताका मलाई काममा जान
11:01
and a subway ride every morning,
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२ घण्टा बस चढ्नु पर्थ्यो
11:03
I used to go to the library
on weekends to get stuff to read.
on weekends to get stuff to read.
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सप्ताहन्तमा म लाइब्रेरी गएर
किताब लेराऊथें
किताब लेराऊथें
11:06
It made the whole experience
almost, almost, enjoyable.
almost, almost, enjoyable.
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जसले गर्दा बस यात्रा सहजै कटथ्यो
11:11
Breaks at work can be used
for meditating or praying.
for meditating or praying.
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ब्रेकको समयमा ध्यान वा प्रार्थना
गर्न सकिन्छ
गर्न सकिन्छ
11:15
If family dinner is out
because of your crazy work schedule,
because of your crazy work schedule,
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कामको व्यस्तताले साँझको
खाना बाहिरै खाने गर्नुहुन्छ भने
खाना बाहिरै खाने गर्नुहुन्छ भने
11:18
maybe family breakfast
could be a good substitute.
could be a good substitute.
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बिहानको खाना परिवारसंगै बसेर खान सकिन्छ
11:21
It's about looking at
the whole of one's time
the whole of one's time
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यो भनेको आफुसंग भएको समयलाई सहि तरिकाले
11:25
and seeing where the good stuff can go.
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व्यवस्थापन गर्ने कला हो
11:28
I truly believe this.
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यो कुरामा म बिश्वस्त छु
11:31
There is time.
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समय निकाल्न सकिन्छ
11:34
Even if we are busy,
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जस्तै व्यस्त भएपनि
11:37
we have time for what matters.
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समय मिलाउन सकिन्छ
11:39
And when we focus on what matters,
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अत्यावश्यक बिषयमा ध्यान पुर्याएर, भएको
11:42
we can build the lives we want
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समयको सदुपयोग गर्दै हामी चाहेजस्तो
11:44
in the time we've got.
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जीवन बनाउन सक्छौं
11:46
Thank you.
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.........धन्यवाद.....
11:47
(Applause)
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.........ताली.....
ABOUT THE SPEAKER
Laura Vanderkam - AuthorLaura Vanderkam shatters the myth that there just isn’t enough time in the week for working professionals to live happy, balanced and productive lives.
Why you should listen
Between careers and kids, many women feel that they are too busy to cram in anything else. To test the truth of this feeling, author Laura Vanderkam began logging her time for each of the 168 hours of the week. Among her surprising findings: we retroactively overestimate the amount of time spent stressing about work while underestimating our available downtime.
In her latest book, I Know How She Does It, Vanderkam analyzes the ways in which professional women successfully balance free time and work -- and explores how everyday readers can benefit from their experiences.
Laura Vanderkam | Speaker | TED.com